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Ep 66 - Divine Discontentment and Learning to Hear God's Voice | Charity Majors · UNMASKED with Wesley Farnsworth

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What if the restlessness you've been trying to silence isn't a
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problem to fix, but an invitation from God to step into
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more? Today on Unmasked, we're talking
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about divine discontentment, hearing God's voice with
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clarity, and what it really looks like to live a prophetic
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life that impacts both faith and culture.
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Welcome to Unmasked, where we take off the filters and get
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real about faith, failure, and finding freedom.
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I'm your host, Wesley Farnsworth, a dad, veteran,
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author, and a man who's learned that God does his best work in
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the middle of our mess. Each episode will have honest
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conversations with people who have walked through addiction,
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pain, or doubt, and with pastors, leaders, and everyday
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believers who are learning to live and lead authentically.
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So take a breath, pull up a chair, and let's get real.
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This is unmasked. Today's guest is Charity Majors,
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A prophetic voice best selling author and ministry leader who
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helps believers translate spiritual insight into real
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world impact. As a founder of Meant for More
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Ministries, Charity equips high capacity leaders to develop
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spiritual intelligence, or SQ, so that they can discern God's
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voice, understand the language of the Spirit, and lead with
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supernatural clarity in both ministry and the marketplace.
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With more than 15 years of leadership experience and a
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message forged through deep loss, growth, and obedience,
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Charity of Bridge bridges the gap between spiritual activation
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and cultural influence. Her latest book, Language of the
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Spirit, challenges believers to stop settling for good enough
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and step fully into the calling that we were created for.
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Whether speaking to entrepreneurs, pastors, or
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everyday believers, Charity's heart is to help people
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recognize that feeling stuck may actually be God's invitation
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into their meant for more season.
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I got through it. Holy cow, Charity, thanks so
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much for joining us here today on Unmasked and being willing to
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Share your story with the audience.
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Hey Wes, thanks for having me. I'm excited to connect and just
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to love on your audience and a poor end to them today, so
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thanks for having me. Absolutely, I am looking forward
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to it. So I guess without further ado,
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why don't you give us a glimpse into your, your upbringing and
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kind of how your your life has kind of unfolded to get to where
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we are today. Yeah, well, I think I just want
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to if you're it's OK with you and for the listeners, if we
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just want to dive right into into the deep end of the middle
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of one of my many messes and what I it's also what I like to
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call my meant for more moment. I actually have a podcast as
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well. It's called meant for more.
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So shout out to fellow podcasters and people that are
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called to be a voice and help shape the narrative of culture.
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But one of my meant for more moments actually started in this
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is almost 10 years ago and I just remember sitting on the
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cold tile in the on my bathroom floor, ugly crying and my
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husband and I, we were journeying through.
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But I like to call. I'm sure you've heard this
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before, but it was the dark night of the soul for us.
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We were in a deep season of lost.
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I lost my grandpa and then my grandma 19 days later.
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And there were some people who I admired.
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I was a grandpa's girl. They really helped raise me.
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And and then shortly after that, we journeyed through the loss of
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a child. And it was one of the deepest,
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darkest seasons. That brought up the big
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questions of, you know, I just remember sitting on my bathroom
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floor with, you know, tears running down my face and asking
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God, why me? Why us?
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Why this baby? Why this dream?
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And it like, why am I even here? And are you even good?
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And it just brought up these big these big questions that I was
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really seeking the answers for in one of the deepest, darkest
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seasons of my life. And, and I just remember sitting
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there and in the middle of in the middle of my mess, in the
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middle of my brokenness, in the middle of my shame, the presence
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of God, he just came and he met me and he wrapped, he wrapped
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around me like what it says in Psalms.
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The wrap around presence of the Holy Spirit came and comforted
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me. And it felt like a warm blanket
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on the, you know, in the midst of that cold bathroom tile and
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in the midst of all of my brokenness, that I felt like my
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body was broken, that our, you know, our future was broken.
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Our hopes and dreams were broken.
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He actually didn't try and fix me.
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And in the midst of my shame and in the midst of hot feeling so
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alone, he didn't give me a seven step to get out of my stuff.
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He actually revealed himself and gave me a deeper revelation of
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who he was. And it was in that season,
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actually, I, I mean, I don't wish that, you know, loss on
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anyone and that kind of a season on anyone.
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And looking back after going through grief counseling and
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trauma counseling and inner healing and pastoral care, and,
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you know, just really processing that loss with, with the Lord
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and with friends and with healthy community, There's such
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a beautiful gift that came out of that really hard season.
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And besides the closeness of the Lord, like I feel like there is,
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there are seasons where the closeness of, of his presence
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can only be found in the wilderness.
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It can only be found in the hardest of places.
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He began to give me this unique perspective that we are actually
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all here on purpose so he doesn't make mistakes, that
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there are millions of pieces and parts that have to come together
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for life to be sustained. And so Wes, it's not a mistake
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that you're here. It's not a mistake that I'm
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here. It's not a mistake that even you
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as a listener, that you're here. You know, God doesn't make
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mistakes. And he had this dream for each
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of us in his heart. And he said yes.
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And all of history, you know, as he peers over all of the
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timeline, all, you know, all, all of eternities, that actually
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this is a dream. This is a heaven sent solution
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that I'm going to send to the earth.
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I'm going to put some skin on it.
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I'm going to wrap a dream around it and I'm going to send this to
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earth. And and so there was something
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in me that walked out of that season with a deep, deep
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conviction of the miracle that every single one of us is and
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the destiny that each one of us carries.
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And I think there's a lot of times that people we can teach
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what we know, but we can actually impart what we've
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experienced. And, you know, there's a lot of
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university professors who are, you know, teaching about
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business who have never had a business.
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And it's very different than when you actually learn from
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someone who has actually lived what they're teaching and lived
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what they have experienced and they're imparting that wisdom
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and they're imparting that part of their journey.
