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March 13, 2019 | Men Of Success - Winter 2019: The Greatest Salesman In The World - Session 8 · Topeka Bible Church Audio Archive

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, thanks for coming out, guys.
• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: We knew we'd be down about a third.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, Ken.
• 0:06
  SPEAKER_00: So good to see you.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're in a book called The Greatest Salesman in the World.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: By the way, you may have noticed we have, let me see, what is it here?
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: March 27th is when we end, so we got two more weeks after this one.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: And one week will be to finish Ogmandino next week.
• 0:21
  SPEAKER_00: And I think maybe the final week we'll uh we'll let you see Greg uh Greg Brendeman on um video.
• 0:29
  SPEAKER_00: So again, this is a story about Hafid, right?
• 0:32
  SPEAKER_00: Poor camel boy rises to success.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: It starts with him giving away his red robe in a cave to a couple, having a baby.
• 0:42
  SPEAKER_00: The couple uh it's cold.
• 0:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so all of a sudden, his boss gives him ten scrolls that have timeless success principles.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_00: And the first three that we looked at last week, I will form good habits and become their slave.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: I'll agree to each day with love in my heart.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: I'll persist until I succeed.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: Scroll number four is kind of interesting, Rodney.
• 1:09
  SPEAKER_00: We were talking about this yesterday.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_00: You want to kick this off and we can talk about this?
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so we were talking about this yesterday at lunch, and we were we were sitting there laughing at the title of it because it says, I'm I'm nature's greatest miracle.
• 1:23
  SPEAKER_01: Uh and to both of us, it was just kind of a cheesy, cheesy, cheesy title.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_01: Cheesy title.
• 1:30
  SPEAKER_01: And uh, but as you as you read it, if you read the book, it's I think it's a word um that we need to consider more often than we don't consider it.
• 1:42
  SPEAKER_01: Uh because I don't know if if you view the the world the same way I do, but when I look at the world, I I feel like there's there's an attack on men.
• 1:51
  SPEAKER_01: Um and there's because you when you look at the world, and you look at um how culture portrays men in TV shows or in movies, I think it's either one of two things.
• 2:02
  SPEAKER_01: It's a man is either a complete doofus, out of check with life, uh, can't relate to his wife, can't relate to his kids, he just kind of gets laughed at.
• 2:12
  SPEAKER_01: Or on the other side, uh he gets portrayed as a man who uh is all about his business, he's in an illicit relationship, he's running an illicit business, um, and he's he's not being faithful.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_01: And the only way only places you can see a model of a any sort of model of a man is you gotta go to the Marvik comics to see Superman, Captain America.
• 2:35
  SPEAKER_01: Like there's just maybe maybe you guys don't watch the same movies and watch this see the same TV shows as I do, but the ones that I see, that's all I see.
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_01: And there's this attack on us, and the attack uh that we're worthless, that we're good for nothing.
• 2:51
  SPEAKER_01: The only time that we are good for something is if we make a lot of money or we're some professional athlete.
• 2:56
  SPEAKER_01: I think sadly, what most men do is they take this morsel that culture gives us.
• 3:02
  SPEAKER_01: They take it, they ingest it, and once they digest it, what it produces is just paralysis.
• 3:10
  SPEAKER_01: We're so caught up in comparing ourselves to what we see on TV and what we see in our culture, that when we compare ourselves, we don't we don't really realize uh that we are one of nature's greatest miracles.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_01: Um and he he starts off the book by saying, I am nature's greatest miracle, that none who came before me, none who live today, and none who live tomorrow can walk like me, can talk like me, can think like me, can move like me.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_01: Um and he says, Um, because I am so different, I'm gonna capitalize on my differences.
• 3:46
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's this is the this is the amazing point.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_01: So he says, I'm gonna capitalize.
• 3:51
  SPEAKER_01: I actually not only gonna capitalize, I'm gonna promote my differences.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 3:55
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, and I'm gonna I'm gonna accent them.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_01: And then he goes into this next slide, he says, uh, these vain attempts to imitate others no longer will I make.
