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#236 Footy Before Fatherhood? · Two Doting Dads with Matty J & Ash

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  Speaker 1: Well, we're here, we're in are we on? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: We are. We'd been nervous as well.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like it's a first day at a new job.
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  Speaker 2: We'll have to do like a tour if you will.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, be quick.
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  Speaker 2: It does feel weird. It does feel strange.
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  Speaker 1: It does.
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  Speaker 2: And if you're wondering why, it's because we're in a
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  Speaker 2: new studio.
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  Speaker 1: Finally, finally we're here.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't think this day would ever come.
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  Speaker 3: Uh, yeah, it's here.
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  Speaker 2: It sounds it sounds different. Does it sound different? It's
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  Speaker 2: it good for you, it's it good for me.
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  Speaker 1: I feel pretty good.
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  Speaker 2: I feel I feel good.
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  Speaker 1: Well, we moved to the studio and the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: Now the studio, like this feels weird.
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  Speaker 2: It's going to take a while for it to feel
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  Speaker 2: natural again.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm pretty much there.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, it's just I think it's because every time
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  Speaker 2: we've been in this space, we've been frantically working. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I've been Dana has painstakingly like rollers in hand, painting NonStop.
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  Speaker 1: Really well, when was that? It was?
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  Speaker 2: I I was watching you paint.
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  Speaker 1: You organized the lights. That's pretty good.
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  Speaker 2: Organized the lights. And if you want to know what
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  Speaker 2: it looks like, on socials. You can see what it
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  Speaker 2: looks like. We've got floating shelves. Look at us with
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  Speaker 2: floating shells.
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  Speaker 1: Look at us. Do you want to start the show?
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  Speaker 2: Listen? Yeah, we've gotta start.
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  Speaker 4: Sorry, sorry, Welcome back to Two Doting Dads.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how confused I am. That's how confused. A Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I'm just I'm like fish out of water.
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  Speaker 1: All right, we tell you we started.
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  Speaker 3: If you started, you'll you'll get yourself back in Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Welcome back to Two Doting Dads. I'm Maddie
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  Speaker 2: jam and this is a podcast all about parenting. It
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  Speaker 2: is the good, it is the bad. And I can't
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  Speaker 2: believe I forgot the fucking intro.
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  Speaker 1: That's all right, it happens.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 5: Soon we'll have it on the wall. So you can't forget.
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  Speaker 1: That flashing at you. That's a thing like an L E.
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  Speaker 1: D lie. I think could it be potentially static?
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  Speaker 2: I think the one I got is static.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, I want the static.
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  Speaker 2: It's a shame we can't change it to red. Otherwise
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  Speaker 2: the neighbors were looking to be like, oh the brothel
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  Speaker 2: next door.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm worried as well. It might do you know
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  Speaker 1: when like a mobile gets too close to something. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm worried about that. I'm just getting a message.
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  Speaker 2: What else about the shoot? That's it pretty much like
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  Speaker 2: we've been.
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  Speaker 1: It's more of a visual thing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really hard to explain.
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  Speaker 1: There's four corners.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we have a couple of power points. Some fake plants.
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  Speaker 2: Can I just say I was a little bit nervous
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  Speaker 2: about your shells because we both have shells. We have
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  Speaker 2: two floating shells behind us. I was nervous about your shells. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I just don't take this the wrong way. No, I
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  Speaker 2: just like your passion for fake plants wasn't quite there.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have the passion.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, and I could tell. I could tell whereas
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  Speaker 2: a fake plant they get me started.
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  Speaker 1: I can only surround myself in so much plastic.
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  Speaker 2: But you've got You've got a little avocado that looks
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  Speaker 2: like Macy. That's a nice touch. You got your little
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  Speaker 2: f one cars, you got a ukulele made that one.
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  Speaker 2: You've done very well.
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  Speaker 1: You've got number one day. How dare you? How dare you? Point?
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what?
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  Speaker 2: That's why we pay vic the big bucks.
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  Speaker 3: Have a look on social media or just watch the
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  Speaker 3: videos and watch YouTube.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's the studio done. I think that people
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  Speaker 2: with more brother studio probably not, to be honest, every
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  Speaker 2: time we do a studio update, people are like fucking
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  Speaker 2: hell yeah, what cars are? Oh god? I fucking spent
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  Speaker 2: so long editing that video, the studio update video, and
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  Speaker 2: I had like two comments for like a whole day.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, that hurts.
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  Speaker 1: That's going up nowadays, thank god.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, Mom, can you just can you
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  Speaker 2: just drop it? Drop a comment? And she was like,
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  Speaker 2: oh the studio video. I was like, fucking a while.
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  Speaker 1: Solo parenting.
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  Speaker 3: You've been working your ass off as a solo parent
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  Speaker 3: in the last three kids.
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  Speaker 1: How do you do it?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you know, you know, do I call myself
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  Speaker 2: a hero? Both call myself?
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  Speaker 1: Go on? Is that a question?
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  Speaker 2: Or you just think it's partly offensive but it's also
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  Speaker 2: partly lovely. The fact that other parents, the moms I'm
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  Speaker 2: talking about, are like, do you need any help? I
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  Speaker 2: asked no, I mean more so like no, you're You're
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  Speaker 2: like that was very kind of you, thank you. But
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  Speaker 2: other parents are like, do you need us to take
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  Speaker 2: a child? Yes, but I'm like, no, I can. I'm fine,
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  Speaker 2: I can look after them myself. And they're like, sure, UK,
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  Speaker 2: do you need anything? And I'm like, I can, I'm capable.
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  Speaker 1: Do I look like I need something? Why are you asking?
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  Speaker 2: I mean it's lovely to be asked. At the same time,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, it's rude.
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  Speaker 1: I've got this. Yeah, it's a bit like presumptuous that
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  Speaker 1: you don't know what you're doing.
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  Speaker 2: And they're like, where's Poppy And I'm like, ohn't.
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  Speaker 1: It straight to my back? So that's a backpack no.
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  Speaker 2: But but it has been great. I think one thing,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm gonna say, dads are pretty bad at this.
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  Speaker 2: We don't tandem parent enough.
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  Speaker 1: Excuse me back it up a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I had a phone call with.
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  Speaker 3: Tandem Do you mean just just regular missionary parenting?
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  Speaker 2: Cut? Well, okay, let's let's bring in Vic, because Vick
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  Speaker 2: and I had a conversation on Saturday.
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  Speaker 1: So you guys a chatting without me.
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  Speaker 2: We have one phone call, you fuckers. You were getting
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  Speaker 2: your tooth ripped out, Yeah, call me, which we'll get
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  Speaker 2: too shortly. But Vic was like, yeah, we you know,
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  Speaker 2: mums know what's going on because we tandem parent.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I'm still yet to understand what the word tandem means.
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  Speaker 1: In there, I'll just keep picturing a tanned bike.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, kind of saying European of you. Well, I asked
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  Speaker 5: how Matt was going with this solo parenting, and he's like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I'm going okay. But it's funny because like a lot
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  Speaker 5: of the mums have been asking me like, do you
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  Speaker 5: need help, can you help in any way? Blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 5: And I said, well, it's probably because a lot of
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  Speaker 5: dads don't think to do tandem parenting. Whereas that night
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  Speaker 5: I was solo parenting, so I had put the call
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  Speaker 5: out to all my girlfriends and said, hey, I'm solo parenting.
