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Reliable...like a Honda · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 2: talks what's up?
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  Speaker 1: Tandamn.
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  Speaker 2: Hey y'all's tampama. I love y'all so much. Thank y'all
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  Speaker 2: for coming back again one more again.
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  Speaker 3: How you doing? AJ?
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  Speaker 4: Is it bad hair Day Thursday?
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  Speaker 3: Bitch?
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  Speaker 2: If you could see what it was under this ain't
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  Speaker 2: no tracks I got. I got, like literally the Sherman
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  Speaker 2: Hensley Where's tracks just above my ear and below the
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  Speaker 2: whole top is out shame.
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  Speaker 1: My hair looks so crunchy. I ordered some new shit
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  Speaker 1: off Instagram. I don't know how many different hair products
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  Speaker 1: I've tried off there, But this time I'm gonna just
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  Speaker 1: throw all the shit I got away and stick to
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  Speaker 1: try to stick to one product and it's just two
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  Speaker 1: products from the same line, and see what happens is
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  Speaker 1: I am just chop this ship off and start a
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  Speaker 1: new again.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I'm I'm gonna take this out tonight after
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  Speaker 2: we finish, and I'm put on.
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  Speaker 3: A U part week for a couple for the rest
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  Speaker 3: of the week.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and see, I could do you part, but my
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  Speaker 1: hair breaks off.
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  Speaker 4: So easily with heat, Like.
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  Speaker 1: One week of heat, my shit is done with so
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  Speaker 1: I can't I can't really even use that my cheek,
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  Speaker 1: So I just really don't manipulate my hair that much.
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  Speaker 4: But then it's dry. You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Why don't you do like a U part that has
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  Speaker 2: like curly hair so you can like blend your natural
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  Speaker 2: hair in.
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  Speaker 3: You could do that. Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 4: I need to make me a nice low youth. Got
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  Speaker 4: a nice low U part.
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  Speaker 1: But I have been looking for a beautician locally so
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  Speaker 1: I can start getting my hair treated, because man, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if some of the natural girl is be struggling,
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  Speaker 1: but I struggle with moisture retention, so I should be
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  Speaker 1: crying cheat I needed a treatment.
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  Speaker 3: You could do that at home and you could get to.
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  Speaker 4: A little assistant. If I gotta pay for it, it'll
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  Speaker 4: get done.
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  Speaker 3: M that's opposite of typically how you are the hair shit.
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  Speaker 1: I don't be feeling like it when I make three
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  Speaker 1: wigs a year, bitch, and that be it.
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  Speaker 4: Literally, like I made three to four wigs a year,
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  Speaker 4: and na's it.
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  Speaker 1: I order here twice a year and that be it
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  Speaker 1: for real, like low maintenance when it comes to the
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  Speaker 1: hair shit, bitch, you see me hat.
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  Speaker 4: Wig anyway, move that order. My weekend was uneventful, y'all
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  Speaker 4: know i'm'll be doing shit.
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  Speaker 1: I did go outside a little tiny bit just to eat,
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  Speaker 1: that's about it. And this weekend was actually choseting food
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  Speaker 1: and wine festival. But I missed ticket sales, y'all. I
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  Speaker 1: should be one hundred and like two hundred dollars a
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  Speaker 1: day for this. But it's really nice.
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  Speaker 3: I saw it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I might fuck with it next year, or maybe
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  Speaker 4: I can get.
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  Speaker 1: Me some free see the content girlies and guy guys
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  Speaker 1: be getting free tickets to that shit. I'm like, how
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  Speaker 1: the hell y'all niggas be there every fucking year? But
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  Speaker 1: you know they create content more than festival and get
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  Speaker 1: free tickets.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you just got to create more content so they
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  Speaker 2: can be like, don't start with.
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  Speaker 4: Us, right right?
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  Speaker 1: So maybe next year, But I ain't do much of
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  Speaker 1: this A good and that's it what you had going on?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I was in Costa Rica, you guys, and I
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  Speaker 2: got the fool shebang I told you all about.
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  Speaker 3: I got.
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  Speaker 2: I needed two feelings. I needed a crown. I got
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  Speaker 2: a veneer, not a whole veneer. They ain't shave my tooth.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a veneer rising or something like that. And
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  Speaker 2: they put it on top and then I got a
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  Speaker 2: wisdom tooth extracted.
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  Speaker 4: Oh that's what when you sent me the picture, I
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  Speaker 4: did ask.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think you responded if that was a wisdom tooth,
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  Speaker 1: because that's what it looked like.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was a wisdom tooth, biggest wisdom tooth impacted.
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  Speaker 2: It was to the side and that shit it felt
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  Speaker 2: like because I didn't get put to sleep. And my
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  Speaker 2: dinnists here in the States was like, when you get
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  Speaker 2: that taken out, you should get it put. You should
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  Speaker 2: go to sleep for that. You know you're gonna have
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  Speaker 2: to go to sleep for that. And then Costa Rica
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  Speaker 2: was like, no, no, no, we can do for you, baby.
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  Speaker 2: When I tell you, it feels like they was snatching
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  Speaker 2: my whole jaw off.
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  Speaker 3: The side of my head. Like there.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't hurt, but it was just so much tugging
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  Speaker 2: and yanking. And if you not mentally like I could,
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  Speaker 2: I would never do that again. I'll say that you
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  Speaker 2: didn't feel it. I couldn't feel the pain. I could
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  Speaker 2: just feel the pressure of someone trying to snatch your
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  Speaker 2: tooth out the side of my face. Shit, it was
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  Speaker 2: a lot, but they had me on the best drugs
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  Speaker 2: Costa Rica gout, I bet.
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  Speaker 3: But it was a cool experience.
