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Ep 79 "Toxic Bae"with TaylorMade Speaks · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talks back. What's up, y'all is a j thank you
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  Speaker 1: for tuning in for a new episode that we talked back.
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  Speaker 1: I show dedicated to you niggas and these holes. Hey, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: it's official, tam bam. I don't know if I love
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  Speaker 1: y'all this week because y'all didn't see me a single
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  Speaker 1: cash at for my birthday, So I'm junking. I still
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  Speaker 1: love y'all. I know money tight. I know money tight
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  Speaker 1: right now? Shire a loaf of brad ten dollars. You've
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  Speaker 1: seen that. They a lot of brad about to be
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  Speaker 1: ten dollars. Girl. Look, I'm glad I've been off carves. Now.
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  Speaker 1: I did go out to eat over the weekend and
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  Speaker 1: ate for croissants, But then how you off carves if
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  Speaker 1: you had? I know, Look, I had been doing really
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  Speaker 1: good the whole last I want to say, maybe three
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  Speaker 1: weeks no carbs and just car fist on Saturday. But look,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, bitch. Okay, remember the
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  Speaker 1: last time he was a corn and you was eating
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  Speaker 1: a piece of chocolate cake. The next day, I went
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  Speaker 1: and got me a boy knows from uh from public
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  Speaker 1: and I literally was sitting on the goddamn kick out
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  Speaker 1: for I don't know, maybe ten minutes, the beating about
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  Speaker 1: buying the kick mix up brownie mix, like I really
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  Speaker 1: wanted that. Boy. You know, it's like these little uh
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  Speaker 1: it's like a little chocolate, little hazel nut orange that
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  Speaker 1: looked like paint on the side. Yes, I love them.
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  Speaker 1: They're so good. I put him in the freezer there
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  Speaker 1: from Italy, so I trust them. It ain't an American
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  Speaker 1: me little snack. I love him. Girl, you sound like baby.
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  Speaker 1: They's in Italy and they put the chocolate on it,
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  Speaker 1: and they gotta put it in the freezer. I love cold.
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  Speaker 1: I like cold chocolate. How is your birthday? Weekend? Tell
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  Speaker 1: us about it was so much fun, so I um
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  Speaker 1: food down the Atlanta. I was my best friend. It
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  Speaker 1: was her birthday on the sixth, So at the nine
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  Speaker 1: six six, UM we hung out. We went to just
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  Speaker 1: had dinner at St. K and then we went to
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  Speaker 1: UH couple of clubs, club hop, a couple of sections.
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  Speaker 1: You know, nothing too crazy, come all right, little something,
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  Speaker 1: a little something. The Sunday we went to um, what's
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  Speaker 1: the name of that place? Blue Martini for their Sunday brunch.
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  Speaker 1: Hung out there a couple of hours, and then that
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  Speaker 1: night I went to a couple of bars again influence. Um,
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  Speaker 1: I want to call the ship, but it ain't call that.
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  Speaker 1: It's Sheba Sheba live on the African spot. Yeah, Shiva
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  Speaker 1: in living room. So that was nice. We had a
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  Speaker 1: good time and I fell in love with that song.
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  Speaker 1: Uh I go chiyo. You know what I'm talking about,
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  Speaker 1: block up burner burner, block up burner boy, burner ball
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  Speaker 1: and it's got Tona Braxton, Right, Tony Braxton. He sampled
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  Speaker 1: Tony Braxton song, So I want to go look at
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  Speaker 1: that and he's paying her sixty and royalties for that song.
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  Speaker 1: Go ahead, Tony, get your back up. Yeah all right,
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  Speaker 1: I loved you. I had a good time. I'm tired now,
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  Speaker 1: and typically Monday morning I'll be hungover, but this Monday
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't because I had did so much over the weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Sunday night, I was kind of like, I can't know more.
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  Speaker 1: I realized I'm Auntie. Was sorry, y'all. Look I don't
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  Speaker 1: do much. I went bike riding. Let me tell you
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  Speaker 1: all about me. I'm gonna be honest women, and I
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  Speaker 1: know maybe there might be a lot of women that
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  Speaker 1: feel like me. I don't want to do ship when
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  Speaker 1: my psycho come on, Okay, I really don't want to
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  Speaker 1: do anything. I literally hardly leave the house and I
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  Speaker 1: knew and then be swell up like I just didn't.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry my friend, I missed your birthday festivity. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: was feeling away that he was not there. Other bitches
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  Speaker 1: with you. How many was it? It was like ten,
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  Speaker 1: that's a lot. I should have been twelve. I'm sorry,
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  Speaker 1: my friend. I love you, dude. Like next year, don't
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  Speaker 1: don't be missing next year because we're gonna be on
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  Speaker 1: the show. I'm gonna start it off like yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: tam bam, and I ain't fucking with this bitch right
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  Speaker 1: here today I got one strike. Yes you usually come. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: can I get a little like a little great in
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  Speaker 1: the past this year, getting one grace past this year?
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  Speaker 1: That's it. That's see. Look what we got going on
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  Speaker 1: in stupid internet news this week, Lin, A lot of
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  Speaker 1: scupid ship happened. So apparently there's this place called sessing
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  Speaker 1: Me Street, place for children where black kids are being
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  Speaker 1: discriminated against. Uh there is a video. Well it started
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  Speaker 1: with one video where these two little black girls were
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  Speaker 1: desperately holding their arms out to hug the muppet Rosita,
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  Speaker 1: and Rosita basically says no period after she has just
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  Speaker 1: hugged some white children. And the look on those kids faces,
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  Speaker 1: they looked just like very sad, you know, discouraged because
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  Speaker 1: this muppet would not show them any love. And apparently
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  Speaker 1: it's been going on where all these fucking muppets, all
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  Speaker 1: these videos are circulating of little black kids being denied
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  Speaker 1: the love that they want from their beloved muppets from
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  Speaker 1: Sesame Street because it's some probably some racist crackers inside
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  Speaker 1: Rosita's body. So I got I saw the video, I
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  Speaker 1: saw then initial video, and I guess the mama probably
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  Speaker 1: put it out there and make sure she wasn't tripping. Girl,
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  Speaker 1: you are not tripping. And exactly because apparently there's been
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  Speaker 1: don't know to three other videos that have come out
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  Speaker 1: of them blatantly you know, not wanting to touch black kids.
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  Speaker 1: And how much of a bitch ass muffett do you
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  Speaker 1: have to be to try to get off on some
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  Speaker 1: little kids. You know what I'm saying, that's what they're doing. Like,
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  Speaker 1: could you imagine I would have just really upset all
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  Speaker 1: the children at the park because I would have been
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  Speaker 1: beaten Rosie the ass, Rosie the little head when we're
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  Speaker 1: flying across, Mommy is dead because her Muppet head is
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  Speaker 1: on the ground. When I tell you, I would have
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  Speaker 1: ruined the whole parade, like everybody for all the kids.
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  Speaker 1: Oh if my kids said everybody? Kids said now because Rose,
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  Speaker 1: look at Rosie the Head rolling on the ground. But
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  Speaker 1: it would have been easy, though, because while she was watching,
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  Speaker 1: you know, marching on by. I would have just stuck
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  Speaker 1: my foot out Rosa. But why though, Like, can you
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  Speaker 1: imagine the like? Because they can't. They can't do nothing
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  Speaker 1: to an adults. So they're getting off on kids. Kids.
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  Speaker 1: You're sitting in your little Muppet break room and you're saying, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I I hurt the feelings of seven black kids today.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so dope. Stuff like that. Yeah, and stuff like
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  Speaker 1: that to me translates to the classrooms, because who is
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  Speaker 1: your kids teacher? Your kids teacher could be doing the
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  Speaker 1: same thing. We've seen videos in the past where you've
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  Speaker 1: got a little black kid off eating by themselves and
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  Speaker 1: they got the whole table of white kids. You know,
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  Speaker 1: why is my child by by himself over here that
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  Speaker 1: that ship is Listen. I don't care when nobody say.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like the kol Klux Klan may just be
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  Speaker 1: like the biggest secret society in the world. You know
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  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It just goes to show that there's
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  Speaker 1: racist in hate in every profession, even some places innocent
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  Speaker 1: as Sesame Street placed. It's always gonna be somebody who
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  Speaker 1: hates on the basis of skin color. I wonder if
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  Speaker 1: there was different people and each cost to him, or
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  Speaker 1: it was it just one person that they can identify, right,
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  Speaker 1: Like does one person wear the same class tum or
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  Speaker 1: do they come in as different muppets all the time
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  Speaker 1: exactly because I would like to know. And now you
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  Speaker 1: get to hide behind a mask. Looks like a hood
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  Speaker 1: to me, you see what I'm saying. While I mentioned
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  Speaker 1: like the schools and they're all in the day and
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  Speaker 1: police departments, like this ship runs really doctor's office. But
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  Speaker 1: don't be getting off on the low kids, I don't
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  Speaker 1: like that. I do not like that. Yeah, but we please.