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  Speaker 5: Does anyone with a tandem parents tonight, so that we
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  Speaker 5: can have like an easy dinner, the kids play, it
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  Speaker 5: all wraps up in a nice little boat.
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  Speaker 1: I'm within it.
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  Speaker 3: I know what you're talking about. It's like it's like
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  Speaker 3: a group assignment, group projects.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and you all get together.
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  Speaker 5: Grip date from the Bachelor.
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  Speaker 1: That's it exactly. And you guys be very familiar with that.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not that familiar with the roses handed out of
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  Speaker 1: the end.
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  Speaker 2: Of the stay. You bring roses and then like one
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  Speaker 2: by one, the kids get kicked out of the group,
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  Speaker 2: and I just.
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  Speaker 1: Came out immediately be like, no kids get out.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think dads do that that often.
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  Speaker 1: Usually it's like, hey, why don't we get together and
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  Speaker 1: let these kids wear each other out? Is that? Is
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  Speaker 1: that what I said?
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  Speaker 2: You got it?
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  Speaker 1: You got it, I got it. I can, I can.
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  Speaker 2: I don't reckon dad's tandem parent unless it's at the pub,
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  Speaker 2: unless it's the part that's a classic.
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  Speaker 5: I mean there were somewhere that there's a playground, that's it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. Yeah, Like my tandem parent person is my
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  Speaker 2: sister because she's a really good parent as well. So
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  Speaker 2: it's like the group of assignment.
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  Speaker 3: You got to go with a smart kid, I would say,
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  Speaker 3: punch up, Yeah for sure.
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  Speaker 1: If you've got a friend who's a really good parent,
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  Speaker 1: just see what they're doing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's it.
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  Speaker 1: That's it. That's pretty much parent.
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  Speaker 2: Not to make it sound like I'm a bad parent,
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  Speaker 2: but like my snacks will go as far as like
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  Speaker 2: some sultanas maybe enough, yeah, the packaged food, whereas my
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  Speaker 2: sister's they're like putting out her four course meal with
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  Speaker 2: a platter. She's like, yeah, she's a plum.
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  Speaker 1: She's a platter mum.
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  Speaker 2: She's a platter mum. She's good. And so my kids
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  Speaker 2: are like, what do we got? Stana's fuck that. Look
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  Speaker 2: at Kate's table of like checks the skin off the apple,
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  Speaker 2: like she's going all out.
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  Speaker 1: April's a plattermum.
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  Speaker 3: Like she'll be like, oh, here's some fruit and she's
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  Speaker 3: cut up like carrot fruit and stuff like that and
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  Speaker 3: something nice.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, I would have never done that. Mainly well,
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  Speaker 1: like I would do it if it's easy and accessible.
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  Speaker 3: But our friend's daughters every time we see her, she's
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  Speaker 3: straight away to me somebody because.
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  Speaker 1: She knows that April's got the goods.
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  Speaker 2: So I need to I need to do more tandem parenting.
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  Speaker 2: That's on my list of things to do for the
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  Speaker 2: rest of the year.
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  Speaker 3: You should get like an you know how when you
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  Speaker 3: see one of those a four pieces of paper for
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  Speaker 3: guitar lessons and got to rip off tab.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just like looking for looking for tan parent.
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  Speaker 1: Ha's got your phone number.
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  Speaker 5: You've seen it around the streets in BONDI yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But apart from that, it's going really well. The only
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  Speaker 2: thing that I will say that is fucking annoying. When
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  Speaker 2: Laura is away is FaceTime calls and time it just
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  Speaker 2: like never a good time with the kids because either
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  Speaker 2: they realize they remember that mum's gone and there so
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  Speaker 2: when you hang up, they're like, we miss her, and
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  Speaker 2: You're like, then you're dealing with the kids being upset.
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  Speaker 2: So sometimes she calls and I'm like ignorant.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, fair, fair, fair, what's I would honestly, I would
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  Speaker 1: prefer if I'm away and I call, I would prefer
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  Speaker 1: it to be ignored. And here's why is Macy all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden just does not talk. She just screams
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  Speaker 1: at the phone and it's like, hey, I haven't seen
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  Speaker 1: you two days that she's looking at herself.
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  Speaker 2: Because the filters. Yeah, so Laura is there. Laura is like,
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  Speaker 2: I miss you so much, and fucking Lola's being an
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  Speaker 2: octopus on the filter and Laura's like hello.
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  Speaker 5: When I'm away. Dan never lets me FaceTime either, and
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  Speaker 5: he says it's because the kids won't understand, and then
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  Speaker 5: it's more work for him in the.
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  Speaker 2: There is no way I'm allowing a FaceTime call before bedtime.
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  Speaker 2: And Laura is like, I want to I want to
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  Speaker 2: say good night and it's like no, because then it's
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  Speaker 2: just I'm then dealt with the mess afterwards.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, here's a question on for both of you.
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  Speaker 3: Please for the listeners, please, if your partner is away,
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  Speaker 3: what is the ideal time for a FaceTime?
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  Speaker 1: If it's a mandatory in the family, I would say
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  Speaker 1: breakfast Brecky's good.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd say breaky because then they've got some activity
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  Speaker 2: that they can then after the cause and.
• 9:48
  Speaker 1: Then go into eating a quick distract. Yeah, that or
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  Speaker 1: a lunch.
• 9:52
  Speaker 2: Lunch.
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  Speaker 3: Lunches are depending on time zone, because youve got to
• 9:54
  Speaker 3: remember if like, say, what's the difference there was she India?
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  Speaker 2: She's in India.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: The wrong guy. I think Laura right now it is
• 10:02
  Speaker 2: currently twelve forty five. I think she's just waking up.
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  Speaker 5: It's eight. I mean Indian.
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  Speaker 2: As an octopus filter.
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  Speaker 1: That he's got food poison from India.
• 10:17
  Speaker 2: She's like, what, Yeah, apart from that, what do we
• 10:21
  Speaker 2: now where by the time this comes out, Laura, will
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  Speaker 2: we'll be back?
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  Speaker 1: Is she back that quick?
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  Speaker 5: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: That did that? Just go quick? How dare you eleven days?
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  Speaker 1: Eleven days?
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  Speaker 2: Eleven days?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I I would say I did the opposite of
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  Speaker 3: solo parenting.
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  Speaker 1: We had a party birthday, So happy birthday to young Oscar.
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  Speaker 3: He's really coming along seven seven, same as Marley, and
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  Speaker 3: Marley's his next week, just as friendly reminder, and so
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  Speaker 3: is Vix. Actually this will come out after Vic's birthday,
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  Speaker 3: So happy birthday, Vick. You don't look a day over
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  Speaker 3: whatever today is? Wow, you look at don't look at
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  Speaker 3: day over forty one?
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  Speaker 2: Look great, Vic feeling? What are you doing? Do you
• 10:58
  Speaker 2: like do needling? What do you?
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  Speaker 1: What do you She's not a Heroin addic? What do
• 11:03
  Speaker 1: I do under a bridge?
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  Speaker 5: I do the occasional burdocks?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Like I'm sad, I'm I can't tell take
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  Speaker 3: that out.
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  Speaker 1: Take it out immediately.
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  Speaker 3: Because this is recorded before your birthday. Do you have
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  Speaker 3: anything planned for your birthday?
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  Speaker 5: Can you tell us having a girl's night actually? And
• 11:28
  Speaker 5: Dan's like, I see where your priorities are tandem drinking.
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  Speaker 1: Well.
