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EP 510 Challenging Limiting Beliefs: A Path to Personal Growth · Celeste The Therapist

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Hey, thank you all so much for joining another episode of Celeste, a therapist
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podcast. My name is Celeste. I'm a therapist from Boston. If
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you've never been here before, thank you so much for giving me a try. What
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because what's gonna happen is the more you engage with this content the
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more your mind starts to Look for evidence to
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make it Real right in today's episode. We're talking about
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challenging limiting beliefs And I know for
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a fact so many people have them because of what I do for a living I
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talk to people every day And I can see the greatness
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in people and people Struggle with seeing that within themselves
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because that's their self-dialogue. That's how they have
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been operating and so no matter It
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doesn't matter that I see them. I'm working on helping them see
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themselves and changing that inner dialogue voice. Before
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we get started, I just have a couple of announcements. So
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May 3rd, I am having a mental health awareness
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month here at my wellness center. So I'm
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so excited about that. This is going
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to be a time where we can come together and
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we will be able to work on, we'll
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be able to work on different things that the
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Wellness Center is providing. So that is
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really exciting because Want people to learn
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how to heal and I feel like a lot of times people only
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know psychiatry or therapy So I want people to
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know like there's so many other ways that they can work on healing So
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May 3rd if you are in the Stoughton area Come
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through it's a free event and all you got to do is go to
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either event bright or go to my website stwit.com to
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sign up that is happening May 3rd and And these are some
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monthly events that I have at the center. So once
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a month, we have a mindful yin class.
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And then we also have a rest and restore class.
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And then the last Friday of every month, we have restorative yoga
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class. So these are somatic practices. One
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of the things that people don't recognize is that They store
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pain in their body, right? So people talk about
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oh, let's talk about it Let's talk to people but a lot of people aren't talking
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about how do I get rid of how? Stuck I
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feel right like I get that this is the case and I get I
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went through this I'm making those connections, but my body I'm still
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feeling stuck a lot of these somatic practices can
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help you start the process of getting
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unstuck So, those are things that are happening. If
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you go to my website, stwit.com, you
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can find the link to everything that's going on. So,
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make sure if you are in the Stoughton area, you check it out. If
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you have any questions, all you got to do is email us, info at stwit.com.
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That's info at stwit.com. All right,
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let's jump into the topic. Let's talk about limiting
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beliefs. Limiting beliefs will keep you limited,
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literally. And a lot of times people don't even recognize
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what their voice is saying, because why? We're constantly doing
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so many things. We're constantly distracted. We're
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on the go all the time. And then if we feel a little bit of uncomfortability, we
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find a way to mitigate that. That could be anywhere from
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drinking and smoking to getting more degrees or picking
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up over time, right? Anything to keep us distracted. We
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will find ourselves doing it so that we won't have
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to feel the pain. So let's jump into the
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first slide Again, if you're listening to me on the audio, you
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can find these episodes streaming on YouTube. I
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am a very visual person So being able to like
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watch things and read them is very helpful to me I know
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some people are audio people and they're good like that. I know I need the
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visual and So I'm going to talk about some common
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limiting beliefs that people have. And one of
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the ones that I hear a lot is I'm not good enough. And
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so if you are somebody that feels you're not good enough, you're
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probably avoiding taking on new challenges and opportunities because
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you feel you're going to fail and not meet expectations. You're
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probably leading things to perfectionism
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where you feel that only flawless performance is acceptable,
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which causes you stress and burnout. And when you feel like
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you've got to lead with perfectionism, a lot of times you stop. You
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procrastinate on a project because it has to be a certain way. And
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then the last thing is that it may also result in negative self-talk where
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you constantly criticize yourself or downplay your
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achievements, right? So if you find yourself
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saying you're not good enough, right? These are some of the ways
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that you're going to find yourself struggling around life. where
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if your mind is telling you you're not good enough, then when the
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opportunities come, you're not gonna go for it. You're not gonna say nothing. You're
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gonna find yourself feeling stuck, right, with negative self-talk. Another
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limiting belief that I hear people say is, I don't deserve success, right?