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  Speaker 2: It was like a almost like a no, not almost
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  Speaker 2: like it was literally a dental resort because they had
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  Speaker 2: a restaurant, they had a spa, they had part like
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  Speaker 2: a club night on Wednesday night where there's like a
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  Speaker 2: country club that the bus from the resort will take
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  Speaker 2: you to the club and bring you back and then
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  Speaker 2: like you just get your dinner work done. And when
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  Speaker 2: it was filled with nothing but white Americans.
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  Speaker 1: Interesting, how much would you say you spent so to
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  Speaker 1: get all that shit done was probably like.
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  Speaker 4: Seventeen dollars including the state or that separate.
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  Speaker 3: No, the state was separate. The state was. It was
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  Speaker 3: like ninety dollars a night.
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  Speaker 1: And so it was the forgem I've never had, like
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  Speaker 1: a like major mouthshit that I've got my wisdom tooth
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  Speaker 1: taken out as a teenager, I should all four of
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  Speaker 1: mine being gone. I did just get a feeling, but
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  Speaker 1: with my insurance it was like eighty dollars deductible or
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  Speaker 1: something like that.
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  Speaker 2: That wasn't bad for one feeling, but if you got, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: all the amount of stuff I got, you're looking at
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  Speaker 2: a good four or five thousand dollars, maybe even more,
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  Speaker 2: you know. So it was a fraction. It was like
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  Speaker 2: sixty to seventy percent less than American prices. So it
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  Speaker 2: just makes sense if you want, like a I'm a
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  Speaker 2: teeth person though, so I'm all about taking care of
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  Speaker 2: my grill.
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  Speaker 1: I need some shit done right now because it's the
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  Speaker 1: fucking dennistare man, I just don't have the mental capacity
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  Speaker 1: to cust them out right now. But and it's a
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  Speaker 1: black dentist, a girl, a woman, and I just feel like,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I was asking her about cosmetic stuff, like
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  Speaker 1: some things I wanted, Like somehow, somehow, this feeling got
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  Speaker 1: chipped at some point. I don't know when, but I've
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  Speaker 1: had this shit since twenty seventeen, So how did it
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  Speaker 1: get chipped while y'all were cleaning my tooth.
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  Speaker 4: I didn't realize it until I got home.
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  Speaker 3: Damn, they chipped it cleaning it. It's crazy, yes, And
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  Speaker 3: then and didn't say nothing.
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  Speaker 4: Nope.
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  Speaker 1: Then the feeling that they did do in the back
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  Speaker 1: of my mouth, like I could feel it. It's not smooth.
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  Speaker 1: And now I got hell of sensitivity on it. I
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  Speaker 1: just and other things I was asking her about with
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  Speaker 1: my teeth. She was real dismissive of you know what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, and I'm already annoyed. I don't want to
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  Speaker 1: have to call this bitch and be like, hey, bitch.
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  Speaker 3: You fuck my mouth up, but you should.
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  Speaker 1: I really just want to go to another dentist and
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  Speaker 1: have them send the X rays because I really don't
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  Speaker 1: feel like I needed the feelings. I really feel like
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  Speaker 1: they were just trying to get some extra shit because
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  Speaker 1: the dental hygienics. She kept asking me like, but what's
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  Speaker 1: your routine? Your teeth looks so good? Yeah, I don't
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  Speaker 1: come here, bitch. Okay, I went to the eye doctor.
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  Speaker 1: Now I can't see. I literally be taking care of myself,
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  Speaker 1: so I have to see y'all cause y'all don't heal people.
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  Speaker 4: Y'all don't fix people to where they don't have to.
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  Speaker 4: Now come back and fuck.
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  Speaker 2: With you, Yes, well, I mean it's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people out there mouth nasty as hell, and they need
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  Speaker 2: to see the dentists.
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  Speaker 4: Though you don't go either, But I take care of
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  Speaker 4: my shit and don't.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I shit lots and blush.
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  Speaker 4: Brush your teeth can do a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Right, I agree, but no because I still had cavities
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  Speaker 2: even I brush regularly.
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  Speaker 3: It's just I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: So let me tell y'all this because there was a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people in the DMS asking me about where
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  Speaker 2: I went. It's doctor Marco Munez Cavalini International Dental Clinic,
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  Speaker 2: and as Marco m A R c O Munez m
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  Speaker 2: U n o Z Cavalini c A v A L
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  Speaker 2: l I n I International Dental Clinic, and tell them,
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  Speaker 2: temm me sent you. You ain't gonna get no discount,
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  Speaker 2: but just mention it so I can get one when
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  Speaker 2: I come back.
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  Speaker 4: Period telling we talked.
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  Speaker 2: Back cent you, let's get this in.
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  Speaker 4: You got going on?
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  Speaker 2: Man?
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  Speaker 4: So I don't really like do it.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't had.
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  Speaker 4: Time this week, like really look at the world.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of things that I have been intentionally not
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  Speaker 1: lending my energy to. And then it's like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I might come across some ship and see what's going on,
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  Speaker 1: But what the hell is up with this person who's
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  Speaker 1: allegedly invaded Rihanna's house.
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  Speaker 3: Or tried to like she was shooting at the house.
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  Speaker 2: She put eight rounds into Rihanna's house, four into the
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  Speaker 2: gate and then four into the actual house. This person
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  Speaker 2: is clearly suffering from mental illness.
• 9:32
  Speaker 1: Some psychosist put witchcraft on her as what she said.
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  Speaker 3: Right, and we all are trying to kill her.
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  Speaker 2: And you know that just takes me back to that girl,
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  Speaker 2: Like I remember, remember that girl.
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  Speaker 3: Yes I'm not saying her.
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  Speaker 2: Beach name, but yeah, Like, people really be having mental
• 9:53
  Speaker 2: illness and they have concocted some story in their mind
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  Speaker 2: and they think that you're after them. It's crazy. And
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  Speaker 2: this girl is so cute too, ain't she cute? She
• 10:07
  Speaker 2: is so it, says.