• 4:05
  SPEAKER_01: Instead, I'll place my uniqueness on display in the market, in the marketplace.
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  SPEAKER_01: I will proclaim it.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I will even sell it.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: I'll begin now to accent my differences and hide my similarities.
• 4:17
  SPEAKER_01: Um then he kind of goes, and I I just want to uh paraphrase some of these quotes that he gives throughout this section.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_01: He says, My skills, my mind, my heart, my body will rot, stagnate, and die unless I put them to good use.
• 4:34
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm here for a purpose, and that purpose is, this is kind of cheesy, but he says, I'm my purpose is to grow into a great mountain, not to shrink back into a grain of sand.
• 4:44
  SPEAKER_01: That why should the the the miracle that birth, why why should the miracle that began at my birth end at my birth?
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_01: There's ways that I've been created, there's ways that um that the Lord has created me that I'm gonna capitalize on.
• 5:01
  SPEAKER_01: And so then he asks, and then he goes into this, he says, so applying this, this this nature's greatest miracle, I'm gonna apply this principle to the goods I sell, that the sale, the salesman and the goods differ from all others, and I'm proud of the difference.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_01: I'm a miracle, I have unlimited potential, and I won't be defeated.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_01: So, what what then are you gonna do with that?
• 5:21
  SPEAKER_01: What are you gonna do with that that truth?
• 5:23
  SPEAKER_01: And he says, I'm gonna practice, I'm gonna improve, I'm gonna polish the words that I used to sell.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_01: We take it into our lives, we're gonna practice, we're gonna improve, we're gonna uh polish those skills that we've been given uh in order to make a difference in this world.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna and then he says, I'm gonna seek constantly to improve my my manner and my graces, for I know that's the sugar for which all are attracted to.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_01: Um I just think it's it's it's it's something for us to consider every single day.
• 5:54
  SPEAKER_01: In that first scroll, he says, you know, you're supposed to read these things every day.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_01: And I just think if we were to read something like this every day that that reminded of us of our uniqueness, um I think that would change, that would uh change the way that we relate to this world, to the people around us.
• 6:15
  SPEAKER_01: Um I would hope that we would be more involved, we would get more involved.
• 6:20
  SPEAKER_01: As I read the Bible, I see different passages of 1 Corinthians 12 where the you know this idea of comparison where the body where the hand says, Well, because I'm not an I, I'm not, I'm just not gonna be a part of the body anymore.
• 6:33
  SPEAKER_01: And I think that's a great danger for us if we don't realize, hey, I am a miracle.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I I think it was maybe last semester when Derek and I, I think Derek and I got into a similar topic, and I'm I I'm pretty sure I told you guys that a turning point in my early ministry was that, you know, I I was copying other people's sermons.
• 6:51
  SPEAKER_00: I was calling my hero down at Dallas Seminar and asking if I could memorize sermons of his and preach them.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_00: And he came up uh to speak here, and and and he was a great preacher.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, he's called one of the top ten preachers in America, but I asked him advice as I was driving him back to the airport from he did a banquet for me in Spoken Church.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: This is the second time I'd had him up here, and I was in my you know, twenty mid-twenties, asking him if he could give me one piece of advice, and he uh and he did.
• 7:21
  SPEAKER_00: He said, Stop, stop trying to be somebody else.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: And I said, Yeah, but I'm weird.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_00: You know, I mean I I've always, you know, I I I didn't realize all of us feel like we're really different and you know, not normal, you know, don't really measure up unless maybe we're superstars, unless we're a Hollywood star.
• 7:40
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, I mean, I'd gone through school and I was all I was never good enough, I was never quite good enough to make the basketball team or whatever else.
• 7:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I thought I was smart in high school, and then I go to college and I find out I'm a doofish like everybody else.
• 7:55
  SPEAKER_00: So he um he said, just stop it.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_00: You're calling me, you're asking me if I can preach my messages, and I've always said yes.
• 8:03
  SPEAKER_00: You gotta, you know, the Lord wants to use you.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: You need to just be yours be yourself.