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A lot of times I see this a lot in the black community. We
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feel we don't deserve success We don't say it but our
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actions show it. We won't go for that promotion. We will like
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Minimize ourselves and our achievements a lot of
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times because we haven't seen it, right? so if you're somebody that you
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find yourself not feeling deserving of success or maybe you don't realize
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this is what you're thinking. You may sabotage your own efforts
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such as procrastinating on an important task or not fully committing
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to projects believing you don't deserve it. This belief
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can lead to feelings of guilt when experiencing success
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causing you to downplay your accomplishments or attribute
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them to luck rather than your own efforts. I see this a
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lot in the black community. You know, we live in a society, if you're in
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America, you live in a society that wasn't ever designed for you. And
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unfortunately, there are systems at play that
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will make you feel like you don't deserve it by the comments
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that they make, by the lack of acknowledgement about what
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you've done at that job, how you've allowed that job to excel.
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Right. I've been in that position, so I know what that feels
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like. that with people who have allowed
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companies to grow and have not getting the Acknowledgement
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that they deserved And so you may not realize consciously
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that you're finding yourself feeling like you don't deserve success
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But if these things make sense where you find yourself doing these
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things that's probably what's happening in your mindset without
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you realizing it's happening and I'll never
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be able to change. I hear this a lot from people, and
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I like to tell people we are people
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that are able to change our algorithm. We can change the
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way we're operating. Just because things were one way for
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a certain amount of time doesn't mean it has to stay that way. Right
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a lot of people don't realize that you could come from a long line of people that
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have struggled And you may be the person that's breaking that
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generational struggle And being the first person to break
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that generational struggle is so hard. Nobody talks about how
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hard that is to do Because you're doing it in
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a way where if you're living in a system and it's dysfunctional and you're
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trying to work on being functional, they'll make you feel like you're dysfunctional.
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What are you doing? Why are you going to school? Why are you doing what those white people are doing? Like
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making comments like those things. And it's not because
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They're trying to put you down, it's just they don't really get it, right? And
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so sometimes you have to understand that when you
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are the first person to do something in your family system, it'll
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be hard for people to accept as well, like seeing you grow.
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And so you also have a hard time seeing yourself grow as well without
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even realizing that that is happening. So if you're
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finding yourself feeling like you're never able to change you
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may resist trying new strategies or approaches believing that
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your habits Or personality traits are fixed and
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unchangeable. This is just how I am. Is it how you are? One of
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the things that people say to me is that they
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procrastinate, right? This is just how I am. I'm just a procrastinator. Are
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you a procrastinator? Were you born a procrastinator? Right? Unfortunately,
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we start to adapt to
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our dysfunction and make it part of who we are. When that's not who we
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are, that's who we adapted to, not realizing that that's what's
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happening. So this belief can lead to a sense of hopelessness
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where you feel stuck in your current situation And
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do not seek help or resources for improvement and you just stay where
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you are Right. It's it's a choice to want to change
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But change requires action change requires you
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to be uncomfortable There's no way to be comfortable
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if you're trying to change and there's no other way to put it You know
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what I mean? Like if your system has been living a certain way for so
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long, right? If your system has been living away for
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so long and you call yourself trying to change the system, of
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course your system is gonna be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa,
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Celeste, Celeste, like, what is we doing? Like,
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what are we doing? We don't go and go for this
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walk in the morning. We don't get up in the morning to try to start our
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day with us. Like, are you kidding me? There will be a
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lot of resistance There's a quote talks about the real battle happens
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in your mind because it's true the real battle is happening in your mind Because your
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system is like not knowing what's going on. And
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so if you can work on being uncomfortable in that transactionals in
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that um transitional state that you're in because
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you're gonna go through a transition where there's this like Do I want to do
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it? Do I not one foot in one foot out? You're fighting your
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system. Keep fighting Because what's gonna happen is
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your mind and body will have no other choice but to fall in line
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with the direction that you're taking it. I'll say that one more time. When
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you start working on creating change and doing the
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things that you know you're capable of deep down inside, that
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anxiety that you're feeling, that struggle that you're feeling, is because
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you are not living to your fullest potential. When you start living
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to your fullest potential, it's gonna feel very uncomfortable, but I
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promise you, your mind and your system and everything within
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you has no other choice but to fall in line with the direction that you're taking
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it. Right now, the direction you're taking it is just letting it flow anyway,