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  Speaker 1: Reports continued to service after a suspect was identified in
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  Speaker 1: connection with gunfire outside of Rihanna's Beverly Hills home over
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  Speaker 1: the weekend. Authority say the woman allegedly responsible also shared
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  Speaker 1: several concerning posts about the singer on social media and
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: weeks leading up to the incident. According to the police,
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  Speaker 1: the suspect was identified as the thirty five year old
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: Ivana Ortes. Investigators say she was arrested and booked on
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  Speaker 1: suspicion of attempted murder after shots reportedly fired at Rihanna's
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  Speaker 1: fourteen million dollar mansion while the singer was.
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  Speaker 4: Oh god, she was in the house. Yeah, she was
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  Speaker 4: home Sunday.
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  Speaker 3: Her damn kids. You know that's crazy because if something
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  Speaker 3: would have happened, you know.
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  Speaker 1: The incidents quickly sparked conversation online as details about the
• 10:54
  Speaker 1: suspect began circulating. Some of those details include multiple social
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  Speaker 1: media posts that appeared to reference Rihanna and other celebrities anyway.
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  Speaker 1: So yeah, she's saying that. She claims that Rihanna is
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  Speaker 1: basically after her. I mean she looked food because look
• 11:08
  Speaker 1: at his wig.
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  Speaker 3: That blond wig. Do look crazy? That blonde wig tells
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  Speaker 3: it all. It tells a story for sure.
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  Speaker 1: What She tweeted Rihanna once and said, this is on
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  Speaker 1: February twenty third at Bagger are you there? Because I
• 11:27
  Speaker 1: was waiting for your aid's five head self to say
• 11:31
  Speaker 1: something to me directly instead of sneaking around like you
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: talking to me where I'm at?
• 11:36
  Speaker 4: What?
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  Speaker 1: She also another post she I was restricted. I know,
• 11:42
  Speaker 1: I just restricted that stupid bitch. Kim Kardashian wit, she
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: really wild. I'm already through with Rihanna. Your turn, hiding bitch.
• 11:53
  Speaker 1: Stop begging for a look.
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  Speaker 4: Girl, the people girl.
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  Speaker 3: She needs some help. Yep.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the people is fool. So she's she has a
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  Speaker 4: ten million dollar bond.
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  Speaker 2: She's not getting out and she probably. I wonder they're
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  Speaker 2: gonna put her in a mental facility versus a regular
• 12:15
  Speaker 2: jail or will they just give her mental care in
• 12:18
  Speaker 2: a regular.
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  Speaker 4: Jail whenever she's sentence. I don't know, man, the people
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  Speaker 4: is full.
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  Speaker 1: Let that bitch out because I when when something like
• 12:26
  Speaker 1: that happens, I need to know that you and can.
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  Speaker 4: Never come back roum me mm hm, that she can
• 12:30
  Speaker 4: get out of jail right. Let that bitch out so
• 12:34
  Speaker 4: I can make your disappear.
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  Speaker 1: That's how I would about it if I was Rihanna,
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: you shot at the house of me and my kids
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  Speaker 1: in it.
• 12:40
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, But she's smart because how she found out
• 12:43
  Speaker 2: where Riana living.
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: You know, you're a pet detective.
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: You go find whoever like she she's that's our stocking goals.
• 12:53
  Speaker 1: Everybody is accessible. It's no hiding anymore. All of our
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: information is online. You know.
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  Speaker 4: If you're a smart aren't like me?
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  Speaker 1: If I were a millionaire even like now, I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: have like stuff in my name.
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  Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying? Like I still use my
• 13:08
  Speaker 4: daddy address. Girl, y'all motherfucker up at my daddy house.
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  Speaker 3: Roo'm gonna be like what you want.
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  Speaker 1: And like you're supposed to put your property in a trust.
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  Speaker 1: Every property you own supposed to be under LLC or
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: in a trust. Like why is anything in Rihanna Finty's name?
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: It might not have been in her name, It might
• 13:30
  Speaker 2: not even be in her name. She might trust found
• 13:33
  Speaker 2: out where she was gonna be at and then follow her.
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  Speaker 3: You know she like that. You never know people.
• 13:39
  Speaker 4: Wow, people are nuts.
• 13:42
  Speaker 2: Speaking of nuts, That was cowboy quarterback that Dak Prescott
• 13:47
  Speaker 2: called off his wedding after his fiance Jane Ramos allegedly
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: refused to sign a prenup.
• 13:53
  Speaker 3: Dak is worth two hundred and fifty to three hundred
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  Speaker 3: million dollars.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, bitch, what you thought she take my mind.
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  Speaker 3: When not having me? That's what it makes me think
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  Speaker 3: of the Kanye.
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  Speaker 4: Bitch.
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  Speaker 3: Indeed, listen, I wasn't sad about it, because I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I wouldn't dac to be with a sister, no shape.
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  Speaker 3: But would you have signed?
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  Speaker 4: I would have.
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: Signed that ship so quick.
• 14:24
  Speaker 4: Yes, I still got to access.
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  Speaker 1: I would never have a problem leaving a relationship with
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: what I came with, you know, including children. Okay, I
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: didn't come into relationship with one. I'm leaving them with you.
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: If I would have signed that ship she was gonna
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: I think they might even still turn around and make
• 14:47
  Speaker 2: it work.
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  Speaker 3: You know, No, I mean this is the power.
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  Speaker 4: I guess. You know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure he didn't just spring it on her
• 14:58
  Speaker 1: day before the wedding. I'm pretty sure she knew what
• 15:01
  Speaker 1: time it was the whole time? Mm hm. Why would
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: he not sign a prenuptial agreement? And to me, why
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: would you not sign it?
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: To me?
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: That shows your intent? Because the problem sign it? Like
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: if you were the one with two hundred million dollars, would.
• 15:14
  Speaker 4: You not want to protect it? Yeah? I love you,
• 15:17
  Speaker 4: but shit happens.