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And so for me, this is actually where it kind of the meant for
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more movement and message was built.
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And from there, my book and podcast and some, you know, it's
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just ministry type things and, and went through a season where
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God really revealed himself to me and his voice.
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And it really it just unlocked this whole, this whole learning
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the language of the spirit. So that was kind of dive right
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into the middle of my mess instead of a whole background
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story. But besides that, I'm a
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recovering plant killer. I can officially keep plants
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alive, but I'm a a wife and a mom and a lover of Jesus, and I
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will waste my life at the at the foot, at the feet of Jesus and
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equipping believers to recognize and to respond to His voice so
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that they can live in their God-given identity and walk in
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their destiny to make earth more like heaven.
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I love that, you know, it's one of the things that I say and I
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matter of fact, I say it during the introduction of this show is
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God does his best work in the middle of our mess because it's
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and when we're in the middle of our mess is the moment that we
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are most likely to realize, Hey, I can't do this.
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Like I'm I literally, literally am powerless.
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I need you to take over and and we turn to the control over to
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the father and we allow him to to take control.
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And we start to realize that, hey, life is better when he's in
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control. But then you then you have the
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day-to-day fight of releasing control because it's, you know,
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we get to the other side of the mess and we're like, OK, now I'm
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going to take control back. You know, thanks, I got it from
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here. And then mess ends up happening
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again, right. So it's a day.
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It's a day-to-day, moment by moment decision to release
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control and just let him drive the bus because he knows where
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we're going better than we do. Yeah, for sure.
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That definitely is a daily surrender and a daily yielding
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to his leadership over over our own and that can be so hard
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sometimes. Yeah, can indeed.
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You know you you talk about divine discontentment, and so
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how can you tell the difference between holy restlessness and
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unhealthy dissatisfaction? This is such a good question,
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the holy restlessness or the discontentment.
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So I like to, I like to talk about or I like to call this
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like the, the pace of grace. And we can kind of tell when
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there's grace on something versus when we are forcing
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something or trying to muscle and make something happen.
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Now I'll give you an example. So actually about a year, a year
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and a half ago, I started to sense that there was grace that
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was shifting in my life. I was in business.
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I had a a nationwide company that we did networking groups
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for women in business. And I loved it.
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And it was a secular company, you know, but I snuck in, like,
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Kingdom principles in there and like, my hope and prayer over
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every single networking group we were in, you know, different
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markets and different chapters around the nation was, you know,
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among women as it is in heaven and in business as it is in
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heaven. You know, we called it, you
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know, part of our culture. We had different, you know,
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secular words as far as like, yeah.
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And a culture of empowerment and collaboration and all this
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stuff. But it's like these Kingdom
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values, they get to sneak in there.
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So definitely marketplace ministry.
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And I had started to sense the shifting of grace.
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Now grace is this supernatural empowerment of the Spirit of God
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where it just is like doors are open.
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You like things are they they are easy as far as you are
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excited. You're lit up like you can do
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something and it is taking you, you know, like what, what might
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take other people a long time to do.
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You just like you, even even if it's hard, like you enjoy the
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hard you enjoy the grit of it like you're willing to suffer or
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to be in the grit, if you will, when God's grace is there and
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when God's grace shifts, it's interesting if you start to
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recognize like doors start to close it.
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It almost is like like at energy like starts to get like sucked
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out of the assignment or sucked out of the room at things that
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used to be easy a month ago, three months ago, six months
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ago, start to get hard and they start, you start to like dread
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and you start to just like it. It just what used to come easy
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does not come easy anymore. And it's because God is like
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starting to shift where his grace is going.
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And so this divine discontentment starts to happen
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when it when we start to actually recognize that the
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grace of God is shifting for a season or for an assignment.
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Now there is the so the difference of what this divine
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discontentment compared to this like although maybe I'm not
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feeling good enough or I'm comparing myself to other people
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and their season and this worldly.
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What was the word that you called it?
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The unhealthy dissatisfaction. The unhealthy dissatisfaction is
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that the we can actually start to slip into comparison.
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So for example, like I'm, I'm a mom and obviously like my season
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is very, very different with where God has me currently
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compared to other people who maybe they're going faster or
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farther or they are doing way more stuff and they're doing all
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this, all that, all these things, but they don't have
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kids. Their season is very, very
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different. And so this dissatisfaction is
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unhealthy. Dissatisfaction can come into
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when we have comparison. It can come into when we feel
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like we're not enough, when we feel like our assignment should
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be there as we start to should all over ourselves compared to
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actually aligning with the season that God has us in and
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the assignment that he has us in for that season.
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And so this is where if we start to sense like, OK, is there this
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divine discontentment where got like I'm starting to see these
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these other doors open. I'm starting to feel this like
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the Spirit of God, I'm starting to get these little hints, these
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little bread crumbs that his grace is actually starting to
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open up new doors, like new connections are opening up over
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here, even though in other connections over here, other
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friendships are shifting over here.
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And this assignment, it's kind of this like discerning season
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of this shifting of grace. And there will be eventually a
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point where there is enough divine discontentment that says,
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OK, I can no longer do what I'm doing.
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I can for sure, since the Spirit of God is going somewhere else.
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He's opening up other doors and not supposed to be doing this
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anymore. I am meant for more.
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And so it's when we get to that point where we are either so
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uncomfortable that we can no longer stay where we are at from
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our previous season, our previous assignment compared to
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there are then, OK, if I'm sensing God's grace moving and
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shifting. God, what are you doing?
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I want to seek your face. I want to like go where you are
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like Moses, like I don't want to go anywhere that you're not.
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So I actually want to just sit and sit at your feet, like be,
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you know, at your, be at your feet, like seek your face, seek
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your word so that I can move in obedience in the next season.
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There is a season of discernment in those seasons of in between.
