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STSE #60: Adolescent Angst · Sometimes There's Side Eye

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  Welcome to Sometimes Their Side Eye, a podcast about two friends
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  having real and unfiltered conversations about dogs and
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  people. Listen as we talk about our
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  lives with dogs, training, behavior, share some laughs and
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  a whole lot of banter. I'm Heather.
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  And I'm Christy. What are we talking about this
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  week, Christy? This week we're going to talk
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  about how concerned we should be with teenage dog behaviors.
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  Oh, what inspired this one? We both have teenage dogs who
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  have behaviors. Imagine that we have dogs and
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  they have behaviors. Oh my goodness.
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  You know what's really funny? When you told me this topic I
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  was like I didn't even think about.
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  Trin. Oh my goodness.
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  I thought about this story I wanted to tell about Thiago, OK?
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  Well, that's good. Oh gosh, do you have an
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  inspiring story? Maybe it's not inspiring.
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  Maybe it's like made you cry. I don't know.
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  Teenage. Teenage.
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  Behaviors can be tough. They can be.
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  And one thing I was thinking as I was walking Jackson the other
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  day is when I first got him, the first few weeks I told Heather,
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  even though I'm not adopting him, it is really nice to have a
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  dog. I don't have to worry about
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  watching for other dogs or people.
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  Like I can just walk and it's no big deal.
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  And that lasted for a while. And then he decided that people
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  were very suspicious if they didn't have a dog with them.
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  So then he started barking at people and growling at them.
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  It's it really started with like a woman doing yoga in the park.
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  And he was like. You're not supposed to be
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  sitting on the ground in the middle of the park like that.
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  He found that. Very offensive.
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  Yeah, And then it just grew from there to where he would just
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  bark and growl at people as we walked along.
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  And I thought, oh, I'm gonna have to deal with this forever.
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  This is his. This is who he is now.
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  And. It's not aggressive.
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  It's not, but it is. It's fearful.
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  And it's disconcerting to see and.
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  Yeah, yeah, absolutely, 'cause I really wanted a friendly dog and
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  people are not intimidated by him.
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  So a lot of people are like, what a cute dog, let me come see
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  him. I'm like, no, you can't because
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  he's gonna growl at you and bark at you.
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  A boof he more. Boofs at I.
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  Would say it's a boof. Yeah, in.
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  Combination. Yeah.
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  And so the other day I was walking and I realized he's
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  really outgrown that he doesn't bark at people.
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  He he, what he does now is he mostly ignores that.
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  He watches people, but he mostly ignores them.
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  And then if they say hello to me or him, his eyes get big and he
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  like, whips his head back and whips like what?
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  They're talking to us. And I, I give him a treat and
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  then he moves on and he's like, oh, OK, they must be OK.
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  It's fine. Well, and like, when you started
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  fostering him, you were told he was 3-4 years old, and then you
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  spent a moment with him and you were like, yeah, no.
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  And then I spent a moment with him and I was like, yeah, girl,
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  you got yourself an adolescent. So he's in that mode or that
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  space of time where, you know, one to three, they can change,
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  they're maturing, you know, all the hormones depending on the
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  dog, all those things are happening.
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  So it it's reasonable to kind of be like, oh, I thought I signed
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  up for a full adult here and now all of a sudden I have an
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  adolescent. And then to kind of take a step
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  back and say, oh, wait, hold on a second.
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  Like these, things could change. Yeah, yeah.
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  So I was concerned that he he was only going to like people
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  with dogs then moving. Forward.
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  And that that doesn't really fit into my life.
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  It really doesn't. So it was a concern, so I did
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  treat it as as if it was going to possibly be a problem.
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  Yes, which? I think we should hope for the
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  best, but train for. The worst this.
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  Being. Permanent behavior.
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  Yeah, and I do think his behavior was was influenced by
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  training too, that we we stopped approaching people, we stopped
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  letting people approach him. We walk with two other dogs
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  sometimes and and those dogs are very friendly.
