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Happy Hour #79: The Comfort of Rewatching · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Stephan
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Speaker 1: I never told your production of iHeart Radio ed. Welcome
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Speaker 1: to another episode of Happy Hour in which we either
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Speaker 1: talk about something that we are just thinking about, watching
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Speaker 1: things and talking about that, or just you know, hanging out. Um,
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Speaker 1: and today it's my turn and I'm gonna do a
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Speaker 1: little bit of psychosis. So let's let's just think on
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Speaker 1: this for a minute. And Annie, I know you even
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Speaker 1: have plenty to say. You're gonna have plenty to say, um,
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Speaker 1: because we often talk about fiction and or shows, and
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Speaker 1: we obviously love movies and books. Because as part of
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Speaker 1: our series, of course, before we start that, just a reminder,
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Speaker 1: come at us. But today, what are you drinking? Annie?
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Speaker 1: I am drinking a simple vodka soda. Oh nice, because
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Speaker 1: I have some vodka or you normally don't, so I'm
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Speaker 1: mixing it up a little bit. Okay, okay, okay, And
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Speaker 1: I am kind of still on vacation mode and so
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Speaker 1: that means I'm very tired and alcohol makes me sleepy.
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Speaker 1: So I'm keeping it non alcoholic that today with just
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Speaker 1: some offee because I need to be alert in seltzer water.
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Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you just have to hold back today
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Speaker 1: that day. But also because I've been thinking about all
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Speaker 1: of the shows that we talked about. We We're going
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Speaker 1: to talk about so much more, I know in the future,
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Speaker 1: especially when it comes to like mommy issues and parent
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Speaker 1: issues and drama within families, because I've been something in
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Speaker 1: my head and how often these shows center around family
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Speaker 1: drama blah blah blah. Also the fact that I am
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Speaker 1: a serial rewatcher, to the fact that my partner comes in,
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Speaker 1: knows what I'm watching and probably has seen one segment
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Speaker 1: of a series ten times without ever seeing the entire
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Speaker 1: series or even a full episode at any point in time.
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Speaker 1: Like that's how often I do this. Um to the
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Speaker 1: point that when people tell me how much they rewatch
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Speaker 1: something that they love, like you and I have some
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Speaker 1: several shows common uh Lauren from uh Saver, your other
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Speaker 1: co host, your other other and I've talked about it
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Speaker 1: and she was shamefully tell me how much she watched something,
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Speaker 1: and I'd be like, yeah, me too, I've only watched
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Speaker 1: that many times. But I really think that's of course,
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Speaker 1: it's become bigger and bigger in conversation, especially during the pandemic.
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Speaker 1: You have a ritual which I have decided to take
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Speaker 1: part in since the beginning of the pandemic, Right, That's
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Speaker 1: why I started it. I was, it's kind of become
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Speaker 1: where so I know we've talked about this before, but
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Speaker 1: briefly before we get into the like the heart of
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Speaker 1: this conversation. I had this Sunday Sunday Sunday, which has
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Speaker 1: a long history, but during the pandemic, I turned it
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Speaker 1: into I'm going to watch the original Star Wars trilogy
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Speaker 1: every Sunday until the pandemic is over. So I started
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Speaker 1: in March I started March thirteenth, that weekend, um, and
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Speaker 1: I've been doing it since and I do stuff in
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Speaker 1: the background when they're on most of the time. But
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Speaker 1: I don't know when the pandemic will end. Now, I'm
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Speaker 1: like when window when do I say? Okay, I did
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Speaker 1: the thing that I found And originally I was going
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Speaker 1: to do a Star Wars place. It was all about
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Speaker 1: memorizing it, and then it became all that's the end
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Speaker 1: of the world is coming. I have to be able
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Speaker 1: to play these movies in my heads to memorize them.
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Speaker 1: So I don't know. I don't know what's gonna I
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Speaker 1: don't know the future of it all right, right, Which
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Speaker 1: is funny because we watched a movie that I had
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Speaker 1: never seen in my life and they actually have an
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Speaker 1: apocalyptic scene where they are redoing Star Wars as you
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Speaker 1: had talked about, yeah, which was not what at all
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Speaker 1: what I thought was going to be. I was like, oh,
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Speaker 1: this is what I was very confused by the premise
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Speaker 1: because to me, it was supposed to be in the
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Speaker 1: Middle Ages, and I'm like, oh, this is not. This
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Speaker 1: is apocalyptic with dragons. That's a new twist. It's an
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Speaker 1: interesting film, Okay, I'm both making a love twist. Um.
