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OUR HUSBANDS: UNFILTERED! · Uncluttered and Unfiltered: The Podcast For Women Over 50

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  Welcome to Uncluttered and Unfiltered, the podcast urging
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  you to let it go and don't look back.
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  We've nationally acclaimed professional organizer Christine
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  Stone and self-proclaimed Hot Damn Mess radio and TV
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  personality Eden Kendall. Welcome everybody to Uncluttered
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  and Unfiltered, the podcast for women over 50.
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  You might find yourself getting a little more organized having
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  listened to it because half of us are professional organizers
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  and the other half, there's only two of us on the show.
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  The other half are like messes. But as you just heard in our
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  intro, we have special guests today.
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  And so I'll introduce my special guest and then Christine, you'll
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  introduce your special guest. And then before we get started
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  really delving into some questions and answers that we've
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  prepared, I just wanted to put a few subjects out there.
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  So please welcome my special guest.
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  He is my husband of 29 years. This is Steve, everybody.
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  Hello everyone. Hi, Steve.
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  Hey, Steve. And this is my husband, Mitch
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  Stone, and we will be married tomorrow, 36 years. 36. 36
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  right? I always ask him, I always
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  forget and he has to tell me so. We are actually recording this
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  on a Monday and so we really when I say we considered having
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  alcohol, we did involved in this recording.
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  We both looked at your schedule, schedules both of you guys, and
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  you have pretty important things you have to do moving forward in
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  the day. So we weren't, we were going to
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  do mimosas and we felt like that was a good idea to loosen
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  everyone up. So now you're just going to have
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  to pretend. You're loose.
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  You're loose on mimosas, OK. Yeah, very unproductive
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  afternoon. The first thing Mitch said when
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  he walked in and he goes this could cost us half our staff.
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  That's the lawyer speaking. So you guys, one of the things
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  we were talking about before we got started was Steve has a bump
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  on his head. You can't tell because he asked
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  me to bring my makeup and I did a good.
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  Job. Thank you, because I'm looking.
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  I can't even remember what side it's on.
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  I have bruised elbows. Christine, you have a bruised
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  shin. Oh my gosh.
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  Mitch, do you have any? Bruises.
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  Any bruises he normally does because he's a surfer.
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  Today, nothing. Everything is good.
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  Wow, that's. Amazing you're the only one.
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  Do you know how I bruised my shin?
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  I hit the laundry basket that was sitting on the floor, a
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  laundry basket, and I have a bruise that's been there for two
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  weeks. I thought you bruised it on the
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  generator walking through the tailgate at Florida.
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  Georgia. No, that was.
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  Tell the truth, that was the second time in one week so it's
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  never had a chance to heal because right when it was
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  healing, bam, I hit something else with my shin.
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  At the big football game. Tailgating party tailgate.
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  I'm sure there was alcohol involved there.
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  No. But our daughter was parading us
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  through a tailgate that we had no business being.
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  In Yeah. We brought the average age up by
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  about 40 years. The Wall Street Journal came out
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  with a story today, believe it or not, about parents partying
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  at their kids colleges. And we when we went to visit
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  both of our kids for their sorority and fraternity parents
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  weekends, we definitely did that.
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  But when I was a kid in college, when your parents came to visit,
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  you went out to a nice dinner and ditched your parents and you
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  went out with your friends. After.
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  Now, when you go visit your kids in college, there's an
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  expectation actually go out and be social, and they expect you
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  to hang with them. And the next day it's really
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  rough. Really rough.
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  I wasn't a big partier with the kids when they were in college.
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  I even back then I had a bedtime of nine.
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  I was never a really late night person.
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  Kids in college, they don't start till midnight.
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  Oh yeah, yeah. So Chris, you prepared some
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  questions for Steve and I have some questions for Mitch.
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  Is this a getting to know us? Yes.
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  Kind of deal. Yeah, the first thing is an
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  organizer, and because I did a whole series organizing Eden,
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  and if you haven't listened to it or seen it, you have to see
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  it. It's absolutely spectacular.
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  And so many tidbits and so useful.
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  You can hear it. You can also see it on our
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  Patreon page. Yes.
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  So I have to know, Steve, how has it been living in a newly
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  organized closet space with Eden?
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  It's definitely different because she can actually see
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  where everything is. There you go, Eden.
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  Thank you, Steve. And I have had people go, wow,
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  you have way too many clothes, Steve.
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  So I appreciate you guys putting me out there.
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  Yeah. Because she made a point to say
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  like, you have more than I do. Yeah, so I've been getting a lot
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  of grief from people I know listen to the podcast.
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  But it's it wasn't like it wasn't, it was sweatshirts.