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  Speaker 1: I hope someone figures out how to share who was
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  Speaker 1: Rosita that day, because at least we control their Instagram
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  Speaker 1: and whatever they anything that got let's just suck it up, right,
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  Speaker 1: because they could very well keep their job because the
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  Speaker 1: company is okay with that behavior. But we will never know.
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  Speaker 1: We'll never know who it is because they just don't
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  Speaker 1: take care. Don't take your black children to because they're
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  Speaker 1: not loved there. Nope, not at all. So what's up
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  Speaker 1: with um? I've read this article online y'all because I
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  Speaker 1: saw it initially on uh days Instagram page. So I
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  Speaker 1: went because you know, listen, I'm a gym and night
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  Speaker 1: I need all information before I passed judgment. So I
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  Speaker 1: saw this article and it says from Kim to Hot
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  Speaker 1: Cheetah girls, white people are retiring from blackness. Did you
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  Speaker 1: read that article? I sent it to you. I might
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  Speaker 1: have skimmed over it. So on this article they have
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  Speaker 1: videos from different little white girls from TikTok, you know,
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  Speaker 1: showing there before and after photos there before when they
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  Speaker 1: used to wear big hoop airings, braids, do rags, basically
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  Speaker 1: when they had the black girl aesthetic to now and
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  Speaker 1: how their life is so much better now after they stopped,
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  Speaker 1: you know, acting like a black girl. And then now
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  Speaker 1: we see Kim K with the blonde here, Chloe has
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  Speaker 1: blonde here, very tan anymore exactly. M hmm. So now
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  Speaker 1: it's no longer a popular to be black, apparently. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if I'm still enjoying it. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I can't speak for anybody else it very much. They
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  Speaker 1: say they went blond and lost their bb els. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. I haven't been looking at Kim's ass, you know. Um.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Chloe has always been looking like something something.
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  Speaker 1: It's given much something to me. I don't know exactly
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  Speaker 1: what she looks like, but the chicken thing in hands,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I think. In California, though, it's a
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  Speaker 1: thing to look ambiguous, like you can't. They don't want
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  Speaker 1: to look like any color for sure. Like she could
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  Speaker 1: be white, she could be black, she could be Hispanic,
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  Speaker 1: she could be nobody knows what she is, you know.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's a very much a thing in California.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. But the TikTok trend is the ghetto
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  Speaker 1: hot cheeto girls. That's what they call them black women.
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  Speaker 1: That's what they're calling young black girls. That's like the look.
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  Speaker 1: It's the ghetto che because they cheat, and black women
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  Speaker 1: love black girls like hot cheetos. Like, so it's like
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  Speaker 1: a ghetto thing basically, So when they were looking that
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  Speaker 1: way with a black boyfriend and all that stuff, they
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  Speaker 1: were going through like the phase, and now they're like
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  Speaker 1: and I thought it was because their spray tape and
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  Speaker 1: be making them look orange. Look that part that too
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  Speaker 1: would be. I don't know, but yeah, it's it's just
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  Speaker 1: weird to me. And I want to have a whole
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  Speaker 1: show about this because I want to go into real
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  Speaker 1: butts versus the bbls, like people who have real asks
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  Speaker 1: and have to deal with, you know, asks in real
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  Speaker 1: life their whole life, like me, Yeah, exactly, I want
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  Speaker 1: to I want to talk about that. That's me too, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta asked the loot me, but I want to talk.
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  Speaker 1: I want to have a whole episode about that because
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  Speaker 1: you know, that wasn't the beauty standard at one point,
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  Speaker 1: and what it seems now it's like y'all trying to
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  Speaker 1: take it back to another standard. Well, we know that
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  Speaker 1: black women have been in offices in school and it's
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  Speaker 1: always deemed inappropriate for us to wear certain things because
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  Speaker 1: of how our body shape. I went through that my
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  Speaker 1: entire life. I can't help it, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: But it's sort of what we couldn't wear leggings in
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  Speaker 1: high school, but the white girls could. I'm saying, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so like it would have to like you had to
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  Speaker 1: be a certain inch from your knee for you to
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  Speaker 1: wear it, and like I would feel like in school,
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  Speaker 1: like white girls could wear short shorts in me and
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  Speaker 1: not get in trouble. But if I did, I would
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  Speaker 1: get in trouble. And then who's that's not your fault.
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  Speaker 1: It's the grown men not looking at you that got
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  Speaker 1: a problem with it, or it's the women that's reporting
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  Speaker 1: it because the grown men, teachers, principal, whoever looking at you. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that that is not a child's problem. Right, But for
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  Speaker 1: whatever reason, black people can't just exist. We can't exist
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  Speaker 1: in a way that everybody else exists without being seen,
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  Speaker 1: you know, in a sexual way. You know, black women,
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  Speaker 1: we just can't. So we're not seen as little girls.
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  Speaker 1: We're always seen as adults. Are Black boys get seen
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  Speaker 1: as adult men and it can literally be twelve year
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  Speaker 1: old babies. Bas So, yeah, they're a band and in blackness, apparently,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, I've always made go head on with
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  Speaker 1: your ass. I don't give listen exactly, gonna be just fine.
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  Speaker 1: I've always made the joke that the Kardashians made it
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  Speaker 1: okay for a little white girls, so like black boys.
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  Speaker 1: I really feel like they helped push that agenda, right,
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  Speaker 1: so maybe okay to like white men so we can
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  Speaker 1: have our You only want that swag, girl, They always
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  Speaker 1: everybody want that swag. Wait, speaking of the goddamn Kardashians,
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  Speaker 1: Tristan boy, your boy, he just kneed. I'm just I
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  Speaker 1: was proud of trusting, just for living in his truth.
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  Speaker 1: At least be the whole that you always meant to be,
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  Speaker 1: like you know you've been holding to stop doing it discreetly,
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  Speaker 1: just be outside. Yes, man, listen, I don't know. I
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  Speaker 1: do not feel bad for Chloe because you get them,
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  Speaker 1: you keep them how you get them in. That's the
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  Speaker 1: saying that man had a pregnant girlfriend at the time
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  Speaker 1: when you quired him, right, Okay, so now they just
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  Speaker 1: they have a baby on the way, They have a
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  Speaker 1: boil in a way via surrogant. And this dude was
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  Speaker 1: just out the country with another chick, just holding hands, chilling.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, she looked like Chloe from the back. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, you gotta type or it could have been
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  Speaker 1: damn Kim Kake like, this is the same look and
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  Speaker 1: the way that Kim kardashi In is shading her sister
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  Speaker 1: is were to me, have a conversation with Chloe. Let
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  Speaker 1: her know that you do not want to be in
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  Speaker 1: a committed relationship. This is the problem with some men,
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  Speaker 1: like you can't sign women up for monogamy and no
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  Speaker 1: that's not what you want. You can find somebody that
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  Speaker 1: would be okay with whatever it is that you want
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  Speaker 1: in a relationship. Do not trick people into monogamy. But girl,
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  Speaker 1: she didn't get tricked because yeah, that man had a
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  Speaker 1: woman when you got him, So Kim said, Girls can
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  Speaker 1: see the difference between two hundred shades of new lipstick,
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  Speaker 1: but they can't see red flags. You're talking to your sister.
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  Speaker 1: She she's always shading Chloe. She is. I don't like that.
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  Speaker 1: Don't do that to me. I would never do my
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  Speaker 1: sister like that. I guess it's almost like, girl, you're
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: still being stupid, that's it. But but because y'all are
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  Speaker 1: so public figures, don't embarrass your own sister like that.
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  Speaker 1: She already embarrassed enough. I'm sure she is. You know,
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  Speaker 1: do some crazy things and you love motherfucker. You'd be
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  Speaker 1: putting up with ship that she wouldn't normally put up with,
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  Speaker 1: So I do I you know, I sympathize with Chloe
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  Speaker 1: a little bit in that aspect, but having your sister
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  Speaker 1: being the one who helping to embarrass you on the internet,
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  Speaker 1: I had to. I had to beat up Kim. I
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  Speaker 1: had to go over and set her come outside him.
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk to you real quick. I ain't
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  Speaker 1: gonna do nothing. Do you think it's a situation where you, like,
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  Speaker 1: maybe maybe Kim tried to because I can almost imagine
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  Speaker 1: if I'm trying to tell you something about your dude
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  Speaker 1: over and over and over again, and we know how
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  Speaker 1: defensive women can be about their men. Okay, could it
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  Speaker 1: be a situation where Chloe might have disrespected him? And now, Kim,
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  Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. You don't disrespect me about this
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  Speaker 1: dude who ain't never did you right at all? I
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  Speaker 1: told your ass not to have another baby with him,
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  Speaker 1: this and the third like and maybe not publicly, it's
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  Speaker 1: the public aspect for me, yeah, because I'm already embarrassed
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  Speaker 1: and now you're out here talking about two hundred shades
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  Speaker 1: and new lipstick. Girl, I'll be to a at my house.
