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135. The 4 Ps to Personal Growth | Unleash Your Potential · The Kathie Owen Perspective Podcast

• 0:01
  Kathie: Whenever I sign my book, I write,"let us remember we are not our circumstances." And what does that mean?
• 0:10
  Kathie: And what's my system for dealing with that?
• 0:13
  Kathie: That's what we're going to talk about today.
• 0:17
  Kathie: You're listening to Kathie's Coaching Podcast.
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  Kathie: Today, we're talking about a system that I have to overcome victim mentality.
• 0:28
  Kathie: And it's kind of powerful, I'd say.
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  Kathie: And actually it's how I coach all of my clients across the board, because it's simple, it's easy, and it's how we overcome struggles, which are going to happen.
• 0:45
  Kathie: It's not if, but when.
• 0:47
  Kathie: So, you could easily say, I have been through so many struggles.
• 0:52
  Kathie: I went through a 14 year custody battle.
• 0:55
  Kathie: I was married to a narcissist, divorced, and he married a narcissist in return.
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  Kathie: And no judgment there.
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  Kathie: It is what it is.
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  Kathie: And I can't...
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  Kathie: say that I'm judging him because actually we all possess narcissistic tendencies.
• 1:15
  Kathie: And this episode, this podcast is not about narcissism.
• 1:21
  Kathie: It's about mindset.
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  Kathie: I talk about mindset, habits, fitness, and reality creation.
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  Kathie: Definitely more than I talk about victim mentality.
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  Kathie: Why?
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  Kathie: Because I learned a very long time ago that victim mentality does not serve you.
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  Kathie: In fact, if you get stuck in victim mentality, what happens is you become a victimizer and there's a victim.
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  Kathie: And think about it.
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  Kathie: Have you ever watched an argument where you see two people getting into an argument about something, and someone's a victim, and they're being yelled at, and then they yell back at the other person, so they become the victimizer, and it's an endless cycle.
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  Kathie: The only way out?
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  Kathie: is to become a victor, or some people would call it become the better person.
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  Kathie: And again, this episode and this podcast is not about victim mentality.
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  Kathie: It's about one thing.
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  Kathie: It's about having a growth mindset because that fixed mindset is stuck in victim or victimizer.
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  Kathie: And I have a process that I coach and I'm a fitness trainer.
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  Kathie: I've been a fitness trainer for 20 plus years.
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  Kathie: I've seen countless clients succeed with this process and it's very powerful and very impactful.
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  Kathie: And it comes down to a system that has four P's.
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  Kathie: I'll make it easy for you to understand.
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  Kathie: We start with prioritize, we plan, we practice, then we prosper.
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  Kathie: So, what does that mean, Kathie?
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  Kathie: I'm so glad you asked.
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  Kathie: So, prioritize.
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  Kathie: Whenever I start my coaching process with anybody, including and especially myself, I prioritize what's important.
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  Kathie: I put it into my Google Calendar, from things down to when I'm going to go live on my Instagram channel, when I'm going to record these podcasts.
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  Kathie: Now it's become a habit, but let's say I'm working on a goal, which is all I coach.
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  Kathie: I coach working towards a goal.
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  Kathie: We have to prioritize what's important because what's happened is we've got sucked into bad habits and we want to get out of the bad habit and create a good habit.
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  Kathie: We stack the habits on top of each other, on top of things that we're already doing.
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  Kathie: That's a priority, and that is exactly how you're going to succeed.
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  Kathie: So the next P is plan.
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  Kathie: How are you going to plan this?
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  Kathie: Put it into your Google Calendar, Kathie.
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  Kathie: That's exactly what I do.
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  Kathie: On Sundays, I sit down with my Google Calendar and I plan out my week.
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  Kathie: I mean, uh, sometimes I get down to the funny details about what we're having for lunch at OccuSoft.
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  Kathie: I put that into my calendar because I want to see if I'm going to be eating the meal, or I'm going to eat a salad, or I'm going to eat somewhere else.
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  Kathie: I know, that's kind of weird, but that meal, my lunch, is usually my biggest meal of the day.
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  Kathie: And I prioritize my eating habits over whatever else is going on in my world because that's important.
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  Kathie: That's a fitness thing.
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  Kathie: That's a mindset thing.