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You know, the season of change is probably one of the hardest
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things to go through because you get so used to the way you're
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doing life. I know I just recently went
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through that in my own life where I was doing one thing for
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so many years and then it's like, God's like, OK, no, we're
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we're done doing this. And now, you know, everything is
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completely changed. And I've got my book and I've
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got my podcast and I've got a second book coming out later
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this year. And just lots of different
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things changing with my own in my own life in this this
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personal ministry that five years ago I never would have
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even considered, you know, is now like my reality.
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And it's just so powerful. So for you, what would you say
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to the person that is out there and they're like, you know, I, I
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feel a shift coming. I don't know if it's a shift
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because it's what I want or if it's actually God working and
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opening those doors. You know, in other words, is it
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man made or is it spirit LED? What would you say to that
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person for them to be able to to decipher the difference between
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those two? Yeah, well, I think that it
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first and foremost comes back to knowing his voice and being able
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to recognize and respond the way that he communicates.
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Now we think about it, God's first language is not English,
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so it's not always going to be like this audible voice in the
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clouds. If you like hear his voice and
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he gives you this big sign in the clouds that says, you know,
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go, go to the right. If you're in the park on the
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road and you want to go left or right, you know, and it's like,
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go right, Wes. And you're like, okay, thank
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you, Lord, for the audible voice.
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It actually doesn't usually work like that.
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And so learning to recognize his voice, like one word from him,
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one encounter from him changes everything.
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One touch from the Holy Spirit changes everything.
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And so I've, I actually really feel like even seasons of change
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and seasons of transition, He allows them first of all,
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because it's part of life and it's a part of just kind of this
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human experience. But it actually is meant to
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bring us in such close relationship with him so that we
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can do seek his face even closer during those seasons.
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And when it comes to hearing his voice, we are actually hardwired
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in different ways to be able to recognize and respond.
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I remember when I started to 1st learn about this, this was even
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before graduating ministry school and really learning about
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the prophetic and all what all that looks like.
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But I, when I was younger, I got really hung up on the verse of
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my sheep hear my voice. And I didn't realize that God
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speaks in in so many different ways.
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If we read the Bible, he speaks through burning bushes, he
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speaks through donkeys, he speaks through angels, he speaks
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through people. He speaks through, you know,
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prophetic pictures, like when, you know, he was talking to
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Jeremiah and he was like, what are you seeing?
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Jeremiah was like, I see a branch and, you know, and all of
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a sudden there's this prophetic picture that comes out of the
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branch and there's infinite ways of how he speaks.
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And most scholars, we can kind of narrow it down not to put God
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in a box. I feel like it provides a really
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good foundation. But we have spiritual senses on
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how we can recognize and respond to the way that God
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communicates. And I remember when I started to
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learn about this, it's like, OK, my sheep hear my voice.
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But for me it's like, OK, I, you know, is that God?
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Is that the pizza from last night?
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Is that, you know, we can kind of question like our own
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internal monologue. And it can when we're first
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learning, it can be hard. Like we of course, we know he
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speaks in his word. Absolutely.
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And what does it look like for this Rhema, for this living word
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that's applicable to me now in this role, in this relationship
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that I have with the Lord. And I remember starting to think
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about this, OK, if my sheep hear and know my voice well, OK, if
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sheep. So I'm like, OK, well, I have, I
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don't have sheep, but I have a dog and my dog doesn't speak
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English. Like, can he like understand
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like sit or shake or do you want to go on a walk?
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And then he gets excited, right. But he actually really
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recognizes my body language. And if I'm sad, he comes and,
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you know, puts his, you know, his, his face on me.
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He kind of, you know, nuzzles his little net, you know, his
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chin on me so that I pet him and he comforts me.
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Or if I get my running shoes on, he knows it's time to go for a
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walk or for a run, you know, if he does something bad.
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And his name is Dodger. And I'm like Dodger.
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He knows like the tone of my voice.
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And he like is like, Oh my gosh. And he like go sits by the door
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because he knows he's going to be in trouble and he has to go
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outside. So there actually is like such a
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nuance to our voice, to our communication.
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There's our body language speaks so much our our inflection and
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our tone of voice communicates so much.
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You know, Wes, I don't know if this is going to be on video,
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but I'll try and describe what I'm doing.
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If I were to say you guys, I have something really, really
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big to show you. And for those of you that are
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just listening, I'm holding up my fingers like the size of an
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inch compared to you guys. I have something really, really
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big to show. You know, I'm like holding my
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hands out wider than the screen can see.
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Well, which one do you believe more?
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Well, you actually believe what my body language is doing.
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And so when it comes to communication, so for me as a
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speaker, I'm a communicator learning all of this stuff and
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even having kids, it was like I actually started to learn that
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communication develops right after, you know, you know, after
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about a year ish of kids growing up to where that they're
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actually able to start to articulate.
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So they're what they're doing. They're they're recognizing our,
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you know, our smile and what my eyes are doing and what my voice
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is doing and the tone of my voice and how my husband and I
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interact and all of this stuff. They start to develop this
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worldview of the world around them based off of more than just
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my voice or more than just the words that I say.
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And so it was like when I started to put together these
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different things, then start to really dive into what does it
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look like to recognize the way that God speaks.
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There is some really great kind of a good foundation is we can
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be seers, we can be hearers, we can be knowers and we can be
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feelers. And these are all biblically
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based. Actually, I have a free master
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class where I go into all of this and talk about the and give
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you the different biblical references.
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So I don't know if you want that for the show notes.
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I can give you the link for thatthatis@wearemeantformore.com/prophetic
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Dash Master class. That's a free class I teach you
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all about how to recognize and to respond to the voice of God.
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But you know, if we think about, OK, if I can be a seer, right,
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these are the, the visions and the dreams that God can give, we
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can be here. So yes, we know we can hear that
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still small voice or that audible voice of God.