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  And so people come up all the time and say hello.
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  And when people come up to say hello, he often will act like he
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  kind of wants to go in. We just walk.
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  He doesn't actually want to go in.
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  He gets in there and then he's like, oh, I think I'm in over my
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  head. I don't think I like this
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  actually. So what we do is we just keep
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  walking and let the other dogs catch up with us once strangers
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  are done petting them. Well, you also have gotten to
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  know him and you learned his personality and then you learned
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  what he was comfortable with, what he wasn't.
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  And he has learned to trust you. And you 2 have built this
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  relationship. So I mean, it makes sense that
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  everything's going to change over time.
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  And it is interesting to have the two different perspectives
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  because I'm going to tell a story about Thiago, like of you
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  entering into owning this new dog who, oh, surprise, it's an
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  adolescent. And so you don't know.
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  I mean, you know stories you've been told about his background,
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  but you don't actually have facts about his background.
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  You don't know how he was raised as a puppy.
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  You don't know the situation with his mom when she was
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  pregnant with the puppies. There's so many things that go
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  into it. And so you're working off of,
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  OK, what do I see in front of me right now?
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  And so it's one way to go about it where we were just sitting
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  there being like, OK, what are we seeing?
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  What do we know about Jackson? What it, what is he OK with?
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  What is he not? What's triggering him?
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  What is not? And kind of, and I feel like
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  there was a little time where you and I just sort of sat there
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  and went not really sure what to do.
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  Yeah, you know, Yeah, there was. That's OK, that's fine.
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  Yeah, 'cause that was my friend. Kara had come over.
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  Hi, Kara. Hi, Kara.
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  And he barked at her for like 45 minutes.
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  Like just. Barked at your house?
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  And she was already inside the house.
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  She's sitting eating with me. He's still barking.
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  It's very annoying. And, and then all of a sudden he
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  decided she was safe. We involved some treats and she
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  decided he, he decided she was pretty safe.
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  And then by the end, he was rolled over on his belly.
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  They were good friends. He had his head on her lap.
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  He decided she was great. And she is great, like what the
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  hell? Jack said.
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  But she does not have a dog right now, so.
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  Yeah. And so then when another friend
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  was coming over, I said, hey, my dog might bark at you, but I'm
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  gonna try some different things. And Heather and I had talked
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  through several different options and really weren't
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  coming up with anything solid. True.
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  And so I just thought, OK, you know what I'm gonna do?
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  I'm just gonna be really excited when that car pulls up and I'm
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  putting a whole bag of treats that I know he loves outside of
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  the door. So when my friend comes in,
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  she's just going to pick up the treats, have them in her hands
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  and just start doling them out. And I said if he has an upset
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  stomach tomorrow, who cares? Yeah, he can have the whole bag
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  of treats today because we are going to make sure he makes a
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  correlation that people coming over are at who are invited in
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  are OK and a good, good thing. So it went so much better.
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  Well, and it kind of goes along with how, because this happens
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  sometimes too, when you're out and about how I was saying to of
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  essentially putting on cue, hey, that's a friend, you know,
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  that's someone who is OK. And I think that because you are
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  building all this trust with Jackson, because you're doing
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  all these sports and you're doing all this training, there
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  is a level of like a platform where you're kind of working off
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  of, like, you've already built this foundation.
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  So when you teach him this cue to be like, this is a friend,
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  you know it, He can kind of look to you and be like, all right,
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  like, you haven't steered me wrong so far.
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  And so, yeah, we did. Start doing that practice.
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  We started saying like, oh, there's our friend.
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  There's our friend and he would be like, oh, OK, that's
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  exciting. Isn't it funny how sometimes
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  just like, changing the tone of your voice even when they don't
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  know what the hell you're talking about, changes their
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  mindset so much that it's exactly that's all it needs, you
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  know? Right.