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Speaker 1: And I started thinking about that, and you know, it
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Speaker 1: became a funny tweet about how, yeah, my mental health
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Speaker 1: is pretty much reprised of baking bread and watching uh
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Speaker 1: The Office every day repeatedly um, And I was like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, me except for the bread making part.
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Speaker 1: I just sat watched things while I played games on
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Speaker 1: my phone. That's my that was my zone out moment.
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Speaker 1: And I always thought I was odd and I felt
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Speaker 1: a shame because there were moments of where is it
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Speaker 1: it's calculated how many times you've watched something, and I'm like, oh, no,
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Speaker 1: I don't need to see this. I don't I don't
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Speaker 1: need to see how many times I've seen this? But
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Speaker 1: thank you. But yeah, it's not unusual. As In fact,
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Speaker 1: they talked about in a Vogue article about why we
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Speaker 1: rewatched things UH that even though The Office ended in
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Speaker 1: it clocked over eighty seven million minutes of viewership in
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Speaker 1: twenty twenty alone during the pandemic UM, which was confirmed
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Speaker 1: by Nielsen, who does a lot of media statistics and
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Speaker 1: all of that. And I found that interesting. That made
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Speaker 1: me feel good because that was also one of the
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Speaker 1: shows that I would rewatch, which took me forever to
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Speaker 1: actually watch to begin with because I was made me
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Speaker 1: feel so awkward and so uncomfortable. But after I made
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Speaker 1: it through the first watch through, I knew when I
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Speaker 1: could fast forward or get up to get take breaks
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Speaker 1: because I knew how cringe e an episode would be interesting. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: this is how I do things. Well, no, because I
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Speaker 1: can't wait to compare You and I have a different
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Speaker 1: we'll talk about it, but yeah, we wait, should we should? Um?
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Speaker 1: But I found that very interesting because this is what
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Speaker 1: I do. I have a handful of shows and you
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Speaker 1: probably could name them that I rewatched consistently. I rewatched
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Speaker 1: it to go to bed. I uh, we watch it
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Speaker 1: while I'm stressed. I rewatched it to just sit and
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Speaker 1: zone out. Like it's so many times that you will
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Speaker 1: see me watch the same five shows, which my partner
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Speaker 1: doesn't do this, although he does have comfort movies, but
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Speaker 1: there's only a few that he has. UM. So I
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Speaker 1: always thought that I was odd for this, especially because
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Speaker 1: things like The Office does not politically age well, like
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Speaker 1: it's not politically correct, and there's a lot of moments
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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, they could not do this today,
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Speaker 1: and they shouldn't. And those are some of the cringe moments.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't watch that. I can't can't watch that.
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Speaker 1: And in that same Vogue article they talked about possibly
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Speaker 1: why and then having this conversation and talks about it
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Speaker 1: is unsurprising that we looked for security, familiarity and routine
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Speaker 1: and not everyday lives to gain a sense of control.
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Speaker 1: Sameness and repetition can help reduce anxiety, as we can
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Speaker 1: have an existing knowledge of how things are likely to
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Speaker 1: and in turn dial back uncertainty and worry. We can
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Speaker 1: watch what we know over and over again without any surprises,
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Speaker 1: there by giving us the control and predictability we need
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Speaker 1: in an unpredictable global situation, which is exactly right. Like,
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Speaker 1: that's definitely something that I think of constantly that I
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Speaker 1: know what to expect, which is also why I don't
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Speaker 1: like watching new things. I have to work up to
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Speaker 1: watching new things. M do you Okay, So this was
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Speaker 1: the thing I want to talk about. Yes, But I'm
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Speaker 1: also bad at I'm bad about I don't want to
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Speaker 1: be spoiled. If something is culturally relevant people are talking
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Speaker 1: about it, I want to watch it and be up
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Speaker 1: to date. But I also feel, and I've said this before,
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Speaker 1: like television is homework. Um So, I all of the
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Speaker 1: things I rewatched, none of them are TV shows because
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Speaker 1: to me, that that that's forever, Like what is it? Like?
