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way. It's not about the zeros, So what is it all about?
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Let's find out now here's your host and weekly friend, Jennifer Josh. What's
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up, y'all. We're back, so glad you're here. Today is going
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to be amazing. We're going to talk about law of attraction. We're gonna
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talk about healings and what heeck does that even mean? How do we put
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all this in our daily life to actually attract more abundance? Abundance baby is
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today, so hang on. And as you can see if you're looking at
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our video, we have miss Miss Juliet Cardona with us today. We actually
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are together in Beverly Hills, which is very exciting. And yes, we're
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gonna go play soon as what I want the podcast just saying, but that's
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not all. Guess who else? This is actually a part two of a
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first episode one that we did with Miss Petelyn and she is coming on right
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now due Beverend Petelyn's the Road. How are you, Todor? Hello,
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Hello ladies. Good to see you both in Beverly Hills, side by side,
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right, we're in person. In person, I know you can touch
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each other. It's very cool. Oh am I hot damn right, I
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love it awesome. So Pelyn, we were just listening to our podcast that
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we did a few weeks ago about the law of attraction and catching up on
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everything. So if any listeners, please go back and check out that because
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Pelen is very honest and shared an amazing story of herself and a little bit
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about her, So please go check that out. She's an amazing person.
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We're so glad to be sisters with her, especially here on the podcast as
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well. With that said, we kind of wanted to continue that conversation,
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so we're gonna get deeper today about vibrations, energy, law of attraction.
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I also want to go deeper into abundance and how that's showed up in your
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life and ad our wonderful healings into this now because this is part of the
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daily practice that goes along with all of us bringing in abundance into our lives
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and love and light and joy. So that's the agenda. Let's go for
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it. Awesome trying to adjust my light here, So of course, so
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I love what you said. Kind of what we got from the last episode,
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just a quick summary of it is you know, well we always hear
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it, we have to believe it before we see it. And that's the
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biggest thing that it's so hard for us to do especially. I mean,
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I can speak for myself, but it was hard for me to believe it
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until I saw it right. We're still looking at reality instead of looking at
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our dreams, goals, desires, whatever we want to call that, looking
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at our future. We're stuck in our reality and then we say, well,
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how am I going to get that? If I have, you know,
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two thousand in the bank, where's my million dollars? And so we
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get stuck in the reality versus what we where we really want to go.
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So first question to both beautiful ladies, so that we tell the universe how
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much we love and respect money. What did you spend money on recently that
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brought you joy? I'll go first, you go, Miss Juliet. I
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love this one. So last weekend, my husband and I went and toured
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the local fitness center that we've been talking about joining for a couple months.
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There's lots of little hurdles that got in our way, like you know,
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COVID part three. I guess that was for us hurdled that And it felt
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so good to finally get to do something that we've talked about manifesting maybe even
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and get to go and spend that money. Yeah, it's you know,
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three hundred bucks a month, but it's something we can both do, we
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can enjoy it, and it's not just you know, one class, right,
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We've got all different things. So that's the thing that I'm kind of
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using is my high vibration this week, if you will. Um. And
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so it's one of those things where you're happy to spend that bigger ticket,
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um to get that. Let's say, I'm happy to spend that bigger ticket.
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I'm happy to spend that. Own that shit, own it, owned,
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owned, and be owned owned. So yeah, I like little things.
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But that's like the big thing where I'm like, whoh did it?
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And you went to a young girl thereafter? Was that? Yeah, hot
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girl summer? Right, hot girl summer? I love it? Okay,
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And what have you done recently that brought you joy? Well? Um,
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actually it's just very simple. I bought a bunch of crystals to hang on
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my windows, and the sun comes in about six in the morning and through
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those windows and the rainbow lights shoot all the way from the living room into
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my bedroom on the other side of the house in the morning, and um,
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I just I just I love light and I love rain. You know,
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the refracted light from crystals, and so that makes me happy. Every
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morning is long is their sunlight? You know? So I love that.
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I love that refracted. Never heard that word before. I always learned from
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miss Petlin. I love that. I need a dictionary out. Oh yeah,
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I love it. Okay, I'm gonna say that. Uh. I
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bought beef jerky and the South American Jerking sent it to Petlin. Oh my
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gosh, it's so good, so good. I just finished both, by
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the way, Oh I know, right, And now aren't you like,
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ah, where's my next bag? Yeah? Addicted? Yeah, it's great,
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awesome. I love that. Okay, good, so we get that
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going. Now we're in those Now, I notice our vibration, and anyone
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listening think of something that you spent money on that brought you joy, and
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notice how your body is feeling. I'm a little tingly, I'm a little
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excited. It's like, oh yeah, that's really cool. And that is
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a vibrational raise, Like we are raising our vibration. What we put out
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we get back. So now if I'm putting out that vibration, I'm going
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to run into people that have that vibration. I maybe even attract better experiences,
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not necessarily better, but in that vibration, which is abundance and enjoy.