• 8:08
  SPEAKER_00: I don't think he said that because that's really cheesy.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_00: But you know, and I he said, you know, if if you fail being yourself, that'd be a lot better than succeeding being somebody else.
• 8:18
  SPEAKER_00: And and it was a real turning point in my life.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know about you guys, but I I feel like I've I've uh I've lived most of my life not wanting to rock the boat, just kind of be like everybody else.
• 8:30
  SPEAKER_01: Um and I think you if you do that, people miss out.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_01: They miss out on because you bring something valuable to the table that nobody else can bring.
• 8:45
  SPEAKER_01: So as you go today, just try to be somebody else, just be who you are and develop who you are.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_00: So here's second one.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: This is pretty straightforward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I'll live each day as if it were my last, and you know, the downside of that is if it really were your last, you wouldn't go on into work today.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_00: But so, but what he's saying by that is you know, if this was your last day, you would make it your greatest monument.
• 9:09
  SPEAKER_00: This day I'll make the great best day of my life.
• 9:11
  SPEAKER_00: This day I'll drink every minute to its full.
• 9:13
  SPEAKER_00: I'll savor its taste, I'll give thanks, I'll make every hour count.
• 9:18
  SPEAKER_00: Each minute I'll only trade for something of value.
• 9:21
  SPEAKER_00: My last must be my best.
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: I'll live this day as if it's my last, and if it's not, I'll fall to my knees and give thanks.
• 9:28
  SPEAKER_00: And I know that some of you like I do, you know, uh breathe a prayer in the morning, at least for me, you know, on my way to work, thanks for giving me another day, you know, Lord, to serve you or to do, you know, help me not to waste it.
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_00: And the fact is, if you knew this was your last day, you know, you you wouldn't, you wouldn't uh you know, you wouldn't throw an hour of it away.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: You just wouldn't.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: You know, playing video games or something.
• 9:53
  SPEAKER_00: You just wouldn't.
• 9:54
  SPEAKER_00: So um I don't know if there's much more to say to that, but it's just making a day as good as you can make it, and making every day as good as you can make it, and making every day the kind of a day where you have nothing to go to bed and feel bad about or to apologize for.
• 10:10
  SPEAKER_01: One thing that he says in this chapter, he he says, Um, today is my last day to prove my love.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_01: Um, and that that was convicting for me because if I were to if yesterday was my last day to prove my love to my kids and to my wife and to my immediate family, I I think I would have failed at it.
• 10:33
  SPEAKER_01: Um just this idea that you know, it's true, any any one of our days could be our last.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_01: Um I think it's a sober in reality that there are those who woke up yesterday who are not going to wake up today.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_01: And that that for me is powerful.
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_01: Because I'm I'm at that age where it's not uncommon for people my age to one day go into the doctor and they say you got four months to live.
• 11:06
  SPEAKER_00: Where do you get my age?
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: Week, two weeks.
• 11:10
  SPEAKER_00: You don't even have to be sick of something.
• 11:15
  SPEAKER_01: Um it's a very sobering reality when you think about just the the brevity of life.
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_01: We were we were watching we were watching the voice, me and my wife the other day.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_01: We're getting caught up on this new season.
• 11:31
  SPEAKER_01: And at the end of one of the um the shows, it said, in memory of this girl.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_01: And my wife goes, You remember her?
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_01: I don't remember who that is.
• 11:40
  SPEAKER_01: And so she pulls this lady up on her phone, and uh, I look at her age, she was 33 years old.
• 11:50
  SPEAKER_01: I was like, that's that's right around the corner for me.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_01: Like, that could be me in a couple years.
• 11:58
  SPEAKER_01: And and it was just it was kind of a uh eye-opening for me.
• 12:03
  SPEAKER_01: And I think about the verse in Ecclesiastes where it talks about better it is for us to go to a house of mourning than a house of laughter.
• 12:13
  SPEAKER_01: Because I think you learn something when you go to a house of mourning that um that you don't get when you're constantly around happiness.