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We can also hear things like, I don't know for you if you've
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ever had maybe a, a song that has been an anthem for you for a
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season where it just like speaks to your spirit and you're like
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all that song. It's just like, oh, I love that
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song. It is just reading my mail.
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It's speaking to my scene, right?
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That is hearing something that's resonating in our spirit.
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That's for us for that season. You know, we can be knowers.
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These people, they are, they don't know how they know that
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they know that they know, but they just know.
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And it is just like all of a sudden there has been this
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revelation that was given it that comes from the revelatory
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realm, from the Spirit of God, who seeks the depths of the
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heart of God, the Holy Spirit. You know, he, he speaks to the
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OR he seeks and finds that the depths of the heart of God and
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he reveals things, things through us or to us.
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And, and then we can also be feelers.
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So these are the people who you can like walk into a room and
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you just like can feel the atmosphere or you stand next to
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somebody and you can like feel what's going on with them.
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And these are actually all of what I like to call our
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prophetic senses or learning the language of the Spirit and how
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God communicates in order for us to yes, first and foremost, have
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relationship with him. God exists in and of himself
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within relationship with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
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And we were created for relationships.
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So first and foremost, he wants to speak with us.
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He wants to commune with us. Friends get secrets, right?
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Like it says in the Bible, I've no longer called you slaves.
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You are. I've called you friends.
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And if you think about our earthly friendships, I have such
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deep connection and relationship with my friends or, you know,
25:21
with my husband. And, you know, if friends get
25:24
secrets and I, they, I, you know, even I just had a really
25:27
great conversation with my one of my best friends yesterday.
25:29
And it's like we were just talking about the deep things of
25:31
our heart and just connection and communication.
25:36
And so it's like first and foremost relationship and then
25:39
second of all, just like Jesus how he didn't do anything
25:44
besides what he heard or saw the Father doing, we are called to
25:48
do the same thing. We are called to partner with
25:51
the heart of God to bring heaven sent solutions in the earth and
25:55
to make earth look more like heavens.
25:57
How do we do that? Well, we have to lean into the
25:59
heart of God and hear his voice and hear what it looks like.
26:03
OK, Well if I'm struggling in this area or if I'm in my
26:07
workplace and we know we drink OK in business as it is in
26:11
heaven or in my company as it is in heaven.
26:14
Well, what's it like in heaven? God, what do you have to say
26:16
about this situation and how can I release that heaven sent
26:19
solution on the earth? And it all starts with
26:21
relationship and hearing His voice.
26:29
For the listeners who feel stuck or unseen, what does that moment
26:33
usually signal spiritually and how should they respond instead
26:39
of shutting down? This is so good.
26:42
I think that a lot of times when we have these things like I'm
26:48
not enough or I'm not seeing or I'm stuck in comparison, it
26:54
actually is just unanswered questions that we are seeking in
27:00
other places besides the heart of God.
27:04
And this gets into our identity, our God-given identity as sons
27:09
and daughters. When we have our identity in
27:13
shaky places, or what I like to call our secondary identities,
27:17
these are typically things that we do.
27:19
And trust me when I say I, I for sure I had to go.
27:25
I had to learn a lot of this stuff the hard way.
27:26
I used to have my identity so much like my flag planted an
27:30
identity of my career. Or when I, you know, played
27:33
volleyball, it was in my team and it was like what I did and
27:36
all these awards that I had and all this great stuff that I was
27:39
doing. And then when that changed, it
27:42
was like I would go through this massive identity crisis and I
27:45
wouldn't know who I was anymore. And Oh my gosh.
27:48
And it's like sends you on to this tailspin.
27:51
And I remember one of the big times that this happened, I went
27:54
through some like when I graduated college and I wasn't a
27:57
part of the volleyball team anymore.
27:58
And it kind of rattled me. But one of the big times was
28:01
actually when I became a mom and I went from being an
28:04
award-winning entrepreneur, having ATV show and being
28:08
really, really outward facing, really, really seen our
28:11
community really, really, you know, like all these awards and
28:14
accolades and all this stuff. And to then at home and goopy
28:21
diapers. And I wasn't a part of the 5:00
28:23
AM biohacking club. I was a part of like a 3:00 AM
28:26
breastfeeding club. And I was exhausted and probably
28:28
hadn't showered and probably had babies spit up all over me
28:30
somewhere. And I went into a season where I
28:33
was really, really not seen. And it rattled me.
28:39
And I had to start to say, OK, God, who do you say I am?
28:44
And I think that when we actually place our flag of
28:47
identity in these secondary sources, and it could even, it
28:51
is even things like wife or husband or mom or our career
28:56
author, you know, entrepreneur, whatever it looks like, when
29:00
those things shift and they do when they will, if we have our
29:04
identity flag planted in anything else besides son or
29:08
daughter, it will create a massive identity crisis.
29:13
And so if we're feeling unseen, then we actually are seeking
29:18
validation from outside eyes and voices more than what we are
29:25
seeking the out, the, the inward eyes and voices of the father.
29:32
And this is where it's like, OK, God, if I'm feeling really,
29:37
really seen in my outside world, how do you see me?
29:41
And are your eyes on me? And yes, we know in the Bible
29:44
where it says you know his it the Lord bless you and keep you.
29:48
May his face shine upon you in this this face shining upon you
29:53
is actually like this countenance of when a mother or
29:56
father delights in their child. And so yes, his eyes are are on
30:01
you and they are gazing on you. And it's like, OK, God, what
30:04
does the word say? Oh, it says in Psalm 139.
30:07
But you know every hair on my head.
30:09
And to know every hair in my head, you actually have to be
30:12
really, really intimate and really, really close.
30:15
And you have to be able to count like all the little, you know,
30:18
all the little ones that are poking out of my hair.
