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Time to Grind: Build Unstoppable Belief in Yourself · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Well, I believe that he has to build belief.
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  Speaker 2: Belief is like there's an actor school special belief where
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  Speaker 2: the mom says, believe in yourself and that's all great,
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  Speaker 2: but there's also a built belief. And the built belief
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  Speaker 2: is one where you are constantly Like for me, I
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  Speaker 2: came from a bad place. How I build belief is
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  Speaker 2: through the daunting tasks I put myself through. So that's
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  Speaker 2: proof positive that I can. So it correlates. And that's
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  Speaker 2: how this pieceous kid I once thought I was built
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  Speaker 2: belief by saying hmm, I was in three hell weeks.
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  Speaker 1: I went to Ranger School. I tried out for Delta selection.
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  Speaker 1: That is proof, mother fut.
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  Speaker 2: So whenever you think, whenever you think you can't, confidence
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  Speaker 2: comes from the thing that you built. You must build belief.
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  Speaker 2: You must build confidence. It can't be like, hey, I'm
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  Speaker 2: going to knock that out. You got to look over
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  Speaker 2: here and say.
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  Speaker 1: I can knock that shit out.
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  Speaker 2: It's a belief and it's built on what you put
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  Speaker 2: in to yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And one thing I was able to do was to dream.
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  Speaker 2: I was able to dream outside those four walls of
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  Speaker 2: that small town. And until you're able to really put
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  Speaker 2: yourself into that dream. But don't make dreams your master.
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  Speaker 2: That's where you truly become what you're destined to become.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people sit back and they dream about
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  Speaker 2: being a sports figure, or dream about being a seal,
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  Speaker 2: or dream about being an astronaut, and all it is
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  Speaker 2: is a mother dream. They don't put the work behind
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  Speaker 2: the dream. That dream has become their master. When you
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  Speaker 2: become the master of your dream is when you say
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  Speaker 2: I want to go be a Navy seal and you say, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to lose one hundred and six pounds in
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  Speaker 2: less than three months. The dream was the one thing
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  Speaker 2: I thought about, and the dream was now gone. Now
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  Speaker 2: what comes in the dream goes away in the floundary
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  Speaker 2: list of details and tasks come up.
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  Speaker 1: God do this, got do this? God do this? Got
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  Speaker 1: do this.
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  Speaker 2: That's when you become the master of your dream.
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  Speaker 1: So a lot of people out there dreaming.
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  Speaker 2: The brain that I was given as a child, It
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  Speaker 2: was easy to go home and think about what, how
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  Speaker 2: do I want to.
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  Speaker 1: Be a freak today? How do I want to show
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  Speaker 1: up to school today and be a freek.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't require me going home and opening a book
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  Speaker 2: up saying, it's going to take me all year to
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  Speaker 2: learn this page. So instead of learning that page, I
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  Speaker 2: learned how to become a character. And maybe that character
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  Speaker 2: that I created, that three hundred pounds insecure guy that
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  Speaker 2: used to fake, fake it till I make it type
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  Speaker 2: of guy. You know, let me become your friend, let
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  Speaker 2: me lie to you until.
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  Speaker 1: You like me. Type of guy.
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  Speaker 2: When you have any kind of any manhood, womanhood, a
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  Speaker 2: human being, a soul, a spirit, any I had, no,
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  Speaker 2: I must have just this much pride, because that's exactly
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  Speaker 2: what opened the door for me.
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  Speaker 1: Because every day you were a character. Every day you
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  Speaker 1: were a clown.
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  Speaker 2: Every day you opened that Spanish book or that science
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  Speaker 2: book or English book, and you like you looked at it.
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  Speaker 2: It was like it looked like foreign language. And you're saying,
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  Speaker 2: where do I start? Well, who do I start? And
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  Speaker 2: obviously it was necessary. The more I talk about it,
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  Speaker 2: it wasn't necessary. Because what happened is I became haunted
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  Speaker 2: by the mere fact that this is my existence, and
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  Speaker 2: you got to live with that. I lived with it
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  Speaker 2: for a lot of years, and so I sat back
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  Speaker 2: and said, okay, all right, I know what this takes.
