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"Empty Nesting Has Been Good For You Guys" · I Do, Part 2

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Speaker 1: Hey, they're folks.
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Speaker 2: It is Saturday, November twenty ninth, and man, we couldn't
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Speaker 2: wait to welcome them home, and now we can't wait
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Speaker 2: to see them leave. I know a lot of you
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Speaker 2: parents out there got college kids that have come home
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Speaker 2: for the weekend and are packing up and ready to roll.
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Speaker 2: And we got two we kind of can't wait to
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Speaker 2: get rid of ourselves. And they're sitting right here in
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Speaker 2: front of us, And welcome to this episode of Amy
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Speaker 2: and TJ.
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Speaker 1: Robes. Will you please explain who these two are?
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Speaker 2: Who who were putting on planes pretty soon?
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Speaker 3: Yes, so this is nineteen year old Annalise, of course,
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Speaker 3: my daughter, and then her best friend Jenna, one of many.
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Speaker 4: Do I get you in trouble if I say you
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Speaker 4: have one best friend?
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Speaker 5: Right?
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Speaker 3: But they are both actually now heading on the same
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Speaker 3: plane back to Denver tomorrow.
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Speaker 4: And speak for yourself. I'm going to miss them.
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Speaker 3: Oh, there's an adjustment period for sure.
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Speaker 2: You know what was the highlight for you all? Was
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Speaker 2: it really being fed?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Seriously?
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Speaker 6: Literally a meal, that's it.
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Speaker 4: It's a free meal. But you didn't have to having.
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Speaker 5: To buy my groceries.
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Speaker 6: It's really nice and a shower and like a clean shower.
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Speaker 2: Wait, what happens in school? You're not getting clean shower?
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Speaker 6: No like our own showers that like are ours?
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Speaker 1: You're not sharing with somebody?
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Speaker 2: Oh wait, actually, let's get a count.
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Speaker 4: How many people do you share your shower with? Analyse?
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Speaker 5: Three people, two of them including guys, another girl and me.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's interesting, and how about you, Jenna? Three girls?
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Speaker 6: So a lot of products everywhere, but.
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Speaker 4: How big is the bathroom that we're talking about?
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Speaker 7: There's two sinks and a shower and a toilet. Not
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Speaker 7: not much room for three people, only one one thing?
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Speaker 3: So how much perspective has living away from home given
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Speaker 3: to you?
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Speaker 4: About being back at home?
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Speaker 6: Life changing?
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Speaker 5: I feel like this year is like we've really been
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Speaker 5: in the houses. We've had to, you know, shovel the snow,
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Speaker 5: get the leaves out of the way.
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Speaker 7: You know.
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Speaker 6: It's it's really different. So snow are you shoveling? Not yet?
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Speaker 6: Has it snowed and folder yet?
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Speaker 5: But it's the perspective is insane, big switch.
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Speaker 4: I'm very grateful.
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Speaker 7: I like sometimes forget that, like I have to buy
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Speaker 7: new rolls of like paper towels, Like now they're not
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Speaker 7: just going to show up in my moment.
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Speaker 2: But you know, that was a heavier perspective question than
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Speaker 2: I was expecting this early in this podcast that you
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Speaker 2: make a good point though, Do you now appreciate that
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Speaker 2: you said? And at least like some of the simplest things.
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Speaker 2: I opened the refrigerator and there's sparkling water in there,
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Speaker 2: like there are supplies.
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Speaker 7: There's like surprise things, and the friends are like because like,
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Speaker 7: we're not buying them, and we're home, so it's nice
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Speaker 7: to see that. You come home and it's like, oh,
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Speaker 7: like there's this in the fridge. I wouldn't have bought
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Speaker 7: that if I was like changing.
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Speaker 3: We've been laughing listening to you all talk about so
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Speaker 3: we so before we came on to the podcast, we
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Speaker 3: were listening to Analyse and Jenna talking about living with
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Speaker 3: multiple other people and having to figure out chores and
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Speaker 3: who pays for what and who cleans up what and
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Speaker 3: who cooks this. But I actually thought it was hilarious
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Speaker 3: because the when the subject of toilet paper came off,
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Speaker 3: it was, yes, what is it about toilet paper?
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Speaker 7: No one and no one wants there's always an alternative, like, yeah,
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Speaker 7: my roommates will use tissues.
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Speaker 6: We don't have enough of tissues. If there's no toilet paper,
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Speaker 6: I've used paper towels. Honestly, you have to get towels.
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Speaker 7: That like you use, like to only clean your face,
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Speaker 7: like the one used paper. Yeah, sometimes we'll have to
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Speaker 7: use this because no one will buy toilet paper. It's
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Speaker 7: like the last It's like during COVID, But like during.
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Speaker 4: COVID, everyone's refusing to purchase us.
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Speaker 1: You all total, it was not that expensive. It really right,
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Speaker 1: and we all have to have it. So what again?
