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Vocal De Frag Episode 214 Facing Your Daily Gut Feeling · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: One of my favorite podcasts on Arrow.net, A-R-R-O-E.net, is Foodie Paradise.
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  Speaker 1: It gives me the opportunity to share and break bread
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  Speaker 1: your exploration. Hey, it's Arrow, and this is Vocal Defrag.
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  Speaker 1: Vocal Defragging is taking the time to ask yourself the
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  Speaker 1: questions that and then questioning the answer. So many times
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  Speaker 1: we get locked into these circles of people and we
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  Speaker 1: just start letting the questions fly and we're letting their
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  Speaker 1: answers be our guide. I don't know if that's the
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  Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be because the journey going forward
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  Speaker 1: should actually have you participating with it. If we were
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  Speaker 1: designed by other people, then why aren't other people sticking
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  Speaker 1: with us a lot longer than five or 10 minutes?
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  Speaker 2: Do you know what I mean? How many of those
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  Speaker 2: people have actually worked together a long period of time?
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  Speaker 2: It's usually in one door and right out the other.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like, well, for a brief moment, I thought
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  Speaker 2: we had a team here. So you've got to ask
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  Speaker 2: yourself the questions and question the answers. I keep a
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  Speaker 2: handwritten defrag journal, and I also do the vocal defrag
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  Speaker 2: journal because this is where pitch, volume, and tone live.
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  Speaker 2: Whatever my emotions are, I can't hide this. But when
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  Speaker 2: I'm holding that writing instrument, you can get any interpretation
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  Speaker 2: you want. This is vocal defragging. I'm out here in
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  Speaker 2: the forest. I have been clouded for the past four
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  Speaker 2: days on a question that has been inside my heart,
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  Speaker 2: and it all deals with this thing called a gut feeling,
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  Speaker 2: a gut feeling. My mom used to say that girls
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  Speaker 2: have intuitions, guys have gut feelings, and being a part
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  Speaker 2: of the radio industry... for four decades, you are given
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  Speaker 2: a lot of gut feelings. It doesn't mean that you're
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  Speaker 2: always right, but when the people around you are no
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  Speaker 2: longer talking with you, including you, or doing things that
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  Speaker 2: really kind of bring yourself to the forefront of the
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  Speaker 2: business success, you start getting the gut feeling. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: that gut feeling can come from almost anywhere. It can
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  Speaker 2: be these stupid-ass write-ups that these business leaders are doing. Oh, man,
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  Speaker 2: your foot, it made like a farting sound when you
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  Speaker 2: put your foot in that tennis shoe. We're going to
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  Speaker 2: have to write you up for that. You see what
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  Speaker 2: I mean? It's very stupid reasons why these different managers
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  Speaker 2: are writing up their employees. It's almost like they're setting
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  Speaker 2: up their employees up for an easy termination because this
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  Speaker 2: way they've got a paper trail of what that's the
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  Speaker 2: thing about it of what and you want to challenge
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  Speaker 2: it and when you do what do they do well
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna have to write you up again because this
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  Speaker 2: is like resisting an officer's arrest we have given you
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  Speaker 2: this accusation we've looked into it you're wrong so therefore
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  Speaker 2: we're gonna write you up and you end up going
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  Speaker 2: i'm just gonna shut up is what i'm going to
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  Speaker 2: do And then you get written up again because you're
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  Speaker 2: not having conversations with people. It's so funny. I work
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  Speaker 2: for a company now and it's out of choice. It's
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  Speaker 2: only because I like being with people. What I don't
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  Speaker 2: like being with are false gods when it comes to
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  Speaker 2: decision makers. But anyway, one of the things that they
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  Speaker 2: actually told me to do, they said, stop talking to people.
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  Speaker 2: I looked down and I said, what? Stop talking to people.
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  Speaker 2: I said, that's part of what we do. That's, you know,
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  Speaker 2: I watch the movies. I take the tests. I do
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  Speaker 2: everything that this company is trying to promote forward in
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  Speaker 2: building and engaging their guests to have a stronger relationship
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  Speaker 2: so they can come back a different day. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 2: you're talking too much. What? You're talking too much. So
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  Speaker 2: what happens is, is that when they feel you're talking
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  Speaker 2: too much, that means they're losing business. And do you
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  Speaker 2: understand where I'm going with this? I mean, I totally
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  Speaker 2: understand where they're coming from. But in building that engagement
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  Speaker 2: with that passerby, if you don't start the conversation, if
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  Speaker 2: you don't bring things up, then you're going to get
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  Speaker 2: written up because you're not talking enough with those that
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  Speaker 2: are your guests or potential clients, those who are going
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  Speaker 2: to spend their money. Just shut up, as they say.
