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Season 4 - Episode 283 - Are you comfortable in your dysfunction? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning.
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  OK, Is it possible to be comfortable with your
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  dysfunction, whatever that dysfunction is, even though you
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  don't like it? The answer is yes, and it's a
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  really resounding yes. We have the ability as human
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  beings to be so adaptable, which is why we have been so prolific
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  on this planet, because we can be so adaptable and we can do
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  things that are remarkable in so many ways.
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  And one of those ways is even though we are uncomfortable with
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  something, we still stick with it.
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  And as crazy as that sounds, it is extremely, extremely real.
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  So I'm going to give you an example.
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  If you are someone who has anxiety, OK, and you don't like
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  your anxiety, you don't like feeling this way, you don't like
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  having it, you don't like responding in it.
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  And we have the control. We, we do have the control to
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  choose something better. We have the ability to choose
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  better emotions. Why do we always go back to
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  anxiety? What is the reason we go back?
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  Well, we get something from it. We actually get something from
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  that. We whether, whether it's the
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  reactions we get from people, whether it's the attention we
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  get from people, we get something from the anxiety and
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  that particular thing, that one simple fact that we get
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  something from it is what makes us go back.
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  Now somebody might say, but I don't like what I get from it.
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  I don't like the way I feel. I don't like the way I act.
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  I feel terrible for hours afterwards.
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  And I know because I've had anxiety for years and years and
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  years. And it's not that I don't still
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  have it. Of course I have it.
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  I just manage it, OK. I really hunker in and manage
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  it, so when it shows up, I make better choices.
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  Does it keep repeatedly showing up?
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  Of course. Of course it keeps showing up,
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  especially after what just happened here on the farm, where
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  I'm constantly having the option to think that someone's out
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  there trying to kill the rest of the chickens.
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  So my brain keeps looping there and the function of that anxiety
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  is to help me to be protected. It's trying to do its job.
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  It's trying to protect me. But again, it's a dysfunction
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  that's not it's not real. Right now.
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  There is no immediate threat. There is no nothing that's
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  happening in the moment. Do I have to be vigilant about
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  taking care of things to make sure they're protected?
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  Yes. But that's the whole point of
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  having it. So you think about it, you take
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  care of it and you can move on. But there is comfort in the
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  anxiety for me at a certain level to know that I, I get
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  something from that. I have to constantly check on
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  them. I get something from that and
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  whether it's positive or negative or neutral, I'm getting
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  something from it. So I work really hard to not
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  utilize that piece of myself. I mean, I'm really, really hard
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  to avoid the anxiety piece, but it, there is comfort in the
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  dysfunction because we're used to it, because it's familiar,
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  because it's like having a pair of jeans that have holes that
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  you know need to be thrown away, but you like them because
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  they're comfortable. And it's it or any other
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  situation, it's like, if I have anxiety, then I can have an
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  excuse to not go out. So I don't, instead of just
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  saying to somebody, I just don't want to go, you say I'm not
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  feeling well. I had an anxiety attack today or
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  I had a panic attack today. And it, it's, it's I can't go.
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  I can't go and it gives you an out.
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  It's just like having a child. Once you have a child, you're
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  like, oh, I have an out. I don't have to go.
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  I can just say, oh, I used to have a person that I hung around
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  with randomly when I lived up north and this person would
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  always say to me that they couldn't go out because their
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  kid was having a fit. And even though we had plans and
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  there was comfort in that for this person, I know that because
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  it was an out. So we have to look at what we're
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  getting out of those moments, what we're getting out of those
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  emotions, good, bad, and indifferent.
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  You've got to know so that you can avoid it because there is
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  comfort in dysfunction and that it's familiarity.
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  And humans love things that are familiar.
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  We love things that give us that feeling of, oh, right, this is
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  where I am because there's so much swirling around us and so
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  much coming at us constantly information how things are going
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  to go down the rabbit hole. You know, if you turn on the
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  news, if you if you spend any amount of time out there on
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  social media in the news looking for things of what's happening,
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  you will find the dysfunction, I promise you.
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  And it's high and it's scary and you makes you not even want to
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  leave your house, which is why don't go there.
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  It's ridiculous. It's been this way forever.
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  Just don't go there. Work on you figure out what
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  you're getting from it so you can shut it down.
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  All right, my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I
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  will see you tomorrow. Bye.