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Breaking Barriers: A Journey to Women's Success with Margret De Bruyn · #WisdomOfWomen Show

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  Welcome
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  to
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  the
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  Wisdom
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  of
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  Women
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  show.
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  We
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  are
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  dedicated
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  to
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  amplifying
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  the
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  voice
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  and
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  wisdom
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  of
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  women.
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  A
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  new
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  model
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  of
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  leadership
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  is
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  emerging
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  and
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  we
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  are
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  here
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  to
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  amplify
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  the
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  voices
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  of
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  women
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  leading
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  the
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  way.
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  I
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  am
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  your
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  host,
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  Coco
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  Selman,
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  five
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  time
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  founder,
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  impact
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  investor
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  and
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  creator
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  of
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  the
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  Force
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  for
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  Good
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  system.
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  Thank
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  you
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  for
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  joining
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  us
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  today
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  as
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  we
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  illuminate
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  the
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  path
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  to
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  unlocking
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  opportunities
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  and
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  prosperity
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  for
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  women
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  led
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  enterprises
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  by
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  amplifying
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  the
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  voice
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  and
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  wisdom
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  of
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  women.
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  So
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  today
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  I
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  have
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  such
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  a
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  fun
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  and
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  wonderful
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  guest
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  to
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  bring
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  you
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  all
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  into
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  your
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  senses
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  and
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  help
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  you
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  feel
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  excited
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  and
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  connected
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  to
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  your
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  purpose
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  and
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  journey
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  on
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  this
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  planet.
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  So
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  today
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  I
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  have
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  Margaret
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  de
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  Bruyne.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  dynamic
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  entrepreneur,
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  business
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  strategist
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  and
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  leadership
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  coach
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  with
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  over
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  25
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  years
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  of
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  experience.
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  Experience
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  in
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  building
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  and
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  scaling
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  businesses.
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  From
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  founding
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  and
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  growing
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  multiple
• 1:05
  companies,
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  including
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  a
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  thriving
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  med
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  spa,
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  to
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  coaching
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  small
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  business
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  owners
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  and
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  women
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  leaders.
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  Margaret
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  specializes
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  in
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  helping
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  entrepreneurs
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  break
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  through
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  barriers
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  and
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  achieve
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  success
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  on
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  their
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  terms.
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  Through
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  her
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  signature
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  coaching
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  program,
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  Love
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  It,
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  Leave
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  it
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  or
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  Redefine
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  It.
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  She
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  empowers
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  women
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  to
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  navigate
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  pivotal
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  decisions,
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  overcoming
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  limiting
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  beliefs
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  and
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  create
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  businesses
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  and
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  lives
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  they
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  truly
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  love.
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  Margaret
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  has
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  extensive
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  experience
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  in
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  marketing,
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  strategic
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  planning
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  and
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  leadership
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  development.
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  And
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  she's
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  passionate
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  about
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  showing
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  women
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  how
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  to
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  blend
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  business
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  growth
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  with
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  personal
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  fulfillment.
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  She
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  believes
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  success
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  starts
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  with
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  mindset,
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  clarity
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  and
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  confidence.
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  Welcome.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  I
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  am
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  excited
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  to
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  be
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  here.
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  I'm
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  so
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  excited
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  to
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  have
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  you.
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  So
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  let's
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  get
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  right
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  into
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  your
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  book
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  that
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  you
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  love
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  that's
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  inspired
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  you
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  and
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  written
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  by
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  a
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  woman.
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  Yeah.
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  So
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  my
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  book
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  that.
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  And
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  I
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  have
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  to
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  say,
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  like,
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  I
• 2:10
  think,
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  you
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  know,
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  again,
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  sometimes
• 2:11
  it's
• 2:11
  timing
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  right,
• 2:12
  when
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  a
• 2:12
  book
• 2:13
  comes
• 2:13
  into
• 2:13
  your
• 2:13
  life.
• 2:14
  But
• 2:14
  for
• 2:15
  me,
• 2:15
  it
• 2:15
  was
• 2:15
  Brene
• 2:16
  Brown's
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  Braving
• 2:16
  the
• 2:17
  Wilderness.
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  I
• 2:19
  was
• 2:19
  about
• 2:19
  five
• 2:20
  months
• 2:20
  out
• 2:20
  of
• 2:20
  losing
• 2:20
  my
• 2:21
  mom
• 2:21
  and
• 2:22
  I
• 2:23
  was
• 2:23
  in
• 2:23
  a
• 2:23
  place
• 2:23
  where
• 2:24
  I
• 2:24
  was
• 2:24
  vulnerable
• 2:24
  and
• 2:25
  ready
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  to
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  do
• 2:25
  some
• 2:26
  healing.
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  And
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  I
• 2:27
  have
• 2:27
  to
• 2:27
  say,
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  I.
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  I
• 2:28
  joined
• 2:28
  this
• 2:29
  Brene
• 2:29
  Brown
• 2:29
  book
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  club
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  and
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  we
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  start
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  with
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  Braving
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  of
• 2:32
  the
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  Wilderness,
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  which
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  really
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  isn't
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  her
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  first
• 2:34
  book
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  to
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  start
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  with,
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  but
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  I
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  love
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  this
• 2:36
  book
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  and
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  I
• 2:37
  will
• 2:37
  tell
• 2:37
  you,
• 2:37
  and
• 2:38
  the
• 2:38
  group
• 2:38
  would
• 2:38
  tell
• 2:38
  you
• 2:39
  if
• 2:39
  they
• 2:39
  could.
• 2:39
  I
• 2:39
  cried
• 2:40
  through
• 2:40
  the
• 2:41
  whole
• 2:41
  book,
• 2:42
  every
• 2:42
  chapter,
• 2:43
  I
• 2:43
  cried.
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  And
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  this
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  is
• 2:44
  a.
• 2:45
  And
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  I'm
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  a
• 2:45
  person
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  who
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  doesn't
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  cry.
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  Right.
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  So
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  this
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  was
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  life
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  changing.
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  I've
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  been
• 2:50
  breeding
• 2:50
  the
• 2:50
  wilderness
• 2:50
  since
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  I
• 2:51
  was
• 2:51
  a
• 2:51
  young
• 2:51
  woman
• 2:52
  and
• 2:52
  I
• 2:52
  didn't
• 2:52
  realize
• 2:53
  it,
• 2:53
  but
• 2:54
  it's
• 2:54
  such
• 2:55
  an
• 2:55
  important
• 2:56
  book
• 2:56
  to
• 2:56
  me,
• 2:57
  especially
• 2:57
  with
• 2:57
  what's
• 2:58
  going
• 2:58
  on
• 2:58
  in
• 2:59
  our
• 2:59
  world
• 3:00
  today
• 3:00
  and
• 3:00
  how
• 3:00
  there's
• 3:01
  so
• 3:01
  many
• 3:01
  challenges
• 3:02
  and
• 3:03
  we
• 3:03
  all
• 3:03
  have
• 3:03
  to
• 3:04
  stand
• 3:04
  in
• 3:04
  our
• 3:04
  truth.
• 3:05
  She's
• 3:05
  got
• 3:05
  a
• 3:06
  chapter
• 3:06
  like,
• 3:06
  people
• 3:06
  are
• 3:07
  hard,
• 3:07
  right?
• 3:08
  Get
• 3:08
  close.
• 3:09
  And
• 3:09
  then
• 3:09
  there's
• 3:10
  another
• 3:10
  one,
• 3:10
  Speak
• 3:10
  Truth
• 3:10
  to
• 3:11
  Bullshit.
• 3:11
  It's
• 3:12
  a
• 3:12
  book
• 3:12
  that
• 3:12
  really
• 3:12
  speaks
• 3:13
  to
• 3:13
  my
• 3:13
  soul.
• 3:13
  I'm
• 3:14
  one
• 3:14
  of
• 3:14
  those
• 3:14
  people
• 3:14
  who's
• 3:14
  going
• 3:14
  to
• 3:15
  brave
• 3:15
  the
• 3:15
  wilderness.
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  Ah,
• 3:17
  I
• 3:17
  love
• 3:17
  that.
• 3:17
  Brave
• 3:18
  the
• 3:18
  Wilderness
• 3:19
  by
• 3:19
  our
• 3:20
  outstanding
• 3:21
  Brene
• 3:21
  Brown.
• 3:22
  Great
• 3:23
  book.
• 3:23
  Thank
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  for
• 3:24
  that
• 3:24
  recommendation.
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  know
• 3:25
  you
• 3:25
  mentioned
• 3:26
  vulnerability
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  and
• 3:27
  I
• 3:27
  know
• 3:27
  that's
• 3:28
  a
• 3:28
  big
• 3:28
  part
• 3:28
  of
• 3:28
  your
• 3:29
  model
• 3:30
  of
• 3:31
  leadership
• 3:31
  and
• 3:32
  coaching.
• 3:32
  So
• 3:33
  it
• 3:33
  doesn't
• 3:33
  surprise
• 3:34
  me.
• 3:34
  I
• 3:34
  know
• 3:34
  that's
• 3:34
  a
• 3:34
  big
• 3:35
  part
• 3:35
  of
• 3:35
  what
• 3:35
  you.
• 3:36
  You
• 3:36
  bring
• 3:36
  to
• 3:36
  the
• 3:36
  table.
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  wanted
• 3:38
  to
• 3:38
  go
• 3:38
  right
• 3:38
  into
• 3:39
  want.
• 3:39
  You
• 3:39
  and
• 3:40
  I
• 3:40
  had
• 3:40
  such
• 3:40
  a
• 3:40
  wonderful
• 3:41
  conversation
• 3:41
  a
• 3:41
  few
• 3:42
  weeks
• 3:42
  back
• 3:43
  and
• 3:43
  we
• 3:44
  talked
• 3:44
  about
• 3:44
  boundaries
• 3:45
  and
• 3:46
  the
• 3:46
  importance
• 3:47
  of
• 3:48
  setting
• 3:48
  boundaries.
• 3:49
  Could
• 3:49
  you
• 3:50
  share
• 3:50
  some
• 3:50
  of
• 3:50
  your
• 3:51
  insights
• 3:52
  on
• 3:52
  the
• 3:53
  often
• 3:53
  overlooked
• 3:54
  truths
• 3:55
  about
• 3:55
  setting
• 3:56
  boundaries
• 3:56
  and
• 3:57
  how
• 3:57
  they
• 3:57
  can
• 3:57
  contribute
• 3:58
  to
• 3:59
  your
• 3:59
  life
• 4:00
  and
• 4:00
  to
• 4:00
  being
• 4:01
  a
• 4:01
  leader?
• 4:02
  Exactly.
• 4:03
  Thank
• 4:03
  you.
• 4:03
  I
• 4:03
  never
• 4:04
  thought
• 4:04
  I
• 4:04
  would
• 4:04
  champion
• 4:05
  this
• 4:05
  topic.
• 4:06
  I
• 4:06
  have
• 4:06
  books
• 4:07
  and
• 4:07
  books
• 4:07
  on
• 4:08
  this
• 4:08
  and
• 4:08
  somehow
• 4:08
  it's
• 4:09
  become
• 4:09
  my
• 4:09
  favorite
• 4:10
  topic
• 4:10
  when
• 4:10
  it
• 4:10
  really
• 4:10
  wasn't.
• 4:12
  And
• 4:12
  the
• 4:13
  thing
• 4:13
  is
• 4:13
  funny,
• 4:13
  we
• 4:13
  started
• 4:14
  with
• 4:14
  vulnerability
• 4:15
  and
• 4:16
  we
• 4:16
  go
• 4:16
  into
• 4:16
  boundaries.
• 4:18
  So
• 4:18
  I
• 4:19
  struggled
• 4:19
  for
• 4:19
  years
• 4:20
  with
• 4:20
  boundaries.
• 4:20
  I'd
• 4:21
  be
• 4:21
  in
• 4:21
  these
• 4:21
  toxic
• 4:21
  relationships
• 4:22
  and
• 4:22
  my
• 4:22
  friends
• 4:23
  would
• 4:23
  say,
• 4:23
  you
• 4:23
  need
• 4:23
  to
• 4:23
  set
• 4:24
  boundaries.
• 4:24
  Or
• 4:25
  I'd
• 4:25
  be
• 4:25
  at
• 4:25
  work
• 4:26
  and
• 4:26
  my
• 4:27
  family
• 4:27
  would
• 4:27
  be
• 4:27
  like,
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  need
• 4:28
  to
• 4:28
  set
• 4:28
  better
• 4:28
  boundaries
• 4:29
  at
• 4:29
  work
• 4:29
  so
• 4:29
  you
• 4:29
  have
• 4:29
  more
• 4:30
  time
• 4:30
  for
• 4:30
  us.
• 4:30
  The
• 4:30
  reality
• 4:31
  was
• 4:31
  I
• 4:31
  was
• 4:32
  trying
• 4:32
  to
• 4:32
  set
• 4:32
  boundaries,
• 4:33
  but
• 4:34
  I
• 4:34
  didn't
• 4:34
  know
• 4:34
  there
• 4:35
  are
• 4:35
  prerequisites
• 4:36
  that
• 4:36
  must
• 4:36
  be
• 4:37
  in
• 4:37
  place
• 4:37
  in
• 4:37
  order
• 4:38
  for
• 4:38
  you
• 4:38
  to
• 4:38
  set
• 4:38
  a
• 4:39
  boundary.
• 4:40
  And
• 4:40
  I
• 4:40
  didn't
• 4:41
  have
• 4:41
  those
• 4:41
  prerequisites
• 4:42
  checked
• 4:42
  off.
• 4:43
  I
• 4:43
  was
• 4:43
  setting
• 4:44
  these
• 4:44
  boundaries,
• 4:44
  shaming
• 4:45
  myself
• 4:45
  for
• 4:46
  failing,
• 4:47
  feeling
• 4:47
  like
• 4:47
  I
• 4:47
  wasn't
• 4:48
  strong
• 4:48
  enough
• 4:49
  to
• 4:49
  hold
• 4:49
  people
• 4:50
  accountable,
• 4:50
  when
• 4:50
  the
• 4:51
  reality
• 4:51
  was
• 4:52
  I
• 4:52
  didn't
• 4:52
  have
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  tools
• 4:53
  to
• 4:54
  even
• 4:54
  begin
• 4:54
  starting
• 4:55
  to
• 4:55
  set
• 4:56
  boundaries.
• 4:56
  I
• 4:57
  think
• 4:57
  it's
• 4:57
  really
• 4:58
  important
• 4:58
  that
• 4:59
  we
• 4:59
  understand
• 4:59
  that
• 5:00
  better
• 5:00
  boundaries
• 5:00
  aren't
• 5:00
  for
• 5:00
  other
• 5:01
  people.
• 5:02
  It's
• 5:02
  not
• 5:02
  about
• 5:02
  keeping
• 5:03
  other
• 5:03
  people
• 5:03
  out
• 5:04
  or
• 5:04
  making
• 5:04
  them
• 5:05
  do
• 5:05
  what
• 5:05
  we
• 5:06
  want.
• 5:06
  It's
• 5:06
  about
• 5:07
  us.
• 5:08
  Right.
• 5:09
  One
• 5:09
  of
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  ways
• 5:10
  that
• 5:10
  Bernay
• 5:10
  describes
• 5:11
  it,
• 5:11
  Brene
• 5:11
  Brown
• 5:12
  describes
• 5:12
  it,
• 5:12
  is
• 5:13
  we
• 5:13
  have
• 5:13
  to
• 5:13
  create
• 5:14
  the
• 5:14
  environment
• 5:15
  for
• 5:15
  us
• 5:15
  to
• 5:15
  be
• 5:15
  able
• 5:15
  to
• 5:16
  show
• 5:16
  up
• 5:16
  as
• 5:16
  our
• 5:16
  best
• 5:17
  selves.
• 5:17
  What
• 5:18
  environment
• 5:18
  needs
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  be
• 5:19
  present
• 5:20
  for
• 5:20
  us
• 5:20
  to
• 5:20
  be
• 5:21
  our
• 5:21
  best
• 5:21
  self?
• 5:22
  If
• 5:22
  you're
• 5:22
  setting
• 5:22
  a
• 5:23
  boundary
• 5:23
  to
• 5:23
  keep
• 5:24
  someone
• 5:24
  out,
• 5:25
  then
• 5:25
  that
• 5:25
  boundary
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  about
• 5:26
  them
• 5:26
  and
• 5:27
  not
• 5:27
  about
• 5:27
  you.
• 5:28
  So
• 5:28
  it's
• 5:28
  no
• 5:29
  longer
• 5:29
  your
• 5:29
  boundary,
• 5:30
  it's
• 5:30
  theirs.
• 5:31
  And
• 5:31
  it's
• 5:31
  not
• 5:32
  going
• 5:32
  to
• 5:32
  work
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  you
• 5:33
  can't.
• 5:33
  That's
• 5:33
  not.
• 5:34
  They
• 5:34
  didn't
• 5:35
  ask
• 5:35
  for
• 5:35
  that
• 5:35
  boundary
• 5:36
  Right.
• 5:37
  So
• 5:37
  first
• 5:38
  of
• 5:38
  all,
• 5:38
  you
• 5:38
  got
• 5:38
  to
• 5:38
  start
• 5:38
  out
• 5:38
  with
• 5:38
  the
• 5:39
  prerequisites.
• 5:39
  I
• 5:39
  think
• 5:40
  number
• 5:40
  one,
• 5:40
  you
• 5:41
  have
• 5:41
  to
• 5:41
  be
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  vulnerability.
• 5:42
  Right.
• 5:43
  And,
• 5:43
  and
• 5:43
  to
• 5:44
  me,
• 5:44
  there's
• 5:44
  so
• 5:44
  many
• 5:44
  different
• 5:45
  levels
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  vulnerability.
• 5:46
  The
• 5:46
  easiest
• 5:46
  way
• 5:46
  to
• 5:47
  look
• 5:47
  at
• 5:47
  it
• 5:47
  is
• 5:47
  if
• 5:47
  you
• 5:48
  are
• 5:48
  sitting
• 5:48
  in
• 5:48
  a
• 5:48
  place
• 5:49
  where
• 5:49
  you
• 5:49
  have
• 5:49
  any
• 5:50
  kind
• 5:50
  of
• 5:50
  a
• 5:50
  defense
• 5:50
  wall,
• 5:51
  where
• 5:52
  you
• 5:52
  are
• 5:52
  armored
• 5:53
  up,
• 5:53
  where
• 5:54
  you
• 5:54
  are
• 5:55
  sitting
• 5:55
  in
• 5:55
  some
• 5:56
  level
• 5:56
  of
• 5:56
  fear.
• 5:57
  Now
• 5:57
  don't
• 5:57
  get
• 5:57
  me
• 5:57
  wrong,
• 5:58
  we
• 5:58
  all
• 5:58
  have
• 5:58
  fear.
• 5:58
  It's,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  know,
• 5:59
  but
• 6:00
  if
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  are
• 6:01
  in
• 6:01
  a
• 6:01
  defensive
• 6:01
  posture
• 6:02
  and
• 6:02
  we
• 6:03
  know
• 6:03
  when
• 6:03
  we
• 6:03
  are,
• 6:03
  right,
• 6:04
  it
• 6:04
  looks
• 6:04
  like
• 6:04
  dissociation,
• 6:05
  it
• 6:05
  looks
• 6:06
  like
• 6:06
  disconnecting,
• 6:07
  not
• 6:07
  engaging,
• 6:08
  Just,
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  know,
• 6:09
  you're
• 6:09
  there,
• 6:09
  but
• 6:10
  you're
• 6:10
  not
• 6:10
  investing,
• 6:11
  you're
• 6:11
  not
• 6:12
  going
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  be
• 6:12
  able
• 6:12
  to
• 6:12
  set
• 6:12
  a
• 6:12
  boundary.
