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Stephanie Rose Vriniotis – On The Market, Off The Market · Destination Unlimited with Victor Fuhrman

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Speaker 1: My name is Victor Furman. Some call me the Voice.
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Speaker 1: I've always been fascinated with human nature, spirituality, science and
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Speaker 1: the crossroads at which they meet. Join me now and
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Speaker 1: we will explore these topics and so much more with
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Speaker 1: fascinating guests, authors and experts who will guide us to
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Speaker 1: Destination Unlimited. Were you in a relationship that didn't work
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Speaker 1: out ever? Feel like the dating world is a one
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Speaker 1: way ticket to nowhere? My guest this week on Destination Unlimited,
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Speaker 1: Stephanie Rose Riniotis, had this very experience. Stephanie, known as
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Speaker 1: the Designing Soul, dives into the world of dating with
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Speaker 1: a fresh perspective, using her soliabilities, experience from being single
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Speaker 1: for years, a bit of humor, and tools to help
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Speaker 1: better your single life in hopes of finally saying sold
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Speaker 1: with the right partner. With more than twenty five years
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Speaker 1: working in the design field and fifteen years in life
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Speaker 1: coaching and psychic healing, Stephanie's mission is to help people
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Speaker 1: redesign their lives from the inside out. Her website is
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Speaker 1: the Designingsoul dot com and she joins me this week
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Speaker 1: to share her experiences and new book on the market.
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Speaker 1: Off the Market and I don't mean your house. Please
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Speaker 1: join me in welcoming to Destination Unlimited. Stephanie Rose Rideotis Welcome.
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Speaker 2: Stephanie, Hello Victor, thank you for having me.
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Speaker 1: Stephanie, thank you so much for joining us and sharing
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Speaker 1: your amazing story with us. So for our listeners who
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Speaker 1: are meeting you, please share with us your early path
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Speaker 1: and what shaped your life in design.
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Speaker 2: Well, let's put it this way. I grew up in
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Speaker 2: a very strict Greek family in Seattle, Washington, and my
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Speaker 2: parents weren't much into like buying toys or doing all
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Speaker 2: sorts of crafts or anything. So I kept myself occupied.
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Speaker 2: I would take paper, take my mother's makeup, I would
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Speaker 2: draw a face, and I would use her makeup to
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Speaker 2: color in the face on the paper. So my creativity
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Speaker 2: started at a very young age. And one of the
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Speaker 2: other things I still love to draw were houses, and
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Speaker 2: I would put the curtains and the chimney and the
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Speaker 2: walkway with the flowers. So I was always into homes,
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Speaker 2: like making homes look beautiful, even at a young age.
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Speaker 2: And I grew up in a house with my mom,
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Speaker 2: God bless her. She had kept a nice house, but
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Speaker 2: she loved everything we had flocked wallpaper with velvet here
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Speaker 2: and plastic on the couches, and I was like, geez, like,
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Speaker 2: when I get older, I'm definitely not going to be
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Speaker 2: doing that. So I kept as I got older. Was
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Speaker 2: so into the decor and the esthetics and how to
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Speaker 2: put everything together. So it was something that I loved
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Speaker 2: since I was a little girl. I excelled in art
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Speaker 2: class in school, art and English, so it's interesting that
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Speaker 2: this is what I ended up doing as I get older.
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Speaker 2: But the teachers would always have on my report card
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Speaker 2: lovely girl but talks too much, Lovely girl but distracts
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Speaker 2: because she's always talking. So now that I do that
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Speaker 2: for kind of my living, I look back at the
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Speaker 2: report cards and I just laugh at them, and I'm like,
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Speaker 2: they should only know where I am.
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Speaker 1: Do you think that in the previous lifetime you were
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Speaker 1: an artist.
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Speaker 2: I definitely believe that you're given gifts, and when you reincarnate,
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Speaker 2: those gifts are with you, pretty much like in your DNA,
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Speaker 2: But different things happen in your life that kind of
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Speaker 2: bring that gift to the surface. Sometimes it's because you're
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Speaker 2: forced to and you have no choice. Maybe you need
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Speaker 2: to start working and you'll take anything, and all of
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Speaker 2: a sudden, you're put in a place where you never
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Speaker 2: expected it and that gift comes out, which is pretty
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Speaker 2: much how it happened to me. I wanted to go
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Speaker 2: to work, but I can only work a few hours.
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Speaker 2: And there was a fabric store that opened in the area,
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Speaker 2: and I went and wanted a job, but they said,
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Speaker 2: we're going to put you on the home decor side,
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Speaker 2: and I was like, okay. At the time, I used
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Speaker 2: to sew children's clothing, so I wanted to be on
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Speaker 2: the other side of the store. As it happened, I'm
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Speaker 2: now in home decort and I find myself helping people
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Speaker 2: choose bedding and curtains, and I just fell in love
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Speaker 2: with it. So I started to take the fabric and
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Speaker 2: sew my own comforters and paint on them and stitch
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Speaker 2: beautiful things. And I did children's clothing. So I was
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Speaker 2: always doing something creative, and yes, as one thing leads
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Speaker 2: to another. I decided to do some faux painting in
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Speaker 2: my bedroom and a friend of mine saw it and
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Speaker 2: she came over. She goes, oh, I want that in mind,
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Speaker 2: So I ended up doing it for her. Then her
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Speaker 2: friend saw it, and then before you know it. I
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Speaker 2: started a fifteen year career doing faux painting where I
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Speaker 2: actually got a job painting a daycare center in the
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Speaker 2: Belmont Racetrack. And really the gentleman that asked me to
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Speaker 2: come in, he's a big builder on Long Island. His
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Speaker 2: name is Michael dub which a lot of people know
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Speaker 2: like Meadowrook Point, Country Point. Those are all his his
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Speaker 2: places that you know you can rent or buy. And
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Speaker 2: I did his home and he says to me, you know,
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Speaker 2: I have this place. I'd love you to come and
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Speaker 2: put some clouds on the wall. And I went to
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Speaker 2: see it and I was like, wow, this is too
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Speaker 2: beautiful for just clouds. So I said to him. It
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Speaker 2: was an octagon four year forty feet high. So I said,
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Speaker 2: let's take every two panels and let me paint scenes
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Speaker 2: of children playing in the snow for the winter, spring, summerfall.
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Speaker 2: And then the people that donated the money for that,
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Speaker 2: one of them was a gentleman that had won like
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Speaker 2: five Belmont Steak. He had five Belmont Steak horses, so
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Speaker 2: in one of the scenes, we actually painted the exact
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Speaker 2: horses in the stable and it was one of my
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Speaker 2: favorite things. He only had a certain budget for it,
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Speaker 2: and I decided to donate several thousand dollars of my
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Speaker 2: services because I just thought it was very important. And
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Speaker 2: it turned out to be because while I was up
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Speaker 2: on scaffolds painting, some of the children would come. And
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Speaker 2: these were the children that were not used to going
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Speaker 2: to daycare centers. They were the children of the people
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Speaker 2: that worked the stables, you know, from El Salvador, from
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Speaker 2: other places, and these children didn't speak English and were
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Speaker 2: not very you know, comfortable. But when they walked in
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Speaker 2: and they saw all the paintings on the wall, I
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Speaker 2: would look down and they were just so enamored by
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Speaker 2: what they saw on the wall that I felt like, Okay,
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Speaker 2: this was good because I understood them. When I went
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Speaker 2: to kindergarten, even though I was born in the United States,
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Speaker 2: my parents only spoke Greek to me, so I did.
