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Season 3 - Episode 77 - Are they really nonnegotiable? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So I want to talk to you about non negotiables.
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  Today we all have our our list in our head that we think are
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  our non negotiables, things that we will never compromise on.
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  But it's interesting because but like most human beings, we think
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  we have a list of things that are absolutely without question
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  non negotiables. But when certain situations
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  arrive, they become very negotiable and often just
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  overridden by the actions that you take.
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  And nothing is more important than understanding what are my
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  non negotiables so that you know where you just, you know will
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  not let it happen. So for me, I am very, very
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  willing to work really hard Monday through Thursday.
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  Like I can't even begin to tell you I will work 6:00 AM to 7:00
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  PM without question back-to-back.
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  Have no issues with it because I am prepared and I have said that
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  is my frame of work. I can do sessions back-to-back,
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  I can do trainings back-to-back, whatever I need to do during
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  those time frames. That's it.
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  Now my non negotiables are my weekends.
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  I will not coach on the weekends.
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  It's just non negotiable. For me, the time is to be with
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  my family in the evenings. I'm done at 7:00 so that I can
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  be with my families. My non negotiable is that time
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  with my family and I make sure that I have my times when I take
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  the weeks off that just work. So in my world, since I'm, you
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  know, the captain of my own schedule, I will always take off
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  weeks that have months that have a fifth week.
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  I always take that fifth week off for multiple reasons, but it
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  also forces me to make sure that I say this is a vacation week
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  and that's a non negotiable. Otherwise it just won't happen.
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  There are certain things that you know, I think the boundaries
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  of where you spend time with your family and what that means
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  to them is super important to have lined up.
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  And if you don't put it there then you will find that you are
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  negotiating into things and it's slipping and before you know it,
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  you are working weekends, you are taking calls and it just
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  doesn't work. You know, another non negotiable
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  is not having my phone in the bedroom at night.
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  Oh, I know that's a tough one as you guys hear that.
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  That's a non negotiable for me because the phone is associated
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  to work, the phone is associated to things that are required for
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  my work and my bedroom is not. So I don't want to have it there
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  with me. I don't want to have it put into
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  a position where it has a hook on me.
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  So thinking about this, you have to ask yourself, well where are
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  my things that are non negotiable?
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  It's kind of like also my eggs for my chickens in here.
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  So my chickens are just, you know, part of something that is
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  our family and I I do not sell my eggs at all.
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  I give them away to people. They are for the greater good
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  and gratitude of everybody that you know is in our lives.
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  My UPS man, my mailman, my FedEx guy, you name it.
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  If they come to the house regularly, they get eggs and I
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  give them to my neighbors and whatnot.
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  It's a non negotiable for me. It's just the way to give back
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  to the world. So when you start to ask
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  yourself where are your non negotiables, where are your
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  boundaries? Where are the things that you
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  know. This is something that you want
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  to stand for and or a boundary that you have to have for
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  yourself. You have to decide what those
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  are and nobody else can because you won't stick to them
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  otherwise. And the worst part of it is when
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  you find that you are breaking your your own, you know, ideals
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  and your own boundaries, you feel like crap, quite honestly.
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  And that doesn't feel good. But guess what?
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  You actually feel really good when you stick to it.
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  When I say no and I tell somebody and I'm sorry, that's
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  not going to work because that's into my family time, I actually
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  feel really good about it because I said something and I'm
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  sticking to it. And for me that just feels like
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  I'm in absolute synchronicity and integrity with myself and
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  the identity that I want to have for myself.
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  So think about your non negotiables more in line with
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  your identity than anything else.
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  Because if you do it that way then you're going to most likely
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  be able to stick with it. You'll be able to be more
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  congruent and stick with it if you think of it that way.
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  If you don't think of it that way, then you have more of a
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  chance of negotiating with yourself.
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  And So what was a non negotiable in the beginning becomes very
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  negotiable and you don't want to have that happen because that
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  just gives up again a little piece of your identity.
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  So really look at this for yourself as we get ready to wrap
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  up this quarter and you're saying OK, well now you know 90
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  days of the year is going to have gone by soon.
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  I would really love to know, you know, what I want to do with the
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  next part of it and what will be my non negotiables, What will I
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  stick to? What are those things that
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  matter to me more than anything and that I won't compromise on?
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  All right my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I will
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  see you all tomorrow morning. Bye.