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Symptom Karmic Lesson: Anger · We Are The Same

• 0:03
  SPEAKER_00: Hello everyone, I hope you've had a beautiful week.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: In today's episode, we're going to be talking about the symptom karmic lesson of anger and ways in which to learn the lesson and regain control when you feel so very out of control.
• 0:16
  SPEAKER_00: As I'm sure you know, anger stems from fear, but fear stems from control, so we can take this to mean that anger comes either from fearing the loss of control or fearing that you have no control already.
• 0:28
  SPEAKER_00: In actuality, if you sit with yourself for a while and really think about what you're angry about, it will always stem from anger at the self.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: Either way, control is both a biological and a goic construct, so let's talk about how to move forward.
• 0:43
  SPEAKER_00: Biologically, fear stems from the amygdala, which is the area of the brain in charge of fight or flight.
• 0:50
  SPEAKER_00: It's the area of the brain that you're born with and that tells your body that you're hungry, in danger, or need to procreate.
• 0:57
  SPEAKER_00: When you're traumatized, it is the amygdala that is affected.
• 1:00
  SPEAKER_00: And when you're triggered, the amygdala sends the warning signal to the prefrontal cortex, responsible for rational and cognitive thinking.
• 1:08
  SPEAKER_00: And the prefrontal cortex can decide whether the threat is dangerous enough to act upon it or override it.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: When you fear losing control and act out of anger, this is the prefrontal cortex not believing it has the tools to deal with the issue.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: So it allows the amygdala to freak you out and create a fight or flight response.
• 1:27
  SPEAKER_00: In anger, the response is generally fight.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_00: In order to strengthen the prefrontal cortex so that it can properly address triggers biologically, we do things like practice meditation and mindfulness.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: Now that we've addressed the biological issue in the scenario, let's talk about anger in a symptom karmic lesson sense.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_00: In all honesty, when we're angry about something, the anger is generally at ourselves over something, even when we feel like it's over the loss of control.
• 1:55
  SPEAKER_00: So let's say that you're in a long-term relationship and it ends, not by your own choice.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_00: After the sadness, anger is most likely going to come about.
• 2:04
  SPEAKER_00: Though it may seem aimed at the other ego in the relationship, chances are your anger is really from things like trusting the other ego with your emotions, trusting that you were safe in the relationship, trusting that you wouldn't get abandoned.
• 2:18
  SPEAKER_00: The anger could be from opening up to another ego, sitting around and wasting your time when you saw red flags, or putting up with so much because you believed it would work out in the long run.
• 2:28
  SPEAKER_00: If you get fired from a job, the anger may be aimed at your boss, but in reality, it's most likely from anger at yourself that you didn't have a backup plan, that you hated your job but stuck it out, that you were so attached to the 3D elements that you stuck with it even though you weren't happy.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_00: Again, the anger could be from trusting that you were safe and secure in your job title, that you didn't work hard enough to be indisposable, that you worked too hard and put everything into your job, missing out on things you'd rather have done.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: If you look back at your childhood and are angry at your parents for never having been there for you, the anger deep down is most likely that you had needs that weren't being met, that you needed others to make you feel better, that you loved unconditionally when it wasn't returned.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_00: The anger could be from caring what your parents thought, for repeatedly not learning your lesson, from trusting those who continuously showed you that they were untrustworthy.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, as a child, you have biological, physical, and emotional needs that should be met.
• 3:29
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm in no way saying that you were in the wrong for desiring these things.
• 3:34
  SPEAKER_00: What I'm saying is that the anger that we hold on to is really anger at the self directed outward.
• 3:40
  SPEAKER_00: All of these scenarios are showing you something.
• 3:43
  SPEAKER_00: Unfortunately, anger is a terrible feeling emotion that will rile up not only the ego but the sympathetic nervous system and leave your head spinning until you accept, understand yourself, and submit.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_00: Whatever has happened has already happened, so there's nothing that you can do about it.
• 4:00
  SPEAKER_00: You can't go back in faux linear time and not trust another ego.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't go back and not feel safe.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't go back and not work as hard.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_00: You can only accept that what has happened has already transpired and go from there.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_00: When you understand what you're truly angry about regarding yourself, you gain back control.
• 4:20
  SPEAKER_00: This is the ultimate practice of mindfulness, because you're not blaming external things, but rather understanding that you create your own emotions, and that is the ultimate control.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Everything you feel is under your control.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe not at first due to biology, but ultimately it is under your control.
• 4:39
  SPEAKER_00: When you take back that control by understanding what you're truly mad at, you have the ability to submit.
• 4:45
  SPEAKER_00: With submission comes lesson learning.
• 4:48
  SPEAKER_00: This isn't to say next time you shouldn't trust, but it is to say that next time you won't get mad at yourself for doing so.
• 4:55
  SPEAKER_00: You realize that putting trust in your 3D reality is beneficial for your ego in the short term and will also teach you more lessons.
• 5:03
  SPEAKER_00: Taking back control by understanding your ego's propensities doesn't mean that you sweep things under the rug or become shelled in cold and hard.
• 5:11
  SPEAKER_00: It means you're mindful of what your ego does, what your ego wants to do, and you accept those things too, which in the end stop anger from being a predominant emotion that your brain feels.
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_00: Anger is a hard emotion to let go of, so why not stop it from swooping in before it even has a chance to latch on?
• 5:30
  SPEAKER_00: Understanding that you have the control is the way to do that.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: And eventually you will remember that everything your ego believes itself to be angry at is really just you as the universe in different 3D costumes, so you technically can't be mad at anything else but your own ego.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_00: Until next week, all of my best and highest vibrations to you.