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Speaker 2: I went to kindergarten not knowing a stitch of English.
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Speaker 2: So everything for me had to be visual, like I
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Speaker 2: had to look and understand, Oh, that's why that person
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Speaker 2: is doing that. Oh that's what's happening here. And when
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Speaker 2: you're not understanding and you're doing visual, you tend to
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Speaker 2: be a little fearful. So I understood how these children,
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Speaker 2: you know, are going to get dropped off at a
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Speaker 2: daycare center when that's not what they're used to, so
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Speaker 2: making the place beautiful and happy for them. I went
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Speaker 2: back about a year after I had done it, and
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Speaker 2: I saw in the area where I had painted in
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Speaker 2: the octagon there was chairs where the mothers would wait
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Speaker 2: to pick up their children, and they said to me
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Speaker 2: our children. They said it in their language, and somebody
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Speaker 2: interpreted that. They were so pleased with how it looked,
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Speaker 2: and they all felt so good sitting in that area,
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Speaker 2: and I felt very, very honored that I was able
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Speaker 2: to do that. They even asked me to paint my
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Speaker 2: handprint on the wall, so my handprint is on the
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Speaker 2: wall instead of a signature or again, if you can't read,
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Speaker 2: what good is it? So it's like, okay, we see
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Speaker 2: the hands on the wall. So it was interesting, what a.
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Speaker 1: Gift you gave those children. That's very very special. Thank you.
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Speaker 2: It was lovely. And even better, I have a knack
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Speaker 2: of being able to whistle like a bird, so when
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Speaker 2: I was up painting, I started chirping, and these little
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Speaker 2: kids thought that they were birds in the in the building.
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Speaker 2: And I'm watching their reactions look up, and then when
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Speaker 2: they caught my eye, they started to laugh and I
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Speaker 2: waved to them. So, yeah, it was. It was very
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Speaker 2: very heartwarming, wonderful.
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Speaker 1: Some people dream in black and white, but you hear
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Speaker 1: you've always dreamed in color. Why do you think that
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Speaker 1: manifested for you?
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Speaker 2: Well, I look at it this way. Black and white
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Speaker 2: is in other words. I was married to a man
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Speaker 2: who I'm divorced from. But I asked him when we
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Speaker 2: first got married. I said, do you when you close
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Speaker 2: your eyes? I said, do you see colored? When you
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Speaker 2: do you see colors? He goes, oh, just go to
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Speaker 2: sleep stuff. And he goes, no, I see black and white.
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Speaker 2: I should have known then that we were not going
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Speaker 2: to be a good match. People that see things in
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Speaker 2: black and white don't are not as flexible. That's how
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Speaker 2: I see it. It's like you need to know, like
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Speaker 2: be sure of it, and this is either it's either
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Speaker 2: this or this. There's no like happy middle. When you
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Speaker 2: dreaming in color, it's vibrational, and I feel that you're
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Speaker 2: a lot more open or a lot more vivid than
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Speaker 2: when somebody sees black and white. And it's interesting because
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Speaker 2: I always would predict. As an interior designer, I would
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Speaker 2: predict what the new color was going to be for
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Speaker 2: the season. And I remember there was a time where
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Speaker 2: everything was gray. Do you remember that victory like gray
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Speaker 2: was a color. So I would explain to people the
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Speaker 2: reason it's gray. It has to do with the way
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Speaker 2: the mass where society is. You know, they can't make
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Speaker 2: a decision, so they in other words, they can't do
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Speaker 2: black and they can't do white. They ride the rail
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Speaker 2: and they feel safe doing things in the gray zone.
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Speaker 2: You know, it's the gray area. And I found that
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Speaker 2: I used to tell people this won't last because it
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Speaker 2: will become depressing, it will become unstable because you don't
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Speaker 2: feel like you know, you're sure. And then sure enough,
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Speaker 2: little by little, like the grays went out and the
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Speaker 2: beige and the softer colors started to come in, and
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Speaker 2: I noticed how people wanted more. They still had like
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Speaker 2: they would do beige, light blue, cream, white, and then
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Speaker 2: they would throw a little black in that was their
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Speaker 2: like grounding color. But I found that the gray was
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Speaker 2: going out and people started becoming more awake, and that's
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Speaker 2: when I noticed the shift in the way people were thinking.
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Speaker 2: If you just watch the colors. You can go back
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Speaker 2: to remember in the seventies we had harvest gold, avocado green,
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Speaker 2: and the ovens and the refrigerators, and people back then
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Speaker 2: were very open to colors, and they were very regal colors.
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Speaker 2: And then we went into like the eighties and nineties
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Speaker 2: where everything looked like Miami Vice, like the peach, the gray,
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Speaker 2: the maule and teal, you know, and then it shifted
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Speaker 2: again after that, so you can actually see not just
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Speaker 2: how the decor shifted, but the way people think we're
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Speaker 2: thinking also shifted.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely. Were you an intuitive or a psychic.
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Speaker 2: As a child, Yes, but I didn't know that's what
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Speaker 2: it was. I was always intrigued by I would sit
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Speaker 2: there at the age of like five or six and like,
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Speaker 2: what is like what is this? Like what am I?
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Speaker 2: What am I doing here? Like I had questions even
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Speaker 2: back then. By the time I was seven, I was
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Speaker 2: when we had library in during school, I would always
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Speaker 2: gravitate towards Greek mythology. I loved it, and not because
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Speaker 2: I was Greek, but I just loved the stories like
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Speaker 2: Pandora and you know, Hercules and Demeter and all of these,
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Speaker 2: you know, interesting stories and wanted and I actually believed
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Speaker 2: them because something intuitive in me kept saying, I could
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Speaker 2: see that. You know, when I went to Greece as
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Speaker 2: a child, and you go up to the acropolis, to
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Speaker 2: the Parthenon, and know that it's thousands of years old,
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Speaker 2: and you're wondering, look how tall it's built. There had
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Speaker 2: to be people here that were like, you know, the
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Speaker 2: gods sort of speak. So I was always intrigued by it,
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Speaker 2: and by the time I was eleven twelve, I was
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Speaker 2: interpreting dreams. I had my little encyclopedia of dreams, and
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Speaker 2: it came very natural to me. My grandmother was born
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Speaker 2: and lived in Greece. She died at one hundred and two.
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Speaker 2: She was like the wise old woman in the village.
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Speaker 2: She had delivered all the babies because again, to drive
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Speaker 2: down to the main town it was like a two
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Speaker 2: and a half hour drive, but if you're walking it
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Speaker 2: would take days and hours. So they were pretty much
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Speaker 2: isolated up in the village. So you know, she was
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Speaker 2: the one. She knew how to put together herbs and
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Speaker 2: what would heal or help. So I guess in essence,
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Speaker 2: I people said, you're just like your grandmother, and I
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Speaker 2: can believe that. But in those days. She told me,
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Speaker 2: and she told me stories about when the babies would cry.
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Speaker 2: She says, oh. I said, well, what would you do.
