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The Hidden Cost of Comfort: Why Convenience Is Ruining Your Success! · Deep Thoughts

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  Speaker 2: Okay, So, like, who doesn't love ordering takeout? You know,
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  Speaker 2: after a long day, just a few taps on your phone,
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  Speaker 2: done for same day delivery. Best, Right? But what if
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  Speaker 2: I told you this quest for constant comfort and convenience,
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  Speaker 2: it might actually be holding you back.
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  Speaker 3: Interesting.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's interesting to think about. That's what we're
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  Speaker 2: diving into today. Like what is the unexpected price of
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  Speaker 2: living life on easy mode. We've got some really thought
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  Speaker 2: provoking pieces, articles, blog posts. We even found this, this
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  Speaker 2: philosophical take on a substack.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wow.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and they're all grappling with this idea of convenience.
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  Speaker 3: It's true. Really makes you think about you know, that
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  Speaker 3: desire for comfort we all have. It's like it's ingrained
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  Speaker 3: in us, right, Our brains are wired to seek pleasure
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  Speaker 3: and avoid pain, like it's a survival thing, right. But
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  Speaker 3: it makes you wonder, in this day and age with
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  Speaker 3: convenience everywhere, are those instincts, those survival instincts, are they
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  Speaker 3: working against us? Now?
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  Speaker 2: That's a really great question, and it makes me think
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  Speaker 2: about this LinkedIn article we read by Christopher Bramley comfort Zones.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was called Okay.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: He was talking about how we all need those comfort
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  Speaker 2: zone zones right for rest and recovery. It's essential. But
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  Speaker 2: and this is this is key. He was saying, if
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  Speaker 2: we're always playing it safe, always inside those comfortable boundaries,
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  Speaker 2: we might be missing out on growth opportunities.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. And it's not about like you know, jumping out
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  Speaker 3: of planes or anything drastic. Bramley was saying that comfort zones.
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  Speaker 3: It's not it's not all or nothing, you know what
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  Speaker 3: I mean. It's more about finding those little space, you know,
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  Speaker 3: those incremental stacks outside that zone where you're challenged just
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  Speaker 3: enough to grow.
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  Speaker 2: So you're not suggesting we abandon all convenience and you know,
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  Speaker 2: go live like cave people.
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  Speaker 3: No, No, not at all. It's more about I think,
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  Speaker 3: recognizing when that desire for comfort, when it might be
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  Speaker 3: leading us away from something we really want.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So like choosing comfort over our goals essentially exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, that makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: It reminds me of this concept of have you heard
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  Speaker 2: of eustress?
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  Speaker 3: Eustress? I don't think so.
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  Speaker 2: So we were reading this piece Price of Convenience ver
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  Speaker 2: Nayak on Substack, okay.
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  Speaker 3: And he talks about eustress. It's basically that good kind
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  Speaker 3: of stress, the kind you get from, you know, pushing
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  Speaker 3: your limits, learning new things, tackling a challenge. And he
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  Speaker 3: says it's what helps us build resilience and grows stronger
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  Speaker 3: mentally and physically.
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  Speaker 2: So like good stress, bad stress, exactly.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, think about it. Think about what happens to your
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  Speaker 3: muscles when you don't use them.
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  Speaker 2: Right, They get all the atrophy.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly the atrophy and Nayak he argues, it's the same
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  Speaker 3: with our minds. Oh wow, he's suggesting that by constantly
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  Speaker 3: choosing the easy way out, we're actually contributing to a
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  Speaker 3: kind of a kind of mental atrophy. You ever get
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  Speaker 3: that feeling of like brain fog after scrolling online for
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  Speaker 3: hours all the time? You know that's our brain craving stimulation.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it needs a challenge and easy access to information.
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  Speaker 3: It doesn't always equal knowledge, you know, think about it.
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  Speaker 3: Are you more likely to remember something you read in
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  Speaker 3: a tweet or something you really sat with and thought about,
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  Speaker 3: really engaged with. There's a difference between being informed and
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  Speaker 3: actually understanding something.
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  Speaker 2: And it's it's not just our brains, right, Like this
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  Speaker 2: whole culture of convenience, It it's everywhere.