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: So why you, as the woman who does not narrowly
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: have you know that type of money, Why wouldn't you
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: sign a prenuptial agreement unless you had ill intent?
• 15:28
  Speaker 4: You showing you don't love him by not signing.
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  Speaker 3: Or maybe the agreement was just not fair or something
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I wanna possible. Yeah, are you gonna
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: leave with that Honda Civic? And that's it?
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: God, damn, I gotta give all my clothes back and
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: all my jewelry.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: Like, you know, that's what Mayweather do to his girl.
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  Speaker 4: That's a broke nigga, That bro broke rich nigger.
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: You only barn this ship. It's not yours.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, and you're gonna have the next bitch wearing
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: my robe and like what right then? And a bitch
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: will okay, the next one will definitely be in your drip.
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  Speaker 2: I already said in that DMS. Hey, I'm sorry you
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: going through that. I'm so sorry.
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  Speaker 4: Side right here, I won't give a fuck.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a paper regardless because you're gonna give
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  Speaker 1: me money in the relationship. It cannot be in a
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: prenup that I gotta turn over my bank accounts, bank statements,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: you know. The weird Like so my stepdaddy, that nigga
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: be giving my mama money every month and he likes
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: to give her cash. It's like something men just like cash.
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: They just have like to have wads of cash for
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: no reason. Maybe niggas w ain't never had shit growing up.
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  Speaker 1: Like the money is a symbol of something, right, it
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: feels good. Yeah, he will come put this cash on
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: it on the dress of every mind and I'd be like,
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a fuck.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hm.
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: But then she just stacks it. She doesn't put it
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: in the being either. She just be stacking his money.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: So he's always checking her a little stash to see
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: if she spends it and what she doing with the
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: money that he gives her. She'd just be stacking his money.
• 17:12
  Speaker 3: But not in the house.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: It's somewhere else for you, motherfucker's listening. It's not at
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: the house. Ain't no cash there, bitch. Don't need to
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: try it.
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: Don't need to try because I cannot wait to stew
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: a nigger.
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: Anyway.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: So, Dina Howard said the reason her second album didn't
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: get released is because she was in an.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: Engagement with entanglement.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: Oh entanglement Okay, I was tripping. So what I read
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: is before I got setting engagement. Okay, got it? It
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: was all fair game, god Okay.
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: Sorry.
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: Was in an entanglement with he said, one er right
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: with one yer from Boys and Men, the nicer looking
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: one right, didn't he walk with the Is that him?
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: I think you're talking about Sean?
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: Oh he died though, the guy who used to us
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: a Kane, he did? I think so? Am? I told
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: me that I did a nigga who never died before.
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: I think I think all boys and men living. But
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: don't get me.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: Wrong, boys man. While he was in a relationship with Brandy,
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: so Adena Howard and Brandy was sharing Dick.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: This is interesting.
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: So Ladena and Brandy were both on the same label
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: and their boss, Silva Arne, who was the head of
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: the label, told aDNA to end her affair and focus
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: on her album, and she said no and curaged her
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: own boss out.
• 18:40
  Speaker 4: So how you got a boss on a label? I
• 18:42
  Speaker 4: don't know what that is anyway, So.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Silva pulled the plug on her whole album and her
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: career was over, and Silva elevated Brandy's career. The song
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: boy is Mind was about her beef with a Dina
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: Believe it or not. They finally released a Dina Howard's
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: album decades later, called Fantasy Island on streaming platforms in
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty one.
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: If you want to go and.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Check it out, I am gonna go check the album
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: out because bitch I used to be singing Dina Howard
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: on Yahoo uh Yahoo chat rooms.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: I want to freak again.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Yes, first of all, you was both of us were
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: far too young to be singing that shit.
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: Don't even know what the hell were singing about.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Shit, bitch, I gotta calculate, because I.
• 19:30
  Speaker 3: No, you did not at that time that song.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: Do you know when that song came out? You do
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: not know what was going on in this school.
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: Bitch, I didn't have fuck at least once.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: Okay, Oh my, y'all ain't fucking the eighth grade.
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: I'm tripping.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: No, No, I definitely had sex and eighth grade.
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: Okay, So if it came out around that time, I.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: Think it was still before the but I don't know.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: Based on what this says, I don't feel like you.
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: The reason was the entanglement.
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: It said you cussed out your boss, right, that's why
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: you That's why you fucked up. It wasn't the nigga,
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: it was it's just not a good idea to cut
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: your boss out.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: It because why did you tell me in my relationship though?
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: That's why the boss got custed out? Because whose business
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: is this? And why you ain't telling Brandy to end
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: the relationship?
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: No, I agree Brandy career. No, I agree there, but.
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: She got cussed out because you're telling a grown woman
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: and end the relationship.
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess maybe they were friends for it.
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: I thought they were, but I guess you could cuss
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: out your friend if y'all were talking like that.
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: But all right, so I read that they were. Now
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna say this is quiet.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: Allegedly Wanye and a Dina were twenty two at the
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: time and Brandy was sixteen years old.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Oh shit, So there. I don't know how.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: Just about to see some ship that changed changed my
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: monologue because I was about to say, like, ain't no
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: way brandy pussy better than Dina Howard's.
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: But but you know about the kid first of all.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: But they say crazy pussy is better than regular pussy.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: And you know, she killed a couple of people, Brandy, Yeah.
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: Brandy, does I feel like she killed a couple of people? Right?
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: She might be a serial killer.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: And then they say she took that nigga eye out
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: from immature. Yes, she took a nigga eye out. She
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: killed a couple of motherfuckers. We probably need to stop
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: talking about this bitch. As a matter of.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Straight up, I feel uncomfortable a little bit because I
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: already know their mama don't play.
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: So let's move on what we talk about today.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: Y'all okay, So I don't know.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: I followed Duval I loved so recently on Duval's page,
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: he put up a post.
