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How narcissists react when you block them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissists feel when
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  you first blocked them, when they first realized that you've
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  blocked them and cut off access to your social media and your
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  phone life if you knew here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and we're going to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes, yes, yes. That's what narcissistic people,
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  they hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate to be
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  blocked. Narcissists want access to you
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  at all times. They do this one of those
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  things, y'all, they absolutely want access to you.
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  They think that you belong to them.
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  They want to control the situation.
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  They want to control the narrative.
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  They want to control a lot of things, right?
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  Especially you at the at the crux of everything, they want to
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  control you. So how do they feel when you
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  first blocked them, when you first cut off contact with them?
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  I've done videos about narcissists blocking, like you
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  blocking them before, but not from this perspective, not from
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  this like when they realize that they are blocked.
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  This is what happens in the mind of a narcissist.
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  Like even if they, yeah, it doesn't matter what they've done
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  to you. Let me make this clear.
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  It does not matter in their minds what they've done to you.
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  They feel justified in their behaviors.
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  They feel justified in their actions and whatever has
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  happened, right? They feel justified.
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  They feel completely justified. So when, when, when they when
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  you block them, when they wake up and realize that they're
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  blocked when they just get on their phone, they're like,
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  what's this girl doing today or guy or person?
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  What are they doing today? What the hell?
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  Wait, maybe I don't know, maybe it's just maybe Instagram is
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  messing up. Maybe Instagram, maybe I need
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  you to refresh my Instagram. Maybe Instagram is down.
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  Let me see what they doing on Twitter, huh?
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  Maybe maybe Twitter's down. Let me see what they're doing on
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  TikTok. That means crazy how all these
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  these social media sites are down at the same time, huh?
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  Let me see Facebook, huh? The sites seem like they're
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  working. It just seems like I can't see
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  what they're posting. Insane.
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  They lose their minds, they start to panic.
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  The first thought, the ghost story narcissist mind Most times
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  when they realize that they you have blocked them, that you have
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  cut off their access to them, the first thought is that you
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  have somebody else. This is not for every single
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  narcissist. There can be some other first
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  thoughts, but most of the time I would say the first thought is
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  that you have someone else and that you have moved on.
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  That's the first thought. That's when the paranoia kicks
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  in, especially if you've blocked them because they've cheated on
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  you. But if you blocked me because I
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  cheated on you, I'm thinking you.
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  You're getting your lick back. I'm thinking you blocked me
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  because you're getting your lick back.
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  I'm thinking you blocked me because you want to hurt like
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  you want to hurt me by doing the same thing to me that I did to
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  you. I'm thinking you blocked me
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  because of that. That's what I'm thinking.
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  You blocked me. I'm, I'm sitting here confused
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  to say I'm like, Oh my goodness, she doesn't block me out of
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  nowhere. She must be getting her cheeks
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  clap. Somebody else is getting it.
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  Wow. No, it drug can drive them
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  crazy. This is why you get a lot of
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  narcissists. The the second you block them,
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  they're trying to reach out to somebody else, trying to call
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  your friends and family. They're doing this type of stuff
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  right there and it is somehow they get through to you.
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  They're accusing you of being with somebody else.
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  I hope they're worth it. I hope whoever you're with right
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  now, I hope they're worth it. I hope they're worth throwing
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  our whole relationship away. I hope they're worth throwing
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  789 years away. I hope they're worth throwing
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  three weeks away. It was a magical 3 weeks.
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  And yes, I cheated on you in three weeks, but it was a
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  magical three weeks to me. Maybe not to you because you
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  moved on, but it was magical to me.
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  Damn it. It was magical.
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  It was Houdini. It was abracadabra.
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  They abracadabra. I said abracadabra after our
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  first date. It was so magical.
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  Yeah, this is the mindset of a manipulator.
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  This is the mindset of a narcissistic abuser.
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  This is the mindset of a just a toxic abuser, just an emotional
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  abuser, physical abuser. Sometimes they automatically
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  think that you have somebody else.