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Speaker 1: I need it to end. I'm a completionist. A friend
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Speaker 1: of mine this weekend was like, I can see why
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Speaker 1: you can't play Open World games. You need like the beginning,
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Speaker 1: the end, and then it's done. Like if I can't
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Speaker 1: finish it within a day, no, so so things like,
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Speaker 1: um I did after you recommended it. I started only
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Speaker 1: murders in the building. This is what we do in
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Speaker 1: the shadows right now has a new season I love.
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Speaker 1: I love watching those, and I watched them the day
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Speaker 1: they come out. But I'm so bad at watching them
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Speaker 1: because I've been doing work or reading fan fiction or
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Speaker 1: so I'll watch them like two or three times in
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Speaker 1: a day the new episode because I probably missed like
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Speaker 1: a whole bit where I just got distracted. Um So,
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Speaker 1: I feel like that's an interesting difference between you and I.
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Speaker 1: But I do still have to, Like, if there's something
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Speaker 1: that people tell me I love, you'll love it. It's
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Speaker 1: five seasons long. I really have to work up to that.
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Speaker 1: I will do it, but it is I'm with you
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Speaker 1: there where I'm like, okay, okay, right, which is funny.
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Speaker 1: And the reason I rewatch longer series is because I
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Speaker 1: don't want it to end. The feeling of something ending
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Speaker 1: makes me feel like I've lost somebody or there's this
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Speaker 1: feeling of morning for whatever the show is is, or
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Speaker 1: the person or the characters, I am going through that.
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Speaker 1: So I watched The Flash, probably one of the only
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Speaker 1: series that I've watched consistently and on updated basis, meaning
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Speaker 1: like it just released its newest episodes. There's three of them,
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Speaker 1: but it just released its newest episode on Netflix. I
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Speaker 1: think it was filmed in two so actually updated. And
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Speaker 1: I'm very sad becaus to like, several of the main
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Speaker 1: characters are gone and they just gone and there's no
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Speaker 1: mention of them, and I'm like, this makes me so sad.
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Speaker 1: And I know, I know these people are actors and
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Speaker 1: this is not their lives, but to me, that's the
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Speaker 1: lives of this characters. Of course, we're gonna talk about
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Speaker 1: this in a minute too, but just about the fact
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Speaker 1: that they that these characters are gone makes the show
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Speaker 1: even sadder to me. And I know it's eventually going
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Speaker 1: to end, like you can feel it ending, like they
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Speaker 1: need to end because you don't want it to get
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Speaker 1: bad either. But at the same time, like there's this
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Speaker 1: morning and lost to it that I cannot stand, like
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Speaker 1: it it makes he feel empty. I'm not gonna lie supernatural, which,
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Speaker 1: by the way, some person was like, if you watch
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Speaker 1: this show, I don't trust you. I was like, there's
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Speaker 1: a lot of this problematic. There's so many things that
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Speaker 1: I'm ready to go down the rabbit hole. And I
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Speaker 1: have this conversation because I know the Dean Sam debate
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Speaker 1: is out there, and I still have like a fundamental,
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Speaker 1: like harsh list because I'm like, I get why Dean
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Speaker 1: is the favorite. We're not talking specifically about them, I
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Speaker 1: promise um. But at the same I'm like, he is
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Speaker 1: really problematic, Like he's abusive in every form of the way.