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you know? Imagine, you know, you've never been somewhere before, you
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need directions. Back in the day, there was a map
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quest. I used to print out, gosh, I'm old. I
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can't imagine having to do this now, but I used to print out
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freaking, um, the paper directions. I used to print out the directions and,
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um, to get where I need to go. I didn't just hope and pray
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I got there. You know what I'm saying? I had to print out the directions. Now, obviously we could
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pop the directions in our phone. It tells us where to go. When
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you're operating in life, I feel like most people are just hoping they
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get to where they need to be. Like, yeah, I wanna be successful. Where
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is it written at? You know what I'm trying to say? Like, what are you doing to be
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successful? Are you setting an alarm to write in your journal in
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the morning or when you get off work, right? Because everybody can't do a
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morning thing. Some people work overnights, right? So, you know, I
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never want you to give yourself an excuse. I know people be like, get up at six in the morning, wake
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up, blah, blah, blah, blah. That's not what I'm telling you because I know my audience is
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different. Everybody's I was a difference. Everybody's lifestyle is different All
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I'm asking you to do at what point are you making time to write
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down what you want to do? If you're not writing down what you
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want to do if you're not creating a plan and where you want to go Then you
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you're literally like the example I'm using hoping you get
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there get to your destination You
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know and it's gonna take a long time if you do it that way So
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working on being intentional, if you find yourself saying you can't change
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and this is just how you are, but then you're not, if you happy with how you
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are, I love that for you. But if you're telling me you can't change it, you don't
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like where you are, I need you to work on looking at things in a
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different way, right? Shifting the way you think. That's exactly why
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I call my practice shifting the way you think, because I recognize if
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we can just shift a little bit, just a little bit, then
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we'll start heading into the direction we need to head. Sometimes
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when it comes to limiting beliefs, you must please everyone how
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many people can attest that that's them, right? So you may
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find yourself over committing to task or responsibilities Often
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at the expense of your own needs and well-being leading to
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burn out, baby. I gotta take a whole pause right there
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Right? So many times that,
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you know, this, this Pete, this, I got to please everybody. You're
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doing that because it feels like, Oh, this is what I'm supposed to do. You've
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made your identity off of pleasing. Some
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of this stuff could have stemmed from childhood experiences where it's
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not like somebody said to you, hey, Celeste, you're supposed to please everybody. But
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based off of the way things were going, trying to make
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sure mom was okay, make sure dad was okay, or
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whoever was in your house, the responsibilities that were put
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on you, where you felt like a burden, you found yourself
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feeling like you had to please everybody. And guess what happens? You become
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a whole adult feeling the same exact way. Until
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you realize that, right, that you deserve the
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best and that you have to start saying no and putting up boundaries, you're
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gonna find yourself always in that state of mind. It's hard
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for you to work on the goals and do the things you need to do if you're
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constantly drained and burned out from trying to please everybody. This
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belief can result in difficulty saying no because you're too you
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feel too overwhelmed and stressed as you try to meet
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everyone's Expectations, right? So, you know if
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this is speaking to you, I really want you to think about this pause this
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video write it down This is part of my limiting beliefs
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me thinking that I have to please everybody says who
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says where? Right? Regardless of
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what religion you are a part of, I
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don't think there's a religion that says, don't worry about
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you, just worry about everybody else, burn yourself out. Right?
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Nowhere it says that. And the crazy thing is,
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is that if you find yourself trying to change that
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trajectory, and saying no or
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putting up boundaries, what's going to happen is your system
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will try to reject it. It's going to be like, Celeste, like, what do you do?
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You're supposed to say, yeah, I know you're not driving in that direction. I
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know you're tired. I know you got a meal prep for the next day.
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But saying no is gonna feel like I'm doing something wrong. So if
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I say yes, I'm gonna take you in a direction I'm not going it's
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gonna take me an hour out of the way. I'm going I'm
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gonna drive home feeling tired feeling so beat down
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I don't know prep for the next day my my my day starting off
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really hard because now I'm so tired because I got to
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bed late It's not
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bad to think about yourself. It's not bad because
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guess what? When me starting with myself first
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allows me to be a better partner, allows me to be a better mom, allows
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me to be a better therapist, it allows me to be a better boss. I'm
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able to navigate all of these things that I operate day
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to day because I'm starting my day with me. Did
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I grow up thinking that way? No. Was I taught that way? No.
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But I had to relearn it and best believe that
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I was able to relearn how to do that. Best
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decision I've made was choosing me. Was it
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hard as I was making that transition? Abso-freaking-lutely, it
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was very hard. It was very hard to make that transition.