• 6:13
  Simple
• 6:13
  as
• 6:13
  that.
• 6:14
  Wow,
• 6:15
  that's
• 6:15
  really
• 6:16
  interesting
• 6:16
  and
• 6:16
  powerful.
• 6:17
  Right.
• 6:17
  Because
• 6:18
  it's
• 6:18
  all
• 6:18
  about
• 6:18
  what
• 6:19
  we're
• 6:19
  doing
• 6:19
  for
• 6:19
  ourselves.
• 6:20
  It's
• 6:21
  our
• 6:21
  own
• 6:21
  internal
• 6:22
  and
• 6:23
  physical
• 6:24
  world
• 6:24
  practices
• 6:25
  and
• 6:25
  how
• 6:25
  we
• 6:26
  take
• 6:27
  responsibility
• 6:28
  for
• 6:28
  our
• 6:28
  own
• 6:28
  condition
• 6:29
  and
• 6:29
  well
• 6:29
  being.
• 6:31
  Right.
• 6:31
  When
• 6:31
  somebody
• 6:32
  steps
• 6:32
  over
• 6:32
  the
• 6:32
  boundary
• 6:33
  or
• 6:33
  somebody
• 6:34
  does
• 6:34
  something,
• 6:35
  then
• 6:35
  what,
• 6:35
  then
• 6:36
  what
• 6:36
  do
• 6:36
  you
• 6:36
  recommend
• 6:37
  in
• 6:37
  that
• 6:37
  situation?
• 6:38
  Exactly.
• 6:39
  And
• 6:39
  so
• 6:39
  here's
• 6:39
  the
• 6:40
  thing
• 6:40
  where
• 6:40
  we
• 6:40
  struggle
• 6:40
  or
• 6:41
  fail
• 6:41
  with
• 6:41
  our
• 6:41
  boundaries.
• 6:42
  It's
• 6:42
  like,
• 6:42
  I'm
• 6:43
  going
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  stake
• 6:43
  this
• 6:43
  boundary
• 6:44
  and
• 6:45
  now
• 6:45
  someone's
• 6:45
  gone
• 6:46
  over
• 6:46
  it,
• 6:46
  now
• 6:46
  I
• 6:47
  have
• 6:47
  to
• 6:47
  enforce
• 6:47
  it.
• 6:48
  Right.
• 6:49
  So
• 6:49
  there
• 6:49
  is
• 6:49
  this
• 6:50
  huge
• 6:50
  fear
• 6:51
  around
• 6:51
  enforcing
• 6:52
  a
• 6:52
  boundary
• 6:53
  or
• 6:53
  getting
• 6:53
  pushed
• 6:54
  back
• 6:54
  from
• 6:54
  a
• 6:54
  boundary.
• 6:55
  And
• 6:55
  I
• 6:55
  think
• 6:56
  this
• 6:56
  is
• 6:56
  where
• 6:57
  we
• 6:57
  get
• 6:57
  sometimes
• 6:58
  confused.
• 6:59
  Well,
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  guess
• 6:59
  I
• 6:59
  would
• 7:00
  say
• 7:00
  there's
• 7:00
  levels
• 7:01
  so
• 7:01
  often
• 7:01
  it's
• 7:01
  like
• 7:02
  it's
• 7:02
  this
• 7:02
  or
• 7:03
  else,
• 7:03
  like
• 7:04
  you
• 7:04
  behave
• 7:04
  this
• 7:05
  way
• 7:05
  or
• 7:06
  I'm
• 7:06
  gonna
• 7:06
  leave
• 7:07
  you
• 7:07
  behave
• 7:08
  this
• 7:08
  way
• 7:08
  or
• 7:08
  I'm
• 7:08
  not
• 7:09
  gonna
• 7:09
  take
• 7:09
  care,
• 7:09
  you
• 7:09
  know,
• 7:09
  I'm
• 7:10
  not
• 7:10
  gonna
• 7:10
  run
• 7:10
  this
• 7:10
  project.
• 7:11
  And
• 7:11
  that's
• 7:11
  really
• 7:12
  a
• 7:12
  boundary
• 7:12
  about
• 7:13
  them,
• 7:13
  not
• 7:13
  about
• 7:13
  you.
• 7:14
  Right.
• 7:15
  And
• 7:16
  so,
• 7:16
  you
• 7:17
  know,
• 7:17
  I
• 7:17
  think
• 7:17
  sometimes
• 7:17
  when
• 7:18
  we
• 7:18
  feel
• 7:18
  like
• 7:18
  it's
• 7:19
  going
• 7:19
  to
• 7:19
  be
• 7:19
  so
• 7:19
  difficult,
• 7:20
  we
• 7:20
  have
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  ask
• 7:20
  ourselves,
• 7:21
  who
• 7:21
  did
• 7:21
  we
• 7:21
  set
• 7:21
  that
• 7:21
  boundary
• 7:22
  for?
• 7:22
  Right.
• 7:23
  And
• 7:24
  I
• 7:24
  think
• 7:24
  that
• 7:25
  when
• 7:25
  it
• 7:25
  comes
• 7:25
  to
• 7:26
  if
• 7:26
  you
• 7:26
  are
• 7:26
  truly
• 7:27
  setting
• 7:27
  a
• 7:27
  boundary
• 7:28
  for
• 7:28
  you,
• 7:29
  such
• 7:29
  as
• 7:29
  I
• 7:29
  need
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  be
• 7:30
  able
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  work
• 7:31
  with
• 7:31
  people
• 7:31
  who
• 7:32
  want
• 7:32
  to
• 7:32
  work
• 7:32
  with
• 7:32
  me.
• 7:33
  Yes.
• 7:33
  And
• 7:34
  if
• 7:34
  you're
• 7:34
  not
• 7:34
  a
• 7:34
  collaborative
• 7:35
  person,
• 7:36
  we're
• 7:36
  not
• 7:36
  going
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  be
• 7:36
  good
• 7:37
  teammates.
• 7:38
  This
• 7:38
  is
• 7:38
  the
• 7:38
  reality
• 7:39
  of
• 7:39
  I
• 7:40
  just
• 7:40
  can't
• 7:40
  work
• 7:40
  with
• 7:41
  you
• 7:41
  and
• 7:41
  we're
• 7:41
  not
• 7:41
  going
• 7:41
  to
• 7:41
  create
• 7:41
  a
• 7:42
  good
• 7:42
  project,
• 7:43
  therefore
• 7:43
  this
• 7:44
  isn't
• 7:44
  a
• 7:44
  good
• 7:44
  collaboration.
• 7:45
  Right?
• 7:46
  Yes.
• 7:47
  I
• 7:47
  think
• 7:47
  where
• 7:48
  we
• 7:48
  struggle
• 7:48
  to
• 7:48
  hold
• 7:49
  boundaries
• 7:49
  or
• 7:49
  where
• 7:50
  we
• 7:50
  struggle
• 7:50
  to
• 7:51
  enforce
• 7:51
  boundaries
• 7:52
  because
• 7:53
  we
• 7:53
  don't
• 7:53
  realize
• 7:53
  they're
• 7:54
  not
• 7:54
  about
• 7:54
  us,
• 7:55
  we've
• 7:55
  created
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  boundary
• 7:56
  because
• 7:56
  of
• 7:56
  someone
• 7:56
  else.
• 7:57
  For
• 7:57
  someone
• 7:57
  else.
• 7:58
  And
• 7:59
  we're
• 7:59
  making
• 7:59
  it
• 7:59
  out
• 7:59
  of
• 7:59
  fear.
• 8:00
  If
• 8:00
  either
• 8:00
  one
• 8:01
  of
• 8:01
  those
• 8:01
  situations
• 8:02
  are
• 8:02
  present,
• 8:02
  you
• 8:02
  will
• 8:02
  not
• 8:03
  be
• 8:03
  able
• 8:03
  to
• 8:03
  uphold
• 8:03
  that
• 8:03
  boundary.
• 8:04
  Don't
• 8:04
  even
• 8:04
  try.
• 8:05
  Just
• 8:05
  don't
• 8:06
  try.
• 8:06
  I'm
• 8:06
  going
• 8:06
  to
• 8:06
  tell
• 8:06
  you,
• 8:07
  save
• 8:07
  yourself
• 8:07
  the
• 8:07
  shame
• 8:08
  and
• 8:08
  blame
• 8:08
  and
• 8:09
  guilt
• 8:09
  tripping.
• 8:09
  It's
• 8:10
  not
• 8:10
  going
• 8:10
  to
• 8:10
  happen.
• 8:12
  And
• 8:12
  so
• 8:13
  again,
• 8:13
  it's
• 8:14
  like
• 8:14
  coming
• 8:14
  back
• 8:14
  to
• 8:15
  yourself
• 8:15
  and
• 8:15
  finding
• 8:16
  out
• 8:16
  what
• 8:16
  is
• 8:16
  you
• 8:17
  and
• 8:17
  what's
• 8:17
  other.
• 8:18
  And
• 8:18
  I
• 8:18
  know
• 8:18
  you
• 8:19
  and
• 8:19
  I
• 8:19
  have
• 8:19
  talked
• 8:19
  too
• 8:20
  about,
• 8:21
  about
• 8:22
  how
• 8:22
  important
• 8:22
  it
• 8:23
  is
• 8:23
  for
• 8:23
  us
• 8:23
  to
• 8:23
  be
• 8:24
  in
• 8:24
  our
• 8:24
  physical
• 8:24
  bodies
• 8:25
  and
• 8:25
  aware
• 8:26
  of
• 8:26
  our
• 8:27
  relationship
• 8:28
  with
• 8:29
  our
• 8:29
  physical
• 8:29
  bodies
• 8:30
  as
• 8:30
  well
• 8:30
  as
• 8:30
  with
• 8:31
  our,
• 8:31
  our
• 8:32
  pleasure,
• 8:32
  what
• 8:33
  our
• 8:33
  bodies
• 8:34
  feel
• 8:34
  and
• 8:35
  sense.
• 8:35
  And
• 8:37
  so,
• 8:37
  and
• 8:38
  you
• 8:38
  are
• 8:39
  an
• 8:39
  expert
• 8:40
  in
• 8:41
  this
• 8:41
  area.
• 8:41
  So
• 8:42
  how
• 8:42
  is
• 8:43
  a
• 8:43
  woman's
• 8:43
  relationship
• 8:44
  with
• 8:44
  her
• 8:45
  body
• 8:45
  and
• 8:46
  her
• 8:46
  relationship
• 8:47
  with
• 8:48
  pleasure
• 8:49
  related
• 8:49
  to
• 8:50
  her
• 8:50
  connection
• 8:51
  to
• 8:51
  power?
• 8:53
  Because
• 8:54
  her
• 8:54
  power
• 8:54
  comes
• 8:55
  from
• 8:55
  here.
• 8:56
  Her
• 8:56
  power
• 8:57
  is
• 8:57
  here.
• 8:58
  And
• 8:58
  that
• 8:59
  is
• 8:59
  the
• 8:59
  thing
• 8:59
  is
• 9:00
  we
• 9:00
  are,
• 9:01
  I
• 9:01
  think
• 9:01
  for
• 9:02
  the
• 9:02
  whole,
• 9:02
  most
• 9:03
  women
• 9:03
  are
• 9:03
  not
• 9:04
  comfortable
• 9:04
  with
• 9:04
  power.
• 9:05
  Yeah.
• 9:06
  And
• 9:06
  the
• 9:06
  fact
• 9:06
  that
• 9:06
  we
• 9:07
  house
• 9:07
  the
• 9:08
  power.
• 9:08
  Right.
• 9:09
  And
• 9:09
  that
• 9:10
  quite
• 9:10
  honestly,
• 9:11
  when
• 9:11
  you
• 9:12
  are
• 9:12
  in
• 9:12
  dissociation,
• 9:13
  when
• 9:13
  you're
• 9:13
  numbing,
• 9:14
  you're
• 9:14
  disconnecting,
• 9:15
  you're
• 9:15
  not
• 9:15
  connecting
• 9:16
  to
• 9:16
  your
• 9:16
  partner,
• 9:18
  you've
• 9:18
  most
• 9:19
  importantly,
• 9:19
  not
• 9:20
  connected
• 9:20
  to
• 9:20
  you.
• 9:21
  And
• 9:22
  that
• 9:22
  source
• 9:23
  of
• 9:23
  power
• 9:23
  and
• 9:24
  energy
• 9:24
  comes
• 9:25
  from
• 9:25
  within.
• 9:26
  Pleasure
• 9:27
  is
• 9:27
  not
• 9:27
  an
• 9:28
  indulgence.
• 9:29
  Right.
• 9:30
  That
• 9:30
  is
• 9:30
  like,
• 9:31
  literally
• 9:32
  you're
• 9:32
  at
• 9:33
  orgasms.
• 9:33
  Are
• 9:33
  you
• 9:34
  connecting
• 9:34
  to
• 9:34
  you?
• 9:35
  It
• 9:35
  is
• 9:35
  the
• 9:36
  highest
• 9:36
  level
• 9:36
  of
• 9:37
  connection
• 9:38
  you
• 9:38
  have.
• 9:38
  And
• 9:39
  the
• 9:39
  energy
• 9:39
  from
• 9:40
  that
• 9:40
  is
• 9:40
  your
• 9:41
  power.
• 9:42
  And
• 9:43
  I
• 9:43
  think
• 9:43
  we
• 9:43
  miss
• 9:44
  that
• 9:44
  because
• 9:44
  again,
• 9:46
  we
• 9:46
  shift
• 9:47
  it
• 9:47
  to
• 9:47
  somebody
• 9:47
  else.
• 9:48
  I,
• 9:49
  you
• 9:49
  know,
• 9:49
  I
• 9:49
  challenge
• 9:50
  you
• 9:50
  to
• 9:50
  think
• 9:51
  about
• 9:51
  this
• 9:51
  or
• 9:52
  to
• 9:52
  the
• 9:52
  audience
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  think
• 9:53
  about
• 9:53
  this.
• 9:53
  How
• 9:54
  many
• 9:54
  times
• 9:54
  are
• 9:54
  you
• 9:54
  having
• 9:54
  sex
• 9:55
  with
• 9:55
  someone
• 9:55
  for
• 9:55
  their
• 9:55
  reasons,
• 9:56
  for
• 9:56
  their
• 9:56
  needs,
• 9:57
  to
• 9:57
  please
• 9:57
  them
• 9:58
  so
• 9:58
  that
• 9:58
  they
• 9:58
  don't
• 9:58
  bother
• 9:59
  you?
• 9:59
  Like,
• 10:00
  how
• 10:00
  many
• 10:00
  times
• 10:01
  is
• 10:01
  it
• 10:01
  truly
• 10:01
  about
• 10:02
  you?
• 10:03
  And
• 10:04
  then,
• 10:04
  you
• 10:04
  know,
• 10:04
  I
• 10:04
  hear
• 10:04
  women
• 10:05
  say,
• 10:05
  yes,
• 10:05
  but
• 10:05
  I'm
• 10:06
  in
• 10:06
  menopause.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:06
  I,
• 10:07
  yeah,
• 10:07
  no,
• 10:08
  I'm
• 10:08
  going
• 10:08
  to
• 10:08
  tell
• 10:08
  you
• 10:08
  right
• 10:09
  now,
• 10:09
  there
• 10:09
  are
• 10:09
  so
• 10:09
  many
• 10:10
  women
• 10:10
  I
• 10:10
  know
• 10:11
  that
• 10:11
  say,
• 10:11
  oh,
• 10:12
  I'm
• 10:12
  in
• 10:12
  menopause,
• 10:13
  then
• 10:13
  they
• 10:14
  change
• 10:14
  partners
• 10:14
  or
• 10:14
  they
• 10:15
  get
• 10:15
  divorced
• 10:15
  and
• 10:15
  they're
• 10:16
  ready
• 10:16
  for
• 10:16
  some
• 10:16
  of
• 10:16
  that
• 10:17
  and
• 10:17
  they're
• 10:17
  like,
• 10:17
  where
• 10:17
  did
• 10:18
  my
• 10:18
  sex
• 10:18
  drive
• 10:18
  come
• 10:19
  from?
• 10:19
  I'm
• 10:19
  not
• 10:20
  saying
• 10:20
  you
• 10:20
  might
• 10:20
  not
• 10:20
  need
• 10:21
  some
• 10:21
  testosterone
• 10:21
  and
• 10:21
  all
• 10:22
  of
• 10:22
  that,
• 10:22
  because
• 10:22
  all
• 10:22
  of
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  sudden
• 10:23
  once
• 10:23
  you
• 10:23
  go
• 10:23
  into
• 10:23
  menopause,
• 10:24
  everything
• 10:24
  goes
• 10:24
  in
• 10:24
  the
• 10:25
  trash.
• 10:25
  It
• 10:26
  does,
• 10:26
  trust
• 10:26
  me.
• 10:26
  I
• 10:26
  hit
• 10:27
  menopause
• 10:27
  at
• 10:27
  25.
• 10:28
  The
• 10:28
  thing
• 10:29
  is
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  your
• 10:30
  body
• 10:30
  and
• 10:31
  experiencing
• 10:32
  pleasure
• 10:32
  is
• 10:32
  about
• 10:33
  you,
• 10:34
  no
• 10:34
  one
• 10:35
  else.
• 10:35
  We
• 10:36
  shouldn't
• 10:36
  be
• 10:37
  giving
• 10:37
  away
• 10:38
  our
• 10:38
  power
• 10:39
  when
• 10:39
  you
• 10:39
  have
• 10:39
  sex
• 10:40
  with
• 10:40
  someone
• 10:40
  because
• 10:41
  they
• 10:41
  want
• 10:41
  it
• 10:41
  and
• 10:41
  you
• 10:42
  don't.
• 10:42
  They're
• 10:42
  one
• 10:42
  piece
• 10:43
  of
• 10:43
  your
• 10:43
  power.
• 10:44
  When
• 10:44
  you're
• 10:44
  like,
• 10:45
  oh,
• 10:45
  he
• 10:45
  keeps
• 10:46
  nagging.
• 10:46
  There's
• 10:47
  a
• 10:47
  little
• 10:47
  piece
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  your
• 10:47
  power.
• 10:48
  Like,
• 10:49
  stop
• 10:49
  giving
• 10:50
  it
• 10:50
  away,
• 10:51
  because
• 10:52
  I,
• 10:52
  I.
• 10:52
  And
• 10:52
  I'm
• 10:53
  not
• 10:53
  going
• 10:53
  to
• 10:53
  get
• 10:53
  in.
• 10:53
  Like,
• 10:54
  it's.
• 10:54
  To
• 10:54
  me,
• 10:55
  it's
• 10:55
  not
• 10:55
  about
• 10:55
  religion.
• 10:56
  It's
• 10:56
  not
• 10:56
  about
• 10:57
  morals,
• 10:57
  ethics,
• 10:58
  whatever.
• 10:59
  Like,
• 10:59
  the
• 10:59
  reality
• 11:00
  is,
• 11:00
  is.
• 11:01
  Is
• 11:01
  that
• 11:02
  it's
• 11:02
  not.
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  guess
• 11:03
  I
• 11:03
  don't
• 11:04
  look
• 11:04
  at
• 11:04
  it
• 11:04
  as
• 11:04
  our
• 11:05
  body
• 11:05
  is
• 11:05
  this,
• 11:06
  you
• 11:06
  know,
• 11:06
  sacred
• 11:07
  thing.