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  It was guy things, you know what I mean?
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  It was a lot of sweatshirts and football stuff and football and
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  that kind of stuff. We can't throw those things.
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  Yeah, I got a lot about the T-shirt yesterday.
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  It's about time for that T-shirt to go.
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  And I'm like, it's so holes. In it, and he counts it as his
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  red shirt for any event that has to do with red, white and blue.
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  Like yesterday it was Veterans Weekend and he's wearing it as
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  his red shirt. And I'm like, that red shirt has
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  holes in it, but it's the only thing in this whole drawer that
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  is right. So yeah.
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  But we take pride when we have something that we go, hey, I've
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  had this for 25 years. It's.
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  So awesome, isn't it? What is the oldest thing item
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  you have Mitch? Do you have anything that you
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  still tried out or is it, let me guess, it's some old Gator?
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  As a matter of fact, it is. I, I had a case that brought me
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  to Gitmo of all places, when I was there meeting some people on
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  base who went to Florida and they go, you have to be a member
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  of the Guantanamo, Monomo Bay Gator Club.
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  So they gave me a shirt. I still have that shirt.
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  Every time she tries to get rid of it, I'm like, I can't get rid
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  of that shirt. Guantanamo Bay Gator Club.
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  That's actually so cool. I can see why you'd want to hang
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  onto that. Pretty sure that's about 20
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  years. Old You only have to make quite
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  a case for that when your wife is a professional.
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  Yes, yes. Be willing.
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  Do you have to do like a PowerPoint and explain why you
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  want to keep it? In my.
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  Can't leave it exposed. No, not at all.
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  OK, so you have to go. So my turn now.
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  So my question for Mitch is, given the fact that Christina is
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  a professional organizer and this is not a new way of living
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  for you, what is something that you have learned from her like a
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  a habit maybe that you've picked up or something that you've just
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  learned from being around her? That you could actually wipe up
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  the water in the on the sink after you get done brushing your
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  teeth. You found that out I.
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  Never knew that. That's amazing.
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  Why would you do that? And and is that something now
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  that you do? I do, and I even wipe the
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  mirror. He's so.
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  Proud of himself. Look how proud he is.
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  But I've never noticed the drops of water before.
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  I honestly have never even. It's not drops.
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  He is like a dolphin or a whale. He takes the water.
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  And. Sprays it all over everything
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  and I've never seen anything like that I find.
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  This hard to believe. Thank goodness.
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  Thank goodness you didn't end up with someone like me.
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  We would have that all the time. Self cleaning bathroom that just
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  close the door and it. Just yeah, with drains on the
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  floor and just a big tornado comes to see that.
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  Wouldn't bother you, would it? No it would not.
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  See so. And that's why I say thank
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  goodness we all landed with who we did because I don't even want
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  to know what kind of I'm still to this day trying to remember
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  to always wipe out my sink and see he's the neat ones.
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  He's the neat one there. So it's.
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  But isn't that funny though? So.
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  We'll we'll invent the self cleaning stainless steel
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  bathroom just to wipe down. Wouldn't that be great?
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  But even stainless steel, I can see Christine right now.
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  She's going, oh, the drops on stainless.
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  Yeah, I wouldn't do stainless, but.
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  Titanium. It would have to have one of
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  those giant fans like at the car wash that blows it, right.
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  So that's. What we need for his it off
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  there after he's been at the sink, it'll be like at the car
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  wash where it'll just blow all the water away.
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  It'd be great. But that's what I thought was
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  happening. I didn't realize that she was
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  going in there and wiping it down.
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  Nice. He would.
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  Love to have one butt in the push and then.
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  That in laundry. But isn't it funny though that
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  in most relationships it is opposites?
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  Because honestly if I were married to me it would probably
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  drive me insane. Or vice versa, if he was married
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  to someone who wasn't cleanly cleanliness then it would
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  probably drive him crazy. Yeah, I don't know why opposites
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  attract, but they do. They do.
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  They do, but. Yeah.
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  So we've established now like I'm the drops in the sink person
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  for sure. And so is Mitch.
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  OK, so I also have to say, I've learned so much from Eden doing
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  this podcast. So much I wouldn't even know
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  where to begin. So what's one thing you've
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  learned being married to Eden all these years?
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  The one thing I've learned is don't say no right off the bat
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  because I have. I guess I had a bad habit of
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  saying we should do this. No, we can't do that, it's not
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  possible. This is so I get called a
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  negative guy when I say no. So now I've learned to say yes,
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  at least try it, right? Like or maybe yes.
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  Make me out of my comfort zone. He's laughing because he's me.
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  I'm no, I we can't do that. Try it.
