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Dear Banya: Saved You a Seat · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Bea Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
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  Speaker 3: What you're doing today? What?
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  Speaker 1: Well, today I'm going to take my passport photo and
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  Speaker 1: do all that. But I forgot to tell you this
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  Speaker 1: story from the DMB.
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  Speaker 4: What do you get stressed about you passport photo?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, well not stressed, but like I want to look pretty.
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  Speaker 4: But why no one's gonna see it? Literally no one,
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  Speaker 4: no one, and like it's a closed book.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, my last DMB photo was gorgeous, Like can I
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  Speaker 1: tell you, like I look like a supermodeling, very.
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  Speaker 4: Rare passport are notoriously bad.
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  Speaker 1: Phone, not passport, my dmv linse. But in my last
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  Speaker 1: passport photo, nothing could be worse than that, So I'm.
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  Speaker 3: Like ready for something it new.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that passport one was horrendous. So my last
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  Speaker 1: DMB was stunning, stunning work of art. I just come
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  Speaker 1: from some e things, so I had like full glam
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  Speaker 1: and like, yeah, I just looked like the light.
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  Speaker 3: I was gorgeous. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So I went to the DMB last week and I
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  Speaker 1: begged the girl please can I please use my same
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  Speaker 1: photo I look the same look. I was, no, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: you have to take a new please please, No, I'm
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  Speaker 1: so sorry. Anyways, so I took my new photo and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, can I see what it like?
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  Speaker 3: What I look like?
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  Speaker 1: And because you'll get it in the mail in a
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  Speaker 1: couple of weeks. Daddy didn't play around, not DMV. Daddy
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  Speaker 1: was not having it. But I sat down at the
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  Speaker 1: DMB and like, you know, you like check in and
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  Speaker 1: they give you like I was like G two seventy
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  Speaker 1: two and they were at like G one oh one.
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  Speaker 1: So I was like, oh, I'm here to stay and
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  Speaker 1: the seats were packed, so I was like, okay, I'm
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  Speaker 1: just gonna wait tillbody gets up and like make my
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  Speaker 1: way over. So I to finding a seat. So I
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  Speaker 1: sit down. I sit next to this girl and she's like, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can you like save my seat really quick? And I
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  Speaker 1: was like yeah, sure, no problem.
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  Speaker 3: That's a big task, a big ask.
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  Speaker 1: I thought, no problem. I thought she's going to the bathroom,
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  Speaker 1: like she's gonna grab me out of her car. This
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  Speaker 1: bitch is gone for forty five minutes.
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  Speaker 3: She got a snack, She and got a snack. She
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  Speaker 3: comes back.
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  Speaker 1: Mind you people are asking me at coming up. Is
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  Speaker 1: this all taken? Yes, by some unnamed person I don't know, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: And she's been gone for quite some time now, so
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  Speaker 1: like if she doesn't come back, I'm gonna look.
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  Speaker 3: Like a total like yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, Like I.
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  Speaker 1: Just wanted to save the seat because I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: somebody sick. And so she comes back wreaking of marijuana,
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  Speaker 1: pulls out of her backpack French fries. She'd gone to
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  Speaker 1: like some drive through and had me save her seat.
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  Speaker 3: What mind you.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't realize they they send you a text when
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  Speaker 1: your number is like close to being called. It's basically
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  Speaker 1: like we're I didn't know this because I didn't get
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  Speaker 1: until it was close to my number. But they do
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  Speaker 1: give you like a good five to six minute heads
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  Speaker 1: up that like your number is coming. So I could
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  Speaker 1: have like an hour and a half up and around
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  Speaker 1: town in Santa Monica to like get my nails done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So she was probably sitting in her car, eating her
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  Speaker 4: in and out and.
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  Speaker 1: Just yeah, blaze up, blazon Yeah, got her text message.
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  Speaker 1: I'll go back into that chump in there. I was
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  Speaker 1: saving my seat in the front row. Didn't even offer me, yes,
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  Speaker 1: legroom so everybody's watching me, like say, yeah, somebody's here
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  Speaker 1: for forty five minutes.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, that is so funny. She just said this girl,
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  Speaker 3: this is so easy. I'm gonna go take a break.