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It felt like I was doing something wrong. And
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I want to tell you that's part of the process of change. We stop the process
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of change because nobody's telling us like, oh, well, hold on. Wait a
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minute now. Like nobody told me it wasn't going to feel good. People
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just say, oh, just say no. Oh, just put up boundaries. They forget
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to tell you about the part of how hard it feels like you're doing something wrong so
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you can feel like you're doing something wrong. But
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logically, you know, you're not doing anything wrong, right? And
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feeling like something's wrong and something being wrong are
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two different things. Try not to make your decisions based off of
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your feeling because you'll never do what needs to be done, right?
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Because if you're trying to change, yes, you're going to feel like you're doing something
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wrong. It's just part of the process. So
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let's identify limiting beliefs. Like how do we do that?
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Right. Because I just went over some common limiting beliefs that
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we have. And I want to help you identify and
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like, is this me? Is this something that I struggle with? In
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order to do that, it's important to think about self-reflection, so
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try journaling or meditation to uncover thought
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patterns. It doesn't have to be complicated. I
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have a guided journal called 365 Days
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of Intentional Living that I always forget to promote, but I do have
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one. And it's on my website and every
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day I ask a different question actually how you're feeling, right? I created that
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because when I would go online and talk to people and talk to them about ways
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to Work on understanding themselves, but I would talk about journaling people
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say I don't know how to journal So I have a journal there's
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a thousands and thousands of journals you can buy on Amazon You
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don't have to buy a journal to start this process. You can literally grab a
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notebook and a pen. You can literally go to the notes section of your phone. And
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you can ask yourself certain questions every day. You
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can just write and free flow. How am I feeling? What went well? Let
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me tell you the four questions I ask my kids at night, right?
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These are four questions we talk about in a group every
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single night. How am I feeling? What
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am I grateful for? What went well today? And what do
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I need to do to prepare for tomorrow? Right? You
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can just start with those four questions. When the feeling piece, grab
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a feelings chart and actually point to the feeling to identify
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the actual feeling that you're feeling. Right the
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reason why if you want to work on identifying some of these limiting beliefs
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you got to start with taking a pause and reflecting on what's going on
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and meditation start with two minutes of just pausing
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If your next statement to me is Celeste, but when I pause I
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have all these thoughts i'm gonna say well Hey, guess what? The thoughts
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are there whether you're gonna pause or not. So why not pause? and
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pay attention to what's going on. Imagine just allowing people to
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throw trash on you every freaking day. And
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so, like, throw trash in your room every day, every day, and
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you're not pausing. You're just walking around the trash. You don't realize,
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like, the room starts smelling. You don't even realize it's smelling because you're getting
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used to the smell. You're getting used to people throwing trash all over you
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in your room, in your space. You would never allow that to
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happen. Somebody just come walking through your door, open up your freaking
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door, and just throw trash in there. Literally,
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when it comes to your mind and the thoughts that you have, we're
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surrounded by trash, with people that doubt us, stuff
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on social media, the freaking news, the freaking news, the
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freaking news. So many hard things are happening. Experiences
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from the past so let me just make it clear on
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what's happening if you're gonna choose not to take a pause Meditate journal
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check in with yourself about how you feeling if you're gonna choose not to do that.
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Let me be clear on what's happening You're saying hey everybody. It's
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okay to throw trash on me. Hey, I'm here. Yep. Open my
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door throw trash in here That's what you're saying So
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we can't help the trash that we're exposed to
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especially if we're in freaking America and We
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can't help the trash, but what we can do is
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work on disposing it, right? When I was gonna start
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a podcast, oh, you really think you could start a podcast? Everybody
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has a podcast. That was in 2018. What we in? We in 2025. And
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if I let somebody say, and don't get me wrong, when the
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person said that my stomach turned a little bit, I was like, dang, can I do this? Absolutely,
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you can, right? When I was opening my private practice
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in 2016, really think you can open, that's overhead,
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that's money, that's, I can do that, mm-hmm, I can
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do that. The person that was talking wasn't an entrepreneur. The
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person that was talking wasn't going in the same direction I was going, right?
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So you gotta understand, some of the people that you're talking to about your
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goals and your vision, they're not going in the same direction that they're going.