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  I'm just going. My point is, just try to be a
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  yes before and no if you can. If your instant answer is always
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  going to be yes or always going to be no, it should always be
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  maybe, I think. So I think I'm better.
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  You have so much back. I'm still.
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  Not a that's not a critique on how you were.
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  It's just we were so different like that.
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  I'd be like to move this couch here to there.
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  No, that won't work. Why don't we move the couch and
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  then decide if it's going to work?
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  Interesting. Very.
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  Part of that is because then we have to move the couch.
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  That's a huge part of it, but that also you got to remember
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  too. There's a flip side to
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  everything. Whereas I'm saying I'm a yes
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  person all the time. That can get me in trouble.
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  So thank goodness, right? For someone who's not always a
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  yes person, someone's a no person.
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  My beef might be you should be saying yes more, but maybe in
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  the reality it should be exactly how it is evened out.
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  Yeah, because you can't say yes to everything.
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  That's my thought. And you and I have that same
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  kind of conversation. There's a lot of times where I'm
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  like, why don't we try this? OK, but let's think about that.
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  And a lot of times you'll change your mind.
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  I'm around a yes. And a lot of times I'll change
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  my mind and realize that I'm very much into let's do it.
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  And then I realize what that would entail, right?
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  That's true. So what about you, Mitch?
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  You're a yes guy. Yes, First, Yeah.
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  Yes. First, which is, I have to admit
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  it's probably not as good to do that all the time because people
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  ask you to do, Oh yeah, sure, I'll do that.
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  And then you realize, what did I get myself into?
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  On the surface, it sounds like a really fun quality right sounds.
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  Would you rather be the yes guy or the no guy?
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  But in reality, when you're trying to keep your family
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  afloat, when you've got to take care of things and you want to
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  make sure that everybody's safe, you need a no guy.
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  Right, yes. So it balances it out, yeah.
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  Yeah, it's just so funny that you and I balance out.
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  We're each other's yin and Yang, and we found our own.
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  Yes, exactly. And Yang to go with that.
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  So that was a what question was that?
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  What have you learned? Yes.
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  OK, What is one thing that is totally different about the two
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  of you? That is night and day and how
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  long do we have to do this? Let.
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  Me, look at the clock real quick.
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  I would say the main thing is maybe organization and just the
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  overall cleanliness of the house.
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  And that's not like dirty, but it's just like.
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  A whirlwind. I was brought up in a house
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  where it was like pick that so me too thank my parents for
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  that. But even if we've all heard the
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  travel story where she lost my. Passport.
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  Oh my God. I'm the guy that's checking
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  phone, wallet, keys, passport, everything constantly and making
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  sure we have all the flight. So my family likes to give me a
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  hard time about being over the top of organization, but I like
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  to know where are we parking, what get to the airport early
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  and they're opposite of that. But secretly when I heard the
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  passport story secretly, because I know for me secretly you must
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  have said, God, this is good. I finally she did something.
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  We're in another country and she lost her passport.
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  Like secretly you had to say, I think I've proven my point here.
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  I said something secretly. I try to be as supportive as
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  possible. You think one thing he said is
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  I'll be holding your passport in the future, which is I'm fine
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  with that. I agree, I think he deserves the
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  right to hold your passport when you lose your passport when
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  you're in another country. I can't believe still they let
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  you back in. I know.
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  OK, so for those wondering, we were in LA, we just haven't
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  gotten through clearance yet to come into the country.
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  So yeah, we had landed in LA. OK, so you were already in the
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  United States? We were in the United States,
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  but we weren't in the United States.
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  In other words, I couldn't leave the room if go back and listen
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  to a couple of episodes and hear the story.
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  It was so good. No worse feeling.
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  Then you're in the line to go through customs and she's on the
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  floor emptying her entire backpack and I'm looking down
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  going, this is not going to be good, so.
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  Yeah, exactly. And I've seen.
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  You at least take a picture of your passport on your phone so
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  you can show it to. Them no.
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  And they asked me do I have a picture of my passport on my
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  phone? And I'm like, no, they're like
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  should have done that. Thank you.
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  And thank you, Mitch. In the future.
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  Yeah. So now I'm in the business of
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  trying to get my passport replaced.
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  And they did find it, by the way, and reach out to me, but
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  I'd already cancelled it because I got nervous leaving it valid.
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  But anyway, OK, so moving on. I also was going to say that
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  there's not a difference between us in our level of how much we
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  want to chill on the weekends. That's us too.
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  So there you go. Yeah.
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  With me? Not at all.
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  It's me all the time and home so.
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  There she's good for about a day and 1/2 of a staycation and then
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  she's what are we doing, where are we going, what are we doing?