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  Speaker 5: Actually, after our conversation with doctor zach And about friendship
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  Speaker 5: and you've got to work on your friendships and it's
• 11:38
  Speaker 5: good for your mental health, I was like, this is
• 11:40
  Speaker 5: a really good excuse to bring a whole bunch of
• 11:42
  Speaker 5: girls together because we get busy life gets busy and
• 11:45
  Speaker 5: no kids, no kids, and I reckon it's a good
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  Speaker 5: excuse for people to be like, oh, like, I've got
• 11:50
  Speaker 5: to go to this because it's her birthday, and then
• 11:52
  Speaker 5: the partner.
• 11:52
  Speaker 2: Can't like, yeah, that's like that. You can't argue with that.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: You can't.
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  Speaker 5: Whereas it there's no reason for meeting up other than
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  Speaker 5: the fact that you want to catch up, there's really
• 12:00
  Speaker 5: easy to pull out find excuses.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, especially on the day.
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  Speaker 3: You're like, I said yes to this, like so long ago,
• 12:06
  Speaker 3: and then it's the day and you're like, I.
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  Speaker 1: Love them so much. But also.
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  Speaker 5: And as a winter baby, no one ever really wants
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  Speaker 5: to go out in winter. I fight, so I just
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  Speaker 5: use it as an excuse.
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  Speaker 3: Me, which is also a good thing because you can
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  Speaker 3: do like a nice sunny winter ravo, which is I
• 12:22
  Speaker 3: would say one of my favorite times of Yeah, who
• 12:26
  Speaker 3: are you what.
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  Speaker 1: I'm drunk. I'm not drunk. No, absolutely not no, no,
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  Speaker 1: one hundred and ninety days so thinking something like that, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I lost out, you know, because I'm so good at it.
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  Speaker 5: But let's hear about Oscar.
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  Speaker 2: April posted the video of you making a fucking birthday cake.
• 12:42
  Speaker 1: Oh oh yeah, let's stat of the year.
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  Speaker 3: I didn't know I could do that. I'll be honest
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  Speaker 3: with you. She's like, hey, can you help ice this cake?
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: And I was like, well I can. I've never done
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  Speaker 1: it either, Like I don't know how to do this.
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  Speaker 2: You were making like a soccer like it was.
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  Speaker 3: Green, like meant to bess. Then there was some soccer
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  Speaker 3: people on the top. I've got a finished product, which
• 13:04
  Speaker 3: I'll show you.
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  Speaker 2: I've got a lot of respect for people who do
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  Speaker 2: themed birthday cakes because I think the.
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  Speaker 1: R so you respect me.
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  Speaker 2: I always have more.
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  Speaker 1: So now I'll take it.
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  Speaker 2: You're putting a high up the pedestal. Thank you because
• 13:15
  Speaker 2: the ROI on a themed birthday cake, it's minimal. The
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  Speaker 2: kids don't give a fuck.
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  Speaker 3: You get a couple of comments, and mainly April was
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  Speaker 3: schuffed because all the comments that she got from the
• 13:24
  Speaker 3: other mums. Yeah, she was like c catered event.
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  Speaker 1: I was.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I saw footage of you tied up on
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  Speaker 2: the couch, the snack one stuff. Oh yeah, you guys
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  Speaker 2: were making you had like the kids were hard at work.
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: This is what's really really concerned, you know. Okay, as
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: we all know, I'm not drinking anymore. So what am
• 13:41
  Speaker 1: I doing?
• 13:42
  Speaker 2: Snacking?
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: Snacking? Okay?
• 13:44
  Speaker 3: And silly April got all of the Lulli bag stuff
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  Speaker 3: delivered the day before.
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, how much did you eat?
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: Well, this is the thing.
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  Speaker 3: We said, Okay, I'm aware of that it's in the house,
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: that it's I know that it's here. And April said, look,
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: don't touch any of it or will be very upset.
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  Speaker 3: And it was a proper like warning, okay, like.
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  Speaker 2: A serious It was serious.
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  Speaker 1: And it wasn't like, ah, you silly boy, because I'm.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: A silly boy, I will fucking divorce you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, if you up your seven year old's birthday.
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: Yes, that was the vibe, not you're just a silly boy.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: What happened?
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: And I quite often go for you just a silly boy?
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: Thank you?
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: So I was like, okay, sweet, I've got I've got
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: stuff I can snack on.
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: But once I went through that stuff, how.
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: Long did that take?
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: I walked in.
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: I walked into the bedroom at like eight thirty at night,
• 14:43
  Speaker 3: and I said to Abram, like, you're not gonna light
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: this conversation, and neither am I. And She's like, I'm like,
• 14:49
  Speaker 3: let's just put all the riff raff aside. Let's put
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: all the hula aside, if you will, and I will
• 14:55
  Speaker 3: buy another pack tomorrow. And she goes, I'm sad. You
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: have made me sad. I haven't taken anything yet.
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: Well, well, well.
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: Ease up, I haven't. It was way past that, okay.
• 15:11
  Speaker 3: I was like, all right. The negotiation started. What am
• 15:15
  Speaker 3: I allowed to have from these bags? There was so
• 15:17
  Speaker 3: much ship there, like what there was a bag of twelves.
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: I had my eye on.
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: Kids aren't like twelve?
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: That pair like a cat.
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: I was really trying to get this and I was like, okay,
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: what about this bag of twelves half a bag of
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: Leamington's And she was like, no, the.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: Leamingtons are for the adults.
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: I was like, well, they're not going to miss them anyway.
• 15:42
  Speaker 3: I ended up settling on a bag of twelves and
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: I ate the whole fucking thing and I enjoyed it.
• 15:50
  Speaker 3: I'm not with sha.
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: Where did you eat them in the living room with
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: my mouth?
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: Thank god?
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: You didn't eat them next to April? No, because every
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: Russell you'd be like, no, it's in the other room.
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: You can't eat in front of the room. But I
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: tipped to my credit.
• 16:05
  Speaker 3: The first thing I did before getting a tooth ripped
• 16:07
  Speaker 3: out was by a packet Its well good boy.
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: I bought two because I wanted to pack up myself.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: So was the party success?
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: I will I will collate all the information I have
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: and update you in the Wednesday's out great along with
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: the tooth situation because as you can see, my face
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: has swollen.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: I know someone actually made a comment in the Facebook
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: group because you were like, hey, dot dot dot, getting
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: my tooth ripped out, dot dot dot. We'll talk about
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: it later. And people are like this guy coming in
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: here just edging us stop.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: I'll be back.
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: Just a really quick update on pram parking at shopping centers.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: I have noticed this too.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: We had a debate which almost ended the podcast.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: I just need a drama.
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: And the question was there's a sign of a person
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: with a PRAM, do you need to physically have a pram?
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because there's a few variations here, like there's a pram,
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: but also the trolley has we like a PRAM built in,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: so like why would you have if you need a
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: trolley in a you can't both well.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: I luckily I almost went to the shops with a
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: baby carrier, and I was like, well, maybe that wouldn't
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: allow me. But then I saw the updated sign. I
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: don't know if you've seen this, Ash, let me just
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: give you a quick little look here at what the
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: sign now looks like.
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: Yes, they've been they've specified it, they've hurt us, they've
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: been listening to the podcast taking credit.