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  Kathie: So that's a planning thing.
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  Kathie: And then I talk about practice.
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  Kathie: Practice, practice, practice.
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  Kathie: You have to practice planning.
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  Kathie: You have to practice your workouts.
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  Kathie: You have to practice what you're doing at work and where your priorities are.
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  Kathie: It's all about practice.
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  Kathie: Remember, let's go back to something important.
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  Kathie: I coach sports psychology because sports intrigues me, because sports people get into the flow.
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  Kathie: Oh, speaking of flow, that is the zone.
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  Kathie: And here's the thing, when you prioritize flow...
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  Kathie: Oh, let's go back to the first P.
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  Kathie: Prioritize.
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  Kathie: When you prioritize flow, things just come easy.
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  Kathie: They come easy.
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  Kathie: So...
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  Kathie: One thing that I find very, very impactful in life and during times of stress is gratitude.
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  Kathie: Gratitude will shift your mindset in an instant.
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  Kathie: In an instant.
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  Kathie: For example, I spent many, many Christmases alone, uh, probably about eight or nine until I met my boyfriend and his family.
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  Kathie: And then now I don't spend Christmas alone.
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  Kathie: I have a family, but.
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  Kathie: I found a place where I could find gratitude for the moment that I had.
• 6:02
  Kathie: Back in 2007, I started Kathie's Fitness Blog.
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  Kathie: And when I did that was, guess what?
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  Kathie: On Christmas day.
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  Kathie: So when Kathie's Fitness Blog hits charges, it gets charged on.
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  Kathie: So, on GoDaddy, it is on Christmas day, and I will never, ever change that because that's a reminder to me, hey Kathie, look what you did.
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  Kathie: You changed your life.
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  Kathie: And it wasn't until 2014 that I met my boyfriend, so I went seven years.
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  Kathie: Alone, alone on Christmas and it's, it's a powerful, profound change that I went through and I put gratitude as a priority.
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  Kathie: So I was grateful for the day.
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  Kathie: And guess what?
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  Kathie: Christmas is just another day.
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  Kathie: People put too many attachments on it.
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  Kathie: What you are attached to can get taken away from you.
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  Kathie: In an instant, but when you shift that attitude to gratitude, even for that attachment, yes, I'm attached to the people that I love right now, but I'm grateful for them.
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  Kathie: I'm really attached to my dog, but I'm grateful for the time that I have had with him because I've had.
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  Kathie: 11 years of awesome time with him, and I know he's going to go because your dog doesn't live forever like we do, even though I tell him he has to, but I'm not attached to that.
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  Kathie: I'm grateful for the time I've had, which has been incredible, and I can let go when it comes time to let go.
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  Kathie: So, that is practice and practice is probably the most important in here because it's going to take practice to build a habit that sticks.
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  Kathie: It's just going to take practice, but here's the thing, the final P is prosper because when you do all of the P's.
• 8:04
  Kathie: before that, then you're going to prosper.
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  Kathie: And then my friend is where the magic happens.
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  Kathie: Synchronicity start to come into place.
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  Kathie: Things start happening out of nowhere.
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  Kathie: You know, I listened to Abraham Hicks and I love how she says it takes 17 seconds of focus to change a thought and change it to something that's going to work for you.
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  Kathie: Instead of against you.
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  Kathie: So let's go back to the beginning where we talked about the victim victimizer cycle.
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  Kathie: Let's get out of victim.
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  Kathie: Let's practice these four P's.
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  Kathie: What are they?
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  Kathie: They are prioritize, plan, practice, and prosper.
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  Kathie: All right.
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  Kathie: So the four Ps are prioritize, plan, practice, and prosper.
• 8:57
  Kathie: I can't tell you how this changed my life and how it impacted the way I look at things and the way that, you know, those things that happened to me were bad.
• 9:09
  Kathie: And guess what?
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  Kathie: I'm not my circumstances and neither are you.
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  Kathie: Instead, change that mindset from a fixed mindset that thinks, Oh no, I'm a victim.
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  Kathie: And change that to where you end up prospering.
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  Kathie: Alright, I trust that you found today's episode helpful.
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  Kathie: If you know somebody who can benefit from it, please share it with them.
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  Kathie: And until next time, I will see you next time.
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  Kathie: Peace out and Namaste.