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  Speaker 1: But also like, why do you need the seat saved?
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean? Like, if you're gonna
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  Speaker 1: go like have fun around town, like stand the back
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  Speaker 1: for the last five minutes till your name's called or
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  Speaker 1: numbers called.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you just got a light to dube and get
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  Speaker 2: some fries. Clearly, maybe she'd been there since one oh one,
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  Speaker 2: you know, maybe she had been there since one. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you got to take an advantage.
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  Speaker 1: Of this is my karma because I always ask people
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  Speaker 1: to watch my suitcases at the airport.
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  Speaker 4: That is, I think it's illegal.
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  Speaker 3: You can't do.
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  Speaker 1: Take our suitcases into the bathroom and knock on the
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  Speaker 1: door before we go in?
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  Speaker 4: What other Yeah, both of those you have to do.
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  Speaker 4: They make announcements at the airport. Do not take anything,
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  Speaker 4: do not watch other people's bag, do not do that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no common decency hut.
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  Speaker 1: But I thought it was like I was like, Wow,
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  Speaker 1: now's my time to like save it for someone else,
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  Speaker 1: you know, Like I'm like I always ask people to
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  Speaker 1: like watch my stuff. So now I'm like, say stuff
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  Speaker 1: doing that.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, it's it's unsafe for you might a track. Let's
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  Speaker 2: not think of doing it for others, but more for yourself.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, yeah if that helps.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, Well, that was really nice for you to save
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  Speaker 2: the seat. I'm sorry that she fully took advantage of
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  Speaker 2: your kindness.
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  Speaker 4: Was she appreciative when she got back? No at all.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't offer me nothing. I want to Fry said no,
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  Speaker 1: the offer would be nicelip. Yeah, weed gummy?
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  Speaker 3: I have what is a weed gummy? I want to
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  Speaker 3: really smelled?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, she smelled.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she lit one up. Yeah, good for her.
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  Speaker 1: Doob doom.
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  Speaker 3: She said. One day of the week.
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  Speaker 1: Was it Friday?
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  Speaker 3: She said, it's Friday, bait fry yay.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's a little bit about me.
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  Speaker 2: Well, it's good to know that you will save a
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  Speaker 2: seat if someone ever needs whether.
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  Speaker 1: You guys take your driving test, by the way, because
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  Speaker 1: like the people next to me and were like getting
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  Speaker 1: in a fight because she was like, no, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: retaking this thing, and he said something about.
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  Speaker 3: Like every four years.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm like, I haven't retaken my driver's test since
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  Speaker 1: I turned sixteen, and I'm much older, nor have.
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  Speaker 4: I I'm not sure.
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  Speaker 2: It might be if they've moved or something, because I
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  Speaker 2: had to retake mine when I got switched from a
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  Speaker 2: Louisiana license to California terribly.
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  Speaker 3: I was so stressed out. There's so many more rules here.
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  Speaker 1: I do you believe she was saying she was like
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  Speaker 1: from San Francisco or something.
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  Speaker 3: Well that's still California.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe maybe I heard it wrong, maybe with something else.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe she was doing it for safety, just to
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  Speaker 2: learn the rules, the la the lay of the land.
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  Speaker 1: But I find that to be kind of shocking. Like
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  Speaker 1: I've just never taken a driving test since I was
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  Speaker 1: sixteen years old. Yeah, well I should use it.
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  Speaker 3: You might need a re refresher. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, the DMV is not my I will say, like
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  Speaker 2: my driver's license and my passport photos I get compliments on,
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  Speaker 2: so I will dread the day I have to retake those.
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  Speaker 4: I know.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So then the next day because I'm trying to
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  Speaker 1: get all this stuff done with my name changed, and
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  Speaker 1: so Robbie's like, okay, you did the DMV, Like, let's
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  Speaker 1: go do your passport today. And I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I can't take my passport photo day. I look like
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  Speaker 1: trush right now, And he was like, are you kidding me? Like,
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  Speaker 1: who cares?
