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Self-Love: Positive Morning Motivation to Start Your Day Right · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: How much do you love yourself? Because if you understand
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  Speaker 1: the value of self love, you'll never be friends with
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  Speaker 1: those type of people. Most of the people out here
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  Speaker 1: are running around empty. They have no sense of self,
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  Speaker 1: no sense of self love.
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  Speaker 2: When I say self.
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  Speaker 1: Love, it has nothing to do with celebrity, money, materialistic things,
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  Speaker 1: and all of the things that your negative mind could.
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  Speaker 3: Probably go to.
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  Speaker 1: Has nothing to do with self love, has nothing to
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  Speaker 1: do with looks, nothing to do with cars, and any
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  Speaker 1: of the superficial things that one would assume that could
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  Speaker 1: make you love yourself even more. It's a matter of
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  Speaker 1: knowing your value. It's a matter of of you saying
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to be around these people in these
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  Speaker 1: type of environments and situations in order for me to
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  Speaker 1: finally see the value in myself. I love me independent
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  Speaker 1: of you loving me. I believe in me, I know
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  Speaker 1: my self worth, I am here and I have a purpose.
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  Speaker 1: There is no value and having wisdom, knowledge, insight, spirituality,
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  Speaker 1: love every day. I am a work in progress.
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  Speaker 4: A person who can forgive nothing is a person who's
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  Speaker 4: totally destroyed psychologically and emotionally. Forgive your parents, forgive any
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  Speaker 4: relationship that you ever had that didn't work out. Forgive
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  Speaker 4: everyone else in your life that has ever hurt you
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  Speaker 4: in any way way, forgive yourself.
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  Speaker 5: Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could
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  Speaker 5: be any different.
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  Speaker 6: I think for myself, and I know many of you.
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  Speaker 5: You think forgiving.
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  Speaker 6: Means accepting what has happened to you. Well, it is
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  Speaker 6: accepting that it has happened to you, not accepting that
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  Speaker 6: it was okay for it to happen. It is accepting
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  Speaker 6: that it has happened, and.
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  Speaker 5: Now what do I do about it? Forgiving is giving
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  Speaker 5: up the hope, not holding on hoping, wishing that it
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  Speaker 5: could have been any other way than it actually was,
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  Speaker 5: giving up the hope that the past could be any different.
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  Speaker 5: And when I got that, I think it took me
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  Speaker 5: to the next level of being a better person because
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  Speaker 5: I don't hold grudges for anything or any.
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  Speaker 7: Situation, and neither should you.
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  Speaker 5: It's letting go so that the past does not hold
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  Speaker 5: you prisoner.
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  Speaker 6: Does not hold you hostage.
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  Speaker 3: See life is cyclic.
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  Speaker 8: You're not whatever experience you're having right now, it has
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  Speaker 8: not come to stay. It has come to pass, not
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  Speaker 8: to stay, just to pass. It's just going through the
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  Speaker 8: biggest challenge is is to know what's happening, This is
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  Speaker 8: a part of this thing we call life, This too
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  Speaker 8: shall pass, and maintaining perspective, putting it in perspective.
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  Speaker 9: You have to be willing to break from the past
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  Speaker 9: to have the future you so desperately desire. You have
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  Speaker 9: to have the courage to allow yourself to honor the
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  Speaker 9: past as it was, to forgive those who need to
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  Speaker 9: be forgiven, to forgive yourself, and to acknowledge that everything
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  Speaker 9: led you to this point.
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  Speaker 8: Now everything, let it go and begin to focus on
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  Speaker 8: developing myself. And I say to you, you're going to
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  Speaker 8: have people to do things to you. Things are going
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  Speaker 8: to happen to you, and the most important thing to
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  Speaker 8: do is to harness your will and let it go
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  Speaker 8: and move so you can grow, so you can get
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  Speaker 8: on with your life. It doesn't matter about what happens
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  Speaker 8: to you. What matters is what are you going to
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  Speaker 8: do about it?
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  Speaker 3: What are you going to do now?
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  Speaker 2: Less?