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Speaker 1: Like I get he's redeemable according to the fans, and
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Speaker 1: I love Dean. Don't don't come at me when people
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Speaker 1: gonna yell at me, But at the same time, he's
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Speaker 1: truly abusive the amount of punches, And I get it,
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Speaker 1: it's supposed to be him showing emotion, But why are
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Speaker 1: we okay when then showing violence and emotions like type
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Speaker 1: of thing. There's a lot of conversations we can have
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Speaker 1: on this too. Uh. But all of that to say,
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Speaker 1: like when these characters to me like go away or
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Speaker 1: when something abruptly is it makes me very very very
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Speaker 1: sad like to the point. And it may be because
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Speaker 1: I didn't love the way at the end of Hey,
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Speaker 1: I know, I'm not gonna argue about that. There's been
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Speaker 1: a lot of like feelings of the ending of shows
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Speaker 1: like Supernatural which have went out for like what fourteen years,
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Speaker 1: fifteen years, which is an obscenely long time that's not
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Speaker 1: a soap opera. Like the fact that they continued with
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Speaker 1: their main characters that long it's pretty significant, um, but
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Speaker 1: the fact that it went on that long, and for me,
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Speaker 1: the ending was so sad and I was like, I
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Speaker 1: can never watch, so I won't watch the last like
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Speaker 1: three episodes. I just keep starting it over again, like
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Speaker 1: that's who I was. I need to go back to
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Speaker 1: the nostalgia. Even though there's some very problematic episodes in
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Speaker 1: that series as well, there's so many problematic things that
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Speaker 1: I still enjoy. For my zoning out, which is a
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Speaker 1: whole different conversation but for me, it is that needing
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Speaker 1: to have that comfort of controlling what I can and
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Speaker 1: don't want to see. So if I don't want to
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Speaker 1: see a plotline, I fast forward, and because I know
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Speaker 1: it well enough, I know how long to fast forward.
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Speaker 1: Like it's kind of like one of those moments. Um
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Speaker 1: there and again, if I've said it so often, I
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Speaker 1: will re watch things just because I haven't seen it
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Speaker 1: in so long that I'm like, I have to watch
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Speaker 1: this because I forgot what this was. But also to that,
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Speaker 1: the article talks about the fact of the love of
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Speaker 1: the characters, and I thought it was interesting folks, as
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Speaker 1: people who struggle with expressing themselves often tend to take
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Speaker 1: on characteristics from the characters they love. Uh. These small
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Speaker 1: mechanisms can help you express emotions that have previously been
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Speaker 1: difficult to express. So I was like, hm, hmmm, I'm
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Speaker 1: pretty good about expressing myself. But at the same time,
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Speaker 1: this is the drama, the layer that's already been written
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Speaker 1: in a dialogue. I'm like, maybe I could say that
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Speaker 1: instead and taking on that persona I know for the
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Speaker 1: longest time, and she's full real, for real problematic. Um.
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Speaker 1: I did think I was a little a little like
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Speaker 1: Liz Lemon in Dirty Rock because at the very least,
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Speaker 1: like she was single, she was always running into issues
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Speaker 1: she had. She was a mess, and she was sarcastic,
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Speaker 1: and it wasn't about being cute. Looking back on it, like,
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Speaker 1: oh no, she was really anti women, even though she
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Speaker 1: was supposed to be feminist in her in her you know,
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Speaker 1: and she's an actual terrible person if you met her
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Speaker 1: in real life, like the overbearing boss who would never
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Speaker 1: give way, like give vacations anyway, whatever. But like I did,
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Speaker 1: I used her as someone was like, oh, look, she's
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Speaker 1: a leading girl to leading lady, and I could be
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Speaker 1: like her as well. Yeah. Yeah, And that's the conversation
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Speaker 1: We've had a lot um on this show, and it's
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Speaker 1: specifically with me with Trauma about why like I write
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Speaker 1: fan fiction and why I get upset when people don't
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Speaker 1: like our outright or mean about characters. Said, I like,
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Speaker 1: it's because it feels like you're attacking me at that point, um,
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Speaker 1: and because there's a reason I connect to them, and
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Speaker 1: if you are attacking that, it feels like you're jacking me,
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Speaker 1: which is not necessarity case. I know that, but it
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Speaker 1: does feel that way because I identify with these characters
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Speaker 1: so much, and for me, it's very helpful to express
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Speaker 1: our work through things because, as I've said before, I
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Speaker 1: think it's a self esteem thing almost where if I
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Speaker 1: love Leiah or Luke and they go through something that
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Speaker 1: I can relate to, and they go through it in
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Speaker 1: are you know able to continue their lives as a
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Speaker 1: functioning adults, then I can do it too like I can.