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  Speaker 3: I get it?
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  Speaker 1: I care, but luck in my luck was on my
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  Speaker 1: side because everything was closed for Easter.
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  Speaker 3: I couldn't do it nice.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go today, nice, gorgeous, gorge Yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: can't take a bad photo today.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, things can only go up you right though,
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  Speaker 4: there's something with that passport photo. It will be bad, like,
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  Speaker 4: there's no way around it. It's always no.
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  Speaker 3: I'm telling her, I've choker for my last photo.
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  Speaker 1: Let me tell you. Rule one oh one not to
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  Speaker 1: wear a passport or a d m V photo is
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  Speaker 1: a choker. Why are you wearing a choke? I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Twenty seventeen, Oh oh.
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  Speaker 4: We can forget.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the new passport is black and white, so you
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  Speaker 2: just automatically look better.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. They put like a lovely black and white filter
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  Speaker 3: over it.
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  Speaker 1: I can't wait.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I was stunned by myself. I was like, thank
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  Speaker 2: you for whatever you added to this. Wow the glam filter.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'm excited.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I get excited.
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  Speaker 2: We do have a dear bonya, so shall we jump
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  Speaker 2: into it?
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  Speaker 4: Jumping in anonymous says Hi, Becka, Tania Mark and Eastern
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  Speaker 4: day One Scrubbery here and I love you all so much.
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  Speaker 4: Your voices get me through the day. I need some advice.
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  Speaker 4: I recently became acquaintances with some moms on my street.
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  Speaker 4: We met at the park. I was put into a
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  Speaker 4: group message with them, and they're always wanting to get together,
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  Speaker 4: which normally I try to include myself in. But one
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  Speaker 4: of their children is so mean to my oldest son,
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  Speaker 4: who's four. The child is also made to the other kids.
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  Speaker 4: I don't believe in subjecting your children to the real
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  Speaker 4: world so young, and it's literally my job to protect them.
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  Speaker 4: So now I've always started saying no when they asked
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  Speaker 4: to get together. So am I being rude? I don't
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  Speaker 4: want it to say, hey, dude, your kid is mean
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  Speaker 4: and you don't do anything about it. But I also
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  Speaker 4: feel bad ignoring every invite. One of them lived two
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  Speaker 4: doors down for me, and she made a comment that
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  Speaker 4: she saw us one day going to the park by ourselves.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like being watched and it's driving me crazy.
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  Speaker 4: So what do I do? Whenny advice is helpful? Thanks?
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  Speaker 4: Love you.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I might not have the best advice here
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  Speaker 1: because I've never had to deal with this. However, I
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  Speaker 1: do talk to Robbie about this stuff often, and his
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  Speaker 1: advice is always like, not to shield your kids from
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  Speaker 1: certain situations because they're eventually going to have to deal
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  Speaker 1: with these situations in life. Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: So like your child is going to interact with a
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  Speaker 1: mean kid at some point in their lives. Correct?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, yes, correct, But if you know one's mean, deuce.
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  Speaker 3: Why can't you say something? Why can't you say something
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  Speaker 3: to the mom of the mean co.
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  Speaker 1: What do you say to someone your kids mean?
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  Speaker 3: I would just say, hey, I was, I was.
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  Speaker 2: I heard how your son was talking to my son
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  Speaker 2: and I and if be like, I don't want him.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want them to be like in a fight.
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  Speaker 2: I just wanted you to be aware of it because
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  Speaker 2: the mom might not know that her son is a bully.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to know if my kid was a bully.
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  Speaker 1: I think oftentimes they know.
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  Speaker 2: Because they're the bully. Yeah, well then what this is crazy?
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like parents, especially this age,
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  Speaker 2: should know who if their kid is bullying other kids.
