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E 308: Tammys Takes #17: Should I Stay or Go? When The Relationship Feels OFF · Adult Child of Dysfunction

• 0:02
  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  another
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  episode
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  of
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  Tammy's
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  Takes
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  where
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  we
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  take
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  powerful
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  conversations
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  with
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  our
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  guests
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  and
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  we
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  turn
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  them
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  into
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  tactical
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  strategies
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  that
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  you
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  can
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  use
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  right
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  here,
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  right
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  now.
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  So
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  I'm
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  following
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  up
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  to
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  yesterday's
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  episode
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  with
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  Karen
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  Spz,
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  and
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  if
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  you
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  did
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  not
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  hear
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  it,
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  I
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  encourage
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  you
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  to
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  go
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  back
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  and
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  listen
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  to
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  the
• 0:17
  episode.
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  It
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  was
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  absolutely
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  an
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  amazing
• 0:19
  conversation,
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  so
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  much
• 0:20
  insight,
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  and
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  unfortunately
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  a
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  topic
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  that
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  don't
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  often
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  talk
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  about.
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  I
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  feel
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  like
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  so
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  many
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  of
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  us
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  have
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  felt,
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  and
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  that
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  is
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  the
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  concept
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  of
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  I'm
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  not
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  unhappy,
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  but
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  I'm
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  not
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  happy
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  either.
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  So
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  what
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  do
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  I
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  do
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  with
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  that
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  information?
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  Karen
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  talked
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  about
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  how
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  so
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  many
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  women
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  come
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  to
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  her
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  and
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  nothing
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  is
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  clearly
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  wrong,
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  but
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  they
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  come
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  to
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  her
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  because
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  something
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  just
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  feels
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  off.
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  It
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  just
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  feels
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  missing,
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  and
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  that's
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  honestly
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  the
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  hardest
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  place
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  to
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  be.
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  If
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  you're
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  in
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  a
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  bad
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  relationship
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  and
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  something
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  is
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  clearly
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  broken,
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  it's
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  easy.
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  It's
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  easy
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  to
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  make
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  a
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  decision.
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  It's
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  easy
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  to
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  say,
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  this
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  is
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  not
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  working
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  and
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  I'm
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  getting
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  out.
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  But
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  what
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  about
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  those
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  relationships,
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  10,
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  20,
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  30
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  years,
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  where
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  nothing's
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  actually
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  wrong?
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  There's
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  no
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  animosity.
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  There's
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  no
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  hatred,
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  there's
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  just
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  no
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  life.
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  It's
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  where
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  you're
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  just
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  existing
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  or
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  coexisting.
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  You're
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  not
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  fighting,
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  but
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  you're
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  also
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  not
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  really
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  connected.
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  What
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  do
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  you
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  do
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  with
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  that?
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  Because
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  at
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  that
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  point,
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  what
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  do
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  you
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  start
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  doing?
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  You
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  start
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  asking
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  yourself,
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  is
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  this
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  all
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  there
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  is?
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  Is
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  this
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  what
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  the
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  rest
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  of
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  my
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  life
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  is
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  going
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  to
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  look
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  like?
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  Is
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  there
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  never
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  going
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  to
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  be
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  excitement,
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  joy,
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  fun,
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  in
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  my
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  life?
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  Again,
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  that's
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  a
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  really
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  hard
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  place
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  to
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  be.
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  So
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  what
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  I
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  wanna
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  do
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  today
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  is
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  I
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  wanna
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  kind
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  of
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  bring
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  it
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  into
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  a
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  different
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  lens.
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  I
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  wanna
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  look
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  at
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  it
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  a
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  different
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  way
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  because
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  it's
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  not
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  just
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  a
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  relationship
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  question.
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  It's
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  a
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  nervous
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  system
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  question,
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  and
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  I
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  know
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  you're
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  probably
• 1:43
  thinking,
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  Tammy,
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  oh
• 1:44
  my
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  God,
• 1:44
  everything
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  is
• 1:45
  a
• 1:45
  nervous
• 1:45
  system
• 1:46
  issue,
• 1:46
  but
• 1:47
  it
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  is
• 1:47
  my
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  friends.
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  It
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  most
• 1:48
  certainly
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  is.
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  So
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  if
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  you
• 1:50
  grew
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  up
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  in
• 1:50
  dysfunction,
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  like
• 1:51
  everybody
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  that's
• 1:52
  probably
• 1:52
  listening
• 1:52
  to
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  this
• 1:53
  podcast,
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  your
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  body
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  learns
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  something
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  very
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  important.
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  It
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  learn
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  that
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  peace
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  equals
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  safety.
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  So
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  now
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  as
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  an
• 2:00
  adult,
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  you
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  might
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  find
• 2:01
  yourself
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  in
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  a
• 2:02
  comfortable
• 2:03
  or
• 2:03
  steady
• 2:03
  relationship,
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  and
• 2:05
  it
• 2:05
  feels
• 2:05
  calm,
• 2:06
  it
• 2:06
  feels
• 2:06
  stable,
• 2:07
  it
• 2:07
  feels
• 2:07
  predictable.
• 2:08
  It
• 2:08
  doesn't
• 2:09
  feel
• 2:09
  alive.
• 2:10
  It
• 2:10
  doesn't
• 2:10
  feel
• 2:11
  passionate,
• 2:11
  it
• 2:11
  doesn't
• 2:12
  feel
• 2:12
  energetic.
• 2:13
  It
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  just
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  kind
• 2:14
  of
• 2:14
  feels
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  blah.
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  So
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  it's
• 2:16
  like
• 2:17
  your
• 2:17
  body's
• 2:17
  basically
• 2:18
  saying
• 2:18
  to
• 2:18
  yourself,
• 2:19
  yeah,
• 2:19
  no,
• 2:19
  this
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  is
• 2:19
  good.
• 2:20
  We're
• 2:20
  safe
• 2:20
  here.
• 2:21
  But
• 2:21
  your
• 2:21
  growth,
• 2:22
  your
• 2:22
  awareness
• 2:23
  is
• 2:23
  like,
• 2:24
  this
• 2:24
  just
• 2:24
  isn't
• 2:25
  enough
• 2:25
  anymore.