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  So they're assuming that they're losing their minds.
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  And this is the thing right here, because they look at you
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  differently. If you have been with somebody
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  else, they try to rush to get you back.
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  I had a very narcissistic friend right here, y'all.
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  I had a very like one of my friends, one of my old friends
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  is highly narcissistic. I would go so far as like he's
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  not diagnosed, but most people around him would just like, Oh
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  yeah, he's a narcissist. Even my wife, my wife is like,
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  yeah, he's definitely a narcissist.
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  And he was literally cheating on his girlfriend.
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  Literally got caught a couple of times, got caught a couple of
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  times, and she decided to give him another chance.
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  But then she woke up one day and she's just like, you know what?
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  I'm done. You know why?
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  I'm going to tell you this quick little blurt, this little blurt.
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  He decided that he wanted her to follow my profile.
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  He like, you need to follow my friend.
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  He's famous on TikTok. I was like, bro, OK, she saw my
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  stuff and saw he cheated a couple times and like, Oh yeah,
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  you just like that blocked. And I guess one day, one day he
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  woke up, woke up and he was blocked.
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  He started calling me. Maybe you call her and let her
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  know I'm a good person. I'm like, hell no, man.
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  She probably be with somebody else and I need to hurry up,
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  man, because she, she, she's very sexual, man.
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  I mean, she was very sexual with me early on.
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  They mean if she's talking to somebody else, she's going to be
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  very sexual with them and then I'm not going to want her
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  anymore. That's the mindset.
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  They think you're going to give somebody else what they feel
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  like belongs to them. They think they do.
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  Like I said, I'm telling you, they think that you're going to
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  match their energy and they hate it.
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  Hate it. They really do, and this is a
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  common theme when you're dealing with narcissist and toxic
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  people. They hate the fact that, that,
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  that you can move on. They hate the the thought of you
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  moving on. So they automatically assume
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  that's that's what you're doing. That's why they try to beat down
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  your door. That's why sometimes they try to
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  pop up at your house. You know, if you follow my other
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  channel, my other channel, Lee dot actions, if you follow my
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  channel over there, L EE dot A/C T I/O IONS on YouTube.
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  I do a lot of reaction videos and story time on that Channel.
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  And literally one of my stories that I'm hosting today, same
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  story, like same type of thing. Didn't like she blocked him.
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  He created a fake number and started texting her immediately
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  asking foreclosure, can I see you, can I talk?
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  It's crazy. I'm just telling you the mindset
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  that goes into them. They automatically think that
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  you're with somebody else. Another thing that a lot of
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  narcissists could think is that you're like, and this is a
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  great, this is going to sound so simple, super simplistic.
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  They just think you're done with them and they're not ready.
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  But even if they cheated on you, even even if they put their
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  hands on you, even like they think that you're done with
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  them. They think that you're done and
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  they don't want you to be done. They don't want to be by
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  themselves, right? So that the, the fear, a lot of
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  narcissists have these abandonment issues and fear of
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  being alone. They don't want to be by
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  themselves. So they go crazy.
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  They're losing their minds thinking that this type of
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  behavior is OK. You see what I'm saying?
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  So they start reaching out to you thinking that they want to
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  be by yourself. It's like, OK, you're going to
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  you, you're going to be by yourself.
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  And that that is I don't want you to be by yourself.
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  I don't want you to be alone. I want you to be this.
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  I want you to be that. You know what I mean?
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  So they don't like, they don't want narcissistic robot
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  resetting, talking too fast, rebooted.
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  Somebody said the other day, somebody sent me the comments
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  like Lee, you haven't made a narcissistic robot in a long
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  time. I missed that.
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  They will shout out to you whoever left their comment, but
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  that's what happens. They are not ready to move on
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  and they don't want to be with anybody else.
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  And they, like I said, they don't be by themselves.
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  So they might literally lose their minds.
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  If they wake up and you're blocked, you've blocked them.
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  This is the kind of the fallout right here.
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  They lose their minds because they think you've blocked them.