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  look
• 11:08
  at
• 11:08
  it
• 11:08
  as
• 11:09
  our
• 11:09
  body
• 11:09
  is
• 11:09
  our
• 11:10
  power.
• 11:11
  And
• 11:11
  if
• 11:11
  you
• 11:11
  are
• 11:12
  disconnected
• 11:12
  from
• 11:13
  yourself,
• 11:15
  then
• 11:15
  you're
• 11:15
  disconnected
• 11:16
  from
• 11:16
  your
• 11:16
  source
• 11:16
  of
• 11:16
  power.
• 11:17
  Exactly.
• 11:18
  Yeah.
• 11:18
  You
• 11:19
  know,
• 11:19
  and
• 11:20
  I
• 11:20
  love
• 11:20
  that
• 11:20
  you
• 11:21
  think
• 11:21
  about
• 11:21
  this
• 11:21
  and
• 11:22
  that
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  incorporate
• 11:23
  it
• 11:23
  into
• 11:23
  the
• 11:23
  work
• 11:24
  you
• 11:24
  do,
• 11:24
  because
• 11:25
  it
• 11:26
  is
• 11:26
  this
• 11:26
  interesting
• 11:29
  way
• 11:29
  that
• 11:30
  we
• 11:30
  disconnect
• 11:30
  from
• 11:31
  ourselves.
• 11:32
  Society
• 11:32
  has
• 11:33
  sort
• 11:33
  of
• 11:33
  created
• 11:33
  a
• 11:34
  recipe
• 11:34
  where
• 11:34
  the
• 11:35
  power
• 11:35
  of
• 11:35
  women
• 11:36
  has
• 11:36
  been
• 11:36
  contained
• 11:37
  and
• 11:38
  not
• 11:38
  appreciated.
• 11:39
  And
• 11:39
  so
• 11:40
  we
• 11:40
  have
• 11:41
  downplayed
• 11:41
  it.
• 11:42
  Even
• 11:42
  though,
• 11:42
  as
• 11:43
  you
• 11:43
  said,
• 11:43
  we
• 11:43
  are
• 11:44
  so
• 11:45
  powerful,
• 11:45
  even
• 11:46
  though
• 11:46
  we're
• 11:46
  often
• 11:47
  the
• 11:47
  smaller
• 11:47
  of
• 11:48
  the
• 11:48
  sexes,
• 11:48
  we're
• 11:49
  still
• 11:50
  formidable
• 11:51
  in
• 11:51
  all
• 11:51
  of
• 11:51
  our
• 11:51
  ways,
• 11:52
  and
• 11:52
  our
• 11:52
  bodies
• 11:53
  tell
• 11:53
  us
• 11:54
  so
• 11:54
  much.
• 11:54
  And
• 11:55
  so
• 11:55
  when
• 11:55
  we're
• 11:55
  not
• 11:55
  connected,
• 11:56
  giving
• 11:57
  up
• 11:57
  our
• 11:57
  power,
• 11:58
  how
• 11:58
  is
• 11:59
  this
• 11:59
  connected
• 12:00
  to
• 12:00
  our
• 12:01
  ability
• 12:01
  to
• 12:02
  lead
• 12:03
  and
• 12:05
  manifest
• 12:06
  in
• 12:06
  the
• 12:07
  world?
• 12:07
  Yeah.
• 12:08
  So,
• 12:08
  I
• 12:09
  mean,
• 12:09
  if
• 12:09
  you
• 12:09
  don't
• 12:09
  own
• 12:09
  your
• 12:09
  power,
• 12:10
  it's
• 12:10
  kind
• 12:10
  of
• 12:10
  hard
• 12:10
  to
• 12:11
  lead.
• 12:11
  You're
• 12:11
  faking
• 12:11
  it
• 12:12
  until
• 12:12
  you
• 12:12
  make
• 12:12
  it.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:13
  so
• 12:14
  here's
• 12:14
  the
• 12:15
  thing
• 12:15
  is,
• 12:16
  in
• 12:16
  the
• 12:16
  workplace,
• 12:17
  women
• 12:17
  are
• 12:18
  challenged
• 12:18
  in
• 12:18
  a
• 12:19
  different
• 12:19
  way
• 12:19
  than
• 12:19
  men,
• 12:20
  and
• 12:20
  I
• 12:20
  would
• 12:20
  say
• 12:20
  much
• 12:21
  more
• 12:21
  often
• 12:22
  more
• 12:22
  difficultly
• 12:23
  to
• 12:23
  be
• 12:23
  seen
• 12:24
  to
• 12:25
  be
• 12:25
  our
• 12:25
  space.
• 12:26
  Right.
• 12:27
  Owning
• 12:27
  our
• 12:28
  space
• 12:28
  is
• 12:28
  a
• 12:29
  much
• 12:29
  greater
• 12:29
  challenge.
• 12:30
  And
• 12:31
  if
• 12:31
  you
• 12:31
  don't
• 12:31
  own
• 12:32
  the
• 12:32
  power
• 12:32
  within
• 12:33
  you,
• 12:33
  how
• 12:34
  are
• 12:34
  you
• 12:34
  going
• 12:34
  to
• 12:35
  walk
• 12:35
  into
• 12:35
  a
• 12:35
  room
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  own
• 12:36
  your
• 12:37
  space
• 12:38
  in
• 12:38
  a
• 12:38
  book
• 12:38
  club?
• 12:39
  I
• 12:39
  have.
• 12:39
  We're
• 12:39
  doing.
• 12:40
  We're
• 12:40
  doing
• 12:40
  Shonda
• 12:41
  Rhimes,
• 12:41
  year
• 12:42
  of
• 12:42
  yes.
• 12:42
  And
• 12:43
  so
• 12:43
  in
• 12:43
  light
• 12:44
  of
• 12:44
  that,
• 12:44
  I'm
• 12:44
  binging
• 12:45
  or
• 12:45
  have
• 12:46
  binged,
• 12:46
  how
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  Get
• 12:47
  Away
• 12:47
  with
• 12:47
  Murder
• 12:48
  and
• 12:49
  Scandal.
• 12:49
  What
• 12:50
  I
• 12:50
  love
• 12:50
  about
• 12:51
  her
• 12:51
  characters
• 12:52
  is
• 12:53
  they
• 12:54
  own
• 12:54
  it.
• 12:54
  Whether
• 12:55
  it
• 12:55
  is
• 12:56
  Annalise
• 12:57
  Keating,
• 12:58
  whether,
• 12:58
  you
• 12:59
  know,
• 12:59
  it
• 12:59
  is
• 12:59
  Olivia
• 13:00
  Pope,
• 13:01
  they
• 13:02
  own
• 13:02
  the
• 13:03
  room.
• 13:04
  They
• 13:04
  don't.
• 13:05
  They
• 13:05
  have
• 13:06
  this
• 13:06
  absolute
• 13:08
  confidence.
• 13:09
  And
• 13:09
  the
• 13:09
  thing
• 13:10
  is,
• 13:10
  is
• 13:11
  that
• 13:11
  we
• 13:11
  all
• 13:11
  have
• 13:12
  that
• 13:12
  in
• 13:12
  us.
• 13:13
  Right?
• 13:13
  They're
• 13:13
  not
• 13:14
  right
• 13:14
  all
• 13:14
  the
• 13:14
  time.
• 13:15
  They
• 13:15
  mess
• 13:15
  up,
• 13:16
  but
• 13:16
  they
• 13:16
  sit
• 13:17
  in
• 13:17
  their
• 13:17
  confidence,
• 13:18
  in
• 13:18
  their
• 13:18
  belief
• 13:18
  about
• 13:19
  themselves.
• 13:20
  And
• 13:21
  I
• 13:21
  really
• 13:21
  challenge
• 13:22
  how
• 13:22
  many
• 13:23
  women
• 13:23
  have
• 13:23
  that,
• 13:24
  because
• 13:24
  I,
• 13:25
  most
• 13:25
  people
• 13:25
  saw
• 13:26
  as
• 13:26
  a
• 13:26
  very
• 13:26
  confident
• 13:27
  person,
• 13:27
  independent
• 13:28
  person.
• 13:29
  And
• 13:29
  I
• 13:29
  will
• 13:29
  tell
• 13:29
  you,
• 13:30
  I
• 13:30
  only
• 13:31
  recently
• 13:31
  came
• 13:32
  into
• 13:32
  absolute
• 13:34
  confidence
• 13:34
  where
• 13:35
  I
• 13:35
  can
• 13:35
  stand
• 13:36
  in
• 13:36
  a
• 13:36
  room
• 13:37
  and
• 13:37
  I
• 13:38
  am
• 13:38
  grounded
• 13:38
  and
• 13:39
  unshakable.
• 13:40
  And,
• 13:41
  you
• 13:41
  know,
• 13:41
  I
• 13:41
  used
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  say,
• 13:42
  come
• 13:42
  at
• 13:42
  me.
• 13:43
  And
• 13:43
  if
• 13:43
  they
• 13:43
  came
• 13:43
  at
• 13:43
  me,
• 13:44
  I'd
• 13:44
  charge
• 13:44
  back.
• 13:45
  Right?
• 13:46
  I
• 13:46
  would.
• 13:47
  I
• 13:47
  would
• 13:47
  defend.
• 13:48
  I
• 13:48
  could
• 13:48
  hold
• 13:48
  the
• 13:49
  fort.
• 13:49
  Now
• 13:50
  I
• 13:51
  feel
• 13:51
  like
• 13:52
  you
• 13:52
  want
• 13:52
  to
• 13:52
  come
• 13:52
  at
• 13:53
  me.
• 13:53
  I
• 13:54
  don't
• 13:54
  have
• 13:54
  time.
• 13:54
  Sorry.
• 13:56
  It's.
• 13:56
  It's
• 13:56
  the
• 13:57
  aikido
• 13:57
  move,
• 13:58
  Right?
• 13:58
  Right.
• 13:58
  It's.
• 13:59
  It's
• 13:59
  the.
• 14:00
  It's
• 14:00
  the.
• 14:01
  And
• 14:01
  why
• 14:01
  are
• 14:01
  you
• 14:02
  relevant?
• 14:03
  Because
• 14:03
  you
• 14:03
  aren't
• 14:03
  trusting
• 14:04
  that
• 14:04
  what
• 14:04
  I
• 14:05
  know
• 14:05
  is
• 14:05
  enough.
• 14:06
  And
• 14:06
  it's
• 14:06
  just
• 14:07
  such
• 14:07
  that
• 14:07
  thing,
• 14:07
  right?
• 14:08
  And
• 14:08
  I'll
• 14:08
  say
• 14:08
  this
• 14:08
  just
• 14:08
  real
• 14:09
  quick.
• 14:09
  Think
• 14:09
  about
• 14:10
  it.
• 14:10
  When
• 14:10
  we're
• 14:10
  little
• 14:10
  girls,
• 14:11
  you
• 14:11
  know,
• 14:11
  or
• 14:12
  we're
• 14:12
  taught,
• 14:12
  like,
• 14:13
  get
• 14:13
  along
• 14:13
  with
• 14:13
  others,
• 14:14
  right?
• 14:15
  So
• 14:15
  we
• 14:15
  state
• 14:16
  our
• 14:16
  opinion.
• 14:16
  Someone
• 14:17
  challenges
• 14:18
  that
• 14:18
  opinion,
• 14:18
  and
• 14:18
  we're
• 14:18
  like,
• 14:19
  maybe
• 14:19
  we
• 14:19
  need
• 14:19
  to
• 14:20
  rethink
• 14:20
  our
• 14:20
  opinion.
• 14:21
  We
• 14:21
  get
• 14:21
  small.
• 14:22
  Instead
• 14:22
  of
• 14:22
  saying,
• 14:23
  I
• 14:23
  appreciate
• 14:24
  your
• 14:24
  opinion,
• 14:24
  but
• 14:25
  I'm
• 14:25
  going
• 14:25
  to
• 14:25
  stand
• 14:25
  in
• 14:26
  my
• 14:26
  truth
• 14:26
  because
• 14:26
  I
• 14:26
  know
• 14:26
  my
• 14:27
  truth
• 14:27
  to
• 14:27
  be
• 14:27
  my
• 14:27
  truth.
• 14:28
  Or
• 14:29
  to
• 14:29
  say,
• 14:29
  great
• 14:29
  point.
• 14:30
  I'd
• 14:30
  like
• 14:30
  to
• 14:31
  think
• 14:31
  about
• 14:31
  that
• 14:31
  and
• 14:32
  incorporate
• 14:32
  that
• 14:32
  in
• 14:33
  mind.
• 14:33
  Do
• 14:33
  you
• 14:33
  see
• 14:33
  how
• 14:34
  it's
• 14:34
  a
• 14:34
  different
• 14:34
  stance
• 14:35
  to
• 14:35
  say,
• 14:35
  I
• 14:36
  can
• 14:36
  value
• 14:36
  you,
• 14:36
  but
• 14:37
  I'm
• 14:37
  going
• 14:37
  to
• 14:37
  value
• 14:37
  me
• 14:38
  too,
• 14:38
  by
• 14:38
  valuing
• 14:39
  you.
• 14:39
  I'm
• 14:39
  not
• 14:40
  going
• 14:40
  to
• 14:40
  take
• 14:41
  away
• 14:41
  my
• 14:41
  power
• 14:42
  because
• 14:42
  we
• 14:43
  give
• 14:43
  it
• 14:43
  away.
• 14:44
  It's
• 14:45
  a
• 14:45
  journey
• 14:45
  to
• 14:46
  get
• 14:46
  there,
• 14:46
  and
• 14:46
  it's
• 14:46
  awesome.
• 14:47
  Such
• 14:47
  a
• 14:47
  journey.
• 14:48
  You're
• 14:48
  bringing
• 14:49
  up
• 14:49
  this
• 14:49
  book
• 14:50
  by
• 14:50
  Chandra
• 14:51
  Rhimes,
• 14:51
  the
• 14:51
  Year
• 14:52
  of
• 14:52
  Yes,
• 14:52
  I
• 14:53
  think.
• 14:53
  Is
• 14:53
  that
• 14:53
  what
• 14:53
  it's
• 14:54
  called?
• 14:54
  Or
• 14:54
  something
• 14:54
  like
• 14:54
  that?
• 14:55
  Yes,
• 14:55
  exactly.
• 14:56
  And
• 14:56
  she
• 14:57
  talks
• 14:57
  about
• 14:58
  her
• 14:58
  decision
• 14:58
  to
• 14:59
  say
• 14:59
  yes
• 14:59
  for
• 14:59
  a
• 14:59
  year
• 14:59
  to
• 15:00
  things
• 15:00
  that
• 15:00
  are
• 15:00
  scary
• 15:01
  to
• 15:01
  her.
• 15:01
  The
• 15:01
  journey
• 15:02
  begins
• 15:02
  not
• 15:03
  by
• 15:03
  being
• 15:03
  confident,
• 15:04
  but
• 15:04
  by
• 15:05
  saying,
• 15:05
  yes,
• 15:06
  I
• 15:06
  can
• 15:07
  do
• 15:07
  this.
• 15:08
  Like,
• 15:08
  she
• 15:08
  was
• 15:09
  invited,
• 15:09
  but,
• 15:10
  like,
• 15:10
  she
• 15:10
  was
• 15:10
  invited
• 15:11
  to
• 15:11
  go
• 15:11
  speak
• 15:12
  at
• 15:12
  a.
• 15:12
  Like,
• 15:12
  Obama
• 15:14
  or
• 15:14
  a.
• 15:14
  Or
• 15:15
  something.
• 15:15
  She
• 15:15
  was
• 15:16
  invited
• 15:16
  to
• 15:16
  go
• 15:16
  do
• 15:17
  something,
• 15:17
  right?
• 15:17
  I
• 15:17
  can't
• 15:17
  remember
• 15:18
  the
• 15:18
  book,
• 15:18
  but.
• 15:19
  But
• 15:19
  she
• 15:19
  had
• 15:20
  to
• 15:20
  say
• 15:20
  yes
• 15:20
  in
• 15:21
  order
• 15:21
  to
• 15:21
  kind
• 15:22
  of
• 15:22
  get
• 15:22
  off
• 15:22
  of
• 15:22
  it.
• 15:22
  And
• 15:22
  then,
• 15:23
  like,
• 15:23
  her
• 15:23
  sister
• 15:24
  challenged
• 15:24
  her,
• 15:25
  right?
• 15:25
  She's
• 15:25
  like,
• 15:25
  you're
• 15:25
  not
• 15:25
  going
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  say
• 15:26
  yes
• 15:26
  to
• 15:26
  this
• 15:27
  invitation
• 15:27
  to
• 15:27
  go
• 15:28
  speak.
• 15:28
  Speak
• 15:29
  at
• 15:30
  Barack
• 15:30
  Obama's
• 15:31
  inaugural
• 15:31
  thing
• 15:32
  or
• 15:32
  whatever.
• 15:32
  And.
• 15:33
  And.
• 15:33
  And
• 15:33
  she's
• 15:34
  like,
• 15:34
  what
• 15:34
  do
• 15:34
  you
• 15:34
  mean?
• 15:34
  She's
• 15:34
  like,
• 15:35
  you.
• 15:35
  You
• 15:35
  get
• 15:35
  invited
• 15:36
  to
• 15:36
  all
• 15:36
  these
• 15:36
  cool
• 15:36
  things
• 15:37
  and
• 15:37
  you
• 15:37
  never
• 15:37
  go.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:38
  so
• 15:38
  she
• 15:38
  called
• 15:39
  her
• 15:39
  on
• 15:39
  it.
• 15:39
  And
• 15:39
  that's.
• 15:40
  I
• 15:40
  think
• 15:40
  that's
• 15:41
  what
• 15:41
  I'm
• 15:41
  hearing
• 15:42
  from
• 15:42
  you,
• 15:42
  calling
• 15:43
  us
• 15:43
  on
• 15:43
  it,
• 15:44
  saying,
• 15:44
  now
• 15:44
  is
• 15:44
  your
• 15:45
  time,
• 15:45
  right?
• 15:46
  To
• 15:46
  say.
• 15:47
  And
• 15:47
  here's
• 15:48
  the
• 15:48
  thing.
• 15:48
  Like,
• 15:48
  I
• 15:48
  want
• 15:48
  to
• 15:49
  stress
• 15:49
  this.
• 15:50
  There
• 15:50
  is
• 15:51
  no
• 15:51
  shame
• 15:51
  in
• 15:52
  not
• 15:52
  standing
• 15:52
  in
• 15:52
  your
• 15:53
  absolute
• 15:53
  confidence
• 15:54
  because
• 15:54
  we
• 15:55
  were
• 15:55
  conditioned
• 15:56
  since
• 15:56
  we
• 15:56
  were
• 15:56
  born
• 15:57
  to
• 15:57
  away
• 15:57
  our
• 15:58
  power,
• 15:59
  we
• 15:59
  were
• 15:59
  conditioned
• 16:00
  to
• 16:00
  give
• 16:00
  away
• 16:01
  our
• 16:01
  power.
• 16:01
  The
• 16:01
  women
• 16:01
  before
• 16:02
  us
• 16:03
  did
• 16:03
  some
• 16:03
  of
• 16:03
  that
• 16:03
  conditioning
• 16:04
  too.
• 16:05
  Right.
• 16:05
  Because
• 16:06
  part
• 16:06
  of
• 16:06
  what.
• 16:07
  How
• 16:07
  this
• 16:07
  works
• 16:08
  is
• 16:08
  we
• 16:09
  stay.
• 16:09
  You
• 16:09
  know,
• 16:10
  and
• 16:10
  I'm
• 16:10
  gonna.