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: So this is the updated sign. I don't know if
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: this is just my local area, but this is what
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: we are now faced with at shopping centers. It is
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: a sign red. They've like it needs to be blue.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: That's fresh that sign and look.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: At that, and it's red now to be very aggressive,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: very in capitals parents with pram in addition to the
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: picture of someone pushing a pram.
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: I think it needed to be Look, it's that whole
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: thing is you can lead a horse to water, and
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: I have witnessed it any times, people parking in there
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: with not even a child, and if not grandparent age,
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: not aiming at a certain generation or specific person. Sorry,
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: we love the boomers so much, but like I think
• 18:15
  Speaker 3: that sped. I mean that puts it to bed, right,
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: puts it.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: To bed, But I'm still go the can I also
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: just put her in it nothing more stressful than when
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: I came back to the car. I just have arrived.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I've got three kids by myself. What a dad, what
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: a guy? Thank you? Thank you? And I've also like
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: bought half a fucking kmart. And then I'm trying to like,
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: so Jesus, photo frames, get to it. I've noticed I've
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: got fifty four photo frames behind. And then as soon
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: as they get to the car, someone pulls up and
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: the like, are you leaving? And I'm like yeah, but
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: then you're trying to be polite. Get the kids in
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: the car, and you're like, I get it. What are
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: you going to unload the card of Poppy trying to
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: put her and she's like trying.
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: To you trying to put a cat in a box
• 19:01
  Speaker 6: or something that, yeah, and just push your like pressure,
• 19:06
  Speaker 6: just banging ahead on the thing.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: And then I'm not looking over and be like.
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: I don't even I don't even engage with people. If
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: they pull up behind me, I slow right down and
• 19:15
  Speaker 3: pretend they're not even there.
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: I say I'm moving, but I'm going to be a while,
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: and they're going, I'm.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Sorry, I'm sorry, miss mouth, like why are you whispering?
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Like why are you why are you whispering?
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so stupid, so stupid. But whilst I was
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: in Kmart, I noticed that there is change happening and
• 19:35
  Speaker 2: there's an announcement. I'm not sure if you saw recently
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: that came up put the checkouts in the middle of
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: the store, yes, which people were outreached.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I get alive.
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: But now, I mean I was one of those people
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: who didn't make any sense.
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but did you take the time to voice your
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: anger on it?
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: Like?
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: That's why I'm totally okay with people being like, this
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: is stupid and it's stupid. This is stupid, stupid, It's
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: all stupid. The whole fucking system is stupid.
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: Well, Cam's been listening. They're going to move the checkouts
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: now back to the exit.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't have a problem with that either.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: But my gripe with people is do something more productive
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: with your life.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: If you've got enough time to be part of it. Yeah,
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: But if they've got enough time to be.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: Part of the backlash, it's saying, okay, well, how minimal,
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: how how how much lack of interest do you have
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: in your own life?
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: Can I defend them and sound I'm glad they've done it.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, fine, I'm just asking.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: I'm just asking the question, like what do something productive
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: with your time?
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: Get a fucking job.
• 20:36
  Speaker 5: But it's those little tiny microaggressions that like disturb your day,
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: that happen every single day, over and over and over
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: and over, that make you go from a good mood
• 20:45
  Speaker 5: to a bad mood.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Don't only came up four times this weekend.
• 20:48
  Speaker 5: But I don't they actually change it so far?
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: No, they're in the process.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: How much does it affect affect you? Really?
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: I couldn't sleep?
• 20:55
  Speaker 5: Oh god, it's annoying with kids.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: Will do you know what they could do? Put it
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: at the fucking back of the shop. Do that shake
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: it up a bit? I reckon if you're going to
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: really do it, do it properly and really fuck with people, Like,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: don't just half do it and then get a bunch
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: of back got it back?
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: Dare you people shop lift?
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Well, they're going to shoplift anyway. I worked it Camart,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: big surprise, worry, no tweetheads.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: Can I ask is there a policy when anyone asks
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: you a question while you're working at camar that you
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: just look at them like they've got ship on their face?
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Did you have it on your face.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: I think I did. I always like scream me up.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: I'm just trying to find the photo frame.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: Where's the ship on your face? I can't say it not.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: To attack the workers of Gamar, but they're not very helpful.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: No, they don't really know where anything is. But would
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: you know where everything is? There's ship everywhere?
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: Probably no more than the staff to be honest, yeah,
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: I do.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: Because the thing is without worrywood camart is. It's a
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: it's a perfect loop.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: So like you go, you go the Bello drome, Yeah,
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: kind of, you go straight, you go a ship joke,
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: you go straight in the.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: Kitchen wears don't just bypassing. But it was a really
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: good joke. You all stop and laugh. Okay, So you're
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: walk in.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I needed that.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: You walk in, turn hard right and.
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: It goes kitchen where kitchen. Then you move into like
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: homewares but via storage, which is great.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: And now you're having got my bellodron. You let me know,
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: I'm getting give the listeners a step by step guy.
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: If they want to visual this is all not And
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: then you go into electronics and you and then you
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: go through clothing and finish on the toys. I think
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: it's perfect and then check out. I think that's good,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Get okay, moving on. Trust me, listeners are like Gosh
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: knows what's up. He knows what's happening. I'm out here
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: living and every man, everyday life.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: You might have seen you, listener, I'm talking to you.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: You might have seen that we put a little video.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: You put a little video up about sick animals and
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: donating for sick animals at tarongas well. Something fascinating and
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: exciting news, Matt.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: We're kind of the official, unofficial official.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: We are official?
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: Is it official?
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I signed a contract, didn't you?
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: I signed the contract.
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: We are Taronga Zoo Friends Ambassadors.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: So we are going to try and weazle some discounts.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I think we. I think we are. I think we
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: I think we're going to get some free passes. Ah,
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: we are because we are selfless, Matt.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: If there's any opportunity to give back to the listener,
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: that is what we like to do.
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: They said, what's it going to take? We said, we
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: will only do it if you give us free passes
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: for the listeners. So how does that make you feel?
• 23:33
  Speaker 7: Out there?
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Leave a comment now? Where on Facebook? So we'll keep
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: you updated on that. But we hopefully with there's some
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: fun things coming up with the zoo that we can
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: get everyone involved.
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: In love it.
• 23:46
  Speaker 5: Well, I'm actually a zoo friend.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Did you've been a zoo friend for years? Though? Yeah?
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: We find it's cheaper, so if you go to the
• 23:53
  Speaker 5: zoo like twice a year, it pays for itself really
• 23:57
  Speaker 5: very affordable.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I would call this a hack. What's your approach to
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: zoo trips?
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: Something interested?
• 24:02
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so you have to be a zoo friend to
• 24:04
  Speaker 5: do this, but basically we only ever go to the
• 24:06
  Speaker 5: zoo for two hour blocks.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: What happens if you don't get to see the animal
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: that you want?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: Or?
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: Do you do you tell the kids that you have
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: to pick one animal to see or how does that work?
• 24:14
  Speaker 5: I asked them, what's the animal they really want to see?
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: See it?
• 24:17
  Speaker 5: And I preface it that we won't have time to
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: see all of the animals, but we will see the
• 24:22
  Speaker 5: one you really want to see, and then we'll see
• 24:24
  Speaker 5: all the ones around that. So I give them a
• 24:27
  Speaker 5: really big pre warning that we're not going to see
• 24:29
  Speaker 5: the whole zoo today, but we are going to see
• 24:32
  Speaker 5: the ones you want to see today because you know,
• 24:34
  Speaker 5: kids have certain moods. Sometimes they want to see the.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: Lions, do you know what I'm always I'm guilty of,
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: Like we must see every fucking animal in this april,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: like every from the penguins to the eagles, to the lions,
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: the tigers to the drafts, every animal possible. It's too much.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: You wear yourself out, and.