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Like, that's where we're at right now. So that's awesome. So
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let's stay in there for a little while and let's see where it goes from
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there. So last time, people and you were talking about our emotions so
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much that I think that's what we forget when people are talking about law of
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attraction. So let's talk more about how can we how can we address our
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emotions when they start dipping or if something angers us or tries to take us,
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like I just spook with a client going through a nasty divorce, So
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how can we keep try to keep our vibration up higher and our emotions up
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higher when the ship's hit in the fan? Yeah, we don't feel good?
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Yeah yeah, Juliette, you have some thoughts on that? Do you
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have any thoughts on that? My dear? Maybe I want to be hear
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pedaling with, but sure, I mean my thoughts are too well, and
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I've learned this through talks with you ladies often actually and going back to a
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place where you experienced the joy. So just a minute ago, we talked
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about a purchase that we made It could be a big purchase like a gym
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membership, or something small like a crystal that you get every day joy out
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of that you're like, wow, I did that for myself. So I
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think sometimes when you have those harder emotions, whether it's anger or fear,
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or you feel I don't know, taken advantage of or something like that,
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if you can pause and just say okay, I'm feeling this and give yourself
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the permission, then I think the next step is going to a place of
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changing that feeling. Go back to a place where you felt really, really
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good, like the first morning. Maybe you woke up and you saw the
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refracted light from your bedroom peedle and maybe you're like, wow, huh,
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today has arrived. Like and feel it and sit with it. I think
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that's a really good way to change change that state of mind, because if
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you're stuck in those feelings, it's really easy to have, you know,
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a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day just because your day
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started off thinking about that dang divorce and that horrible X or something whatever it
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is. Right, It could even just be an email that set you off,
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or something smaller that could snowball into this big, huge, thing in
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a fight with your spouse or your X, you know whatever. So I
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think it it's the pause though, that you have to You can't just go
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from zero to one hundred. You got to take a step back and give
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yourself permission sometimes grace. Right, Um, I think I'm taking girl.
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That was Look, that was actually pretty good. Y'all have trained me.
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Well. I have to give you credit. You're here, you this this
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is all because of you and Petelin over there. So Petlen, I want
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to hear your take on that. I think that's a really good point,
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Juliet. Um. And and that really works very very well if we,
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as you've mentioned, if we catch it early, if we catch the dip
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early. Unfortunately, sometimes and oftentimes, we don't catch the dip until we
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start to hear ourselves go, you know, being cranky. And by the
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time we're hearing ourselves be cranky and we're we're able to name, oh my
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god, I'm being really negative or negative Nelly, or this is just really
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screwed up or whatever we have we have taken. We've we've gone down the
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labyrinth quite a bit, right and um, And so for me and I
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personally, if I don't catch it early. Um, I can't fib to
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myself and pretend I don't feel funky when I do, right, I can't
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like switch and go oh the crystals are so lovely. It's like that just
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won't do it. It's like the medicine has to max the disease, you
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know. So um so So for me, what helps is if I can
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actually go into the emotion right, identify, go into it like like like
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actually doing about face instead of trying to distract myself, go into it and
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look at look at the monster head on right and and and try to identify
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what exactly I'm feeling to try and source it in a sense. And um,
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I do a podcast episode on my pod, my podcast u UM Coactive
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Healings that talks about walking between the raindrops. And that's all about standing,
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like imagining what all the troubles, all the you know, the in laws,
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the bank account that, you know what, whatever it might be that's
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that's bugging you, the low selfist, even that moment the oh my god,
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I should have done it this way versus that way you know, or
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whatever, or said this versus that. Um to stand between all of those
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things, as if all of those things are raindrops falling around you, and
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you can somehow stand between them and not be touched by any of them.
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But you have the purview to be able to watch them falling around you in
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real time. But but it's as if time stops and so you know,
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you're not in a rush, you're not anxious, You're just able to watch
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them all around you. And you'd have to you know, and so and
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so I suggest a certain way of dealing with it from there, and you'd
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have to go on the podcast to listen to that. But but I will
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say yes, one of the one of the things that I would suggest is
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to to once you identify and you name it. It doesn't have to be
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hugely accurate, just you know, just first pass whatever the emotion or the
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issue is, name it and the emotion, and then repurpose the emotion,
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in other words, repurpose it in the body. So, for instance,
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anger can be repurposed beautifully as determination. So whatever it is that is pissing
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you off, instead of using that anger against yourself, you can actually take
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the energy of anger in the body, all of the neurochemicals and so on
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in the brain that is creating that emotion. You can shift that into determination,
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like you can create a determination like i am determined to get X,
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Y, and Z done, or I'm determined to make this thing very very
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clear, or I'm determined to never do that again, or I'm determined to
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have a fricking good day regardless, you know, or I'm determined whatever it
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might be, but to Actually, because the chemistry of determination and anger are
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is very very similar, the body often does not. It is said that
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the body does not actually know the difference. It's just that we have named
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it something different, so we think it's something different, and it's it's not.
