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Your Identity Always Wins · Revolution of Purpose Podcast

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  Welcome to the Revolution of Purpose podcast.
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  I'm your host, Jon Street,
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  and each week we bring you conversations
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  with thought leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals
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  who have aligned their life with purpose
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  and created extraordinary results.
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  So I'm gonna live through it and accept it radically
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  with grace and hope and love.
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  I mean, I would be proud to be in this house.
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  It was an honor.
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  I had so much fun.
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  Tune in every Monday
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  for the Revolution of Purpose solo show
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  and every Thursday for Revolution of Purpose Conversation.
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  Welcome back to the Revolution of Purpose podcast.
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  Last week, I introduced what I've come to call
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  the law of identity transformation.
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  And I shared the idea
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  that manifestation is not the miracle.
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  Transformation is the miracle.
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  Manifestation is simply the visible evidence
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  that identity has already changed.
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  And since that episode aired,
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  I have heard from so many of you
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  asking more about this principle.
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  And I've been thinking about something.
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  If identity really creates our external world,
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  then why do so many people struggle
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  to create lasting change?
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  Why do we set goals?
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  Why do we feel motivated or have breakthrough moments
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  only to find ourselves slipping back into old habits,
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  old relationships, old toxic things in our life,
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  old fears, old addictions, old results?
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  And I think the answer is surprisingly simple.
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  Your identity always wins.
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  Here's something I've been observing.
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  Every one of us has an internal picture
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  of who we believe we are.
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  Psychologist Maxwell Maltz called it our self-image.
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  Whether it's accurate or not,
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  your mind works very hard to keep your life consistent
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  with that picture.
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  Think about a thermostat for a moment.
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  If you set your thermostat to 70 degrees,
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  and the air conditioner will work together
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  to keep your room at 70 degrees,
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  your identity functions much the same way.
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  It becomes an internal thermostat,
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  and it keeps down what you believe.
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  Even if deep down you believe I'm always broke,
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  then your thermostat's gonna say I'm always broke.
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  You'll unconsciously make decisions
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  that keep returning you there.
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  If you believe I'm not worthy of love,
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  then my friends, you'll often tolerate relationships
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  that reinforce that belief.
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  If you believe I'm unhealthy,
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  then your habits will quietly pull you back
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  toward that identity.
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  It isn't because you're lazy.
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  It isn't because you're cursed.
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  It's because your identity
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  is trying to stay internally consistent.
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  And this explains something
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  that most of us have experienced.
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  Willpower can create temporary behavior.
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  Identity creates permanent behavior.
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  Think about someone who says, I'm trying to quit smoking.
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  Compare that with someone who says, I don't smoke.
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  One is resisting temptation,
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  but the other is expressing identity
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  and doing it with confidence.
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  Or how about someone who says, I'm trying to exercise.
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  I'm trying to get to the gym.
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  Versus someone who says, I am an athlete.
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  I am athletic.
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  I do healthy things.
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  I am healthy.
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  It's the same activity, but it's a different identity.
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  One requires constant motivation
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  and the other just feels natural.
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  That's why diets often fail.
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  People change what they eat
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  without changing who they believe they are.
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  Eventually, identity pulls our behavior back home.
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  So we match the thermostat that we're used to.
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  But here's the encouraging news.
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  Identity is not something that you're born with.
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  It's something you build.
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  Not by pretending, not by positive thinking,
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  not by repeating affirmations
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  that you secretly don't believe.
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  You build identity through evidence.
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  Every promise that you keep to yourself becomes evidence.
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  Every courageous conversation becomes evidence.
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  Every workout becomes evidence.
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  Every generous act becomes evidence.
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  Every difficult decision that you make is a vote for you
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  and it becomes evidence little by little.
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  Your brain begins updating its story.
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  Your neuropathways begin to shift
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  and you stop saying, I hope I'm disciplined.
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  Instead, I've become someone who follows through.
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  This is why I love James Clear's observation
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  that every action is a vote
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  for the type of person you wish to become.
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  I think those votes eventually become an election
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  and eventually the new identity wins.
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  As the late Bob Proctor said,
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  if you can see it in your mind,
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  you can hold it in your hand.
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  And you hold it not just through manifestation,
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  but by becoming the person that holds it in your hand.
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  This has changed the way I pray.
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  It's changed the way that I set goals.
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  It has changed the way I coach others.
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  I no longer ask first, what do I need to get?