• 12:21
  SPEAKER_01: You you just start to you start to think differently if you go to a funeral every day rather than a wedding or rather than a bird.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_00: So the next one's number six.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: It's the last one we'll do today, and we'll take the final four next week.
• 12:35
  SPEAKER_00: This is really, really, really good.
• 12:37
  SPEAKER_00: I will be master of my emotions.
• 12:41
  SPEAKER_01: So he starts out this chapter by saying, All nature is a circle.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_01: Since the sun rises and the sun sets, the moon is full and the moon is blackened, the flowers bloom and the flowers fade.
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_01: He said, and I'm a I'm a product of nature.
• 12:56
  SPEAKER_01: So by nature, just like the tides, my moods are gonna rise and my moods are gonna fall.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_01: Um and uh then he goes, he says, each day I awaken with moods that have changed since yesterday.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_01: How will I master my emotions so that each day will be productive?
• 13:18
  SPEAKER_01: For unless my mood is right, the day will be a failure.
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_01: Uh and then he gets into this this analogy of like trees and plants uh need the weather to flourish.
• 13:30
  SPEAKER_01: He says, I'm the one that creates the weather of my life and I transport it wherever I go.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_01: That if I bring rain and gloom to my customers, they're gonna react with me the same way.
• 13:41
  SPEAKER_01: But if I bring uh a smile and great joy and enthusiasm, and I greet my customers that same way, uh, then my relationships with them will flourish.
• 13:54
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, my relationship, my my sales will flourish because that's the weather that I'm bringing with me today.
• 13:59
  SPEAKER_00: Everybody since Mandino, including Stephen Covey, has stolen that idea that you bring the weather of your own life.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 14:06
  SPEAKER_01: Um and I and I think it's true.
• 14:09
  SPEAKER_01: You you we all know people who's like you see them coming and you just go, I act like I gotta do something else because I just don't want to interact with this person at this moment.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_01: All they do is bring rain and gloom.
• 14:20
  SPEAKER_01: Uh and so he gets in there, he says, This is what I'm gonna do.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_01: This is how I'm gonna be productive.
• 14:25
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna learn this secret.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna learn the secret of the ages that weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_01: The strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.
• 14:38
  SPEAKER_01: Um makes me think about Bill Snyder uh winter conditioning and spring practice.
• 14:46
  SPEAKER_01: He did not care what we thought about how we felt about winter conditioning.
• 14:50
  SPEAKER_01: He made us do it.
• 14:51
  SPEAKER_01: He forced our actions to control our thoughts.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_01: Um and it and it changed the way that we played football.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_01: Um and then he gets into uh he says each day when I awaken, I'll fall this plan of battle that when I'm captured by the forces of sadness, self-pity, and failure, he says, if I feel depressed, I'll sing.
• 15:11
  SPEAKER_01: If I feel sad, I'll laugh.
• 15:12
  SPEAKER_01: If I feel fear, I will plunge ahead.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_01: If I feel incompetent, I'll remember past successes.
• 15:18
  SPEAKER_01: If I feel insignificant, I'll remember my goals.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_01: Today I will be the master of my emotions.
• 15:23
  SPEAKER_01: And then he flips it.
• 15:25
  SPEAKER_01: Um and he gets into, he says, he says, today might be a day where I constantly struggle against forces that might, that might destroy me, that would have it out to destroy me.
• 15:39
  SPEAKER_01: He says, he says, it's despair and sadness, like those are easy.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_01: I can spot those.
• 15:44
  SPEAKER_01: He says, but there are others who greet me with a smile and with a hand of friendship that they too can also destroy me.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_01: And I don't know if you didn't put these on here.
• 15:55
  SPEAKER_01: But he says, these two can destroy me, and I have to be mindful of these.
• 15:59
  SPEAKER_01: And then he goes into it.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_01: He says, if I ever feel overconfident, I'm gonna recall my past failures.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_01: If I ever feel this urge to overindul, overindulge, I'll remember past hungers.
• 16:12
  SPEAKER_01: If I ever get complacent in my life, I'm gonna remember my competition.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_01: If I ever remember moments of greatness, I'm gonna remember my moments of shame.