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Speaker 2: This has been a while to me and you all.
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Speaker 2: We talked about this earlier. I lived by myself for
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Speaker 2: three out of the four years in college.
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Speaker 6: So what happened when you didn't have toilet paper?
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Speaker 3: No?
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Speaker 1: I was responsible. I'm the only one responsible.
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Speaker 2: So now is that that everybody's expecting somebody else to
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Speaker 2: buy toilet paper.
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Speaker 7: You're the last person to use toilet paper. You should
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Speaker 7: be the one to replenish it.
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Speaker 1: You know, what is the rule?
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Speaker 6: We actually there isn't a rule of us.
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Speaker 5: I have a group chat it's called lou Crue, and
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Speaker 5: we almost send I'll send it and I'll be like, guys,
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Speaker 5: it's time to buy a new toilet paper. I bought
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Speaker 5: it last time, and I will just get left on
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Speaker 5: like everyone will see it and just not answer.
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, great, a utility fund. What if you
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Speaker 2: all just put into one fund and from this pot
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Speaker 2: we're buying toilet paper paper to so but good.
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Speaker 6: But I think that.
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Speaker 7: There's always like like when anils is like, oh, like, guys,
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Speaker 7: I bought it last time, then that like I did
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Speaker 7: it last time kind of thing, like yeah, transfers over
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Speaker 7: to like when it comes to like the garbage, like
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Speaker 7: if the garbage, like if.
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Speaker 6: The garbage is overflowing, it's like, well.
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Speaker 7: I threw it out last time, so now I'm gonna
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Speaker 7: make it overflow even more.
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Speaker 3: It's so funny to watch you all figure out how
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Speaker 3: to basically create some sort of civilized communal living condition
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Speaker 3: on your own without your parents' help.
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Speaker 4: It's really funny to me.
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Speaker 3: But the whole who's paying for the toilet paper thing
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Speaker 3: just cracked me up, because it's something you take for
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Speaker 3: granted when you're a kid until you actually realize, oh,
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Speaker 3: I actually.
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Speaker 4: Someone someone has someone's paying for this exactly. This doesn't
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Speaker 4: just magically show up.
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Speaker 2: God, right, first time I thought about toilet paper needing
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Speaker 2: to be purchased.
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Speaker 1: I was eighteen or nineteen, Yeah.
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Speaker 5: Exactly, Well was to steal some put it in my suitcase.
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Speaker 6: Sleep hold on no home from New York.
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Speaker 4: She doesn't know.
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Speaker 7: She came to my apartment a few weeks ago and
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Speaker 7: saw that we had fresh rolls of paper towels, and
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Speaker 7: she was complaining about how she didn't have any paper
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Speaker 7: towels and how I had like seven rolls, and I
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Speaker 7: was like, analyst, you can take apparently you could take
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Speaker 7: a roll of my paper towels.
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Speaker 2: At least we can't have this if we.
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Speaker 1: Please send you.
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Speaker 2: Do you have a place to secure toilet paper and
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Speaker 2: paper towels in your home that nobody can steal them?
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Speaker 5: I can put in my room, but honestly, people will
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Speaker 5: just come in and.
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Speaker 6: Be like, I'll take it.
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Speaker 3: So I have a question because this is interesting. I
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Speaker 3: remember back obviously there were similar issues, but I feel
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Speaker 3: like they have been compounded exacerbated because no one actually
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Speaker 3: addresses these issues with one another face to face. I
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Speaker 3: if you actually didn't have phones, which we did not
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Speaker 3: have when I was in college, to text each other,
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Speaker 3: you could leave a nasty note maybe on a countertop, but.
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Speaker 4: That was it.
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Speaker 3: So otherwise you had to then face to face have
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Speaker 3: a conversation about that, and there is then a more
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Speaker 3: civilized conversation and a more responsibility accepted or received because
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Speaker 3: I'm looking you in.
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Speaker 4: The eye and I'm saying this isn't okay.
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Speaker 6: Agreed, And I still do that.
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Speaker 5: I do live with all of them, so I will
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Speaker 5: track every single one of them down, sit them on
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Speaker 5: the couch and be like, this is not okay. We
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Speaker 5: need to do this and this. So I still do that,
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Speaker 5: and it's way better. It works way better than a phone.
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Speaker 7: I think it's easier for me because I only live
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Speaker 7: with two other people, so it's like like, but we
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Speaker 7: have our bathrooms. It's two, it's like one full and
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Speaker 7: one half. So one bathroom is only being shared by
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Speaker 7: like like for the shower purpose. But there's a bathroom
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Speaker 7: upstairs for like one roommate to use. And there's no
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Speaker 7: tile paper in either of the bathrooms, so like, if
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Speaker 7: there's no toiling in the upstairs, she'll come to the downstairs.