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  Speaker 4: Parents don't see their kids that way. I don't think
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  Speaker 4: their kids are always angels. Every kid is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's why they're serial killers, and that's why
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  Speaker 2: we gotta we gotta shift the mindset and start having
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  Speaker 2: the hard conversations. Well, I would, I mean, unless someone
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  Speaker 2: says something to you like hey, I would just say, hey, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he's having a hard time with one of the other kids,
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  Speaker 2: So we just kind of do our own thing until
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  Speaker 2: they grow out of that. That's what I would say.
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  Speaker 2: If someone asks you about it, I don't think you
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  Speaker 2: need to bring it up. I would just say, Hey,
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  Speaker 2: we're just doing our own thing. My son's having a
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  Speaker 2: hard time, like just getting along with some of the kids,
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  Speaker 2: so we're just going to the park alone.
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  Speaker 4: And then just remove yourself from that group chat.
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  Speaker 3: We'll just put on mute, hide the alerts.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not. But I don't know, I'm not sure
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  Speaker 4: what to say. I think that I think I would
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  Speaker 4: probably take the passive least resistance and go to one
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  Speaker 4: of these events and just see how it goes, and
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  Speaker 4: obviously keep a very sharp eye on whatever is going on.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: If she's there and watching it happen, and the other
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  Speaker 2: mom is there, why can't she say like, hey, let's
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  Speaker 2: can we have a conversation like this, this quarrel was
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  Speaker 2: going on, Let's figure it out with the mom presence.
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  Speaker 4: That's fine. And also not putting all the blame on
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  Speaker 4: the other kid.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just like, hey, they're not getting along, what can
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  Speaker 2: we do to fix this?
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  Speaker 1: Well, these type of social interactions really stressful.
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  Speaker 4: It's tough. Just can't hide that. Like you said, you
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  Speaker 4: can't hide your kid from every negative experience of their
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  Speaker 4: whole life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean you're gonna snowplow parenting. You go out
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  Speaker 4: in front of the kid and make sure nothing is
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  Speaker 4: in the way, nothing's ever going to cause problems for.
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  Speaker 1: Them, right, I think that ultimately hurts the kid.
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  Speaker 4: I think so it does.
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  Speaker 2: But there's also a sense of making sure that this
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  Speaker 2: kid that's already bullying kids at a young age isn't
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  Speaker 2: getting away with it forever. So if you have the
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  Speaker 2: power to be in this situation and witness it with
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  Speaker 2: the parent present, take it as an opportunity to say like, hey, like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what's going on, but let's figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: It's good. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: Do you remember the dear Bonya who wanted to go
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  Speaker 4: out with the guy at the gym. He gave her
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  Speaker 4: lots of insightful questions and she get great answers, but
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  Speaker 4: whenever she turned it back on him, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Nothing, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: We have an update. I love a follow up.
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  Speaker 3: Should we take a break?
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  Speaker 4: I think we should.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, we're back. I don't even have to race wows.
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  Speaker 4: I love a follow up. A few weeks ago, a
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  Speaker 4: hopeless romantic looking at her forever wrote asking if she
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  Speaker 4: was being too picky after giving a guy she met
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  Speaker 4: at the Jim a chance. They went on a first date.
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  Speaker 4: He asked her a lot of insightful questions to which
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  Speaker 4: you gave thoughtful, sometimes deep answers to and when she
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  Speaker 4: turned the question around on him, he gave nothing. He
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  Speaker 4: also said he has no hobbies, no friends. He gets up,
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  Speaker 4: he goes if the jammy works ten to seven, he
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  Speaker 4: goes to bed. And I don't remember what your advice was. Necessarily,
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  Speaker 4: I probably was like, girl, move on. Well, she wrote
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  Speaker 4: back and said, Hi, okay, I geeked out hearing this
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  Speaker 4: on the pod. Follow up. I did not follow through
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  Speaker 4: with him, but to answer some of your questions by
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  Speaker 4: going out with friends, I mean, he doesn't even hang
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  Speaker 4: out with them and make plans nothing. He doesn't drink,
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  Speaker 4: which doesn't bother me. He's cute, he's very interested in me,
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  Speaker 4: but it felt more like you wanted to hear about
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  Speaker 4: me toof said that he doesn't do much lol. And yes,
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  Speaker 4: he pretty much goes to bed after his ten to
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  Speaker 4: seven and he told me it takes him two hours
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  Speaker 4: to get ready for the gym. I don't even take that.