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  They think you're moving on. And it's kind of crazy how that
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  works, isn't it? Like they feel like they can do
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  whatever they want to, but then you block them and they feel
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  like somehow, some way, shape or form, it's your fault.
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  They're angry as hell and try to take it out on you.
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  You know, another thing that just crossed my mind as a reason
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  why they could, how they feel when you block them.
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  A thought that goes through their mind is that you about to
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  expose them another. This is one of the thoughts
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  right here, the that you are about to expose me and I cannot
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  handle it. I do not want to be exposed.
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  I know what I've done to you. I know the stuff that I've done.
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  I know the stuff that I've said to you.
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  I understand it fully. So I'm thinking right now that
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  you are going to expose me in some way, shape or form.
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  I think the exposure is on the way.
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  I think that you're about to get me.
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  I think the world is going to know who I am.
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  I think you know that people are going to see me for who I really
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  am because you can, you can expose me.
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  I don't know what you have on me.
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  So that fear is just crazy. Like not only do I think you,
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  some people and some people didn't think in combination of
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  all of it. They think you can be with
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  somebody else. They think you're done with them
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  and they think you're going to expose them.
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  That's crazy, isn't it? So you can see the kind of
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  mental stuff that goes on the mind of a narcissist once the
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  relationship is in it, right? You can kind of see why they
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  would think some of the stuff that they think, why they feel
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  the way that they feel because they're afraid of their
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  exposure. They have a good reputation,
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  they have a good job, they have a good.
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  The people in the community view them in a very positive light.
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  They could absolutely lose their minds because they don't want to
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  lose that access to that power of their community that they
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  might have cultivated over an extended period of time.
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  So in that space right there, of course they're going to keep
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  messing with you. Of course they don't.
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  They're not going to just let you go.
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  They're not going to let you just walk away.
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  I don't know. It sounds childish to say like
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  like Lee, they're not going to let me walk away.
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  I'm a grown ass person. Can't anybody going to let me do
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  nothing? Damn it, Anybody going to let me
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  do nothing? So you know, with my, my aunt
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  used to say tough titty, they tough titty old, bitty old.
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  The older generation has some good old, good old quips, didn't
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  they? Tough titty, old bitty.
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  But that's the space that they fall into.
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  They are afraid of exposure. They want to keep their
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  reputation intact. So sometimes though, if you
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  block them, that was just sorry. They were trying to find a way
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  to reach out to you. Well, hope we can just move on
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  to be amicable. I won't say anything about you
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  and hopefully you don't say anything about me because this
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  is what their fear of exposure right there can make them sort
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  of smear campaign on you. They try to get ahead of what
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  you they think you might do. They if they have this fear of
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  you exposing them for who they really are, they might try to
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  get ahead of who you, of what you're going to say by telling
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  people that you've done the same thing or we're we're not
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  together anymore because they cheated on me.
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  We're not together anymore because they were, they were
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  crazy. They put their hands on me.
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  They did this, they did that. They try to be very preemptive
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  with what they are doing because you got to you.
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  They think you're going to get ahead of them and control the
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  narrative. They do not want you to control
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  the narrative. Absolutely hell no.
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  They do not want you to control the narrative at all.
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  So you have to protect yourself. You have to protect your peace
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  in these situations. You absolutely do y'all.
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  And this is not, I know I was just sounding like beating a
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  dead horse, but if you block them and you, like I said, if
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  they start finding a way to reach out to you and start
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  sending you crazy stuff, threats, please document
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  everything. Please protect yourself.
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  And if you have to go talk to the Police Department, go get a
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  restraining order. Go do something to protect
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  yourself. Make sure that you're going to
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  be here tomorrow. Because I'm just telling you,
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  narcissistic people don't care. They most, not most times they,
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  they're just trying, they're trying to survive.
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  And survival means keeping their reputation intact.
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  So they want to keep their reputation intact.
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  That means that they will try to harm you and take you up out of
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  here to protect their reputation and at all cost anyway.
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