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Actually in the body. It takes the same neurochemistry to be very fired
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up and determined about something as it as it does to be angry, so
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we can rename it and so so I think it's important because it allows,
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um, what's going on in the body of the courtisolved the neurochemistry and so
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on, to actually be used for something. So it has a payoff,
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It has a payday right, it can be used for something and instead of
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denied or shut down because you can't, because the chemistry is still there,
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So why not you It's gonna happen to recycle that energy into something you can
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use. Yeah, exactly, I'm gonna put a cabat on that, or
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a question I should say on that, because I think I don't know where
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I heard it. I don't know if it's right, But anxiety and excitement
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are just as close as anger and determination. Right, So when we're like
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new young children, I shouldn't say young adults coming up. Like I'm talking
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with parents and their children now they're going off to college and their senior year
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of high school, and I'm speaking with them and teaching them about money and
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teaching them about stocks and bonds and what is this and how to spend money
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and all of that, and they they say the word anxiety because that's the
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word that's in the media. And then I talk to them a little bit
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more and I said, well, is it positive? Yeah, so it
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could it be excitement? Oh yeah, it's actually excitement. So it's excitement
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to learn something that you don't know. So it's really not anxiety. So
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I love that repurposing that emotion. Because of the labels we've heard, we
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all can go to anger. That's our society. It's the easiest acceptable emotion
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that we can have. Anger is more accepted than pure joy or bliss because
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people think you're doing something wrong if you're completely happy all day long, which
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is hilarious. Right, So I love that. So here's my question.
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Can I just say that the anxiety is if we name it anxiety, it's
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it's it is what it is. It is what we name it, right,
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So it's not that it's not anxiety and it's it's excitement. It is
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anxiety if we name it anxiety, right, Yeah, So we have to
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honor what is there, because if we don't honor what's there, we cannot
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then be it use our agency to shift it. Right, So the end
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and anxiety, Anxiety is rooted in fear, right, So fear and excitement
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are counterbalanced. And so yeah, and I love that you apply that to
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anxiety. That's great, right, I mean just ask I mean, if
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they don't know, they don't know what excitement isn't really like it. That
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didn't when we're talking about money, They're not going to think the wordingite excitement
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because that's not aschimdia, that's not in the movies, that's not in anything
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that they've seen. Right. But when I mentioned that, could this be
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excitement about learning something about money. Oh yeah, it actually is excitement.
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So it is like you said, it is what it is until you label
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it, and when you label it, that is what it is. Whatever
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you label it is. But if they don't know, like we don't know,
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we don't know. If they don't know, they can, they can.
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They don't realize that excitement has very similar feeling in the body as anxiety.
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It's like I'm about to jump out of a plane, holy crop,
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you know, get all. That's just ricking anxiety and excitement. I'm sorry,
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it's just a crazy shit there. Okay. So one more point that
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I want to back up on is repurposing, and I want to want to
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get everybody's thought on this as well, because I find that clients come to
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me because they spent their whole life in fear and anxiety and anger and try
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to turn that into get shit done GSD and from the fear and anxiety and
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overwhelming place. So they're not coming from the possibility place, or the futuristic
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place, or the desires and dreams place. They're coming from fear and scarcity.
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So when you get GST done from the fear, that's not always the
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best place to put into your social media or your next client or you know,
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your goal or thing something and we still have that energy, so cleaning
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or what else would you say to get something done with that? What do
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you do? I call you? That was she's never madoo never No.
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I mean, first of all, guilty, right, guilty, And even
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being a financial professional in the industry for years, it's one of those things
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where any anything that you've experienced in the past is capable of resurfacing in the
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proper moment with all the right circumstance or wrong circumstances and all the wrong triggers,
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right. And I think that's one of those things where it goes back
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to what we said before a petal and so amazingly said about the brain drops,
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right, it's it's being able to take that pause and then how can
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I use this to my advantage? Like as a little girl, all you
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had to do was tell me I couldn't do something, and that was the
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first thing I wanted to do. It was the top of the list,
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and you're one of those It became sometimes an obsession even right, It's like
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I'm going to get I'm going to be the best whatever because somebody said I
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couldn't do it. Um, you know, best gymnast, best horseback rider,
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best, whatever you want it to call it. Um was that answering
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the question? It was again, pause, pause, and determinations, just
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like Petelen said, determine yourself to get that next situation handled. Great.
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Oh but and and but when you pause, you can also see where am
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I. Sometimes sometimes you need a long pause. I'm not saying that the
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pause is sometimes you need the day off and you need to take a walk
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and reconnect with with your self before you can pause. So I'm not trying
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to oversimplify that at all. Um, But I think if you can pause,
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then you can think, is there a way I could use this to
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help myself, Like maybe I needed that little extra umph to have the courage
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to launch the business or to go and start the website whatever it is.