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  Speaker 3: It really is.
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  Speaker 2: This blog post we read, The Cost of Convenience by
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  Speaker 2: Joshua Becker, he braces it down so well, like how
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  Speaker 2: we consume media, the food we eat, even just getting groceries.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, what really struck me about about Becker's
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  Speaker 3: point was how how companies, how they've figured out how
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  Speaker 3: to like capitalize on this need for convenience He had
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  Speaker 3: this example Domino's Pizza, okay, and and their founder he
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  Speaker 3: says something like, we don't sell pizza, He's like, we
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  Speaker 3: sell delivery.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, that's that's really true when you think.
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  Speaker 3: About it, right, Like it just shows how how we're
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  Speaker 3: willing to pay more, you know, for that that ease
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  Speaker 3: and that speed.
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  Speaker 2: And it's not it's not always just about the money,
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  Speaker 2: is it. Like Becker was talking about, it's it's almost
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  Speaker 2: every part of our lives, like financially, Yeah, those those
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  Speaker 2: delivery fees and all the little like convenience charges they
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  Speaker 2: add up, But it's also our health, right we choose
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  Speaker 2: pre packaged food, processed food for that quick fix, And
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  Speaker 2: what about the environmental impact like all that extra packaging,
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  Speaker 2: all the waste from needing everything instantly.
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  Speaker 3: It really is like like this domino effect, don't you think,
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  Speaker 3: Like we prioritize convenience in one area and then it
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  Speaker 3: just kind of spills over into everything. Yeah, all of
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  Speaker 3: a sudden, we're buying pre chopped veggies, yeah, you know,
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  Speaker 3: instead of just taking a minute to chop them ourselves,
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  Speaker 3: or those single serve portions, because it's just it's just easier.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, guilty of that one those pre cut veggies.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes it's just it's just so easy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But you know what I thought was really interesting what
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  Speaker 2: Becker said was how it affects our intentionality when we're
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  Speaker 2: you know, constantly on autopilot choosing the easiest option. Are
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  Speaker 2: we are we really present or are we just going
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  Speaker 2: through the motions and missing out on growth and connection?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a good question to ask, Yeah, because if
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  Speaker 3: we aren't present, I mean, that leads to a lot
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  Speaker 3: of other problems. Right, Yeah, Becka was talking about, you know,
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  Speaker 3: mindless consumption, less perseverance. We have fewer chances to learn
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  Speaker 3: and grow. You know, it's like we're trading, trading long
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  Speaker 3: term fulfillment for this for this short term ease, and
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  Speaker 3: and we don't even realize we're doing it.
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  Speaker 2: So so how do we how do we break free
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  Speaker 2: if we're if we're sacrificing so much in the name
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  Speaker 2: of convenience, How do we how do we reclaim our
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  Speaker 2: intentionality and actually make choices that that match our goals?
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  Speaker 3: Well that's that's where this blog posts from the Reclaim
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  Speaker 3: movement came in. Right. I had this really this really
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  Speaker 3: interesting concept they call an awareness day.
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  Speaker 2: An awareness day Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Basically, it's it's about actively noticing, you know, all the
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  Speaker 3: things in our lives that are designed to reduce movement
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  Speaker 3: and effort, and often that's that's not doing us any favors.
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  Speaker 2: An awareness day Okay, I I like that because it's
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  Speaker 2: not about you know, suddenly cutting out all convenience, like
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  Speaker 2: going cold turkey, you're going to live in a cabin
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  Speaker 2: in the woods. It's it's just about noticing those moments,
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  Speaker 2: you know, when we're when we're choosing comfort over challenge
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  Speaker 2: and maybe just asking ourselves like is this really working
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  Speaker 2: for me?
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  Speaker 3: Exactly? And what I thought was was smart about their
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  Speaker 3: approach the Reclaim Movement was that they talk about how
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  Speaker 3: our environments are like designed to minimize discomfort. Okay, you know,
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  Speaker 3: you think about it, escalators everywhere, we've got remote controls,
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  Speaker 3: even our office chairs, you know they're all ergonomic. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and while those things are good, they can also make
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  Speaker 3: us less less tolerant of discomfort. Yeah, you know, even
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  Speaker 3: a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: So we're we're like conditioned to just avoid discomfort.