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: The kids get worn out, Like I see so many
• 24:55
  Speaker 5: kids having tantrums and parents looking exhausted. Like two hours
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: is such a nice wind. So it's like they're still excited,
• 25:01
  Speaker 5: they're still pumped, and you still get to see the
• 25:04
  Speaker 5: animals you're on seat, and then the ones they didn't
• 25:05
  Speaker 5: get to see, We're like, we're going to go see
• 25:07
  Speaker 5: it next time.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: So you're saying it's a good thing to be a
• 25:09
  Speaker 3: zoo friend because you can go back. You can separate
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: the zoo into certain said some more like there's twelve
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: weeks of school holidays over a whole year, give will take.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: So you could separate that out and be like, we're
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: going to see the zoo this year.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: We went last time and I just sorry, I just realized, Fuck,
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: I was so close to remembering it as well. The
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: kids have gymnastics, and they have this little fucking form
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: that they It's like a little map. Every time they
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: go to a class, they stamp the map and I
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: forget it every week and everyone picked the kids out.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: They're like, you forgot the map and I forgot the
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: map this morning? Sorry?
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Can we print it?
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Sorry?
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: No, carry on? Sorry thought it was going to be
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: zoo related.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: Sorry, so I apologize.
• 25:57
  Speaker 5: No, no, no.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I like how you said you expectation early with them.
• 26:01
  Speaker 5: You got to with everything you've got to do with Yeah,
• 26:04
  Speaker 5: and like I feel.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Like sometimes it's like you do it blindly.
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: Is going to say a couple of animals, and then
• 26:08
  Speaker 3: all of a sudden, you fucking get having a meltdown
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: because they want to see everything.
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: Yeah, but I mean Lily's only got little legs, Like
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: she will not last the distance. Louis gets bored after
• 26:18
  Speaker 5: a while, Like I think, once the excitement starts to
• 26:20
  Speaker 5: wear off, we have a snack and then we start to.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: Get out of that.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: My kids can walk one hundred meters and they're like
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: carry me, and I'm like you're seven and she's like
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: he help my knees hurt and the young legs. Yeah,
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: fucking build some resilians in your kids.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: So what did you see? Where did you go?
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: Give us the give us the route. So this time
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 26:37
  Speaker 5: Because we had watched your video on Instagram today, my
• 26:43
  Speaker 5: video the two D one about the zoo we.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: Save the animals.
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: Oh yes, yellow barely sugar glider. Do you see that?
• 26:51
  Speaker 5: Yes, that's what I'm talking about.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: No, I meant, did you see that animals?
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: Something about the studio is putting us all off, not
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: what's going on.
• 27:06
  Speaker 5: Louis really wanted to see the Seal and I was like, oh,
• 27:08
  Speaker 5: you know what, we've never been to the Seal Show,
• 27:10
  Speaker 5: so let's try for the Seal Show next minute. It's
• 27:13
  Speaker 5: so fucking hard getting them out of the house, Like
• 27:15
  Speaker 5: shoes are a chore, just walking through the door as
• 27:19
  Speaker 5: a chore. Anyway, we got there and they're like, the
• 27:20
  Speaker 5: Seal Show is starting now. So we bolted straight down
• 27:23
  Speaker 5: there and we got there just as like just reach
• 27:27
  Speaker 5: just reached capacity. It had started. And yeah, oh, I
• 27:33
  Speaker 5: was like, don't you know who I am. I've worked
• 27:35
  Speaker 5: with Madi j and but we're down that area because
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: you it's right down the bottom. So we started at
• 27:41
  Speaker 5: the Seals. Then we did the penguins, and then it
• 27:44
  Speaker 5: like twists around. You see the pelicans. And because it
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: was right on that time, it's feeding time. So this
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: is the other hack. Skip the seal show, go straight
• 27:54
  Speaker 5: to the seals. You can watch them get fed. Then
• 27:57
  Speaker 5: we went to the pelicans. Watch the pelican get fed.
• 27:59
  Speaker 5: Then we watched the giraffes and the chimpanzees get you're like.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: Into the feeding the move. Actually that's a fucking good
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: hack as well, because when they're eating, shit's happening exactly.
• 28:15
  Speaker 5: They're not just like lying around doing nothing.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: You getting your hacks from who's telling you this was
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: a fluke, So you've you've created this hair you should have.
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: And also because we went straight to the bottom and
• 28:26
  Speaker 5: worked our way back, you missed the crowd. So every
• 28:29
  Speaker 5: time we got somewhere, we don't have to like be
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: like looking over.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: But it's uphills.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: Your legs are hurt, but you gotta go u pill anywhere.
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: And there's no they're doing a new skytrain or whatever.
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: Remember they had to get they've decommissioned the current one.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: I reckon.
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: The animals at the bottom are suffering now because there's
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: no people.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: I'm not walking all the way down because now I'm
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: going to walk allway. But you're like, who's started the bottom?
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: What animals down there though? The seals and the penguins,
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: the cellar dwellers, the penguins that they're they're copping it
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: right now. Yeah, they look they're Although the pelicans are scary,
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: for I'm scared of the pelicans.
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: I thought the pelican was going to eat little right.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: Have you ever been shot on by a pelican go on?
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I haven't personally, but a friend of mine did, an
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: English guy who didn't really realize. So Narrawing Bridge, Northern
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: Beach is naving Bridge is renowned for being shattering people
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: being shot on by pelicans because the footpath walks directly
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: under the big lights. And I love it up there
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: because the bridge itself is a big hot fisherman spot too,
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: So they're they're just stalking their prey while shitting on
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: people walking past.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: So a friend of mine who's he's not a big
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: guy anyway, and I picked him up and I was like,
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: what happened to you?
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: Someone's come on you?
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was like it was like it was covered
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: and I was like, what happened is I got shot
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: on by a Pelican.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: I'm like, you're not getting in my car, bro, that's
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: good luck. Get back on the bus and fucking back
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: off England somewhere.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: Anyway. I look yeah, big ships really quickly.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Last week we told a story of how I had
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: date night with Lola, went to the RSL, going smoothly,
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: then it all went pearshek because I had to try
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: and get it out of the playground at the RSL
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: and to leave, and the only way I could get
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: her to come with me is by dangling the keys
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: and me saying well, I'm going to leave you here.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Someone has written in and I won't say their name
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: just because I'm not sure if they want this to
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: be anonymous or not, but they said, would you have
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: gone through with the threat question?
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: That's a good question, Yeah, albre By your son. Have
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: you ever seen the live of them?
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: Well, then she goes on to say I did.
• 30:27
  Speaker 5: No.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: Our family went for dinner. I was driver of a
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: drunk mom, dad and husband and four kids. Oh that's suck.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: The kids were drunk, that's your first problem.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: I gave the kids a five minute warning, a four,
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: a three or two, and then a one minute and
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: went to the car fair and loaded the double pram
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: and my second still wouldn't come. I got in the
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: car and I started it. Nope, still didn't come. But
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: also to be fair, like how the kid can't hear it?
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I used to do that. Actually I started doing
• 31:02
  Speaker 5: it again as soon as I turned the car. And
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: they're like, really, my.