• 2:26
  You
• 2:26
  want
• 2:26
  more.
• 2:27
  That's
• 2:28
  where
• 2:28
  the
• 2:28
  internal
• 2:28
  conflict
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  comes
• 2:29
  in,
• 2:29
  because
• 2:29
  one
• 2:30
  part
• 2:30
  of
• 2:30
  you
• 2:31
  is
• 2:31
  prioritizing
• 2:32
  safety,
• 2:32
  which
• 2:32
  makes
• 2:33
  total
• 2:33
  sense
• 2:33
  after
• 2:34
  the
• 2:34
  way
• 2:34
  you
• 2:34
  grew
• 2:34
  up.
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  And
• 2:35
  the
• 2:35
  other
• 2:36
  part
• 2:36
  is
• 2:37
  craving
• 2:37
  alignment.
• 2:38
  One
• 2:39
  of
• 2:39
  the
• 2:39
  most
• 2:39
  important
• 2:39
  things
• 2:40
  that
• 2:40
  came
• 2:40
  out
• 2:40
  of
• 2:40
  the
• 2:40
  conversation
• 2:41
  with
• 2:41
  Karen
• 2:42
  is
• 2:42
  just
• 2:42
  because
• 2:43
  there's
• 2:43
  an
• 2:43
  absence
• 2:44
  of
• 2:44
  conflict
• 2:45
  does
• 2:45
  not
• 2:45
  mean
• 2:46
  there's
• 2:46
  a
• 2:46
  presence
• 2:47
  of
• 2:47
  connection.
• 2:49
  I
• 2:49
  want
• 2:50
  that
• 2:50
  to
• 2:50
  sink
• 2:50
  in
• 2:50
  for
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  minute,
• 2:51
  and
• 2:51
  I'm
• 2:51
  gonna
• 2:51
  say
• 2:51
  that
• 2:51
  again
• 2:52
  as
• 2:52
  I
• 2:52
  always
• 2:52
  do
• 2:53
  with
• 2:53
  the
• 2:53
  quotes
• 2:53
  that
• 2:53
  hit
• 2:54
  me
• 2:54
  so
• 2:54
  hard.
• 2:55
  Karen
• 2:55
  said
• 2:55
  it
• 2:55
  so
• 2:56
  perfectly,
• 2:57
  she
• 2:57
  said,
• 2:57
  just
• 2:58
  because
• 2:58
  there's
• 2:58
  an
• 2:59
  absence
• 2:59
  of
• 2:59
  conflict.
• 3:00
  Does
• 3:01
  not
• 3:01
  mean
• 3:02
  there's
• 3:02
  the
• 3:02
  presence
• 3:03
  of
• 3:03
  connection.
• 3:04
  We
• 3:04
  are
• 3:04
  human
• 3:05
  beings
• 3:05
  and
• 3:05
  we
• 3:06
  thrive
• 3:06
  on
• 3:07
  connection.
• 3:08
  So
• 3:08
  many
• 3:08
  people
• 3:08
  were
• 3:09
  raised
• 3:09
  to
• 3:09
  believe
• 3:09
  if
• 3:09
  we're
• 3:10
  not
• 3:10
  fighting,
• 3:10
  we're
• 3:10
  fine.
• 3:11
  That's
• 3:12
  not
• 3:12
  connection.
• 3:13
  That's
• 3:13
  often
• 3:13
  just
• 3:14
  coexisting
• 3:15
  with
• 3:15
  your
• 3:15
  partner.
• 3:16
  And
• 3:16
  over
• 3:16
  time,
• 3:17
  that
• 3:17
  coexistence
• 3:18
  is
• 3:18
  gonna
• 3:18
  turn
• 3:18
  and
• 3:19
  it's
• 3:19
  gonna
• 3:19
  change
• 3:19
  into
• 3:20
  things.
• 3:20
  It's
• 3:20
  gonna
• 3:20
  turn
• 3:20
  into
• 3:21
  resentment,
• 3:22
  disconnection,
• 3:23
  emotional
• 3:23
  shutdown.
• 3:24
  It's
• 3:24
  going
• 3:25
  to
• 3:25
  turn
• 3:25
  into
• 3:25
  anger
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  animosity.
• 3:27
  It's
• 3:27
  going
• 3:28
  to
• 3:28
  turn
• 3:28
  into
• 3:28
  those
• 3:29
  things
• 3:29
  because
• 3:30
  the
• 3:30
  question
• 3:30
  keeps
• 3:31
  coming
• 3:31
  back
• 3:31
  to
• 3:32
  you.
• 3:32
  It's
• 3:32
  that
• 3:32
  quiet
• 3:33
  nagging
• 3:33
  question.
• 3:34
  Is
• 3:34
  this
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  I
• 3:35
  want
• 3:35
  for
• 3:35
  the
• 3:35
  rest
• 3:36
  of
• 3:36
  my
• 3:36
  life?
• 3:37
  Is
• 3:37
  this
• 3:38
  what
• 3:38
  I
• 3:38
  want?
• 3:39
  So
• 3:39
  They
• 3:40
  come
• 3:40
  into
• 3:40
  me
• 3:40
  and
• 3:40
  they
• 3:41
  say
• 3:41
  it
• 3:41
  and
• 3:41
  they,
• 3:42
  don't
• 3:42
  know
• 3:42
  what
• 3:42
  to
• 3:42
  do
• 3:43
  because
• 3:43
  they
• 3:43
  say
• 3:43
  nothing's
• 3:44
  really
• 3:44
  wrong.
• 3:45
  They'll
• 3:45
  say
• 3:45
  things
• 3:46
  like,
• 3:46
  he's
• 3:46
  a
• 3:46
  good
• 3:46
  person,
• 3:47
  we
• 3:47
  don't
• 3:47
  fight.
• 3:48
  He
• 3:48
  is
• 3:48
  a
• 3:48
  great
• 3:48
  husband.
• 3:49
  There's
• 3:49
  no
• 3:49
  big
• 3:50
  issues.