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Right. Um. So I think that's my very long answer. I love
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Juliet's word of pause because so many times like so we're all coaches here,
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right, and so we're coaches. We help our clients, and our clients
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call us when stuff's happening. Oh yeah, So I love this. I
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don't I don't know why I don't use that word pause. I love that
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you're saying that, So peelen, what your churn chime in? Um?
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Shit, it was there and then and then it left. Um. It's
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easy to get lost in our own conversation, right, Yes, yeah,
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it's um determined to do the next best thing for your step. But like
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if I have clients that are trying to launch online stuff now and if they
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get angry at something online and in tech, don't keep staying there some different
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Well, the thing basically what we're talking about, whether it's pause or walk
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between the rain drops, what we're actually addressing is we're taking the emergency,
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the feeling of emergency out of it. Right, So when we have a
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feeling, almost everything in our society is get it done yesterday, do it
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now, you know. So culturally we're set up to feel panic. That's
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part of our fear, it's part of our anger, it's part of our
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sense of desperation, is part of our feelings of insufficiency and so on.
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So you know, whether whether you frame it, take a pause, or
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you know, just like stop, whether it takes it's a very good point
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to actually take a pause is to experience the pause don't just enact a pause,
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experience a pause. And if we're experiencing a pause, it may take
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five seconds, it may take ten minutes, it may take a day.
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But to experience the pause, you can't decide, well it's you know,
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if I don't get it done in five minutes, well that's just it.
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You know, You've got to experience the pause, because the pause is about
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taking the emergency out of it so that we can then see more calmly and
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clearly what opportunities are there that we may not be seeing, how we might
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you know, repurpose our emotion and so on to do so that we can
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actually take back our power. Because the point is, when we are in
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panic, we feel out of control, right, We feel like we are
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no longer at the driver's seat, We are subjugating ourselves to something outside of
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ourselves, right, So to take back the power is to is to take
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the emergency out of it and realize the emergency is fabricated nine times out of
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ten, nine point nine nine times out of ten, and even if it
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is an emergency, it may just be urgent not emergent, right, and
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you know, so so so there's there's that, yeah, that's love that.
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I love that. So how do we use law of attraction? First
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of all, we're all it's all talking about that, right, because whatever
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emotion we are putting out, that's the vibration we're putting out, and that's
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we're going to attract back. Ye, So how do we what is a
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tip for focusing on something different than where you're at? Yeah? So,
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um, and I think you actually interesting. Even in the question, the
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question can be misleading, It can mislead us, right, So how do
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we focus on something different? I would say not to focus on something different?
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Right? So? Um, the classic road to success is do have
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be right? Do these things in order to have what you want so that
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you can be happy. Right. And many years ago, when I had
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my you know, coaching program that was look very different than it does today
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in meditation, one day it totally came to me that, you know what,
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that needs to be flipped on its side. So in order to attract
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more of something, right, by definition, we have to acknowledge what the
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little is that we have of that thing that we want to attract more.
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We cannot attract what we do not feel, and we cannot identify right.
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So if we want to have more joy in our life, right by whatever
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circumstances. Right, let's just say because because the whole purpose of having more
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is so that we can feel more alive, right, be more happy,
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we make up that having more of whatever it might be, more security,
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more money, more love, whatever it might be, will make us feel
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be more happy. Right. But the fact is if we didn't, if
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we have to know a little bit of what that feeling is in order to
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even decide that we want more are right, So we may decide that,
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well, we only have like a thimbleful of the joy versus a bucketful that
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other people have, and we want a bucketful as well. So what we
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you know? For me, the way I look at it is we have
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to sometimes dig very deeply and find where it is that we actually do feel
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joy. We can look at things from the glass half empty or the glass
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half full. Now, the glass half empty indicates that the glass is half
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full, you know, but that's not saying, that's not acknowledging what is
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there already. Right, So, um, it could be that it makes
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me really happy that I can make my macha latte every single morning exactly the
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way that I want to and I don't have to pay Starbucks to do it,
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you know or whatever. You know, Starbucks can you know, can
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can sponsor this particular episode. Um but um so, you know, so
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that might not be a big thing. But if it brings you comfort and
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a feeling of joy and comfort and we're frozen for whatever reason, I'm just
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gonna keep going because I don't know if you guys are running or not.
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If this brings us joy, then we start from a place of being.
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So for me, it's be have do we have to acknowledge that we are
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that there is joy in our life now somewhere, and then from there we
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can take a look once we are feeling that and we totally acknowledge that from
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that frame of mind, from that perspective we can then we're then in a
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better position to decide what we already have that brings us this feeling, and
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then we can think about, well, how do we build on what we
26:45
have? What what are the resources that we have that can bring us more
26:51
of that? And then from there we can decide what we want to do
26:55
in order to have more of whatever, in order to you know, be
26:59
happy or whatever. So but then our doing becomes very specialized, our doing
27:03
becomes very focused and we're not just throwing rice at you know, at a
27:07
general area. Oh well, I'm so sorry. It's up to me apparently,
27:15
So hopefully they will come back on very very soon and bear with me.