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  I ask, who would naturally create that?
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  Who is the person that creates my healthiest body?
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  Who is the person that creates my thriving marriage?
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  Who is the person that creates my meaningful business?
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  Who is the person that creates peace?
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  Who am I as the person that creates abundance
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  in every area of my life and of all the lives that I touch?
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  And then I ask, what is one thing
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  that that person would do today?
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  Not someday, today.
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  Because today's actions become today's evidence.
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  Today's evidence strengthens tomorrow's identity.
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  Tomorrow's identity shapes tomorrow's life.
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  And over time, manifestation becomes inevitable.
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  Not because you are forcing reality,
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  but because reality is catching up to who you've become.
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  I love to use the analogy of a star
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  when you're thinking about reality.
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  When you look up at the night sky, you see a star.
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  And it seems very real to you in the present.
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  But you're not actually seeing it in the present.
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  You're looking thousands of years ago
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  at a star that existed then.
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  But because of the speed of light
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  and the distance of which that star is away,
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  you're seeing it in the present.
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  You're looking into the past.
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  That past created the vision of that star you see today.
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  And my friends, our reality is the exact same thing.
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  What we do yesterday, last week, a month ago, a year ago,
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  is creating the reality that we see today.
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  If you've ever found yourself asking questions like,
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  why am I here?
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  And now, let's get you back to today's episode.
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  We're manifesting it from behind.
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  We are being that person years ago
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  that we're living out today.
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  And so if you don't like that reality
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  that you see in front of yourself,
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  then decide today that you're going to become
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  the person that does different things.
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  Your identity is going to shift
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  so that you can manifest a different reality.
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  It's beautiful to know that we have that power
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  to change the life around us.
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  And it begins with who we believe that we are.
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  I'd like to leave you with one thought today.
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  Most people spend their lives
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  trying to change their circumstances.
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  But very few spend their lives
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  changing the person creating those circumstances.
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  But that's where the real power lies.
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  If last week's question was, who am I becoming?
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  Then this week's question is,
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  what evidence am I giving myself today?
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  What evidence am I building
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  that I have become a different person?
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  What promise am I keeping to myself?
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  You know, often we break promises to ourselves
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  that we would never break to other people.
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  If you wish your reality to change,
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  keep those promises to yourself
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  when you don't feel like it,
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  when it's something that's overwhelming you,
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  when it's something that you really would rather
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  just do anything else than that,
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  keep the promise to yourself.
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  There's that analogy that
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  if you know that you have to eat a frog,
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  if you think all day, I've got to eat this frog,
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  I don't want to eat this frog,
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  why do I have to eat this frog?
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  And all day you do nothing but worry about eating the frog,
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  you'll get nothing done until finally you eat the frog.
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  Eat the frog first.
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  If there's something that you really hate doing,
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  challenge yourself to do it first,
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  do it at the beginning of the day, eat that frog
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  so that the rest of the day
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  you can actually run after your passions.
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  Reality is like a mirror.
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  When we look in the mirror,
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  if we do not like what we see,
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  we don't just change mirrors,
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  no, we have to change ourselves.
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  And that's the same thing with manifestation,
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  it's the same thing with reality,
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  it's the same thing with the life that we're living,
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  if we feel stuck,
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  if we feel like we are just going through the motions
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  but not leaving a legacy,
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  if we feel like we are not tapped into our greatness,
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  we can't keep changing mirrors,
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  we have to change ourselves.
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  Because every decision, every habit, every conversation,
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  every promise you keep is casting another vote
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  for who you are becoming.
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  And eventually that identity becomes so strong,
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  that manifestation isn't something that you chase anymore,
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  it's simply something that naturally grows
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  from the life that you've become,
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  you naturally create from the life that you've become.
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  If this episode encouraged you,
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  I would love to hear from you,
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  please leave a comment, send me a message
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  and tell me what identity
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  are you intentionally building right now?
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  And until next time, remember,
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  your purpose is not something you find,
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  it's something you choose to live.
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  So go become someone
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  and watch what you create through your becoming.
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  Go make today another step
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  in your personal revolution of purpose.
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  Thank you.
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  Thank you so much for spending this time with me today.
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  and start living with greater clarity
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  Until next time, remember,
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  your purpose is not something you find.
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  It is something you awaken to
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  and then you choose to live it.
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  Go make today another step
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  in your own revolution of purpose.