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  Speaker 4: All that to say, thank you for answering my question.
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  Speaker 4: I appreciate all sides, Tanya, trust me, I love an
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  Speaker 4: APM bedtime. But I did decide to move forward with
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  Speaker 4: someone else. Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I guess I probably told her like it's fun
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  Speaker 1: to take someone that goes to bed.
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  Speaker 2: Really, yeah, you probably are, like stick it out?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, one of my own. Yeah, a man at my heart.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You have a lot of hobbies like launching barbecue brawl
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  Speaker 2: like you you could answer that question.
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  Speaker 1: Catch me watching barbecue bral this coming weekend.
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  Speaker 4: So I love a follow up and I love a flashback.
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  Speaker 4: Josie Hi, Becka, Tanya Easton, and Mark. I'm real listening
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  Speaker 4: to old episodes and just heard the moment where the
• 14:47
  Speaker 4: girls discuss their future engagement ring preferences. Tanya said she
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  Speaker 4: didn't want a big rock on her finger like she
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  Speaker 4: had previously dreamt of, and Becka stated she probably won't
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  Speaker 4: wear her ring all the time. I just found this
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  Speaker 4: funny thing. Now they both have big, beautiful engagement rings
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  Speaker 4: they wear pretty much all the time. Here we go.
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  Speaker 4: Episode date October eighth, twenty eighteen. It was called Debbie
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  Speaker 4: of the Doctors, And here it is.
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  Speaker 1: I decided something about my wedding over the weekend.
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  Speaker 4: Uh huh.
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  Speaker 1: It involves the singer that I want to sing at
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  Speaker 1: my wedding. So I was going to FaceTime, said to
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: person and ask if they will perform at my wedding.
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  Speaker 4: And you recently changed your dream engagement ring. The when
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  Speaker 4: you've dreamed about your whole life has now.
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  Speaker 1: Changed changed what to what? I just don't want to
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  Speaker 1: I used to want like a big fatty rock like
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  Speaker 1: kind of hanging out off my finger, and now I
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  Speaker 1: realize I want it more like set in into the
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: ring like not as like.
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  Speaker 3: It's a huge change.
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: She wants a ring that she doesn't have to take
• 15:45
  Speaker 4: off at the gym, and when she's whatever, she wants
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: to be able to leave it on all the time.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: Leave it on all the time.
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: I want a big ring that sits up. Now I've
• 15:54
  Speaker 3: pumping out.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: You want to take it off from time to time,
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: that's fine with you.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't love wearing rings in general, So I
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: want to have a band, that really pretty band that
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: I keep on all the time, and then wear that
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: have the ring for whateever.
• 16:07
  Speaker 4: What about a tattoo that's very hot right now? Is
• 16:09
  Speaker 4: getting tattooed rings because they don't feel like you're wearing
• 16:13
  Speaker 4: a ring.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, not a pose, but not completely for it, not
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: opposed to it, just like, don't know if it's my style.
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: I would like just like a really.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Pretty dainty like diamond band to wear is like every day,
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: because I don't like having anything too big bulky.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: But I would like to sluck this.
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: Rock, Yeah, fatty rock.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: The people know I'm taking alright on that note. Oh,
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: that's Haley and I were together at that.
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: Point in eighteen.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: At that point, yeah, because we got together in April eighteenth.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: That's October eighteen.
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: That's so funny, a half years ago.
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but our our eight year anniversary happened.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Oh no, in September. We're going to be nine years
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: of this September.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: No mine in Haley's eight years Yeah, speakend. Yeah that's right,
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: crazy crazy, Yeah, well I was. I do wear mine
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: every day.
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: It's weirdly, I don't know what it is, what the
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: science is behind it, but this ring does not bother
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: me at all, Like it never feels like I'm annoyed
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: by having the ring on. But previously I was like,
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: I don't know how I'm gonna wear engagement ring all
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: the time because I don't like wearing rings.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: It's so weird listening back to that.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: It almost sounds like it doesn't even sound like us.