• 16:10
  I'm
• 16:10
  not
• 16:11
  trying
• 16:11
  to
• 16:11
  get
• 16:11
  on
• 16:11
  a
• 16:11
  big,
• 16:11
  like,
• 16:12
  patriarchal
• 16:12
  soapbox
• 16:13
  here,
• 16:13
  but
• 16:14
  the
• 16:14
  patriarchy
• 16:15
  works
• 16:15
  because
• 16:16
  they
• 16:16
  maintain
• 16:16
  power.
• 16:17
  How
• 16:17
  they
• 16:17
  maintain
• 16:18
  power
• 16:18
  is
• 16:18
  not
• 16:18
  just
• 16:19
  by
• 16:19
  enforcing
• 16:20
  it
• 16:20
  on
• 16:20
  us,
• 16:20
  but
• 16:21
  they
• 16:21
  have
• 16:21
  taught
• 16:22
  women
• 16:22
  to
• 16:22
  police
• 16:23
  each
• 16:23
  other,
• 16:24
  to
• 16:24
  keep
• 16:24
  each
• 16:24
  other
• 16:25
  small.
• 16:25
  And
• 16:26
  that
• 16:26
  is
• 16:26
  one
• 16:26
  of
• 16:26
  the
• 16:26
  things
• 16:27
  we
• 16:27
  need
• 16:27
  to
• 16:27
  be
• 16:27
  cognizant
• 16:28
  of,
• 16:29
  because
• 16:29
  so
• 16:29
  often
• 16:30
  we
• 16:30
  think
• 16:30
  another
• 16:31
  woman
• 16:31
  is
• 16:31
  always
• 16:32
  going
• 16:32
  to
• 16:32
  lift
• 16:32
  us
• 16:33
  up,
• 16:33
  Another
• 16:34
  woman
• 16:34
  is
• 16:34
  always
• 16:35
  going
• 16:35
  to
• 16:35
  give
• 16:35
  us
• 16:35
  the
• 16:36
  advice
• 16:36
  to
• 16:36
  make
• 16:37
  us
• 16:37
  strong.
• 16:38
  And
• 16:38
  sadly
• 16:38
  enough,
• 16:39
  that's
• 16:39
  not
• 16:39
  the
• 16:39
  case.
• 16:39
  And
• 16:40
  again,
• 16:40
  it's
• 16:41
  not
• 16:41
  their
• 16:41
  fault
• 16:42
  because
• 16:43
  they
• 16:43
  were
• 16:43
  conditioned
• 16:44
  that
• 16:44
  way.
• 16:44
  But
• 16:44
  once
• 16:45
  you
• 16:45
  are
• 16:45
  brought
• 16:45
  into
• 16:45
  the
• 16:46
  light,
• 16:46
  once
• 16:47
  you
• 16:47
  have
• 16:47
  knowledge,
• 16:48
  it
• 16:48
  is
• 16:48
  then
• 16:49
  your
• 16:49
  responsibility.
• 16:50
  It's
• 16:51
  awesome.
• 16:52
  Okay,
• 16:53
  so
• 16:53
  now
• 16:53
  let's
• 16:53
  talk
• 16:54
  about
• 16:55
  your
• 16:57
  focus
• 16:58
  on
• 16:58
  helping
• 16:58
  a
• 16:58
  woman
• 16:59
  say
• 17:00
  and
• 17:00
  pitch
• 17:00
  what
• 17:01
  she
• 17:01
  would
• 17:01
  like
• 17:02
  to
• 17:02
  say,
• 17:02
  to
• 17:02
  be
• 17:02
  able
• 17:03
  to
• 17:03
  articulate
• 17:03
  what
• 17:04
  she
• 17:04
  wants
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  say.
• 17:04
  In
• 17:04
  a
• 17:05
  world
• 17:05
  where
• 17:05
  attention
• 17:05
  spans
• 17:06
  are
• 17:06
  short,
• 17:07
  how
• 17:07
  can
• 17:08
  women
• 17:08
  leaders
• 17:08
  refine
• 17:09
  their
• 17:09
  pitches
• 17:10
  to
• 17:10
  ensure
• 17:11
  they're
• 17:11
  not
• 17:11
  only
• 17:11
  heard,
• 17:12
  but.
• 17:12
  But
• 17:13
  also
• 17:13
  resonant.
• 17:14
  Yes,
• 17:15
  exactly.
• 17:16
  And
• 17:16
  I
• 17:16
  think,
• 17:16
  like,
• 17:17
  we
• 17:17
  don't.
• 17:18
  We
• 17:19
  don't
• 17:19
  realize
• 17:20
  some
• 17:20
  of
• 17:20
  these
• 17:20
  things.
• 17:20
  And
• 17:21
  you
• 17:21
  hear
• 17:21
  so
• 17:21
  often,
• 17:22
  you
• 17:23
  know,
• 17:23
  I
• 17:23
  help
• 17:24
  so
• 17:24
  and
• 17:24
  so.
• 17:24
  And
• 17:25
  I
• 17:25
  don't
• 17:25
  know
• 17:25
  about
• 17:25
  you,
• 17:25
  but
• 17:26
  it
• 17:26
  just
• 17:26
  becomes
• 17:26
  like
• 17:26
  the
• 17:26
  teacher
• 17:27
  on
• 17:27
  the
• 17:27
  peanuts.
• 17:27
  And
• 17:28
  it's
• 17:28
  like,
• 17:29
  that's
• 17:30
  all
• 17:30
  I
• 17:30
  hear
• 17:30
  because
• 17:30
  everybody
• 17:31
  says
• 17:31
  the
• 17:31
  same
• 17:32
  thing
• 17:32
  over
• 17:32
  and
• 17:32
  over
• 17:32
  again.
• 17:33
  And.
• 17:33
  And
• 17:34
  I'm
• 17:34
  out.
• 17:34
  I'm
• 17:34
  tuned
• 17:35
  up.
• 17:35
  One
• 17:35
  of
• 17:35
  the
• 17:35
  things
• 17:36
  I
• 17:36
  do
• 17:36
  is
• 17:37
  work
• 17:37
  with
• 17:38
  women
• 17:38
  to
• 17:39
  create
• 17:39
  pitches
• 17:40
  that
• 17:40
  are
• 17:41
  unique
• 17:41
  to
• 17:41
  them,
• 17:42
  that
• 17:42
  are
• 17:42
  unique
• 17:42
  to
• 17:43
  the
• 17:43
  population
• 17:44
  they're
• 17:44
  addressing,
• 17:45
  who
• 17:45
  their
• 17:45
  avatars
• 17:46
  are.
• 17:46
  Right.
• 17:46
  We
• 17:47
  create
• 17:47
  a
• 17:47
  pitch
• 17:48
  for
• 17:48
  when
• 17:48
  you
• 17:48
  network,
• 17:49
  for
• 17:49
  when
• 17:49
  you're
• 17:49
  in
• 17:49
  a
• 17:49
  small
• 17:50
  group
• 17:50
  at
• 17:50
  a
• 17:50
  dinner
• 17:51
  party.
• 17:51
  All
• 17:51
  of
• 17:51
  the
• 17:51
  above.
• 17:53
  But
• 17:53
  the
• 17:53
  thing
• 17:53
  about
• 17:54
  it
• 17:54
  is,
• 17:54
  is
• 17:54
  what
• 17:54
  makes
• 17:55
  it
• 17:55
  unique
• 17:55
  is
• 17:56
  when
• 17:56
  you
• 17:56
  start
• 17:56
  your
• 17:57
  pitch,
• 17:57
  it
• 17:57
  doesn't
• 17:58
  start
• 17:58
  with,
• 17:58
  I
• 17:58
  help,
• 17:59
  blah,
• 17:59
  blah,
• 17:59
  blah.
• 18:00
  You
• 18:00
  create
• 18:00
  a
• 18:01
  situation
• 18:01
  and
• 18:01
  present
• 18:02
  a
• 18:02
  situation.
• 18:03
  So,
• 18:04
  for
• 18:04
  instance,
• 18:06
  for
• 18:06
  me,
• 18:07
  there's
• 18:07
  a
• 18:07
  couple
• 18:07
  of
• 18:07
  them,
• 18:08
  like
• 18:08
  in
• 18:08
  my
• 18:08
  coaching
• 18:09
  that
• 18:09
  I
• 18:09
  do
• 18:09
  when
• 18:09
  I'm
• 18:10
  coaching
• 18:10
  women
• 18:10
  in
• 18:10
  relationships,
• 18:11
  you
• 18:12
  know,
• 18:12
  my
• 18:12
  pitch
• 18:12
  starts
• 18:12
  out
• 18:13
  that
• 18:13
  worst
• 18:14
  kind
• 18:14
  of
• 18:14
  lonely
• 18:14
  that
• 18:15
  you
• 18:15
  can
• 18:15
  ever
• 18:15
  feel
• 18:15
  when
• 18:16
  you're
• 18:16
  lying
• 18:16
  next
• 18:16
  to
• 18:16
  somebody
• 18:17
  in
• 18:17
  bed,
• 18:17
  but
• 18:18
  you
• 18:18
  feel
• 18:18
  totally
• 18:19
  alone.
• 18:21
  And
• 18:21
  then
• 18:21
  I
• 18:21
  go
• 18:22
  on
• 18:22
  from
• 18:22
  there.
• 18:23
  Or
• 18:23
  in
• 18:24
  the
• 18:24
  business
• 18:24
  side,
• 18:24
  when
• 18:24
  you're
• 18:25
  busy,
• 18:25
  you're
• 18:26
  always
• 18:26
  booked,
• 18:26
  but
• 18:26
  your
• 18:27
  bank
• 18:27
  account's
• 18:27
  not
• 18:28
  Growing.
• 18:28
  All
• 18:28
  of
• 18:28
  a
• 18:28
  sudden
• 18:29
  that's
• 18:29
  like,
• 18:29
  wait
• 18:29
  a
• 18:29
  second,
• 18:30
  that's
• 18:30
  me.
• 18:30
  People
• 18:31
  tune
• 18:31
  in.
• 18:32
  You
• 18:32
  know,
• 18:32
  I,
• 18:33
  I
• 18:33
  work
• 18:33
  with
• 18:33
  various
• 18:34
  women
• 18:34
  doing
• 18:34
  various
• 18:35
  things
• 18:35
  in
• 18:35
  non
• 18:35
  profit
• 18:36
  and
• 18:36
  for
• 18:36
  profit.
• 18:37
  So
• 18:38
  for
• 18:38
  instance,
• 18:38
  in
• 18:38
  the
• 18:38
  nonprofit
• 18:39
  world,
• 18:39
  I
• 18:39
  help
• 18:40
  them
• 18:40
  create
• 18:40
  pitches
• 18:41
  for
• 18:41
  people
• 18:41
  who
• 18:42
  are
• 18:42
  donors,
• 18:43
  for
• 18:44
  people
• 18:44
  who
• 18:44
  are
• 18:45
  board
• 18:45
  members,
• 18:46
  for
• 18:46
  people
• 18:47
  within
• 18:47
  the
• 18:47
  corporation,
• 18:48
  talking
• 18:49
  to,
• 18:50
  you
• 18:50
  know,
• 18:50
  into
• 18:51
  the,
• 18:51
  the
• 18:51
  organization
• 18:52
  about
• 18:53
  how
• 18:53
  to,
• 18:54
  you
• 18:54
  know,
• 18:54
  how
• 18:54
  to
• 18:54
  pitch
• 18:55
  to
• 18:55
  their
• 18:55
  donors,
• 18:56
  how
• 18:56
  to
• 18:56
  pitch
• 18:56
  to
• 18:56
  the
• 18:56
  people
• 18:57
  that
• 18:57
  are
• 18:57
  there,
• 18:58
  volunteers,
• 18:59
  all
• 19:00
  of
• 19:00
  the
• 19:00
  above.
• 19:01
  And
• 19:02
  so,
• 19:02
  you
• 19:02
  know,
• 19:02
  it's
• 19:02
  very
• 19:03
  tailor
• 19:03
  made.
• 19:04
  The
• 19:04
  other
• 19:04
  thing
• 19:05
  that
• 19:05
  I
• 19:05
  will
• 19:05
  throw
• 19:05
  out
• 19:05
  there,
• 19:07
  I
• 19:07
  have
• 19:07
  been
• 19:08
  slow
• 19:08
  to
• 19:08
  come
• 19:09
  to
• 19:09
  the
• 19:09
  reality
• 19:09
  on
• 19:09
  this
• 19:09
  one.
• 19:10
  It
• 19:10
  was
• 19:10
  such
• 19:10
  a
• 19:10
  powerful
• 19:11
  thing
• 19:11
  when
• 19:11
  I
• 19:11
  learned
• 19:11
  it.
• 19:12
  When
• 19:13
  you
• 19:13
  say
• 19:13
  I
• 19:14
  help
• 19:15
  you
• 19:15
  draw
• 19:16
  people
• 19:16
  who
• 19:16
  need
• 19:17
  stuff,
• 19:18
  that
• 19:18
  doesn't
• 19:19
  mean
• 19:19
  they're
• 19:19
  ready
• 19:19
  to
• 19:19
  take
• 19:19
  action.
• 19:20
  Yes.
• 19:22
  So
• 19:22
  what
• 19:22
  do
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
  do
• 19:22
  about
• 19:23
  that?
• 19:24
  Instead
• 19:24
  of
• 19:24
  saying,
• 19:25
  you
• 19:25
  know,
• 19:25
  I
• 19:26
  help
• 19:26
  you
• 19:27
  turn
• 19:27
  it
• 19:27
  around
• 19:27
  to
• 19:28
  what
• 19:28
  do
• 19:28
  you
• 19:28
  do?
• 19:29
  Right,
• 19:30
  I
• 19:30
  work
• 19:30
  with.
• 19:31
  Right.
• 19:32
  That's
• 19:32
  a
• 19:32
  really
• 19:33
  good
• 19:33
  one.
• 19:33
  I
• 19:33
  think
• 19:33
  simple
• 19:34
  as
• 19:34
  I
• 19:34
  work
• 19:34
  with,
• 19:35
  I
• 19:35
  collaborate
• 19:36
  with,
• 19:37
  I
• 19:37
  coach.
• 19:38
  But
• 19:38
  when
• 19:39
  you
• 19:39
  put
• 19:39
  that
• 19:39
  word
• 19:39
  help
• 19:40
  out
• 19:40
  there,
• 19:40
  you're
• 19:40
  going
• 19:41
  to
• 19:41
  get
• 19:41
  needy
• 19:41
  people.
• 19:42
  Right,
• 19:42
  right,
• 19:43
  right.
• 19:43
  And
• 19:43
  that
• 19:43
  doesn't
• 19:43
  mean,
• 19:44
  especially
• 19:44
  if
• 19:44
  you're.
• 19:45
  Doing
• 19:45
  coaching
• 19:46
  or
• 19:46
  that
• 19:46
  kind
• 19:46
  of
• 19:47
  equal
• 19:47
  advisory
• 19:48
  work,
• 19:48
  consulting
• 19:49
  work
• 19:49
  when
• 19:50
  it
• 19:50
  comes.
• 19:50
  To
• 19:50
  fundraising,
• 19:51
  that
• 19:51
  can
• 19:51
  be
• 19:51
  a
• 19:51
  cautious
• 19:52
  one.
• 19:52
  Right.
• 19:53
  So
• 19:53
  I
• 19:53
  think
• 19:54
  of
• 19:54
  like,
• 19:54
  you
• 19:54
  know,
• 19:55
  in
• 19:55
  building
• 19:55
  a
• 19:55
  business,
• 19:56
  right.
• 19:56
  I
• 19:57
  need,
• 19:57
  you
• 19:57
  know,
• 19:58
  when
• 19:58
  you
• 19:58
  hear
• 19:59
  somebody
• 19:59
  say,
• 20:00
  if
• 20:00
  you're
• 20:00
  a
• 20:00
  marketing
• 20:01
  person,
• 20:01
  I
• 20:01
  help
• 20:02
  businesses,
• 20:02
  da,
• 20:03
  da,
• 20:03
  da,
• 20:03
  da.
• 20:03
  Well,
• 20:04
  every
• 20:04
  business
• 20:04
  is
• 20:04
  going
• 20:04
  to
• 20:05
  need.
• 20:05
  That
• 20:05
  doesn't
• 20:05
  mean
• 20:05
  they're
• 20:05
  going
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  be
• 20:06
  able
• 20:06
  to
• 20:06
  pay.
• 20:06
  Right.
• 20:07
  So
• 20:07
  what
• 20:07
  kind
• 20:07
  of
• 20:07
  business?
• 20:08
  Like,
• 20:08
  I
• 20:08
  think,
• 20:08
  like
• 20:09
  we
• 20:09
  don't
• 20:10
  realize
• 20:10
  how
• 20:10
  much
• 20:11
  we're
• 20:11
  getting
• 20:11
  the
• 20:12
  wrong
• 20:12
  audience.
• 20:13
  Because
• 20:13
  we're
• 20:14
  not
• 20:14
  specifying
• 20:15
  it
• 20:15
  when
• 20:15
  we
• 20:15
  ask
• 20:15
  for
• 20:16
  it.
• 20:16
  Right.
• 20:17
  And
• 20:17
  we
• 20:18
  don't
• 20:18
  realize
• 20:18
  how
• 20:19
  much
• 20:19
  our
• 20:19
  limiting
• 20:20
  beliefs
• 20:20
  and
• 20:21
  fears
• 20:21
  come
• 20:21
  through
• 20:22
  our
• 20:22
  pitches.
• 20:23
  Well,
• 20:24
  that's
• 20:24
  probably
• 20:25
  true.
• 20:25
  So
• 20:25
  how
• 20:26
  do
• 20:26
  we
• 20:26
  flush
• 20:26
  that
• 20:27
  through
• 20:27
  and
• 20:28
  you
• 20:28
  know,
• 20:29
  come
• 20:29
  up
• 20:29
  with
• 20:29
  language?
• 20:30
  When
• 20:30
  you
• 20:30
  work
• 20:30
  with
• 20:30
  a
• 20:30
  person,
• 20:31
  with
• 20:31
  a,
• 20:31
  with
• 20:31
  a
• 20:31
  client,
• 20:32
  how
• 20:32
  do
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  help
• 20:33
  develop
• 20:33
  that
• 20:34
  language
• 20:34
  so
• 20:34
  it's
• 20:34
  clear
• 20:35
  and
• 20:35
  resonant
• 20:35
  and
• 20:36
  confident?
• 20:37
  Right.
• 20:37
  Great
• 20:38
  question.
• 20:38
  Because
• 20:38
  it's
• 20:39
  where
• 20:39
  we
• 20:39
  start.
• 20:40
  The
• 20:40
  first
• 20:40
  thing
• 20:40
  that
• 20:40
  was
• 20:41
  really
• 20:41
  important
• 20:41
  is
• 20:41
  you
• 20:42
  need
• 20:42
  to
• 20:42
  understand
• 20:43
  your
• 20:43
  attachment
• 20:44
  style.
• 20:45
  Many
• 20:45
  of
• 20:45
  us
• 20:45
  are
• 20:45
  aware
• 20:46
  there's
• 20:46
  secure
• 20:46
  attachment,
• 20:47
  anxious
• 20:47
  attachment,
• 20:48
  avoidant
• 20:49
  and
• 20:49
  disorganized,
• 20:50
  which
• 20:50
  is
• 20:50
  a
• 20:50
  newer
• 20:50
  one
• 20:51
  on
• 20:51
  the
• 20:51
  newer
• 20:51
  kid
• 20:51
  on
• 20:51
  the
• 20:52
  block,
• 20:52
  but
• 20:52
  it's
• 20:52
  a
• 20:52
  part
• 20:52
  of
• 20:52
  it.