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  When can I go back to? My husband's over here laughing.
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  I'm like, I just can't see I'm. Like I'm happy here watching
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  games and. Want to go have an adventure?
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  I don't know where we going? I don't know.
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  But let's go just anywhere. Let's go somewhere, please.
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  All right, so I'm going to go to this question on the wedding day
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  because you guys have now put on a wedding for your daughter.
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  I'm going to guess that once that's happened, some of the
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  memories of your own wedding, I don't want to say they
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  disappear, but like the stress of putting on a wedding
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  certainly has to. Like you don't remember any of
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  the little things from your own wedding?
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  Oh, I remember a lot from my own wedding.
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  So what to you is the most memorable thing?
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  And let's see if Mitch has the. Same, I'm going to let him go
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  first only because I know this is something we both will agree
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  on so it. Was the most memorable yes sing
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  of your wedding. Say it the most memorable thing
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  that you remember from our wedding day 36 years ago.
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  That's how beautiful you looked. That's good, honey, no.
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  But in addition to that. Does it involve food?
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  Stone crabs? Stone crabs my friends.
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  There was a huge play to stone one of my favorite foods.
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  Huge place like a tower and then it like sold over.
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  And it was for me, it was. I was.
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  I did what? Do you want for?
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  And I said I'd like stone crabs for an appetite.
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  By the time we got done with the pictures I get there, there's
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  none left and I see all my friends with plate loads of
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  stone crabs and I'm like, can I get a crab?
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  Can I just get one? Just one Nobody saved you.
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  Any you got? One Glock 1 measly claw.
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  I had to wrestle somebody for it, but I got it.
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  And you remember him whining about?
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  It this day, that's all. He'll talk, even ask my mother,
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  she'll say, oh, I remember that. Mitch didn't get any.
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  So it's like a family only lower story now.
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  It is the one thing I always will remember about.
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  And and also we were so young. We were babies when we got
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  married. And I can remember stuff from
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  then like the back of my hand because when you're all the
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  hoopla that went into it, now that you've been married as long
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  as we have, it's like you realize the wedding day is not
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  what a marriage that's. What I mean when I said, do you
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  not remember little things that went wrong?
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  Like I had a list in my mind forever after my own wedding of
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  every little thing that didn't go the way I planned.
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  And maybe nobody else noticed. And then I think if I were to
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  have put together a whole other wedding, I might stop worrying.
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  One thing, one piece of advice I would always tell anybody was
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  don't sweat these small things. Years from now, if you're
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  sitting on a successful or unsuccessful marriage, it's the
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  last thing you're going to think about, right?
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  So So Steve, do you have any fond memories of our wedding
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  day? I don't even remember this list
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  of the things that went wrong. I see.
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  That's good. Yes, that's really.
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  Good. It's funny about the food.
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  I don't even remember the food that was even there.
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  It's you spend all this money for food as the bride and groom
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  you very. Right.
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  You don't get to enjoy it at all.
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  That's one thing I remember is that it's just so much going on.
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  Goes so fast, it really does. And he had a friend, Joe, that
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  had to be, and I wouldn't have minded if he would have gotten
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  away with this, but he had this big, huge box of Cracker Jacks
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  that he wanted to use to pull out the ring.
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  He was one of the the groomsmen. And he wanted when they said,
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  and this is almost 30 years ago. So the joke was relevant then.
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  Now nobody knows Cracker Jacks are, but he was ready to pull a
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  ring out of this giant cracker bag Jack's box, and one of my
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  bridesmaids said no so that I have a picture in my wedding
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  album of him like looking chagrined and holding up the
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  Cracker Jack box. But she wouldn't let him do it.
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  Which I would have been OK with. I wouldn't have minded a little
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  humor in the wedding, but she was doing her due diligence as a
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  bridesmaid, remember? His nickname was Uncle Buck.
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  Yeah, we. Yeah, see, he's that guy.
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  He's that guy, so yeah. Yeah, OK.
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  I have to know what's Edens favorite song?
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  That's, you know, that's a tough one because she just so
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  knowledgeable music. So I would say anything from 77
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  to 80 was probably her wheelhouse of her favorite
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  songs, which we listen to all the time. 70s channel on.
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  Me too. All the time.
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  Yep. Yep.
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  And every now and again I'll pop in something really cheesy when
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  we host trivia. We do once a week we host trivia
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  and I get to do the playlist and some of the teams will even ask
• 18:43
  me for their cheesiest favorite 70s song because they know I'm
• 18:46
  always good for it. See, I think I love you.
• 18:47
  I. I was just going to say I think
• 18:49
  I love you by the part you. Like that one the best.