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  Speaker 1: Shame because I'm gonna love you and we still assisted,
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  Speaker 1: but we're gonna have to You're gonna have to catch
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  Speaker 1: the faith though. Yeah, you're gonna catch these hands. So
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  Speaker 1: y'all just then, f I I I showed today is
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  Speaker 1: going to be about toxic relationships. We actually have a
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  Speaker 1: toxic relationship therapist on He helps people break up within
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  Speaker 1: thirty days. That's his job, all right, um, But there's
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  Speaker 1: a video online it's this guy, so he is. His
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  Speaker 1: name is Emory Andre Tate the Third. He's a four
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  Speaker 1: time kickboxing world champion. I don't know if he saw it, Tam,
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  Speaker 1: but it looks like he was doing like a podcast
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  Speaker 1: or something. But he was asked, um, you know if
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  Speaker 1: his girl um is allowed to go on girl's trips,
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  Speaker 1: and he was like, absolutely not, because you know what,
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  Speaker 1: I can't do anything if I'm not there. If a
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  Speaker 1: man tries to sleep with you, your wore making gold,
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  Speaker 1: she not go to the gas station, then she can't
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  Speaker 1: go to the there's gonna be man trying to funk
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  Speaker 1: all over her. D M S right now. It is
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  Speaker 1: a man trying to suck her, like you gotta just
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  Speaker 1: exactly all nine like that. He sounds like an in sale.
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  Speaker 1: First you're at home on Instagram, it's a nigga still
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  Speaker 1: trying to suck her like relax, like you just gotta
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  Speaker 1: trust your girl. Like but I looked on his Instagram page.
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  Speaker 1: If you go to the picture of him in the
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  Speaker 1: orange shorts, you know, I can you know while you
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  Speaker 1: staying home? That's what I means. No, I could. I
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  Speaker 1: understand why he might be intimidated by her going outside
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  Speaker 1: and getting fun by other people. Hold on orange shorts.
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  Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, oh, there's nothing there there, There's nothing there,
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  Speaker 1: So I get it. Bro home. Look, my worst fair
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: is having a son who you don't have to be
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: like super well endowed, but like just having a son
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: who may grow up with a super I feel like
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: those guys have like insecurity issues and this guy is
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: definitely displaying that. And I don't want to have to
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: cleve with a son with insecurity issues because he played
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: football and he see everybody else junk now and now
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: he realizes his dick little. I don't want to deal
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: with it. But he's well, he looks like a wealthy man,
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: you know, he looks like he's well off. He gotta
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: be Yeah, okay, he gotta be rich. Now, some women
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: might like, you know a little things. We don't know
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: that man got a little bit based on that picture.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I don't want to just assume that I didn't see anything.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: He gotta COUCHI I'm assuming he got a that's that nice.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: You got gonna say that man gotta couch you. That's
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: a grown man. Girl. You can't tell me he punching
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: nobody in the face. This guy, he does, his energy
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: does give um. I'm gonna beat I'm gonna beat you up.
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna because I want him to come see
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: about me. He's gonna get this motherfucker gonna get robbed
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: he comes see about me. That's that man. That's all.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: I got a lot of the break going on. There's
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: a lot of ship going on. But that's it. Let's
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: gonna break and we'll be right back with our expert
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: you guys on how to leave your toxic situation. All right,
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: we'll be right back. Listen, we gotta special guests on
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: we talked back this week. Okay, yeah, this is my
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: clubhouse friend, but he's also a toxic relationship. Uh specialist, Right,
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: So are you a relationship specialist. Who who's toxic or
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: you are you work with toxic relationships? Because I work
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: with toxic relationship but I've been called the toxic bay.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Toxic yeah, toxic bay. I don't know what that means,
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: but that's what some of my friends call me, women friends.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Sounds like exactly every nigger I ever dated was toxic bag.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: So y'all listen. So Taylor, he's a former military police
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: veteran and US federal agent that has a decade worth
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: of responding to nine one one calls for domestic violence disputes. Okay,
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Taylor has been uh taking his past experience and it's
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: now a world renowned relationship expert experts. Excuse me, y'all
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: know I can't read anyway. Helping men and women exit
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: toxic relationships, you know, and helping them find self love again,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: because that's what it's all about, right when someone's mistreating
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: it's kind of an internal issue, that's dope. Listen, I
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: need some help now. I'm trying to stop being toxic
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: in relationships. Hey, let's do it. Let's do if you
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: get you help right now. So I got my first question.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: If I'm dealing with a nigger who gives me a
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: lot of money, but he's for the streets. Should I
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: leave or should I stay? It depends on what you're
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: looking for, like like what like what is your ultimate goal?
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: Like like like like why are you attracted to this
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: due that's from the streets, Like what what does he
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: do to turn you on? Ah? He makes sure I'm
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: comfortable finance. Okay, So he's a provider. So so pretty much,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: whether he's from the streets or not, provider is check
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: for you. Yeah, that's very important. That's not the most
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: important thing. I mean, it's it's very important, though, But
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I would rather have somebody who was a provider that
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: wasn't for the streets. Okay, he's not, he's not my man,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. He everybody man so for
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: the streets, not in the streets, right yeah, okay, So, um,
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: but like I said, you can find guys that's out
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: there that are providers. Um, that's about their money, that's
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: about their money, and that would also be able to
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: to provide those things to you. Where they at there there,
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: they're there, they're there. Um, they're probably not in the clubs,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: they're probably not on the corner. But you can find them,
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: like at networking events, right, CEO events, Right, those guys
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: that they're looking for a woman, they're looking for a
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: woman that can provide at the house, that can you know,
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: take care of kids, right, all that all that fantasy
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: stuff that y'all want, right, And these guys don't have
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: the time and the ability to do that, right, And
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: so they're looking for that woman that they can take
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: care of, right, and that could be a mother of
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: your child or or what have you. So there's guys
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: out there. You just gotta position yourself and be in
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: the right place to find those individuals. See see see
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: see a lot of the guys from the streets. I
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: mean not he's not from the streets, he's right, But
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: we're definitely out where did those individuals hang out. So
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in the places where the same
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: guys you would meet, and you know, like a networking event,
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: it's the same guys the rids. I'm hanging out these
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: fancy places, I'm not. I mean I got to the
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: hood clubs too, every now, don't get it twisted. But
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: I definitely in those environments that you speak of. Go ahead,
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: and I think I meet decent men sometimes, but there's
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: there's usually something missing and and what and what is
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: that usual thing that's that that you're not able to
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: find um consistency And so there's a tradeoff oftentimes for
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: the provisions. But what do you mean trade off? Like
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: if he's providing, if he's providing, what are you what
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: is he not then providing? If he's providing financially, then
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: what is he not providing? Well, he doesn't want commitment,
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: that's the thing. That's like everything else is good. He
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: just doesn't want to come. He doesn't ever want to
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: be committed to anyone, well as far as the future whole,
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: cause he doesn't want commitment with anyone. He enjoys being
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: a single, successful man who can do whatever he wants.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: And there's right, and and you're okay with that or
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: you're looking you're looking for commitment, right, Yeah, I mean
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: you're looking for because uncertainty, it's not it's not good, right,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: we don't like the uncertainty. Right, one day you're here,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: the next day you might be gone. But I think
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: that you can find that. I think that you can
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: find that. But it might not be in him, right, Oh,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: it's definitely not. We already know. We already know that.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: So this is why, this is why she's considering this
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: a toxic relationship. We jumped right into therapy. Bitch, wait
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: for your answer. But but but but but but that's
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: not toxic. That's not toxic. Just because he don't want
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: to commit, that doesn't mean that the person is toxic, right,
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: I think that. I think that he just don't want
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: to commit. He loves He's not the toxic one. It's
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: me because I'm in a relationship that I know does
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: not fulfill the things that I desire except for one thing,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: you know, And that's why I'm staying, you know, And
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: it's the money. Yeah, yeah, Yeah, I don't think that.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: I don't. I'm gonna be I'm gonna be honest, and
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: it might shock, it might shock a lot of people.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: That's that's listening. I don't think that's toxic. And gonna
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: be honest with you. If you're if you're there for
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: the money, if you're there for the money, because this
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: person can provide. It's just like no different than somebody's
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: a listening here, and I know that I'll never get
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: with them. They're never gonna fulfill the rest of my
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: my dreams, But I love being in their presence. No,
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: you're you are. You were hanging out with this individual
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: knowing that you're not getting anything in return as far
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: as commitment or long term relationship. But he's providing for
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: you financially, and he's willing and doing that. You're not
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: holding a gun to his head. He's openly willing doing it.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: I don't think there's anything wrong with that. There's no
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: one misleading, no one. Now, Now, if you if you're
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: in that situation and you were trying to make it
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: something else, then it could get it can get a
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: little toxic. But if you understand what it is and
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: he understand what it is, I think you guys have
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: a great arrangement. Partner. Yeah, but I want Yeah, I
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: mean it's working, it's it's working. So let's let's go
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: into what are some signs of a toxic relationship, like
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: a real toxic relationship. What does that look like for
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: some people? Oh my goodness, Well, I'm gonna give I'm
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: gonna give one of the one of the obvious signs.