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Speaker 2: She says, well, they had you know, they were collaguy
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Speaker 2: and she would give them. She goes, oh, we would
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Speaker 2: put a serum from the poppy seats. I was like Grandma,
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Speaker 2: I said, poppy seats. I said, that's heroine. So she says, no, no, no.
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Speaker 2: I was a okay, and I said, can you point
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Speaker 2: out to me which of these people up here were
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Speaker 2: the ones that you gave that to. I want to
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Speaker 2: see if they're still okay. It was. It was interesting.
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Speaker 2: So I would say that I definitely had my my
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Speaker 2: grandmother's gifts. You know that she was able to whip
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Speaker 2: together even if they didn't have food. She would get
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Speaker 2: the herbs and everything and whip together dandelion greens and
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Speaker 2: so I'm also my creativity spills over to cooking, to sewing,
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Speaker 2: to interior design, to writing to doing artwork. So all
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Speaker 2: those gifts were I was born with them.
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Speaker 1: I would say, where did you get the moniker? The
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Speaker 1: designing soul?
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Speaker 2: Okay? So I definitely during the week, I'm an interior
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Speaker 2: designer and I love doing that. Work, and on the
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Speaker 2: weekends I would do the like readings and life coaching.
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Speaker 2: I early on, I used to do both at the
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Speaker 2: same time, and it was extremely draining and there were
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Speaker 2: times where I'd be like reading all day long and
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Speaker 2: I found it to be extremely pulled from my energy.
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Speaker 2: So I said, in order to be able to find
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Speaker 2: the balance, I said, I have to design and then
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Speaker 2: work on people's souls at the same time. So like
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Speaker 2: it would have to be designing a home then designing
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Speaker 2: a soul. So that's how it came up where I'm
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Speaker 2: doing the same thing, where I'm designing people's rooms and
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Speaker 2: colors and get them to feel not only look good,
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Speaker 2: but feel good. Then I said, well, technically, I'm kind
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Speaker 2: of designing their souls on the weekend, trying to give
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Speaker 2: them tools to better their life, and you tell them
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Speaker 2: things that they needed to hear. So I put the
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Speaker 2: two together and I came up with the designing soul.
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Speaker 1: Perfect, absolutely perfect. And you have a fifteen year practice
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Speaker 1: in life coaching and psychic healing. What do you bring
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Speaker 1: to those clients with both the practical and spiritual gifts.
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Speaker 2: Well, I've been through a lot in my life and
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Speaker 2: I've hit rock bottom, and I've had to climb back
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Speaker 2: up again. I've had heartaches with you know, marriages, you know,
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Speaker 2: deaths in the family, children not speaking to me. There's
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Speaker 2: been so many different things that have gone in my
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Speaker 2: life that I found that I was easily getting depressed
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Speaker 2: and falling into dark places. And I found that when
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Speaker 2: I understood more about psychic healing and life coaching and
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Speaker 2: understand that it is a mind, body, soul and that
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Speaker 2: you control the elevator, you can go as high as
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Speaker 2: you want, and you can go as low as you want.
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Speaker 2: So I decided to take all that I learned through
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Speaker 2: all of my hearts and give people that information or
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Speaker 2: the shortcut. I used to tell them. I said, I've
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Speaker 2: been to Helen back so many times. I know the
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Speaker 2: shortcut how to get out of it. So I will
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Speaker 2: give you the shortcut so that you don't have to,
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Speaker 2: you know, suffer. I found that every time I made
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Speaker 2: decisions based on fear, which was always the worst decision
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Speaker 2: I ever made. And then I found that so many people,
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Speaker 2: so many people live in fear, fight or flight mode.
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Speaker 2: They're always worrying, They're always well, what if this happens,
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Speaker 2: and well what if that happens. But then you know,
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Speaker 2: if they tell me, what if this happens? I said, yeah,
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Speaker 2: but there's a flip side to that. You know, what
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Speaker 2: if the good thing happens. But we're so conditioned to
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Speaker 2: constantly going to the fear of anything and everything that
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Speaker 2: they're missing the idea. So I said to them, I said,
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Speaker 2: would you rather live in a basement apartment with cement
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Speaker 2: walls and no windows? Or would you rather live in
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Speaker 2: a penthouse surrounded by all windows, sunshine and beautiful light.
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Speaker 2: You control the elevator, it's in your mind. You know,
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Speaker 2: when you start to notice yourself getting depressed, don't don't
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Speaker 2: go to the bottom floor because the climb up. The
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Speaker 2: lower you go, the climb up is harder and longer.
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Speaker 2: So if you're conscious of yourself, of your thoughts, of
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Speaker 2: your emotions, and you either you know, check yourself or
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Speaker 2: you switch it, then you never get to go to
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Speaker 2: that place. So what I like to do with people,
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Speaker 2: especially with the coaching, is give them tools, Like people
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Speaker 2: have tell me I've gotten more out of you in
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Speaker 2: one hour than I've gotten for twenty years. Going to
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Speaker 2: a therapist and therapy is great, but therapy just goes
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Speaker 2: to the past and kind of dredges up the reason
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Speaker 2: why you are the way you are or you're going
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Speaker 2: through what you're going through. I prefer to give the
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Speaker 2: person the tooth, because that's what they don't do. They
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Speaker 2: don't say, okay, fine, I understand, this is why this happened.
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Speaker 2: But now what how do I get out of it?
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Speaker 2: What do I do with? You know, all this knowledge?
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Speaker 2: So I like to give people tools, and they always
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Speaker 2: say to me, you know, I always hear your voice
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Speaker 2: in my head. You know when you said this, this
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Speaker 2: and this, and even if I can do that, if
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Speaker 2: I can plant that seed, if you can have my
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Speaker 2: words and my vibration in your head to help you,
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Speaker 2: then I'm very content. If you know, like I always say,
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Speaker 2: make sure every day you feel like it's your last
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Speaker 2: day because you never know when it will be. So
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Speaker 2: live your days as if they are your last. Do
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Speaker 2: everything good from a great place, so that if you
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Speaker 2: do leave, you left your footprint, You left your mark absolutely.
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Speaker 1: And what do you share with those who in this
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Speaker 1: crazy world are struggling to find meaning and purpose?
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Speaker 2: See, the interesting thing is it depends where they are.
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Speaker 2: If they're living from a place of fear, it doesn't
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Speaker 2: matter what you tell them their purpose is or what
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Speaker 2: you try to get them to see. It's something that
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Speaker 2: you have to sometimes go through the struggles. The darkness.
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Speaker 2: I always say, you know, the dark night of the
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Speaker 2: soul is when you've hit the most rock bottom place.
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Speaker 2: You know that. Sometimes it happened to me almost I
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Speaker 2: almost took my life because it was so dark. And
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Speaker 2: I understand that about people, And a lot of times,
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Speaker 2: it doesn't matter what you tell them. They have to
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Speaker 2: want to wake up. They have to want to do something.