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  And I really thought originally that it would be helpful.
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  I had a friend's dog over a lab who's extremely friendly and I
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  thought that will be a confidence booster for him.
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  With our friend Kara, unfortunately, she is also a
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  Barker when people come up. And I did not think through that
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  being an issue. But once she started barking,
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  Jackson was like, oh, oh, she doesn't like this lady.
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  So like, it's a problem. And of course, as soon as Kara
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  came in, the lab was like, hey, cool friends here.
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  But Jackson was like, no, I've already made-up my mind.
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  It's it's terrible. Everything's bad.
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  Yeah, with my situation with Tiago, I mean, everybody knows.
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  Got him from a breeder. He was like 9 1/2 weeks old when
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  he came home. He's perfection.
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  He has perfection. I worked really hard on, you
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  know, socialization. So unfortunately as well, he has
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  this elbow problem and he had to have elbow surgery right before
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  his 2nd birthday. And two to three is really
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  critical. I find in and I'm, it could be
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  all working dogs, but for me, Rottweilers, I find male
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  Rottweilers especially, it's like a really critical time
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  where they are maturing and they are getting their big boy pants
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  on and they really need continued exposure and training.
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  And really, really, I don't want to say strong but clear
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  guidelines of what is acceptable and what is not.
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  They're kind of sewing the roads a little bit.
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  And unfortunately for Tiago, he had this surgery at 2:00 and his
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  recovery was six months. And for I think it was, it was
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  definitely 14 weeks. It might have been 16 of that.
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  He was in an X pen 24/7, like he had to potty on a leash and that
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  was pretty much it. He was not allowed to do
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  anything. So this dog went from going
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  everywhere, doing all the things to the absolute worst time in
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  his life to be in a cage for six months.
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  And he was not cleared by the surgeon to go back to starting
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  obedience and whatnot until he was about a little over 2 1/2
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  years old. And I So when I had my first
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  Rottweiler link, I had neck surgery on like myself when he
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  was in this critical period. And.
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  Yeah, and he was, I mean, look, his genetics were terrible.
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  I mean, he was always meant to be like a reactive, genetically
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  unsound dog, unfortunately. But I really felt that I had
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  like exacerbated that because I couldn't do anything with him
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  for a year after, like during that time.
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  OK so now Fast forward to Tiago same time period for a different
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  reason and I take him back. The 1st place that I take him
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  when he's released is to barn hunt and I get him out of the
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  car and he fucking boofs off in a reactive mess.
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  And I just in my mind, I'm like, Oh my God, I ruined my dog.
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  Like he now he's reactive like Link.
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  I'm never gonna fix this. It's gonna be horrible.
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  He's an he's a, he's a mature adult now.
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  You know this is the rest of my life.
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  Yes, yeah. Down the rabbit hole I go of
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  complete terror and chaos. I mean, I probably cried all the
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  way home, to be honest, if I but and I don't think I had Christy
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  like really in my life at that time to really have the kind of
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  conversations that I would need to have because he would have.
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  I knew we knew each other. Yeah, but I don't.
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  It wasn't like now where you're my. 1st 2:00.
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  Person Yeah. And you would have talked me off
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  that ledge immediately, but it took me a moment to really talk
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  myself off that ledge and sort of be like, OK, you know, this
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  dog, you know his temperament, you know his background, his
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  pedigree, you know, the training and everything you've put in.
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  This is a moment in time. And now we have to rewind, go
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  back to the basics and remind him how we behave in public and
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  what is OK and what is not OK. Yeah.
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  And it was tough for a little bit there, yeah.
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  Because it wasn't instant. No, it wasn't.
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  You worked. At it.
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  It got better it once we got over the hump, then it got
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  better quickly, but it took a little time.