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Speaker 7: This is but I genuinely think it's like one of
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Speaker 7: those things that are so minor that like when you
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Speaker 7: live in a house with like your family, Like it's
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Speaker 7: like one of those things that are just always there
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Speaker 7: because like like my mom, I think is on like
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Speaker 7: a subscription for toy Like it's like something that's.
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Speaker 5: Just so Amazon's an Amazon subscription that just comes and goes.
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Speaker 6: But because we forget that, like it does like I
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Speaker 6: don't have a mom.
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Speaker 3: You're saying is and when we are looking to put
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Speaker 3: something in a care package.
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Speaker 5: Toilet page just put toilet packages.
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Speaker 2: Well, I have a problem with it if it's going
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Speaker 2: to be used for people other than analysas.
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Speaker 1: But you know it, I know I'm not supporting that house.
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Speaker 6: Should we do bring your own toilet paper every time
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Speaker 6: I go to the bathroom?
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Speaker 7: Should we like I do, I should not each break?
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Speaker 2: Really, I'm okay with that. This is I cannot remember this.
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Speaker 1: This is I had.
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Speaker 5: Six rolls in my room and I was like, this
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Speaker 5: is mine. I'm going to keep this behind my door,
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Speaker 5: no one can see it. And you know, I come
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Speaker 5: back heit toilet paper. I had toilet toilet paper my
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Speaker 5: room and I come back and literally I was like,
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Speaker 5: two rules are missing.
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Speaker 6: I'm wondering where that was.
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Speaker 7: The funny thing everyone's in agreement on, like the toilet paper,
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Speaker 7: not like everyone's like guys, we ran out of toile paper,
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Speaker 7: but no one like will step in and be like, oh, like,
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Speaker 7: I'll buy.
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Speaker 6: A new roll.
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Speaker 2: Can somebody tell me how much this toilet paper costs
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Speaker 2: out there?
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Speaker 5: I think it's I think I just checked, like eight
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Speaker 5: bucks for six rolls.
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Speaker 6: That's really not that bad like toilet papers. Oh yeah, okay,
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Speaker 6: well whoa, what's twenty four? It's like twenty for twenty
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Speaker 6: four rolls? It's thirty five dollars.
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Speaker 2: Okay, now, how and at least your house, how long
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Speaker 2: will toilet paper last?
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Speaker 1: Y'all will go through a roll a day, two rolls.
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Speaker 6: A day, roll roll every two and a half days.
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Speaker 1: I'd say for the house, No.
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Speaker 6: For for my bathroom of four, but people use your bathroom.
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Speaker 6: People are talking about yes, you guys like that's the
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Speaker 6: that's the issue.
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Speaker 1: My house.
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Speaker 6: So many more people than you think that are using that.
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Speaker 6: We have an open door policy. Everyone's just in and.
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Speaker 7: Out, so.
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Speaker 6: Lock our door, my windows. You can climb through my
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Speaker 6: windows to go into our apartment.
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Speaker 4: But do you remember this, babe?
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Speaker 3: I do not remember ever thinking about worrying about or
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Speaker 3: wondering where the toilet.
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Speaker 7: You aren't realizing that COVID there was an issue with
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Speaker 7: COVID during toipapers. Like clearly toilet paper is like an
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Speaker 7: issue globally to some people.
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Speaker 2: The first time I was ever concerned about toilet paper
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Speaker 2: was during COVID.
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Speaker 1: In my life, I didn't know yourself.
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Speaker 2: I never had a toilet paper shortage.
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Speaker 4: Now play yourself.
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Speaker 1: So yeah, during college.
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Speaker 6: You were responsible for it.
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Speaker 2: And even now when Robes and I had two different places,
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Speaker 2: if I got short on toilet paper at my place,
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Speaker 2: I didn't sweat it because I would just steal one
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Speaker 2: from her place.
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Speaker 7: Your understanding there, like you you realized, like, oh, if
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Speaker 7: you don't have toilet paper, Aimy has tolepapers, so all
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Speaker 7: go get it from there. That is the same concept
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Speaker 7: of analyses the room.
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Speaker 6: Blocks.
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Speaker 7: But when we both don't have toilet paper, that's that's
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Speaker 7: when we also right.
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Speaker 3: So we see what you realize you were missing when
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Speaker 3: you were away when you came back home. What were
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Speaker 3: you missing about being in college?
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Speaker 6: What we were literally just saying, I'd say, yeah, I'd say, just.
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Speaker 7: Like we were just saying how we are always like
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Speaker 7: at school, we're always with someone, like we were living
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Speaker 7: like we live with people like and we were literally
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Speaker 7: just saying five minutes ago, how it is so weird
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Speaker 7: being home because I think both of us like are
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Speaker 7: very independent people that we tend to do more things
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Speaker 7: by ourselves, but we're always surrounded by so many people,
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Speaker 7: and like you live in such a big city and
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Speaker 7: I live in a small town where like I see
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Speaker 7: everyone I know, but most of the time by myself.