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  Speaker 2: Just shut up. You're talking too much. So what do
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  Speaker 2: you do in a situation like that when all of
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  Speaker 2: a sudden, It seems like every week or every other week,
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  Speaker 2: they're writing you up. You get the gut feeling. The
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  Speaker 2: gut feeling that, oh, you're up to something. You can't
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  Speaker 2: wrongfully fire anybody, but you're up to something. We're going
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  Speaker 2: to create a paper trail and say, you know, in
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  Speaker 2: doing some investigating, we notice a pattern here. It's all
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  Speaker 2: documented and you signed it, so it must be true.
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  Speaker 2: You see what I mean? You can run that to
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  Speaker 2: any one of your friends at any given time, and
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  Speaker 2: they're all going to give you a different answer and reply.
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  Speaker 2: And boy, I have seen that over the past four days,
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  Speaker 2: is that I just sit there and I present the situation. Boom, boom, boom, ABC,
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  Speaker 2: and then their opinions come. In fact... I was with
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  Speaker 2: a radio guy today that I've known for 40 years.
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  Speaker 2: And he goes, but dude, you know what it's all about.
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  Speaker 2: He says, the moment that something does come to an
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  Speaker 2: end because your gut feeling gave you the actuality. And
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  Speaker 2: this time it wasn't just something that just came from
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  Speaker 2: out of nowhere because you have a little bit of fear, doubt,
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  Speaker 2: and shame, but this thing paid out. Well, what happens is,
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  Speaker 2: is it's now giving you space to grow, to breathe,
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  Speaker 2: to put yourself in a position of new decision-making and
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  Speaker 2: and new exploration and not having to live up to
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  Speaker 2: those monsters that are sitting there writing you up. Oh,
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  Speaker 2: by the way, you have a nose hair on your
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  Speaker 2: right hand side. I've been looking at that thing for
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  Speaker 2: about four days now. We're going to write you up. Really? Oh,
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  Speaker 2: I can't pull it? No, no, we're going to have
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  Speaker 2: to write you up. Do you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 2: I can't be the only one that goes through this
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  Speaker 2: where they write you up for any damn reason. So
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  Speaker 2: what do you get? the gut feeling. And then you
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  Speaker 2: want to write a story that hasn't even happened. So
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  Speaker 2: after three days off, I'm headed into this place of
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  Speaker 2: business with the idea, and God dang it, I don't
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  Speaker 2: want to write a story before it happens. But I
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  Speaker 2: have listened to everybody else's stories, which didn't I say
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  Speaker 2: that in the very beginning? Don't step into a circle
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  Speaker 2: with your dirty feet, expecting their answers to keep your
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  Speaker 2: toes clean. If you know what I mean, you've got
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  Speaker 2: to ask yourself the questions and then question your answers.
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  Speaker 2: It is in my daily writing. It is in my
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  Speaker 2: defrag journal. But the one stipulation that I wanted more
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  Speaker 2: than anything, and this is my true lesson to you,
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  Speaker 2: is don't go into this daily writing or even a
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  Speaker 2: vocal defrag like this and bury yourself with your assumption,
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  Speaker 2: your gut feeling, your intuition. If it happens, it happens.
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  Speaker 2: This is America. This is the way America does business.
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  Speaker 2: They hire to fire. You do not have a name.
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  Speaker 2: You've got a number. Be stronger. Be you. Believe in you.
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  Speaker 2: And you know what? It's their freaking loss if you're
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  Speaker 2: no longer there. It is. So I don't care if
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  Speaker 2: you're the worst employee on the planet. If you ain't there,
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  Speaker 2: it's the business's loss, not yours. Because they made the
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  Speaker 2: decision to hire you in the first place. As far
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  Speaker 2: as I'm concerned, they failed you. I'm Arrow, and that's
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  Speaker 2: Vocal Deep Break.