27:22
I was part of me. Part of my mind was like, what's
27:25
going on, what's going on, and the other part was trying very hard
27:27
to focus on what I was saying. So forgive that. Yeah, So
27:33
I think you get the picture that if we can switch the do have be
27:38
into around and think of be have do, it's a great way just to
27:44
sort of short short cut exactly how what process we are using in order to
27:52
attract more of what we want. It also takes our mind off of what
27:56
we're not doing. It takes our mind off of, um, what we
28:02
don't have. It takes our mind off of the glass half empty, how
28:06
we're not showing up. They do have the requires that we think essentially that
28:11
we're not doing enough. Um, we don't have enough, and therefore of
28:15
course we're we aren't enough, we don't be enough of whatever X, Y
28:19
or Z. It is. So that is definitely focusing on the glass half
28:22
empty. That does um you know that's great for commerce. Hi, Hi,
28:30
I know you can handle it. Yes, that's great and um and
28:37
it's great for you know, uh, corporate paychecks and all of that.
28:41
But um, but it's not really good for us. It requires that we
28:45
always remain in that state of insufficiency and not enough and are that we also
28:51
requires that we remain outwardly focused, so we don't look internally for our resources,
28:56
um and for our own um our own evolution. Really, I heard
29:04
a great line the other day that said, the opposite of courage is is
29:10
not cowardice. The opposite of courage is a conformity. So if we're trying,
29:19
yeah, right, So if we're trying to conform, then we are
29:22
outer directed. We are automatically giving our power away. We are automatically judging
29:27
ourselves from the place of what other people think. We are not thinking for
29:33
ourselves. We are not engaging our inner knowing and our inner intelligence. We
29:37
are not here to be carbon copies of one another. So yeah, but
29:45
that's what we've been taught, how we've taught in school how to learn.
29:48
Everybody sit here, this is how you learn right here, this is what
29:52
you listen. You eat, now you wake up now, like our whole
29:55
society is to have us conform too, and I deal of what we think
30:00
is a good citizen, right, right, what does a rich person do?
30:04
What does a rich person do? We want to do what they do,
30:07
right, because they know what to do well. They can teach us
30:11
a few things, but they can't teach you what your particular path is or
30:15
what your road is. Success for you would be very very different. Yeah,
30:18
so exactly. And that's why I love coaching, right because I just
30:26
saw that email on there, I'm I got to check that out. Anyways,
30:30
I love coaching because we can actually take a unique person and talk to
30:36
them about their their path and their intuition. In finance, Juliet and I
30:40
are in finance, and that is not what happens in the financial industry.
30:42
You have five boxes, and you meet someone and you stick him out a
30:45
box. It doesn't matter how old, what eight, Well, it doesn't
30:48
matter how old old, but what gender, what their path is, what
30:53
their spirituality is, what their health is, None of that matters. It
30:57
matters with the age, how long they're going to live, and that's it.
31:00
And you could fit in that box. We don't do that. We
31:04
do it completely different, Like we have to be there for our clients and
31:08
what's going to be best for them. Sometimes it's actually helping our clients learn
31:11
to trust their own intuitions. That's exactly it most of the time. That's
31:17
what it is, right, trust in your own intuition. When was the
31:21
last time you trusted your intuition? I love throwing shit at her like all
31:26
the time. I mean it's hard. Sometimes I do find it difficult,
31:30
but I feel like I feel it's usually that pull, right, you get
31:33
a pull to do something. Sometimes it doesn't align with you know, maybe
31:40
a past version of yourself, so sometimes you might question it like is this
31:42
too risky? Is it? You know? Should I? Should I take
31:48
the next step? Or not? And sometimes you need that leap of faith
31:49
and that's where that that intuition can come in. But that's where I have
31:52
a question for Peedle and is to like if you're if you're someone who your
31:59
life spariences haven't provided you very much opportunity for joy, right, like if
32:05
you've had a harsh or maybe maybe that's so long ago, like oh you
32:10
don't even remember those feelings or how to connect with those Like how can someone
32:15
who feel who's maybe listening to this going wow, well that sounds great,
32:19
Like cool, let me just slap that joy label on my wall and just
32:24
manifest that all day ladies shut Like, how do you get from that other
32:29
place to be able to kind of manifest it before you know what it is?
32:35
Like? How do you you know? Like because you feel like that's
32:37
kind of square zero for a lot of people you have. And I was
32:42
there, many many many years ago. I was absolutely there. I could
32:45
not I could not imagine a good feeling. And yet I will say that
32:52
I had moments, and um, it's really important to surround yourself if you
32:59
can, and with some sort of support, any kind of support, it
33:04
doesn't matter, because it's really important to reinforce those moments, those moments that
33:13
do appear. But the issue oftentimes when we're in that state is we don't
33:17
believe the good moments. We tend to want to believe the bad. Right,
33:22
So it's not that the good moments aren't happening, it's that we're dismissing
33:27
them because oh, yeah there's that, but oh there's this, but it
33:31
doesn't count because it doesn't count. Because so that's a pattern of validated.