• 18:53
  Song. Such a great song.
• 18:54
  The cheesier the better for you because some of these songs I've
• 18:56
  never heard. I'm like what is I?
• 18:58
  Love a good bubble gum? Song.
• 19:00
  Heartbeat is a love beep De Franco's.
• 19:03
  Yeah, I saw a picture of Leif Garrett today.
• 19:05
  Yeah. It's rough.
• 19:06
  It's rough. What about Chris's favorite
• 20:51
  song, Do you know? That that's easy.
• 20:53
  Is it Donny Osmond puppy love or is it one of those?
• 20:56
  There's a number of songs, but if you boil it all down, it's
• 20:59
  can't take miles off you. Yes.
• 21:01
  Oh my gosh, and you guys are going to go see Frankie Valley.
• 21:03
  Oh, no, we're not. No, we're not.
• 21:06
  We've been there three times. Oh, you're not.
• 21:08
  I can't do what he's looking. What's happening right now?
• 21:11
  I can't even because. We must have just talked about
• 21:14
  the fact that he's coming to town and can't do and we've been
• 21:16
  we've talked on this podcast about how they send him out.
• 21:19
  It's so sad. Have you seen these videos of
• 21:20
  what they do with Frankie Valley?
• 21:22
  Good. It's almost like they wind him
• 21:23
  up and send him out onto the stage and he barely.
• 21:25
  A mistake with Tony Bennett and he's saying about 15 seconds of
• 21:29
  each song. Yeah, look.
• 21:31
  That was our wedding song to. Somebody who's.
• 21:33
  That age, no, we don't know why he's still out there doing that,
• 21:37
  but he is. But.
• 21:38
  Yes, but but maybe I keep thinking, is he in debt or
• 21:43
  there's got to, there's got to be a reason because now it's he
• 21:48
  went from being Frankie Valli to have you seen Frankie Valli?
• 21:52
  You know what I mean? What about her favorite movie?
• 21:55
  What is her favorite movie? Do you know what that is?
• 21:57
  I think I do, but yeah. We we know.
• 22:01
  I have a couple of choices. You would think it was great,
• 22:04
  but it's Saturday Night Fever. Saturday Night Fever.
• 22:06
  I was going to say that. Or Urban Cowboy.
• 22:08
  Or anything. Out there too, he's she's
• 22:10
  definitely got a favorite person in a movie.
• 22:12
  I've seen Urban Cowboy in Saturday Night and she.
• 22:14
  Also likes Pulp Fiction. Yeah, and I do love.
• 22:16
  So you're a big John Travolta? Yeah, I love John Travolta.
• 22:19
  Love him. What about for me?
• 22:21
  Do you know mine? I know there's two that I think.
• 22:24
  I would pick Yep. Princess Bride?
• 22:26
  Yes. Love.
• 22:27
  Actually Love Actually. Yep.
• 22:29
  That is my son in law's favorite movie.
• 22:31
  Love Actually, does he say it's a Christmas movie because he.
• 22:33
  Does say it's a Christmas movie? I think it is.
• 22:36
  He does. I I.
• 22:37
  Think I don't know too? Yeah.
• 22:38
  Notice we're not asking you guys your favorite.
• 22:41
  I know what his favorite movie is, The Big Lebowski.
• 22:45
  He loves the Big Lebowski cult. Classic.
• 22:47
  Yes, the cult classic music. Anything with the Grateful Dead,
• 22:52
  really. Yeah, he's a Deadhead.
• 22:54
  Shut up, I never knew that. He loves the dead.
• 22:57
  But. I will say on the movie side
• 22:58
  also, I go with Goodfellas too. Oh, that's right, that's right.
• 23:02
  We both love Goodfellows. Steve, I'm trying to think of
• 23:04
  your favorite movie. You love You.
• 23:06
  First of all, let me tell you he loves.
• 23:07
  Disappointing. If you don't get this, I'm
• 23:09
  going. To say Hoosiers.
• 23:10
  There you go. I mean, I mean, I know that, but
• 23:12
  I'm just saying. You also love a really bad movie
• 23:15
  he likes to watch. If it's a really bad like ROM
• 23:18
  com I'll watch. It till the end it makes her
• 23:21
  angry, she's physically angry, she's mad at the TV when it's.
• 23:25
  Hilarious. They do things that seem
• 23:26
  illogical. I'm like, why would anyone say
• 23:30
  that? Why would anyone do that?
• 23:31
  And I'm just yelling at the theater if it's not I mean at
• 23:33
  the at the movie and he's just watching and enjoying and he's
• 23:36
  like, and the worse it is, I just get madder and he can just
• 23:40
  stay with it. He can stay with a movie for the
• 23:42
  whole time, but that's just his attitude.