30:20
And even when I brush my hair, you have to be so intimately
30:22
close that even the ones that come out of my brush when I
30:25
brush my hair and you know, it just is like, oh, if I actually
30:30
get a revelation of how the eye, the the eyes of the Lord are on
30:35
me, then it actually answers any question of or it answers the
30:41
cry of my heart that I feel unseen from anybody else in the
30:45
world. And it, it just, it changes
30:49
everything when you know that you're actually already chosen,
30:53
when you know that you don't have to earn love, that you
30:55
don't have to work for love, that you actually get to move
30:58
from love, that you don't have to earn his favor, that you
31:03
actually already have it and you get to move from favor.
31:07
So it's a place of, oh, where is my validation coming from?
31:10
Where is my identity coming from?
31:12
And if it's planted in anything secondary besides son or
31:16
daughter, that we're going to have those unanswered questions.
31:24
It's very easy for us to, to place our identity in the
31:30
worldly things, you know, our career, our relationships, that
31:34
type of stuff. I think we're, we've all been
31:37
guilty of it. And I think you would say the
31:39
same. And matter of fact, you did say
31:40
the same thing. And so it's it's, it's
31:44
definitely one of those things that, but again, it's a moment
31:47
by moment thing that you have to be like, OK, you know, this is
31:51
not going how I thought it was going to go, but that's OK
31:54
because this is not what defines me, right?
31:57
And so I just want one of the things I share on this podcast
32:01
all the time is a you are not defined by the things that you
32:05
has happened to you. You're not defined by the things
32:07
that you're done. You know, you're not defined by
32:10
what other people say about you because those are all just
32:13
secondary things. You're defined only by who you
32:15
say you are, more importantly, who God says you are.
32:18
And that means you are His child and He has you and He is in your
32:25
corner and He will lead you and guide you and protect you.
32:28
You just have to place your identity in that and trust in
32:31
that and just turn over control like we talked about earlier and
32:37
moment by moment and just realize that that is your
32:41
identity. And so, you know, your journey
32:47
includes things that are both deal with visibility and
32:54
vulnerability, including profound personal loss.
32:59
So how did I want to go back to something you said earlier and
33:03
ask, how did losing a child reshape the way that you hear
33:07
God and trust his voice? Yeah, Well, I love this this
33:13
topic of of vulnerability and transparency.
33:17
I think that we actually in today's social media world where
33:22
people are really, really visible and we think that we can
33:25
know somebody when in reality we maybe just know about them
33:30
because we maybe follow them on Instagram.
33:34
There is this first of all, I'm going to say I'm going to I'm
33:37
going to kind of hit a few different angles on this.
33:39
There is this really interesting dynamic that people for like
33:43
think that they get access to anybody and everybody that they
33:49
want to. In reality, that's not the case.
33:52
So that is not true. And I'll give you this, I'll
33:56
give you this kind of an example.
33:59
So is there, I think that there's a difference between
34:03
transparency and vulnerability. And there's a this, you know, we
34:08
see these like people that they post a picture of them crying on
34:12
Instagram. They, they're trying to share
34:14
vulnerably, which is really beautiful.
34:16
I actually think that we vulnerability is one of the
34:21
strongest things that we can do is actually invite people into
34:24
our story in a vulnerable way and in a, in a deeper way
34:28
besides just like the perfect aesthetic on Instagram.
34:33
But the truth of the reality is, is that we not everyone is
34:37
actually deserving of our story. And I think that so many times
34:41
people actually can verbal vomit every single story or lesson or
34:47
what they're going through to a public audience.
34:51
When in reality, sometimes not everyone is first of all, worthy
34:55
of our story or worthy of that depth of access into our heart.
35:00
And unless we know that we are called to share that.
35:03
So there are parts of my life of my story of our journey where,
35:07
you know, it's it's not, you know, not everyone gets access
35:11
to every part of that. There are then, yes, parts where
35:14
I feel like I meant to share, like the loss of our child and
35:18
what God did through that season or it is meant for them more
35:21
forward facing because God gave so graciously gave himself and
35:25
lessons for me to be able to bring out of that season.
35:28
So that mess has become a part of my message.
35:32
But I'll give you an example. So I think that social media and
35:35
just in general this visibility concept, it should actually be
35:39
treated more like a window, like transparency instead of this all
35:45
access. Everyone just gets full access
35:48
to me and every single part of my heart.
35:51
That's not healthy boundaries, that's not healthy relationally.
35:55
And so when it comes to being vulnerable and visible, I think
36:00
we need to understand, first of all, I actually don't share
36:03
things unless I and what's, you know, an overcomer of that
36:08
thing. So if it is like, if I'm in the
36:10
middle of my mess and it is still a gaping wound, I don't
36:14
share it. It's because I'm not an
36:15
overcomer of that yet. Well, I share it in relationship
36:21
with trusted friends or family or my husband or, you know,
36:25
pastoral care, absolutely, because they are actually
36:28
invited into those deeper parts of my heart.
36:30
And it's not to hide things. Actually, it's because that's
36:32
healthy relational dynamic. And so this visibility concept,
36:38
I think it should be more like a window into your house.
36:40
People get to peek into parts of your life and peek into parts of
36:44
your house, but not everyone is invited to come and sit at the
36:47
table. Not everyone is invited to come
36:49
sit on your couch. Not everyone is invited to come
36:51
and sit, you know, into my bedroom and do the most intimate
36:54
places with me. And those are for select.
36:56
That's actually is like a really, really healthy
36:58
relational dynamic. And so when it comes to this
37:03
visibility aspect of things, I like to make sure that I'm
37:07
sharing from scars, not wounds. And it's something that the Lord
37:12
has been given and not that he like has to give permission, but
37:17
I actually, you know, it, things are online forever and it's
37:23
like, OK, what am I sharing here?
37:24
What's the lesson? Is this actually going to bring
37:27
life? And is this going to help
37:29
someone? Or what's my motivation is?
37:31
Is this just because I think that I'm really amazing and I
37:33
should just share this thing and toot my own horn?
