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Season 3 - Episode 122 - Who's on your boat? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today I want to do a little
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  exercise with you and it involves you grabbing maybe a
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  pen and paper even if you're driving and you're doing this,
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  like do the exercise part after. But you can think about it while
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  you're driving, but it's going to give you some clarity on some
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  things in your life. So let's start off with you've
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  got a cruise ship. You're going to go on this
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  amazing cruise ship. It's going to be the best cruise
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  of your entire life. You're going to have the most
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  fun you've ever had. It's going to be the kind of fun
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  you like to have, whatever that might be.
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  It's going to have all the food, the parties, the rest, Whatever
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  your version of fun is, that's what this boat is going to
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  provide, and you get to bring 10 people with you.
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  Now you might be saying, I don't.
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  There aren't 10 people that I would want to bring, and I'd
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  already be laughing because I'd be saying the same thing.
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  However, I would say whatever your number is, I'm giving you
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  10 as an example because most people can say, OK, these are
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  good, solid 10 people in my life, whether they're close
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  family, close friends, acquaintances, just someone you
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  would not want to know that would be on that boat with you.
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  And I want you to make that list, OK, get that list down,
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  figure out who would that be, who are those people that you
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  would want to bring? And if you need to make more
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  than 10, go ahead and do it. Don't stress out about that hard
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  number of 10, OK? Now, once you have that done, I
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  want you to start thinking about the next boat ride that I'm
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  going to put you on is the worst.
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  It's like the Gilligan's Island boat ride.
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  For all of you who know what that is, it's going to be awful.
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  You're going to encounter the worst seas.
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  You're going to be sick to your stomach.
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  You're going to have all kinds of problems.
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  You are going to have food shortages.
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  You're going to have everything that you could possibly imagine
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  go wrong on this boat. Go wrong on this boat.
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  Who are your 10 people that you would want to take with you on
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  that ride? And no, it's not about torturing
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  them. No, it's not about, hey, I want
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  you to suffer while I suffer. This is about thinking of it in
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  terms of who would you want to be spending your time with if
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  you were stuck on this boat or if you're truly like the
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  Gilligan's Island ride, stuck on an island where you can't get
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  off. So who would those people be?
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  Who are those 10 people that you would want to bring with you and
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  write them all down so you have an idea of who they are?
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  Now here's the tricky part of this exercise.
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  When you have both of those done, the job is to sit and
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  cross reference who is on both lists.
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  Because those people, those are your core support system in
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  life. Those people are your core
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  support system, meaning you can take them anywhere you want to
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  go and they're going to be there for you no matter what.
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  Now here's the interesting part of this exercise.
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  There are not a lot of people on the same list.
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  For most most of us out there, if you have your ten that can
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  cross reference to both lists. I love that.
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  I mean, I don't have that. So I will tell you, most people
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  that I have ever worked with or trained with or done these
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  exercises with do not have the same people on both lists.
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  And we often asked ourselves, well, why is that?
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  Why is it that we don't have those people on, you know, both
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  of our lists? Because we want to have people
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  on both of our lists. But the reality is that every
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  every person has a role in our lives, every everybody who comes
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  in, just like we have roles in other people's lives.
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  And we might be the person that they go to in crisis, but we
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  would not be the person that they would want to take on their
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  fun ship. And that, I mean, that was my
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  mother. Honestly, I love my mother so
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  much. I miss my mother every day.
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  But my mother was the person who fell asleep in Disney World when
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  I took her. She complained that she didn't
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  see Winnie the Pooh enough. Did she have happy moments?
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  Sure. But 80% of that trip she found
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  problems. It was too hot.
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  There was too much walking. The food wasn't what she liked.
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  Winnie the Pooh wasn't around enough.
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  They didn't make enough attempt to let you see the characters
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  enough. You name it.
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  And we were in supposedly the happiest place on the planet.
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  And this is what happened. And it wasn't just that one
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  trip. She went with her friend on a
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  trip, and that trip ended up being a she went on a cruise and
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  funny enough for this exercise, and they went to Mexico.
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  And lo and behold, she was complaining about the trip to
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  Mexico and that it was, you know, the the ship was too much
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  to walk around the there were too many choices with food.
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  I mean, too many choices with food.
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  She found a way to complain about that, and her friend and I
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  were laughing about it. But you know, here's the here's
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  the interesting part of this. Once you start to realize who's
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  on both lists, you can start to appreciate them on different
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  levels because they truly are gifts.
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  My friends, when you can find somebody that is on both of
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  those lists, Oh my gosh. And I will say my husband is
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  that person that's on both those lists for me, without question.
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  I have been in dire straits of situations with him when, you
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  know, we got into trouble kayaking in a fast moving black
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  water swamp. And I've never seen a human
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  being as calm and as directive and as cool as the whole thing
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  could have been. In in the water, moving, trying
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  to save our son. Holding him up and hanging on to
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  a kayak and still not yelling, no screaming, calm as can be,
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  directing me what to do. And he's also the coolest person
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  to go on vacation with because wherever we go, we always have
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  fun. You know, walking Amsterdam and
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  realizing that we had been out walking for 14 hours and we
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  didn't realize it because of the the lighting and how the light
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  wasn't going down. And we laughed and had such a
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  great time about it. And like, why are we so tired?
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  Well, because we had so much fun and didn't even realize the
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  time. He's my person.
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  That's on both. And I mean, when you find those
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  people, you hang on to them and you find ways to give them grace
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  when they need it. And that's what this is all
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  about is that once you recognize where these people are in your
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  life and how they show up and how you show up with them, you
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  know the opposite of this is are you on someone's cruise ship of
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  fun and also on their Gilligan's Island boat or are you just
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  showing up on one of those? It's a great way for us to be in
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  that exercise of saying, well, am I showing up as a, you know,
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  both ships person or am I showing up just as a crisis
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  ship? And that's no fun at all.
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  So take the inventory, figure out who are your people and
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  figure out are you being the dual person for somebody or are
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  you just being you know that 11 sided person that can't be there
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  for somebody else. And then figure out is that
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  something you really want, are you OK with that or do you want
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  to shift it. So I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have fun taking your cruise. Bye.