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  I had someone tell me that I needed to put a prong collar on
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  him, which I ended up not doing. I, I sort of took the approach
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  of, Hey, I really want to like put my head down and like try to
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  work on this the way I think I know I can work on it and the
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  way I think my dog can, can be successful.
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  And if that doesn't work, then I will work up the, the tree, you
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  know, then I will go to whatever the next step is.
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  And I never had to do that, thankfully, or however you want
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  to say that I didn't. But it probably, like, I think
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  it took me about six months until I felt confident that he
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  was not going to act a fool. And probably some of that was
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  longer than it needed to be only because of my past experience
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  and me not trusting. But that's part of the process.
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  Like, we're A-Team. If I don't trust in him as a
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  handler and trust him where we're at, right then, then it
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  doesn't work. Yeah.
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  So I really feel like Heather today would have been less
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  likely to go down, like, that whole rabbit hole and just been
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  like, hey, he's OK. This is a moment.
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  He's an adolescent. But it took me a while to sort
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  of, yeah, not wrecked myself. Do you think he would have
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  changed the training at all or just not going down the rabbit
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  hole? I wouldn't have changed how I
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  did anything. Yeah, because you would.
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  Have addressed the issue. I think I just.
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  Would have been, not. As hard on myself.
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  Yeah, not as as frantic. About it, yes, I think I would
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  have been more easier on my, my own emotions because I was never
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  hard on him. Of course.
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  I I just wouldn't have gotten like so in my feels about it and
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  been like, hey, these things happen.
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  It's an adolescent boy. He's got his balls.
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  He just spent six months in prison, like, solitary, watching
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  other dogs play around him and couldn't do anything.
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  So yeah, but I do. I really do think that sometimes
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  we have this moment with our adolescent dogs and it's like
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  the whole world is crashing down.
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  Yeah. And I think the danger is to go
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  the other direction also and say, well, they'll just grow out
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  of it. They'll just grow out of it.
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  Jackson obviously loves like I've never met a dog that loves
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  other dogs so much. But agility, it's interesting
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  because he he started becoming crate reactive to other dogs.
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  And I was shocked, like if you could see my face when the first
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  time it happened, I was like, what is happening?
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  And so I had to implement immediately.
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  Of course, I, I talked to Heather and then I think through
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  how can I implement some protocols where he doesn't have
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  to deal with whatever emotions he's dealing with.
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  And one of the things is it was very convenient to put my crate
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  right by the gate so that I don't have to.
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  I carry it so far because it's heavy and it's faulty.
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  And, and so I didn't want to carry it back and forth to the
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  car for very long. So I was like, OK, suck it up.
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  Like go to the other end of the field, the far end where nobody
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  wants to be because they all want to be by the gate.
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  And guess what? That helped a lot.
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  Yeah, because I feel like that was such frustration for him.
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  Absolutely was, yeah, a lot of frustration.
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  And I also learned to, if I felt like he was starting into that
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  frustration mode, I would stay by his kennel and toss treats.
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  And so he was still working with me instead of just sitting there
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  amping up. Yeah, yeah.
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  Yeah, I've seen. Well, we went to a trainer who
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  had a very crate reactive dog and I always would ask how that
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  like, why doesn't she work on that with her dog?
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  Like it is her dog is like going after my Pitbull through the
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  paint and yeah. And I was like, oh, I don't
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  trust that dog. Or manage it.
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  Yeah, yeah. And and I wonder though, if she
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  thought he would just outgrow it and never really worked through
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  it. And then it became part of who
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  he was. Yeah.
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  'Cause he was going in there and the longer you let things go,
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  the harder it is than to come back from them.
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  Oh 100%. Let me tell you about my dog who
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  chases the TV. No.
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  Oh yeah. Oh my God, yeah, I think.
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  But I do really, really love the approach of don't assume the
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  worst, but make a training plan and, and just get to it because
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  what's the OK if you're overreacting and being like, Oh
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  my God, and you set up a training plan and you do this
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  whole thing right? And then it was never going to
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  be anything in the 1st place. One, you're never going to know.