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Speaker 1: And it doesn't I don't look down on them for
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Speaker 1: going through this thing, whereas I might for myself. Um,
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Speaker 1: and that's you know, verging into more fan fiction and territory,
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Speaker 1: but it is something where I can just sit and
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Speaker 1: imagine about how they would interact in a certain situation
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Speaker 1: and it makes me feel better. I can write fan
15:52
Speaker 1: fiction about them in a certain situation that's really about
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Speaker 1: about me, and it makes me feel better. It's just
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Speaker 1: those connections you form with something or someone that feels
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Speaker 1: so comforting. Yeah. The Atlantic has an article about it
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Speaker 1: as well, and they wrote watching something again and again
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Speaker 1: seems like it would make entertainment loses an initial pill.
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Speaker 1: But psychologists have found that reputation, reads affection, familiar fair
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Speaker 1: requires less mental energy to process, and when that when
16:34
Speaker 1: something is easy to think about, we tend to consider
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Speaker 1: it good. So the idea that repetition makes it easier
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Speaker 1: for us to process and think about. And then also
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Speaker 1: it becomes something that's a part of us. It brings
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Speaker 1: in an affection to it, and I think that's perfect.
16:49
Speaker 1: Apparently there is a scientific term for this, and it's
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Speaker 1: mere exposure effect. So that's a that's a whole of
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Speaker 1: the conversation in itself. But yeah, you grow to love
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Speaker 1: these characters, you grow to like have some ownership of
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Speaker 1: as characters, which we've talked about in our episodes about fandoms. Um,
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Speaker 1: I feel the same way. So initially I was going
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Speaker 1: to talk about Once Was Upon a Time, which is
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Speaker 1: that whole drama series based on fairy tales, and how
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Speaker 1: much I just really loved it, Like it becomes enough
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Speaker 1: of drama, but then also all the family appeal that
17:19
Speaker 1: it's kind of like oh, and then all the fantasy
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Speaker 1: appeal that I'm like, all, there we go, and then
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Speaker 1: so many of the women come rising up being their
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Speaker 1: own heroes type of thing. You're like, yeah, yeah, very cheesy.
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Speaker 1: I love it. Um, I still love it to this
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Speaker 1: day and I still rewatch it. But it also talks
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Speaker 1: about just being able to heal, and just being able
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Speaker 1: to be angry, and just being able to grow, like
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Speaker 1: all of these things, and that's why I love fantasy
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Speaker 1: series to that level. I have used to love really
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Speaker 1: dark and dystopian type of series movies. I can't do
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Speaker 1: that as much anymore. I don't know. Maybe I'm just tired.
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Speaker 1: Maybe it's just like tired of crying. Who knows, but like,
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Speaker 1: those are the shows and movies that I find a
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Speaker 1: peece link for me. But at the same time, those
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Speaker 1: are the things that I find comforting. That is my hug,
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Speaker 1: that is my blanket, that is my cup of tea,
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Speaker 1: which we've done comfort series and some people like yourself
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Speaker 1: and as we know, our friend Marissa like sad movies
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Speaker 1: and I still don't at that. But that's okay. I
18:19
Speaker 1: know sometimes you just need a good cry. Yeah yeah,
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Speaker 1: But I thought it was something to look down and
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Speaker 1: I did want to see if this was more of
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Speaker 1: like a gender thing. I couldn't find any articles, So
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Speaker 1: if someone out there has some knowledge of that, please
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Speaker 1: let us know, because I feel like, again, maybe it's
18:36
Speaker 1: just been people around me. Most of the dudes in
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Speaker 1: my life. I can't understand why I do this, and
18:43
Speaker 1: most of the women in my life or who link
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Speaker 1: linked them know why I do this and empathize with
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Speaker 1: me in such a great capacity that it feels gendered.
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I have a similar experience, and there's
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Speaker 1: some in some ways I think makes sense because we've
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Speaker 1: talked before about how, at least when we did that episode,
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Speaker 1: women prefer horror movies compared to men, and that's one
19:06
Speaker 1: of the theories is because women have a lot more
19:09
Speaker 1: constant anxieties and fears as compared to men. So it
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Speaker 1: could be something like that. It could be that it
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Speaker 1: expresses itself differently. I know this is probably a stretch.