• 22:04
  Speaker 4: One of the posts said he thinks it's easier for
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: women to break up with men. Right. I don't agree
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: with that. Did I say women to break up with men?
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: So then the other post said, what's the easiest way
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: to break up with a woman that ain't cheat on you,
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: but you just don't like no more?
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: And then his caption says women do it all the
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: time like it's nothing, but I don't think they realize
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: how much harder it is for men because y'all swear
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: just because y'all don't cheat, that makes you a good
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: woman when it's first, when it's furthest from the truth.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: So I'm curious because I don't think there's no good way.
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: I'd be trying to read how people type me. I
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: don't think there's no good way to do it without
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: looking like a jerk. So this sparked the conversation me
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: and my homegirl and a guy she's dating, because I'm like,
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: you know, like, as far as like breaking up, you know,
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: it's always I think again, I think it's different when
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: we talk about well, we don't. We won't get into
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: the conversation after the break. All right, be right back,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: all right, y'all were back.
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: Okay, So back to what I was saying.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: I think men do not physically leave relationships more than
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: women do, right, And I think oftentimes men they'll stay
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: in situations that are no longer serving them, you know,
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: because obligations, kids, whatever, But they definitely complete in their
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: happiness someplace else. Okay, So they're just not staying in
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: the thing unhappy. See, women will end relationships because they're
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: not happy. Right on this same post, I commented and
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I said, so what I'm because I'm just reading a comment,
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: So I'm like, so am I hearing that it's easier
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: for men to stay and complete their happiness elsewhere than
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: it is just to get out of there?
• 24:06
  Speaker 4: And the men started eating me up?
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: So apparently, Yeah, But I'm trying to figure out, why
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: do y'all think that's a good thing. Get out the
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: relationship if you don't want to be there because you
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: both are miserable at this point.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: That is weird to me, Like why stay? I Mean
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: sometimes a lot of times people say and men and women.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: It's for the children, for the kids. I don't want
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: to be like my daddy. I don't want to walk
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: out of my family like my dad did.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Well, let's talk about just boyfriend girlfriend situations. Let's not
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: even add the marriage thing in there yet, right, So
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: just talk about two people, boyfriend girlfriend. I have left
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: several niggas. I can't say I've actually been left by
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: a man, but I'm pretty sure these men also had
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: grievances with me, right that they probably looked past to
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: stay in a relationship. I just feel like the shit
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: that I had to compromise on was way bigger than
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: anything I.
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: Could be doing to them.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: The things that women have to deal with to keep
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: and maintain relationships men would never We're talking about cheating, gambling,
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: low dick.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: What else were we having to do with all types.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: Of shit baby mama drama.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's not like we're leaving day one. A
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: lot of times it's five years later when a woman
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: finally leaves a man. And just remember we had our
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: daddy's on. My daddy is seventy five years old and
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: still to this day, he does not consider that he's
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: the reason why him and my mom's marriage ends. He
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: sees her as the one who left the marriage, not
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: the fact that the nigga was coming home will blonde
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: weave on him from the fucking jup joint down the
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: street and shit like that. That wasn't what ended their relationship.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: In his mind, she left, That's what ended the relationship
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: now when we throw the marriage shit in there. Yes,
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: women we always file in the paperwork like we do
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: everything else. But men, y'all are definitely physical, mentally and
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: emotionally leaving relationships.
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: M H absolutely quickly leave relationships. We leave mentally first.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: That's because men will gonna get a side bitch quick
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: and be just as content and come home like, ain't
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: shit bothering them because they're fulfilled somewhere else. But it's
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: just like, why do that? I wish we should have
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: had a nigga on to explain, But they ain't gonna
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: come on here and tell the truth.
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: They're not. They're gonna come on here and gaslight us.
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: And we can't all be having the same like men
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: in our lives. At some point or another.
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: I can't say every man I've ever dealt with was
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: like the same in all aspects, but hold motherfuckers.
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: Is pretty similar.
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: Like I got traumatized by the same shit and a
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: couple relationships babies.
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: Just lieing other bitches, Like it's the same shit again.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: It's mostly other women, mh. But like my last serious relationship,
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: it wasn't. Oh, it was the baby mama drama. The
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: baby mama drama that was our biggest thing. But then
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: it was my mouth. Nickas can't handle my mouth.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: But you're doing things to make me evoke my mouth,
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: like right, it just like it.
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: Black women are words.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Just they're just different. They just feel like somebody punch
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: you in the face. We don't have to physically put
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: our hands on you like some men beat women up.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: You know why because the bitch beat on says some
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: shit that felt like he got spit on, you know.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: So they don't like if I lose words, I might
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: hit you, bitch, we argue with it, I I might
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: slap you.
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: I get it and you win.
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: Oh, I'm gonna just bust off crying. There's a manipulation, right, if.
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about you know what a man, I might
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: just start crying.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if I run out of if I run out
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: of point, if I run out of points, I miss
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: my Grandma.
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: But that is few and far in between.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: Bitch, I never ran the points because I got a
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: counter for anything you think I did wrong, I got
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: a counter for it.
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: Said I'm toxic, a little cheap, a little bit.
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: I mean, what's the problem.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: But today we're asking a question that might make some
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: people uncomfortable, but that is what we're here for. Okay,
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: But who actually settles more in relationships?
• 28:51
  Speaker 4: Men or women?
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: Because everybody you know likes to say they never settle.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: But to be honest, I think most people are compromising
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: on something. But who does it to most? Because online
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: the men, you know, they say they endure a lot
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: of pain and suffering in relationships too, But it's usually
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: just the women who are loud and vocal about their
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: experiences and relationships.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: And then you got, bitch, just call the men sassy
• 29:21
  Speaker 4: when they start.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: But what are the men really settling on?
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I want to get into. And what
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: are the women actually settling on?
• 29:33
  Speaker 4: You know?