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  And two, what did you get out of it?
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  You just trained your dog, spent some time and made some really
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  solid behaviors. Exactly.
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  Well, it's like a whole bunch of wins.
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  I mean, I remember us talking about the Jackson thing in the
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  parking lot at Barn Hunt, and I just kind of looked at you and I
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  was like, well, like, if you do this, what's the worst going to
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  happen? Yeah, exactly.
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  I mean, he learns to have a cue that says, hey, that's friendly,
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  OK, like. Who cares?
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  Yeah. Yeah, even.
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  If this isn't an ongoing problem, it's it's OK 'cause
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  we've trained it, yeah. You know, OK, I feel like I'm
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  just really do something terrible to myself here, but I,
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  I am not seeing anything in Trin adolescence wise well, that I
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  didn't already see out of. Like there's nothing new from
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  her as an adolescent yet that I'm like, ah, fuck the things
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  that I'm like, I wish that wasn't that way.
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  I knew we're going to be that way.
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  I saw in her as a young dog, right?
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  So dear God, please let there be nothing new but I.
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  Everybody's in hope and prayers. I know, but I find myself
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  instead with her as an adolescent seeing bright spots.
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  So I would say to you, if you are sort of struggling with
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  something in adolescence with your dog while you are working
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  and planning for, you know, your training plan and sort of
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  saying, hey, we're just going to work at this.
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  Also look for the bright spots because when you have an
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  adolescent dog, there are things that are happening that you're
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  like, oh crap, my foundation really did come through.
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  Should I tell the birdie story for example?
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  Yeah. I worked really hard with Trin
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  on her recall and her drop it, ask me why and earlier this week
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  she went out into the yard to do her regular perusing at 5:00 AM.
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  And I look and there she is with something in her mouth and I'm
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  like oh boy, I don't know what that is and I'm afraid to find
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  out. And I do my whole what do you
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  have? Let me see it.
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  And she actually dropped it and it was a dead bird.
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  Now first of all, for her to even do that is mind blowing.
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  I can't believe she dropped. It also I do want it noted she
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  did not kill the bird, she just found a dead bird.
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  Yeah, it was. It was already dried up.
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  I. Know.
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  And in this story's example, we do not have murder by my dog.
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  No. And I, I was 1 grossed out a
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  little bit, but two, really the first thing I thought was, holy
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  shit. Like, she dropped it.
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  This is a really big deal. And so like, that's a bright
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  spot, you know? And so I would encourage you as
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  you are making your way through adolescence, that, hey, this
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  could very well just be a snapshot in time.
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  They're growing, they're changing, they're becoming like
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  their little adult selves. And that if you have bright
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  spots to really kind of note them and celebrate them and just
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  know that those bright spots are a little, look hopefully into
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  your future with your adult dog. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Absolutely.
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  I would say I I'm glad that you have not seen some of those
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  adolescent things I feel like Jackson was full of.
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  Them. I mean, give it time, give it
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  time. She's not 2 yet.
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  She'll be two in August. Because I know that he had like
• 23:52
  just two incidents within a week over food with another dog
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  which. Oh, I forgot about that.
• 23:59
  Right. Yeah, so it was with.
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  Was it Bo Zephyr? No, it was Zephyr and then it
• 24:05
  was a large pit bull in my neighborhood.
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  Both big dogs. Interesting.
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  Yeah. One, it was interesting because
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  I was like, no, like he chews bones with the neighborhood dog.
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  He has no resource guarding and like, and then I was like,
• 24:20
  Heather, I can't live with a resource guarder like we're.
• 24:23
  So upset when it happened. I was, you were like really
• 24:27
  upset also because Zephyr was a puppy and you were like, Oh my
• 24:30
  God. Oh no, I just ruined that dog.
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  Zephyr's owner is not a huge fan of shepherds.