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: Kids aren't likely don't have attachment issues, like they won't
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: go anywhere, so no, no mind of like, don't leave
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: the room.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I won't survive without you.
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: So I like that.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm leaving you here.
• 31:18
  Speaker 2: They're like, no, my kids fucking don't care. All she goes.
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: I drove down the driveway. Oh, make she's sorry, she's
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: at home. I thought she was the RSL. Forgive me
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: so they would be able to hear the car. Yeah. Yeah,
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: So I got the car, I started it. Nope, still
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: didn't come. I drove down the driveway. Nope, still didn't come.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: At the corner, my husband, mum and dad few aus.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: He got another car and went back for him. He
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: still hadn't budged. I drove home with three kids. They
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: got a taxi.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: So wait they were at the RSL.
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: Well, hang on a second I'm confused this whole story.
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: Actually they could be at home drunk.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: I'm so confused.
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: So she's the one about Could someone please explain Matty's
• 31:57
  Speaker 5: relationship playing analogy to me? I even tried going back
• 31:59
  Speaker 5: in listen, but I'm totally lost.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: That was a good hang on, let me just.
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: What are we talking about?
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: That? That's the end of my message.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Okay, so let's move on. No, I think, okay, let
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: me justice this here. She left the kids. She left
• 32:14
  Speaker 1: a kid with someone else. Maybe we could give.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: Her a call on So what's your relation to the kids.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: That's what us like, I was a family of kidnaped.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: Hang On, she says, my soon to be twenty year
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: old son has never not come home when I asked again,
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: So she.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: Left the twenty year old there, thank you?
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: Maybe it was her mom, Her mom was with the
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: dad and that confused loves the story, She's like, leave
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: it in.
• 32:45
  Speaker 3: Look, if you're listening, you know, like what the funk
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: I just listened to. We'll get some clarity on that.
• 32:49
  Speaker 3: But let's go back to the plane thing.
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: My plane analogy was fucking good.
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: Can we replay the plane analogy really quick?
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: Can I give you an analogy.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: I feel like kids are on this plane, which is
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: the family.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Right, Okay, okay, you with me.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: Kids are on this plane which is being piloted by
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: mom and dad. Okay, and the relationship is the engine
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: that keeps this plane flying. You lost me?
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Can you give it to me?
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Okay? So parent did you make this up? Remember Laura?
• 33:21
  Speaker 5: I was like, that's so good.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: Mad she never listens to me. She's like, I'm like, Laura,
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: listen to this, and she's like, that's great, You're so clever,
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, wait till the guys hear about this.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: On the podcast, people talking about Laura who said that
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: me talking about alcohol being my best friend is the
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: most profound thing I've ever said.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: So don't take those compliments.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: Let's know that was a good episode.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: You should listen to it.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: No, my analogy was that kids are on Fuck. I
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: should have practiced it before I started recording. You guys
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: have put me on the spot. I wasn't ready parenting.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Kids are on the plane of parenting, and the engine
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: is the relationship between the parents. Okay. So they're the
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: passengers on the plane that is. That's parenting as a whole.
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: But the relationship that drives the engines of the plane.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: Don't make me repeat myself.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: You're like the boss who's taking his kick taking you.
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: Talked about camp to say.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: Whoa, let me get this out.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: You're like the boss who you've taken your employees on
• 34:23
  Speaker 3: a team building retreat, on a.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: On a boat.
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: It's like an office episode where it's like on a
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: boat and you're like, I'm the captain because I'm.
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: The boss, and you guys are on the boat. You're
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: like my deck hands. You're trying to make this analogy
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: out of something that could be so much easier.
• 34:37
  Speaker 2: It's a good analogy, is it?
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: I can't even really remember the ending of it? What's
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: the end of the storm.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: You've got to prioritize the relationship to make the engine fly,
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: to make the plane fly.
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: And how did you come up with this one?
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Chat? If you guys want to throw on your analogies,
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: I'm also hearing those sessions. What's parenting like?
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: Parenting is like having a bunch of drunks. It's like
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: owning a bunch of drunks. I use that a long time.
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: I know that's okay.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: We'll both come up with the analogies for the next
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: housekeeping episode, and we'll lay them on you.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: And then I'll all sit here and be like, what
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: the focus, what do the moon? For those of you
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: are having an analogy.
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: Of For those of you at home, you would have
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: just heard me shake both these people's hands.
• 35:23
  Speaker 5: Also, I want the dots to write in and give
• 35:26
  Speaker 5: us their parenting analogies in the Facebook group, which you'll
• 35:29
  Speaker 5: have to.
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: It's not just about us, Hey, it's time for this now.
• 35:40
  Speaker 7: You need us smaller than ever, know that we still
• 35:44
  Speaker 7: have each other. You can send sure doting dilemma. You
• 35:48
  Speaker 7: can sure donting dilemma Ella ever.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: And do great song, great song, the best I reckon.
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: We had an episodehere, we had like four songs just
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: it's just like one big song.
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: Jingles a jingle episode. We should do that at the
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: end of the year.
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: Do you want to read this one?
• 36:11
  Speaker 5: No?
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: You read it?
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: I'm so bad at reading.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Sometimes now that Marley can read. If I make a
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: mistake when I'm reading her bedtime story, She's like, it
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: was it was your You got your wrong and I
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: don't have time for that, she corrects me.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: I don't have time for being corrected. By my children.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I just tell them to shut up.
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: Just like that's a compound shut up to sleep, that's
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: a content compound sentence.
• 36:33
  Speaker 5: Well, I used to also get paid to read the news,
• 36:35
  Speaker 5: so I do know how to read.
• 36:36
  Speaker 3: Would you like me to read it rubbery in? Wow,
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: you did say you were sensitive today, and that's the
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: sort of comment we.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: Do not need.
• 36:47
  Speaker 5: I was actually just trying to take something off your
• 36:49
  Speaker 5: mental load.
• 36:49
  Speaker 8: Sure, she said, Okay, this is from Aaron. Hi, Aaron, Hello,
• 36:57
  Speaker 8: regular spelling just e R I N classic.
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: I would actually do you know what? I'd be interested
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: to know people's middle names.
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: Yeah, if you're writing in out name, we're not reading
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: anything out unless your middlenames to them.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Facts. She says, Hey, guys, not sure if you've already
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: spoken about this type of situation, but I really want
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: an honest opinion and your male perspective on how to navigate.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: My partner is an amazing dad. He's very supportive and
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: caring to me and the boys. For reference, they're one
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: and two years old. However, every weekend he is locked
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: into the footy. He will watch every single AFL game.
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: He is in three fantasy leagues and footy group chats
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: and then also has Maltese going for every game, So
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: basically from Friday night kickoff to Sunday when the bounce starts,
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: he is glued to the TV and his phone. I
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: know it's not normal, and I get annoyed because it's
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: my weekend too, and I feel like I'm the only
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: one who is actively parenting. Is there a better approach
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: I can come at this with. Surely he's hung the
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: boots up. It's time for him to move on and
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: prioritize us instead of who may win the Brownlow.
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: Right, First of all, my first thought here is classic
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: a of hell fan.
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's the first problem.
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: That's your fucking first problem.
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: Who is watching a shout out to the lines prison
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: Lions who won the premiership last year.
• 38:19
  Speaker 5: Well she's Victorian based.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: So just to jump to his defense before I give
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: my opinions, please, I don't think he has to hang
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: the boots up and move on with his life then
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: they can coexist.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: Right, But watching every game is a bit march or.