• 3:51
  But
• 3:51
  when
• 3:51
  we
• 3:51
  slow
• 3:52
  it
• 3:52
  down
• 3:53
  and
• 3:53
  I
• 3:53
  ask
• 3:54
  them
• 3:54
  to
• 3:54
  feel
• 3:54
  into
• 3:55
  it,
• 3:55
  to
• 3:55
  feel
• 3:55
  into
• 3:56
  the
• 3:56
  connection,
• 3:56
  to
• 3:56
  feel
• 3:57
  into
• 3:57
  what
• 3:57
  it
• 3:57
  feels
• 3:58
  like
• 3:58
  to
• 3:58
  have
• 3:58
  a
• 3:59
  passionate,
• 4:00
  loving
• 4:01
  relationship,
• 4:02
  it's
• 4:02
  a
• 4:02
  little
• 4:03
  different
• 4:03
  there.
• 4:04
  There's
• 4:04
  a
• 4:04
  heaviness.
• 4:05
  There's
• 4:06
  this
• 4:06
  sense
• 4:06
  of
• 4:06
  I'm
• 4:07
  not
• 4:07
  really
• 4:07
  here
• 4:08
  or
• 4:10
  nothing
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  do
• 4:10
  matters,
• 4:11
  or
• 4:13
  I
• 4:13
  just
• 4:13
  don't
• 4:13
  feel
• 4:13
  anything.
• 4:14
  That's
• 4:15
  the
• 4:15
  part
• 4:15
  that
• 4:15
  gets
• 4:15
  ignored
• 4:16
  and
• 4:16
  that's
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  part
• 4:17
  that
• 4:17
  we
• 4:17
  really
• 4:17
  need
• 4:18
  to
• 4:18
  deal
• 4:18
  with
• 4:19
  because
• 4:20
  some
• 4:20
  people
• 4:20
  think
• 4:20
  it's
• 4:20
  not
• 4:21
  dramatic
• 4:21
  enough
• 4:21
  to
• 4:22
  justify
• 4:22
  change.
• 4:24
  Your
• 4:24
  body
• 4:24
  knows
• 4:25
  differently.
• 4:25
  Your
• 4:26
  body
• 4:26
  always
• 4:27
  knows.
• 4:28
  So
• 4:28
  here's
• 4:28
  the
• 4:29
  teaching
• 4:29
  piece
• 4:29
  I
• 4:29
  really
• 4:30
  wanna
• 4:30
  give
• 4:30
  you,
• 4:30
  because
• 4:31
  you
• 4:31
  know
• 4:31
  me,
• 4:31
  I'm
• 4:31
  always
• 4:31
  gonna
• 4:32
  give
• 4:32
  a
• 4:32
  strategy.
• 4:32
  I'm
• 4:32
  always
• 4:33
  gonna
• 4:33
  give
• 4:33
  a
• 4:33
  tip
• 4:33
  or
• 4:33
  trick.
• 4:35
  A
• 4:35
  lot
• 4:35
  of
• 4:35
  people
• 4:36
  at
• 4:36
  this
• 4:36
  point,
• 4:36
  they
• 4:37
  rush
• 4:37
  into
• 4:37
  a
• 4:38
  decision
• 4:39
  or
• 4:39
  stay
• 4:39
  stuck
• 4:39
  for
• 4:40
  years.
• 4:40
  Those
• 4:40
  are
• 4:40
  your
• 4:41
  two
• 4:41
  things.
• 4:41
  You're
• 4:41
  either
• 4:41
  gonna
• 4:42
  rush
• 4:42
  into
• 4:42
  something
• 4:42
  or
• 4:42
  you're
• 4:43
  gonna
• 4:43
  stay
• 4:43
  stuck.
• 4:44
  Karen
• 4:44
  shared
• 4:44
  a
• 4:44
  question
• 4:45
  in
• 4:45
  the
• 4:45
  episode
• 4:46
  that
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  think
• 4:47
  this
• 4:47
  is
• 4:47
  one
• 4:47
  of
• 4:47
  the
• 4:47
  most
• 4:48
  powerful
• 4:48
  questions
• 4:49
  you
• 4:49
  can
• 4:49
  ask
• 4:49
  yourself.
• 4:51
  I
• 4:51
  want
• 4:51
  you
• 4:52
  to
• 4:52
  be
• 4:52
  honest
• 4:52
  with
• 4:52
  yourself.
• 4:53
  If
• 4:53
  you're
• 4:53
  kind
• 4:53
  of
• 4:53
  in
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  situation,
• 4:55
  if
• 4:55
  the
• 4:55
  relationship
• 4:56
  improved,
• 4:57
  would
• 4:57
  you
• 4:58
  actually
• 4:58
  wanna
• 4:58
  stay?
• 4:59
  And
• 5:00
  then
• 5:00
  I
• 5:00
  want
• 5:00
  you
• 5:00
  to
• 5:00
  really
• 5:01
  sit
• 5:01
  with
• 5:01
  that
• 5:01
  and
• 5:01
  not
• 5:02
  just
• 5:02
  sit
• 5:02
  with
• 5:02
  what
• 5:02
  goes
• 5:03
  through
• 5:03
  your
• 5:03
  head,
• 5:04
  but
• 5:04
  sit
• 5:04
  what
• 5:04
  goes
• 5:05
  through
• 5:05
  your
• 5:05
  body
• 5:06
  because.
• 5:07
  Your
• 5:07
  answer
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  yourself
• 5:08
  is
• 5:09
  going
• 5:09
  to
• 5:09
  tell
• 5:09
  you
• 5:09
  absolutely
• 5:10
  everything.
• 5:11
  If
• 5:11
  the
• 5:11
  answer
• 5:12
  is
• 5:12
  yes,
• 5:13
  then
• 5:13
  the
• 5:13
  work
• 5:13
  becomes
• 5:14
  what
• 5:14
  it's
• 5:14
  missing.
• 5:15
  What
• 5:15
  are
• 5:15
  we
• 5:15
  doing?
• 5:16
  What
• 5:16
  can
• 5:16
  we
• 5:16
  do
• 5:16
  about
• 5:16
  it?
• 5:16
  How
• 5:17
  can
• 5:17
  we
• 5:17
  improve
• 5:17
  this
• 5:17
  relationship?