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  Speaker 1: And when you sit back as.
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  Speaker 2: Fucked up as I was, and I had a laundry list,
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  Speaker 2: a table like this of what I have to do
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  Speaker 2: to become just a human being that can make ends meet,
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  Speaker 2: make a thousand dollars a month just to get there.
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  Speaker 1: It was like, oh my god, dude, I'm sixteen seventeen, I.
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  Speaker 2: Can't read, I can't write, and I'm so behind the
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  Speaker 2: power curve.
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  Speaker 1: And my brain is about being pressed.
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  Speaker 2: And my dad beat my moms at home, and kids
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  Speaker 2: are calling me nigger at school, and I'm like, oh
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  Speaker 2: my god, man, what.
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  Speaker 1: The fuck do I do?
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  Speaker 2: And it wasn't like someone came around and said, hey, man,
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  Speaker 2: you can do this.
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  Speaker 1: This is all me.
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  Speaker 2: So people know, where's this cold man come from. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not trying to be cold. It's the reality of my life.
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  Speaker 2: It's the reality of a lot of people's lives. And
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  Speaker 2: so yeah, that had to happen for me to be haunted,
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  Speaker 2: to be haunted, to pull out to extract the god
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  Speaker 2: in the day.
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  Speaker 1: That haunting is something that's still there today.
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  Speaker 2: Because no matter how much you improve, no matter how
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  Speaker 2: much you change who you are, it's not permanent. You'll
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  Speaker 2: just wake up and say, oh my god, man, you're
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  Speaker 2: David Goggins.
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  Speaker 1: You break records, you do this, you do that. People
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  Speaker 1: don't know. How are you able to just be so hard?
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  Speaker 1: I never turned the thing off, because once it turns off, I.
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  Speaker 2: Go right back to the David Gogauz that is, and
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  Speaker 2: that's the guy that I'm constantly fighting every day.
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  Speaker 1: And it's a choice, like I never forgot.
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  Speaker 2: I was on the podcast one time and this dude goes,
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  Speaker 2: you were blessed with a strong mind, Like the hell
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  Speaker 2: you talking about? It's blessed with a strong mind.
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  Speaker 1: That's something that you have to develop.
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  Speaker 2: You developed that over years, decades of suffering and going
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  Speaker 2: back into the suffering. That's why a lot of people
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  Speaker 2: who graduate in Navy steal training I talk about very
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  Speaker 2: openly all the time, a lot of guys don't go
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  Speaker 2: don't don't want to go back into that water, don't
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  Speaker 2: want to go back into the hard stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And maybe not anything hard, anything hard in life.
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  Speaker 2: Once you get through it, it's like you become a
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  Speaker 2: Pelw Like how many peow's you do want to go
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  Speaker 2: back to Pelw camp? None?
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  Speaker 1: When something sucks so bad in life. This is on
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  Speaker 1: this that.
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  Speaker 2: We're talking about now. Very few people want to.
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  Speaker 1: Go back, they're happy they graduated.
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  Speaker 2: I realized I'm just same way.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to go back. I have to go back.
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  Speaker 2: I must go back because that is exactly where all
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  Speaker 2: the knowledge of my life exists.
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  Speaker 1: What's back there in what you're exactly what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I didn't know anything about this, but how I
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  Speaker 2: grew a will was constantly doing these things to.
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  Speaker 1: Now it's just life. I wake up while it still sucks.
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  Speaker 1: It's just life. You don't sit back and like.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, like I have days I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to do it, but I know I'm going to do it.
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  Speaker 2: I know from years of just doing it. So that's
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  Speaker 2: that's beautiful. And this is why I came on here
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  Speaker 2: with you today. And I'm glad you're talking about this
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  Speaker 2: because human beings need to hear this. Then you stop
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  Speaker 2: hearing these hacks on.
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  Speaker 1: This and that.