• 20:53
  And
• 20:53
  I
• 20:53
  think,
• 20:54
  here's
• 20:54
  the
• 20:54
  thing,
• 20:54
  people
• 20:54
  who
• 20:54
  have
• 20:55
  secure
• 20:55
  attachment
• 20:55
  think
• 20:56
  they're
• 20:56
  not
• 20:56
  going
• 20:56
  to
• 20:56
  be
• 20:56
  vulnerable
• 20:57
  to
• 20:57
  Saying
• 20:57
  things
• 20:58
  that
• 20:58
  sometimes
• 20:59
  they
• 20:59
  get
• 20:59
  too
• 20:59
  comfy.
• 21:00
  The
• 21:00
  things
• 21:00
  they
• 21:01
  say
• 21:02
  may
• 21:02
  send
• 21:02
  out
• 21:02
  overconfidence
• 21:03
  or
• 21:04
  not
• 21:04
  needing
• 21:05
  or
• 21:06
  it's
• 21:06
  not
• 21:07
  really
• 21:07
  sending
• 21:08
  the
• 21:08
  right
• 21:08
  message.
• 21:09
  It's
• 21:09
  important
• 21:09
  to
• 21:10
  understand
• 21:10
  that
• 21:11
  people
• 21:11
  who
• 21:12
  tend
• 21:12
  to
• 21:12
  be
• 21:12
  anxious
• 21:13
  attachment,
• 21:14
  these
• 21:14
  are,
• 21:15
  you
• 21:15
  know,
• 21:15
  you'll
• 21:15
  identify
• 21:16
  yourself
• 21:16
  as
• 21:16
  someone
• 21:16
  who
• 21:17
  overworks,
• 21:18
  has
• 21:19
  to
• 21:19
  over
• 21:19
  manage,
• 21:20
  has
• 21:20
  boundary
• 21:21
  issues.
• 21:21
  You're
• 21:22
  seeking
• 21:22
  validation.
• 21:23
  Right.
• 21:25
  And
• 21:25
  for
• 21:25
  this
• 21:25
  one,
• 21:26
  what
• 21:26
  it
• 21:26
  tends
• 21:27
  to
• 21:27
  happen
• 21:27
  is
• 21:27
  you
• 21:27
  send
• 21:28
  out
• 21:28
  I'm
• 21:28
  needy.
• 21:29
  Right.
• 21:29
  Like
• 21:29
  so
• 21:29
  you
• 21:30
  don't
• 21:30
  even
• 21:30
  realize
• 21:30
  that
• 21:31
  what
• 21:31
  you're
• 21:31
  messaging
• 21:32
  tells
• 21:33
  other
• 21:33
  people
• 21:33
  I'm
• 21:34
  needy
• 21:34
  and
• 21:34
  I'm
• 21:34
  wanting
• 21:34
  you
• 21:35
  to
• 21:35
  accept
• 21:35
  and
• 21:35
  like
• 21:36
  me
• 21:36
  rather
• 21:37
  than
• 21:37
  it's
• 21:37
  pretty
• 21:37
  repellent,
• 21:38
  right?
• 21:38
  Right.
• 21:39
  And
• 21:39
  you
• 21:39
  do
• 21:39
  you
• 21:39
  repel
• 21:39
  people,
• 21:40
  you
• 21:40
  don't
• 21:40
  know
• 21:40
  it.
• 21:41
  Whereas
• 21:41
  like
• 21:41
  an
• 21:41
  avoidant,
• 21:42
  for
• 21:42
  instance,
• 21:43
  avoidant
• 21:43
  is
• 21:43
  someone
• 21:44
  who
• 21:44
  trusts
• 21:44
  themselves
• 21:45
  only.
• 21:45
  Right?
• 21:45
  I
• 21:46
  don't
• 21:46
  trust
• 21:46
  anybody
• 21:47
  else.
• 21:47
  I
• 21:47
  don't
• 21:47
  really
• 21:47
  want
• 21:47
  a
• 21:47
  lot
• 21:48
  of
• 21:48
  connection
• 21:48
  with
• 21:48
  other
• 21:48
  people
• 21:49
  because
• 21:49
  I
• 21:49
  don't
• 21:49
  trust
• 21:49
  you
• 21:49
  to
• 21:50
  show
• 21:50
  up,
• 21:50
  be
• 21:50
  who
• 21:50
  you
• 21:51
  say
• 21:51
  you're
• 21:51
  going
• 21:51
  to
• 21:51
  be.
• 21:52
  And
• 21:53
  in
• 21:53
  that
• 21:53
  situation,
• 21:54
  then
• 21:55
  you
• 21:55
  know,
• 21:55
  it's
• 21:56
  the
• 21:56
  distrust
• 21:57
  kind
• 21:57
  of
• 21:57
  comes
• 21:57
  through
• 21:58
  the
• 21:58
  messaging
• 21:58
  and
• 21:59
  you
• 21:59
  don't
• 21:59
  even
• 21:59
  realize
• 22:00
  it.
• 22:01
  So
• 22:02
  in
• 22:02
  that
• 22:02
  one,
• 22:02
  it's
• 22:02
  working
• 22:03
  on
• 22:04
  being
• 22:04
  able
• 22:04
  to
• 22:04
  get
• 22:04
  to
• 22:05
  a
• 22:05
  place
• 22:05
  of
• 22:06
  building
• 22:06
  trust.
• 22:07
  I
• 22:07
  am
• 22:07
  a
• 22:07
  humongous
• 22:08
  fan
• 22:08
  of
• 22:09
  braving
• 22:10
  by
• 22:10
  Bern
• 22:11
  Brown.
• 22:11
  I
• 22:11
  this
• 22:12
  an
• 22:12
  acronym.
• 22:12
  If
• 22:12
  you
• 22:12
  don't
• 22:13
  know
• 22:13
  it,
• 22:13
  get
• 22:14
  like
• 22:14
  get
• 22:14
  intimate
• 22:15
  with
• 22:15
  it.
• 22:16
  She
• 22:16
  has,
• 22:17
  and
• 22:17
  I
• 22:18
  will
• 22:18
  say
• 22:18
  this,
• 22:18
  it's
• 22:18
  true
• 22:18
  for
• 22:19
  all
• 22:19
  of
• 22:19
  these.
• 22:20
  So
• 22:20
  braving,
• 22:21
  if
• 22:21
  you
• 22:21
  don't
• 22:21
  know
• 22:22
  it
• 22:22
  is
• 22:22
  the
• 22:22
  seven
• 22:22
  elements
• 22:23
  of
• 22:23
  trust.
• 22:24
  B
• 22:24
  is
• 22:24
  boundaries.
• 22:25
  R
• 22:25
  is
• 22:25
  reliability.
• 22:26
  A
• 22:27
  is
• 22:27
  accountability.
• 22:28
  B
• 22:28
  is
• 22:28
  the
• 22:28
  vault.
• 22:29
  I
• 22:29
  is
• 22:30
  integrity.
• 22:30
  N
• 22:30
  is
• 22:31
  non
• 22:31
  judgment.
• 22:32
  G
• 22:32
  is
• 22:32
  generosity.
• 22:33
  You
• 22:33
  need
• 22:34
  to
• 22:34
  practice
• 22:34
  braving
• 22:34
  with
• 22:35
  yourself
• 22:36
  and
• 22:36
  with
• 22:36
  others,
• 22:37
  trust
• 22:37
  in
• 22:37
  others.
• 22:38
  One
• 22:38
  of
• 22:38
  those
• 22:38
  components,
• 22:39
  one
• 22:39
  of
• 22:39
  those
• 22:39
  seven
• 22:39
  letters
• 22:40
  is
• 22:40
  struggling.
• 22:42
  So
• 22:43
  look
• 22:43
  at
• 22:43
  those
• 22:44
  and
• 22:44
  see
• 22:44
  where
• 22:44
  we
• 22:44
  can.
• 22:45
  And
• 22:45
  that's
• 22:45
  where
• 22:46
  we
• 22:46
  navigate
• 22:47
  that
• 22:47
  attachment
• 22:48
  piece.
• 22:49
  Yeah,
• 22:49
  we
• 22:49
  do.
• 22:50
  And
• 22:50
  so
• 22:50
  what
• 22:50
  we
• 22:51
  also
• 22:51
  don't
• 22:51
  realize
• 22:51
  is
• 22:51
  under
• 22:52
  that
• 22:52
  attachment
• 22:52
  issue
• 22:53
  are
• 22:53
  core
• 22:53
  wounds.
• 22:54
  And
• 22:54
  so
• 22:54
  I
• 22:54
  address
• 22:55
  and
• 22:55
  start
• 22:55
  working
• 22:55
  with
• 22:55
  their
• 22:56
  core
• 22:56
  wounds
• 22:57
  through
• 22:58
  discussion
• 22:58
  and
• 22:59
  interaction
• 22:59
  of
• 23:00
  exercises.
• 23:00
  But
• 23:00
  we
• 23:00
  also
• 23:01
  do
• 23:01
  somatic
• 23:01
  stuff,
• 23:02
  which
• 23:02
  means
• 23:02
  letting
• 23:02
  the
• 23:03
  body
• 23:03
  do
• 23:03
  the
• 23:03
  talking,
• 23:04
  letting
• 23:04
  the
• 23:05
  body
• 23:05
  get
• 23:05
  us
• 23:05
  past
• 23:06
  our
• 23:06
  defensive
• 23:06
  walls.
• 23:07
  I
• 23:08
  do
• 23:09
  some
• 23:09
  fun
• 23:09
  work
• 23:10
  along
• 23:10
  those
• 23:10
  lines.
• 23:11
  It's
• 23:11
  about
• 23:12
  getting
• 23:12
  rid
• 23:12
  of
• 23:12
  those
• 23:12
  limiting
• 23:13
  beliefs.
• 23:14
  It
• 23:14
  seems
• 23:14
  difficult,
• 23:15
  but
• 23:15
  a
• 23:15
  lot
• 23:15
  of
• 23:16
  times
• 23:16
  what's
• 23:16
  happened
• 23:17
  is
• 23:17
  that
• 23:17
  if
• 23:17
  we've
• 23:17
  had
• 23:18
  any
• 23:18
  kind
• 23:18
  of
• 23:18
  trauma,
• 23:19
  it's
• 23:19
  our
• 23:19
  nervous
• 23:19
  system
• 23:20
  holding
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  belief,
• 23:21
  it's
• 23:21
  not
• 23:21
  our
• 23:21
  head.
• 23:22
  So
• 23:22
  often
• 23:23
  people
• 23:23
  are
• 23:23
  like,
• 23:23
  I've
• 23:23
  moved
• 23:24
  on
• 23:24
  beyond
• 23:24
  that,
• 23:25
  I've
• 23:25
  worked
• 23:25
  Through
• 23:25
  it,
• 23:26
  okay,
• 23:26
  but
• 23:26
  your
• 23:26
  body's
• 23:26
  self
• 23:27
  sabotaging
• 23:27
  you,
• 23:28
  so
• 23:28
  let's
• 23:28
  stop
• 23:28
  that,
• 23:29
  right?
• 23:29
  I
• 23:29
  can't
• 23:29
  go
• 23:30
  out
• 23:30
  into
• 23:30
  the
• 23:30
  world
• 23:30
  and
• 23:31
  ask
• 23:31
  for
• 23:31
  a
• 23:32
  deal
• 23:32
  or
• 23:32
  get
• 23:32
  my
• 23:33
  investor
• 23:33
  to
• 23:33
  give
• 23:33
  me
• 23:34
  money.
• 23:34
  And
• 23:35
  it
• 23:35
  has
• 23:35
  something
• 23:36
  to
• 23:36
  do
• 23:36
  with
• 23:36
  one
• 23:37
  of
• 23:37
  these
• 23:38
  issues
• 23:38
  from.
• 23:38
  Yeah,
• 23:39
  like,
• 23:40
  for
• 23:40
  instance,
• 23:40
  like,
• 23:40
  I
• 23:41
  mean,
• 23:41
  I
• 23:41
  will
• 23:41
  tell
• 23:41
  you,
• 23:42
  you
• 23:42
  know,
• 23:42
  I
• 23:42
  can
• 23:42
  share
• 23:42
  with
• 23:42
  you.
• 23:43
  Like,
• 23:43
  I
• 23:44
  had
• 23:44
  problems
• 23:45
  asking
• 23:45
  questions.
• 23:46
  I've
• 23:47
  been
• 23:47
  a
• 23:47
  very
• 23:47
  successful
• 23:48
  salesperson.
• 23:48
  Now
• 23:49
  that
• 23:49
  I've
• 23:49
  learned
• 23:49
  how
• 23:49
  my
• 23:50
  attachment
• 23:50
  issues
• 23:50
  have
• 23:51
  screwed
• 23:51
  me,
• 23:51
  like,
• 23:52
  have
• 23:52
  gotten
• 23:52
  in
• 23:52
  my
• 23:52
  way,
• 23:53
  I'm
• 23:53
  like,
• 23:53
  well,
• 23:53
  I
• 23:53
  must
• 23:53
  be
• 23:54
  really
• 23:54
  good
• 23:54
  at
• 23:54
  some
• 23:54
  of
• 23:54
  this
• 23:55
  stuff
• 23:55
  because
• 23:56
  I
• 23:56
  obviously
• 23:57
  was
• 23:57
  in
• 23:57
  a
• 23:57
  deficit
• 23:57
  on
• 23:58
  this
• 23:58
  other
• 23:58
  stuff,
• 23:58
  right?
• 23:59
  Like,
• 23:59
  just
• 23:59
  imagine
• 23:59
  how
• 24:00
  great
• 24:00
  I
• 24:00
  could
• 24:00
  have
• 24:00
  been.
• 24:01
  But
• 24:01
  I
• 24:02
  think
• 24:02
  the
• 24:02
  thing
• 24:02
  is,
• 24:02
  is,
• 24:03
  like,
• 24:03
  what
• 24:04
  I've
• 24:04
  had
• 24:04
  to
• 24:04
  realize
• 24:05
  is,
• 24:05
  right,
• 24:05
  Like,
• 24:05
  I
• 24:06
  have
• 24:06
  problems
• 24:06
  asking
• 24:07
  questions.
• 24:08
  I
• 24:08
  have
• 24:08
  problems
• 24:09
  asking
• 24:09
  questions
• 24:10
  because
• 24:10
  when
• 24:10
  I
• 24:10
  asked
• 24:11
  questions
• 24:11
  as
• 24:11
  a
• 24:11
  child,
• 24:12
  I
• 24:12
  was
• 24:12
  emotionally
• 24:12
  abused
• 24:13
  for
• 24:13
  it
• 24:13
  in
• 24:13
  a
• 24:13
  severe
• 24:14
  way.
• 24:15
  So
• 24:15
  for
• 24:16
  me,
• 24:16
  asking
• 24:16
  questions
• 24:17
  is
• 24:17
  a
• 24:17
  very
• 24:18
  dangerous
• 24:18
  thing.
• 24:19
  And
• 24:19
  so
• 24:20
  up
• 24:20
  here,
• 24:21
  right,
• 24:21
  I've.
• 24:21
  I've
• 24:22
  healed
• 24:22
  through
• 24:23
  the
• 24:23
  emotional
• 24:24
  abuse.
• 24:24
  However,
• 24:25
  my
• 24:26
  body
• 24:26
  hasn't
• 24:26
  let
• 24:27
  it
• 24:27
  go.
• 24:27
  So
• 24:28
  whether
• 24:28
  I
• 24:28
  realize
• 24:29
  it
• 24:29
  or
• 24:29
  not,
• 24:30
  me
• 24:30
  asking
• 24:31
  a
• 24:31
  question,
• 24:32
  my
• 24:32
  nervous
• 24:32
  system,
• 24:33
  on
• 24:33
  a
• 24:34
  totally
• 24:34
  unconscious,
• 24:35
  automatic
• 24:35
  level,
• 24:36
  sees
• 24:36
  that
• 24:36
  as
• 24:36
  danger.
• 24:38
  So
• 24:38
  I
• 24:38
  have
• 24:39
  to
• 24:39
  heal
• 24:39
  that.
• 24:40
  And
• 24:40
  now
• 24:40
  I'm
• 24:41
  like,
• 24:41
  oh,
• 24:41
  the
• 24:41
  BS
• 24:41
  questions
• 24:42
  all
• 24:42
  day
• 24:42
  long.
• 24:44
  That's
• 24:44
  wonderful.
• 24:45
  And
• 24:45
  what
• 24:45
  a
• 24:45
  wonderful
• 24:46
  way
• 24:46
  for
• 24:47
  us
• 24:47
  all
• 24:48
  to
• 24:48
  heal
• 24:49
  our
• 24:49
  old
• 24:49
  stuff,
• 24:50
  right?
• 24:50
  Coming
• 24:50
  back
• 24:51
  to
• 24:51
  that
• 24:52
  idea
• 24:52
  of
• 24:52
  somatic
• 24:53
  healing
• 24:54
  to
• 24:54
  be
• 24:54
  a
• 24:55
  doorway
• 24:55
  into
• 24:55
  our
• 24:55
  own
• 24:56
  power.
• 24:57
  It's
• 24:57
  really
• 24:57
  wonderful.
• 24:58
  Tell
• 24:59
  us
• 24:59
  now
• 24:59
  about
• 24:59
  caretaking.
• 25:00
  I
• 25:00
  know
• 25:01
  that's
• 25:01
  something
• 25:01
  you
• 25:01
  also
• 25:02
  talk
• 25:02
  about
• 25:02
  is
• 25:03
  how
• 25:03
  we
• 25:03
  as
• 25:03
  women
• 25:04
  tend
• 25:04
  to
• 25:04
  take
• 25:05
  that
• 25:05
  role
• 25:05
  on
• 25:06
  and
• 25:06
  how
• 25:06
  that
• 25:07
  can
• 25:07
  get
• 25:07
  in
• 25:07
  our
• 25:07
  way.
• 25:09
  Right.
• 25:09
  I
• 25:10
  have
• 25:10
  a
• 25:10
  book
• 25:10
  coming
• 25:11
  out
• 25:11
  in
• 25:11
  the
• 25:11
  next
• 25:11
  month
• 25:11
  or
• 25:11
  two
• 25:12
  called
• 25:12
  Love
• 25:12
  and
• 25:13
  Leadership.
• 25:13
  This
• 25:13
  is
• 25:13
  a
• 25:14
  big
• 25:14
  chunk
• 25:14
  of
• 25:14
  it
• 25:15
  because
• 25:16
  we.
• 25:17
  Again,
• 25:17
  this,
• 25:17
  this.
• 25:18
  And
• 25:18
  I'm,
• 25:18
  you
• 25:19
  know,
• 25:19
  it
• 25:19
  just
• 25:19
  is
• 25:20
  what
• 25:20
  it
• 25:20
  is.
• 25:20
  And
• 25:20
  I
• 25:21
  hate
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  say
• 25:21
  it,
• 25:21
  but
• 25:21
  we
• 25:22
  were
• 25:22
  taught
• 25:22
  to
• 25:22
  be
• 25:22
  caretakers,
• 25:23
  right?
• 25:24
  Because
• 25:25
  we.
• 25:25
  We
• 25:25
  as
• 25:26
  women
• 25:26
  have
• 25:26
  a
• 25:26
  nurturing
• 25:27
  right.
• 25:28
  It's.
• 25:28
  It's
• 25:28
  instinctual,
• 25:29
  but
• 25:29
  it's
• 25:30
  a
• 25:30
  part
• 25:30
  of
• 25:30
  who
• 25:30
  we
• 25:30
  are.