• 5:18
  How
• 5:18
  can
• 5:19
  we
• 5:19
  create
• 5:19
  what
• 5:19
  we
• 5:20
  thought
• 5:20
  we
• 5:20
  had
• 5:21
  and
• 5:21
  how
• 5:21
  can
• 5:21
  we
• 5:22
  create
• 5:22
  this
• 5:22
  connection?
• 5:24
  But
• 5:24
  if
• 5:24
  your
• 5:24
  answer
• 5:25
  is
• 5:25
  this
• 5:26
  just
• 5:26
  kind
• 5:26
  of
• 5:26
  nagging
• 5:27
  no,
• 5:28
  or
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  don't
• 5:28
  think
• 5:29
  so,
• 5:29
  or
• 5:31
  even
• 5:32
  if
• 5:32
  you
• 5:32
  just
• 5:32
  have
• 5:32
  this
• 5:32
  feeling
• 5:33
  of,
• 5:33
  ah,
• 5:34
  I
• 5:34
  don't
• 5:34
  care.
• 5:35
  That's
• 5:36
  also
• 5:36
  information,
• 5:37
  my
• 5:37
  friends.
• 5:37
  That
• 5:37
  is
• 5:37
  information
• 5:38
  that
• 5:38
  you
• 5:38
  really
• 5:38
  need
• 5:39
  to
• 5:39
  listen
• 5:39
  to.
• 5:40
  So
• 5:41
  if
• 5:41
  you're
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  this
• 5:41
  space
• 5:42
  of
• 5:42
  not
• 5:42
  knowing
• 5:42
  what
• 5:42
  to
• 5:42
  do,
• 5:43
  here's
• 5:44
  a
• 5:44
  three
• 5:44
  A,
• 5:45
  a
• 5:45
  very
• 5:45
  simple
• 5:46
  three-part
• 5:46
  process
• 5:47
  that
• 5:47
  you
• 5:47
  can
• 5:47
  use.
• 5:48
  First,
• 5:49
  get
• 5:49
  very
• 5:49
  specific,
• 5:50
  not
• 5:50
  just,
• 5:51
  I'm
• 5:51
  not
• 5:51
  happy,
• 5:51
  that's
• 5:52
  not
• 5:52
  good
• 5:52
  enough.
• 5:52
  Ask
• 5:53
  yourself
• 5:53
  what
• 5:53
  exactly
• 5:54
  is
• 5:54
  missing.
• 5:55
  Is
• 5:55
  it
• 5:55
  honesty?
• 5:56
  Is
• 5:56
  it
• 5:56
  communication?
• 5:57
  Is
• 5:57
  it
• 5:57
  emotional
• 5:58
  connection?
• 5:59
  Is
• 5:59
  it
• 5:59
  affection?
• 6:00
  Is
• 6:00
  it
• 6:00
  shared
• 6:00
  values?
• 6:01
  Is
• 6:01
  it
• 6:01
  growth
• 6:01
  together?
• 6:02
  Because
• 6:03
  those
• 6:03
  things
• 6:03
  need
• 6:03
  to
• 6:04
  be
• 6:04
  very
• 6:04
  specific
• 6:04
  because
• 6:05
  if
• 6:05
  they're
• 6:05
  vague,
• 6:06
  that's
• 6:06
  where
• 6:07
  you
• 6:07
  get
• 6:07
  stuck.
• 6:08
  You
• 6:08
  need
• 6:08
  to,
• 6:08
  have
• 6:09
  clarity
• 6:09
  in
• 6:09
  order
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  move
• 6:10
  forward
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  make
• 6:11
  a
• 6:11
  decision
• 6:11
  either
• 6:11
  way.
• 6:12
  Second,
• 6:14
  check
• 6:14
  your
• 6:14
  body,
• 6:15
  not
• 6:15
  just
• 6:15
  your
• 6:15
  thoughts.
• 6:17
  When
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  think
• 6:18
  this
• 6:18
  question,
• 6:19
  when
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  think
• 6:20
  about
• 6:20
  staying.
• 6:21
  What
• 6:21
  happens
• 6:22
  in
• 6:22
  your
• 6:22
  body?
• 6:22
  Do
• 6:22
  you
• 6:22
  get
• 6:23
  anxious?
• 6:23
  Do
• 6:23
  you
• 6:23
  get
• 6:23
  annoyed?
• 6:24
  Do
• 6:24
  you
• 6:24
  get
• 6:24
  irritated?
• 6:25
  Do
• 6:25
  you
• 6:25
  get
• 6:25
  a
• 6:25
  fit
• 6:26
  in
• 6:26
  your
• 6:26
  stomach
• 6:27
  because
• 6:27
  your
• 6:27
  body's
• 6:27
  gonna
• 6:28
  tell
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  the
• 6:28
  truth?
• 6:29
  What
• 6:29
  about
• 6:29
  if
• 6:29
  you
• 6:29
  think
• 6:30
  about
• 6:30
  leaving?
• 6:32
  What
• 6:32
  about
• 6:32
  Think
• 6:32
  about
• 6:33
  that.
• 6:33
  Think
• 6:33
  about,
• 6:33
  money's
• 6:34
  no
• 6:34
  object.
• 6:34
  other
• 6:35
  logistics
• 6:35
  matter.
• 6:36
  If
• 6:36
  you
• 6:37
  left,
• 6:37
  how
• 6:37
  would
• 6:37
  you
• 6:37
  feel?
• 6:40
  Think
• 6:40
  about
• 6:40
  that.
• 6:40
  How
• 6:41
  do
• 6:41
  you
• 6:41
  feel
• 6:41
  in
• 6:41
  your
• 6:41
  body?
• 6:41
  Do
• 6:42
  you
• 6:42
  feel
• 6:42
  lighter?
• 6:42
  Do
• 6:43
  you
• 6:43
  feel
• 6:43
  a
• 6:43
  little
• 6:44
  relief?
• 6:44
  Or
• 6:44
  do
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  feel
• 6:45
  ness
• 6:46
  or
• 6:46
  shut
• 6:46
  down
• 6:47
  and
• 6:47
  tightness?