37:36
Like what's the motivation behind it?
37:37
So you know, or is this coming from the call that God has on my
37:43
life? And so this is even something my
37:45
husband and I, we were actually talking about this the other day
37:47
as far as podcast, he was just on my podcast and he's like,
37:51
podcasts are interesting. He's like, because like some
37:53
people, I think that they just do it because that's like why
37:57
you do it? And he and we were just having
37:59
this conversation. I was like, for sure, some
38:01
people do it. And they just, you know, they
38:03
like the accolades. They like the, you know, they
38:06
or, you know, YouTube or whatever it is like that the
38:08
kids generation now, they just all want to be Youtubers.
38:10
I have a nine year old son and you know, a lot of their kids in
38:13
his class, like my son wants to be a fireman, but a lot of these
38:16
other kids are like how to be a famous YouTube.
38:17
And it's like, why? Why?
38:20
But and then there are other people who are actually doing
38:25
things like for me having a podcast, it's actually because
38:29
it's coming from the call that God has in my life to be a
38:32
mouthpiece and to be a voice. And so, and there are seasons
38:37
where it's like, if the grace isn't there for a season, like
38:39
you'll see my podcast, I've actually been pretty consistent
38:42
with it for the last couple years.
38:43
But there were seasons where like when I was journeying
38:45
through that season of loss where I actually didn't record
38:48
for like a year. And it's because I wasn't in a
38:50
place where the grace of God was there on my life to share and I
38:54
was actually doing deeper work. So this vulnerability and
38:58
visibility conversation is for sure interesting, especially in
39:02
a social media world. And I think it again, it all
39:06
goes back to, OK, what's relationship?
39:08
What's, what's is the Lord inviting me into?
39:10
Am I doing this for a place where I'm feeling unseen and I'm
39:14
just trying to like earn other people's approval?
39:16
Or am I doing this because the Lord has invited me into, you
39:20
know, being more visible or being more of a mouthpiece.
39:24
So it's like, and I think that only you and God will probably
39:28
know the motivation of that. Yeah, I get asked this question
39:34
all the time, you know, as I come on podcasts and I share my
39:38
story and I share my story here on this podcast, you know, I
39:41
share about my 20 year addiction and tip horn and how I was able
39:46
to overcome it by the grace of God and through through this
39:50
ministry of Celebrate Recovery and just and everything else.
39:53
And like how it's shaped the journey that I'm on now.
39:56
And, and people are like, well, how can you share it?
39:59
Like, how can you talk so freely about it?
40:01
And it's like, and I tell him, I'm like, well, number one, it's
40:04
what I feel like I'm supposed to do.
40:05
And #2 I don't do it because I did it under my own power.
40:09
I did it and then I'm free of it because of the grace of God.
40:13
And now he's giving me this, this mission.
40:18
Of talking about it to help others realize that there is
40:21
hope. You know they can.
40:23
Because. Because when you're in the
40:24
middle of something and this doesn't matter if it's an
40:27
addiction, if it's in the middle of loss, if it's middle of job
40:30
change, it doesn't matter what it is.
40:32
When you're in the middle of something that's difficult, it's
40:36
really, really easy to feel like there is no hope.
40:40
Really easy. And that is where the enemy
40:43
lives. He wants you in that moment when
40:46
you feel like there's no hope, when you feel, when you feel
40:49
like nobody's going to understand and he wants you
40:53
confused. He wants you isolated because
40:58
that's that's where he can work and grab a hold of you and do
41:01
his best work. And so as I began sharing my own
41:07
story, that's what has brought about like my book and this
41:10
podcast and, and, and things like that, because I want people
41:14
to realize that it doesn't matter what it is that they've
41:16
gone through. There's other people out there
41:18
that have been through it. And you're not alone.
41:21
And people do understand and you don't need to be isolated.
41:25
And so I love that you, you, you share, you know, that, you know,
41:29
sometimes it's OK to talk about things, but sometimes there are
41:33
parts of your life that, you know, you're not going to share
41:36
with just everybody. And that's something that a lot
41:38
of people will get, will get confused.
41:41
Right, while you talk about this.
41:42
Why aren't you talking about that?
41:44
Well, it's because, well, it's not relevant to what we're
41:46
talking about. Yeah.
41:47
Or or or. You may not be ready to hear
41:51
this part of my story yet. Yeah, well, and I think even in
41:54
today's world, it's like even to what you were just saying about
41:59
the well, why aren't you talking about this thing?
42:02
And my when you said that, my brain went to well, there's a
42:05
lot of different things that are going on in today's society.
42:09
There's a lot of like, people with burning pitchforks that are
42:12
taking the stand and talking about all these other social
42:15
issues. And the truth of the reality is
42:19
that we just actually aren't called to like pick up every
42:22
single burning torch of justice and have an opinion on it first
42:26
and foremost. Or I might have opinions about
42:30
things, you know, right side of the aisle or left side of the
42:33
aisle or whatever is happening in, you know, with, you know,
42:37
just different political things that are going on.
42:39
And I have opinions that actually choose to just have
42:43
those conversations in person instead of online.
42:47
And, you know, it's like, yeah, so it's like we aren't actually
42:51
not, we're not required to have an opinion about everything
42:54
that's going on in the world or to be an expert on everything
42:57
that's coming that's going on in the world.
42:59
And so it's like, you know, we, I think that we can stay in our
43:01
lane. And then back to what you're
43:04
saying about the power of sharing our stories.
43:06
It's so powerful because the testimony of Jesus is the spirit
43:10
of prophecy and testimony means God do it again and he is so
43:15
willing and able to do it again. Wes, what has gone like what
43:20
he's done in your life, He's so willing and able to do that
43:23
through your life into the lives of other people.
43:27
Same thing with me and coming out on the other side of loss
43:30
with, you know, with a message and with purpose and with just
43:34
just this heart for people to see them walk in their God-given
43:37
identity and destiny and to hear his voice.