• 25:30
  But
• 25:30
  what's
• 25:31
  happened
• 25:31
  is
• 25:32
  other
• 25:32
  people
• 25:32
  got
• 25:32
  a
• 25:33
  hold
• 25:33
  of
• 25:33
  that
• 25:33
  and
• 25:33
  kind
• 25:34
  of
• 25:34
  twisted
• 25:34
  it
• 25:34
  and
• 25:34
  said,
• 25:35
  now
• 25:35
  you
• 25:35
  be
• 25:35
  the
• 25:35
  caretaker.
• 25:36
  The
• 25:36
  worst
• 25:37
  thing
• 25:37
  is
• 25:37
  when
• 25:37
  we
• 25:37
  have
• 25:38
  people
• 25:38
  who
• 25:38
  are
• 25:38
  emotionally
• 25:39
  immature
• 25:40
  around
• 25:40
  us,
• 25:41
  especially
• 25:42
  when
• 25:42
  we
• 25:42
  were
• 25:42
  young,
• 25:43
  they
• 25:44
  teach
• 25:44
  us
• 25:45
  to
• 25:45
  do
• 25:46
  their
• 25:46
  caretaking
• 25:47
  so
• 25:47
  that
• 25:47
  they
• 25:48
  don't
• 25:48
  have
• 25:48
  to
• 25:48
  do
• 25:48
  the
• 25:48
  work
• 25:49
  and
• 25:49
  grow
• 25:49
  up.
• 25:50
  And
• 25:50
  so
• 25:51
  we
• 25:51
  now
• 25:52
  become
• 25:52
  the
• 25:52
  caretakers
• 25:53
  in
• 25:53
  our
• 25:53
  families,
• 25:53
  the
• 25:54
  caretakers
• 25:55
  in
• 25:55
  our
• 25:55
  love
• 25:55
  life.
• 25:56
  The
• 25:56
  Caretakers
• 25:57
  with
• 25:57
  our
• 25:57
  friends.
• 25:58
  What
• 25:58
  ends
• 25:58
  up
• 25:58
  happening
• 25:59
  is
• 25:59
  we
• 25:59
  don't
• 25:59
  realize
• 26:00
  this
• 26:00
  doesn't
• 26:00
  stay
• 26:00
  at
• 26:01
  home.
• 26:01
  We
• 26:02
  trot
• 26:02
  off
• 26:02
  to
• 26:02
  the
• 26:03
  office,
• 26:03
  or
• 26:04
  we
• 26:04
  trot
• 26:04
  into
• 26:04
  our
• 26:05
  office
• 26:05
  if
• 26:05
  it's
• 26:05
  at
• 26:05
  our
• 26:06
  house
• 26:06
  and
• 26:07
  we
• 26:07
  take
• 26:07
  the
• 26:07
  caretaking
• 26:08
  with
• 26:08
  us.
• 26:09
  It
• 26:09
  shows
• 26:10
  up
• 26:10
  in,
• 26:11
  you
• 26:11
  know,
• 26:11
  hanging
• 26:12
  on
• 26:12
  to
• 26:12
  employees
• 26:12
  or
• 26:13
  wanting
• 26:13
  to
• 26:13
  coach
• 26:14
  employees
• 26:14
  that
• 26:15
  need
• 26:15
  to
• 26:15
  get
• 26:15
  cans.
• 26:16
  It
• 26:17
  shows
• 26:17
  up
• 26:17
  in
• 26:18
  being
• 26:18
  the
• 26:19
  caretaker
• 26:19
  for
• 26:20
  your
• 26:20
  boss.
• 26:21
  I
• 26:21
  share
• 26:22
  in
• 26:22
  the
• 26:22
  book
• 26:22
  a
• 26:22
  story
• 26:23
  about
• 26:24
  how
• 26:24
  I
• 26:24
  was
• 26:24
  so
• 26:25
  proud
• 26:25
  of
• 26:25
  myself
• 26:26
  because
• 26:27
  I
• 26:27
  had
• 26:28
  managed
• 26:29
  up
• 26:29
  with
• 26:30
  my
• 26:30
  boss.
• 26:31
  No,
• 26:31
  I
• 26:31
  had
• 26:31
  just
• 26:31
  caretaken.
• 26:33
  All
• 26:33
  I
• 26:33
  was
• 26:34
  doing
• 26:34
  was
• 26:34
  caretaking.
• 26:35
  I
• 26:36
  see
• 26:36
  a
• 26:36
  lot
• 26:36
  of
• 26:36
  women
• 26:37
  carrying
• 26:37
  the
• 26:38
  emotional
• 26:38
  labor
• 26:39
  in
• 26:39
  the
• 26:39
  office
• 26:40
  because
• 26:41
  we
• 26:42
  have
• 26:42
  not
• 26:42
  gotten
• 26:43
  to
• 26:43
  a
• 26:43
  place
• 26:43
  where
• 26:43
  we're
• 26:44
  comfortable
• 26:44
  holding
• 26:45
  people
• 26:45
  accountable
• 26:46
  for
• 26:46
  their
• 26:46
  emotional
• 26:47
  laziness.
• 26:48
  So
• 26:49
  how
• 26:49
  do
• 26:49
  you
• 26:49
  do
• 26:49
  that?
• 26:50
  I'm
• 26:50
  a
• 26:50
  caretaker.
• 26:51
  I
• 26:51
  see
• 26:51
  myself
• 26:51
  do
• 26:52
  it
• 26:52
  all
• 26:52
  the
• 26:52
  time.
• 26:52
  What
• 26:53
  are
• 26:53
  some
• 26:53
  steps
• 26:53
  or
• 26:54
  advice
• 26:54
  or
• 26:55
  some
• 26:55
  hints
• 26:56
  we
• 26:56
  can
• 26:56
  have
• 26:57
  on
• 26:57
  stepping
• 26:57
  out
• 26:58
  of
• 26:58
  that
• 26:58
  role?
• 26:58
  And
• 26:59
  how
• 26:59
  do
• 26:59
  we.
• 26:59
  How
• 27:00
  do
• 27:00
  we
• 27:00
  stop
• 27:00
  it
• 27:01
  and
• 27:01
  do
• 27:01
  something
• 27:01
  different?
• 27:03
  So
• 27:04
  first
• 27:04
  of
• 27:04
  all,
• 27:04
  we
• 27:05
  have
• 27:05
  to
• 27:05
  acknowledge
• 27:05
  our
• 27:05
  role
• 27:06
  in
• 27:06
  the
• 27:06
  mess.
• 27:07
  Yes,
• 27:07
  yes.
• 27:08
  Our
• 27:08
  role
• 27:09
  is
• 27:09
  being
• 27:09
  driven
• 27:09
  by
• 27:10
  our
• 27:10
  fears.
• 27:11
  Right.
• 27:11
  Fears
• 27:11
  of
• 27:11
  abandonment,
• 27:12
  fears
• 27:12
  of
• 27:13
  rejection.
• 27:14
  In
• 27:14
  that
• 27:15
  case.
• 27:15
  And
• 27:15
  it
• 27:15
  may
• 27:15
  go
• 27:16
  back
• 27:16
  to
• 27:16
  an
• 27:16
  attachment
• 27:17
  style.
• 27:17
  It
• 27:17
  goes
• 27:17
  back
• 27:17
  to
• 27:18
  a
• 27:18
  wound
• 27:18
  somewhere
• 27:19
  or
• 27:19
  perfecting.
• 27:20
  Because
• 27:21
  if
• 27:21
  we're
• 27:21
  perfect
• 27:21
  enough,
• 27:22
  then
• 27:22
  they'll
• 27:22
  like
• 27:22
  us.
• 27:23
  If
• 27:23
  we're
• 27:23
  perfect
• 27:23
  enough,
• 27:24
  they'll
• 27:24
  accept
• 27:24
  us.
• 27:25
  All
• 27:25
  of
• 27:25
  those
• 27:25
  kinds
• 27:26
  of
• 27:26
  things
• 27:26
  run
• 27:26
  through
• 27:26
  our
• 27:27
  head.
• 27:27
  We
• 27:28
  have
• 27:28
  to
• 27:28
  own
• 27:28
  that
• 27:29
  we
• 27:29
  are
• 27:29
  only
• 27:29
  responsible
• 27:30
  for
• 27:30
  ourselves.
• 27:31
  That
• 27:31
  is
• 27:32
  a
• 27:32
  punch
• 27:32
  in
• 27:32
  the
• 27:32
  gut
• 27:33
  for
• 27:33
  somebody
• 27:33
  who's
• 27:33
  a
• 27:33
  true
• 27:34
  caretaker.
• 27:35
  We
• 27:35
  like
• 27:35
  to
• 27:35
  rescue,
• 27:36
  we
• 27:36
  want
• 27:36
  to
• 27:37
  take
• 27:37
  care
• 27:37
  of.
• 27:38
  And
• 27:38
  worse
• 27:39
  yet,
• 27:39
  if
• 27:39
  we've
• 27:40
  done
• 27:40
  the
• 27:40
  work,
• 27:41
  we
• 27:41
  have
• 27:41
  this
• 27:41
  knowledge,
• 27:42
  other
• 27:43
  people,
• 27:43
  bless
• 27:43
  their
• 27:44
  heart,
• 27:44
  they
• 27:44
  don't.
• 27:44
  And
• 27:45
  we
• 27:45
  want
• 27:45
  to
• 27:45
  help
• 27:45
  them
• 27:46
  because.
• 27:46
  Yeah.
• 27:47
  And
• 27:47
  the
• 27:47
  reality
• 27:48
  is
• 27:48
  we
• 27:48
  just
• 27:48
  need
• 27:48
  to
• 27:48
  get
• 27:48
  comfortable
• 27:49
  watching
• 27:49
  other
• 27:49
  people
• 27:49
  do
• 27:50
  in
• 27:50
  their
• 27:50
  own
• 27:50
  pain.
• 27:51
  That's
• 27:52
  hard.
• 27:53
  It's
• 27:53
  hard.
• 27:53
  That
• 27:53
  is
• 27:54
  so
• 27:54
  hard.
• 27:55
  That's
• 27:55
  like
• 27:56
  emotional
• 27:56
  intelligence.
• 27:57
  Let
• 27:57
  our
• 27:58
  children,
• 27:59
  let
• 27:59
  our
• 27:59
  husbands,
• 28:00
  let
• 28:00
  our
• 28:01
  employees
• 28:02
  struggle.
• 28:03
  Because
• 28:04
  here's
• 28:04
  the
• 28:04
  thing,
• 28:05
  you
• 28:05
  doing
• 28:06
  the
• 28:06
  work
• 28:06
  for
• 28:06
  them
• 28:07
  is
• 28:07
  going
• 28:07
  to
• 28:07
  create
• 28:07
  two
• 28:08
  problems.
• 28:09
  Number
• 28:09
  one,
• 28:10
  not
• 28:11
  going
• 28:11
  to
• 28:11
  give
• 28:11
  them
• 28:11
  any
• 28:11
  incentive
• 28:12
  to
• 28:12
  do
• 28:12
  the
• 28:12
  work.
• 28:13
  They're
• 28:13
  just
• 28:13
  going
• 28:13
  to
• 28:13
  wait
• 28:14
  for
• 28:14
  you
• 28:14
  to
• 28:14
  do
• 28:14
  it
• 28:14
  for
• 28:14
  them.
• 28:15
  When
• 28:15
  you
• 28:15
  do
• 28:15
  the
• 28:16
  work
• 28:16
  for
• 28:16
  someone
• 28:16
  else,
• 28:17
  you
• 28:17
  condition
• 28:17
  them
• 28:18
  not
• 28:18
  to
• 28:18
  do
• 28:18
  work,
• 28:19
  not
• 28:19
  to
• 28:19
  take
• 28:19
  accountability,
• 28:20
  and
• 28:21
  you
• 28:21
  actually
• 28:22
  condition
• 28:22
  them
• 28:22
  to
• 28:23
  push
• 28:23
  it
• 28:23
  back
• 28:23
  on
• 28:23
  you.
• 28:24
  So
• 28:24
  if
• 28:24
  you
• 28:25
  are
• 28:25
  unhappy
• 28:25
  with
• 28:25
  the
• 28:25
  emotional
• 28:26
  labor
• 28:26
  that
• 28:26
  you
• 28:27
  are
• 28:27
  carrying
• 28:27
  in
• 28:27
  your
• 28:27
  relationships,
• 28:28
  it
• 28:28
  starts
• 28:29
  with
• 28:29
  you.
• 28:30
  Yes,
• 28:30
  it's
• 28:30
  their
• 28:31
  fault
• 28:31
  because
• 28:32
  they
• 28:32
  did
• 28:32
  these
• 28:32
  things.
• 28:32
  But
• 28:33
  truly,
• 28:33
  it
• 28:33
  Begins
• 28:34
  with
• 28:34
  you.
• 28:34
  Because
• 28:34
  you've
• 28:35
  created
• 28:35
  the
• 28:35
  culture
• 28:36
  where
• 28:36
  you've
• 28:36
  told
• 28:36
  told
• 28:37
  them,
• 28:37
  don't
• 28:37
  do
• 28:37
  the
• 28:38
  work.
• 28:38
  I'm
• 28:38
  gonna
• 28:38
  do
• 28:39
  the
• 28:39
  work.
• 28:40
  Let
• 28:40
  me
• 28:40
  show
• 28:40
  you.
• 28:41
  I'm
• 28:41
  gonna
• 28:41
  do
• 28:41
  the
• 28:41
  work.
• 28:42
  You
• 28:43
  don't
• 28:43
  have
• 28:43
  to
• 28:43
  do
• 28:43
  it.
• 28:44
  It'd
• 28:44
  be
• 28:44
  like
• 28:45
  saying,
• 28:45
  clean
• 28:46
  your
• 28:46
  room
• 28:46
  to
• 28:46
  your
• 28:46
  kids.
• 28:47
  And
• 28:47
  then
• 28:47
  going
• 28:47
  and
• 28:48
  cleaning
• 28:48
  their
• 28:48
  room.
• 28:48
  They're
• 28:49
  like,
• 28:49
  but,
• 28:50
  well,
• 28:50
  mom's
• 28:50
  gonna
• 28:50
  do
• 28:50
  it
• 28:51
  anyways.
• 28:51
  Right.
• 28:51
  Like
• 28:52
  you're
• 28:52
  cutting
• 28:52
  your
• 28:53
  own
• 28:53
  self
• 28:53
  off
• 28:53
  at
• 28:53
  the
• 28:53
  knees.
• 28:54
  Back
• 28:54
  to
• 28:54
  the
• 28:54
  earlier
• 28:55
  point.
• 28:55
  If
• 28:55
  you
• 28:55
  do
• 28:56
  that
• 28:56
  all
• 28:56
  the
• 28:56
  time
• 28:57
  in
• 28:57
  a
• 28:57
  partnership,
• 28:58
  it's
• 28:58
  hard
• 28:58
  to
• 28:59
  find
• 28:59
  moments
• 28:59
  of
• 29:00
  pleasure
• 29:00
  and
• 29:00
  joy.
• 29:00
  Then,
• 29:01
  of
• 29:01
  course,
• 29:01
  you
• 29:01
  don't
• 29:01
  wanna
• 29:01
  have
• 29:02
  sex.
• 29:02
  Right.
• 29:02
  We
• 29:02
  have
• 29:03
  resentment
• 29:03
  to
• 29:03
  be
• 29:03
  a
• 29:04
  part.
• 29:04
  If
• 29:04
  it
• 29:04
  happens
• 29:04
  to
• 29:04
  be
• 29:04
  a
• 29:05
  partner.
• 29:05
  Because
• 29:06
  either
• 29:06
  you
• 29:06
  see
• 29:06
  them
• 29:06
  as
• 29:07
  your
• 29:07
  child,
• 29:07
  and
• 29:07
  that's
• 29:08
  not
• 29:08
  very
• 29:08
  sexually
• 29:08
  appealing,
• 29:09
  or
• 29:10
  you
• 29:10
  see
• 29:10
  them.
• 29:11
  Right.
• 29:11
  Or
• 29:12
  you
• 29:12
  have
• 29:12
  resentment
• 29:13
  and
• 29:13
  you're
• 29:13
  like,
• 29:14
  don't
• 29:14
  touch
• 29:14
  my
• 29:15
  body.
• 29:15
  Like,
• 29:15
  just
• 29:16
  don't
• 29:16
  touch
• 29:16
  me.
• 29:16
  Right.
• 29:17
  Like,
• 29:18
  and.
• 29:18
  And
• 29:19
  so.
• 29:19
  And
• 29:19
  then
• 29:19
  what
• 29:20
  ends
• 29:20
  up
• 29:20
  happening
• 29:20
  is,
• 29:20
  is
• 29:20
  then
• 29:21
  you
• 29:21
  shut
• 29:21
  off
• 29:21
  with
• 29:21
  yourself.
• 29:22
  Also,
• 29:23
  you're
• 29:23
  not
• 29:23
  into
• 29:23
  sexy
• 29:24
  time
• 29:24
  anywhere
• 29:25
  because
• 29:26
  you've
• 29:27
  not
• 29:27
  only
• 29:27
  gotten
• 29:27
  resentment
• 29:28
  for
• 29:28
  them,
• 29:28
  but
• 29:28
  you
• 29:29
  now
• 29:29
  have
• 29:29
  resentment
• 29:29
  for
• 29:30
  yourself
• 29:30
  that
• 29:30
  you
• 29:30
  don't
• 29:30
  even
• 29:31
  see
• 29:31
  because.
• 29:32
  That
• 29:32
  blame
• 29:32
  and
• 29:33
  shame
• 29:33
  all
• 29:33
  comes
• 29:34
  back
• 29:34
  to
• 29:34
  yourself.
• 29:35
  Yeah,
• 29:35
  well,
• 29:36
  and
• 29:36
  you
• 29:36
  betrayed
• 29:36
  yourself.
• 29:37
  Right.
• 29:37
  And
• 29:38
  that's
• 29:38
  what
• 29:38
  we
• 29:38
  don't
• 29:39
  see.
• 29:40
  So,
• 29:40
  you
• 29:40
  know,
• 29:40
  as.
• 29:41
  As
• 29:41
  hard.
• 29:42
  As
• 29:42
  hard
• 29:43
  as
• 29:43
  it
• 29:43
  is,
• 29:43
  we
• 29:44
  have
• 29:44
  to
• 29:44
  let
• 29:44
  other
• 29:45
  people
• 29:45
  do
• 29:45
  their
• 29:45
  own
• 29:45
  growth
• 29:46
  work.
• 29:46
  Yes.
• 29:47
  You
• 29:47
  know,
• 29:48
  and
• 29:48
  I
• 29:49
  think
• 29:49
  the
• 29:49
  thing
• 29:49
  is,
• 29:50
  also,
• 29:51
  many
• 29:51
  times
• 29:51
  we
• 29:51
  as
• 29:52
  women
• 29:52
  don't
• 29:53
  want
• 29:53
  to
• 29:53
  do
• 29:53
  that
• 29:54
  because
• 29:55
  we
• 29:55
  don't
• 29:55
  think
• 29:55
  they'll
• 29:55
  do
• 29:56
  it
• 29:56
  fast
• 29:56
  enough.
• 29:56
  We
• 29:57
  want
• 29:57
  them
• 29:57
  to
• 29:57
  do
• 29:57
  it
• 29:57
  now
• 29:58
  because
• 29:59
  of
• 29:59
  us.