33:37
We absolutely invalidate it, and it's it's as true as anything else. You
33:43
know, the bad stuff is going on in our head. If we woke
33:46
up tomorrow without the memory of all the stuff that caused us to feel the
33:51
way that we feel, we would feel very different about our lives. We
33:55
might be like, holy crap, who the heck am i? And who
34:00
lives in this house? And why am I here? But you would not
34:02
be laden with all the old stuff, right, So what's the difference.
34:08
The difference is it's not in our memory, it's not in our head.
34:13
The circumstances haven't changed. We might walk out of the door and decide to
34:16
go explore and do something entirely different, go meet our neighbors and go,
34:20
hey, did you know, did anybody see how I got here? I
34:22
have no idea how I got here? Who's whose house is this? Or
34:25
whatever? But you know, it's like, but if we were trapped in
34:29
that frame of mind, we would not go to our neighbors. We would
34:32
not seek out help, we would not seek connection. I mean, I'm
34:36
just sort of making up a scenario here, But the fact is, if
34:38
we can do, you know, a thought experiment and imagine what it would
34:43
be like to wake up as if we were somebody entirely different, without our
34:47
history, without anything, anything that is creating those senses of insufficiency or depression
34:54
or whatever, all the stories we reinforce for ourselves every day when we're in
34:59
that state, Right, Um, what then? What then is left?
35:04
What you know? Is that a sense of freedom? Does that all of
35:07
a sudden? Are we lighter because at least we don't have that stuff?
35:10
You know? Can you imagine what it might be like? You know?
35:14
It's it's it's it's an interesting thought experiment. I invite anybody to try it.
35:19
Yeah, I think that's awesome. I think we need to do that.
35:21
It reminds me of Jill Bolton Taylor's book, A Stroke of Insight.
35:25
Yes, and she was a neuro yes, I think surgeon, and she
35:30
had a stroke and and she literally lost her memory and of everything. And
35:36
I remember this so clearly that they said her mom was going to come,
35:38
and she's in the hospital bed and she said she only liked the doctors that
35:43
talked to her, even though she had zero response, and her and everyone
35:49
kept saying, Gigi's gonna come, Gigi's gonna come, and that's her mom
35:51
and Gigi here's her mom got into bed with her and she just said,
35:54
oh, I just I don't know what a Gigi is, but it feels
35:58
really good, Like I like this Gigi Lane next to me, and she
36:01
remembers these thoughts and wrote her book. It's amazing. So wow to have
36:07
what you're saying there too. Yeah, when you said who would you wake
36:15
up to be? I don't know anybody that hasn't gone through shit. So
36:17
I literally have no one that would just feel like unless they're two or three
36:22
or four. Like I don't mean other people. It's like, who would
36:24
you be if you didn't if you weren't saddled or weighed down with the memories
36:30
that are making you feel you know whatever? Right? I just wow?
36:34
What right? Exactly exactly? Watch that the world? Oh my god,
36:43
you think she's bold? Now? Could you imagine you're gonna have to put
36:49
a saddle on me? Because I am seriously that would be fun. It
36:55
sounds like we need to spend some time doing that. Yes for sure,
36:59
Okay, we only have a few it's left. I want to jump into
37:00
healings. Oh yeah, this is our first real big conversation on healing.
37:05
So I don't want to get two crazy without the lack of a better word,
37:10
I don't have to be another part two right and part three three going.
37:15
I do want to bring up, since we have the two of you
37:19
here, what started you on? And I say healings because it's part of
37:23
a meditation practice that we are sharing our love and light with each other and
37:28
ourselves to heal anything that might be happening in our bodies. That's what I
37:31
call healings. So let's start with your definition of what a healing is.
37:37
And then again we only have like ten minutes, so tell me what your
37:39
definition of is of healing? Do you have a definition heal? And first
37:44
peal and first she's cheating, chee cheater. Hey we have we have a
37:49
time constraint. I'll talk forever. So um, I think that just the
37:54
metal view of healing is really in a sense, it's to pay attention to
38:00
to attend, to notice and to interact with you know, yeah, to
38:07
pay attention to turn one's attention toward what either one wants or how to heal
38:15
something that is that is a miss. So now I'm going to go deeper
38:20
for that because the listeners are not going to understand what that means. Does
38:22
that mean um, in your body, in your couch, in your anything,
38:29
anything, mind, emotion, body, It doesn't matter. To heal
38:35
first, the first thing we do clout Traditionally when we're sick as we go
38:38
to a doctor. So we had to actually think to ourselves, Wow,
38:43
something's off. I need to put some energy into making a call to help
38:49
me figure out what's going on. That all of that complicated you know,
38:54
do this and do that and so on, is really about I've decided,
38:58
I've made the decision to turn my attention toward whatever is happening and do something
39:04
about it. That's the first requirement. In other words, we can't ignore
39:07
it, right, We can't pretend that something isn't isn't off or a miss.