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: I know, you know what's so funny?
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: You did get a big rock.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I in fact changed my mind again, and she
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: did want her.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: Fast she didn't want it.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy to listen back on those episodes. Like
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: if we ever have to like re record our podcast
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: because like it gets taken away from us or something
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: like I've thought about this, like Taylor swifting it and
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: like going, how would.
• 17:59
  Speaker 3: We do that? Like transcript and we just read that.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: No, like we would re listen to our old episodes
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: and then like kind of just talk about everything that
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: was going on, like in our perspective now of like
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: lot things. WHOA, what's so funny, Mark.
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: That's a very funny idea that we'd have to do that.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: Well, if somebody decides they want to take this podcast
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: your broad yeah yeah, or right, yeah, we get scooted
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: and booted. Well that was like always the thing, like, oh,
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: we could just PLoP two people in your spots if
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: you guys don't want to do the podcast anymore. And
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I'm like, no, yeah, if we get Scooter Bronde, I
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: will Taylor Swift.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: Wow out of this podcast. Okay, uh, this is a
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: very very sweet note that we got from a woman
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: and I lost out here. It is Sabrina Hi back
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: a tiny market East and I had to reach out
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: because my heart feels so full and I'm a little
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: emotional writing this. I'm a day one scrubber. Your podcast
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: has been such a constant in my life, but especially lately.
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: I recently welc on my third baby, girl. And as
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: beautiful as post part them can be, it can also
• 19:01
  Speaker 4: be overwhelming and pretty dark somehow. Because of the community
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: you've built, I've found myself in a small group chat
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: with other scrubbers navigating postpartum right now, and I can't
• 19:10
  Speaker 4: even begin to explain what it's meant to me. We
• 19:12
  Speaker 4: text every day, sharing advice, ving, checking in, celebrating tiny winds,
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: and laughing when we really need it. These women, complete
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: strangers brought together because of you, have helped me pull
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: together some really hard times. They've reminded me I'm not alone,
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: that I'm doing okay, and that it's okay to not
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: have it all together. Also, a couple of weeks ago,
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: when a mom wrote in about her new mom's struggles,
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: that really stuck with me. If she ever hears this,
• 19:35
  Speaker 4: please encourage her to reach out to the Facebook group.
• 19:38
  Speaker 4: There are so many moms in there going through the
• 19:39
  Speaker 4: exact same things, and it truly helps more than you
• 19:42
  Speaker 4: can imagine to connect with people who get it in
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: real time. Sometimes the people that can help you the
• 19:47
  Speaker 4: most aren't in your life, yet don't be afraid to
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: reach out and find them. That kind of connection doesn't
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: just happen, it exists because of the space you've created,
• 19:56
  Speaker 4: one that feels safe, supportive, real, and full of joy.
• 19:59
  Speaker 4: You've built something so much bigger than the podcast. You've
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: built a community that shows up for each other in
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: real life, in the moments that truly matter. So from
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you for
• 20:07
  Speaker 4: the laughs, the honesty of the comfort, and for unintentionally
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: bringing together people who have made such an impact on
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: my life. I'm beyond grateful to be a part of
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: this little corner of the world you've created. Sending you
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: all so much love and a little sleep deprived chaos
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: of Forever Scrubber Sabrina.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: Sobrina, the nicest email ever I needed.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: That. That was a boost.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Oh really, what's going on? No?
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: That was just lovely, lovely to read.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think at the end of the day,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: like I do feel really proud of the community of
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: people that listen to this podcast. You know, like there's
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: been a lot of podcasts that have come and gone
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: many many come on, gone, come, gone, coming, gone. Yeah,
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: we stayed, we did, we have stayed, and I'm glad
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: because I feel like we're like doing life altogether.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: July.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: It really does feel like that, And I think that's
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: the beauty of I think our Facebook group specifically, because
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: there's this community of people being able to reach out
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: and yeah, I mean obviously there's like crazy questions on
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: there of like.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I've been having a little tough time
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: in the Facebook group lately. I might have to banish
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: all the anonymous posting because I find those ones to
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: be not so lovy.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: No, so yeah, I mean, listen, the it opens. It
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: opens a platform for opinions and critiques.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Which we're anonymous. I don't need anonymous on the Facebook
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: group anymore. I'm going to go on and fix that
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: if I learn how.