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  Speaker 3: It seems like, yeah, in a way, I think we are.
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  Speaker 3: And the and the Reclaim Movement folks, they say that
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  Speaker 3: that aversion to discomfort, it can actually be bad for us,
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  Speaker 3: like for our well being, you know. And they were
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  Speaker 3: saying like the more used to comfort we get, the
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  Speaker 3: less resilient we become mentally and physically.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so how do we how do we actually use
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  Speaker 2: this Awareness Day idea to you know, to break What
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  Speaker 2: can we actually do to be okay with a little
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  Speaker 2: discomfort in our lives?
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  Speaker 3: Well, they had some pretty simple ideas the Reclaim movement,
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  Speaker 3: like like choosing to walk or bike instead of automatically driving,
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  Speaker 3: even if it takes a little longer, you know, Or
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  Speaker 3: what about taking the stairs instead the elevator. It all
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  Speaker 3: adds up.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, I have to admit the elevators might go
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  Speaker 2: to especially at the end of the day, right.
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  Speaker 3: But it's like those little things, you know, like even
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  Speaker 3: just carrying your groceries instead of using a cart. It
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  Speaker 3: all makes a difference, little ways to challenge ourselves physically. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it used to be an uncomfortable you know.
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  Speaker 2: That makes me think about something else, This idea that
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  Speaker 2: like discomfort can actually make us grow. It seems like
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  Speaker 2: kind of backwards, right, we want to avoid pain, but
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  Speaker 2: now we're saying maybe we should like lean into it
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  Speaker 2: a little.
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  Speaker 3: It's more about, I think, changing how we think about
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  Speaker 3: being uncomfortable. Like the Reclaim movement, they talk about this
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  Speaker 3: difference between discomfort and like actual pain, right right, Like
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  Speaker 3: discomfort that's just that feeling when you're pushing yourself, you know,
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  Speaker 3: when you're learning something new and it feels weird or hard.
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  Speaker 3: But that's where the growth happens. Right.
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  Speaker 2: So it's not about like purposely hurting ourselves or anything.
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  Speaker 2: It's more about being okay with discomfort because because it's
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  Speaker 2: part of growing, if we avoid it all the time,
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  Speaker 2: we might miss out exactly.
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  Speaker 3: And this isn't just about like physical stuff, you know,
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  Speaker 3: oh okay, It's about our relationships, our jobs, anything where
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  Speaker 3: we want to grow and really feel fulfilled, having those
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  Speaker 3: tough conversations we don't want to have, or trying to
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  Speaker 3: learn new things even if we're scared of messing up.
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  Speaker 2: So as we wrap up this deep dive, then on
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  Speaker 2: you know, the unexpected cost of comfort. It sounds like
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  Speaker 2: it's not about like never having convenience, right, or living
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  Speaker 2: like a monk or something. It's more about finding that
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  Speaker 2: middle ground.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's a that's a good way to
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  Speaker 3: put it.
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  Speaker 2: Knowing when when wanting things to be easy is actually
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  Speaker 2: good for us, and when it might be holding us
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  Speaker 2: back from something better.
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  Speaker 3: It's like asking ourselves, you know, what am I really
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  Speaker 3: going for here? Am I choosing the easy thing now?
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  Speaker 3: Or am I choosing what will make me feel really
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  Speaker 3: good later. It's something to think.
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  Speaker 2: About, definitely, because at the end of the day, I
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  Speaker 2: think we all want to be comfortable and also feel
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  Speaker 2: like our lives have meaning, and maybe maybe those two
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  Speaker 2: things can go together. Maybe it's about being okay with
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  Speaker 2: a little discomfort when we're trying to grow, knowing that
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  Speaker 2: those challenges they can help us find our strengths and
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  Speaker 2: really feel fulfilled. So next time you're about to choose
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  Speaker 2: the easy way, take a second, you know, ask yourself,
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  Speaker 2: is this really really what's best for me? The answer
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  Speaker 2: might surprise you.
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