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Speaker 2: They have to want to find their purpose. So if
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Speaker 2: they're not ready and you just keep telling them, but
21:58
Speaker 2: you have to do this, but you have to do this,
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Speaker 2: all you're doing is agitating them further or upsetting them
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Speaker 2: further because in their heart of hearts, they just can't
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Speaker 2: do it. They just don't see it, you know, they
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Speaker 2: just can't see a way out. So with people like that,
22:14
Speaker 2: I like to do baby steps. I like to talk
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Speaker 2: about what they like to do in life, you know,
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Speaker 2: and what they feel good at, and try to give
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Speaker 2: them a moment by moment, you know, when you think
22:26
Speaker 2: of this, do this, when you're feeling like this, do this,
22:30
Speaker 2: do it for twenty one days. I said. It takes
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Speaker 2: twenty one days to break a habit and twenty one
22:37
Speaker 2: days to create a new habit. I advise them to
22:40
Speaker 2: wear a rubber band on their hand and when they
22:43
Speaker 2: start talking negative about themselves to themselves, I said, snap
22:47
Speaker 2: that rubber band where it really hurts. I said, and
22:50
Speaker 2: then bring yourself back to the moment and just understand
22:53
Speaker 2: that whatever you were worried about, or whatever you regrets
22:57
Speaker 2: you had in the past, you can't go there. They
22:59
Speaker 2: do not exist. They're only existing in your mind. And
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Speaker 2: I explain to people try putting on I said, have
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Speaker 2: you ever put on virtual reality goggles? Have you ever
23:08
Speaker 2: watched those people they put it on, they flay their
23:11
Speaker 2: arms in the air, they trip, they fall down because
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Speaker 2: they're physiologically reacting to something that is not real, but
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Speaker 2: they're visually seeing it and their bodies reacting to it.
23:24
Speaker 2: So when you start going to what if this happens
23:27
Speaker 2: in the future, or do my life you know stinks
23:29
Speaker 2: from the past, it's as if you're wearing virtual reality goggles,
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Speaker 2: you're physically mentally reacting to thoughts or memories that do
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Speaker 2: not exist. So when you pull yourself back to the moment,
23:43
Speaker 2: you're still sitting in the chair, you still have a
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Speaker 2: roof over your head, you still can eat, breathe, walk, talk,
23:50
Speaker 2: Be grateful, be thankful, and push that other stuff away
23:54
Speaker 2: because it does not exist. Only handle what you can see,
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Speaker 2: feel here in the moment and go from that place.
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Speaker 1: Absolutely the wisdom of my guest, Stephanie Roseriniotis. We're going
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Speaker 1: to be talking about her new book on the market,
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Speaker 1: off the market, and I don't mean your house. Stephanie,
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Speaker 1: please share with listeners where they can find out more
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Speaker 1: about you and your amazing work and your books.
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Speaker 2: Well, you could definitely go to my website, which is
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Speaker 2: the designingsoul dot com. On my website, you can click
24:27
Speaker 2: and you can purchase either of my books. You can
24:30
Speaker 2: reach out to me. My email is also on there
24:33
Speaker 2: where you can send me messages for life coaching for
24:38
Speaker 2: interior design. I also do interior design work virtually, so
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Speaker 2: even if you're in another state. I'm in Florida and
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Speaker 2: I stage homes in New York, Pennsylvania, Chicago, so I
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Speaker 2: can do it without physically being there. And my email
24:56
Speaker 2: address is the designingsoul at yahoo dot com or Stephanie
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Speaker 2: Rineotis at gmail dot.
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Speaker 1: Back on Destination Unlimited, My guest this week is Stephanie Roseriniotis.
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Speaker 1: We're going to be talking about her new book on
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Speaker 1: the Market, Off the Market, and I don't mean your house, Stephanie.
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Speaker 1: Before we talk about that book, what inspired your first book,
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Speaker 1: Color Your World? Who was this for and what did
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Speaker 1: you share with readers?
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Speaker 2: Well, at the time, I was doing a lot of
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Speaker 2: faux painting. Those were the years I was climbing scaffolds
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Speaker 2: and painting walls, and I would go into people's houses
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Speaker 2: and they would tell me, you know, oh, my daughter
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Speaker 2: wanted a black wall. I was like, wow, you know,
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Speaker 2: that's not really a good thing. And they couldn't understand
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Speaker 2: what the meaning of colors were and how it affected,
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Speaker 2: you know, the children. Whoever the room was another house
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Speaker 2: I went into. People had three triplets and they were
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Speaker 2: all autistic, and she had nothing but yellow and red
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Speaker 2: through her whole house. And I knew, because I studied
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Speaker 2: color and I loved it, that those colors are high vibrational.
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Speaker 2: You do not use them around children that are hyperactive
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Speaker 2: or can't settle their minds. So I started asking people
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Speaker 2: do you know what the color means? And they would
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Speaker 2: be like no. I was like, well, you need to
26:55
Speaker 2: change this. And then I just thought everybody understood color.
26:59
Speaker 2: So when I realiz as they didn't, and I was
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Speaker 2: watching these children either having fits or you know, being
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Speaker 2: like uncontrollable, I was like, I need to put this down.
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Speaker 2: So I pretty much wrote it for parents to understand
27:14
Speaker 2: it for their children. But the color meaning and everything
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Speaker 2: applies to adults as well as children. So I figured,
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Speaker 2: if I write it for the children, the parents will
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Speaker 2: read it, but then they'll also absorb something from it.
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Speaker 2: When I did write that book, I from every book
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Speaker 2: I sold, I would give a percentage to autism research.
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Speaker 2: So that was a big thing for me as well,
27:39
Speaker 2: because I used to paint in so many houses and
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Speaker 2: I used to see a lot of different children. Some
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Speaker 2: were like completely withdrawn, others were like very hyper. And
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Speaker 2: if I understood the color and they could learn from it,
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Speaker 2: then maybe it could help them. And sure enough, the
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Speaker 2: children whose kitchen was yellow and red. I asked the parent,
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Speaker 2: I said, these kids jumping off the wall. She goes,
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Speaker 2: oh my god, don't ask. I said, well, how do
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Speaker 2: you guys sit down and have dinner? This is such
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Speaker 2: a like a you know, a high vibrational color. I said,
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Speaker 2: red vibrates really really fast. I said, these kids can't
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Speaker 2: settle down. And then I had a lot of teachers
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Speaker 2: buying my book and assessing, you know, with children in school,
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Speaker 2: and there was one that had a child. She goes,
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Speaker 2: he's really good until we sit down for reading and
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Speaker 2: he's just all over the place. And I said, send
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Speaker 2: me a picture of what that area looks like, what
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Speaker 2: that corner looks like. They had a big red bookshelf
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Speaker 2: like behind the teacher, and I was like, do me
28:43
Speaker 2: a favor. Buy a sheet with butterflies on it and
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Speaker 2: drape it over that while you're doing story time, and
28:50
Speaker 2: then let me know if anything changes. She was like,
28:54
Speaker 2: oh my god. It was like a like you turned
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Speaker 2: to switch. The little boy just sat there and listen
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Speaker 2: and through the whole time. I said, color goes into
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Speaker 2: your optic nerve and it triggers the brain to do something.
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Speaker 2: So the same way yellow hits the optic nerve and
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Speaker 2: tells you wake up, pay attention. Hence why highlighters are yellow.
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Speaker 2: You read mail and yellow envelopes more than you know.
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Speaker 2: You go for that one more than you will the
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Speaker 2: white one. So I wrote the book because I had
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Speaker 2: the knowledge and I wanted to share it with everyone wonderful.
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Speaker 1: So we got on the market, off the market and
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Speaker 1: I don't mean your house. What do you what inspired
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Speaker 1: that book?