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  Speaker 2: There's no faking hack, bro, there's no gen hack. Yeah
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  Speaker 2: you made this and that and saunas and all this that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's great. There is no green life hack to grow
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  Speaker 2: that thing. How do you grow it? Do it and
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  Speaker 2: do it and do it and do it. That's the hack.
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  Speaker 1: The hack is go fucking suck. And that's what I realized.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I realized life. That's why I.
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  Speaker 2: Wanted to come on here today. I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: come on here on top of I no fucking passion
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  Speaker 2: and purpose and how to get the out of bed
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  Speaker 2: and how to hit an alarm clock and all this
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  Speaker 2: catchphrase bullshit, because that wasn't how I lived, and how
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  Speaker 2: I lived.
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  Speaker 1: I lived.
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  Speaker 2: I woke up like every human being does, and goes,
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  Speaker 2: fuck me, man, I'm a fucking piece of today. How
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  Speaker 2: the hell is this gonna work out for me?
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  Speaker 1: And you fight that, and you fight that.
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  Speaker 2: You don't override it, no override button. It's the conversation
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  Speaker 2: in your in your head, So how you do that?
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  Speaker 2: We don't have enough of these conversations about the real
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  Speaker 2: conversation that every human being is having and they have
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  Speaker 2: no idea how to get out of it, but they do.
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  Speaker 1: It's that right there.
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  Speaker 2: Man. You gotta build your will. The road to success
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  Speaker 2: is rarely a straight line for me. It's always been
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  Speaker 2: more like a maze. Many times, when I thought I'd
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  Speaker 2: finally cracked the code, had it all figured out, and
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  Speaker 2: found the straight past a certain victory, I hit a
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  Speaker 2: wall or got spun into a turnaround. When that happens,
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  Speaker 2: we have two choices. We can stay stuck or regroup,
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  Speaker 2: back up and try again. That's where evolution begins. Hitting
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  Speaker 2: those walls time and again will harden and streamline you
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  Speaker 2: having to back up and formulate a new plan without
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  Speaker 2: any assurances it will ever pan out. Will tune your
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  Speaker 2: say up and develop your problem solving skills and your endurance.
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  Speaker 1: It will force you to adapt.
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  Speaker 2: When that happens hundreds of times over the course of
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  Speaker 2: many years, it is physically exhausting and mentally draining, and
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  Speaker 2: it becomes damn near impossible.
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  Speaker 1: To believe in yourself or your future.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people abandon belief at that point. They
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  Speaker 2: swirl in the eddies of comfort or regret, perhaps claim
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  Speaker 2: their victimhood and stop looking for.
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  Speaker 1: Their way out of the maze.
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  Speaker 2: Others keep believing and find a way out, but hope
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  Speaker 2: to never slip into a trap like that ever again,
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  Speaker 2: and those skills they'd hone and developed with her they
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  Speaker 2: lose their edge. I am always on the hunt for
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  Speaker 2: another twisted pretzel of a maze to get lost in,
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  Speaker 2: because that's where I find myself.
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  Speaker 1: The smooth road to success is of no use to
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  Speaker 1: savages like me. That may sound ideal, but it won't
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  Speaker 1: test us. It doesn't demand belief, so it will never
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  Speaker 1: make us great. We all build belief in different ways.
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  Speaker 1: I clock countless hours in the gym, where I.
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  Speaker 2: Log thousands of reps and run and ride my bike
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  Speaker 2: obscene distances to cultivate belief. Despite what you may think,
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  Speaker 2: I don't consider myself an ultra athlete because those races
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  Speaker 2: are not who I am.
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  Speaker 1: There are tools.
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  Speaker 2: Each one provides me a stockpile of faith. So when
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  Speaker 2: I get stuck in the maze of life like a
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  Speaker 2: broke down savage, I still believe I'm capable of achieving
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  Speaker 2: my unreasonable goals, such as becoming a smoke jumper at
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  Speaker 2: forty seven years old, no matter what society or the
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  Speaker 2: good doctor says.