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: And this is the this is the sign that encompassed
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: all the other signs. Right, it's when you're walking on eggshell,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: it might see basically, remember I remember a young lady
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: told me that is so basic. Look like look look, look, look,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: look walking on eggshell. If I was to rip, if
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: I was to peel that onion, you know what? You
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: know what? Being scared around an individual, you don't know
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: what to say. You don't know if the person is
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: gonna snap, You don't if the person is gonna hit
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: you. You You don't know what kind of moved that person in.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: That is not fun, right, And it's like it's like
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: land mines. I always because I'm former military, it's like
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: walking around land mines. You don't want to piss the
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: person off. You don't want to slam the cabinet door.
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: If you don't want to slam the door because the
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: person might be quick to anger. Right. And so when
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: you feel nervous around an individual, whether at your job,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: whether it's your significant other, you're in a toxic situation
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: because no one should be no one should make make
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: you feel nervous. That's number one, right, And you have
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: to really really find out the reason why am I nervous? Now,
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: if it's butterflies because you like the individual, that's a
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: different kind of toxicity. Right chemistry, but exactly. But if
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: they're making your heart beat and you're you're you're always
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: you know, your anxiety percent, your prompting, sweating, you're shaking,
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: that is that that that is horrible. And so that's
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: the major, the major obvious sign. Now there's other signs,
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: right financial you know, you hear you hear on on
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: on other platforms me and a j uh is on
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: that that you know, I I want a man that's
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: a provider, which tam you said that too, right, But
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: a lot of times those providers have the other person
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: so trapped in the palm of their hands that if
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: you even try to leave them, you can't because they're
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: controlling your credit card, They're controlling all the finances, the
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: check book, everything that comes in financially. They are the
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: gatekeeper to that because you are so used toul and
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: it said, sometimes it's a deception. You're so used to
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: going to daddy to get some money, right, and you
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: go and brag to your girls. Currently brought me, I
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: believe the time person taking some stilettos, some red bottoms. Know,
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: it feels good to be taken care of, it feels amazing,
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: But once you try to leave that situation because maybe
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: some abusiveness or mental abuse starts happening and he starts
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: shutting those things down where maybe he's paying your rent, girl,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: he paying my rent when he stopped paying your rent,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: now when he's right. So these are the things that
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: we need to really look for. But that's just like
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: I said, few signs of being at a toxic relationship.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: I used to date a guy just like that when
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I was living in Atlanta back in uh two thousand
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: seven or eight. I was in cosmetology school, and I
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: would have to lie to him, like if I asked
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: him for money to like pay tuition or for something
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: to better myself, he wouldn't give it to me. I
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: would have to ask for like bullshit and use it
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: to pay my tuition because if it was money to
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: do anything that would make me independent of him, he
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: would not give it to me. That ship was crazy.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: And you say, yeah, I mean people do that all
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: the time. But like I said, a lot of times,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: it's because the way how the world is going. And
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: and I'm and I'm gonna say this. What was popular
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: before the pandemic was I'm getting my bad girl, I'm
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: getting my bag, I'm getting my bag. I'm getting the bag. Okay,
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: pandemic happen. Business went under, and it's now I'm looking
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: for a man that provides, right so, so, so we
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: have the good guys that provides, and then we have
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: the bad guys that provides, like narcissists, right and so
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: and so they reel you in. Girl, I'm gonna take here.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: You don't have to work, you don't have to do nothing.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: I don't want a beautiful woman like you lifting a finger.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: And they take you in and they whine and dine,
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: and not only that, you're around your girlfriends, and your
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: girlfriend's fall in love because they're charismatic, and the way
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: how they talk is so sexy, right, and so they
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: have and so they have so they have a way
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: of drawing people in. So here's the deal. When you
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: try to leave and you tell your girlfriends all the
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: horrible things this man has done to you, they can't
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: believe it because what they've been presented, it's not who
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: that person really is behind post worth. What if your
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: girlfriend your mama. That happens. Sometimes parents take the other
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: person's side and not your all kids side. Right, you know,
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: you just always trying to ruin things. Girl. You know, like, no,
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: a man gonna be a man that I hate. That's saying, right,
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: A man gonna be a man, you know, a happy
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: a happy wife, a happy life. No, I am going
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: through hell in this relationship. And I need some help.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: I need some assistance. This person is mentally tearing me
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: down every single day saying that I'm stupid, I'm dumb,
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: I'm ugly, I'm fat. It happens everyday. So do you
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: think people could be like addicted to toxic relationships? Because
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: why does it always seem like it's so hard to leave.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: It's like almost like some dope. Oh I believe that.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: I believe because it's emotions. It's emotions, And believe it
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: or not, some people love pain. I can pay anybody
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: more than some. They love pain, whether it's physical pain. Right,
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: That's why they have that bondage and the whips and
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: all that stuff. No shame, but do those b DSM
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: those kind of pain? And then you have people that
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: love emotional pain. Now, I'm going to bring it close
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: to the home. When you're all were smaller, have you
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: listened to songs that made you cry? Yes? And you
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: know I always say that I'm not gonna let my
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: daughter listen to like Mary J. Blige, like bitch you
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: listening to No R and B. Because you internalize that stuff.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: And you have seen those videos of those little girls
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: on Instagram and the car with day Mama, like all
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: emotion and the song singing it like why why do
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: you have those emotions? And you are a little girl.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: So I feel like we internalize those things from little girls,
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: you know, like the herd and if he if he
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: likes you, that if he's hitting you at school, maybe
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: he likes you. So all these different little things. That
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: was the thing when you were a little girl, like
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: he just hitting you because he likes it. He's just
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: being mean to you because he likes exactly. And so
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: now we're like that. Ever, arrogant men who are oftentimes mean,
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: they may not be physically hitting you, but they mentally
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: they might abuse you no one. And I think that,
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: and I think that's why a lot of parents don't
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: hit their kids because a lot of times you're here
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: the reason why I'm doing this because I love you
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: and I don't want you to go down the wrong well.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: So if you hit a child and tell the child
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: you're hitting them because you love them. Imagine when that
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: child reach an adult age and they get hit, it's
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: because remember things that we have grown up with stays
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: with us. You know, one thing that I can say,
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: I was the ever go to any person's home right
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: and the trash is almost at the rim. I'm I'm agitated,
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: I'm pacing. It does something to me and I'm hearing
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: my mom's voice because you usually yell at me telling
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: me to take the trash out, take that trash. I'll
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: take that trash, and that stuff have stuck with me today.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: I cannot see a half full trash can tailor made
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: is taking your trash? Yea, yeah, y'all. Nigga said that
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: because they'll walk right past your trash can like I
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: just cooked. Figure, can you take the trash out right?
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: And you you take mine out right? Now? You need
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: to go out right. So these are the things that
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: we got to be careful of what we are instill
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: in our children, because they grow up to it and
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: it's traumatic for them, and we might think it's not.
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: You know, even if they're not being I think even
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: as an adult, even if you're not being hit, you
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: might feel that there's a problem with that, like you know,
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: we we we've heard that before. If he if he
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: doesn't at you, he don't love you, or and and
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: one other thing that I want to I want to
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: add to that too, um, is that even when it
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: comes to let's talk about it like like like the police,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: we sometimes as as um you know, the black culture,
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: we use the police to scare our kids. If you
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: act up, I'm gonna get him. I'm gonna get him,
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: locked you up. I'm gonna get him, lock you up
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: now now, So so that kid is that that that
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: that that scene is embedded, I'm gonna get him to
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: lock you up. I'm getting locked him up. Be afraid,
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: be afraid, be afraid. What happens when your teenage son
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: is driving your car and get pulled over by the police.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: He might not shot, he gonna run. You've don't terrorize
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: this kid saying that you're gonna threaten to lock him
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: up with the police. Right, but the police have also
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: done a good job in this country. You're scaring our
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: children to hundred no one, And I'm I would never
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: discount that. You're absolutely right, Um, yes, you're correct. They have. UM.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: I just think that the teaching should be different. But
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: you know, the scarcity shouldn't be uh to like a
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: five year old that I'm gonna call the police to
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: lock you up, right, um. And I think when you
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: when that child gets older, the conversation needs to have
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: and I'm gonna bring it back to a toxic relationship.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of times we don't have these conversations, right,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: you know, we get we get kind of sidetracked because
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: of the looks. You know, oh man, she fine, you
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: know that girl boy or or the guy is fine,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: or what have you? Or or he got a good job,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: he got all these things, and the conversation kind of
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: it doesn't happen, right, It's like a lot of texting,
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, you know, I don't
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: I don't talk that much now here. Here's one toxic
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: situation if you meet a guy as a woman that
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: don't talk that much. That's why, Okay, when y'all have
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: a disagreement, you think he's gonna now start talking or
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: he's gonna be quiet, right, right, So you have to
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: understand what you want. What you want. Do you want
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: a person that communicates? You cannot date somebody that doesn't talk.