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Speaker 2: Okay? So I wrote this book, uh, probably about twelve
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Speaker 2: thirteen years ago, and I didn't publish it, and I
29:44
Speaker 2: just left it on the back burner. Basically, what inspired it?
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Speaker 2: I got divorced. You know, I was married at twenty
29:51
Speaker 2: I had a cheating husband and three children by the
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Speaker 2: time I was twenty nine, and I stayed in the
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Speaker 2: marriage for the children. So at thirty nine, I find
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Speaker 2: myself divorced and taking three children along for the ride.
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Speaker 2: But at the time, I had got married so young,
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Speaker 2: so I never had the chance. Like most women they
30:13
Speaker 2: went to college, they dated. I didn't have that. So
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Speaker 2: I find myself now wanting to go out and trying
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Speaker 2: to meet people, you know, meet a gentleman. So I
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Speaker 2: was doing everything. I was doing, the circuit I was
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Speaker 2: going to. You know, at the time, it wasn't so
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Speaker 2: much online dating. I was still trying to meet people
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Speaker 2: in person. And one day I was at a place
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Speaker 2: in Long Island, and you know, at this point, I'm
30:37
Speaker 2: starting to get discouraged because it had been many years
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Speaker 2: and I dated, but it was like, you know, I
30:43
Speaker 2: felt like goldilocks, you know, once too big, ones too small.
30:46
Speaker 2: I was looking for the one perfect and it was
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Speaker 2: very hard to find. I'm sitting at a bar by
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Speaker 2: myself and this gentleman comes and sits next to me,
30:56
Speaker 2: and I didn't look at him, but he just said, hey,
30:58
Speaker 2: you know, can I buy you a drink? So as
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Speaker 2: soon as I turned and I looked at him, I
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Speaker 2: was like, this guy doesn't remember me. He tried to
31:06
Speaker 2: buy me a drink like three years prior. I was like,
31:09
Speaker 2: if it didn't work then, and I didn't really like
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Speaker 2: want to you know, try again. I just started to laugh,
31:15
Speaker 2: got up off the barstool, I said, I'm done. I
31:18
Speaker 2: go out to my car and as I'm driving, there
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Speaker 2: was a radio station and they were discussing something about
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Speaker 2: the housing market and that there's too many houses on
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Speaker 2: the market and not enough buyers. And I'm like, well,
31:29
Speaker 2: that's kind of like what's happening to me. There's too
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Speaker 2: many single people on the market and not you know,
31:34
Speaker 2: not enough right people. So I started jotting down little
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Speaker 2: notes and I started to notice the similarities. Like, okay,
31:44
Speaker 2: comparative market analysis. That's when you go out to see
31:47
Speaker 2: how much you're worth, even if you're still married. You
31:50
Speaker 2: just want to know what the market value is for
31:53
Speaker 2: someone like you. You know, a fixer upper. Same concept. You know,
31:58
Speaker 2: you're buying a house. It needs a lot of work,
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Speaker 2: a lot of TLC. You meet men or women and
32:05
Speaker 2: they definitely are fixer uppers. They either need you to
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Speaker 2: be their mother or to you know, be their nurse
32:13
Speaker 2: maid or something where women need the men for the
32:17
Speaker 2: financial security. So that to me is like what a
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Speaker 2: fixer upper is. And the same way you're looking for
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Speaker 2: your forever home, you're going to check the neighborhood. You're
32:27
Speaker 2: going to check to make sure that you know, the
32:30
Speaker 2: engineers report is good. You're going to check to make
32:32
Speaker 2: sure the pipes are working well. When you go in
32:34
Speaker 2: to look for your forever person, you want to see
32:38
Speaker 2: what their friends are like. You want to see, you know,
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Speaker 2: you know, if they're healthy, what their habits are, you know.
32:45
Speaker 2: And I always tell people, if you really want to
32:47
Speaker 2: look for a long term relationship, then you have to
32:50
Speaker 2: put the legwork in. If you just want a one
32:53
Speaker 2: night stand or a hook up, rent don't buy, you know.
32:58
Speaker 2: And I just read Decided. I was like, you know what,
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Speaker 2: that was a good book. I picked it up, and
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Speaker 2: you know, I looked through my notes and I started
33:07
Speaker 2: reading it and I was like, wow, I forgot about
33:09
Speaker 2: all the interesting things and I just found myself laughing.
33:12
Speaker 2: And I'm still single, but I have dated. But people
33:16
Speaker 2: will call me picky, And it's not that I'm picky.
33:19
Speaker 2: It's more like I know who I am, I know
33:22
Speaker 2: where my vibration vibrates, and I know that I've done
33:26
Speaker 2: so much work and the fact that I'm psychic, it's
33:29
Speaker 2: really not as easy to you know, find somebody that
33:34
Speaker 2: can accept all of me. You know, some men find
33:38
Speaker 2: me intimidating because I know a lot about a lot
33:44
Speaker 2: and I don't know. Some men are just very simple.
33:47
Speaker 2: So I would need somebody that could be open minded,
33:51
Speaker 2: could be intelligent, could understand me. And the fact that
33:56
Speaker 2: I don't need a man, I would want a man.
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Speaker 2: So I get into the book and explain to people,
34:03
Speaker 2: are you ready to date? You know, some people are
34:06
Speaker 2: not ready to date. They just want somebody, They need somebody,
34:12
Speaker 2: and they just don't want to be alone. And you know,
34:15
Speaker 2: I am past all that. So a lot of times
34:19
Speaker 2: I watch my friends, you know, who are divorced less
34:22
Speaker 2: years than I, that are going out having fun to do it.
34:25
Speaker 2: And I said, listen, you just got to get it
34:27
Speaker 2: out of your system. I've been there, I understand. But
34:30
Speaker 2: this will get old. You will get tired of doing
34:34
Speaker 2: it this way. So I decided to write the book,
34:37
Speaker 2: ad a little humor to it, give some tips on
34:41
Speaker 2: how to read body language, how to understand vibration. Numerology
34:48
Speaker 2: is huge, whether you're looking for a house or a spouse.
34:52
Speaker 2: Numbers have a vibration, So if you find the person's birthday,
34:57
Speaker 2: you can kind of get a little bit of a
35:00
Speaker 2: insight as to what type of person they are. The
35:04
Speaker 2: same goes with a house number. If you add up
35:07
Speaker 2: the number, you can tell if this house is going
35:10
Speaker 2: to be a happy, creative place for you, or if
35:13
Speaker 2: you're going to have a lot of tears while you're
35:15
Speaker 2: living in this house. So I wanted to kind of
35:19
Speaker 2: make it like a little handbook for people out there
35:22
Speaker 2: that are dating and to laugh about it and not
35:26
Speaker 2: take it so seriously and work on themselves in the interim.
35:31
Speaker 2: And I do believe that destiny. You can't hold on
35:36
Speaker 2: to someone that is not meant to be yours, and
35:40
Speaker 2: you can't force somebody to be yours, and you won't
35:42
Speaker 2: lose whatever is. Whoever's meant to be yours will be
35:47
Speaker 2: So when you learn to just sit in that space
35:50
Speaker 2: and smile, laugh, have gratitude, and just you go day
35:55
Speaker 2: to day with a peacefulness instead of a haunting needing
36:01
Speaker 2: scarcity energy.