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  Speaker 8: But if you want to begin to move into your
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  Speaker 8: own person no greatness, if you want to begin to
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  Speaker 8: really enjoy a happy, successful, healthy life, you've got to
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  Speaker 8: be willing to go against the tide. You've got to
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  Speaker 8: be willing to harness your will. So as you're in
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  Speaker 8: the process of reinventing your life, write a description of
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  Speaker 8: the kind of person that you want to be. What
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  Speaker 8: are the things that you must overcome? What qualities about
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  Speaker 8: your personality you know that you're going to have to
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  Speaker 8: change because those particular characteristics are liabilities to you. What
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  Speaker 8: are your assets, what are your strong points? Look at
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  Speaker 8: and evaluating yourself to make that determination. The other thing
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  Speaker 8: is that in order to get out of a wret,
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  Speaker 8: we need some coaching. Find some trusted critics, people that
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  Speaker 8: you know care about you, love you. Says Some things
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  Speaker 8: that keeps us from growing and getting out of ruts
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  Speaker 8: M one we identify with feedback.
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  Speaker 3: We take it.
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  Speaker 8: Personal when someone want to give us some feedback on
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  Speaker 8: where we are falling short and tell us about our
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  Speaker 8: blind spots. We want to have everything being positive about us.
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  Speaker 3: We're not perfect. It hurts.
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  Speaker 8: I have a friend who's a trusted critic. I don't
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  Speaker 8: like him, but I love him. He doesn't tell me
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  Speaker 8: the things I want to hear. He tell me what
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  Speaker 8: I need to hear so I can grow.
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  Speaker 7: It hurts.
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  Speaker 8: It hurts when he put me on the hot seat.
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  Speaker 3: I can't stand it.
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  Speaker 8: But that's the only way that I can grow. And
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  Speaker 8: I'm glad that he loves me enough to risk our
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  Speaker 8: friendship to tell me what I need to hear, not
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  Speaker 8: what I want to hear.
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  Speaker 9: High performers are not dissatisfied strivers. They're not They're happy.
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  Speaker 9: High performers are happier than their peers. We all believe
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  Speaker 9: that to get the top, it's going to be lonely
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  Speaker 9: the top, and we all believe you to grind and
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  Speaker 9: kill yourself to get there, and that's completely wrong, and
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  Speaker 9: the data proves that worldwide, which is I think just
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  Speaker 9: overcoming a lot of people's biases about how you work
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  Speaker 9: today because right now, especially today, like you know, grind
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  Speaker 9: on social media is so popular, or hustle or hustle.
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  Speaker 9: And by the way, none of the top fifteen percent
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  Speaker 9: of high performers worldwide identify with those words. They literally don't.
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  Speaker 9: We asked them, We did a whole keyword analysis. Yep,
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  Speaker 9: this is actually pretty cool, and high performers explicitly say
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  Speaker 9: these are the three driving feelings. If we said there
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  Speaker 9: was a high performance state, it's driven from these three things.
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  Speaker 9: Number one full engagement, Number two joy, Yes, and number
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  Speaker 9: three confidence, that's what they relate with. Okay, that's where
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  Speaker 9: it's coming from. It's a joyous journey, not a dissatisfied one.
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  Speaker 9: And I have this conversation in the book because I
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  Speaker 9: kind of maybe frame it this way. Each of these
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  Speaker 9: chapters opens with a vignette of somebody I worked with
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  Speaker 9: or a situation that I was in demonstrate a high performance.
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  Speaker 9: In this particular situation, I'm walking on a stage thousands
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  Speaker 9: of people after a very famous musician was out there
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  Speaker 9: and was telling the audience that that person's secret to success.
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  Speaker 9: Member thousands of people. Yes, their secret to their whole speech,
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  Speaker 9: their secret to success was never settle, Never settle. Nothing
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  Speaker 9: is enough, Never settle, and never be satisfied. Never be satisfied,
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  Speaker 9: Always demand more. And I'm like, oh, my second slide,
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  Speaker 9: which is gonna be on Jumbo troms in like eighty
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  Speaker 9: point text, was strive satisfied. I'm like, oh, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 9: have to dispel this for all these thousands of people.
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  Speaker 10: I was totally freaked out.
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  Speaker 9: Yeah, but what I had to explain to people was
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  Speaker 9: not only the data, but it's this, if you're never satisfied,
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  Speaker 9: I mean, what is it true that life is precious.