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They have limiting beliefs of themselves, right? So why not
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make your goals and the things that you wanna do clear for yourself? So
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be mindful on how you're framing things because I
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promise you, you're listening. And so when you're working on trying
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to identify the ways in which you're holding yourself back,
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self-reflection is a great thing to do. Another
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way you can do to work on understanding yourself is just asking yourself
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questions. What do I believe about myself? What is holding me back? Challenge
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yourself. I've gotten as far as I've gotten because I asked
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myself questions. Pay it when I'm feeling a
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certain thing when my stomach's turning like just because I have this information
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and I'm talking about it and teaching it on the podcast and
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in life when I'm speaking just Because I have this knowledge doesn't
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mean I don't struggle with the same struggles that you have the struggles
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are there I'm asking myself the questions. I'm just not allowing
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the fear to stop me. I'm not letting these these
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limiting beliefs to stop me from going back and So
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asking yourself questions will help you understand yourself better Feedback
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from others others. I know I just said don't be telling everybody
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But some people have some good people in their lives mentors maybe
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Obviously therapists right if you have a good therapist, um, you may
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have a good friend, right? I have a couple of really close friends that
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will tell me how it is, right? So there's value in
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seeking feedback from trusted friends and mentors. It
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can't just be anybody People that you trust that will like
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that know you well that want the best for you That
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want to see you win, right everybody That's around us
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isn't bad, right? But then I know some people may not
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have a lot of great people in their life So if that's the case x
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that out, right? You can find that community online, right?
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You can look for a community online if you don't have somebody in person.
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And if you can't find it online, if you say, like, start with the book, start
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with the podcast. If you listen to this podcast, this is a great tool
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to help you work on challenging the limiting beliefs that you
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have about yourself. Now let's
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talk about the challenging, right? How can I
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challenge my limiting beliefs? This is the last part where we just talked about
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some of the limiting beliefs that we have, right? When
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then next thing we talked about is how do I identify those limiting beliefs?
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And now I just want to go into how do I challenge the limiting beliefs
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that I have? So there's this thing called cognitive restructuring.
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I do this very well in my session. So basically replacing negative thoughts
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with positive affirmations. Right. My
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my it's so funny because my clients are like, yeah, you know, well,
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when they first start working with me, they'll be like, yeah, you know, I don't know if I
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can do that. Oh, yeah. You can't. I said,
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what makes you think you can't? Like, I literally check them on the spot. And
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so I said when they first start working with me, because if they, you know, long term,
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they may start it. They'd be like, I already know what you're going to say, Celeste, because, you know,
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I feel like I'm the I'm the negative belief slayer. Call
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me the negative belief slayer because I'm slaying it like pow. So
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cognitive restructuring, so basically, dang,
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can I really do this, right? So basically, if you're not processing what's
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going on, your mind is like, dang, can I really do this? If
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I don't stop and tell my mind, yes, I can do this, my
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mind's just gonna keep trying to, can I really do this? Can I really do this? So that
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thing I wanna start, the vision I have, it's never gonna start. because
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i'm not challenging it absolutely i can do this like that's
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the like you got to be real like gully with yourself like yeah
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i could do this like you know give the negative thoughts a name you
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know what i'm saying like let's just give it karen You
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know what I'm saying? Karen comes in your head, like, can you really do this? Yes,
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I can do this, Karen. You know what I'm saying? Like, you
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know, just do it. You gotta start, like, speaking over that
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thought. It's a thought. It doesn't have power, but
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then you give it power when you don't allow yourself to challenge
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it. That's how it gets the power. All right, the next way we're
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gonna challenge limiting beliefs is evidence gathering. So we're gonna collect
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evidence that contradicts my limiting beliefs. So
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let's just stick with, can I really do this? Yes, I
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can. Now I start to look for ways in which I've been able
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to accomplish things, right? Oh yeah, I was able to finish school.
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Oh yeah, I did this play or I learned this. Oh,
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I'm really good at learning new things. Whatever it
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is that you're trying to do, work on collecting evidence. and
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reminding yourself that you have what you need. And worst
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case scenario, if what is it that you're trying to do doesn't work out,
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I can go back to the drawing board. The thing that I started with,
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the vision I originally had, it didn't go
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that way. But I would have never known.
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So originally, I wanted to work with parents who had kids with autism
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because I had just adopted my five-year-old cousin.
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He's almost 21 now. I
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just adopted him and I struggled. I was so young and
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I didn't have any friends with kids or people
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I knew who had children with autism. So I was like, oh, I want to work with autism,
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parents of kids with autism. And, you know,
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as I began to work with him, he got better. I didn't have the same behavioral
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issues. And then I started to feel like, oh, I want to do something. So I
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started this Uniting Autism, right? I started this thing.