39:13
So we actually all have clients that do that same exact thing. Like
39:17
I'm sick and tired of not making the money I should be making. I'm
39:21
sick and tired of not I'm sick and tired of being in debt. I'm
39:23
sick and tired of not understanding what is an investment? Where am I at?
39:27
So I need to fix this now, They reach out to fix a
39:30
problem. Right, same thing with financial here they need to well hurt generations
39:36
young and wealthy, and so they don't know what to do and who to
39:38
trust. Right, So then peedle in. On the spiritual side of things,
39:44
I don't even know how to get in touch. We know it's mind,
39:46
body, and soul, but what's about my soul? What is about
39:50
my spirit? So how do I when life isn't going well and we might
39:54
not know what it is? That's when we start to reach out to other
39:59
than you know, MD Doctor right well, And I mean the thing is
40:02
when we do with that way, typically we're focusing on the problem, which
40:07
you know, we always do the problem. The problem is a good catalyst,
40:09
but we can't solve the problem from the end of the from the problem
40:13
from the tail end that you know what I mean, that's kind of the
40:15
result of something that has come before. Right, that's the do what can
40:20
I do the last thing? Right? What can I do in order to
40:22
happen to be? But that's in reverse, right, So we want to
40:25
focus. We want to focus on the source of that. Right, what
40:29
has led me here? And if I was so successful in creating what led
40:32
me here? If I change some things around. I will be at least
40:37
as successful in creating something different because I would have changed it from the source.
40:43
Right. So healing is a general catch all phrase for how do I
40:47
regain my agency? How do I regain my capacity to heal or do something
40:52
different or feel something different? How do I regain my agency in my life
40:58
so that I stop feeling like a victim and I start, um, you
41:02
know, feeling like I like I have some sense of say in what's going
41:07
on with my life? I love going on with my life. Yeah.
41:09
So can you heal anxiety? I can't heal your anxiety, but I can
41:15
help you find, you know, find ways to heal your own anxiety.
41:19
Of course. Yes. Can we heal our depression? I did awesome?
41:25
Can we physically heal us? Can we heal blood pressure? I think that
41:30
we can heal just about anything. It really depends on our focus and our
41:37
belief. But that does not mean that we may not need to use um,
41:40
you know, m plant medicine or even in some cases you know,
41:45
allopathic medicine. I mean, if you break a bone, you know,
41:47
unless you have somebody who can reset it and all of that, you know,
41:52
we may need you know, our our Western doctors and so on.
41:54
If we need surgery, then we might need we might need surgery. But
41:58
I think it's it's about how having a range. So it's not it's about
42:01
not getting so hyper focused on exactly one way of doing things. You know,
42:07
you can have a natural way of doing things. But we need to
42:10
kind of include just about everything, if for no other reason than to at
42:15
least formulate our best decisions. So you know, yeah, everything is available
42:22
to us. Everything is available to us if we want to open our eyes
42:27
and not be too rigid on our definition of what's going on, but always
42:30
from a position of seeking what might be true for us in the moment.
42:34
We don't have to seek the ultimate truth because that could take a lifetime of
42:37
many lifetimes, but just what's true right now, and work with that and
42:40
talk to your angels, talk to your intelligences, talk to your guidance system,
42:45
you know, whatever we want to call that. Even if you're saying
42:49
talking to your subconscious or your overconscious mind or whatever it is, talk to
42:52
your right hemisphere of your brain. I don't care, you know, it
42:54
doesn't matter what you define it as. Start to be in communication with one
43:00
self. That's that's the most important thing. Nothing. Are you in communication
43:06
with yourself? Sure? I am? Yeah, I mean I think the
43:10
only other thing and you've said it all, but I don't know why.
43:14
I just keep feeling like saying this to the listeners is like it's it's developing
43:19
a practice of going inward, like if none of this is making sense at
43:22
all, and you're and you're like, dude, I this sounds great,
43:28
but how you gotta learn how to sit still a little bit? Sorry?
43:31
Yeah, that's the cold card truth change in saying sit still, y'all sit
43:37
still and go inward. It's and it feels hard sometimes even still, Like
43:42
even though I do it every day, there are days where I get up
43:45
and I'm fighting it. And that's okay, it's okay. You can give
43:47
yourself the permission to feel that, because that's taking back some of your control,
43:52
just allowing yourself to feel like I don't want to go inside today,
43:58
like it doesn't feel good in there. I'm you know, I'm not in
44:00
a good place. And if even sometimes having that thought allows me to be
44:06
like, well, it's not so bad, you know, like that one
44:09
little thing that went wrong, Like we've got a whole day ahead of us,
44:14
you know, we have a whole afternoon, a whole evening, And
44:15
I think even if it's just starting there, it's that's enough to learn how
44:22
to do all of these big things we're talking about. And even if it
44:25
just is that is the only thing that feels doable. If you can start
44:30
there, you would not believe where you could be in a month or three
44:35
months, or a year, ten years, you know. I think that's
44:40
one thing I wanted to say, is if none of this it feels doable
44:45
yet, then start there. And there's also this really cool lady on wait
44:49
whatever feeling. She's got this awesome website, so you can also check it
44:52
out if you want some hand holding and how to learn how to do that
44:57
she brought me. That's awesome. I love that. Go inward and to
45:01
sit still and notice, notice your feelings, Notice your emotions, Notice what's
45:07
hurting, Notice what's aching like. Notice, Oh, by the way,
45:10
my knees are amazing, just so you know, thank you very much.