• 6:47
  Like
• 6:47
  what
• 6:48
  do
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  feel
• 6:48
  when
• 6:49
  you
• 6:49
  ask
• 6:49
  yourself
• 6:49
  those
• 6:50
  questions
• 6:50
  or
• 6:51
  when
• 6:51
  you
• 6:51
  put
• 6:51
  yourself
• 6:52
  in
• 6:52
  those
• 6:52
  two
• 6:52
  different
• 6:52
  scenarios
• 6:53
  because
• 6:54
  your
• 6:54
  body's
• 6:54
  gonna
• 6:54
  tell
• 6:54
  you
• 6:55
  the
• 6:55
  truth.
• 6:56
  And
• 6:56
  third,
• 6:57
  have
• 6:57
  the
• 6:57
  conversation
• 6:58
  before
• 6:58
  you
• 6:58
  make
• 6:58
  the
• 6:59
  conclusion.
• 7:00
  So
• 7:00
  this
• 7:00
  is
• 7:00
  where
• 7:01
  most
• 7:01
  people
• 7:01
  just
• 7:02
  get
• 7:02
  up
• 7:02
  and
• 7:04
  leave.
• 7:07
  Sometimes
• 7:08
  they,
• 7:08
  just
• 7:08
  go
• 7:10
  instead
• 7:10
  of
• 7:11
  actually
• 7:11
  having
• 7:12
  the
• 7:12
  conversation,
• 7:12
  instead
• 7:13
  of
• 7:13
  bringing
• 7:13
  the
• 7:13
  conversation
• 7:14
  up
• 7:14
  with
• 7:15
  your
• 7:15
  spouse
• 7:15
  and
• 7:15
  saying,
• 7:15
  this
• 7:16
  just
• 7:16
  isn't
• 7:16
  working
• 7:16
  for
• 7:17
  me
• 7:17
  anymore.
• 7:18
  Because
• 7:18
  that's
• 7:18
  gonna
• 7:19
  tell
• 7:19
  you
• 7:19
  a
• 7:19
  lot
• 7:19
  too.
• 7:20
  If
• 7:20
  you
• 7:20
  go
• 7:20
  to
• 7:21
  your
• 7:21
  spouse
• 7:21
  and
• 7:21
  you
• 7:21
  say,
• 7:21
  Hey
• 7:22
  honey,
• 7:22
  it's
• 7:22
  been
• 7:22
  25
• 7:23
  years.
• 7:23
  I
• 7:23
  don't
• 7:23
  feel
• 7:23
  like
• 7:23
  we
• 7:23
  have
• 7:24
  this
• 7:24
  connection.
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  feel
• 7:25
  like
• 7:25
  we're
• 7:25
  just
• 7:25
  coexisting.
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  feel
• 7:26
  like
• 7:26
  we're
• 7:27
  not
• 7:27
  in
• 7:27
  this
• 7:27
  together.
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  need
• 7:29
  something
• 7:30
  different.
• 7:31
  Can
• 7:31
  we
• 7:31
  look
• 7:31
  at
• 7:31
  this?
• 7:33
  Something
• 7:33
  is
• 7:34
  going
• 7:34
  to
• 7:34
  give,
• 7:34
  it's
• 7:34
  gonna
• 7:35
  go
• 7:35
  one
• 7:35
  way
• 7:35
  or
• 7:35
  the
• 7:36
  other,
• 7:36
  and
• 7:36
  that's
• 7:36
  gonna
• 7:36
  help
• 7:37
  you
• 7:37
  decide
• 7:37
  what's
• 7:38
  going
• 7:38
  on.
• 7:38
  Because
• 7:38
  if
• 7:38
  you
• 7:39
  felt
• 7:39
  this
• 7:39
  way
• 7:39
  for
• 7:40
  years
• 7:40
  and
• 7:40
  years
• 7:40
  and
• 7:40
  years,
• 7:41
  depending
• 7:41
  on
• 7:42
  your
• 7:42
  spouse's
• 7:43
  reaction
• 7:43
  to
• 7:44
  that
• 7:44
  feeling,
• 7:45
  it's
• 7:45
  gonna
• 7:46
  determine
• 7:46
  if
• 7:46
  it's
• 7:47
  even
• 7:47
  fixable.
• 7:49
  So
• 7:49
  how
• 7:50
  that
• 7:50
  person
• 7:50
  responds,
• 7:51
  oh
• 7:51
  my
• 7:51
  gosh,
• 7:52
  it
• 7:52
  tells
• 7:52
  you
• 7:52
  so
• 7:53
  much.
• 7:53
  So
• 7:53
  if
• 7:53
  you
• 7:53
  say,
• 7:53
  this
• 7:54
  hasn't
• 7:54
  been
• 7:54
  working
• 7:54
  for
• 7:54
  me,
• 7:55
  and
• 7:55
  I,
• 7:55
  just
• 7:55
  feel
• 7:55
  like
• 7:56
  we're
• 7:56
  coexisting
• 7:57
  and
• 7:58
  there's
• 7:58
  defensiveness
• 7:58
  and
• 7:58
  there's
• 7:59
  anger
• 7:59
  and
• 7:59
  there's
• 7:59
  animosity.
• 8:02
  Then
• 8:02
  you
• 8:03
  don't
• 8:03
  have
• 8:03
  a
• 8:03
  lot
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  work
• 8:04
  with.
• 8:04
  But
• 8:04
  if
• 8:04
  you
• 8:05
  say
• 8:05
  to
• 8:05
  them,
• 8:05
  Hey,
• 8:06
  this
• 8:06
  isn't
• 8:06
  working.
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  need
• 8:07
  more
• 8:07
  connection.
• 8:07
  I
• 8:07
  need
• 8:07
  this
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  I
• 8:08
  need
• 8:08
  that,
• 8:09
  and
• 8:09
  there's
• 8:09
  empathy
• 8:09
  and
• 8:10
  there's
• 8:10
  compassion
• 8:10
  and
• 8:10
  there
• 8:11
  is,
• 8:11
  let's
• 8:11
  work
• 8:11
  on
• 8:11
  this
• 8:11
  together
• 8:12
  and
• 8:12
  I'll
• 8:12
  do
• 8:12
  whatever
• 8:13
  you
• 8:13
  need
• 8:13
  and
• 8:13
  where
• 8:13
  are
• 8:13
  we
• 8:13
  going
• 8:14
  with
• 8:14
  this?
