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Season 2 - Episode 165 - Becoming a better listener · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today, we are talking about listening skills for me as a
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  coach. One of the most important things
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  in the whole world is to be able to listen and hear what people
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  are telling me. And really like, there's a
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  difference between hearing. Yes, my ears can hear, but work
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  can get me to the end result. However, listening involves so
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  much more and listening skills are really not taught in school
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  when we're a little, believe me. I know I was never Listening
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  skills, and I had to really learn them when I got into
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  coaching and had to go into these in depth trainings, where
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  you were forced to learn through listening and hearing things
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  that were not necessarily even being said.
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  And so the listening part of life, I think is a very missing
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  communication skill that we all suffer from.
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  You know, you can be in a crowded place and someone will
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  hear something, and they'll say, did you hear that?
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  You're like, no. Or you can be in the dead quiet.
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  Like, my husband has ears that are tuned for listening for
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  creatures. Like, like, I've never seen it
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  in my life. When we move to South Carolina,
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  he started listening for everything and he took classes
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  and he got his master naturalist certification.
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  During that class, he was taught to hear like just pay attention
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  with different ears and he can pick things out, he can identify
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  frogs by the sounds. Toads by the sounds they make.
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  Which to me is fascinating, I can say, oh, it's a frog or oh,
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  it's a toad. But I can't tell you what kind
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  it is and he can. And that's just a different
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  level of listening. What?
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  I am really good at is picking up on the tonalities in which
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  people are saying things. Even though the words are saying
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  one thing, the sounds are saying another, the energy it comes
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  with the feeling the emotion and that took time and Effort and
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  real practice to an end, dwarf that into asking questions about
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  it. And why is this important in
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  your life? One because you have to listen
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  to yourself, you really have to be able to listen to that, slow
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  low, inner dialogue. That's going off in your head.
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  That's trying to communicate things to you.
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  That we are not in tune to listening to we're in tune to
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  shutting it down. We're into saying, ah, it's
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  nothing just move on, carry on, but you What you have to listen
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  to it because it is giving you information.
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  It's giving you Vital Information in the more, you
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  don't listen to it. The more that information will
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  keep pecking at you and the pun was intended since I'm in the
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  chicken coop. It'll just keep going at you.
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  So it's imperative like, really imperative to be smart.
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  And say, you know what, this, I'm going to pay attention to
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  this. I'm going to listen to our or
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  why is that? Just keep repetitively showing
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  up. It's not funny.
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  I don't like that. So that's a piece of it, just
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  for yourself. The second level of it is those
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  around you. The things that people are
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  communicating to you, but you're not necessarily taking in
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  because you're so stuck in your own head, in your own dialogue,
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  that you're not hearing them. Now, whether that's your kids,
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  your family, spouses Partners business, it doesn't matter,
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  everyone's communicating and if we pause and we actually listen
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  to what Dad. It's it gives us a superpower to
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  be able to help them as well as help ourselves.
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  Because if they're on our team and they're saying things, we
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  need to know what that unsaid messages, because that's the
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  trick in life, understanding that most people do have unsaid
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  messages, they do communicate that way.
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  And when you expect them to just be like, hey, I'm telling you
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  everything went, where doesn't work that way.
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  People just don't typically come out and do that.
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  They will. Come out and tell their stories,
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  they will make their stories be their identity.
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  They will do those things. But there are nuances that are
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  missing. And those nuances are the things
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  that help you identify about yourself and about them and
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  shift. And most people still to this
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  day, communicate what they want you to know.
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  But that's in those verb big verbal Communications.
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  That's not the subtleties that are really their drivers.
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  So if you're trying to lead a group, if you're trying to lead
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  yourself, if you're trying to lead in your family, you have to
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  understand those Noah nuances. And those leadership skills come
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  in again or it's like, huh, instead of being reactive.
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  I have to be proactive and I have to really listen and I have
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  to ask questions in ways that people can answer them based on
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  what I am hearing. So do yourself a favor, uplevel
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  your listening skills, just practice with simple things like
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  go out in the world today and just Listen to identifying
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  things that are barely being heard.
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  Like, here I am in the chicken coop this morning and you can
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  hear the chickens. You can hear all that, but if
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  you really listen, you can hear all the little bugs going off in
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  the background, you can hear all the different types of birds
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  because they're all flying in for breakfast at the feeders.
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  You can hear crows off in the distance.
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  You can hear. Oh that was right on cue.
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  Look how funny that is. You can hear the peacock way off
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  in the distance this morning. So, So many different sounds and
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  it's quote, unquote, quiet, people, come on, say all this.
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  Now quiet it is, but listen to all those little rooster way off
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  in the distance, not mine, but you can hear it all and that's
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  part of building the skills, listening for what's not being
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  heard. Okay, I hope you guys have a
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  very blessed day. I hope that this was helpful and
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  I will see you all tomorrow. Bye.