• 16:23
  SPEAKER_01: Uh if I ever feel all powerful, I'm gonna step outside and I'm gonna try to grab the win to remind me that I'm not.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_01: And if I ever feel like I have great wealth, I'm gonna remember that there is at least one unfed mouth that I can't feed.
• 16:38
  SPEAKER_01: Uh and then he says, what else am I gonna do?
• 16:40
  SPEAKER_01: He says, uh, I'm gonna understand and I'm gonna recognize the moods of him and who I call on in the marketplace.
• 16:47
  SPEAKER_01: Uh that I'm gonna make allowances for him uh if I'm met with rage and irritation, because he doesn't know the secret of controlling his mind.
• 16:58
  SPEAKER_01: He doesn't remember, he doesn't know how to control his emotions.
• 17:01
  SPEAKER_01: Um and then he says, when I when I when I master my emotions, he says, then I'll control my destiny.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_01: Cheesy line in the chapter, but I I think it's true when we can when we can subjugate our emotions and our actions or our reactions uh to what is true, what we know to be true, uh the principles that we've learned, the wisdom that we know.
• 17:26
  SPEAKER_01: Um we all know the verse that uh in Proverbs where it talks about um he who answers softly.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_01: Um I can't remember the last part of that verse, but puts out a fire, like it just calms all the fire.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_01: And I'll remember that verse in an argument and I'll completely throw it away and I'll just keep on attacking someone, uh, mainly my wife when it happens.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_01: Um but it's like we all know what the right thing to do, but in those moments, uh the this idea, okay, I'm gonna master what it is that I feel at this moment.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna say what I want to say.
• 18:01
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna do what I know I need to do.
• 18:03
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna make my my actions control how I think about things.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: So I sort of earned my way through college, or at least not to go totally under.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_00: I signed on with a sales company called Southwestern out of Nashville, Tennessee.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: At the time I was only 17.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, so 7,000 of us would go down there through to sales school in Nashville.
• 18:24
  SPEAKER_00: Well, they knew that they knew that 18 to 22-year-old kids have lived their whole lives based on their emotions.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: So for a week of sales school, their main job was to get us to, you know, do what we didn't feel like doing.
• 18:39
  SPEAKER_00: To make us get up.
• 18:40
  SPEAKER_00: We signed almost a contract every morning for the whole summer, far from home.
• 18:45
  SPEAKER_00: We would get up in some foreign place that we had to find ourselves.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: They'd send us out by three stuff.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: They would tell us what county and what state.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: We'd go to that county, we'd start asking around, call them pastors, find a place to live, find someplace, get a county map, divide up the county, do all of this ourselves, and then on Monday morning, two days later, we'd get up and we'd go out, we'd get up at six, eat somewhere, find a cafe, and by eight o'clock, knock on our first door.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: And ideally, we'd be done with our last house at 9:30 at night.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: Six days a week.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_00: Then Sunday, we'd get up, go to church, then meet for a sales meeting in the middle of the state somewhere.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, first four summers for me.
• 19:28
  SPEAKER_00: Then I was the sales manager in Florida, so we all met in Ocala.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I was in charge of whipping them into shape.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_00: But so, but they knew we didn't feel like it.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: I sure didn't.
• 19:40
  SPEAKER_00: But every morning at six o'clock, you'd get up with the other two guys in the trailer or the back room or wherever you were, and all of a sudden you'd hear these guys in the shower, and we'd be yelling out the stuff that we were taught.
• 19:51
  SPEAKER_00: Cheesy, stupid stuff.
• 19:53
  SPEAKER_00: But we'd do it.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: And it went like this.
• 19:55
  SPEAKER_00: I feel healthy, I feel happy, I feel terrific.
• 19:58
  SPEAKER_00: Day by day in every way, by the grace of God, I'm getting better and better.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, believe me, I know these things.
• 20:02
  SPEAKER_00: There's like these four lines, and you go over them and you go over them, and by the time you're done, you've moved your blood gun.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_00: And you know, did you want to get up?