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  Yeah. And so that's true.
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  She was like, oh, your shepherd's so nice.
• 24:42
  I like he's the only shepherd. I tried and then he was like and
• 24:45
  I was like, Oh no, but. She didn't actually like, she
• 24:50
  loves Jackson, but it was really kind of a whole funny like turn
• 24:54
  of events. We were like, oh shit.
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  But I thought because I don't know his background, I don't
• 25:00
  know his heritage, I don't know, was his mom a resource Garter?
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  Was his dad a resource Garter? Like, I don't know.
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  But that doesn't matter. Genetics matter.
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  Genetics matter, but like you, it doesn't also mean that you
• 25:14
  need to slap a label on him is. What I mean, right.
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  But I was very concerned because and I also thought, Oh no, like
• 25:20
  my brother's dog is a resource Garter.
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  Yeah, this could be problematic in them peacefully coexisting
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  it. It had a lot of ramifications in
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  my life. I thought like what's
• 25:32
  interesting is the second one, after I thought about the
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  situation with the pit bull, his reaction was really to move the
• 25:41
  pit bull away so he could explore what was there.
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  So he was reactive and he did. He obviously was resource
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  guarded, but his reaction? How do I say this?
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  He was reacting so that he could be curious about what was there.
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  Not necessarily. Like I smelled the piece of food
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  and I want that and you may not have it.
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  That but also had Lucy reacted in that same way with teeth and
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  showing and barking and like moving the there's a very
• 26:16
  different intent than a shepherd because he 100% look like a dog
• 26:25
  who was hurting another dog away from the resource he.
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  Wanted as in hurting HERDING. Yes, not hurting.
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  Yes, hurting. Yes he was.
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  He was controlling the movement of the other dog.
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  Whereas those actions from my Pitbull would not have been for
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  the that intent. Those actions would have been
• 26:50
  because a, a fight is about to start.
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  And so there was a very different intent in those
• 26:58
  actions. And once I had a chance to kind
• 27:00
  of think through that, I was like, oh, he did look very, very
• 27:04
  much like a dog who wanted to control movement from another
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  dock. Yeah.
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  And thank goodness that Pitbull was just a St.
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  He was like. He was like, bloody, I didn't
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  care that much. I was just, there wasn't even
• 27:18
  food. He just sniffed the ground
• 27:20
  because they thought there was food.
• 27:21
  And then Jackson was like, oh, I think there's food there.
• 27:24
  I'm getting it. But.
• 27:25
  The point of that is that those two incidents happened very
• 27:28
  close to each other and you were distraught.
• 27:31
  I was distraught. And how many times has it
• 27:34
  happened since then? It it hasn't.
• 27:36
  Yeah, there was nothing. And, and Heather's OK, what is,
• 27:42
  what's the game plan? So you, you work through we, we
• 27:46
  need to start working on limiting times that that can
• 27:50
  happen. Also watching closely, you know,
• 27:54
  all these things, but also you're not getting rid of him
• 27:58
  if, if it really is an issue. So we just address the issue if
• 28:03
  it is an issue and then it wasn't an issue at all.
• 28:09
  No. It it was just a angsty teenage
• 28:12
  boy. Yeah, teenage boy.
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  And and for all we know, it could have been like an angsty
• 28:18
  teenage boy who was like completely trigger stacked by
• 28:22
  like 17 things we didn't even know about.
• 28:25
  Yeah, could have been. I'm trying to remind myself
• 28:28
  right now that Trin is she's probably going to go into
• 28:32
  season, like who knows, probably next Saturday when she's
• 28:35
  supposed to do our ORT gone. Into season yet?
• 28:38
  No, no. So I am also trying to remind
• 28:42
  myself like, OK, adolescent and also getting ready to go into
• 28:45
  her next heat cycle. And so if she's like a real mess
• 28:48
  right now, I probably need to just sort of put that on the
• 28:52
  shelf. So we should probably remember
• 28:54
  those things things too. Is your dog intact?