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: We have spoken about how beneficial sport can be as
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: a hobby, especially for dads.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but he's that more of like getting out and
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: about and doing it not actually just watching it at
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: home on the couch.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: Well, if he's got three what the three WhatsApp chats?
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: Is that what I said, fantasy leagues?
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: Fantasy leagus. I mean, there is a level of communication
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: that I'm sure he's enjoying with his football, but I
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: think with anything, there's a line where it becomes too much.
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: Is what I think. The group chats on the issue.
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: For me, I don't have a problem with that because
• 39:01
  Speaker 3: you're going to be group chatting with people and communication
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: is great.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, however you do that is fine. I think maybe
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: you can watch a couple of those games on a
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: replay when the kids go to bed. There is I
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: think that's fair approaching the situation.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: Although if he's in the group chat, that's hard because
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: all the group chat will be happening as the game
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: is going. So I guess he'll feel on the outer
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: right if he's watching them on replays after the fact.
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: Are we saying that everyone in that group chat, though,
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: is watching every single game or is that people just
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: all that whole group doesn't have a life.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm guessing they're all, Hey, we don't know, but
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: I'm guessing that they're all going to be in the
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: same fantasy leagues.
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: I think with everything, there's got to be some balance.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: But I think a question is how do we approach it.
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: I think at some point on the weekends there needs
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: to be time dedicated to the kids, and there also
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: needs to be time dedicated for mum to do what
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: she wants to be doing. You know, if he's enjoying
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: his hobbies to the point where it puts all the
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: responsibility of parenting onto the mum for the entire my
• 40:00
  Speaker 2: weekend from from Friday to Sunday, that's so fucking unfair.
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, with us.
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: For example, if Manly's playing, it's a he's watching Manly play,
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: because that's the only that's important one exactly right, unless
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: it's like original or something which happens to be on
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: Wednesday night at eight o'clock, which shouldn't be an issue
• 40:16
  Speaker 3: unless it's like, that's your specific date, and I don't
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: know what your circumstances are, but I think if it's
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: your team then and then you've had the conversations like bait,
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: my team's playing, it's fine as long as it's not
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: something serious happening that same day. But every game, first
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: of all, how do you sit there for that long
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: or through every game?
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: Who's got that kind of attention span?
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: How unfit are you that you can sit there all day?
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: Because let's assume that he's working Monday to Friday, right
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: gets to the weekend, there needs to be some time
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: for him to spend time with the kids and focus
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: on that relationship. And if he's like a fuck off, billy,
• 40:49
  Speaker 2: I'm watching AFL. The people who are sacrificing is the
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: wife and the kids. They're taking the brunt.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think like most of the time these games
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: are on in the afternoon, I would.
• 40:59
  Speaker 5: Say I wouldn't know what she's saying. From Friday night
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: until Sunday evening, he's watching every single game, and he's
• 41:07
  Speaker 5: on the fantasy football so he's on the WhatsApp groups.
• 41:09
  Speaker 5: I just think, personally, as a mother and as a partner,
• 41:12
  Speaker 5: that's so unfair. Like if I watched that much rom
• 41:16
  Speaker 5: coms or that much TV, it would not be allowed
• 41:19
  Speaker 5: at all.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: Imagine if Mum was like, it's not live, I haven't
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: cooked dinner because I'm watching How to Lose a Man
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: in Ten Days.
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: Again, it's live.
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: It's because it's very easy to say from five o'clock,
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: but there's no games on. There's no games on until
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: three o'clock on a Saturday afternoon. There's no games on
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: till three o'clock on a Sunday afternoon.
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: So if you're saying it doesn't matter, you can't you
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: can't know for sure a Saturday.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: No, No, I'm not.
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: I'm just I'm trying to understand here. What's happening in
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: the morning. Is he just doing his fantasy thing all
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: morning because she is tips in. If that's the case,
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: then it's like, all right, well it is taking up
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: your whole weekend. But I'm reluctant to be like, I
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: don't want to completely shit on him because it might
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: be the case that it's in the vos and that
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: might be a simple conversation with be like, hey, babe,
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: if there's no footy on in the morning, can you
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: focus on ours?
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: And I don't know if that's that's what's happening, I
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 42:12
  Speaker 5: I actually go through this with Dan every weekend, and
• 42:14
  Speaker 5: I feel like there's more games that kind of keep
• 42:16
  Speaker 5: slipping in a little bit.
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: Shout out to Dan. Should it looks great? Dan?
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: Okay, get ready to take Dan's side and I'm just joking,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: just keating.
• 42:24
  Speaker 5: I would never, but like he loves sport and he
• 42:26
  Speaker 5: loves NRL, he loves rugby union, he loves whatever's on.
• 42:29
  Speaker 5: We've got the World Cup on now, like fuck sake.
• 42:34
  Speaker 5: But I had to say to him, you're allowed one
• 42:37
  Speaker 5: game per day. Like I understand for his mental health.
• 42:39
  Speaker 5: It's a relaxing thing. It's fine, But there's back to
• 42:43
  Speaker 5: back games like some days there's like three in.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: Row sip Saturday.
• 42:46
  Speaker 5: Yeah, And so I'm like, well, I couldn't sit there
• 42:49
  Speaker 5: and watch a rom com for two hours, so why
• 42:51
  Speaker 5: do you get to sit there and like chime out? Yes,
• 42:53
  Speaker 5: sometimes it is in the background, okay, but if this
• 42:56
  Speaker 5: guy's on his phone and watching you got two under two?
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: Who?
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: I think? As we don't know the full details, but
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: I think it's important to make sure that whatever time
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: you are dedicating to your hobbies, that mum gets the
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: same opportunity with equal amounts of time for herself.
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: But I also think both parties shouldn't be made to
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: feel bad about doing their hobbies. No, but if it
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: crosses over and didn't feel bad hobby and feel bad
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: a hobby and de session.
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: Is very different. But I think, right, what's what's your Yeah,
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: would you agree?
• 43:27
  Speaker 2: What is your rule? Vic? In your household?
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: Dan, what's your game day?
• 43:31
  Speaker 5: Yeah, he's allowed one game a day. So if I
• 43:33
  Speaker 5: come home and I see there's an NFL game on that,
• 43:37
  Speaker 5: I know he doesn't care about those teams, I might
• 43:39
  Speaker 5: turn it off. Like if it's in George, Like, I'm like,
• 43:43
  Speaker 5: choose the game you want to watch, and that's the
• 43:45
  Speaker 5: game you can watch. That's totally fine. Any more than that,
• 43:48
  Speaker 5: and it's taking the piss from me.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: Now, Oscar's like, I want to watch the game. Okay,
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: that's fine.
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: That's family time then.
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: Because I think is gonna have to watch every single game.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: That time. Shut up. I keep watching.
• 44:03
  Speaker 3: I'm a big fan of Like if we're doing stuff
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: around the house and where whatever, and it's cricket season
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: and the crickets on in the background whatever, I just
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: walk past every now.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: And Yeah, it's very different.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: Different. But I think Laura made a good point where
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: I kind of just to assume that because I've got girls,
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: they weren't going to like watching football, And Laura was like,
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: try and include Marlen and Lola, share your passion with
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: the kids and it's been great. Sometimes they like don't
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: have any interest at all, But there's times where I
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: can explain the rules as basically as I can and
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: it's hard for them to really understand. But you know,
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: we would cheer together and I would say like, hey,
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: that's a try, We've got to cheer, and they fucking
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: loved it. They love being included and taking them to
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: the game is amazing. And I know you're really good
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: ash going to manly games and you include the family
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: and the kids with your passion, and I think if
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: you can cross it over and you can blend, that's
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: a beautiful thing.