• 30:00
  Like,
• 30:00
  if
• 30:00
  we
• 30:00
  really
• 30:01
  look
• 30:01
  at
• 30:01
  it,
• 30:02
  we
• 30:02
  want
• 30:02
  them
• 30:02
  to
• 30:03
  grow
• 30:03
  and
• 30:03
  change
• 30:03
  for
• 30:04
  us.
• 30:04
  Not
• 30:05
  because
• 30:05
  they
• 30:05
  want
• 30:05
  to,
• 30:06
  not
• 30:06
  because
• 30:06
  they've
• 30:06
  acknowledged
• 30:07
  it.
• 30:07
  It
• 30:07
  would
• 30:07
  be
• 30:08
  better
• 30:08
  for
• 30:08
  us
• 30:08
  if
• 30:08
  they
• 30:09
  did.
• 30:09
  And
• 30:10
  so
• 30:10
  it'd
• 30:10
  be
• 30:10
  easier
• 30:11
  for
• 30:11
  us.
• 30:11
  It'd
• 30:11
  be
• 30:12
  easier
• 30:12
  for
• 30:12
  me
• 30:12
  if
• 30:13
  my
• 30:13
  husband
• 30:13
  didn't.
• 30:14
  Whatever.
• 30:14
  My
• 30:15
  daughter
• 30:15
  got
• 30:15
  over
• 30:15
  anxiety
• 30:16
  or
• 30:16
  whatever.
• 30:17
  And
• 30:17
  so
• 30:17
  that's
• 30:18
  where
• 30:18
  the
• 30:18
  redefine
• 30:19
  comes
• 30:19
  in.
• 30:19
  You
• 30:20
  may
• 30:20
  have
• 30:20
  to
• 30:20
  redefine
• 30:21
  your
• 30:21
  relationship
• 30:22
  with
• 30:22
  them
• 30:23
  so
• 30:23
  that
• 30:23
  you
• 30:23
  can
• 30:23
  redefine
• 30:24
  the
• 30:24
  relationship
• 30:24
  you
• 30:25
  have
• 30:25
  with
• 30:25
  yourself.
• 30:26
  Powerful
• 30:26
  stuff.
• 30:27
  Good
• 30:27
  stuff.
• 30:27
  So
• 30:28
  power.
• 30:30
  So
• 30:30
  let's
• 30:30
  talk
• 30:31
  about.
• 30:31
  You
• 30:31
  know,
• 30:32
  we're
• 30:32
  talking
• 30:32
  about
• 30:32
  it
• 30:32
  a
• 30:33
  little
• 30:33
  bit
• 30:33
  in
• 30:33
  the
• 30:33
  here
• 30:33
  about
• 30:34
  the
• 30:34
  discomfort
• 30:35
  we
• 30:35
  feel
• 30:36
  when
• 30:36
  we're
• 30:36
  setting
• 30:37
  our
• 30:38
  boundaries.
• 30:39
  Also
• 30:39
  the
• 30:39
  discomfort
• 30:41
  we
• 30:41
  often
• 30:41
  feel
• 30:42
  about
• 30:42
  our
• 30:43
  power
• 30:44
  and
• 30:44
  what
• 30:45
  are
• 30:45
  some
• 30:45
  ways
• 30:45
  we
• 30:46
  can
• 30:46
  move
• 30:47
  beyond
• 30:47
  and
• 30:47
  embrace
• 30:49
  our
• 30:49
  power
• 30:50
  as
• 30:50
  part
• 30:50
  of
• 30:50
  who
• 30:50
  we
• 30:51
  really
• 30:51
  are.
• 30:52
  I
• 30:53
  did
• 30:53
  not
• 30:53
  realize
• 30:54
  the
• 30:54
  Crisis
• 30:54
  of
• 30:55
  power,
• 30:55
  I
• 30:55
  guess
• 30:56
  I
• 30:56
  would
• 30:56
  say,
• 30:56
  within
• 30:57
  women.
• 30:57
  Until
• 30:58
  my
• 30:58
  book
• 30:58
  Club
• 30:59
  did
• 30:59
  the
• 30:59
  48
• 30:59
  Laws
• 30:59
  of
• 31:00
  Power.
• 31:01
  And
• 31:01
  I
• 31:01
  don't
• 31:01
  know
• 31:01
  that
• 31:02
  book.
• 31:02
  Yeah,
• 31:03
  yeah.
• 31:03
  So
• 31:03
  the
• 31:03
  48
• 31:04
  laws
• 31:04
  of
• 31:04
  power
• 31:04
  by
• 31:04
  Robert
• 31:04
  Greene.
• 31:05
  And
• 31:05
  literally
• 31:06
  this
• 31:07
  is
• 31:07
  a
• 31:07
  book
• 31:07
  that
• 31:07
  is
• 31:07
  banned
• 31:08
  in
• 31:09
  most,
• 31:09
  if
• 31:09
  not
• 31:09
  all
• 31:10
  US
• 31:10
  Prisons
• 31:11
  because
• 31:11
  it's
• 31:11
  got
• 31:12
  the
• 31:12
  laws
• 31:12
  of
• 31:12
  power.
• 31:13
  Now,
• 31:13
  I
• 31:14
  will
• 31:14
  tell
• 31:14
  you,
• 31:14
  it
• 31:14
  is
• 31:14
  a
• 31:14
  very
• 31:15
  patriarchal,
• 31:15
  masculine
• 31:16
  energy
• 31:16
  written
• 31:17
  book.
• 31:17
  There
• 31:17
  is
• 31:17
  no
• 31:17
  she
• 31:18
  in
• 31:18
  it.
• 31:18
  It's
• 31:18
  he,
• 31:19
  him,
• 31:19
  all
• 31:19
  of
• 31:20
  that.
• 31:20
  However,
• 31:21
  I
• 31:22
  feel
• 31:22
  it
• 31:22
  was
• 31:22
  fair
• 31:23
  that
• 31:23
  he
• 31:23
  wrote
• 31:23
  the
• 31:23
  book
• 31:24
  the
• 31:24
  way
• 31:24
  he
• 31:24
  did,
• 31:24
  because
• 31:25
  that
• 31:25
  is
• 31:25
  where
• 31:25
  power
• 31:25
  has
• 31:26
  resided.
• 31:27
  He
• 31:27
  does
• 31:27
  mention
• 31:27
  some
• 31:28
  women
• 31:28
  in
• 31:28
  there,
• 31:28
  but
• 31:29
  it's
• 31:29
  very
• 31:29
  masculine
• 31:30
  energy.
• 31:30
  What
• 31:31
  I
• 31:31
  saw
• 31:31
  was
• 31:31
  these
• 31:31
  women,
• 31:32
  we
• 31:32
  had
• 31:32
  this
• 31:33
  mass
• 31:33
  exodus
• 31:34
  out
• 31:34
  of
• 31:34
  my
• 31:34
  book
• 31:34
  club.
• 31:35
  When
• 31:35
  we
• 31:35
  started
• 31:35
  this
• 31:35
  book,
• 31:36
  I
• 31:37
  told
• 31:37
  them,
• 31:37
  I
• 31:37
  said,
• 31:37
  ladies,
• 31:38
  we
• 31:38
  are
• 31:38
  not
• 31:38
  going
• 31:38
  to
• 31:39
  be
• 31:39
  comfortable
• 31:39
  in
• 31:39
  this
• 31:39
  book.
• 31:40
  This
• 31:40
  book
• 31:41
  is
• 31:41
  going
• 31:41
  to
• 31:41
  be
• 31:41
  a
• 31:41
  defensive
• 31:42
  book.
• 31:42
  Struggle
• 31:43
  through
• 31:43
  it.
• 31:44
  And
• 31:44
  the
• 31:44
  answer
• 31:44
  I
• 31:45
  would
• 31:45
  get
• 31:45
  is
• 31:45
  I'm
• 31:46
  sitting
• 31:46
  in
• 31:46
  my
• 31:46
  authentic
• 31:47
  state
• 31:47
  self.
• 31:48
  I
• 31:48
  don't
• 31:49
  need
• 31:49
  to
• 31:49
  connect
• 31:50
  with
• 31:50
  this
• 31:50
  because
• 31:51
  I'm
• 31:51
  being
• 31:51
  authentically
• 31:52
  me.
• 31:52
  And
• 31:53
  me
• 31:53
  is
• 31:53
  not
• 31:53
  about
• 31:54
  power
• 31:56
  or
• 31:56
  I
• 31:56
  would
• 31:56
  get.
• 31:57
  I
• 31:57
  don't
• 31:57
  have
• 31:57
  people
• 31:58
  around
• 31:58
  me
• 31:58
  who
• 31:58
  try
• 31:59
  to
• 31:59
  take
• 31:59
  my
• 31:59
  power.
• 32:00
  I
• 32:00
  don't
• 32:00
  socialize
• 32:01
  with
• 32:01
  those
• 32:01
  kind
• 32:01
  of
• 32:01
  people.
• 32:02
  I've
• 32:02
  healed
• 32:02
  and
• 32:02
  let
• 32:03
  them
• 32:03
  go.
• 32:04
  Okay,
• 32:04
  I'm
• 32:04
  just
• 32:04
  going
• 32:04
  to
• 32:05
  say
• 32:05
  it.
• 32:06
  So
• 32:07
  here's
• 32:07
  the
• 32:07
  thing.
• 32:08
  For
• 32:08
  those
• 32:08
  of
• 32:08
  us
• 32:09
  who
• 32:09
  struggled
• 32:10
  through
• 32:10
  it,
• 32:10
  and
• 32:10
  trust
• 32:10
  me,
• 32:10
  it
• 32:10
  would
• 32:11
  struggle.
• 32:12
  Yeah,
• 32:12
  of
• 32:12
  course.
• 32:13
  Yeah.
• 32:14
  We
• 32:15
  realized
• 32:16
  that
• 32:16
  their
• 32:16
  struggle
• 32:17
  wasn't
• 32:17
  with
• 32:17
  the
• 32:18
  book.
• 32:18
  It's
• 32:18
  not
• 32:18
  a.
• 32:19
  With.
• 32:19
  I
• 32:19
  mean,
• 32:20
  like,
• 32:20
  these
• 32:20
  laws
• 32:21
  of
• 32:21
  power
• 32:21
  are
• 32:21
  just
• 32:21
  laws,
• 32:22
  right?
• 32:22
  They
• 32:22
  don't
• 32:22
  have
• 32:23
  negative
• 32:23
  or
• 32:23
  positive
• 32:24
  connected
• 32:24
  to
• 32:24
  it,
• 32:25
  but
• 32:25
  it's
• 32:25
  the
• 32:26
  emotion.
• 32:26
  We
• 32:26
  stuck
• 32:26
  to
• 32:27
  it.
• 32:27
  And
• 32:27
  the
• 32:27
  reality,
• 32:28
  for
• 32:28
  the
• 32:28
  most
• 32:29
  part,
• 32:29
  we
• 32:29
  as
• 32:30
  women
• 32:30
  have
• 32:30
  been
• 32:30
  brought
• 32:30
  up
• 32:30
  to
• 32:31
  give
• 32:31
  away
• 32:32
  our
• 32:32
  power.
• 32:33
  Number
• 32:33
  one,
• 32:34
  we
• 32:34
  have
• 32:34
  not
• 32:34
  been
• 32:35
  taught
• 32:35
  to
• 32:35
  maintain
• 32:37
  our
• 32:37
  power.
• 32:38
  We
• 32:38
  have
• 32:38
  been
• 32:39
  taught
• 32:39
  it's
• 32:39
  bad
• 32:40
  to
• 32:40
  grow
• 32:40
  our
• 32:41
  power.
• 32:42
  So
• 32:42
  when
• 32:42
  you
• 32:43
  start
• 32:43
  talking
• 32:43
  about
• 32:44
  power,
• 32:45
  it
• 32:45
  gets
• 32:45
  really
• 32:46
  uncomfortable
• 32:46
  very
• 32:47
  quickly,
• 32:48
  because
• 32:48
  I'm
• 32:48
  not
• 32:49
  sitting
• 32:49
  here
• 32:49
  telling
• 32:49
  you
• 32:49
  how
• 32:50
  to
• 32:50
  give
• 32:50
  it
• 32:50
  away
• 32:50
  by
• 32:50
  helping
• 32:51
  others.
• 32:52
  I'm
• 32:52
  telling
• 32:52
  you
• 32:52
  how
• 32:52
  to
• 32:53
  hold
• 32:53
  it
• 32:54
  right.
• 32:54
  And
• 32:55
  we
• 32:55
  realized
• 32:55
  there
• 32:56
  was
• 32:56
  such
• 32:56
  a
• 32:56
  discomfort
• 32:57
  about
• 32:57
  this
• 32:57
  that
• 32:58
  I'm
• 32:58
  going
• 32:58
  to
• 32:58
  put
• 32:58
  this
• 32:58
  out
• 32:59
  there
• 32:59
  that
• 33:00
  starting
• 33:00
  in
• 33:00
  March,
• 33:01
  my
• 33:01
  friend
• 33:01
  and
• 33:02
  I
• 33:02
  are
• 33:02
  doing
• 33:02
  a
• 33:02
  podcast
• 33:03
  called
• 33:03
  the
• 33:03
  Power
• 33:04
  Paradox.
• 33:05
  And
• 33:05
  it
• 33:06
  is
• 33:06
  literally
• 33:07
  the
• 33:07
  first
• 33:07
  few
• 33:10
  episodes
• 33:10
  are
• 33:10
  going
• 33:11
  to
• 33:11
  be
• 33:11
  about
• 33:11
  power.
• 33:12
  But
• 33:12
  then
• 33:12
  we're
• 33:13
  going
• 33:13
  to
• 33:13
  take
• 33:13
  this
• 33:13
  book
• 33:14
  and
• 33:14
  we're
• 33:14
  going
• 33:15
  to
• 33:15
  go
• 33:15
  chapter
• 33:15
  by
• 33:16
  chapter
• 33:17
  and
• 33:17
  we're
• 33:17
  going
• 33:17
  to.
• 33:18
  So,
• 33:18
  because
• 33:18
  I'm
• 33:18
  just
• 33:18
  going
• 33:19
  to
• 33:19
  tell
• 33:19
  you
• 33:19
  right
• 33:19
  now,
• 33:19
  don't
• 33:20
  read
• 33:20
  the
• 33:20
  book.
• 33:20
  It's
• 33:20
  a
• 33:20
  great
• 33:21
  book.
• 33:21
  But
• 33:21
  you
• 33:21
  want
• 33:22
  the
• 33:22
  Cliff
• 33:22
  Notes
• 33:22
  because
• 33:23
  it's
• 33:23
  heavy
• 33:23
  and
• 33:24
  it's
• 33:24
  dark.
• 33:25
  Just
• 33:25
  listen
• 33:25
  to
• 33:25
  the
• 33:25
  podcast.
• 33:26
  Listen
• 33:26
  to
• 33:27
  the
• 33:27
  podcast
• 33:27
  because
• 33:27
  we
• 33:28
  are
• 33:28
  four
• 33:28
  months
• 33:29
  out,
• 33:29
  and
• 33:29
  we
• 33:29
  still
• 33:29
  feel
• 33:29
  the
• 33:30
  dark
• 33:30
  cloud
• 33:30
  over
• 33:30
  us.
• 33:31
  Let's
• 33:31
  put
• 33:31
  it
• 33:31
  that
• 33:31
  way.
• 33:32
  All
• 33:32
  of
• 33:32
  us
• 33:32
  who
• 33:32
  have
• 33:32
  done
• 33:32
  it.
• 33:33
  But
• 33:33
  I
• 33:33
  will
• 33:33
  say
• 33:33
  this.
• 33:34
  All
• 33:34
  of
• 33:34
  us
• 33:35
  who
• 33:35
  finish
• 33:35
  the
• 33:35
  book,
• 33:36
  a
• 33:36
  hundred
• 33:36
  percent
• 33:37
  will
• 33:37
  tell
• 33:37
  you
• 33:38
  every
• 33:38
  One
• 33:38
  of
• 33:38
  those
• 33:38
  48
• 33:39
  laws
• 33:39
  was
• 33:39
  used
• 33:39
  on
• 33:39
  us.
• 33:40
  Yeah.
• 33:41
  So
• 33:41
  well.
• 33:41
  And
• 33:42
  you
• 33:42
  can
• 33:42
  reclaim
• 33:42
  it
• 33:42
  if
• 33:43
  it's
• 33:43
  unconscious.
• 33:43
  It's
• 33:44
  working.
• 33:44
  It's
• 33:44
  working
• 33:45
  against
• 33:45
  you,
• 33:45
  and
• 33:46
  you're
• 33:46
  working
• 33:46
  against
• 33:47
  you.
• 33:48
  The
• 33:49
  dark
• 33:49
  side.
• 33:49
  The
• 33:50
  Joseph
• 33:50
  Conrad,
• 33:51
  reclaiming
• 33:52
  the
• 33:53
  shadow.
• 33:53
  But
• 33:54
  cleaning
• 33:54
  the
• 33:54
  shadow.
• 33:55
  It's
• 33:55
  reclaiming
• 33:56
  our
• 33:56
  light.
• 33:57
  Yeah.
• 33:58
  And
• 33:58
  that's
• 33:58
  the
• 33:58
  thing
• 33:59
  we
• 33:59
  don't
• 33:59
  see.
• 34:00
  Right.
• 34:00
  Because
• 34:00
  we've
• 34:01
  been
• 34:01
  conditioned
• 34:02
  so
• 34:02
  heavily.
• 34:03
  This
• 34:03
  is
• 34:03
  micro
• 34:03
  dosing,
• 34:04
  conditioning
• 34:05
  little
• 34:05
  sentences
• 34:05
  here
• 34:05
  and
• 34:06
  there
• 34:06
  over
• 34:06
  years.
• 34:07
  This
• 34:07
  is
• 34:08
  why
• 34:08
  in
• 34:08
  the
• 34:08
  podcast,
• 34:09
  we've
• 34:09
  decided
• 34:09
  to
• 34:09
  break
• 34:10
  it
• 34:10
  into
• 34:10
  three
• 34:10
  episodes
• 34:11
  a
• 34:11
  week.
• 34:12
  One
• 34:12
  episode
• 34:13
  is
• 34:13
  like
• 34:13
  your
• 34:13
  Cliff
• 34:13
  Notes
• 34:14
  about
• 34:14
  the
• 34:14
  chapter.
• 34:15
  If
• 34:15
  you're
• 34:15
  just
• 34:15
  like,
• 34:15
  hey,
• 34:15
  I
• 34:15
  don't
• 34:15
  want
• 34:15
  to
• 34:16
  read
• 34:16
  the
• 34:16
  book,
• 34:16
  but
• 34:16
  I
• 34:16
  want
• 34:16
  to
• 34:16
  know
• 34:16
  what's
• 34:17
  going
• 34:17
  on.
• 34:17
  Hop
• 34:17
  in
• 34:17
  for
• 34:17
  our
• 34:18
  first
• 34:18
  episode.
• 34:19
  The
• 34:19
  second
• 34:19
  episode
• 34:20
  is
• 34:20
  about
• 34:20
  defensive.
• 34:22
  How
• 34:22
  do
• 34:22
  we,
• 34:23
  as
• 34:23
  women,
• 34:24
  notice
• 34:25
  the
• 34:25
  signs
• 34:26
  when
• 34:26
  someone's
• 34:26
  trying
• 34:26
  to
• 34:27
  use
• 34:27
  this
• 34:27
  on
• 34:27
  us?
• 34:28
  And
• 34:28
  how
• 34:28
  do
• 34:28
  we
• 34:29
  then
• 34:29
  turn
• 34:29
  it
• 34:29
  around
• 34:29
  and
• 34:30
  protect
• 34:30
  ourselves?