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: I'm scared of people who are don't talk really because
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't like a man that's like a
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: super chatty patty. But I'm scared when you don't talk
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: because I feel like people who don't talk, they're just
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: looking around observing stuff to have a problem with. And
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: I've experienced that in my real life in a real relationship,
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Like he didn't talk much. He would just observe people
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: and then say something to me about them later on.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: You know, no, And I think you're right. I think
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: it could be missed. Because I had talked to somebody
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: that that that didn't talk. I didn't know what she
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: was thinking at any given time. I mean, she literally
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: drove me crazy because I always had to guess, and
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: she kept on telling me, Hey, you can ask me
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: if you if you're unsure, ask me what your demeanor
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: wasn't welcoming. I was scared to ask you why. I
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: don't ever want to feel like that. I want to
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: be able to ask you any question. You ask me
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: any question, even if it's stupid. I don't care, right,
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: because we have to communicate that comfort, that ability to
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: say something stupid. It might be dumb, but I am
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: I feel safe saying it to you because you're the
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: one that I want to spend my life with. Grow,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: build right, And if anybody, if any if, if if,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: if I'm gonna embarrass myself, it should be you. I'm
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: embarrassing myself in front of you, and I could be vulnerable.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: And this is let me say this, this is the
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: reason why. And I'm gonna say this to the guys
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: because guys want to. You know, women always the always emotional,
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: and they always they always be revengeful. The reason why
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: these women are revengeful, it's not because the got cheated. Section.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: It's not the cheating that that hurts. It's it's the deceit.
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: And it's the secret that you guys share in the
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: bedroom that that dude shared with another woman, and that
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: woman regurgitated to you when y'all connected to try to
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: match each other's story because he cheated, right, And so
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: when you hear that how he called her, I don't know, uh,
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: pooky girl, girl. He licked my butt too, girl, looking
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: at my butt just like he licks y'all. But so
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: you're just out here looking. But that's what hurts, because
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: that's something that you guys shared that's something that you
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: guys did and y'all made a bow and a promise
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: that this is our thing, and now you went out
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: here and did it with somebody else. And that's where
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: the anger comes from. That's when you want to kill
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: a motherfucker's you know, this is for that, exactly for that, right?
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: So yeah? So, I mean, I know we talked about
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: intimate relationships, but there's other types of toxic relationships. So
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: do you help people like with toxic relationships with their boss? Oh?
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: I love it. I mean I had some toxic boss.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I'm sure y'all have ran across some toxic and I
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: got a bit name in my freezer since I don't know, no,
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: A hundred and and and and and My thing is this,
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: it's not it's not talked to you. It's not help
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: people how to exit, because there's not all the time
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: you can just leave a job. You're paying bills, you're
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: providing for your family. You need the money. So how
• 41:47
  Speaker 1: do you navigate daily through that position with a toxic individual?
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: What about a family member that you have to be around?
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: What about it is your mama? What about a family
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: you union that this toxic person always say one thing,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: and it destroys the mood. How do you navigate through that? Right?
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: And so these are the things that I helped people
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: um navigate their way through so they can go through life, because,
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: like I said, not everyone is able to cut people off.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: I mean, you could cut your mama off, but I
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: wouldn't advise you to cut your mama off. I would
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: advise you to be strategic and know how to handle her, right.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: And I shouldn't say handle her because people as they're like, uh,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: know how to maneuver with her. It's like a Waltz. Right.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: So what advice would you give someone that's in a
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: toxic work environment with their bosses? Like have you ever
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: seen that movie Sault and the lady was like clipping
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: the stapler in his ear every time? Like, like, what
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: do you do with with someone like that? What would
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: you advise them to do? Right? Well? What? Well? Number one,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't advise them to be left a loan, right,
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: And we know that, right, especially if it's a woman
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: and the guy. Right. But I think that I think
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: that any kind of question that you're going to ask
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: your boss, do it in a in a team's kind
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: of setting, right, because you have your support, which you
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: other people is witnessed, right, because it's your word against
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: your manager, right, especially if you're trying to build it.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: Let's just call it what it is, especially if you're
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: trying to build a case, right. Um. I think that
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: I think that eventually you would have to leave if
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: if you're not able to handle it, right, because that's
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: that's you're you're talking about somebody that's in authority over you, right,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: that's making your life miserable. And I think it's different
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: when you have a friend of family member or a
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: boyfriend and when you have somebody that's over you now.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: And that's why being in a relationship and that the
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: guy is or the woman, either one is the person
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: that's holding the money over you is dangerous, right, And
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: so I think that I think when it comes to
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: your boss, one thing that we have to understand, it's
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: emotional and eligence. Right. We have to be able to
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: control our emotion because we're angry. We're angry, we want
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: to cry. Sometimes we're shaking because they just piste us off.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: And sometimes we feel powerless we want to fight, right,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: So we have to be able to control that emotion.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: And I'm gonna speak for us black people too, right,
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: especially black people. We're very expressive, like, yo, you can
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: just tell me something like I ain't gonna take this like,
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: we're very expressive. But the thing is you have to
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: be careful, So you have to bring that tone down, right.
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: We have to learn verbal judo, And that's what I
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: learned as a police officer, how to deescalate a situation
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: that's spiraling out of control. Sometimes it's the picture of
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: your voice. Right, if you really want somebody to listen
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: to you, bring it down to a monotone points and
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: people will listen to you. Right when you start yelling,
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: it's it's exciting exciting the other person, right, It's it's
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: making the other person, um really really excited too and
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: bringing their emotion um. So you have to be able
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: to kind of bring it down. And sometimes we're caught
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: up in the moment and we're not able to listen
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: to our conscious mind to retain ourselves. So what do
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: you do with Taylor made you take a bathroom break?
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: You might laugh, you might laugh, but I'm telling you,
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: when you're getting really heated and you feel like you
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: want to punch the person in the face, you have
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: to be able to walk away. How do you walk
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: away and still hold your dignity? Go to the bathroom
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: because and this is what what what it does. It
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: doesn't make you look like a punk because you gotta
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: pay right right, So so it doesn't and it kind
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: of psychologically trick your mind because it's not telling you
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: you walked away because you were scared, because sometimes your
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: mind kind of pushes you to right. But I ain't
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: gonna be no punk. I hold me on. But if
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: you go and take a bathroom break, I just need
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: to go to the bathroom. Just go to the bathroom,
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: angry and calm down, right, Just take a moment in
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: the bathroom, and then you'll have a different energy coming out, right,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: but that yelling energy. And that's where a lot of
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: domestic violence happen, especially when a man and woman is
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: arguing and he's trying to leave the house and she
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: was where are you going? And she grabbed the keys.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: Just let him he's trying, and let him go, and
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: she stands in front of the door. And this is
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: where the hit happens. I know it's this is graphic,
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: but it's when they're standing in front of the door
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: and they won't allow the man to leave, and he
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: bumps the woman, and once the bump happened or the
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: grabbing happen, that's assault. And that's where the domestic happen. Yeah, yeah, look,
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: I definitely done took it there. I ain't even gonna lie.
• 46:52
  Speaker 1: I've definitely been that person. Nigga, where you're going, I
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: don't know what you think you're going right now, I'm
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: lit really always the one trying to leave, and I
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: will take the I will take you walking out on
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: me as a sign of disrespect. And that's where to me, like,
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: I've literally been the one trying to leave and damnit
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: getting held hostage. So now I feel like an ape
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: in a fucking cage and I'm gonna do whatever I
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: gotta do to get out of here. So now it
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: gets really bad and really ugly because I feel like
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: if my man wanted to leave to calm down, I'm
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: gonna let him leave. I'm not gonna make that a problem.
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: I'm not taking the keys. I had a nigga hide
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: my keys and like I'll send a picture with my sperity,
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: like vibe it about. But in that moment, in that moment,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: you're not feeling like they're leaving to calm down, or
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: maybe that's what's even if they feel like it felt
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: like you're not leaving the calm down. You feel like
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: you're leaving because you said what you had to say
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: and now I don't get to say what I need
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: to say. And I took it, and I take it
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: this disrespect instead of just trying to calm be calm
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: so we could have a have better communication. That's how
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: I have been No gohead now if you want to
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: leave care, that's how I got too old. I have
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: no energy for that ship. No more go ahead, no
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: no problem. I might be hearing going back. Right, even
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: when the pandemic happened, right, people wasn't able to really
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: leave right. So it's where how you work from home,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: how you divide your house, right to go into another room? Right,
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: it's I mean, if you don't physically want to leave
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: the house, and if you know that the other person,
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: it hurts them when when when when they need you
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: the most? Some people is in an argument, they need
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: you the most. Right, they're hurt whatever or you might
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: have cheated, you might have said something to hurt their feelings.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: They're going through some tough time and you walk out
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: in them. That sometimes can be devastated to some people, right,
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: or they might be dealing with some traumas back in
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: the past where their mother walked out and their father
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: walked out. Right. So, so, how do you the other person,
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: defuse the situation because by you staying there, there's arguing there,
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: and that's doing something to me though it's doing so
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: I understand your triggers and me walking out how it
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: may affect you because you have abandonment issues. But then
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: how do I navigate that because what you're doing is
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: hurting me so so so so can there be some compromise?