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Speaker 1: I'd have to look into it. One of the reasons
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Speaker 1: I like to rewatch things over and over is because
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Speaker 1: I feel like I have to be doing something, like
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Speaker 1: I have to multitask. I have to multitesk even if
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Speaker 1: I don't want a multitask. So if I just want
19:35
Speaker 1: to read fan fiction or work on D and D,
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Speaker 1: that's not enough. So I put on Star Wars because
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Speaker 1: then I'm watching Star Wars, but I'm also doing this,
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Speaker 1: like I have to have that, and I know women
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Speaker 1: are are at least again this is old, older episode,
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Speaker 1: but we did one, and women are more likely to
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Speaker 1: multitask because they feel too guilty about just doing the
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Speaker 1: one thing. And then for me, there's definitely like I mean,
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Speaker 1: you've seen it. I feel like a dopamine hit when
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Speaker 1: I'm like watch these things, like but here's the music,
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Speaker 1: here's it's far, here is this, and it's just like
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Speaker 1: it's I wonder if there's any studies on I bet
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Speaker 1: there is, because there was a lot of looking into
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Speaker 1: nostalgia and the effective nostalgia for a while. So I'm
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Speaker 1: just curious about that. And also I would like to
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Speaker 1: find statistics about what are the things people rewatch the
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Speaker 1: most right, Um, you know what they do talk about
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Speaker 1: the fact that the nostalgia is a reason for people
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Speaker 1: to binge watch. This Atlantic article talks about it is
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Speaker 1: saying that it's nice to remember the past merely because
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Speaker 1: it's the past. Uh, And and they talk about it
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Speaker 1: a little deeper, but I think it's for like they
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Speaker 1: talk about several reasons familiarity, nostalgia, just remembering the good
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Speaker 1: old days. And I'm maybe like one of those people.
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Speaker 1: That's why I loved musical so much, not because I
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Speaker 1: remember those days, but I want to know what those
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Speaker 1: days were like, and it seems so golden and amazing
20:53
Speaker 1: at the same time, like I am Asian that in
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Speaker 1: my world, but in my mind it's so glamorous and
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Speaker 1: beautiful and you know, all of the spectrovision type of
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Speaker 1: level of colors, that cinematic level, that's what I would
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Speaker 1: think of. But then again we kind of know that
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Speaker 1: that's the the s guided reality of like Hollywood makes
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Speaker 1: it what it wants to be, right, but nostalgia but
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Speaker 1: at the same time, like watching movies about the eighties,
21:19
Speaker 1: watching things about friendship, it still gets to me. Um
21:24
Speaker 1: so now and Then was one of my favorite movies
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Speaker 1: because it kind of it was supposed to be like
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Speaker 1: I think, post Vietnam War, but there's still some nostalgia
21:31
Speaker 1: to that being with your friends and doing all these
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Speaker 1: like things and like rituals and having these secrets and
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Speaker 1: knowing that you had one or two of you were
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Speaker 1: the best friend of my group. Like it was so
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Speaker 1: reminiscent to so many things, it still is nostalgic to me. Yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I think I think they're the comfort of knowing how
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Speaker 1: something ends, the comfort of like being able to just
21:55
Speaker 1: immerse yourself in the kind of the safety aspect of Okay,
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Speaker 1: I got this, and I think also it manifests in
22:01
Speaker 1: different ways because I totally get why the office was
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Speaker 1: a big one when we were told you can't go
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Speaker 1: to the office anymore. Like. But for me, it's like, oh,
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Speaker 1: it's in space and this other like I don't have
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Speaker 1: to deal that's not reality. And I know they're gonna
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Speaker 1: be happy. That's why I like the end of Return
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Speaker 1: of the the Jedi. It seems like everything's gonna be happy,
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Speaker 1: and then you throw everything else in there and it's not.
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Speaker 1: So I like to Preston, it's just in coloset space.
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Speaker 1: But I I tell it makes sense. It makes perfect
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Speaker 1: sense to me, and it makes perfect sense like the
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Speaker 1: way you do it versus the way I do it.
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Speaker 1: It's it's really interesting and I'm glad you prop this
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Speaker 1: because sometimes I also feel embarrassed. But it's just forty something.
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Speaker 1: The old woman was like, I still we watch these
22:41
Speaker 1: same shows. I love it, you know, do what we
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Speaker 1: can to get by and to feel comforted and happy,
22:53
Speaker 1: happy thing, comfortable thing self care. Yes, yes, indeed. Well,
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