43:40
And like the Bible is a, is a love story of God pursuing his
43:46
people and of Jesus healing, you know, blind eyes and deaf ears
43:52
and raising the dead and casting out demons.
43:55
And he says, go and do the same. And there just is so much power
44:00
in our story and in our testimony, what God has done in
44:03
and through US. And I think that it's really
44:06
powerful what you're doing and what you're sharing.
44:08
Yeah. Thank you.
44:10
You know many believers, I think they want to hear God more
44:16
clearly but they feel unsure or insecure.
44:20
What does learning the language of the Spirit actually look like
44:25
in everyday life? Yeah, this is so fun.
44:28
So it's, and it's so common, it's the rights that is was that
44:35
God was at the pizza last night. Or I can usually discern the
44:38
voice of the enemy because it's usually pretty accusatory.
44:41
There's a lot of fear behind it, you know, but it's like we kind
44:46
of get into this space of how do we know it's God?
44:49
How do I know it was me? And I think understanding that
44:52
God speaks in a multitude of ways and that he's the best
44:56
communicator and that we are hardwired to recognize and to
45:01
respond to his voice into the different ways that he
45:04
communicates. Only dysfunctional fathers don't
45:08
speak to their kids. And if we can actually have kind
45:13
of these foundational understanding, these
45:16
foundational thoughts or these cornerstones of thoughts when it
45:19
comes to the way that God speaks to us, He's not far off.
45:25
He's not a distant God. He's not a silent God.
45:29
He's not mad at you. He loves you.
45:32
And so it's like when we actually start to understand the
45:35
heart of a good father, when we start to understand his
45:39
character, when we start to, OK, what does the word say about
45:43
him? Oh, that says in Psalm 139, His
45:45
thoughts towards me are more than the grains of sand.
45:49
Well, gosh, OK, I've been at the beach before and you know, be
45:53
put your hand in the sand. All of a sudden there's like
45:55
thousands of pieces of sand on your hand, not to mention the
45:59
sand that's around you. And that's all down down the
46:02
coast and then on all of the beaches on all of the world.
46:06
Gosh, God's thoughts towards me are more than the grains of
46:10
sand. So God, what is the piece of
46:12
sand right now that you are highlighting for me?
46:16
Or what is it that you want to say to me right now?
46:19
And it could be a still small voice.
46:21
It could be a little flash of a picture.
46:24
If you're a seer, it could be a a feeling.
46:26
It could be peace. It could be a feeling of, of
46:29
deep adoration. I remember when I was starting
46:32
to really hone in on The Voice of God, I was actually just sit
46:35
there and I would just say, Holy Spirit, can I just be the, the
46:39
object of your affection? Like I actually just wanted him
46:43
to define me over anything else, over my circumstance, over, you
46:47
know, any, everything else in my external world, over any
46:50
internal thought that I might have had.
46:53
And I just wanted his voice to define me.
46:55
And so I would just say, Holy Spirit, can I just be the object
46:57
of your affection? And he would just begin to
47:00
lavish his love and his delight over me.
47:03
And oh, charity, I love your eyes and I, I love your smile
47:07
and I love your ears and your toes.
47:09
And I love your, the little mole that's right behind your right.
47:12
You're actually loved it so much that I gave your son a matching
47:15
one because I thought it was so cute.
47:17
And I love the way that you think and I love the way that
47:20
you love people. And he would just lavish his
47:22
love over me and I would just begin to let his voice define me
47:26
and his heart define me. And so that's always is a
47:30
really, really great place to start.
47:32
Is, is start there. I do have an assessment to help
47:37
you understand if you are a seer here, feeler or knower and
47:44
that's at we are meant for more.com/prophetic dash bundle.
47:49
There's some really fun assessments in there as far as
47:53
like how you hear from God and even, OK, if I'm hearing from
47:57
God now, where like who is it for or what assignment?
48:02
What mountain of influence am I called to now bring these, you
48:07
know, bring his voice to. So we talked about like culture,
48:10
cultural assignments and even like your prayer scripts and how
48:15
do I take authority over my atmosphere and just prayer
48:18
declarations because our there's life and death in the power of
48:20
our tongue. So there's all this fun stuff in
48:23
that bundle of it's like 100 plus pages of fun things, but
48:28
it's like, OK, God, how do I recognize your voice?
48:31
Laughter. First of all, understand the
48:32
different ways that you speak and be open to that and the and
48:38
understand how my hardwired that you have created me to recognize
48:44
and respond to your voice. And I like to think of kind of
48:47
our spiritual senses, almost like love languages.
48:52
And if you've ever done the five love languages, you know my my
48:56
for me, I'm like quality time and words of affirmation.
48:59
So for me to feel really, really loved by someone is quality
49:02
time. And you know, they encourage me
49:05
or they're even challenging me with different thoughts or we're
49:08
having a really great conversation and our our
49:12
prophetic sense is how we pick up on the ways that God is
49:15
communicating are very similar. We're typically going to have
49:18
like a couple top ones that we are to are our typical M OS are
49:22
typical methods of operation. So for me, my typical MO in my
49:27
prophetic senses are see or hear.
49:30
And so I have a really vivid dream life.
49:33
God speaks to me a lot in like flashes of pictures or visions
49:36
and then I hear, I hear words or they'll be things in songs that
49:41
will, that will really resonate with me.
49:46
Actually, what one of the things I did, I have a devotional, it's
49:49
a prophetic devotional. And there were seasons where
49:53
it's called Pathway to the Heart of the Father.
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And there were seasons where worship songs were really,
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really resonant in my spirit and the reverses that went along
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with it and a prophetic message that went along with it.
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And there's identity statements in there too.