• 23:44
  He just, he's happy all the time, so he's just always glad
• 23:48
  to be there. I will say that I use the Pit of
• 23:51
  Despair line from Princess Bride a lot.
• 23:54
  OK, see that? That movie is just brimming with
• 23:57
  opportunities. And even our son, I don't know
• 24:01
  if he ever went all the way through with that, but he had to
• 24:03
  do a monologue for class, so he did the whole thing about which
• 24:06
  poison. Which cup had I chosen?
• 24:08
  This one. So funny.
• 24:11
  OK, so where are we at? Oh, I got it.
• 24:13
  This one's such a good one. Mitchell in the blank.
• 24:17
  Christine owns more blank than anyone I know.
• 24:20
  When I saw that question I thought there's only one thing I
• 24:24
  can say to this. Masks with lasers on the I I
• 24:32
  walk in the bedroom as I'm in the Transformers mood.
• 24:36
  Yeah, because I just got a new one the other day and he's like,
• 24:40
  what is that? Our dog looks at her like.
• 24:44
  Oh my gosh, I heard she Facetimed a grand.
• 24:46
  Your grandson with one on the other.
• 24:48
  And I got yelled at. Yeah, that's true.
• 24:51
  They. Made him in all these different.
• 24:53
  Yeah. Everybody sells.
• 24:54
  Different lasers. Yeah, every light's a different.
• 24:57
  And I told her this. I told her she couldn't back it
• 24:59
  up with amazing skin. I would laugh harder than I do,
• 25:04
  but she's got this great complexion to back it up, so
• 25:06
  it's hard for me to really poke fun at it.
• 25:09
  I have to admit one thing that I have a fault.
• 25:12
  I do. I'm admitting it.
• 25:14
  I love gadgets. I love to try gadgets and, and
• 25:18
  I'm if they don't work, I always give them to somebody else and
• 25:21
  say here, you may like it, you're younger than me, it may
• 25:24
  work better for you, whatever. But I love to at least try and
• 25:28
  give it at least a good six weeks to see if there's any
• 25:32
  difference. No matter what it is, if it's
• 25:34
  for your eyes, for your neck. I just wish that when you tried
• 25:37
  these things, you'd wear a lab coat.
• 25:39
  It would make it so much more. You could probably write it all
• 25:41
  off. I'm telling you I agree.
• 25:44
  Back in the days of Ronco in the 70s, you would.
• 25:46
  Oh yeah. Find all that stuff.
• 25:48
  We're so suggestible as it is, but that's where, yeah, all the.
• 25:51
  TV stuff that they would sell in the middle of the night.
• 25:54
  I never was really into any of the any of that.
• 25:58
  I'm not it if it's about cooking or any.
• 26:02
  It's always about skin care, makeup, hair, anything.
• 26:06
  You don't. Need to slice or dice it?
• 26:08
  You just want to be able to. Keep Yeah, exactly all this.
• 26:13
  Did you have a Popeel pocket fisherman?
• 26:17
  I remember we had the potato thing.
• 26:19
  You could make French. Fries, Julie.
• 26:21
  I remember that it slices, It dices.
• 26:24
  Julianne's. Yeah.
• 26:26
  I got the lock wrench. Oh, the lock wrench.
• 26:29
  I remember the fisherman. I also wanted the one that would
• 26:31
  cut a bottle into a glass you could drink out of.
• 26:33
  Yeah, you could just put your Coke bottle in or whatever and
• 26:36
  it would just cut it so smooth you could literally make
• 26:39
  drinking glasses. Out there, so old.
• 26:41
  I know or the Chia pet that would grow the yes hair.
• 26:46
  Yes. But they would get us because
• 26:48
  after going out and you have a few drinks and then at home you
• 26:52
  turn on the TV. This is before the Internet.
• 26:54
  Sure, if you had that late night TV and you were like, I could
• 26:58
  really use that. I could use that lock wrench.
• 27:01
  Then there was the whole. I never used it.
• 27:03
  QVC thing where you could hear other people call in and say how
• 27:05
  much they loved their. Oh yeah, I was a big QV CHSN
• 27:10
  watcher. I never really bought anything
• 27:13
  off of it. I just was fascinated.
• 27:16
  Like how people would call in and say something were so great,
• 27:20
  or they'd show it right there in real time.
• 27:23
  How half their face would be terrible until they used this
• 27:26
  makeup for skin care and then they looked amazing.
• 27:29
  I was never into buying it, I just really enjoyed watching it.
• 27:34
  We. Went through a short phase where
• 27:35
  we were watching it for a little bit.