• 44:53
  Speaker 5: That's a great idea. They just want the attention. They
• 44:55
  Speaker 5: just want your attention and they want to know that
• 44:57
  Speaker 5: like they're part of the family and feeling loved.
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I I like, I want to combine two things.
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: The first one is I think you've said one live
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: game because you can always watch her on repaid later.
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: But if April said to me, hey, and she has
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: done actually before, she's like, what day's Manly playing this week?
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: She has said that to preemp that I definitely want
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: to watch that game. I'll miss it for something in particular,
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: like if.
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: She's like, Hey, I wanted to go out to dinner
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: with you on Saturday and night I know Manly's playing.
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: How about we go for dinner and come back and
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: you can watch you can watch it on and that case,
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: I turn all my notifications off, so I'm not getting
• 45:28
  Speaker 3: those group chats.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: I think that's fair also as well, I think really important.
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: Don't spring it on him. If you haven't discussed the date.
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: Night on Saturday and it's Saturday and you said, hey,
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: how about we going to date night and he was
• 45:41
  Speaker 3: really looking forward to watch that game, You're just gonna
• 45:43
  Speaker 3: set a bad tone.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: But if you're like during the week like, hey, I
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: know you're going to watch.
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: Some football on the weekend, and what you really want
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: to watch this game? Okay, great? What about on the
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: Friday night we go for dinner together, or what about
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: on that Saturday afternoon we take the kids to the park.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: We're going to meet some friends instead, and then you
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: can watch the games and replay. It's all about communication,
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: right if there is an important game on or something
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: I really really really want to watch. But April was like, hey,
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: what about a little date night tonight? I'll tell you
• 46:10
  Speaker 3: right now, throw the TV out the fucking I wouldn't
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: the TV wouldn't exist anymore.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: So I don't know, like that's just what works for us.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Everyone's going to be different, I guess.
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: But I also I think, like I know, mate, smiling.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: We always take the piss about people who play golf
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: after they have kids. It's made to mine who are
• 46:26
  Speaker 2: like still playing golf Saturday and Sundays after having kids,
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: And I'm like, man, you can't keep living the life
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: that you lived before kids after you have kids, Like
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: you gotta want a two year old at some point,
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: you've got to sacrifice your passions and your hobbies and
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: give that time to your family.
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: So a friend of mine who really really into go
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: and was like that was like golf Saturday Sunday. He
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: started his kid got to a point like where he
• 46:51
  Speaker 3: was like, okay, well instead of playing a game of
• 46:53
  Speaker 3: golf on the Saturday or whatever, he would go and
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: hit the ball with his kid, you know, and.
• 46:58
  Speaker 5: Then he plays around.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, because then it would be like, all right,
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: well we'll take the key, we're going to go. We're
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: going to we're gonna hit the ball for a few hours.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: But I have a tea time tomorrow morning. Is that okay?
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: I think there is.
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: That's a great balance, great compromise.
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: And then I'm going to go the pub. You're not
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: going to see me wednesday anyway, so but like I think, man,
• 47:15
  Speaker 1: that's so. And I don't want to shot on men
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: all men here because they're all the same.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: But we're so good at and it's a bit toxic
• 47:23
  Speaker 3: of you giving us an inch and we'll take a mile, right.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: So it's like greage boom boom. And my mum always
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: says it to me. She's always said, you've always been
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: so good at that. But then you're aware that you're.
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: Good at it too, so you might use it. You
• 47:36
  Speaker 3: might use it in the right context instead of being like, well, okay,
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: I might not come home tonight for another three or
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: four hours. Which it's so easy to just do that,
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: but like same with your hobby. It's so easy to
• 47:46
  Speaker 3: get caught up in, Oh, Mike's getting really good at this.
• 47:49
  Speaker 3: I want to get really good at it too, and that's.
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: How my brain works. But I also try. And my
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: hobby is after hours. It is April's already in bed,
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: So if there's any date night or whatever, that's happening.
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: We've been and done it. I'm not getting on until
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: nine nine thirty.
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: No one's missing out on all the dads in my
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: group because it is a group of shout to the
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: slow brows.
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: It is a group of dads as a race league.
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: After nine o'clock is our time. Yeah, right, And I
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: think that's a fair compromise. And like, even so sometimes
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: it'll be like, oh, I'm one of the guys like
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: I'm going to the movies with my wife on our
• 48:18
  Speaker 3: race and I'm like, I do that. We were like, yeah, well, fair,
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: like that's that's completely fair because it shouldn't be the
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: priority of your life.
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a hobby, not an obsession.
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: Very good, nailed it, thank you.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: I'm waiting for them to come at me now. So
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: what happened a real man? What happened a real man?
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: That'll be the comment.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: You're fucking hearing one talk? Yeah right here. Yes.
• 48:39
  Speaker 5: And it's like doctor Zach said, if if they're doing
• 48:42
  Speaker 5: that much of it, sometimes it's a bit of avoidance
• 48:45
  Speaker 5: because they're not feeling confident in the area of parenting,
• 48:48
  Speaker 5: so they might be seeing that as an aulet to
• 48:50
  Speaker 5: be like, oh, well, I can't because I've got this
• 48:52
  Speaker 5: game and then this game, and then it's a you're not.
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: Feeling confident about an aspect of parenting, educate yourself and
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: give it a fucking go.
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: Can I just after Okay, not to sound like a
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: hero here, guys, Okay, I don't want to do that.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: It's not who I am, it's not what my approach is.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: But I used to fucking dread putting Poppy down because
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: it was really tricky and I just was I wasn't
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: match fit pardon the pun, as.
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: Per previous conversation about match games and matches okay with Carr, But.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: I've turned a corner with Poppy, and I'm like, I'm
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: so in tune with the routine now and I've gotten
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: so much better at it now compared to how I
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: was four or five weeks ago. And obviously, like she's
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: getting a little bit older and she's sleeping better. But
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: parenting gets better and it gets easier the more you
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: do it, and the more you're in tune with your
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: kids behavior and how they react to things.
• 49:42
  Speaker 3: Where everyone always pipes on about what you put in
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: is what you get out, and parenting is a perfect
• 49:48
  Speaker 3: judge of that.
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, because if you're like if your ology.
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: Analogy, if you're avoiding to say I'm watching sport because
• 49:56
  Speaker 3: I am not good at imaginative play with my kids.
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: Especially MAKESI example, like for a girl and as a
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: guy who never got that as a child, it's really
• 50:05
  Speaker 3: hard and awkward up here.
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: But the more you do it, the better you get,
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: the better you get you know what she likes.
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: And then also as well, she'll be like, one day
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: you'll be playing shops with her, and one day you'll
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: be at the shop and she'll be like.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: You know, it's like how we do it at home,
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: and bam, you'll go that was worth it. That makes
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: you want to cry, Thank you too. I make you
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: want to cry on time. It's usually nonverbal though. All right, well,
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: on that note, let's fucking get out of here.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: Let's get out of here. Episode one of the New Studio.
• 50:34
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• 50:37
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• 50:37
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• 51:23
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• 51:25
  Speaker 1: And birthday party, and we'll see you guys then from bye.
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