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: Maybe you don't leave the the house grounds go to
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: your That's why I always say I cannot live with
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: a man in like a one bedroom apartment. I don't
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: know how people do it. Like if we get into
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: an argument and you walk past me, I'm gonna trip
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: your ass up, Like, like I need you to be
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: able to get as far away from me as possible.
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: If we're not going to leave the premises, okay, and
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: if I don't, if I try to go into another room,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: at least let me do that. Sometimes some people don't
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: even let you do that, they'll follow you. That's show.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: That's show, and and and and that's why you have
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: to have that you toxic? Okay that in the beginning,
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I admit that I have been toxic? Did you did?
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: I wanted you? Just don't want to be left alone,
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: that's all. She doesn't want to be loved. She wants
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: to be left alone at the same time, but I'm
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: a Gemini, chose okay, leave me then alone. But state like,
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: what right? No, y'all crazy? So look, can you tell
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: our listeners, like, what are some of the long term
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: psychological effects of having stayed in a toxic relationship too long?
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: You know, because many, many these days they talked about
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: the modern that the modern woman, the traditional women. Traditional
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: women stayed in toxic, toxic situations their whole lives, like
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: they literally exactly or they died old, but they sacrificed
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: their whole vibs for this husband and the children and
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: the grandchildren. You know what I'm saying, what's the quality
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: that's not a quality of life? Like the quit I
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: feel like they might die old, but they died ten
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: years younger than they were supposed to because of all
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: their stress and trauma's possible. They don't even know how
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: to have fun. They don't even know how to enjoy life.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: And that's why sometimes you would see them acting kind
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: of awkward or kind of out of touch. You haven't
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: seen a person that's been married so long and they
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: don't even know how to even have a conversation with
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: a stranger, right, And I think that I think that
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: those are some of the things, right and you're you're, you're,
• 51:35
  Speaker 1: you're right, Um, they need to be able to It's
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: almost like they've been removed from society, the real world,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: let's just call it what it is. They've been living
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: in their own world, whatever that world was, and so
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: now they're being introduced to the real world. And some
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: people are so it's they've been in this situation for
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: twenty years and a lot of things. It's not going
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: to change on their how they think and how they
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: pursu see, right, um, And so sometimes it takes time, right,
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it takes time. Sometimes it takes a lot of
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: activities and and going to see a therapist and what
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: have you. But I think, yes, can it be damaging
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: one because you're talking about somebody that's been trained a
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: certain way just like me being in the military. It
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: used to be a military, right, I've been trained a
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: certain way, and now you're telling me that, um, you
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: know marching is wrong. Well, we march in the military.
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: When you're talking about marchin is wrong. I've been doing
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: it for twenty years, right, That's all I know. So, no,
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: marchin is not wrong. But you're telling me there's another
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: way that you can walk, but I can't see that.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: And that's where that's where sometimes the relationship becomes toxic,
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: because you're being in relationships with people that have preconceived
• 52:52
  Speaker 1: notions and have habits that you haven't even discussed with
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: the individual, and maybe sometimes you don't even know, and
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: then when you come together, there's a mismatch, there's issues,
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: there's drama. Oh my god, I don't know what I
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: got myself into. Well, and that's why we got to
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: ask these questions, right, And that's why now that we
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: know we know what toxicity is, we have an idea
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: what's toxic. There's no reason unless you're the toxic one.
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: Dam there's no reason why why you can't pick up
• 53:28
  Speaker 1: on some of these songs. It's out there. We know
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: it's out there. Yes, this person is showering me with money.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: He's saying all these pretty and nice things. Right, I
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: need to know how he treats his friends, how he
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: treat his mother, how he treats the waiter, how he
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: treats another woman, right, how he treats me when he's
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: not in front of his family or his friends or
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: his boss. Because see, here's the thing. They'll treat you
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: amazing in public. Oh, they will wine and dining in public.
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: And as soon as you get in that car during
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: the door closes, you're a bit double backslap hit and
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: all kinds of things. Right, So we we gotta pick
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: up on these signs. And like I said, when you
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: go out on a date with an individual, look on
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: how he treats the waiter. If he's shitty with the
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: waitress for no reason, bing bing bing bing bing, that's
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: something you need to record. Yeah, right, because the actresses,
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: I don't want to eat with her. I don't know,
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: she's just so mean to service people. I don't even
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: like going out to eat with her sometimes, like, and
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: she's like, well, I work in the service industry and
• 54:39
  Speaker 1: I know good customer service, so it pisces me off
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: to see people doing half as job. I mean I
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: don't have to, that's true. I mean I could get that.
• 54:50
  Speaker 1: You know, I love customer service and and and and
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: I think that, but everybody does customer service differently, like
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: like you said, so, yeah, she might be a little hard,
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: you know, just like some people that are chefs and
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: stuff like that when they're eating. I wouldn't want to
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: go out to dinner with a chef if you're if
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: you're a chef, because you're gonna criticize the gravy, the food,
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: the chicken. I do, but I don't complain to the
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: to the to the waiter though I'll stow you. I
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: just I'm like one of those people who just quietly disappear. Okay,
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell my friends your ship is fucked up,
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: but I'm not going to like because I know how
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: it feels to get your day ruin. She could be
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: having a bad day like your waitress, right, and then
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: you just come say some slick ship and should be
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: back in you know, the back crying like I would
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: never I know what it feels like to be in
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: customer service, not necessarily like that type of service. But yeah,
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: so here's the thing. If I was to date to
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: a J and see this is this is just an
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: example I'm gonna put out there, if I was to
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: date to you number one, As a man, I have
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: to understand that if there's an area that you are
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: really good in and you know how a certain things
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: supposed to be and you I'm not gonna say you
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: are you are a critic of imperfection in that area.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: I know that I need to not pick the restaurant. Okay,
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: I needed I need to. I'm not saying that I
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: won't pay, but I need to make you to be
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: the lead. So what I would say is, hey, ay J,
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: look I find you very attractive. I think you're an
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: amazing person. I want to get to know you more. Um,
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: do you have a favorite restaurant that you that you
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: go to, right? And then you and then so and so.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: Now I'm taking you to your restaurant because that's what
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: you like. You know what the services right. But see
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: what a lot of times people do is they don't
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: do that right. They say, look, I'm gonna take you
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: to my restaurant because they think their restaurant is hot
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: ship right, And now you go to my restaurant and
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: now you're saying something about my gravy, which is my
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: favorite gravy. And my mama loved these guys to take
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: you to, so why we got a plastic for it? Right?
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: That's like guy's been taking their restaurants another woman I
• 56:56
  Speaker 1: introduced them to, Like, don't be taking me to some
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: subpart place, some sub aur bitch done had you at
• 57:02
  Speaker 1: because men never know what they want to eat. And
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: I always threatened dudes like when I started dating them,
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: like if I catch you, because I know where I
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: want to eat, right, so I'm always had like the
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: low place set up. If I catch you in a
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: place I introduce you to with another woman, I'm gonna
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: clear the motherfucker table in my forearm. Okay, it's not fair.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: I'm a flipper. I've never done it right, But don't
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: be up in my place with somebody else. That's what
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: you know. Guys, be like, have you been here with
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: somebody already before? Yes, I've been all over this city
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: in every restaurant I like to eat, right, It's just
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: not fair where we're gonna go. There's nowhere left to go.
• 57:36
  Speaker 1: I like to eat so and my things that that's
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: usually comes from that that's usually comes from a little insecurity, right,
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: and sometimes people just want to try something new that
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: you guys can have your memory together. Look, somebody that's confident,
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: let me tell you something. I'm you could call me cocky, whatever.
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: I am so confident that I can take you to
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: the same place that you was wine and dine with
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: with another guy, and I can make you have a
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: total different experience with me and memorable. I could care
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: less about if you went with ten different dudes to
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: the same restaurants. All right, Taylor, let that's how it
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: should be, Taylor, I hear you, because my thing is this, right,
• 58:16
  Speaker 1: everybody experience is different. You're not gonna have the same experience.
• 58:21
  Speaker 1: And so, like I said, people that's what kind of insecure.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: And maybe they don't know if they're, you know, a
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: ten above the person that you had the experience with,
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: so they're kind of thinking, I wonder what they did.
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: I wanted she had a better time with him or her,
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: what have you? Like we were worried about the wrong things.