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Speaker 7: There's so much more independence when you're home that like
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Speaker 7: it's very different not being constantly like having the need
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Speaker 7: to be around other people.
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Speaker 5: Change, Like I'm constantly like a get on the subway,
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Speaker 5: I have my headphones done by myself, or like at
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Speaker 5: least now or two, Yeah, walking around by myself. But yeah,
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Speaker 5: definitely at school, I'm like, get away from me. Everyone's
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Speaker 5: always around me. So would you prefer Oh, I don't know,
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Speaker 5: I do I do love?
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Speaker 6: Do love an independent Yeah? I think. I think doing
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Speaker 6: like tasks and like in ERNs.
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Speaker 7: I think in like errands and like that kind of stuff,
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Speaker 7: Like being by yourself, you're more productive. Yeah, And I think,
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Speaker 7: like when I do my homework, I need to be
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Speaker 7: by myself or like I won't get my homework done.
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Speaker 7: But I think like just being throughout the day, like
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Speaker 7: having like the ability to just like see everyone you know.
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Speaker 7: As you're like just walking around, like going to class
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Speaker 7: or like coming back to your house or apartments, seeing
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Speaker 7: all these people, it makes more sense to like want
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Speaker 7: to be near people because it seems so lonely.
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Speaker 6: I don't know how you lived by yourself. I'd freak out.
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Speaker 6: I could not do it.
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Speaker 1: Obviously, I loved it.
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Speaker 2: Obviously I loved it because I didn't have a lot
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Speaker 2: of the problems that she won't describe, and a lot
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Speaker 2: of these dynamics and a lot.
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Speaker 1: Of those text messages that you all were.
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Speaker 2: Reading before we came on from friends and roommates that
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Speaker 2: I said, these are relationship enders in my world, like
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Speaker 2: these that's that's it. So hey, I know times are different.
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Speaker 2: But she asked a question though about interaction. You said,
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Speaker 2: you try to go face to face and dealing with
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Speaker 2: things with people, do you, But do you think so
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Speaker 2: many folks now are just so used to having a
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Speaker 2: disconnect from that face to face that everything is via
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Speaker 2: text trying to settle a conflict, and that's a problem.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, people totally hide behind their screen. It's really it's
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Speaker 5: honestly sad to see. But honestly, we'll say, living in
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Speaker 5: a house with so many people with sometimes issues arise,
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Speaker 5: like it is. I've learned that I literally never text
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Speaker 5: them anymore.
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Speaker 6: Like, well, I think guys. Guys are a lot more
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Speaker 6: confidence exactly exactly.
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Speaker 5: And also I live with girls too, and I've had
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Speaker 5: you know, we've had our there are more confrontationial, yes,
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Speaker 5: but definitely going.
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Speaker 2: Well, that can be an upside. You were kind of
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Speaker 2: saying they will take it on.
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Speaker 6: Knock on the door. I'm like, oh, you gotta talk
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Speaker 6: this out. And it's it's good.
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Speaker 4: You imagine knocking on a female.
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Speaker 6: So we got to talk to never do that. Never.
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Speaker 6: I'm like, can we speak? Tell me what a good
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Speaker 6: time is.
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Speaker 4: I mean, it's not bad or anything, but I just
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Speaker 4: want to talk.
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Speaker 5: I hate text messages when you're in a fight.
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Speaker 6: It just it is.
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Speaker 7: I think that like even like, it's so easy we
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Speaker 7: live something like we all live with our friends, like
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Speaker 7: and like, and Lisa and I live two streets away
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Speaker 7: from each other, Like it's so easy to just walk over. Yeah,
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Speaker 7: we're living tother next year. It's so easy. Like there's
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Speaker 7: a reason we know we could live together. We were
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Speaker 7: able to make it work in Spain and in Colorado,
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Speaker 7: like as strangers in Spain, so like realizing that, like
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Speaker 7: you have to adapt to living with someone, Like it's
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Speaker 7: not gonna work if you just keep texting them, because
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Speaker 7: people people will say so much harsher things over text
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Speaker 7: versus like face to face, like it's like it's aggressive.
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Speaker 7: It's like very aggressive and like I necess and you
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Speaker 7: can never read tone, and then they'll get mad at
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Speaker 7: you if you're like, oh, that sounded really mean, Like no,
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Speaker 7: I didn't mean it like that, and like the way
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Speaker 7: you said.
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Speaker 4: It, like you said it.
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Speaker 2: Would you say that you've noticed a change of any
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Speaker 2: kind in analyse this semester even from the time you
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Speaker 2: dropped off. I know you went back and visited, but
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Speaker 2: would you say there, don't tell me what they are,
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Speaker 2: But would you say you've noticed something different?
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Speaker 4: Yes you have?
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Speaker 3: Yes?
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Speaker 2: All right, well, folks, stay with us. When we come
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Speaker 2: back after this quick break, we will hear exactly what
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Speaker 2: that is. And we'll also ask the ladies here is
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Speaker 2: it better in college to live with guys or girls?