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  Speaker 9: If it's true that life is precious and you could
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  Speaker 9: be gone tomorrow, do you really want I think, you
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  Speaker 9: know what, I just never felt fulfilled. I never allowed
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  Speaker 9: myself to have a moment of credit. I never allowed
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  Speaker 9: myself to have a moment of peace. I never allowed
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  Speaker 9: myself to look at that and say.
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  Speaker 8: Good job.
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  Speaker 9: That's not the way to live life. I think, just
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  Speaker 9: at a spiritual level, it's a bad move. And this
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  Speaker 9: book doesn't really go in a lot of that. It's
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  Speaker 9: more about the science and the heart stuff. But I
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  Speaker 9: think it's really important that people realize your job is
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  Speaker 9: to strive satisfying, and if you strive satisfied more often,
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  Speaker 9: you will be more of a high performer. And if
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  Speaker 9: you never give yourself credit, you're always beating up on yourself.
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  Speaker 9: You're always thinking that's not perfect enough. Then what's going
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  Speaker 9: to happen? Dissatisfied people burn out and they quit more
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  Speaker 9: often than satisfied strikers. So take joy in the moment,
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  Speaker 9: engage with what you're doing, allow credit and satisfaction and
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  Speaker 9: joy to come in. You can always be improving, of course,
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  Speaker 9: but proving be improving joyfully. Yes, if you're improving joyfully.
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  Speaker 1: Then you're learning.
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  Speaker 9: You feel curious, you feel engaged, the joy is there.
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  Speaker 9: You'll get more confident because you're like, I'm gonna learn
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  Speaker 9: through this anyway. This is gonna be great because you
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  Speaker 9: know this thing is all over social media right now
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  Speaker 9: that you know, grind work whatever, And I'm like, it's
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  Speaker 9: just it's popular, and I see why that happens, and
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  Speaker 9: I see why it's catchy. It's just not scientifically valid.
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  Speaker 2: Stop scaring yourself. How often do you terrorize yourself with
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  Speaker 2: your own thoughts? You get into absolute terror, and it's
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  Speaker 2: only coming from your thoughts. Nobody out there is doing
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  Speaker 2: a thing. Sometimes it's an old family pattern. Sometimes we
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  Speaker 2: get new things. I would like people, when you have
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  Speaker 2: time to make a list of your fears. Make a
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  Speaker 2: list of your fears, and then give yourself the opportunity
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  Speaker 2: to turn each fear into a positive affirmation, turn each
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  Speaker 2: one into something positive, and remember always you.
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  Speaker 11: Are in charge.
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  Speaker 2: You are always in charge. See one idle thought doesn't
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  Speaker 2: make a whole lot of difference. Thoughts are like drops
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  Speaker 2: of water. You drop a drop of water and it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't mean much. But if you keep dropping and keep dropping,
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  Speaker 2: you get a puddle on the floor, and then you
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  Speaker 2: can get a little pond and a lake and find
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  Speaker 2: that you can create an ocean. And with our own thoughts,
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  Speaker 2: we can drown in a sea of negativity or we
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  Speaker 2: can float on the ocean of life.
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  Speaker 10: And it's up to us.
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  Speaker 2: The thoughts we think accumulate, and what sort of puddles
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  Speaker 2: are you standing in? Or are you up to here?
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  Speaker 2: Or are you up to here trying to paddle? You know,
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  Speaker 2: what are you doing to yourself? When we're willing to
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  Speaker 2: change our thinking, we can change our experiences. And it
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  Speaker 2: doesn't matter if you've got a big puddle of negative thoughts,
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  Speaker 2: you know you can move over here and create a
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  Speaker 2: puddle of mindless positive thoughts. You can make changes always,
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  Speaker 2: So you want to turn those fear thoughts into positive affirmations,
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  Speaker 2: let them work for you.