45:14
My knees feel amazing. It could be anything. It could be from stress,
45:17
anxiety, to wanting more out of life, wanting more out of love,
45:22
wanting more out of everyone else around you. If you're like I used
45:24
to be that I'm perfect, everybody else sucks. I don't know what the
45:28
problem is. If they would just do what I say in my life would
45:30
be amazed balls, But nobody does what I say. So yeah, so
45:32
we've shifted that a bit. So have you ever said any of those words?
45:37
You might want to go inward and realize that we can actually change that
45:40
on our own. No matter what anybody else is doing, no matter who's
45:44
in the White House, no matter who you're voting for, no matter who's
45:47
on the road I don't know about even at road rage is huge, no
45:50
matter who's honking the horn at you, no matter what your spouse is doing,
45:53
no matter what your animals are doing and what they're messing up and chewing
45:55
on. None of that. We have control over ourselves. If we go
46:00
inward and have a relationship with us, then we find our angels. Yeah.
46:07
Yeah, we definitely have agency. We have influence over ourselves. And
46:12
I think the first thing is we we are often taught to abandon ourselves because
46:15
we were We've always most of us feel that we've been abandoned in some way
46:21
right emotionally, physically apparently whatever it might be romantically or whatever, and right
46:27
exactly that Yeah, so, um, I think, I think, I
46:31
think it's really a wonderful thing to um to determine, to set the determination
46:38
to hum to change that and not repeat abandonment with self abandonment. So to
46:45
Juliet's point, turning toward, turning inward and so on is a practice that
46:52
is reframing and creating a new response pattern to not abandon ourselves, to actually
47:00
turn around and go, what's going on? I will not abandon myself the
47:04
way that I have been abandoned because we really can't complain about the fact that
47:07
we were abandoned as a kid. If we continue the pattern of self abandoning
47:10
all the time, it's like, well, you know, when is that
47:14
going to change? You know, well, your parents can't unabandon you,
47:17
so that same energy. Exactly, it's a self fulfilling thing versus somebody else
47:25
doing it to you. And that's how powerful we are, right, we
47:30
can we can create the outcome we have, even if it's an outcome we
47:34
don't want, by simply how we treat ourselves. Right, Yes, Okay,
47:37
when I realized when I realized that I was creating everything in my life
47:42
that I did not want. That led me to such bad depression that you
47:46
know that I didn't necessarily want to go on. That's when I went,
47:51
huh, I do that really? Well? Imagine how successful I would be
47:58
if I reversed that. Wow. Yeah, that's a big statement. That's
48:04
a big We have two minutes left, so I want to just put that
48:07
out there. But that's a huge statement that we create everything in our life.
48:10
Now, I'm not saying children or creating illness or a band or you
48:15
know, any anything like that, But I am saying, are are we
48:20
right? Are responses to that? So now, yeah, I might have
48:22
screwed you up growing up. Sorry, kids, you're over eighteen. Now
48:25
it's all yours. What are you gonna do with it? You can keep
48:29
blaming you you complete, complete, come complete, Yeah, gotcha, Keep
48:35
being the victim, do whatever you want to do, or you can take
48:38
agency over yourself and say, okay, Now, so we've all suffered betrayals,
48:43
tragedies, issues, something in our life. We can stay there if
48:46
we want, or we can choose to move forward. So one tip too,
48:51
we didn't even get to the angels. We're gonna have to do part
48:52
three on angels. Oops. One thing that you would give someone listening today.
49:00
I know you said, go inward. One tip that you do like
49:02
when you're really angry pause hers a pause. I love dang pause for dang
49:07
pause, y'all you need to cut my work to pause. Pause with your
49:13
dogs, okay, Miss Peterlyn. One tip for everyone, pause your pony.
49:19
Yeah, so building on pause, first pause and then uh redirect pause
49:23
redirect and then I'm going to say, uh, pause, redirect and accept.
49:32
I love it awesome. Hey, thanks so much for coming on the
49:36
show today, Peter Lyn. I love you. Thank you miss Juliet for
49:37
spending a few days with me in Beverly Hills. We're gonna go on Road
49:40
Dale Drive right now and have a little chat and talk. So Peterly and
49:45
love you, Love you lots. If anybody's listening to check out our Soul
49:47
Sisters series, Peterlyn's a guest on there as well with our other Soul Sisters.
49:52
It's a maze balls, so keep tuning in. We're here every week.
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