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5 Tips To Have Better Relationships At Work For Likeability & Confidence · Enhance.training

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  SPEAKER_00: Having better relationships at work makes being at work a lot nicer, more enjoyable, and certainly a lot more rewarding.
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  SPEAKER_00: Better relationships give you confidence and self-assurance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Having better relationships means less stress, less drama and less aggravation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Better relationships mean collaboration, better communication and access to more help.
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  SPEAKER_00: All these factors give you a lot more professional success and faster career progress.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are a manager or leader, better relationships mean team members work harder, are more likely to do what you ask and are more likely to be engaged, which in turn increases team performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: When colleagues like each other and get along, it makes for a much better working atmosphere and everyone looks forward to coming into work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Happy staff usually means happier customers in pretty much every type of business.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am sharing with you today five tips to have better work relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: For each, I'll be giving you a ton of practical actions that you can put into practice straight away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Knowing what to do is important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Actually, putting it into practice is what is going to improve the relationships you have right now and help you build more relationships with people you don't know yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I started my career, I had little idea of how to build relationships in a professional setting.
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  SPEAKER_00: Early in my career, I had two jobs in a row where I had to build influential relationships with about 20 to 30 senior managers with many, many more years' experience than I had at the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: I worked hard at practicing each of these five tips day in, day out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I built a lot of good positive relationships and influence.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was promoted 13 times all the way up to board level, partly because of how well I built influential relationships within the workplace.
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  SPEAKER_00: The point of this story is that I was rubbish at building relationships to start with and became good at it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can have the same level of success or better by using these actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: I encourage you to take actions and put into practice these tips.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first tip to have better work relationships is to be genuinely interested in others.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may have heard this a lot, yet have you really committed to being very interested in others in practice?
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  SPEAKER_00: We all have really busy lives and it is so easy to get caught up with what we are doing, what problems we need to solve and what we are worrying about.
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  SPEAKER_00: And to forget to be really interested in what others are doing, thinking about or feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take time out of every day to focus on at least one other person at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't think about what is going on in your life, focus on what they're experiencing, thinking and feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make the time to get to really know them, their character, their hopes and dreams, their interests, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: Starting is really easy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask them about firstly where they're going on holiday, or what projects they're working on, or their interests outside of work, or where they grew up, or what was their best job before their current one and why, or what family they have.
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  SPEAKER_00: You may have heard the expression the most interesting person in the room is the person most interested in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I bet this really is true for you when you think about your experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask questions and listen attentively.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ask about professional matters and personal matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: If they don't open up, share your interests and aspirations first.
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  SPEAKER_00: Speak to others to find out about your target person's hobbies and then do a bit of research before speaking to them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Create talking points and find common points of interest, shared values or similar professional experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: Above all, demonstrate a genuine interest in them, their thoughts and their feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Jess Coles, and if you're new to this podcast, Enhanced Dot Training provides resources and courses for you to build management expertise and confidence to lead any team to their best performance.
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  SPEAKER_00: I coach senior managers and leaders in how to have better relationships with bosses, with peers and with team members, which unlocks greater professional success and promotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: To get personalised help to build great relationships with bosses and others, go to enhance.training or send me an email at support at enhance.training and I'll get back to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second tip to have better work relationships is to be easy to get along with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about those people you know that make it easy to be around them.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, what do they do to make you feel relaxed in their company?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of the actions they take probably include being warm and inviting to you, you know, friendly, smiling, positive and attentive.
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  SPEAKER_00: They look interested to see you and be with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They are probably relaxed and accepting of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: They want to hear what you think and accept your opinions even if they don't agree with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: They don't push their views onto you unduly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, they show flexibility and are open-minded.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fourth, they are not fussy, particular, rigid, closed-minded, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: i.e.
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  SPEAKER_00: not high maintenance individuals that take a lot of your energy to be with.
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  SPEAKER_00: How you behave towards others is your choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are in control of your reactions, what you say, and your attitude and mindset influences your nonverbal communication.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be positive, be interested in others and work on being easy to get along with.
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  SPEAKER_00: The third tip to have better work relationships is to be good at your job.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to be amazing at your job, but you do need to be average or above.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are below average at your job, you are a drag on your team members and colleagues.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need to work harder to carry you to reach team goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: This will create resentment, annoyance and anger over time, regardless of how nice you are as a person.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you are below average at your job, you have less influence, less appreciation, and less standing at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: All these factors mean having a good relationship with you is less valuable than putting that time into having better relationships with others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Make sure you are at least average at your job.
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  SPEAKER_00: The better you are at your job, the more others will want to build relationships with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be good at your job and build better relationships at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fourth tip to having better work relationships is to proactively help others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Helping others at work is huge for teamwork, for building influence, for creating a greater impact and for having better relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you help others, they feel obliged to help you in return.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even more importantly, when you help others, you create a lot of good feelings and positivity towards you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Helping others is a brilliant start for how to build professional relationships at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: To proactively help others, look out for opportunities too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Lend a helping hand so others can complete their work quicker or to a better standard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Second, give advice and share your expertise generously and openly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, encourage others so they build confidence and a can-do attitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fourth, offer to lend or share resources, particularly when it helps others complete tasks quicker.
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  SPEAKER_00: And fifth, use your influence to organize help for other people when they need it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of you might be thinking, you know, I have so much to do, I don't have time to help others.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you consistently help others, you will get more back in return.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can work at speed and suffer less delays in getting help and resources.
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  SPEAKER_00: You'll deliver more overall despite making time to help others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Proactively help others to create better work relationships.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fifth tip to have better relationships at work is to regularly encourage and praise others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think how you feel when you get genuine praise from bosses and colleagues.
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  SPEAKER_00: Pretty good, I hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving praise for good work done, good behaviour, good decisions made and good actions taken firstly shows you are taking notice of what others are doing and secondly shows you care about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are a manager or leader, giving praise in my view is an essential part of doing a good job.
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving praise reinforces the behaviours, actions, decisions, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: that you want to see happen more often.
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving praise encourages others and raises their confidence to take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Giving praise communicates your appreciation of them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Regularly giving praise and encouraging others is a brilliant way to have better relationships at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, in summary, having better relationships at work is massively beneficial to your ability to deliver more in a short space of time at any level.
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  SPEAKER_00: As you get promoted into management ranks, having strong relationships with a wide range of people is crucial for success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Having great relationships at work also makes life at work a lot more enjoyable.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was rubbish at building relationships to start with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through trial and error I worked out what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: A big part of my career success is down to being able to build influential relationships quickly and maintain relationships at work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now I coach senior managers and leaders in how to have better relationships with bosses, with peers and with team members, which unlocks greater professional success and promotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: To get personalised help to build great relationships with bosses and others, go to enhance.training or send me an email at support at enhance.training and I'll get back to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do put each of these tips and all the actions that I have shared with you into practice.
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  SPEAKER_00: This does take a bit of work and effort.
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  SPEAKER_00: The rewards and what you get back far outweigh what you put in.
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  SPEAKER_00: The five tips to have better work relationships are firstly be genuinely interested in others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Secondly, be easy to get along with.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, work to be good at your job.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fourth, proactively help others, and then fifth, regularly encourage and praise.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have any questions on the five tips to have better relationships at work, please email me at support at enhance.