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: So this article I read it said that women tend
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: to settle for behavior. Okay, Many studies show women often
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: tolerate things like poor communication, lack of emotional availability, unequal
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: domestic labor, cheating.
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: Or disrespect, it says.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: Research from relationship psychology often finds women perform more emotional
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: labor and relationships trying to maintain harmony, fix problems, and
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: keep the relationship intact. Yes, it's men that say they
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: want peace, right, because this shit does not sound peaceful
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: and it sounds like me, this is how I felt
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: relationships before. Right, So women sometimes stay longer trying to
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: repair relationship even when unhappy. And an example of settling,
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: he's not emotionally available, but he's a good provider and
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: we think that he'll change eventually.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: You gotta do the work. That's what I'll be telling
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: the nigga, but they don't remember want to But.
• 30:38
  Speaker 4: What is the work? That's what you always shut back with.
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: What is the work?
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: I used to say that season one, season two, season three,
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: But I'm understanding what the work is. I recently ask
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: somebody like had they ever had therapy before? Because they
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: communicated like a child to me, you know, like when
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: it's time to communicate, they just was like either shut
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: down completely or was combative. That was the only two
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: ways they communicate it. And you know, you in a relationship,
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: you're gonna disagree and not always gonna agree on everything.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: But any time a disagreement happens, it doesn't have to
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: be combative or shut down, Like do you want a
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: bit to just follow you around aimlessly and just do
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: everything you say?
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: And that's it.
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: They don't want that either, because that is who they're
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: cheating with. They're cheating with the bitch who give them hell,
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: who give them something to deal with while they marry.
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: Oftentimes it's safe, easy person, right, all right, So it's
• 31:45
  Speaker 4: it want boundaries. They want boundaries too.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: They don't want I don't think men want somebody they
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: can they say, they think that's what they want until
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: they get that, and then now you're in a situation
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: where somebody who's who can't make a decision about anything
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: you everybody's gonna get tired.
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: Happened to be the one with the answers all.
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: Time, all the time. I agree her.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: So it says men tend to settle for attraction or compatibility.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Some psychological research suggests men are more likely to settle
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: in they feel pressure to marry, they want stability or family,
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: They fear losing a partner. Men may stay with someone
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: they're not deeply compatible with emotionally, especially if the relationship
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: is comfortable. It meets practical needs like home, family, and sex,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: and an example of settling for men. She's nice and stable,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: but I'm not deeply in love.
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: This is good enough.
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: Do you want to be a good enough woman for
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: a man?
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: That makes me think of this nigga.
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: We was all sitting at a bar and his wife
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: went to go grab some more drinks and he compared
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: his wife to a reliable Honda.
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: I will never forget that shit. He's that she ain't
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: al Mercedes beans, but she's damn sure reliable Honda.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so he is not who he He's not with
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: who he wanted. He married safe basically right. He might
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: have married who he thought he could have children with
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: and who would be a good mom. But she probably
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: not the finest to him either. He probably not.
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: That physically attracted to her for real.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: And I think that income and money men usually get
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: closer to what they.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: Actually want the more money they have to purchase that thing.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: And when I'm talking about women, because we are commodities,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: fuku jahn niggas talk about colussy is a commodity for sure.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: And the more money a man has he has more
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: access to different different women, different caliber of women, And
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: so that just goes back to people dating and marrying
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: based on their self esteem essentially, And we already know
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: most men put their their value literally in their pocket.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: Well, I feel like it ain't just most men. I
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: feel like the world does that to men too, or
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: America did. Sorry, I don't know. I don't know what
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: happened there, geek.
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: I just feel like what.
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: It was accident, But I just do feel like that,
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: like the world does put a lot of pressure on
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: men to be providers. Like, but the world, I feel like,
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: But it's the world, right, So other men are also
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: a part of that world, right, Yeah, it's women putting
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: the pressure on men.
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: It's other men.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: Who can provide that also put the pressure on men
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: who can't.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely.
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: If you like dating nigga who got less money than
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: your last nigga, and you see your last nigga, he's
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: gonna be like, what you say, I hadn't happened to
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: me before. What this nigga was like? He still got
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: on the jeurry I bought you. He ain't got no
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: new jury. He ain't bought you no new jury. And
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: I told my nigga, and he got me some new
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: jury immediately after that period.
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: Okay, why didn't you?
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: Why am I still walking around with some other nigga's
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: jeury motivation one on one?
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: That shit, I got like a twenty three thousand dollars
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: necklace after that.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: So the article also says men often separate physical attraction
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: from from relationship stability. Okay, So, psychologists have observed that
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: men frequently distinguished between short term attraction and long term
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: partners suitability. For long term relationships, many men prioritize peace, loyalty,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: emotional support, stability, compatibility in daily life, meaning the woman
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: they marry might not always be the woman they felt
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: the most intense physical attraction towards. Okay, so men sometimes
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: marry the woman who makes life easier, not the woman
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: who gave them the biggest butterflies.
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: Reliable Honda people.
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's essentially what we just were saying.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so, but don't call me that even if that's
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: what it is, don't ever speak that out loud.
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: You know, I just feel like, and what did he
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: look like?
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: What?
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: What? What would you have?
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: The unreliable pinto face ass nigga?
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: Yes, and the nerve of something.
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: It's like I always say this, men are way more
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: shallow than women. I don't give a damn what y'all say,
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: because oftentimes you will not catch a super fine ass
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: man with this whole shit together with a basic ass
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: woman unless she.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: Got that bag.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: Let me tell you one of my coworkers that you're right.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: I used to work at this place and I don't
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: want to say where it was because this person might
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: listen to the show, but she was unfortunate looking. I'll
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: just say that, like she had really really bad act me,
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: Like she'd just be sitting there and a bump would
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: just drop on her face and me a conversation like seriously,
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry for you.
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: I hope you cleared that up, friend. I love you.