• 27:37
  There was, I think we bought, did we buy that battery charger
• 27:41
  for your car? Like you keep it in your car and
• 27:43
  it'll charge your car if your battery dies I think.
• 27:45
  I don't think we ever pulled the trigger.
• 27:46
  No, I think we looked at something like that, but yeah.
• 27:50
  I've come close. He wanted to buy a generator
• 27:54
  that he saw online or something because it was hurricane time.
• 27:59
  And I said, what are we going to do with this humongous solar
• 28:04
  powered generator? This is what happens when you
• 28:07
  live in Florida. You start to panic, and then
• 28:10
  when hurricane season's over, you pretend it never even
• 28:13
  existed. That would be the time to buy
• 28:14
  the generator. But do you do it?
• 28:15
  Never. No, he's like next year.
• 28:17
  When you could charge your masks.
• 28:20
  I told him if we need a generator, I need to evacuate.
• 28:24
  That's all I'm saying. No AC.
• 28:26
  Yeah, I. Got to a hotel.
• 28:27
  Yeah, we're I have to go somewhere with all my masks.
• 28:30
  I'll bring them with me, but I'm not.
• 28:32
  You can't do a mask when you have no AC in Florida.
• 28:35
  It seems counterproductive. It seems like it would be your
• 28:39
  priorities would be a little off in that instance.
• 28:42
  Let's see. So have you, do you have
• 28:44
  anything you want to answer for me on that, that I own more of?
• 28:48
  There's two things. I know both of them.
• 28:50
  And Christine would know. Running shoes.
• 28:52
  Yes, you have a lot of running shoes.
• 28:53
  I do. And hats.
• 28:54
  Hats and running shoes, yes. And I'm not sure what you have
• 28:58
  more of it's it could be 5050. It's close.
• 29:01
  It's. Close.
• 29:02
  It was close, yeah. Yeah, I did purge a lot you.
• 29:05
  Did a lot, I have to admit. Mitch has been married to
• 29:09
  Christine. Always been easy.
• 29:11
  How could it not be? Just nothing but a cakewalk?
• 29:13
  Yeah. It's just so super easy all the
• 29:15
  time. Super.
• 29:16
  Easy. Like she is easygoing, Easy.
• 29:19
  Of course, I don't think that anybody who's married for three
• 29:22
  decades could say it's always easy.
• 29:25
  We've had our, we've had our, we've had our hard times.
• 29:29
  Overall, the long game has been very easy.
• 29:32
  No, I would say the long game is really the only way to get
• 29:35
  through some of those those times if you have to make a
• 29:38
  decision, are you playing the long game?
• 29:41
  I know you're going to say it's amazingly easy to be married to
• 29:43
  me because I'm just so delightful all the time.
• 29:46
  It's a give and take process, right?
• 29:48
  Yes, that's true. Compromise.
• 29:51
  Just figure things out as you go.
• 29:53
  Yeah, there's no like pearls or anything to drop there, but if
• 29:56
  you. Don't tell truth.
• 29:59
  Seems like Steve and I are like the easiest going people you
• 30:01
  could ever be married to. It does seem like that.
• 30:06
  You know what, I my whole theory when you've been married a
• 30:09
  really long time is you're going to have good times.
• 30:12
  You're going to have rough times, you're going to have
• 30:14
  happy times, you're going to have sad times.
• 30:17
  It's never going to be perfect, ever.
• 30:20
  And when you're young and naive, you think it's like a fairy tale
• 30:24
  and you think that everything should be great every single day
• 30:28
  and you should be madly, hopelessly in love like you were
• 30:32
  the day you got married. And life happens.
• 30:35
  And now that we're at the end, towards the later part of being
• 30:39
  married. Dark.
• 30:44
  I just think a challenge to get there, but once you get there,
• 30:47
  yeah, it was worth going through all that.
• 30:50
  Yeah, there's definitely chapters.
• 30:51
  Would you agree? Sure.
• 30:53
  You know what I say now, you should listen to this podcast
• 30:55
  because you can get quality Intel because it's really hard
• 30:59
  being a woman. Yes.
• 31:00
  From what I've learned, yes. And I also feel sorry for men
• 31:04
  because the perimenopause, the menopause, and they don't
• 31:08
  understand it. They don't get it, but they're
• 31:10
  getting hell for it. You know what I mean?
• 31:13
  They're getting the brunt of it and they're like, wait, why is
• 31:17
  she like Sybil from that movie Now you know what I mean?
• 31:20
  Like, when did this happen? I I just think that men don't,
• 31:26
  they're not understood for what they go through when women go
• 31:29
  through those because there's not really a lot of education on
• 31:32
  it or telling men, hey, stay clear.