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: She won't, so don't worry. The future will still be there.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: I will.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: But I was going to say, the really beautiful bright
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: spot of the Facebook group is being able to reach
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: out when you're in a hard time and finding that
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: support and love. And I love that what you said
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: about sometimes the people that can help you the most
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: aren't even in your life yet. Yeah, so thank you
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: for sending this, Sabrina. Congratulations on your baby, and I'm
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: so happy you found a supportive group of people within
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: the scrubbing in community.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: Me too. We love you so much, Sabraina.
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we love you.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: Spent a big week for birthdays. Oh my gosh, right here,
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: and have you even met a little scoreboard ready for
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: you too? See who wins today? Tanya? Has it won?
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: First Obama term I think was the last time Tanya won. Hey, okay,
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: so anyway, we're back.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: We're back.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: The thing about Tanya in the birthday game, though, is
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: that we're always rooting for her, even as the competition,
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: we are rooting for a victory at B I C
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: T O R Y.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: That's Tanya's battle cry. That's her birthday battle.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I feel good today. Oh yeah, I'm feeling lucky.
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: All right, Well, why don't we do rock paper scissors? Okay,
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: all right, we'll see who rock rock paper? Here we
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: go and rock paper scissors. Shoots scissors, shoot rock beat scissors.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: Now back. You get the choice. Now you can begin
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: by giving an age or begin with higher or lower
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: because we're playing the higher lower version. Because there's only
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: two of you.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: What well, one person gives the age, the other person
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: says higher or.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna let her go. I'm gonna let her go first.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: I think that is the correct move. Here we go.
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: We had a big birthday earlier this week. Then I
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: don't want to let slide by America sweetheart. Paul Rudd
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: was born on Monday. How old did Paul Rudd turn
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: on Monday? Tanya, you turn forty seven? Beca, is it
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: higher or lower?
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: Higher?
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: He turned fifty seven? Very good, Becca, the man does
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: not age. He really does look great.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: My strong star strong start a tenure, guts to start.
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: I feel good, Becca, This is for you a birthday today.
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: He's had some legal troubles recently. Hopefully it'll soon be
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: behind him. Lil nas X taking the Old Town Road,
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: possibly to jail. Button. He's hoping that his time in
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: rehab will make that go away. Becca. How old is
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: he turning today?
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: Twenty four?
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: Twenty four? Older or younger? Tanya?
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Older?
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: He's turning twenty seven to day in New York time.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Yes, I couldn't gauge if he was like a really
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: young teenager.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: When he popped off, I knew he was not. Okay,
• 24:53
  Speaker 3: what's good? It is your industry?
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: Next one? Also today, bunch. Today, Today is a good
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: day for birthdays, Tanya. This is is yours. Kristin Stewart.
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: Some call her Ka Stu. Kristin Stewart has a birthday today.
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: How old is she turning?
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: Thirty five?
• 25:08
  Speaker 4: Thirty five? It's not thirty five, Becca, older or younger
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: than thirty five?
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: Older?
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: Today? Kristin Sewart turns thirty six very good, Becca, it
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: is true to one thirty six. She's currently thirty five
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: as of today. Well, no, I guess as of yesterday.
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: All right, back to you, Becca, Elle Fanning great year
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: Oscar nomination. El Fanning? How old is she turning today?
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: I think Elle is going to I'm going to say
• 25:39
  Speaker 3: she's thirty.
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: Thirty, not thirty teeny, you're older, younger than thirty?
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I always forget which one's the older one.
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: No, we're not going to tell you anything.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Elle or Dakota. I think she's older.