• 8:14
  Then
• 8:15
  maybe
• 8:16
  there
• 8:16
  is
• 8:16
  some
• 8:16
  room
• 8:17
  for
• 8:17
  error.
• 8:17
  You
• 8:17
  know,
• 8:18
  there
• 8:18
  is
• 8:18
  some
• 8:18
  room
• 8:19
  to,
• 8:19
  to
• 8:19
  improve.
• 8:20
  Now,
• 8:22
  I
• 8:23
  also
• 8:23
  wanna
• 8:23
  say
• 8:23
  this
• 8:24
  because
• 8:25
  people
• 8:25
  can
• 8:25
  also
• 8:26
  go
• 8:26
  a
• 8:26
  little
• 8:26
  sideways.
• 8:27
  What
• 8:28
  I
• 8:28
  don't
• 8:28
  want
• 8:28
  you
• 8:29
  to
• 8:29
  do
• 8:29
  is
• 8:29
  make
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  decision
• 8:30
  in
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  middle
• 8:30
  of
• 8:30
  overwhelm.
• 8:31
  I
• 8:31
  don't
• 8:32
  want
• 8:32
  you
• 8:32
  to
• 8:32
  go
• 8:32
  compare
• 8:32
  your
• 8:33
  relationship
• 8:33
  to
• 8:33
  someone
• 8:34
  else's
• 8:34
  and
• 8:34
  assume
• 8:35
  that
• 8:35
  means
• 8:35
  yours
• 8:35
  isn't
• 8:35
  working.
• 8:36
  And
• 8:37
  I
• 8:37
  definitely
• 8:37
  don't
• 8:37
  want
• 8:37
  you
• 8:38
  to
• 8:38
  wait
• 8:38
  until
• 8:38
  you
• 8:38
  are
• 8:39
  completely
• 8:39
  shut
• 8:39
  down,
• 8:40
  resentful,
• 8:40
  and
• 8:40
  disconnected
• 8:41
  to
• 8:41
  finally
• 8:42
  look
• 8:42
  at
• 8:42
  it,
• 8:43
  because
• 8:43
  that's
• 8:43
  when
• 8:43
  people
• 8:44
  either
• 8:44
  usually
• 8:44
  explode
• 8:45
  or
• 8:45
  they
• 8:45
  check
• 8:45
  out
• 8:46
  completely,
• 8:46
  and
• 8:46
  neither
• 8:47
  of
• 8:47
  those
• 8:47
  places
• 8:48
  leads
• 8:48
  to
• 8:48
  clarity.
• 8:49
  So
• 8:50
  this
• 8:50
  is
• 8:50
  not
• 8:50
  about
• 8:50
  a
• 8:50
  rush
• 8:51
  decision.
• 8:51
  It's
• 8:51
  not
• 8:52
  about
• 8:52
  staying
• 8:52
  stuck
• 8:53
  either.
• 8:54
  It's
• 8:54
  about
• 8:54
  being
• 8:55
  honest
• 8:55
  with
• 8:55
  yourself.
• 8:57
  Because
• 8:58
  you
• 8:58
  deserve
• 8:58
  more
• 8:58
  than
• 8:59
  just
• 8:59
  not
• 8:59
  bad.
• 9:00
  And
• 9:00
  I've
• 9:00
  been
• 9:00
  saying
• 9:01
  this
• 9:01
  in
• 9:01
  this
• 9:01
  podcast
• 9:02
  over
• 9:02
  and
• 9:02
  over
• 9:02
  and
• 9:02
  over
• 9:03
  again.
• 9:03
  You
• 9:03
  deserve
• 9:04
  connection.
• 9:04
  You
• 9:04
  deserve
• 9:05
  joy.
• 9:05
  You
• 9:05
  deserve
• 9:06
  to
• 9:06
  feel
• 9:06
  like
• 9:07
  you're
• 9:07
  actually
• 9:07
  in
• 9:08
  your
• 9:08
  life,
• 9:08
  living
• 9:09
  your
• 9:09
  life
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  way
• 9:09
  you
• 9:10
  wanna
• 9:10
  live
• 9:10
  it.
• 9:11
  And
• 9:11
  if
• 9:11
  you're
• 9:11
  in
• 9:11
  this
• 9:11
  space
• 9:12
  right
• 9:12
  now,
• 9:12
  I
• 9:12
  wanna
• 9:12
  know.
• 9:13
  I
• 9:13
  get
• 9:13
  it.
• 9:14
  I've
• 9:14
  been
• 9:14
  there,
• 9:14
  girl.
• 9:15
  The
• 9:15
  place
• 9:15
  where
• 9:16
  you're
• 9:16
  going
• 9:16
  back
• 9:16
  and
• 9:16
  forth
• 9:17
  in
• 9:17
  your
• 9:17
  head
• 9:17
  where
• 9:17
  you're,
• 9:18
  feeling
• 9:18
  guilty
• 9:18
  because
• 9:19
  there's
• 9:19
  so
• 9:19
  many
• 9:19
  people
• 9:19
  out
• 9:19
  there
• 9:20
  that
• 9:20
  don't
• 9:20
  have
• 9:20
  a,
• 9:21
  spouse
• 9:21
  at
• 9:21
  all.
• 9:22
  There's
• 9:22
  people
• 9:22
  that
• 9:22
  just
• 9:23
  are
• 9:23
  completely
• 9:23
  content
• 9:24
  with
• 9:24
  being
• 9:24
  content,
• 9:26
  and
• 9:26
  the
• 9:26
  answer
• 9:27
  is
• 9:27
  no
• 9:27
  right
• 9:27
  or
• 9:28
  wrong.