36:04
Speaker 1: It's funny you would use the expression forever home, And
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Speaker 1: when I think of forever home, I think of cats
36:10
Speaker 1: and dogs. Are you alluding to the fact that some
36:12
Speaker 1: of the guys you dated were dogs?
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well that's for sure. That I have stories
36:17
Speaker 2: on top of stories, I could probably write a new
36:19
Speaker 2: book on just the different men. And like I said,
36:25
Speaker 2: when you're psychic, it's very One of the chapters that
36:28
Speaker 2: I wrote about in the book too, is about ghosts,
36:32
Speaker 2: you know, a haunted house, because being psychic, you're sitting there.
36:37
Speaker 2: I've learned I don't go into people's energy unless they
36:40
Speaker 2: give me permission or they want a reading from me,
36:43
Speaker 2: so I tend to stay away from trying to read
36:47
Speaker 2: their energy. Somebody matched me up with this guy and
36:50
Speaker 2: I go to meet him, and he's drinking wine glass
36:53
Speaker 2: after wine glass, and he has a nervous left, so
36:56
Speaker 2: already I'm picking up on his energy is just very rare.
37:00
Speaker 2: So he's asked me, what do you do blah blah blah,
37:02
Speaker 2: and I told him, And then I also told him
37:04
Speaker 2: that I'm a professional psychkic and he goes, oh, I
37:07
Speaker 2: don't believe in that. He used the word that. I
37:10
Speaker 2: don't want to say. I don't believe in that crap.
37:12
Speaker 2: He goes, I was like, okay, the fact that he
37:14
Speaker 2: put it that way, I already knew we were not
37:16
Speaker 2: a good match because he had like a rudeness. So
37:20
Speaker 2: then into the five minutes or ten minutes past and
37:23
Speaker 2: he goes, well, do you get anything negative around me?
37:26
Speaker 2: I was like, oops, this is fun. Now he opened
37:28
Speaker 2: the door, so now I can actually, like you know,
37:31
Speaker 2: dive into his energy. So immediately I said, your mother
37:35
Speaker 2: passed away. He said yeah. I said, well, she's right
37:38
Speaker 2: next to you. I said, she's asking me about the
37:40
Speaker 2: ring with the twelve rubies that's supposed to go to
37:42
Speaker 2: your daughter. Now his face turned white because now he
37:45
Speaker 2: knows that I do know what I'm talking about. And
37:48
Speaker 2: then I said, oh, did she have a sister, Because
37:50
Speaker 2: right after that, I said, I see this woman right
37:53
Speaker 2: next to her. She says, yeah, they did everything. They
37:56
Speaker 2: shopped together, they were and they died like one after
37:58
Speaker 2: the other. So I understood that the ring went to her,
38:03
Speaker 2: and now she died and his cousin has it. I said,
38:06
Speaker 2: you need to get that ring because so now this
38:08
Speaker 2: guy is blown away. He's understanding, he knows the ring,
38:12
Speaker 2: he knows his aunt died and his mother died. The
38:15
Speaker 2: mother tells me he tried to make it to see
38:18
Speaker 2: me one last time and get a hug, and by
38:20
Speaker 2: the time he got there, I had already passed. So
38:23
Speaker 2: he goes she's mentally asking me if I would hug
38:26
Speaker 2: him for her. So I said to him, did you
38:29
Speaker 2: try to get to the hospital and he goes yeah.
38:31
Speaker 2: I said, stand up, and he goes what I said,
38:33
Speaker 2: your mother wants me to give you a hug. She
38:35
Speaker 2: told me that, you know you didn't get it. So
38:37
Speaker 2: now I give the guy a hug and he's bawling.
38:40
Speaker 2: He's crying all over the place. I'm like, this is
38:42
Speaker 2: not a good first date for sure. And then she
38:46
Speaker 2: tells me that he's going to have a heart attack.
38:48
Speaker 2: I said, well, that's where I draw the line. I
38:50
Speaker 2: cannot tell him that because he'll think I had something
38:53
Speaker 2: to do with it. So I just said, do you
38:55
Speaker 2: ever get palpitations? He goes yeah. I said, well maybe
38:58
Speaker 2: you should go like check that out. Well we say,
39:01
Speaker 2: He goes, are you sure they're you know? Do you
39:03
Speaker 2: like me that? Can we go out again? I'm like, no, definitely,
39:07
Speaker 2: we're not a match. Plus in my head, I'm going
39:09
Speaker 2: you're gonna have a heart attack. I don't want to
39:11
Speaker 2: be around like when it happens. So four weeks later,
39:15
Speaker 2: the girl who introduced us said, oh, my god, Mark
39:19
Speaker 2: had a heart attack with a quadruple bypass. He was
39:22
Speaker 2: in the hospital and she said to him, oh, Stephanie
39:25
Speaker 2: said that was going to happen, and he goes, why
39:27
Speaker 2: didn't Stephanie tell me? He goes, because she didn't want
39:30
Speaker 2: you walking around waiting for the heart attack to come,
39:33
Speaker 2: and you blamed her for it. So yeah, So that's
39:36
Speaker 2: my dating experience when you're you know, psidekick on top
39:41
Speaker 2: of it.
39:41
Speaker 1: From your personal experience and perspective, what are the biggest
39:45
Speaker 1: challenges in dating today?
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Speaker 2: Well, I will say that a lot of people that
39:52
Speaker 2: have not put in work on themselves come from a
39:56
Speaker 2: place of ego. So when they're vibrating on an ego level,
40:02
Speaker 2: they're lying. I've had more men tell me they lie
40:08
Speaker 2: about their age. And I'm not talking one or two years,
40:12
Speaker 2: five to seven years. You know. They'll be like in
40:15
Speaker 2: their seventies and tell me that they're sixty one, you know,
40:18
Speaker 2: or sixty two. And I say to myself, like, you
40:21
Speaker 2: just started, you didn't know me, you met me, and
40:23
Speaker 2: you lie. That's the first thing you did. Like already
40:27
Speaker 2: I have a bad taste in my mouth because if
40:29
Speaker 2: you lie about your age, what else are you going
40:30
Speaker 2: to lie to me about? So I do find that ego,
40:35
Speaker 2: you know, everybody. Oh, I go to the gym five
40:37
Speaker 2: times a week. It's like they give too much information
40:41
Speaker 2: instead of, you know, being a little bit more. Just
40:44
Speaker 2: be authentic. I like this, I don't like that. This
40:48
Speaker 2: is how I am. And also to be quick to
40:52
Speaker 2: recognize whether this person is for you or not. There's
40:57
Speaker 2: many a time, as I said before, whether you're in
41:02
Speaker 2: need to be with somebody, you're gonna put on a
41:05
Speaker 2: facade and you're going to pretend you're this or you're that,
41:08
Speaker 2: and you're gonna, you know, schmooze it up. But then
41:12
Speaker 2: when you finally get into the relationship with this person,
41:16
Speaker 2: you put your everything down and now you're being yourself,
41:19
Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, it's like, where did that
41:20
Speaker 2: other person go? That was, you know, bubbly and happy,
41:25
Speaker 2: and now I have this depressed, suicidal woman on my hands.
41:28
Speaker 2: Men are like what happened? Like, you know, why did
41:31
Speaker 2: you change? That's because they're coming across showing you their
41:35
Speaker 2: falseness and then eventually who you really are is going
41:40
Speaker 2: to surface. So I would say honesty and communication is huge.