• 31:36
  I I remember that's. Why they invented golf and
• 31:38
  alcohol. And both of you guys seem to
• 31:41
  have found those little outlets, those escapes.
• 31:45
  There was a story. I think I was in college at the
• 31:48
  time. And Mitch, you were probably in
• 31:52
  law school around the time when this story was a woman getting
• 31:56
  using PMS as a defense in a murder suit, which really
• 32:01
  brought to light that menopause hormones PMS. Like how serious
• 32:07
  do you take PMS when there are literally people in court
• 32:10
  arguing whether or not it was reason for her to snap?
• 32:13
  You don't have to comment from a legal aspect.
• 32:16
  We're never going to codify that into law, but it doesn't make
• 32:19
  sense. But.
• 32:21
  I feel like that had to put a little bit of fear into men
• 32:23
  everywhere when they saw that that was like, oh, that really
• 32:26
  is such a like PMS is really to the point where they feel like
• 32:28
  they could push that through. That's.
• 32:31
  When we put safe rooms in our home.
• 32:34
  Yes. Is it over?
• 32:36
  Yeah, is. It.
• 32:37
  What are you getting at? What?
• 32:38
  Are you also, I think for him because I have two, we have two
• 32:41
  daughters, so living with three women.
• 32:45
  God. Bless.
• 32:45
  I can't believe he still survived all that.
• 32:49
  Three women having their periods.
• 32:51
  Three women. He'd even say to me, why is she
• 32:54
  crying? Like what happened?
• 32:56
  I'm like, just ignore it. Just ignore it.
• 32:58
  It's fine. He's even the week of the
• 33:00
  wedding he was like why is she crying?
• 33:03
  Oh gosh. I just think that they're really
• 33:06
  great about just being more supportive than anything else.
• 33:10
  Sense of humor? Probably hugely important, I
• 33:13
  would think. Yes.
• 33:15
  So any advice you guys want to give to other husbands of
• 33:19
  midlife women? Or you feel like you're not
• 33:21
  fully developed yet there and you're still learning every day.
• 33:24
  I'm still learning every day, every podcast.
• 33:27
  Every podcast. Menopause is not a phase.
• 33:30
  I learned that I did not know. Yeah, and it's not.
• 33:32
  Thank you, Steve. He learned so much he he quotes
• 33:35
  back to me all the time. Because today I learned.
• 33:39
  Listen, it's helpful. Oh.
• 33:41
  That makes me feel good. There you go.
• 33:44
  It's just I'm not listening. You can't pay me.
• 33:47
  He he hears it all. I always tell him what, like
• 33:51
  what this week we're going to be talking about and you know.
• 33:54
  Making him watch the Golden Bachelorette though, because I'm
• 33:57
  being. You know what I think because I
• 34:00
  tape it. We have not watched The Golden
• 34:04
  Bachelorette together, but he can thank me for that.
• 34:07
  You know what I mean? Every now and then she'll have
• 34:09
  it on. And he'll.
• 34:10
  Comment Pretend not to watch. It I feel like I'm taking it's
• 34:12
  like. Looking into the sun.
• 34:14
  Yeah, you can't. Help it you're like what is
• 34:17
  going on? What I say when I'm watching it
• 34:19
  with him is constantly, I'm always like, see, this is who's
• 34:21
  out there, this is who's out there.
• 34:23
  Please get a check up. Please take care of yourself
• 34:26
  like. I can't.
• 34:28
  Yeah, I think the Golden Bachelorette has made more women
• 34:32
  stop and evaluate their own marriage and think I can make
• 34:37
  this work. I might have to stick.
• 34:40
  It might stick. This out or end up with chalk.
• 34:42
  Exactly. Because they're not all Pascal.
• 34:44
  No, they're not. All right, you guys, thank you
• 34:47
  so much for spending a little bit of time with us.
• 34:49
  That was at a time of day where you don't really know where
• 34:53
  we're at or what we're doing. This is where we've been coming.
• 34:55
  Yes, couple. You know, times a month we've
• 34:57
  been meeting here in this. This is nice.
• 34:59
  It's a nice studio. Isn't this nice?
• 35:02
  It is. So for those listening right
• 35:04
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• 35:13
  Steve listens to a lot of sports podcasts and watches them and
• 35:16
  he's always trying to tell me what you and I should be doing
• 35:19
  next. So we'll be like, you guys need
• 35:21
  to do this on your Patreon and this on your YouTube.
• 35:23
  And I'm just to me, I'm just like, we're just doing our best
• 35:26
  here. We're just. 22 old ladies doing
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• 35:42
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