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Speaker 2: All right, folks, welcome back. We continue our conversation with
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Speaker 2: and I was joking off the time. We're not trying
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Speaker 2: to get rid of them.
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Speaker 1: And Jenna our dear Jenna. Who Jenna? We didn't explain
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Speaker 1: to the top.
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Speaker 2: We met Jenna in in Spain when we went to
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Speaker 2: visit Annalise her freshman year. She was studying abroad, and
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Speaker 2: we went me you Ava went on that trip, and
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Speaker 2: I said, who the hell is this fire crack? Who
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Speaker 2: is this Jenna person? She was one, but naturally I
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Speaker 2: swear to you, Jenna, I swear to you from the
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Speaker 2: moment I met you, and everybody left as I like
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Speaker 2: that one.
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Speaker 1: Yes, everybody like that one.
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Speaker 4: Very true. And yes, no, you've got I love.
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Speaker 3: You're authentic and I think you know, in a world
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Speaker 3: where that is lacking in a lot of ways, when
16:41
Speaker 3: you meet someone who's just a genuine person, you know
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Speaker 3: them immediately. And so we were very excited that the
16:46
Speaker 3: two of you became good friends, roommates and now soon
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Speaker 3: to be roommates again.
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Speaker 4: So it's awesome to have you here.
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Speaker 3: But yes, you asked me if I have noticed a
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Speaker 3: change in analse, and yes, and on a couple of levels.
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Speaker 3: First of all, I've noticed an increased amount of gratitude. Yes, okay, yes,
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Speaker 3: I've seen you say thank you Mom, and just a
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Speaker 3: sweetness and a genuine appreciation of things this time around,
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Speaker 3: and I think that definitely comes from living.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's way harder living on your own.
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Speaker 5: And it's funny because I used to make fun of Eva,
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Speaker 5: my sister, and I'd be like, stop taking all the
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Speaker 5: lacroix from mom, like stop taking all the toilet paper
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Speaker 5: from the house.
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Speaker 6: And now I understand.
17:34
Speaker 5: And that is definitely makes me reach a sense of gratituity.
17:38
Speaker 3: And you know what was cool too that I also
17:41
Speaker 3: just I asked, I said, I know I'm not imposing
17:45
Speaker 3: a curfew on you, and I know you're used to
17:46
Speaker 3: coming and going, but when you're here, will you please
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Speaker 3: text me when you get home. You know I'll be
17:52
Speaker 3: long asleep, but I usually do wake up in the
17:54
Speaker 3: middle of the night when I know you're here, and
17:56
Speaker 3: to just turn over and see your text makes me
17:58
Speaker 3: know you're safe.
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Speaker 6: Been pretty good yes night.
18:03
Speaker 3: Yeah, But like I think before you might have laughed
18:07
Speaker 3: or scoffed, and you were actually like I was.
18:10
Speaker 7: I was.
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Speaker 4: I was excited you actually did that.
18:12
Speaker 3: Also, I noticed when you came and you cooked for
18:15
Speaker 3: the first time, I didn't have to say, Anna, you
18:18
Speaker 3: cannot leave the kitchen. You can't just cook your things
18:21
Speaker 3: I always appreciated that you were a self starter when
18:24
Speaker 3: it came to preparing meals on your own. You didn't
18:26
Speaker 3: wait for someone else to cook meals for you. You
18:28
Speaker 3: would do it on your own. Yet you would leave
18:30
Speaker 3: your mess behind. This time around, I was, oh my goodness.
18:34
Speaker 3: Even yes, every single time you made a meal or
18:37
Speaker 3: even a drink, you washed up after yourself and cleaned up.
18:41
Speaker 4: And that was a big difference conversation.
18:46
Speaker 5: It's because I have so many roommates. I mean, I'm
18:50
Speaker 5: a stickler. I'm like, you guys, better keep it clean.
18:53
Speaker 6: So I have to set good examples the exact same thing.
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Speaker 6: At home.
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Speaker 7: I would like either like leave my laundry, like my
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Speaker 7: laundry out, or I'd be like a cop in the sink.
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Speaker 6: And I know it will get cleaned up when I'm
19:05
Speaker 6: at home. I know it will. It's gonna be like
19:09
Speaker 6: my mom is like a crazy like like she needs
19:12
Speaker 6: everything cleaned up too.
19:13
Speaker 7: But because then I'll actually if she leaves it in
19:15
Speaker 7: for like a second and I catch her like all
19:16
Speaker 7: off it, I'm like mom, like if I have to
19:18
Speaker 7: put her to my so to you right.
19:21
Speaker 6: And like but now it's like.
19:23
Speaker 7: An automatic reaction because I know that if the second
19:26
Speaker 7: I don't do it, like I.
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Speaker 6: Know, I would lose my mind if my roommates didn't
19:29
Speaker 6: do it. So why like, why do I do it?