41:46
Speaker 2: Now you put into that all this online dating, Okay,
41:51
Speaker 2: I listen, I've been on them, I've gone on them.
41:55
Speaker 2: I do see how it becomes people don't know how
42:00
Speaker 2: to socialize anymore, Victor. You know, like we used to
42:03
Speaker 2: go out, used to talk to somebody, you made eye contact,
42:06
Speaker 2: you asked for a phone number. You know. It was
42:09
Speaker 2: kind of like that that role, Like you just would
42:11
Speaker 2: play that game and you'd feel the energy. Now off
42:15
Speaker 2: of photographs. I watched the photographs. Oh he looks nice,
42:20
Speaker 2: and then all of a sudden you scroll down and
42:22
Speaker 2: in four photos he's aged twenty years. It's like I
42:27
Speaker 2: was like, what happened? You know? And that to me
42:30
Speaker 2: is it's like a turnoff, you know, or they start.
42:35
Speaker 2: I love the profiles that they're telling you everything they
42:39
Speaker 2: do not want. If you're this, I don't want you.
42:42
Speaker 2: If you're political this way, I don't want you. If
42:44
Speaker 2: you're you know, if you don't go to the gym,
42:47
Speaker 2: I don't want you. It's like they're they're missing. They're
42:50
Speaker 2: all on a three D materialistic area, you know, Like
42:57
Speaker 2: I used to remember going out even on Long Island.
43:00
Speaker 2: Bars Rothman's on Long Island used to be like they
43:03
Speaker 2: used to call it the meat market. That's where I
43:05
Speaker 2: actually got the idea for this book. I was sitting
43:08
Speaker 2: at the bar in Rothman's and that used to be
43:11
Speaker 2: on Thursday night, a literal meat market, and the girls
43:16
Speaker 2: used to wait outside to see the cars that the
43:19
Speaker 2: gentlemen would pull up in, and if they had a Ferrari,
43:22
Speaker 2: a Mercedes, or a Porsche, that's who they gravitated towards,
43:27
Speaker 2: just based on their car. And I would even turn
43:31
Speaker 2: to them and say, don't you want to know anything,
43:34
Speaker 2: like if the guy's personality is great, And I watched
43:38
Speaker 2: friends date you know narcissists that you know, were borderline
43:42
Speaker 2: sociopaths that could have been serial murderers, And I would
43:46
Speaker 2: say to them, like, you know, why are you not
43:49
Speaker 2: wanting to see what the person's energy is like soul
43:53
Speaker 2: is like personality. So I would say that the Internet
43:58
Speaker 2: is really not It takes away from humanism, you know,
44:02
Speaker 2: like the human which is difficult. And again we're at
44:07
Speaker 2: a point right now, someone like me who has done
44:11
Speaker 2: a lot of work, I'm definitely awakened. I definitely vibrate
44:16
Speaker 2: on a high vibration when I draw to people. When
44:19
Speaker 2: I talk to people about vibrations, you hold your right
44:23
Speaker 2: hand and your left hand up. Okay, So if one
44:26
Speaker 2: person say myself is on a higher vibration and one
44:30
Speaker 2: person that's on a lower vibration, and you try to
44:33
Speaker 2: make those two lines match, they never will. They are
44:36
Speaker 2: on their own and they just pass each other. When
44:39
Speaker 2: you meet someone that's on yours, these two lines will
44:42
Speaker 2: hit and they will. That's where you get the spark
44:45
Speaker 2: and that's where you get the connection. So always, you know,
44:49
Speaker 2: I tell people, don't date down. It's ridiculous because eventually
44:53
Speaker 2: you're going to want to go back up to your
44:55
Speaker 2: vibration and they're going to be low. If they don't
44:59
Speaker 2: want to come and join when you want a higher vibration,
45:02
Speaker 2: they're always going to start a fight with you to
45:04
Speaker 2: bring your energy down and put you on their level.
45:08
Speaker 2: Always have your five non negotiables. Always talk your talk,
45:13
Speaker 2: walk your walk, Never ever give up how high you've
45:19
Speaker 2: climbed to be with someone. To the bottom line, don't
45:23
Speaker 2: ever go down in your vibration just to be with someone.
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47:11
Speaker 1: We're talking about her book on the market, Off the Market,
47:14
Speaker 1: And I don't mean your house, Stephanie. Who has the
47:18
Speaker 1: harder task in dating today women or men? And why?
47:23
Speaker 2: Well, I guess it'll depend where you're located. Here in
47:27
Speaker 2: Florida where I am, it's the ratio right now in
47:33
Speaker 2: the area that I'm in is eight women to every
47:36
Speaker 2: one man. So if you can understand that, the men
47:41
Speaker 2: think it's great because they have a they'll they'll date
47:43
Speaker 2: a different they'll serial date, they'll date a different woman,
47:47
Speaker 2: maybe three in the same week. And I've had that
47:50
Speaker 2: happen where you know, I've met the guy in and
47:52
Speaker 2: he goes, I'm sorry, he goes, what's your name again?
47:56
Speaker 2: And I was like, you're waiting for me and you
47:57
Speaker 2: don't even know my name? And I walk and he started.
48:00
Speaker 2: I said, yeah, I don't know about this. So he says, no, no, no,
48:03
Speaker 2: it's just that I'm talking to so many women I
48:05
Speaker 2: got them more confused. I was like, okay, I'm done, goodbye,
48:09
Speaker 2: and I walked away. But I would have to say
48:14
Speaker 2: mostly probably women because you know, well, let's put this way,
48:20
Speaker 2: sex cells. So if they go out and they're trying
48:23
Speaker 2: to meet somebody of some substance and you know, they're
48:26
Speaker 2: wearing a low cut mini dress and you know, yeah,
48:30
Speaker 2: the guy will like that part of it. But it's
48:33
Speaker 2: very hard to find a man that wants substance, you know,
48:38
Speaker 2: like something real. Uh, they're very visual where women, if
48:44
Speaker 2: they've done the work, they can see right through, you know,
48:48
Speaker 2: the whole materialistic thing. But if they haven't done the work,
48:53
Speaker 2: then they know how to I say, win a man,
48:57
Speaker 2: but it's always on a lower line level, animalistic level,
49:01
Speaker 2: because it's more like, you know, as I said, sex cells,
49:05
Speaker 2: and they're they're thinking on that level. So it's it's
49:09
Speaker 2: you know, it's very difficult when you're in a place
49:13
Speaker 2: where the odds are like it's in Manhattan. It's actually worse.
49:17
Speaker 2: I heard in Manhattan. I think the odds are like
49:20
Speaker 2: twenty to one because you have to take into account
49:24
Speaker 2: how much of the population is gay in Manhattan, so
49:27
Speaker 2: that just takes out a whole bunch of you know, men.
49:31
Speaker 2: So if you're a woman in Manhattan, you have it
49:33
Speaker 2: a lot harder trying to meet And if you're in
49:37
Speaker 2: your early twenties and thirties, maybe even forty, you're okay.
49:42
Speaker 2: The minute you start to go past fifty, sixty, seventy,
49:46
Speaker 2: it's hard. People say, oh, they have a lot of baggage.