• 28:57
  Is it a boy? Is it a girl?
• 28:59
  Is is it a boy and there's a a bitching season in the house?
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  Is there an aging dog in the house that suddenly has an
• 29:06
  illness and you have an adolescent?
• 29:08
  It's not just your adolescent dog.
• 29:12
  It's also all the things that are going around around on
• 29:16
  around that adolescent dog that could be contributing to
• 29:20
  whatever's going on with them as they're going through this
• 29:23
  little angsty phase. Yeah, and I think it's almost
• 29:27
  like human teenagers where this is a learning phase.
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  They a mess. They're a mess, They're.
• 29:33
  A. Little bit angsty and hormonal.
• 29:38
  They're figuring out who they are, but also there's new
• 29:42
  experiences that feel really scary and there can be a couple
• 29:47
  different ways that they experience those new where it's
• 29:51
  they stay in that fear. For example, when Jackson saw a
• 29:55
  tractor for the first time, super scary.
• 29:58
  So I had the option to let him just stay in the fear.
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  I had the option to say no, you you can't be afraid of it.
• 30:05
  It's nothing that doesn't work to.
• 30:08
  Say like, hey. Do you do you feel comfortable
• 30:11
  exploring it? Do you feel comfortable moving
• 30:14
  towards it? How about we just stand here and
• 30:16
  look at it and kind of like you would with your, your teenager?
• 30:20
  There's parents, parents who are like, don't be stupid, that's
• 30:22
  not scary. And then there's parents who are
• 30:25
  like, just ignore it. Like it'll be fine.
• 30:27
  I don't just. And then there's parents who are
• 30:30
  like, let's talk through this, like, why is that scary?
• 30:33
  How can we overcome some of those fears?
• 30:36
  Offering support. Yeah, and that's what.
• 30:39
  I want as as a owner of a teenage dog, I want to be there
• 30:43
  to support. In fact, just before this
• 30:45
  podcast, I I went to move the shower curtain and the whole rod
• 30:50
  fell down. Oh no.
• 30:52
  And Jackson was right. There, so it almost fell on him
• 30:55
  and I caught it, but but then we had to work through 'cause that
• 30:58
  was very scary. So it worked through.
• 31:01
  Do you want to? See it and the shower curtain is
• 31:04
  still on the floor because we're going to go back and readdress
• 31:06
  it in the in the room. No, after this, 'cause we're
• 31:10
  going to give it a few hours and then see if it's still scary,
• 31:13
  'cause I don't think it's going to be scary in a while, yeah.
• 31:17
  So I would just say adolescent dogs, keep in mind what you know
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  about your dog, your relationship with your dog, your
• 31:26
  training habits with your dog and what you've built already.
• 31:30
  Keep in mind the environment around them, the other animals
• 31:33
  and people they're interacting with.
• 31:36
  Keep in mind their status. Are they intact?
• 31:40
  Are they not? And then just remind yourself
• 31:44
  that this really is a snapshot in time, and better to prepare
• 31:48
  for the worst and make it a training program that way.
• 31:51
  Yeah, we. Can't.
• 31:52
  We can't ignore it and pretend it's not happening.
• 31:55
  Well, we shouldn't, right? Please don't.
• 31:59
  I guess we can, but we shouldn't.
• 32:01
  Let's not pretend you know it's not happening, but also let's
• 32:07
  not think it's the end of the world.
• 32:09
  Yeah. Because it may be nothing, but
• 32:13
  it's not going to hurt to train through some of these things.
• 32:16
  Yeah, all of these things, Yeah. And.
• 32:20
  Like, oh Gee, darn, an excuse to train your dog.
• 32:23
  It'll be better for both of you and to build that relationship.
• 32:27
  Of trust and support, yeah. And make it even.
• 32:29
  Stronger, yes. I agree.
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