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Speaker 2: Okay, let me ask now, have you all noticed any
19:35
Speaker 2: changes in your parents since you've come home?
19:39
Speaker 3: Now?
19:39
Speaker 6: Interesting? I think the empty nesting.
19:42
Speaker 5: I mean you guys have you know, to be in
19:44
Speaker 5: and out, but the empty nesting has been good for
19:46
Speaker 5: you guys. I like, you really.
19:51
Speaker 3: Seem happier. How would you describe the energy, the mood
20:00
Speaker 3: and the house. I mean, the vibes are good, guys,
20:03
Speaker 3: Like I.
20:03
Speaker 5: Came in and the candles lit everywhere, and you're like, look,
20:07
Speaker 5: come home.
20:08
Speaker 6: That's so funny.
20:09
Speaker 7: She said this because right when she got home, when
20:11
Speaker 7: she was like assuming that she was gonna be here
20:13
Speaker 7: by herself, she was like, she was like, okay, like
20:15
Speaker 7: I'm going home, like I'm gonna have sucking. I'm like,
20:17
Speaker 7: I'm going home to a home I've never been to yet,
20:20
Speaker 7: like shadow her like if I see my room like so,
20:23
Speaker 7: And then she texted me and they're back and they
20:27
Speaker 7: there was a drink her in like they said everything up.
20:32
Speaker 3: We didn't explain, so Annelie told us the day she
20:36
Speaker 3: chose to come home, and it happened to coincide with
20:39
Speaker 3: a little mini pre vacation that we were taking before
20:42
Speaker 3: Thanksgiving to the Caribbean. And when we found out the
20:45
Speaker 3: day she was coming home, we were gonna be getting
20:48
Speaker 3: in about what five hours after her or something, and
20:51
Speaker 3: so we decided to change our flights come back a
20:53
Speaker 3: day early to surprise her. But by surprise, we didn't
20:57
Speaker 3: tell her. We were just like, you know what, and
20:59
Speaker 3: she had a big night. Plans were, oh, sadly, we
21:01
Speaker 3: won't see you until Saturday. But when she landed, boom,
21:06
Speaker 3: what did you see when you came out of the office.
21:08
Speaker 5: There is there is an April Spirts waiting for me.
21:11
Speaker 5: And I was like walking down that big suitcase and
21:13
Speaker 5: I was like mom, I'm also blind and I couldn't
21:16
Speaker 5: see her, and I was like you, I think I
21:20
Speaker 5: screamed that from the from the start of the hallway.
21:24
Speaker 6: But she was so excited.
21:26
Speaker 7: I have an April Spirits waiting for me, like I
21:29
Speaker 7: have new clothes, and.
21:31
Speaker 4: She like.
21:33
Speaker 6: Gift.
21:37
Speaker 4: Well, it was a new home you had not been to.
21:39
Speaker 3: TJ and I moved in together, and so this was
21:41
Speaker 3: a place you actually had not lived in yet, so
21:43
Speaker 3: we had some welcome home gifts.
21:46
Speaker 6: It was very nice.
21:47
Speaker 5: And back to the question I don't want you guys,
21:53
Speaker 5: I do think you've also become more like appreciate, not
21:57
Speaker 5: that you weren't appreciate it for me, but I also think,
22:00
Speaker 5: like you know, we spent a lot of time together,
22:02
Speaker 5: and so when I leave and then I come back,
22:03
Speaker 5: it's like, well all happy, sunshine.
22:06
Speaker 4: And rainbows, no.
22:10
Speaker 5: Anthing, just just just straight.
22:12
Speaker 4: There was zero tension, no this strip not.
22:15
Speaker 6: I think that's like the same at home.
22:17
Speaker 7: Like I live in such a small town that like
22:19
Speaker 7: coming back home is seeing every single person I've known
22:22
Speaker 7: since kindergarten, which obviously Sam has pros and cons, yeah,
22:27
Speaker 7: but like there's nothing really to do in our town.
22:29
Speaker 7: So it's a street like I live on. I have
22:31
Speaker 7: one street and that's about it. And so coming home
22:35
Speaker 7: like I actually like not not that I didn't before,
22:39
Speaker 7: but like appreciate more of like the time with my
22:41
Speaker 7: family because there's not like I'm not looking for activities
22:45
Speaker 7: to do because I'm home for such a short period
22:47
Speaker 7: of times, Like I appreciate them, Like my grandparents will
22:49
Speaker 7: come up when I get like when I'm back or like.
22:51
Speaker 6: My cousins flew in from California for the holidays.
22:53
Speaker 7: Like it was like nice to see them for like
22:55
Speaker 7: a little bit, and like I can portion like the
22:58
Speaker 7: amount of time with like my friends and my family
23:01
Speaker 7: because there's so little to do.
23:02
Speaker 6: I don't feel like I have like a whole checklist
23:04
Speaker 6: of things I have to do.