• 9:28
  The
• 9:28
  truth
• 9:29
  is,
• 9:30
  it's
• 9:30
  what's
• 9:31
  aligned
• 9:31
  for
• 9:31
  you,
• 9:32
  and
• 9:33
  sometimes
• 9:33
  you
• 9:33
  just
• 9:33
  need
• 9:33
  a
• 9:33
  space
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  talk
• 9:34
  through
• 9:34
  it,
• 9:35
  to
• 9:35
  slow
• 9:35
  it
• 9:35
  down,
• 9:36
  to
• 9:36
  get
• 9:36
  it
• 9:36
  outta
• 9:36
  your
• 9:36
  head
• 9:37
  and
• 9:37
  into
• 9:37
  clarity.
• 9:38
  So
• 9:38
  if
• 9:38
  this
• 9:38
  is
• 9:39
  something
• 9:39
  you're
• 9:39
  navigating
• 9:39
  right
• 9:40
  now.
• 9:40
  I
• 9:41
  would
• 9:41
  love
• 9:41
  to
• 9:41
  help
• 9:41
  support
• 9:42
  you
• 9:42
  in
• 9:42
  this.
• 9:42
  Give
• 9:43
  me
• 9:43
  a
• 9:43
  call,
• 9:43
  let's
• 9:44
  chat
• 9:44
  book
• 9:44
  a,
• 9:44
  you
• 9:45
  can
• 9:45
  book
• 9:45
  a
• 9:45
  clarity
• 9:46
  and
• 9:46
  calm
• 9:46
  call.
• 9:47
  links
• 9:47
  are
• 9:47
  in
• 9:47
  the
• 9:47
  show
• 9:48
  notes.
• 9:48
  It's
• 9:48
  no
• 9:49
  pressure,
• 9:50
  no
• 9:50
  agenda,
• 9:51
  just
• 9:51
  a
• 9:51
  conversation
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  help
• 9:52
  you
• 9:52
  get
• 9:52
  clearer
• 9:53
  on
• 9:53
  things
• 9:53
  because
• 9:54
  I
• 9:54
  promise
• 9:54
  you
• 9:55
  so
• 9:55
  many
• 9:55
  people
• 9:56
  are
• 9:56
  there
• 9:57
  and
• 9:58
  so
• 9:58
  many
• 9:58
  people
• 9:59
  don't
• 9:59
  wanna
• 9:59
  go
• 9:59
  to
• 9:59
  the
• 10:00
  people
• 10:00
  that
• 10:00
  are
• 10:00
  around
• 10:01
  them
• 10:01
  in
• 10:01
  their
• 10:01
  immediate
• 10:02
  circle
• 10:02
  because
• 10:03
  there's
• 10:03
  judgment,
• 10:04
  there's
• 10:04
  There's
• 10:05
  being
• 10:06
  angry,
• 10:06
  there's
• 10:06
  bringing
• 10:07
  in
• 10:07
  all
• 10:07
  of
• 10:07
  those
• 10:08
  things
• 10:08
  that
• 10:09
  are
• 10:09
  all
• 10:09
  biased.
• 10:10
  So
• 10:10
  I
• 10:10
  will
• 10:10
  give
• 10:10
  you
• 10:11
  an
• 10:11
  unbiased
• 10:12
  talk.
• 10:13
  I
• 10:13
  will
• 10:13
  be
• 10:13
  that
• 10:13
  sounding
• 10:14
  board
• 10:14
  and
• 10:16
  let's
• 10:16
  figure
• 10:16
  out
• 10:16
  what
• 10:16
  your
• 10:16
  next,
• 10:18
  and
• 10:18
  let's
• 10:19
  figure
• 10:19
  out
• 10:19
  what
• 10:19
  your
• 10:19
  next
• 10:19
  step
• 10:20
  might
• 10:20
  be,
• 10:21
  because
• 10:22
  you
• 10:22
  do
• 10:22
  not
• 10:23
  have
• 10:23
  to
• 10:23
  figure
• 10:23
  this
• 10:24
  out
• 10:24
  alone,
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  promise
• 10:25
  you.
• 10:25
  But
• 10:25
  like
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  mentioned,
• 10:26
  it
• 10:26
  is
• 10:27
  a
• 10:27
  very
• 10:27
  hard
• 10:27
  place
• 10:28
  to
• 10:28
  be,
• 10:29
  but.
• 10:31
  People.
• 10:32
  I
• 10:32
  truly
• 10:32
  believe
• 10:32
  people
• 10:33
  come
• 10:33
  in
• 10:33
  and
• 10:33
  out
• 10:33
  of
• 10:34
  your
• 10:34
  life
• 10:34
  for
• 10:34
  a
• 10:34
  reason,
• 10:35
  and
• 10:35
  if
• 10:35
  it's
• 10:35
  not
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  season
• 10:36
  to
• 10:36
  have
• 10:37
  someone
• 10:37
  in
• 10:37
  your
• 10:37
  life
• 10:38
  because
• 10:38
  you
• 10:39
  are
• 10:39
  doing
• 10:39
  what
• 10:39
  you
• 10:39
  need
• 10:40
  to
• 10:40
  do
• 10:40
  for
• 10:40
  you.
• 10:41
  Then
• 10:41
  that's
• 10:42
  the
• 10:42
  way
• 10:42
  it
• 10:42
  is
• 10:43
  Now,
• 10:43
  if
• 10:43
  there
• 10:44
  it
• 10:44
  is
• 10:44
  the
• 10:44
  season
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  have
• 10:45
  that
• 10:45
  person
• 10:45
  in
• 10:46
  your
• 10:46
  life,
• 10:46
  then
• 10:46
  that's
• 10:46
  the
• 10:47
  way
• 10:47
  it
• 10:47
  is
• 10:47
  too.
• 10:48
  But
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  have
• 10:48
  to
• 10:48
  listen
• 10:49
  to
• 10:49
  your
• 10:49
  truth.
• 10:49
  You
• 10:50
  have
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  listen
• 10:50
  to
• 10:50
  your
• 10:51
  heart,
• 10:51
  and
• 10:51
  you
• 10:51
  have
• 10:51
  to,
• 10:52
  you
• 10:52
  really
• 10:53
  have
• 10:53
  to
• 10:53
  get
• 10:53
  in
• 10:53
  alignment
• 10:54
  with
• 10:54
  what
• 10:55
  feels
• 10:55
  right
• 10:55
  for
• 10:55
  you.