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: We need to be focused on you. Like, like I said,
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: I can overshadow the experience that you had with that
• 58:44
  Speaker 1: other person. I could care less. You know what I'm saying,
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: that's clearly it wasn't all that you have to eat
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: with me today, right, So that would be considered like
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: a red flag toxic. If somebody's like always asking about
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: previous relationships, I want to know how many people you've
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: been with? Oh, don't ask those questions. Don't ask those questions.
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: Who cares? Some men care? Some men care? That is
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: that is, don't don't like that. That is the most
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: I don't not want to know how many how many
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: men you've been with, but it's irrelevant to me. It's
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: irrelevant to me what that has to do with me.
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: Okay you've been with one guy, Oh you don't have
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: no experience. Okay, you've been with twenty guys. Oh you've
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: got too many bodies. Come on, you want exactly so, No,
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: you don't need to know it. It's not irrelevant. Let's
• 59:41
  Speaker 1: let's get to know each other from here. Now. You
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: might want to know some things of my pastor you
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: like if I have a child, right, you might want
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: to know, like you know what's your child like and
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: how what type of father you are? Those things are
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: are different and important. How many people I dated have
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: nothing to do with you. Vice versa. As long as
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: it's none of my friends, I don't care, right if
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: you suck them, if you suck my friend, it's kind
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: of like, well, I mean, I don't know if I
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: want to be serious with you, we might get but
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Yo, but see, but but but but
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: but here's the thing, and just say y'all niggas, no,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: y'all be passed around to go ahead. But it takes
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: it takes a true person to come and let you know,
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: because they don't have to say anything. A true person
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: and let you know. Hey, look, your friend, we we
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: talked like six months ago or two years. Well maybe
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: not six months ago, that might be too soon, but
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: like three years ago, whatever it was in the past year.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: We had six one time and that was it, right,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: I mean that right there. I respect that. Then you're
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: not telling me at all. And and it depends how
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: you tell me. Don't be telling me like the sex
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: was the bomb dot com because we're gonna have some problems. Okay, no,
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 1: it ain't. So what if you're with somebody, right and
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: they find out that at some point in your life
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: you dated like a distant relative, supposed distant relative, there's right,
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 1: and the relative knows that you're with this guy now, right,
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: but you didn't disclose it to your current guy, Like
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: this is a twelve year old relationship from way back when,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: and I didn't feel like I needed to to let
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: you know when we got together. You know what I'm saying.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 1: You can't even tell me his mama's name. So is
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: that really your cousin? Like? Am I wrong for not
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 1: disclosing that information? Could that be seen as being toxic?
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: Are creating a toxic situation? Yeah? I think that. I
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: think that. Um, you know, there's certain things that you
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: take to your grave as long as that grave unwrapfle like, okay,
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: so he will that dug the grave up? He dug
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: the grave up. It's not like somebody told him. He
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 1: literally dug the grave up. The nigger went through my
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: Facebook twelve years back, so I didn't even know you
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: existed at the time. So because you're snooping that hard,
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: you see an argument between me and a woman in
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: regarding this guy, right, who happens to be somebody you know, Yeah,
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: but that's not that nigger cousin. You don't even know
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: if his family like that, Like, so you can't even pinpoint,
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: how y'all are even cousins. You're just saying that. You're
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: just trying to say that to make me feel bad,
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 1: Like that's toxic to me. And I think some people
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: some people do that, right, Some people just do that.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: Like say, for instance, you might apologize to somebody, right,
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: y'all have an argument. Y'all apologize somebody, but they won't
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: let it go, like you apologize, but they won't let
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: it go. And they love that argument back and forth,
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: like that pain going, that yelling, that strife, like they
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: love that stuff. So, yeah, you're right. Sometimes some people
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: just want to create something that's not really there because
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: either they know some people do. I gotta work on
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: myself because I'll be doing that too, not not to
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 1: like just fight, but so I used to like pick
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: a little fight so we could have like angry sex
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: and that's it. I know. But it used to be
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: so good. I know, I know. But my thing is this,
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: why can't y'all role play angry? It's not the same.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: It's not the same. And Nick ain't pushing your head
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: into that pillow the same. You ain't find the right niggers.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 1: But but but yeah, yeah, I mean, yeah, a lot
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: of people do that, right, They want to have that
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: that that that that it's a pay as it is,
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: and I think that's, um, it's not healthy. It's really
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: not I know, because the thing is is that then
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: because now you're hooked on that, and so if the
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: person don't make you feel that way, um, then then yeah,
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 1: you start poking buttons, right, and you start doing things
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: to make this person mad. I remember one girl told me,
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: she goes, I never saw you angry. I want to
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: see you angry. Why why do you want to see
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: me mad? I think it's important to see a person
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 1: mad before you marry them. True, true, But you don't.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: Let's do it again. Can we not have an organic
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: argument then? Exactly? Like, don't create something just to see
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: because that should can backfire. Like I feel triggered right now. Okay,
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: I feel like really triggered just thinking about times where
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 1: I was chilling and motherfucker could come home and just
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: change the whole aura, and it's it takes a long
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 1: time to get over that type of thing. Like, So
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: another question I had was like, how, um do you
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: really even recover from a toxic relationship? Because we're having
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: this conversation and I don't got triggered, like I know,
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 1: my honest okay, like how do you and win? Like
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 1: it's gonna take me a long time because even like
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: y h yeah, no you you, you will always have
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 1: those triggers. There's no different than It's no different than
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 1: a cologne um that you with, this guy that you
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: felt that was tall and fine and stuff of that.
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: And when you smell it, you can smell it ten
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 1: years later, twenty years later, it still brings you back
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: to that place. Right, whether it's a song that you hear,
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 1: man I remember and it brings you. So we're we're
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: so we have triggers in our lives, whether good triggers
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: are bad triggers, right, And I think that, yes, you'll
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: always have that trigger. But what makes you an overcomer
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 1: is to be able to control it. Right, it's because
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: so so so how do you control the trigger. I'm
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: gonna be honest. I'm gonna be honest with you. It's
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 1: kind of bad. It's to sit in it. So so
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: so like like like right now you're feeling triggered, right,
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: you want to run, you so, so if you run,
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: you're not facing it, right, So, so now you sit
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 1: in it, right and so, but but it's more to
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: than just sitting there. You don't know if they're like okay,
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: tailor man, I'm just gonna sit in it. Okay, beat
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 1: me up. No, So now we have to have a conversation,
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: and that's where an expert comes in, right, a therapist
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: comes in professionally, because now we have to understand why
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: do you feel that way? And there that we go
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: down that y pack, why do you feel that way way?
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: I feel that way because this is the situation that
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 1: I was in. Well how come you was in that situation?
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: Because I need to hear what happened right, And a
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 1: lot of times people are not um uh forthcoming and
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 1: telling you what they tell you the part that they know, right,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: But when somebody's trying to help you, they need to
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 1: know the full orient. Sometimes we ask these why questions
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 1: and it seems like we're going down a rabbit hole,
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 1: but it pulls out a lot out of a person. So, yeah,
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: you have to find out why do you feel that way?
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: And when do you feel that way? Right? Um, when
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 1: this happened, I feel that way right, and so um
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 1: and then and then and then once we get that
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: because that's a soft spot right. Now, we got the
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: heart right, and now we got to heal it right.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: And how do you heal How do you heal it
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: by doing therapy right, massage in it right, making you
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 1: make getting you there. And that's why there's techniques that
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: license therapists do to get you there, to get you
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 1: right right, like right there where your emotions is so
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 1: high and it's able to kind of like kind of
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: like men the wound when you're at that top. See
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: if your friends do it and you're right, you can explode,
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 1: man and be damaged. That's why you don't quote it
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 1: your friends because I'll tell this. I'll tell the same
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: story to five different friends, and I'm just re victimizing
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: my own self every single time, Like it's just like
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 1: a world press to a girl. Let me tell you
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: what this nigga did. I gotta tell the same couple
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: of people that I tell every time, the same thing.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 1: Like I'm working on that. Yeah, So so we're gonna
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 1: get you to just tell one person or maybe me,
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: maybe two people, Me and somebody and you and the listeners.
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: Let me tell you what happened. Hold On, Taylor, were
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 1: you in the room the other night when that guy
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 1: came in there and called me uh. He came in
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 1: randomly and he called me um, not deceitful. He called
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: me um ah, he said I was devious. Were you there? No?
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 1: I was not there. Oh why did he call you that? Though?
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 1: It was random? So we're in the clubhouse, little uh
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: and this ties into what we're talking about kind of, right.
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: So we're in a in a clubhouse, little um social room.
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: So there's only a couple of us in there. I
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 1: thought Taylor was in there, but I wasn't even looking
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: at the phone at the time, Like I literally had
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: it off of mute and I just had it on
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 1: the bed. So all of a sudden, I'm talking and
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: I hear somebody said, you're you devious. I'm like what,
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: So I go to the phone like, I'm like, who
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: who is that? So it's some sixties seven year old man. Right,
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: So now we're we're in there talking about men and
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: how women are being treated out in the world and
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: on this app right, and here we have a prime
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: example of how men feel away and then they then
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: started abusing. It could be a random woman, or it
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: could be the woman in your life. Because you're feeling away.