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  Speaker 1: I don't mean to suggest that.
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  Speaker 2: You must run one hundred or two hundred miles to
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  Speaker 2: believe you have what it takes to get or you
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  Speaker 2: want to go. That's what I had to do based
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  Speaker 2: on the depth of the darkness I came from and
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  Speaker 2: the scale.
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  Speaker 1: Of my ambitions.
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  Speaker 2: But if you've lost it, you do need to find
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  Speaker 2: your way back to belief. Whatever it takes for you
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  Speaker 2: to believe that you're better than good enough to achieve
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  Speaker 2: your dreams is what you must do. And remember, your
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  Speaker 2: greatness is not tied to any outcome. It is found
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  Speaker 2: in the valiance of the attempt. So you got to
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  Speaker 2: make sure that you constantly are rewriting your book.
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  Speaker 1: You have to constantly rewrite your book every day of
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  Speaker 1: your life, you know.
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  Speaker 2: And these aren't just words I say, This is how
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  Speaker 2: I have to live like. These are conversations I have
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  Speaker 2: with myself, and I say to everywhere I go. The
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  Speaker 2: most important conversation when you have it yourself, Yes, you.
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  Speaker 1: Live with it every single day.
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  Speaker 2: But most of our conversations are not the right ones.
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  Speaker 1: They're not the ones that are going to push us
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  Speaker 1: to the place we need to go.
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  Speaker 2: They're the ones that are going to keep us sitting
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  Speaker 2: in that toxic vironment that you've helped create and everybody
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  Speaker 2: else helped create, and you just live in it. You
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  Speaker 2: live in that muck and that conversation this plays in
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  Speaker 2: your head and that becomes you. So my first conversation
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  Speaker 2: when I was absolutely nobody, and that's one thing you
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  Speaker 2: have to say.
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  Speaker 1: We live in the world.
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  Speaker 2: Now, that's so kind. We find a kind way around everything,
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  Speaker 2: Like if you don't look good, I have to find
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  Speaker 2: a kind way of saying I don't like your shirt.
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  Speaker 2: That's not the approach, the approach you have to take,
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  Speaker 2: at least I took.
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  Speaker 1: You take what the approach you want.
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  Speaker 2: The conversation had to be a real, honest conversation in
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  Speaker 2: the accountability mirror of.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what I was fat?
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  Speaker 2: Don't find a kind word to say that, you know what,
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  Speaker 2: I've gained some weight. No, you're fat when I couldn't read,
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  Speaker 2: not like, hey, you know even learned disability.
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  Speaker 1: No, I cannot read of a fourth grade reading level.
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  Speaker 2: I'm struggling, and sometimes I call myself stupid, not in
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  Speaker 2: a way to put myself down.
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  Speaker 1: So don't take it like my god, those are so hurtful. Yah,
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  Speaker 1: the hurtful. This honest.
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  Speaker 2: The conversation has to become an honest conversation of where
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  Speaker 2: you're at mentally?
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  Speaker 1: Where am I at? Mentally? I look like I feel
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  Speaker 1: like I'm not this.
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  Speaker 2: I'm falling behind in school, I'm lazy.
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  Speaker 1: My house is a mess.
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  Speaker 2: You have to look at what it is and call
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  Speaker 2: it what it is. Don't find words to make yourself
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  Speaker 2: feel better because that's what So we hang around people
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  Speaker 2: that make us feel better, that tell us what we
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  Speaker 2: want to hear, not what we need to hear, and
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  Speaker 2: so we stay away from those people, and we stay
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  Speaker 2: away from those people, like our internal dialogue becomes that
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  Speaker 2: kind it's okay, it's not okay.
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  Speaker 1: So that's where it starts.
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  Speaker 2: It starts with that accountability of it's not okay anymore,
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  Speaker 2: this can no longer be okay, and calling yourself out
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  Speaker 2: for exactly what you are and exactly how you need
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  Speaker 2: to fix it.
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  Speaker 1: That's where it starts