23:06
Speaker 7: And I also think that I was the one with
23:08
Speaker 7: my parents that had like the stricter side because I'm
23:10
Speaker 7: the oldest, so like I beat that curve for like
23:13
Speaker 7: my siblings, and like I feel like they have such
23:14
Speaker 7: an easy life right now, and I'm sitting here, like the.
23:17
Speaker 3: Younger siblings always always coming in.
23:21
Speaker 6: Constantly with like new clothes and everything. I'm like, where, Yeah,
23:23
Speaker 6: that's mom, God from I'm.
23:24
Speaker 3: Like, oh said the same thing yesterday.
23:29
Speaker 4: She no, she said it. She's like Mom never did
23:31
Speaker 4: that for me.
23:31
Speaker 5: Yeah, But then it's always gonna be a battle I'll
23:35
Speaker 5: never win and she'll never win.
23:37
Speaker 2: I don't think there is winning still to the question
23:39
Speaker 2: to you though, changing your parents at all anything, Like I.
23:42
Speaker 6: Think the same thing about like we're not fighting. There's
23:45
Speaker 6: not really anything to fight about.
23:46
Speaker 7: Like they come home and I'm coming home from being
23:51
Speaker 7: so independent that. I think there's like there's a barrier
23:54
Speaker 7: of like them like casting all these rules on like
23:58
Speaker 7: what I can do when I'm home versus in high
24:02
Speaker 7: school when I was living under their roof completely. Obviously
24:05
Speaker 7: they're still like like paying for everything I do, like
24:09
Speaker 7: and living, but it's not like like I I'm living
24:13
Speaker 7: my own life and they're like it's not like they're
24:15
Speaker 7: supervising me anymore. So it doesn't feel like I'm very
24:18
Speaker 7: like held at like a like heavy schedule.
24:21
Speaker 6: It's like very like on my own.
24:24
Speaker 2: And the other thing I had to ask, who is
24:26
Speaker 2: it easier to if you had your preference to live
24:30
Speaker 2: with three guy roommates or three girl roommates?
24:34
Speaker 6: Do you mean her guy roomates or just any gas?
24:36
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I don't know, Telly. Is it easier in
24:42
Speaker 1: les experience so far?
24:43
Speaker 2: Has it been easier to live with girls and guys?
24:45
Speaker 5: So I've lived with both, so I think have a
24:47
Speaker 5: pretty good perspective.
24:49
Speaker 6: Yes, I will say it is fun to live with guys.
24:52
Speaker 5: We throw some great parties, we have we have fun nights,
24:55
Speaker 5: you know, we play games. It's it's different than I'm
24:59
Speaker 5: not going to say there's like honestly, there's more drama
25:01
Speaker 5: with guys.
25:02
Speaker 6: I can't even I was gonna stop you.
25:05
Speaker 5: Very people say girls have more drama, but honestly, I
25:08
Speaker 5: think guys do. And I love them all and it's
25:10
Speaker 5: great and it's amazing, Like they are very sweet.
25:13
Speaker 1: How do guys have moua.
25:14
Speaker 7: Because they're so they're wait her guys. They throw tempertend
25:18
Speaker 7: about the launch her guys.
25:20
Speaker 1: They have your particular guys.
25:22
Speaker 6: Yes, recently, Yes, my laundry.
25:24
Speaker 5: There was recently a large, massive fight about someone. Someone
25:30
Speaker 5: did take someone's wet laundry and put it on.
25:32
Speaker 6: The roof of the the top. I just left it
25:36
Speaker 6: there and then but his in the in the dryer.
25:37
Speaker 7: But this is all over, This is back to the
25:40
Speaker 7: whole text was over text texting verse person.
25:42
Speaker 6: This was all aggressive text.
25:44
Speaker 2: This fight did not happen face to face between guys.
25:49
Speaker 6: Two men, Yes, two men.
25:55
Speaker 5: It's honestly, it's like it's entertainment that I don't have
25:58
Speaker 5: to be like in the middle of the drama, you know,
26:00
Speaker 5: because it's like that's the male drama.
26:04
Speaker 6: Drama back and yeah, I think there's more drama in
26:07
Speaker 6: her house revolving around Yes, how the men. Actually, I
26:10
Speaker 6: will say, we like in.
26:12
Speaker 7: Spain, we would we would get airbnbs for the weekends
26:15
Speaker 7: that would consist of like not room for ten of us,
26:18
Speaker 7: but we would have ten people that would make it.
26:22
Speaker 7: We have been in like really tight spaces, like together
26:27
Speaker 7: all together with a bunch of guys, like with the guys,
26:30
Speaker 7: and I will.
26:30
Speaker 6: Say, I don't, I can't think of I don't being
26:35
Speaker 6: in a.