49:49
Speaker 2: I don't look at it as baggage. I look at
49:51
Speaker 2: it as badge. Is like, you know, you've burned your
49:55
Speaker 2: badge and you have wisdom at this point. So if
50:00
Speaker 2: if you're at a point, I hear a lot of
50:02
Speaker 2: women say, oh, I don't even care if I ever
50:03
Speaker 2: meet anyone anymore. Like they get to a point where
50:06
Speaker 2: you realize you're you know, you don't want to just
50:09
Speaker 2: have somebody to have somebody, so it could get, you know,
50:14
Speaker 2: difficult as you get older. But at the same time,
50:18
Speaker 2: when you learn to love yourself, which you don't in
50:21
Speaker 2: your twenties, thirties and forties, you know, as you get older,
50:25
Speaker 2: you learn to be okay with yourself and you love yourself,
50:28
Speaker 2: so you're not going to just settle for anyone.
50:32
Speaker 1: Absolutely. How many intuitive gifts come to play in vetting
50:37
Speaker 1: potential relationships?
50:39
Speaker 2: Oh boy, well, that is very interesting. Like I said
50:44
Speaker 2: in the book, I speak of numerology, which is a
50:47
Speaker 2: simple thing of just asking them when their birthday is.
50:50
Speaker 2: So if you understand the way numerology is, you take
50:53
Speaker 2: their birthday with the year, and you add it up
50:55
Speaker 2: and bring it down to a single digit. So every
50:59
Speaker 2: number or stands for something. It's their life path number.
51:04
Speaker 2: So you can understand if this person is very sensitive,
51:07
Speaker 2: if they have trust issues, if they're you know, a creativity,
51:12
Speaker 2: if they're creative, each number stands for something, so you
51:16
Speaker 2: can use that to find out you know about them.
51:20
Speaker 2: And then with numerology, every nine years we go through
51:23
Speaker 2: what's called a nine year cycle. So you would take
51:25
Speaker 2: their birth date and add the current year to it,
51:29
Speaker 2: and that would tell you where they are in their
51:31
Speaker 2: personal year. So I've had men that were, let's say
51:36
Speaker 2: in a nine year they were separated. Nine is an ending,
51:40
Speaker 2: a completion. So I would say to them, well, are
51:43
Speaker 2: you divorced or what's your story? Well, I'm in the
51:46
Speaker 2: process of and their divorce is at the right time,
51:50
Speaker 2: because a nine is when you're going to end things. Divorce,
51:54
Speaker 2: things break up that would happen in a nine, which
51:57
Speaker 2: for me is a good thing. Because I said, okay, right,
52:00
Speaker 2: he's ending this and then he's going to go into
52:02
Speaker 2: a one cycle personal year. One is about new beginnings,
52:06
Speaker 2: planting new seeds, So that helps to understand he's a
52:10
Speaker 2: good possibility. But if someone is in let's say a three,
52:15
Speaker 2: three looks like an open heart that year as a
52:19
Speaker 2: personal year, there's a lot of emotions that they have
52:23
Speaker 2: to learn. So there's a lot of crying or sadness
52:26
Speaker 2: or upsets. So to be honest, I don't know if
52:30
Speaker 2: somebody was going into a three whether I'd want to
52:32
Speaker 2: be part of that whole upset emotional time, you know.
52:36
Speaker 2: And if I started to see signs of it, Let's
52:40
Speaker 2: say I did Datum once or twice or three times,
52:42
Speaker 2: and I started to notice he was very emotional about
52:45
Speaker 2: things in his life. I don't think I want to,
52:47
Speaker 2: you know, go through that. Like I don't want to
52:50
Speaker 2: go through somebody's divorce. I've already been through my own.
52:54
Speaker 2: It was enough. So if somebody is not divorced already
52:58
Speaker 2: or widowed, I'm very skeptical of whether I want to
53:03
Speaker 2: go through them. You go with them along for a
53:07
Speaker 2: ride until they get divorced. So there are certain things
53:11
Speaker 2: I look for and then like intuitively, I always say
53:14
Speaker 2: to people when you're out on a date and you
53:16
Speaker 2: meet them, pay attention. Don't think of what they're thinking
53:21
Speaker 2: about you, or what would they think if I said this,
53:24
Speaker 2: be yourself, be in your own seat, like in your
53:28
Speaker 2: own energy. Talk from a place of eye and don't
53:33
Speaker 2: worry so much about what they're thinking. But if you
53:36
Speaker 2: notice that they're not asking about your life, or they
53:40
Speaker 2: don't want to get to know you, and all they
53:43
Speaker 2: do is talk about themselves and their exes, and you
53:46
Speaker 2: know what they do, that's a me, me me person.
53:50
Speaker 2: You know, that's an ego person. I think a conversation
53:54
Speaker 2: should flow like a figure eight. You ask a question,
53:57
Speaker 2: they give you an answer. They ask a question, give
54:00
Speaker 2: them an answer, and that's when you know the energy
54:03
Speaker 2: is flowing the right way. And if you're in tune
54:06
Speaker 2: and you pay attention, then you can decide whether you
54:10
Speaker 2: know you want to go out on another date. Always
54:13
Speaker 2: trust your gut. It it'll never steer you wrong. I
54:16
Speaker 2: teach people to understand that the ego speaks very loud
54:21
Speaker 2: in your head. It sounds like a lawyer scaring the
54:25
Speaker 2: pants off of you, like, oh my god, If you
54:26
Speaker 2: do this, this is going to happen. And if you
54:28
Speaker 2: don't do that, this is going to happen. Whereas spirit
54:32
Speaker 2: and your consciousness, your intuition speaks very quietly, very soft,
54:38
Speaker 2: and will not go and repeat itself over and over again.
54:42
Speaker 2: So if your stomach or your gut tells you, I
54:44
Speaker 2: don't know about this, but then your voice, the ego voice,
54:48
Speaker 2: sounds like a lawyer convincing you. But he's got a
54:50
Speaker 2: nice car, but you should really go out with him.
54:53
Speaker 2: Shut that one down and listen to your gut. So
54:57
Speaker 2: and if you slow down and get that's why you'll
55:01
Speaker 2: always hear your intuition rather than the ego lawyer that's
55:06
Speaker 2: screaming at you.
55:07
Speaker 1: My guest, Stephanie Rose Riniotis. Her book is called on
55:11
Speaker 1: the Market, Off the Market, and I don't mean your house, Stephanie,
55:15
Speaker 1: one more time, please share with our listeners with it
55:17
Speaker 1: and get your books and find out more about you
55:19
Speaker 1: and your amazing work.
55:20
Speaker 2: Yes, lovely. They can find me on my website which
55:24
Speaker 2: is the designingsoul dot Com. On there you will find
55:30
Speaker 2: my email address. You can purchase my books off of
55:34
Speaker 2: my website. You can email me for interior design, work
55:40
Speaker 2: life coaching, psychic readings, and anything else that you would
55:45
Speaker 2: like to ask me. I'll be more than happy to respond.
55:49
Speaker 1: Stephanie, thank you so much for joining us and sharing
55:52
Speaker 1: your experience, your wisdom and your great big heart.
55:55
Speaker 2: Ah thank you, Victor. This was wonderful and I wish
55:58
Speaker 2: everybody peace, love and whatever they wish for in their life.
56:04
Speaker 1: And thank you for joining us on Destination Unlimited. I'm
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Speaker 1: Victor the Voice Furman. Have a wonderful week.