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And then after that, I said,
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you know, I want to work with other people, you know? So then I started the
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Uniting Center, right? It was like, oh, I want people to come
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together and unite, right? And then from the
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unite in a way of like different ways of healing, you know
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I didn't know what that was gonna look like then from there I started the podcast
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had the books and One of the things I always talked
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about is like it's important to shift the way you think and then started
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I got an LLC in 2022 called shifting the way
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you think and And on my paperwork it says teaching
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classes and doing X, Y, and Z. I honestly had
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no idea two years later in 2024 I was going to open up my
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wellness center. No idea. But what happened is
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I kept putting one foot in front of the other. And
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so if I didn't start to Start
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the process, right? So it's like if I say can you really do this? Yes,
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I can I've been able to do XY DC and I start the process
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the worst thing that can happen is it doesn't work out and if that doesn't work out Let
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me go back to the drawing board The problem is when something doesn't go
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work out if we hit a speed bump We feel like life is
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over life isn't over if you're still breathing is freaking room for change that
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life isn't over Like you can keep going And
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so you got to gather evidence that you got this and the last thing I
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want to say about challenging your limiting beliefs is visualization techniques
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so the power of visualizing success and the steps needed
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to achieve it there's so much power and Visualizing
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where you're headed in order for that vision to come in
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gotta write it down If your vision isn't written anywhere and
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not just in the corner where there's dust and you haven't even opened it up
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again I'm talking about written where you're seeing it every day. It's
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on your mirror. It's on your phone Right if you're it's in
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your calendar every wednesday morning i'm gonna blah blah
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blah whatever it is If you don't have no system in place for
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your vision then tell me do you really want to change? Do you really want
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to go to different levels? This isn't just professionally i'm talking about
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literally too I literally wanted to drink more water. I
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had a sticky note on my computer So when I opened this up that I was on
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this computer every day every time I opened it up It says don't forget
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to drink water Wanted to curb the way I was eating
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I can eat emotionally when I'm struggling give me a cheeseburger Give
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me a chocolate cake if you've been in this podcast before you know you girl
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be like give me the cheeseburger Give me the chocolate cake and I said
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Celeste. Are you really hungry? Well Do you want broccoli?
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That was my screensaver for six months Now it's
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worked. So well, i'd be like checking myself like oh, do you really want that
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because i've seen that for so long There's water all the
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time by me. Look if you're watching me on youtube Your
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girl got water. I don't play when it comes to water. Why because I started a
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system So when I talk about writing it down to make it play
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i'm talking about the simplest goals when you start accomplishing the
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simplest goals Like making up your bed in the morning getting up
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on time Preparing your clothes the night before so you're not
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rushing in the morning when you start working on the simplest goals
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you start telling your mind that you are so capable of change and
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The more that you can get your mind in check and on board for
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the change that you're trying to create man Anyways,
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I hope that was helpful y'all I hope that makes sense Remember,
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we just discussed the limiting beliefs, identifying it,
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changing the limiting beliefs. If this episode
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spoke to you, do me a favor, send it to somebody that you love, right?
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You never know how much a podcast, the
30:29
things that people hear, how it can change them. So go ahead
30:32
and send it to somebody like, hey, I heard this podcast, you know, my girl Celeste
30:35
should be on it, you know what I'm saying? Send it to somebody that you love. Definitely
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hit me up, I'm on all social media platforms. Celeste the therapist
30:43
is my personal social media that I'm on I try to
30:47
share I haven't been sharing as much in my stories lately because I've
30:50
been so busy And then stwy T
30:54
is my business what business
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Instagram and Facebook you could find me there and And
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if you're not already following me on YouTube, you can find me on YouTube. I
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like the podcast I listen to I come quick like give me the visual. Let
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me find you Yo, we're podcasting on YouTube. I love
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watching it on YouTube. It's like my little show that I watch at night I
31:15
like my track my react not reality shows. I haven't watched reality shows
31:19
in a long time, but I The bloggers that talk about different things that
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are happening I'm big to watch those at
31:26
night and and then in the mornings, I like to watch my little motivational videos
31:31
Not mines, but other people's I like to watch motivational
31:35
videos So, you know if anything I ever say resonates
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for you I always tell people understand you have the power to make the change but
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guess what you got to start to have faith to believe in yourself if
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you have faith and if you start believing in yourself and No
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one can ever take that away from you. I don't ever want you to forget that when you
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start having faith, when you start believing in yourself, I
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promise you, no one can ever take that away from you. So until