• 10:56
  So
• 10:56
  again,
• 10:56
  go
• 10:57
  back
• 10:57
  and
• 10:57
  ask
• 10:57
  yourself
• 10:58
  those
• 10:58
  questions
• 10:58
  first.
• 10:59
  Have
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  conversation
• 11:01
  and,
• 11:01
  and
• 11:02
  see
• 11:02
  the
• 11:02
  reaction.
• 11:03
  See
• 11:03
  if
• 11:03
  there's
• 11:03
  room
• 11:04
  for,
• 11:04
  for.
• 11:05
  Communication.
• 11:06
  See
• 11:06
  if
• 11:06
  there's
• 11:06
  room
• 11:07
  for
• 11:07
  whatever
• 11:07
  you're
• 11:07
  missing
• 11:08
  because
• 11:08
  you
• 11:09
  can
• 11:09
  work
• 11:09
  on
• 11:09
  that
• 11:10
  together.
• 11:10
  That's
• 11:11
  a
• 11:11
  whole
• 11:11
  nother
• 11:11
  conversation,
• 11:12
  but
• 11:12
  we
• 11:12
  can
• 11:12
  have
• 11:12
  that
• 11:13
  one
• 11:13
  later.
• 11:13
  But
• 11:15
  just
• 11:15
  kind
• 11:15
  of
• 11:15
  see,
• 11:16
  and
• 11:16
  then
• 11:16
  ask
• 11:16
  yourself
• 11:17
  and,
• 11:17
  and
• 11:17
  really
• 11:18
  truly
• 11:18
  feel
• 11:18
  it
• 11:18
  in
• 11:18
  your
• 11:19
  body.
• 11:19
  Put
• 11:19
  yourself
• 11:20
  in
• 11:20
  the
• 11:20
  two
• 11:20
  different
• 11:20
  scenarios.
• 11:22
  does
• 11:22
  staying
• 11:22
  And
• 11:23
  how
• 11:23
  does
• 11:23
  leaving
• 11:23
  make
• 11:23
  you
• 11:24
  feel?
• 11:24
  And
• 11:24
  your
• 11:24
  body
• 11:25
  is
• 11:25
  going
• 11:25
  to
• 11:25
  tell
• 11:25
  you
• 11:26
  the
• 11:26
  honest
• 11:26
  truth
• 11:26
  because
• 11:27
  that's
• 11:27
  how
• 11:27
  our
• 11:27
  bodies
• 11:27
  work.
• 11:28
  So
• 11:28
  again,
• 11:29
  no
• 11:29
  rush
• 11:30
  decisions.
• 11:30
  Don't
• 11:30
  go
• 11:31
  out
• 11:31
  and
• 11:31
  listen
• 11:32
  to
• 11:32
  this
• 11:32
  podcast
• 11:32
  and,
• 11:33
  and
• 11:33
  jump
• 11:33
  to
• 11:33
  any
• 11:33
  conclusions
• 11:34
  or
• 11:34
  jump
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  any
• 11:35
  decisions.
• 11:37
  These
• 11:37
  are
• 11:37
  big
• 11:38
  choices,
• 11:38
  and
• 11:39
  the
• 11:39
  best
• 11:40
  thing
• 11:40
  I
• 11:40
  can
• 11:40
  tell
• 11:40
  you
• 11:41
  is
• 11:41
  every
• 11:41
  single
• 11:42
  moment
• 11:42
  of
• 11:42
  every
• 11:42
  single
• 11:43
  day
• 11:43
  that
• 11:43
  you
• 11:43
  live
• 11:43
  your
• 11:44
  own
• 11:44
  truth.
• 11:45
  It's
• 11:46
  a
• 11:46
  better
• 11:46
  day
• 11:46
  for
• 11:46
  you
• 11:47
  and
• 11:47
  it's
• 11:47
  a
• 11:47
  better
• 11:48
  day
• 11:48
  for
• 11:48
  the
• 11:48
  people
• 11:48
  around
• 11:49
  you
• 11:49
  because
• 11:50
  if
• 11:51
  you
• 11:51
  truly
• 11:52
  believe
• 11:52
  you
• 11:52
  deserve
• 11:53
  happiness
• 11:53
  and
• 11:54
  joy
• 11:54
  and
• 11:54
  communication
• 11:55
  and
• 11:55
  connection.
• 11:56
  You're
• 11:57
  not
• 11:57
  getting
• 11:57
  it,
• 11:57
  then
• 11:58
  you
• 11:58
  deserve
• 11:58
  it.
• 11:59
  Okay?
• 11:59
  That's
• 12:00
  all
• 12:00
  I
• 12:00
  wanna
• 12:00
  say,
• 12:00
  and
• 12:01
  I
• 12:01
  will
• 12:01
  see
• 12:01
  you
• 12:01
  back
• 12:02
  next
• 12:02
  week.
• 12:02
  So
• 12:02
  again,
• 12:03
  if
• 12:03
  you
• 12:03
  did
• 12:03
  not
• 12:04
  listen
• 12:04
  to
• 12:04
  the
• 12:04
  episode
• 12:05
  with
• 12:05
  Karen
• 12:05
  yesterday,
• 12:06
  go
• 12:06
  back
• 12:07
  and
• 12:07
  listen
• 12:07
  to
• 12:07
  it,
• 12:07
  because
• 12:08
  this
• 12:08
  is
• 12:08
  literally
• 12:08
  what
• 12:09
  she
• 12:09
  does.
• 12:09
  She
• 12:10
  works
• 12:10
  with
• 12:10
  people
• 12:11
  all
• 12:11
  day
• 12:12
  long
• 12:12
  on
• 12:12
  the
• 12:12
  question
• 12:13
  of,
• 12:13
  should
• 12:13
  I
• 12:14
  stay
• 12:14
  or
• 12:14
  should
• 12:14
  I
• 12:14
  go
• 12:15
  now?
• 12:15
  Have
• 12:15
  a
• 12:16
  blessed
• 12:16
  day.
• 12:16
  See
• 12:16
  you
• 12:16
  back
• 12:16
  next
• 12:17
  week.