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: Nice person. Bruh.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: It was bad and her man was so fucking fine.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about this man was gorgeous, and I was like,
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: it's an interesting looking couple, but I never said anything.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: But once I got to talking to her more and
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: she was like, yeah, I pay his cell phone bill,
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: I pay his car insurance. You know, I do this
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: for him. I do that for him. And then that's
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: when it all made sense to me, Like yeah, he's
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: a cat nigga.
• 38:00
  Speaker 3: He don't have to work for himself because you're doing
• 38:02
  Speaker 3: everything interesting.
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: And he probably cheating too with the woman he actually wants.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Probably don't have shit to give him.
• 38:10
  Speaker 4: Shit to even not even I mean give him, but just.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: Give a relationship period, Just a nothing as bitch that
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: might look good with some fire.
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: Ass head, right, and that's it. That's all she had
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: to do.
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: Meanwhile, you're paying bills and cell phone bills and working
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: double shifts.
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: Hm hmmm, she.
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: Looks you better than me, because what m hm.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: So men are hypergamists, right, as much as they try
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: to convince women, and in particular black women, that we'd
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: be asking for too much, our black men are hypergamous. Okay,
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: So when oftentimes if you see a black woman dating
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: outside her race, she probably got her life together. When
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: you see a black man, oftentimes he trying to come up, man,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: you gotta get he trying to buy something that credit
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: fucked up, like he he's using women to climb this
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: social pole, like social status. Like he's using women to
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: do that, but it's frowned upon. We are supposed to
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: do that because we have to raise children. We are
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: supposed to try to find the best meat to do
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: that with, right, if we were really operating how we're
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: supposed to operate, Like, if you can't take care of
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: your family, why are we having children? Why are you
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: having a child with a man who hasn't proven to
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: you that he can take care of a family?
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: That part, Now, this one says women tend to require
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: attraction for commitment, But I don't know how true this
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: one is. He says women usually look for a combination
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: of attraction, emotional safety, ambition or competence, and compatibility. If
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: the attraction piece is missing, many women struggle to move
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: forward romantically. And it says a lot of women will say,
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: if I'm not attracted to him, it's not happening.
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: But I know a lot of you thinking physical.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: We attracted to men for other things other than aesthetics.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: Men are attracted to women.
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, that's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: thinking about, because I know nigga, Yeah, yeah.
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: I love a fine ass ugly nigga.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: There's plenty of them, might hair too, Yeah, all as
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: ship like you be fine and ugly with a bag
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: like that, nigga, think he the ship? Now he get
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: you held just like a super fine ass man with
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: and now I understand.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: It now because not even ugly no more, with all.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: That money, and all of bitches want him.
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: Because of you.
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: Mm hmmm, because what you're doing with him, because what
• 40:36
  Speaker 4: he didn't know what he's doing for you.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: That part.
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: So women make men more attractive to other women. It
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: ain't your niggas, Okay, So.
• 40:49
  Speaker 4: I think that.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: I mean, I I do have to be attracted to
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: you and I and and it may you know, you
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: may not be the finest person to my friend group,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: but you find as hell to me.
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: That's all that we need. I think that.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: So I don't really if they're talking about aesthetics in
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: this in this article, I.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: Don't think that's true about about women.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: I think they're talking about overall, like just attractability, like likability.
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: Like just a man's aura.
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we gotta be attracted to them or or else
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: it just feels disgusting.
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: Are funny A funny nigga? I take a funny nigga
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: over fine nigga, quick fine, but no personality but medium
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: ugly and funny. I'm taking him, m hm. Not would
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: you between those two?
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: I like, yeah, I like, I like funny men.
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: If we can't talk on the phone for hours about
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: some ship and you be saying funny, shit, I don't
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: like what we're gonna it's not fun.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree.
• 41:50
  Speaker 4: This.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: This also says women historically couldn't afford to choose poorly.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: This is exactly what the fuck I was just saying, right,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: you cannot afford to choose poorly. Historically, women had more
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: to lose from choosing the wrong partner pregnancy risk, economic dependence,
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: safety concerns. Because of this attraction often had to be
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: paired with competence and stability, which shaped how women evaluate
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: partners even today. And I don't think we're using the
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: standards anymore. We're not evaluating our partners, you know, properly,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: because if we were, like there would be men in
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: every household. You would be partnering with men who put
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: marriage in family at the forefront, not like a nigga
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: who got a couple of babies already somewace else and
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: now you're getting pregnant with the third.
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: But you know, I just feel.
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: Like a lot of these men, you know, they grew
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: up in household with no daddy, So it's just like shit,
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: that's normal, but also not in hindsight. Also, there are
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: a lot of millennial men who want to be better
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: fathers because of the absence of.
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: Their own Yeah.
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: Because I mean, most of the men that I know personally,
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: they take care of their kids.
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: I don't know no niggas that don't take care of
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: their kids.
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: I would like to see more in the house though,
• 43:13
  Speaker 1: because I mean, not all of them are in the
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: house for their kids, but they take care.
• 43:19
  Speaker 4: Of their kids, you know.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: I even I got a couple of friends, guy friends
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: that are single dads, you know, like they became baby
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: mamas overnight.
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: I can't wait to make a nigga a baby mama.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: And look, the crazy thing is like they oftentimes got
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: more money than their parents. Most of my homegirls with
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: fucking kids got more money than me. Like like when
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: you have a kid, like you gotta get it. I
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: think that's why I don't have that much hustle like that,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: Like because I had to get it.
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: I had to hustle for nobody but yourself. Yeah, fly
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: a lot.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: The mamas begetn't it. So this also says age and
• 44:08
  Speaker 1: dating market also matters. People settle differently depending on life stage.
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: Women often settle when biological clock pressure, desire for family
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: and stability fewer, fewer perceived partner options. Men often settle
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: when they're ready for stability. They don't want to start over,
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: They fear loneliness later in life. I think men just
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: marry whoever they happen to be with when at the time, yes, okay,
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: women actually we may we. I think women actually can
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: see ourselves.