• 20:10
  SPEAKER_00: If somebody had come to you and you said, Would you like to get up at six and go knock on some strange person's door who may tell you to get the H off her porch?
• 20:19
  SPEAKER_00: No, you didn't want to do that.
• 20:21
  SPEAKER_00: No, you didn't want to go to uh someplace where you're gonna knock on 50 or 100 doors that day, and if you're fortunate, you'll sell three.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_00: But I mean, I was for I was doing it for long range.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_00: I knew I needed to totally change who I was, or I was gonna be a total failure in life.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_00: But I mean, that's what we did, and as a result, we changed our emotions and and and it changed, you know.
• 20:44
  SPEAKER_00: It's incredible.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: A guy just started coming to the church a couple weeks ago, and I found out online, he got on a, he said, I just found out my pastor worked Southwestern like I did 30 years ago or whatever.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_00: And he worked for five summers.
• 21:00
  SPEAKER_00: I can hardly wait to talk to him about it.
• 21:02
  SPEAKER_00: And and so somebody at the company, there's this website, and they sent it to me, and and I met this guy um last week.
• 21:09
  SPEAKER_00: He's just started coming, but he said it changed my life.
• 21:12
  SPEAKER_00: And I wrote on the and I wrote on the blog last night, I said it changed my life too.
• 21:17
  SPEAKER_00: And it changed my life partly because I learned to stop being dependent on my emotions, but to shape my emotions by what I said and what I did.
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_00: So I think this is a real key point.
• 21:28
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it is.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_01: I look back at my kind of like you in a different setting, mentioned Bill Snyder earlier, um, just the the amount of discipline that he invoked in the football program.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_01: Uh I firmly believe it shaped me into the man who I am today because he didn't allow us to do that.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: Um we had we had guys who had transferred from other programs.
• 22:01
  SPEAKER_01: University of Oregon, University of Miami, University of Tennessee, you know, the Brown brothers, if you guys are familiar with K-State football, top recruits in each one of their classes.
• 22:12
  SPEAKER_01: And they would come the outspoken ones would come in and say, it's not like this everywhere else.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_01: Bill Bill Snyder would make practices the same Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, three-hour long practices.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_01: And he did not care what you thought.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna do it.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_01: And I I my coach said this is the same way he did it back in 1993.
• 22:35
  SPEAKER_01: We're doing it in 2010.
• 22:38
  SPEAKER_01: Uh because he believes in this this amount of discipline.
• 22:42
  SPEAKER_01: And it, you know, that I think that discipline, that mastering your emotions, I think is so key to life that um I think this generation struggles, the generation, my generation, and the one right behind me just struggles with mastering their emotions to be able to be disciplined in order to achieve some sort of success.
• 23:03
  SPEAKER_00: So I got three questions for you at your table.
• 23:05
  SPEAKER_00: Number one, talk to each other.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: How are you different or unique?
• 23:09
  SPEAKER_00: And are you comfortable with your uniqueness?
• 23:12
  SPEAKER_00: Two, you wouldn't waste an hour of the last day of your life.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_00: It'd be a special day.
• 23:16
  SPEAKER_00: What can you do to make today special?
• 23:20
  SPEAKER_00: Third, talk about how actions change feelings in your experience.
• 23:26
  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I gotta take the computer with me, I gotta leave for the airport.
• 23:29
  SPEAKER_00: But first one is how are you unique?
• 23:31
  SPEAKER_00: Are you comfy with that?
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_00: Two, how what can you do to make today special?
• 23:35
  SPEAKER_00: Third, talk about how actions change feelings.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for coming, guys.
• 23:39
  SPEAKER_00: Let's pray.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: Father, bless us as we're at our tables.
• 23:42
  SPEAKER_00: Thanks for these men who've come out.
• 23:44
  SPEAKER_00: Uh two dozen guys here to try to become better, better Christians, better men, better fathers, and all this stuff.
• 23:53
  SPEAKER_00: And we do it because of Jesus Christ, Lord.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: Give us grace as we talk.
• 23:57
  SPEAKER_00: We can help each other out in Jesus' name.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_00: Amen.