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So this is like it was actually a part of my journey on how I
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got to learn the heart of the Father and his thoughts towards
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me. And so it's like, OK, well, God,
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how are you speaking to me? Like how did you hardwire me to
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pick up on your communication? And then, OK, well, maybe you're
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a feeler. So now all of a sudden I can
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walk into a room and I can feel something of what's going on.
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Well, God, what do you want me to do with this feeling?
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And for us is where that we're called to bring heaven to earth.
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I might be picking up on some sort of negative feeling.
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Well, how am I called to shift that and to bring heaven, bring
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a heaven on earth reality quality in this situation or in
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this atmosphere or in this room or in this business or in this
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friendship or in this relationship.
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So it it, it, it's a beautiful invitation with the Holy Spirit.
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It's into relationship, into communion, into communication
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and learning the different ways that he speaks.
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And for me, it's become this beautiful journey of so I now
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help lead our prophetic ministry team at church.
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And my next book, it's called Language of the Spirit, how to
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hear God's voice and live a prophetic life.
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And so we actually teach this stuff in, you know, within our
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body and do prophetic training. So it's really, really fun that
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as you start to develop these gifts, First Corinthians talks
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about earnestly the desire, which means hunger for these
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spiritual gifts that, you know, there's all the gifts that it
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lists and one of them is to prophecy.
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And prophecy is this supernatural encouragement.
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So it's leaning into the heart and the voice of the Father and
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then speaking that over someone's heart or their
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situation or over their life or over this, you know, company or
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over an atmosphere or in prayer or an intercession.
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And for me now as I minister, I'll give an example.
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So it's like there's this one time where I was ministering to
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these couple girls at the same time and I want to be like so
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open and available to all of the different ways that God speaks
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and communicates to me. So one woman, I received a word,
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it was like a vision for her and I was able to, you know, give
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her a word. And then another girl, I got a
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feeling. And so I was able to prophecy
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and speak into her life and pray over her from that, that sense
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that I received as far as a feeling.
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And they just felt so loved and seen and known by God.
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And that's what New Testament prophecy is supposed to do.
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It's meant to build up, to edify, to encourage, to comfort.
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And so if we're hearing the voice of God and then delivering
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that to others, if it doesn't fall within those categories,
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then we don't deliver it or we decipher, we discern a way to
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deliver it that will actually make it seem like it's coming
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from the heart of God. You have given a lot of
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information out here and I'm sure, I am sure people are like
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OK, I need to go back and re listen to this like 15 times
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just to make sure you get it all down.
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So why don't you just real quick give the listeners your website
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address again so that they can go out and find all these
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bundles and things that you've talked about and then so they
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can be able to connect with you if they want more information.
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Yeah, so the website for meant for more ministries, it just is
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that we are meant for more.com. There's you'll find all the fun
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things, live events and podcast and all the fun things there,
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the equipping center, the school, the prophetic that we
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have. And then I actually love to
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connect with other people, especially on social media.
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So if you heard this episode coming out with me on Instagram
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is where I'm mostly at. That's just at Charity Majors.
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And let me know maybe what your favorite take away was.
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And I'd love to pray for you to connect with you.
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I have a channel where I just give people encouragement so you
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can join my free channel there. But yeah, so just we're meant
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for more.com and at Charity Majors on Instagram.
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There you go. I'll leave those down in the
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show notes so that you can find them easily for those that are
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listening. Well, charity, one of the things
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that I love to do on this show at the end is to leave my
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listeners with an action step, something that they can meditate
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on, something they can chew on, something that they can do over
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the next week or so to really move forward in their faith,
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move forward and living unmasked.
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And so I want you to take a second and give us one practical
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step that they can take this week to move forward in
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obedience. I think it's going to go back to
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what I shared about when we actually know who's we are and
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who we are. That actually helps us take off
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any masks or any false identities or secondary
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identities that we've maybe placed on ourselves or what
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other people have placed on us. And that comes from hearing
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God's voice and it comes from receiving and just being so
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lavishly loved on by a good father.
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So your practical step for this next week is what I shared
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earlier is to just take a couple minutes.
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And if you're a mom, a busy mom, you know, even if you're just
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like in the bathroom by yourself for one minute and you just ask
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the Holy Spirit, Holy Spirit, will you just, can I just be the
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object of your affection and just listen and just let him
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lavish his love on you and speak over you and speak identity over
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you. You might feel peace.
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You might feel a be like a overwhelming sense of his love
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towards you. You might sense I just even
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sense right now that some of you, you might get a picture of
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of just his deep smile lines at you.
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He's not mad at you. He is so in love with you.
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He is so proud of you. And just let Him lavish His love
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and his words of adoration over you as a son or daughter.
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And just start there. Because it's like when we can
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actually know how loved we are, then we actually don't have to
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perform for love. We don't have to turn it into a
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reward. It was already a free gift.
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He's the pursuer of us. God so loved the world that he
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gave. He pursued Adam and Eve in the
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garden. And so when we know whose we are
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and who we are in Him, and we can live from that space, when
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we can live loved, when we can live from love, not for it, it
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changes everything. Amen.
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Well, Charity, thank you so much for being with us today on
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Unmasked and being willing to share your ministry and your
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journey and just speak life into the Unmasked audience.
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Thanks for having me West, it was really great to connect with
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you. It's been my pleasure.
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Well, thanks for joining me today on Unmasked, and again, a
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huge thanks to Charity for joining us today.
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If something in this episode spoke to you, don't let it stop
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with you. Take a moment and share with the
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one person that God put on your heart while you were listening,
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because you never know whose breakthrough might start with
57:24
just a simple message from you. If you want more encouragement,
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you want to work with me one-on-one, or you're interested
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in having me speak at your church or event, Find everything
57:34
you need to know at wesleyfarnsworth.com and make
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sure you join the Unmasked community by connecting with me
57:41
on social media so that we can walk this journey together.
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Until next time, remember that grace is greater than your past
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and freedom begins the moment that you choose to live
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unmasked. God bless you.