• 25:50
  Speaker 4: Okay, so older, younger than thirty those question older than
• 25:53
  Speaker 4: thirty today? El Fanning turns thirty. I'm sorry, twenty eight
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: years old. Twenty eight. In my card, three to one beca.
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: And by the way, it takes four to win. It's
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: the best of seven, so three to one beca. So
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: for the win, let's see we go to Tanya on
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: this one. This is a millennial icon and he's a
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: beautiful soul. Jesse McCartney. Jesse McCartney has a birthday to day.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: How old is he? Tanya? You need this to stay
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: in the game. Thirty nine, thirty nine years old is
• 26:26
  Speaker 4: absolutely right, Tanya. Wow, you needed that and she got it.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: That was a good guess.
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: Three to two, beca Becca for the win. Another icon
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: in many ways from Sex and the City, Cynthia Nixon
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: has a birthday to day. How old is Cynthia Nixon today?
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: Becca wins? Becca gets it right, she wins if she loses.
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: If Tany gets it right, will have a final. But
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: I have ready to go.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: I think she is.
• 27:02
  Speaker 4: Fifty eight, fifty eight, all right, Tanya, older or younger
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: than fifty eight to stay in the game. Older than
• 27:09
  Speaker 4: fifty eight. Today, Cynthony Nickson turns sixty years old and
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: we are tied. Three Tanya three, Becca.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: This is it.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: It all comes down to this, Tanya. We're done with
• 27:24
  Speaker 4: birthdays for today. I have to look at tomorrow. But
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: tomorrow's got a big one. Mandy Moore. We all love
• 27:30
  Speaker 4: Mandy Moore. She's been in this room, sat in that
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: chair over there. Mandy Moore from This is Us and
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: many other shows and movies and music. How old is
• 27:40
  Speaker 4: Mandy Moore turning tomorrow? Tanya?
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: Forty two?
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: Becca, she's forty two.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: Very good, Tanya.
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: That was.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: Poetic.
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: Want to come back down three to one and then
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: hits it on the head in a row too, in
• 28:06
  Speaker 4: a row nailed it? You way to go Tanya.
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: Before Jesse McCartney.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: No, before me Cynthia Nixon.
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: But she didn't nail that one, but she got the
• 28:16
  Speaker 4: over under. Oh you got nailed Jason McCartney. She nailed
• 28:21
  Speaker 4: man anymore and she got Cynthia Nixon. What did I
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: send Jason Jason McCarthy. Okay, By the way, I couldn't
• 28:27
  Speaker 4: use this one because of the inside knowledge. But Sophia
• 28:29
  Speaker 4: Carson has a birthday this week.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I was hoping I would get that one.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: Did you have said thirty three? Yeah, she's thirty very good. Wow,
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: you want anyway? You don't need personal friends. You don't
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: even know Wilna.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: Wow, you feel high like you gotta go take your
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: passport now.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: Now right this second?
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: All right, well we have to go. Tony's gotta go
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: the Where do you go for that, Daly?
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: No, No, I know the passport photo place?
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: Okay, you gotta go to the passport photo.
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: Places CVS to get ours?
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Is that?
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: No, I'm going to go to like it's like the
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: FedEx place you sent stuff.
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: Oh yeah, we went to a Staples once to get
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: something like that. It was some official Oh.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: It was for U.
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: A pre check. Oh, but it was the back of
• 29:24
  Speaker 4: the staples. It looked so it seems so weird lax.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: For mine.
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: There was a desk global entry.
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: Oh there it was. There's a desk set up surrounded
• 29:32
  Speaker 4: by office chairs that you can buy, and then there's
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: a dusk that you couldn't buy because it was in
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: use by the t S a pre check person. It
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: was very strange.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: Wow, all right, well you've got to go. We've got
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: to go. A big day for you. You won the
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: birthday game. You float on that high.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: I can't wait for the cut of this because your
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: nostrils were flared. If she was like crying like a wolf,
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: crying to the moon. All right, we love you guys
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: so much of a great week.
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: We love you.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: Bye h