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Season 3 - Episode 64 -The problem with self-help · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today. We are talking about the
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  challenge with self help. Now you might be thinking to
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  yourself, why is someone who's involved in self help talking
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  about a challenge with self help?
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  Because. I think it's really necessary to
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  be honest with people about things and there is a huge
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  challenge in the self help industry.
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  Where people? Put it upon you that once you
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  know something. You should just be able to.
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  You know, crack it up and do it immediately.
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  And that is definitely not the case.
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  I can't stress that enough. Just because you know something
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  doesn't mean you'll do. It doesn't mean you'll
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  understand. It doesn't mean.
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  You'll be able to. Execute on it and certainly
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  doesn't mean you'll be able to stick.
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  With it, it's hard. Helping yourself necessary, but
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  it's hard. Work and it.
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  Takes consistent. Effort on our part and where we
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  typically get hung up is that we are not very good at being
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  consistent. We'll.
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  Say we're going to be consistent.
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  But we all know. We rarely just stick.
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  With that feeling of saying yes, yes, I'm doing it every day and
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  I mean it and I'm going to go with it and.
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  Make execute on it so it's. It can be very frustrating.
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  Especially when you're dealing with.
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  Yourself to have to argue with yourself.
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  That's why. We have these conversations and
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  we'll say, oh, I'm beside myself.
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  I don't know why I do those things.
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  And it's like we're talking about another person, except.
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  It's us. And that's the essential.
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  Idea about the. Problem with self help.
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  It's also. On a deeper level, a.
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  Lot of the people that are teaching self help.
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  Right now are not honest about the.
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  Situation with themselves, so they come across like they have
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  perfect worlds and perfect. Lives and everything is going
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  tremendous for them and the reality is it's not their life.
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  Is. Not good.
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  Behind the scenes, they've got all kinds of problems and
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  essentially they're calling everybody.
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  Else out for where they are. When behind the scenes, they're
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  just as messed up and you know, that's why I try to be as honest
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  as I can on here with all of you.
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  About. What goes on in my life?
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  Because I think it's important to know we.
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  Suffer. The trials and tribulations
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  just. Like the rest of people.
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  Do I have moments where I don't want to do the things I'm
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  supposed to be doing? I have moments where, you know
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  what, I don't feel like going grocery shopping.
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  I don't feel like cleaning. I don't feel like writing or
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  doing things. I feel like sitting and doing
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  nothing and. Is that?
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  Part of the plan. No, but guess what?
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  That's how. Humans show up sometimes and
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  when you start. To.
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  Recognize that we don't always all get along.
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  You know, There are days when I just want to wring my family's
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  neck. There are days when I just am
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  like, OK, I'm over it all. It's human.
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  It's OK. And accepting that as part.
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  Of the. Condition that we live in helps
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  us navigate it honestly if you. If you.
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  Really get into the fact. That you are accepting yourself
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  where you are. It's a lot easier to.
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  Help yourself from that point, it's much easier.
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  To help yourself when you just. Recognize.
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  Where you truly are instead of. You know, belittling yourself.
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  For where? You are.
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  So often. We just.
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  Destroy ourselves for the fact that we think we have to be
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  somewhere. We're not.
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  And essentially beat ourselves up the entire time.
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  And boy, what a mistake that is, because you've heard me say it
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  before, but. You know when you.
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  Subscribe to The Beatings Will. Continue until morale improves.
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  It rarely is a. Good thing for anyone involved
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  and. It usually works out for the
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  greater good of the person who's delivering the.
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  Beatings, but it doesn't when it's in your head it.
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  And you? Are doing the beatings.
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  You're constantly. Taking yourself out.
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  So the challenge I'm going to put to.
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  You guys, today is to face the fact.
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  That you are in. This position where you have to
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  help yourself, but you're in the position where you have to love
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  yourself. Enough to be kind to yourself at
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  the same time, and you have. To be gracious with yourself and
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  about where you are and you have to.
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  Recognize that even though you need help and you are reaching
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  out and you're trying. To do everything for yourself.
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  There's still a part of you that is essentially resistant to it.
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  Because it's hard and it's OK. It's OK to be resistant to it.
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  It's OK to feel like you have. Things that are.
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  Off it's OK to. Feel like you want to make
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  things different. What we have to look at is to
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  say, OK. This is where I am.
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  This is my plan I forgive myself for.
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  Where I fell off. And I'm going to do better.
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  I'm going to shift myself and I'm going to change.
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  And when you start thinking things that way.
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  It always gets better 'cause you give yourself grace, you give
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  yourself the opportunity to. Essentially.
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  Have that sense of love for yourself.
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  You treat yourself. As kind as you would someone
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  else, and that's what's so important.
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  So I hope you guys have a very blessed day.
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  Be kind to yourself and remember.
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  Self development isn't just about.
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  Always being on track. It's about all kinds of.
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  Other things. Too so.
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  Remember, be kind. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.