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: Marrying any every nigga we done been.
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: With, Like, I can, I can make this work? Yeah,
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: because why am I here if I can't?
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: You know exactly, I think women women be trying to
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: make shit work. So this goes back to Duval's posts.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: Why if a man is not happy, get the fuck
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: up out of there.
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: Women do not.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: Oh, somebody comment to me and said that men can't
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: leave a relationship just because they're not happy.
• 45:17
  Speaker 4: Women just leaves relationships because they're not happy.
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: Oftentimes we're unhappy because we've endured a lot of things
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: that made us unhappy. Five years later, I'm finally leaving, finally.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: And this is like even relationships where there's no children,
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: no marriage involved. This is just boyfriend girlfriend, shit, you
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: didn't marry me. We're not moving forward, and we'd be
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: having a bunch of bullshit going on in a relationship. Yes,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: I'm leaving, but men will see that as abandonment. I
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: have my ex fiancee said I abandoned him. Did you
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: imagine a terrorist saying that I abandon him? That's fucking
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: nuts to me.
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: So you're just, as a woman, you're just supposed to
• 46:02
  Speaker 4: deal with You're just supposed to.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: Keep dealing, keep dealing, keep dealing, keep dealing, like your
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: mama is supposed to love you unconditionally.
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: And God, that is not for your woman to do.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: God, don't even love motherfucker is unconditionally because he'll punish
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: your ass.
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he will punish.
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: You, Okay, So yeah, you cannot expect that type of
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: shit out of a woman.
• 46:27
  Speaker 4: Only your mother is going to have unconditional love for you.
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: He'll still love you in the punishment, but he will
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: punish you.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: But that nigga violent, God was knocking niggas off in
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: the Bible.
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: The world and women are who on the planet. Shit,
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: be careful, so it says the real answer. Most relationship
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: researchers say both genders settle just in different ways. Women
• 46:56
  Speaker 2: more often compromise on emotional treatment, effort, and behavior, and
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: men often often compromise on compatibility, emotional connection and attraction.
• 47:07
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: So most women are married to men who don't think
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: they're attractive no more.
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: I think it's no more.
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: Like at one point you done had them babies, your
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: stomach looked like balled up homework and titties hanging low.
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: You know, get your money up and get your home
• 47:26
  Speaker 4: and a mommy makeover.
• 47:28
  Speaker 3: Right because you did that to her body?
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: Shit, yes, yes, get y'all worry about getting y'all dick
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: suck and your woman is fucking mentally and physically weary.
• 47:37
  Speaker 4: Mm hmm. Okay, so if she's not good like now,
• 47:41
  Speaker 4: I know they've changed the whole thing.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: The happy life, happy wife shit right now, it's happy,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: happy home something wherever that men want to add their
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: self in there. Listen, women, we are we are very powerful.
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: Y'all got to make sure we okay. Your kids is
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: gonna be fucked up if we not okay, You're gonna
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: be fucked up if we're not okay.
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: The earth, the.
• 48:01
  Speaker 4: Earth gonna be fucked up if women are not okay.
• 48:04
  Speaker 4: It just is what it is. And and and the
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: men who get it, get it, Okay, your bag.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: The money that you think you're gonna you gotta have
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: before you get the wife.
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: It comes with the wife. Get you a wife. This
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: comedian I follow this nigga named Vincent. I think you're
• 48:22
  Speaker 4: from Saint Louis too. He's so brilliant with the comedy.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: Right, So he would talk about Paul Pieris doing on
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: that podcast, and Paul Piris was, you know, basically talk
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: about how he's not gonna get married, and and the
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: Nigga's like, this is bad advice because most of the
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: men that's listening to you, most of the people that
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: subscribing to these podcasts, they the only way they gonna
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: ever reach the certain level of financial status that they
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: want is through partnership, through marriage. Right, So he was like, nigga,
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: you don't got no rings. Maybe if you would have
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: gave somebody ring, you would have.
• 48:52
  Speaker 4: Got a ring.
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: Boom.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: Lebron been married to Savannah his whole the whole time.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: Damn that he'd been in the league.
• 48:59
  Speaker 4: How many is he got? Kobe?
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: Okay, Steph Curry, motherfucking Michael Jordan, even though he was cheating,
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: he got hell of rings. You gotta give a bit
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: of rain to get a ring.
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: I believe all the cheat on.
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: The log, But how is this whole thing?
• 49:17
  Speaker 3: Though?
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: That's why I said, even the most seemingly successful single
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: man often has a trail of broken women behind him,
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: whose energy he has usurped to get to where he's at.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: Like we are the portal to all the things, to creativity,
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: all of that shit. Like men really just the muscle.
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
• 49:39
  Speaker 3: You gotta get a woman. Okay, I definitely agree.
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: You gotta get a woman. Y'all gotta get y'all gotta
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: get paired up, you gotta get married. Pick somebody, pick
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: somebody is somebody out here. And I, you know, just
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: to get back on topic with the with the episode
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: before we get out of here. Yeah, women and men
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: and women get we're just not the same. Men and
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: women aren't the same. We don't think the same, we
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: don't we just don't do shit the same. But it
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: is a puzzle piece though, that fits. So get you
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: a good woman, get you good whatever good is?
• 50:16
  Speaker 3: Amen.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, Maybe the question isn't who settles more?
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: Maybe the question is what are you willing to live with?
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: Find somebody who ship you can deal with and start building.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: It's not time to be to be picky and choosy.
• 50:34
  Speaker 4: No more.
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: Again, last, we.
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: Don't got no dumb bitch stories. Dare you got any
• 50:45
  Speaker 4: current dumb bit ship going on? I really don't. I
• 50:48
  Speaker 4: do well.
• 50:48
  Speaker 3: I ain't ready to share.
• 50:49
  Speaker 4: It might go viral.
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: No, I'll save it. The moods are too fresh.
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