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: So my friend was like, you know, why did you
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: come in here like that? He was like, well, you know,
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm hurt and I just lost two wives recently.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: So he lost his ex wife and his uh, his
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: current wife right in the last couple of months. So
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 1: now you're hurting, so you turn around and come on
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 1: the internet to hurt a random person. And all I
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 1: could think was that these two women are gone. It's
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: really rare for men to outlive wives, right, I feel
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: like because they usually say married women live longer. I mean,
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: excuse me, single women live longer. Married women actually die earlier,
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 1: but they um. But there's what is married men live longer, right,
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: So he's married. He probably stressed these two women out
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: their whole fucking marriages, Like the who their whole lives.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: He probably stressed them out because they're this random ass
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 1: person stressing me out on the fucking internet. So that's toxic. Toxic,
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: It is toxic, and I think that people like I said,
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 1: they're not going to get help, right, So guess who
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: they unload on? People like me and you and and
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: the people that are listening in that area app conversation
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: yea or or people that I love them, right, because
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: the usually the closer, the closer, um you are, um
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: to the person, that's the person that you tend to
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: unload under on. So you know, it's it's really sad
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: and these people like he needs to go and get
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: some some help. He do. He's lost two women in
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: his life, two women that's that he has spent his time,
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: his life, he's built with in his life. Um, and
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 1: he's not okay, right and so and that's a prime
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: example and that and that's the result of it what
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: he did. So, Um, it's it's very it's serious, it's serious.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 1: But we don't go get help. We don't. We think
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: we can cure ourselves. We think we're the curer. We
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: are the cure of our own soul. Right, And I
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: really do believe in doctors, medical doctors, and I believe
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: that we need to We need to do it for
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: ourselves and our freedom, right and our kids. Yeah, yeah,
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: this is deep stuff. Y'all. Listen, we're gonna take a
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  Speaker 1: break right quick. You'll be right back. We'll be right back. Oh, Taylor,
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  Speaker 1: can you share a story for our SIMP series? Boy,
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  Speaker 1: there's no real easy way to say this, So I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if a j told you about Dumb Bitch
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  Speaker 1: and Simp series, but it's the time you get to
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  Speaker 1: share a story of where a woman has tried to
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  Speaker 1: play you or tried to like do something. He got one.
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  Speaker 1: Look at his face. He got one. He got made
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  Speaker 1: it Taylors. He got to this position. Um. I think
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  Speaker 1: the one that I could think of off handis that
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  Speaker 1: I went, I mean, it's okay. I went out with
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  Speaker 1: a young lady and she said that she wasn't comfortable
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  Speaker 1: going out by herself. Um, so she invited her girlfriend
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  Speaker 1: with with with her us, and I agreed to it,
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  Speaker 1: so you know I agree, So it's you know, it's fair.
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  Speaker 1: So she brought her girlfriend out. I didn't know her
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  Speaker 1: girlfriend was gonna sit at the table with us. Her
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  Speaker 1: her friend ordered food for her friend didn't pay. I
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  Speaker 1: pay for everybody I paid. I let the bill sit there.
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  Speaker 1: I let the bill sit there for about thirty minutes,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm in my head and I'm like, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: see how long this bill is gonna sit here before
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  Speaker 1: the friend offered to pay. See the guy that I
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  Speaker 1: am today, I wish I was back then because I
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  Speaker 1: would have called the way and I would have said, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can I have switched checks please? I'm paying for this
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  Speaker 1: young lady. And she said, but I wasn't bold enough then.
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  Speaker 1: I was. I'm still a nice guy. But I was
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  Speaker 1: overly nice then. But I paid for it all, and uh,
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  Speaker 1: it was a big turn off. I never went out
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  Speaker 1: with her again. She's like, oh, let's meet up for coffee.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm not interested. So if I alright, maybe not
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  Speaker 1: on the first obviously, like when I'm just getting to
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  Speaker 1: know a guy, I wouldn't necessarily invite my friends along
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  Speaker 1: to run up the check. But after if we're dating.
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  Speaker 1: And I asked him, my best friend come and as
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  Speaker 1: she said, yes, I expect you to pay for her
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  Speaker 1: tamp too. Yeah, Oh is that bad? Is that bad?
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  Speaker 1: I think I think that who that's that's a that's
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  Speaker 1: a I think that the expectations have to be talked about.
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  Speaker 1: I really do. I think I changed my name the
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  Speaker 1: toxic Tammy, you know. I think I think that if
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  Speaker 1: he if he, if he offers great, I think if
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  Speaker 1: you can't, you can't invite your girlfriend and let's see
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  Speaker 1: and and here's the thing. Before those things transpired, he
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  Speaker 1: should know who you are. He should know that, Hey,
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  Speaker 1: if you invite your girlfriend, you're paying for me and
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  Speaker 1: my girlfriend, right, So he wouldn't even accept the in fight.
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  Speaker 1: He wouldn't even go down that path. So I think
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  Speaker 1: that you just have to find a person that you
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  Speaker 1: have that talk with and if they agree to it,
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  Speaker 1: then cool, like no hard feelings. I'm not saying that's
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  Speaker 1: a bad thing. I'm not saying you're toxic. Um, but
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  Speaker 1: I think that, uh, I think that like somebody that's
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  Speaker 1: not used to that. Um, it could be like whoa,
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  Speaker 1: she's just trying to get over, right, but but but
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  Speaker 1: but but but it wouldn't be you trying to get
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  Speaker 1: over because y'all have a relationship. Right, it's more than
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  Speaker 1: just the initial date. Um. But I don't know, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you, I might feel some
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  Speaker 1: kind of way for your friend, your friends trying to
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  Speaker 1: get a free ride. Nah nah, night, that's the thing
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  Speaker 1: some like night. It's just something because my friend had
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  Speaker 1: a piece of sam and now she got a fun. Right.
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  Speaker 1: But but girls, she can help you something. Don't don't
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  Speaker 1: get it twisted twisted. Your friend might like that guy
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  Speaker 1: that's the provider. That's that's why she wanted to. That's why. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they might be like, you know what I like and
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  Speaker 1: then let me let this exactly my friends girl by
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  Speaker 1: bit you one of my friends tell my girl right,
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  Speaker 1: not mean? Okay, So you know that's that's all the pens, right,
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  Speaker 1: it all depends. Yeah, all right, Taylor, this is great. Okay, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: this is amazing. I need to get back with you
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  Speaker 1: and like I need to iron out some ship. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I think a lot of things that I did share
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  Speaker 1: today I am better then. Like a lot of that
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  Speaker 1: stuff is like old stuff, Like I wouldn't pick a
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  Speaker 1: fight the fun no more, Like that's just too much.
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  Speaker 1: It takes too much energy to come up with a
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  Speaker 1: reason to get mad about something, honestly. But that's probably
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  Speaker 1: the only thing I don't do anymore out of all
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  Speaker 1: the things. So, but but I got a question for you,
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  Speaker 1: But do you know do you do? You think you
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  Speaker 1: do it subconsciously? Though you think? Do you think that
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  Speaker 1: fights happen and yeah, and then it results in good sex.
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  Speaker 1: But you didn't purposely pick it. But maybe subconsciously you
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  Speaker 1: created it. Mm hmmm. I don't know. That's very possible.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't even thought about that. I know that I
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  Speaker 1: don't like, come up with some ship to start so
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  Speaker 1: we can have good sex. I don't do that anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Like now, if it happens, yeah, I don't do that anymore.
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  Speaker 1: It's just a it takes too much time. Okay, time
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  Speaker 1: is money at this point. So all right, Taylor, listen,
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  Speaker 1: plug all your ship, plug your social plug. Where can
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  Speaker 1: listeners find you if they want to? You know, partake
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  Speaker 1: and said, uh toxic relationship therapy. Yeah, so I'm on
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  Speaker 1: all over social media platforms Facebook, um, I G Twitter, UM.
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  Speaker 1: I also have a podcast you can listen to. Um
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  Speaker 1: tailor made speaks dot com. It's my website. You can
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  Speaker 1: find me there. Um. And on the I G. I
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  Speaker 1: think I'm gonna change that real to some uh non
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  Speaker 1: uh toxic women. I want. I want to get some
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  Speaker 1: good women out there, and I be the toxic person
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  Speaker 1: off for once. So I think I'm gonna I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: change the kind of flow with that because my reals
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  Speaker 1: be portraying toxic women. Let me find out your Tyler
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  Speaker 1: Perry on goddamn Instagram tylitary love for trade of toxic
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  Speaker 1: Black women. Y'all, oh man, listen, we really enjoyed you
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  Speaker 1: for pulling up. I enjoyed you all. Appreciate you. Thank
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  Speaker 1: you all so much. Thank you, y'all listen, hold on,
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  Speaker 1: don't hang up yet, Taylor. Listen, guys, and you enjoyed
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