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  Speaker 3: When we think we are unworthy, it means that for
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  Speaker 3: some reason, we believe that we have to prove we
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  Speaker 3: have a right to our space on the planet in
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  Speaker 3: life as we are, being who we are, and that
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  Speaker 3: means that we will do all manner of wonderfulness to
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  Speaker 3: prove we deserve to be here. And usually with some
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  Speaker 3: of the common things are. We overcommit, overgive, we overdo,
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  Speaker 3: we over excuse, we overcompensate, and we stay in difficult,
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  Speaker 3: desperate hurt for harmful situations much longer than it is
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  Speaker 3: wise or productive to do so. Worth what it is
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  Speaker 3: that you expect from the world in response to who
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  Speaker 3: you are. It's very different from value self. Value means
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  Speaker 3: how you hold yourself within yourself and what you expect
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  Speaker 3: as a result. Now in order to get to the worth,
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  Speaker 3: If you're not holding yourself within yourself as worthy, then
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  Speaker 3: what you expect from the world is surely gonna hurt you.
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  Speaker 10: This is what you're gonna do. You are literally going
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  Speaker 10: to dump out everything that's in your head onto this
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  Speaker 10: piece of paper, every concern, every worry, every to do
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  Speaker 10: everything that's bothering you that you're thinking about.
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  Speaker 11: For some people especially, they're just experiencing way too much pressure,
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  Speaker 11: and that pressure a lot of times, it's just an
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  Speaker 11: imbalance and perspective and discipline as a matter of the
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  Speaker 11: imposition of order, and the order is necessary, especially for
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  Speaker 11: people who are hopeless and nihilistic.
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  Speaker 12: Your work is going to fill a large part of
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  Speaker 12: your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied
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  Speaker 12: is to do what you believe is greatly.
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  Speaker 13: Most people do it for survivor you tell we need
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  Speaker 13: to feed up families, we need to survive. It's okay,
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  Speaker 13: we have to do it. But to wake up with,
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  Speaker 13: you know, my feet and my fingers dingly and say, wow,
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  Speaker 13: I have this to do, have that to do today,
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  Speaker 13: and it's an amazing feeling. And I don't take it
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  Speaker 13: for granted.
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  Speaker 10: You're going to have a hard time thinking about all
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  Speaker 10: the options and you're going to be really attached emotionally.
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  Speaker 3: So all of us know.
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  Speaker 9: That I can get over here.
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  Speaker 2: But over here, man.
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  Speaker 1: This is much greater because I've got to go.
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  Speaker 9: Through this journey that is not fun. This from twenty
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  Speaker 9: to hards to for sit in between is not fun.
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  Speaker 11: Discomfort is your friend. It really is like discomfort and
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  Speaker 11: not being happy and content with certain situations in life,
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  Speaker 11: with certain feelings in life. They're massive, massive motivators, and
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  Speaker 11: they're they're amazing at facilitating change.
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  Speaker 12: Everything else is second. Were the words stay hungry, stay foolish.
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  Speaker 12: It was their farewell message as they signed off, Stay hungry,
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  Speaker 12: stay foolish, and I always wish that myself.
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  Speaker 3: Well, it is scatty.
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  Speaker 13: I want long we say that, you know, especially business,
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  Speaker 13: because it's a very scary place to be in. It changes,
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  Speaker 13: it goes ups and down. They ask so many ups
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  Speaker 13: and downs. To be successful. You have to be able
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  Speaker 13: to walk away from a deal. You have to if
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  Speaker 13: you wanted bad enough. The people are and I give
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  Speaker 13: it to you at MS.
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  Speaker 7: You know, if you think it sucks when it's bad,
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  Speaker 7: you have losing pessimistic DNA, and if you think it's
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  Speaker 7: awesome and phenomenal, you have optimistic winning DNA.
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  Speaker 12: And I believe that to be true.
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  Speaker 5: And so that's a wrap.
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  Speaker 9: That's why people got to understand what is in us?
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  Speaker 7: We have no idea until we start trying.
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  Speaker 2: Hard is it?
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  Speaker 11: Is it as enjoyable as it can be? And we
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  Speaker 11: all know that there's a spectrum for that enjoyability. Like
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  Speaker 11: we've all had times in our life where it's not
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  Speaker 11: been so great and then times in a life where
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  Speaker 11: everything came.
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  Speaker 9: Together like what a fucking great day? Like make more
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  Speaker 9: of those.
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  Speaker 8: And the discipline part you don't hear a lot about.
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  Speaker 13: That's the things people do when nobody will sees.
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  Speaker 9: That's when you win.