26:36
Speaker 7: Spot with them is just not not your like ideal
26:41
Speaker 7: way of living. I mean, I will say the location
26:43
Speaker 7: based of like their house of having like the majority
26:45
Speaker 7: of the guys on the bottom floor, it seems to
26:47
Speaker 7: it's pretty their own spye like space. But like last
26:50
Speaker 7: year when we would go to their house, like we
26:52
Speaker 7: at least I stopped going because it was too dirty.
26:55
Speaker 4: Right, So you're saying that living with girls is easier.
26:58
Speaker 6: I agree, I am yelling at them.
27:00
Speaker 5: Well, I honestly don't think they're kind of it's a
27:03
Speaker 5: fifty to fifty chance. Honestly, girls are messy too.
27:07
Speaker 6: The girls are more like you're gonna pay a fight over. Yeah.
27:12
Speaker 7: I think it depends on the girls. I think it
27:14
Speaker 7: depends on the girls, depends on the guys.
27:15
Speaker 2: Speak in general terms. I think in terms of cleanliness,
27:19
Speaker 2: guys are girls. Girls okay. In terms of cooking, guys
27:23
Speaker 2: are girls.
27:23
Speaker 7: Girls.
27:24
Speaker 2: In terms of cleaning up, guys are girls okay. In
27:29
Speaker 2: terms of social relations in the house, in terms of
27:35
Speaker 2: just overall getting along, guys are girls.
27:38
Speaker 5: The guys because I know, like there have been a
27:41
Speaker 5: not there really haven't. Hasn't been much drama in my house,
27:45
Speaker 5: but you know there's the occasional yeah, and I will say,
27:49
Speaker 5: like the guys do it are like guys like we
27:51
Speaker 5: don't want this to happen, like let's all be happy,
27:53
Speaker 5: and they'll try and like fixing.
27:54
Speaker 7: Yes, but then they'll hold it against it, like it'll
27:56
Speaker 7: come back around a week later.
27:58
Speaker 4: And it'll be pilled.
28:00
Speaker 6: Do you try?
28:01
Speaker 7: I think I think that living with I think guys,
28:03
Speaker 7: like especially the ones that were friends with I think
28:07
Speaker 7: I honestly think that bringing them to Spain was like
28:09
Speaker 7: very was a lot more like mature and like matured
28:13
Speaker 7: them a lot because they like were living on their
28:15
Speaker 7: own in a foreign country.
28:16
Speaker 6: But like think that they matured.
28:17
Speaker 7: I think if you brought them like these specific guys,
28:20
Speaker 7: brought them straight to Boulder first, this would be hell
28:22
Speaker 7: and it would not work. But I do think that
28:24
Speaker 7: Spain definitely did help them, because I do see a
28:26
Speaker 7: level of maturity that changed from like us coming in
28:29
Speaker 7: August to like us leaving in disaber.
28:32
Speaker 3: I mean, it's it's documented. Boys just mature later than
28:35
Speaker 3: girls mature faster.
28:37
Speaker 6: Once they do mature, I think.
28:39
Speaker 7: I think once they start, it's like a lot quicker
28:42
Speaker 7: than girls do.
28:43
Speaker 6: Think Okay, then girls think that way later. Start correct.
28:48
Speaker 6: At the end of the day, everyone's maturing at the
28:50
Speaker 6: same point. Gradual, build, you know what you effort, you both.
28:56
Speaker 4: This has been so fun.
28:57
Speaker 3: I hope so a lot of parents listening to this,
29:00
Speaker 3: and I think just a lot of insight. I do
29:02
Speaker 3: think for me, just to pass along to parents who
29:06
Speaker 3: might have younger kids, this is a cool example of
29:09
Speaker 3: just knowing no matter what you're going through with your kids,
29:12
Speaker 3: and things can get tough in those teen years, in
29:15
Speaker 3: the toddler years, but to be able to sit around
29:18
Speaker 3: a table with your nineteen year olds after they have
29:21
Speaker 3: actually had a year or two of experience outside of
29:24
Speaker 3: you and your bubble that you've created for them, it
29:28
Speaker 3: is fun and hopefully nice to know that you can
29:30
Speaker 3: have fun conversations like this, that you can know your
29:34
Speaker 3: kids are gonna come around.
29:35
Speaker 4: They're going to get it.
29:36
Speaker 3: They're going to understand why you did what you did
29:39
Speaker 3: and why you maybe said what you said. And I
29:43
Speaker 3: think it's just a cool reminder that, yes, you can
29:46
Speaker 3: be friends with your kids again, and this has been
29:47
Speaker 3: fun and we're looking we know you're leaving, but you're
29:50
Speaker 3: coming back in two weeks for Christmas for a month
29:54
Speaker 3: and actually stalk with us.
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Speaker 4: I swear we're looking forward to it.
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Speaker 3: So thank you, Jenna, thank you Anna, please, and thank
30:01
Speaker 3: you all for listening.
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Speaker 4: I'm Amy Roeboch alongside t. J.
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