• 34:31
  And
• 34:31
  then
• 34:31
  the
• 34:32
  third
• 34:32
  episode
• 34:32
  for
• 34:32
  the
• 34:33
  week
• 34:33
  is
• 34:34
  an
• 34:34
  offensive
• 34:34
  posture,
• 34:35
  but
• 34:35
  not
• 34:36
  from
• 34:36
  being
• 34:36
  manipulative
• 34:37
  or
• 34:37
  stepping
• 34:37
  out
• 34:38
  of
• 34:38
  alignment
• 34:38
  with
• 34:38
  our
• 34:39
  soul
• 34:39
  and
• 34:39
  our
• 34:39
  goodness.
• 34:40
  But
• 34:40
  how
• 34:40
  could
• 34:41
  we
• 34:41
  use
• 34:41
  this?
• 34:41
  Or
• 34:42
  how
• 34:42
  might
• 34:42
  we.
• 34:43
  Because
• 34:43
  in
• 34:43
  business,
• 34:44
  you
• 34:44
  don't
• 34:44
  always
• 34:44
  have
• 34:45
  control.
• 34:45
  You
• 34:46
  might
• 34:46
  have
• 34:46
  a
• 34:46
  really
• 34:47
  bad
• 34:47
  person
• 34:47
  coming
• 34:48
  your
• 34:48
  way,
• 34:48
  and
• 34:48
  they
• 34:49
  may
• 34:49
  have
• 34:49
  power.
• 34:49
  The
• 34:50
  only
• 34:50
  way
• 34:50
  you
• 34:50
  can
• 34:50
  sometimes
• 34:51
  fight
• 34:51
  power
• 34:51
  is
• 34:51
  with
• 34:51
  power.
• 34:52
  It
• 34:52
  doesn't
• 34:52
  mean
• 34:53
  you
• 34:53
  have
• 34:53
  to
• 34:53
  step
• 34:53
  out
• 34:53
  of
• 34:53
  yourself,
• 34:54
  but
• 34:54
  you've
• 34:54
  got
• 34:54
  to
• 34:55
  know
• 34:55
  how
• 34:56
  to
• 34:56
  beat
• 34:56
  them
• 34:56
  at
• 34:57
  their
• 34:57
  own
• 34:57
  game.
• 34:57
  Love
• 34:58
  it.
• 34:58
  I'm
• 34:58
  gonna
• 34:59
  listen.
• 34:59
  That
• 34:59
  sounds
• 34:59
  outstanding.
• 35:00
  And
• 35:00
  I'm
• 35:01
  gonna.
• 35:01
  As
• 35:01
  much
• 35:01
  as
• 35:01
  you
• 35:02
  said,
• 35:02
  it's
• 35:02
  pretty
• 35:02
  dark.
• 35:02
  I'm
• 35:03
  curious
• 35:03
  about
• 35:03
  these
• 35:03
  48
• 35:04
  laws.
• 35:04
  Like,
• 35:05
  you
• 35:05
  know,
• 35:05
  I'm.
• 35:06
  I'm
• 35:06
  always
• 35:06
  interested
• 35:07
  in
• 35:07
  finding
• 35:07
  new
• 35:07
  places
• 35:08
  to
• 35:08
  reclaim
• 35:08
  power
• 35:09
  because
• 35:09
  I've
• 35:10
  noticed
• 35:10
  that
• 35:10
  in
• 35:10
  general,
• 35:11
  we
• 35:12
  don't
• 35:12
  like
• 35:12
  to
• 35:12
  use
• 35:13
  as
• 35:13
  women,
• 35:13
  the
• 35:13
  word
• 35:14
  power.
• 35:15
  We
• 35:15
  like
• 35:15
  to
• 35:16
  use
• 35:16
  empowered.
• 35:18
  That's
• 35:18
  okay.
• 35:19
  That's
• 35:19
  all
• 35:19
  right.
• 35:20
  But
• 35:21
  there's
• 35:21
  something.
• 35:22
  There's
• 35:23
  something
• 35:23
  distinct,
• 35:24
  tasteful
• 35:25
  about
• 35:26
  power,
• 35:27
  almost
• 35:27
  like
• 35:27
  pleasure.
• 35:28
  Right?
• 35:28
  It's
• 35:28
  like.
• 35:29
  Right?
• 35:29
  And.
• 35:29
  And
• 35:29
  it's.
• 35:30
  It's
• 35:30
  funny
• 35:30
  because
• 35:30
  I
• 35:31
  have
• 35:31
  found
• 35:31
  myself.
• 35:32
  I
• 35:33
  went
• 35:33
  from
• 35:33
  a
• 35:33
  place
• 35:34
  of
• 35:34
  feeling
• 35:35
  uncomfortable
• 35:35
  with
• 35:36
  the
• 35:36
  word
• 35:36
  Power
• 35:37
  to
• 35:38
  now
• 35:38
  I'm
• 35:38
  like
• 35:39
  empowered
• 35:39
  is
• 35:39
  uncomfortable
• 35:40
  for
• 35:40
  me.
• 35:40
  Empowered
• 35:41
  is,
• 35:41
  is
• 35:41
  a
• 35:41
  little,
• 35:42
  it's,
• 35:42
  it's.
• 35:43
  It'S
• 35:43
  like,
• 35:44
  it's,
• 35:44
  it's
• 35:44
  just
• 35:44
  a
• 35:45
  little
• 35:45
  like
• 35:45
  I'm
• 35:45
  just
• 35:46
  like,
• 35:46
  no,
• 35:46
  I'm
• 35:46
  powerful.
• 35:47
  I
• 35:47
  don't
• 35:47
  care.
• 35:48
  Like
• 35:48
  I
• 35:48
  own
• 35:49
  my
• 35:49
  power.
• 35:49
  There
• 35:49
  is
• 35:49
  nothing
• 35:50
  wrong
• 35:50
  with
• 35:50
  my
• 35:50
  power.
• 35:51
  There
• 35:51
  is
• 35:51
  nothing
• 35:51
  wrong
• 35:52
  with
• 35:52
  your
• 35:52
  power
• 35:53
  sitting
• 35:53
  in
• 35:54
  your
• 35:54
  light.
• 35:54
  Because
• 35:55
  truly,
• 35:55
  if
• 35:55
  you
• 35:55
  are
• 35:55
  going
• 35:56
  to
• 35:56
  be
• 35:56
  your
• 35:56
  authentic
• 35:57
  self,
• 35:59
  you
• 35:59
  have
• 35:59
  to
• 35:59
  own
• 36:00
  power
• 36:00
  in
• 36:00
  every
• 36:01
  cell
• 36:01
  of
• 36:01
  your
• 36:01
  body.
• 36:03
  That
• 36:03
  is
• 36:03
  your
• 36:03
  authentic
• 36:04
  self,
• 36:05
  your
• 36:05
  power.
• 36:06
  Well,
• 36:06
  that's
• 36:06
  awesome.
• 36:07
  So
• 36:07
  how
• 36:07
  do,
• 36:08
  how
• 36:08
  do
• 36:08
  our
• 36:09
  listeners
• 36:10
  work
• 36:10
  with
• 36:10
  you?
• 36:10
  How
• 36:11
  did
• 36:11
  they
• 36:12
  get
• 36:12
  involved
• 36:13
  with
• 36:13
  what
• 36:13
  you
• 36:13
  have
• 36:13
  to
• 36:14
  offer?
• 36:14
  Your
• 36:14
  products,
• 36:15
  your
• 36:15
  services?
• 36:16
  Tell
• 36:16
  us
• 36:16
  about
• 36:17
  that.
• 36:17
  Okay,
• 36:18
  well,
• 36:18
  as
• 36:18
  I've
• 36:18
  kind
• 36:19
  of
• 36:19
  hinted,
• 36:19
  in
• 36:20
  March
• 36:20
  there
• 36:20
  will
• 36:20
  be
• 36:20
  the
• 36:21
  podcast
• 36:22
  aiming
• 36:23
  for
• 36:23
  late
• 36:23
  March
• 36:23
  with
• 36:24
  the
• 36:24
  book
• 36:24
  I'm
• 36:24
  still
• 36:24
  sticking
• 36:25
  out
• 36:25
  March.
• 36:25
  I
• 36:26
  hear
• 36:26
  that.
• 36:26
  I
• 36:26
  know
• 36:27
  I'm
• 36:27
  going
• 36:27
  to
• 36:27
  hold
• 36:27
  myself
• 36:28
  accountable.
• 36:28
  What
• 36:29
  I
• 36:29
  have
• 36:29
  is
• 36:29
  my
• 36:29
  coaching
• 36:30
  and
• 36:30
  I
• 36:31
  have
• 36:31
  three
• 36:31
  different,
• 36:32
  three
• 36:32
  different
• 36:33
  levels
• 36:33
  of
• 36:33
  one
• 36:33
  on
• 36:33
  one
• 36:34
  coaching
• 36:34
  that
• 36:34
  you
• 36:34
  can
• 36:34
  do.
• 36:35
  I
• 36:35
  have
• 36:35
  a
• 36:35
  foundational
• 36:36
  level.
• 36:37
  I
• 36:37
  have
• 36:38
  an
• 36:38
  accelerated
• 36:38
  and
• 36:39
  a
• 36:39
  mastery.
• 36:39
  Then
• 36:39
  I
• 36:39
  have
• 36:39
  my
• 36:40
  women's
• 36:40
  weekends.
• 36:41
  My
• 36:41
  women's
• 36:41
  weekends
• 36:42
  I
• 36:42
  do
• 36:42
  with
• 36:42
  my
• 36:42
  friend
• 36:42
  who
• 36:43
  I'm
• 36:43
  doing
• 36:43
  the
• 36:44
  podcast
• 36:44
  with
• 36:45
  those
• 36:45
  women's
• 36:46
  weekends.
• 36:46
  We
• 36:46
  do
• 36:46
  them
• 36:47
  in
• 36:47
  different
• 36:47
  places
• 36:48
  around
• 36:48
  the
• 36:48
  country
• 36:48
  if
• 36:49
  you're
• 36:49
  interested
• 36:50
  and
• 36:50
  you're
• 36:50
  like,
• 36:50
  hey,
• 36:50
  I'm
• 36:50
  in
• 36:51
  the
• 36:51
  northeast.
• 36:51
  Okay,
• 36:52
  great.
• 36:52
  Or
• 36:52
  hey,
• 36:52
  I'm
• 36:52
  in
• 36:52
  the,
• 36:53
  you
• 36:53
  know,
• 36:53
  southwest.
• 36:53
  Okay,
• 36:54
  great,
• 36:54
  we'll
• 36:54
  let
• 36:55
  you
• 36:55
  know.
• 36:55
  Those
• 36:56
  are
• 36:56
  Friday
• 36:56
  morning
• 36:57
  to
• 36:57
  Sunday
• 36:57
  afternoon,
• 36:58
  small
• 36:59
  groups,
• 36:59
  five
• 36:59
  to
• 37:00
  10
• 37:00
  women,
• 37:00
  if
• 37:00
  you
• 37:01
  want
• 37:01
  change
• 37:01
  if
• 37:02
  you
• 37:02
  want,
• 37:02
  you
• 37:03
  want
• 37:03
  to
• 37:03
  have
• 37:03
  like
• 37:03
  your
• 37:04
  butt
• 37:04
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• 37:04
  but
• 37:04
  you
• 37:05
  want
• 37:05
  to
• 37:05
  laugh
• 37:05
  and
• 37:05
  cry
• 37:06
  and
• 37:07
  have
• 37:07
  fun
• 37:07
  at
• 37:08
  the
• 37:08
  same
• 37:08
  time.
• 37:08
  That's
• 37:09
  for
• 37:09
  you.
• 37:10
  The
• 37:10
  programs
• 37:11
  I
• 37:11
  have
• 37:11
  on
• 37:11
  my
• 37:11
  one
• 37:11
  on
• 37:11
  one
• 37:12
  coaching,
• 37:12
  I'm
• 37:12
  very
• 37:12
  big
• 37:13
  about
• 37:13
  wanting
• 37:13
  one
• 37:13
  on
• 37:14
  one
• 37:14
  touch
• 37:14
  with
• 37:15
  people.
• 37:15
  I
• 37:16
  feel
• 37:16
  like
• 37:16
  that's
• 37:16
  important.
• 37:17
  I
• 37:17
  know
• 37:17
  nowadays
• 37:17
  the
• 37:18
  big
• 37:18
  thing
• 37:18
  is
• 37:19
  to
• 37:19
  go
• 37:19
  one
• 37:20
  to
• 37:20
  many,
• 37:20
  but
• 37:21
  I
• 37:21
  just
• 37:22
  for
• 37:22
  me,
• 37:22
  that's
• 37:22
  who
• 37:22
  I
• 37:23
  am
• 37:23
  and
• 37:23
  I'm
• 37:23
  not
• 37:23
  going
• 37:23
  to
• 37:23
  change
• 37:24
  it.
• 37:24
  I
• 37:24
  like
• 37:24
  that
• 37:24
  connection
• 37:25
  on
• 37:25
  my
• 37:26
  foundational
• 37:26
  level.
• 37:27
  My
• 37:27
  foundational
• 37:28
  level
• 37:28
  is
• 37:29
  something
• 37:30
  I.
• 37:30
  And
• 37:31
  I'm
• 37:31
  different
• 37:31
  about
• 37:31
  this
• 37:31
  too.
• 37:32
  I
• 37:32
  tell
• 37:32
  you
• 37:33
  how
• 37:33
  much
• 37:33
  time
• 37:33
  you
• 37:33
  have
• 37:34
  with
• 37:34
  me.
• 37:34
  You
• 37:34
  get
• 37:35
  four
• 37:35
  micro
• 37:35
  sessions
• 37:36
  with
• 37:36
  me.
• 37:36
  She
• 37:36
  will
• 37:37
  have
• 37:37
  homework
• 37:37
  assignments.
• 37:38
  There's
• 37:38
  a
• 37:38
  whole
• 37:38
  workbook.
• 37:39
  I
• 37:39
  mean
• 37:39
  it's
• 37:39
  like
• 37:39
  150
• 37:40
  page
• 37:40
  workbook
• 37:41
  that
• 37:41
  you
• 37:41
  will
• 37:41
  work
• 37:41
  through.
• 37:42
  I
• 37:42
  have
• 37:42
  two
• 37:42
  different
• 37:43
  versions.
• 37:44
  One
• 37:45
  for
• 37:45
  women
• 37:46
  within
• 37:46
  themselves,
• 37:47
  right?
• 37:48
  You
• 37:48
  could
• 37:48
  be
• 37:48
  a
• 37:48
  founder,
• 37:49
  an
• 37:49
  entrepreneur.
• 37:50
  You
• 37:50
  know,
• 37:50
  you
• 37:50
  could
• 37:50
  be
• 37:51
  an
• 37:51
  entrepreneur,
• 37:51
  right?
• 37:52
  You
• 37:52
  could
• 37:52
  be
• 37:52
  a
• 37:52
  salesperson
• 37:53
  within
• 37:53
  a
• 37:53
  business.
• 37:53
  Whatever
• 37:54
  you
• 37:54
  Know
• 37:55
  C
• 37:55
  level,
• 37:55
  that's
• 37:56
  for
• 37:56
  you,
• 37:57
  with
• 37:57
  you.
• 37:57
  Then
• 37:58
  I
• 37:58
  have
• 37:58
  a
• 37:58
  second
• 37:59
  one
• 37:59
  which
• 37:59
  is
• 37:59
  you
• 37:59
  and
• 37:59
  your
• 38:00
  business.
• 38:01
  And
• 38:01
  so
• 38:02
  that
• 38:02
  one
• 38:02
  is
• 38:03
  more
• 38:03
  like
• 38:03
  what
• 38:03
  are
• 38:03
  the
• 38:03
  essentials
• 38:04
  for
• 38:04
  your
• 38:04
  business
• 38:05
  and
• 38:05
  are
• 38:05
  you
• 38:05
  on
• 38:05
  track
• 38:06
  with
• 38:06
  those
• 38:06
  and
• 38:06
  how
• 38:06
  to
• 38:06
  get
• 38:07
  connected
• 38:07
  with
• 38:07
  those?
• 38:07
  That's
• 38:08
  my
• 38:08
  starting
• 38:08
  level.
• 38:09
  That
• 38:09
  engagement
• 38:10
  is
• 38:10
  four
• 38:11
  micro
• 38:11
  sessions
• 38:12
  and
• 38:12
  you
• 38:12
  have
• 38:12
  eight
• 38:12
  weeks
• 38:13
  to
• 38:13
  do
• 38:13
  it.
• 38:13
  My
• 38:13
  second
• 38:14
  one
• 38:15
  is
• 38:15
  my
• 38:15
  accelerated
• 38:16
  level.
• 38:16
  This
• 38:17
  is
• 38:17
  more
• 38:17
  hands
• 38:18
  on.
• 38:18
  In
• 38:19
  this
• 38:19
  one
• 38:19
  you're
• 38:19
  going
• 38:19
  to
• 38:19
  get
• 38:20
  six
• 38:20
  hours
• 38:21
  of
• 38:21
  one
• 38:21
  on
• 38:22
  one
• 38:22
  with
• 38:22
  me
• 38:22
  and
• 38:23
  I
• 38:23
  do
• 38:23
  it
• 38:23
  that
• 38:24
  way
• 38:24
  because
• 38:25
  you
• 38:25
  can
• 38:26
  do
• 38:26
  six.
• 38:26
  You
• 38:27
  can
• 38:27
  take
• 38:27
  it
• 38:27
  and
• 38:28
  do
• 38:28
  six
• 38:28
  one
• 38:28
  hour
• 38:29
  sessions.
• 38:29
  You
• 38:30
  can
• 38:30
  do
• 38:30
  three
• 38:30
  one
• 38:31
  hour
• 38:31
  sessions
• 38:31
  and
• 38:31
  take
• 38:32
  the
• 38:32
  other
• 38:32
  three
• 38:32
  and
• 38:32
  break
• 38:32
  them
• 38:32
  into
• 38:33
  half
• 38:33
  hour
• 38:33
  sessions
• 38:34
  so
• 38:34
  that
• 38:34
  you
• 38:34
  have
• 38:34
  more
• 38:35
  sessions.
• 38:35
  But
• 38:36
  I
• 38:36
  know
• 38:37
  this
• 38:37
  sounds
• 38:37
  maybe
• 38:37
  a
• 38:37
  little
• 38:37
  bit
• 38:37
  more
• 38:37
  complicated,
• 38:38
  but
• 38:38
  I
• 38:38
  have
• 38:38
  done
• 38:39
  that.
• 38:39
  I've
• 38:39
  had
• 38:39
  the
• 38:39
  luxury
• 38:40
  of
• 38:40
  having
• 38:40
  two
• 38:40
  coaches
• 38:40
  do
• 38:41
  this
• 38:41
  for
• 38:41
  me
• 38:41
  and
• 38:41
  it
• 38:41
  works
• 38:42
  so
• 38:42
  much
• 38:42
  better
• 38:44
  because
• 38:45
  that's
• 38:46
  how
• 38:46
  we
• 38:46
  maximize
• 38:47
  my
• 38:47
  ability
• 38:48
  to
• 38:48
  help
• 38:48
  you.
• 38:49
  So
• 38:49
  on
• 38:49
  that
• 38:49
  one,
• 38:49
  you
• 38:49
  have
• 38:50
  three
• 38:50
  months
• 38:50
  to
• 38:50
  do
• 38:50
  it
• 38:50
  in.
• 38:51
  You
• 38:51
  will
• 38:51
  have
• 38:51
  homework
• 38:51
  assignments
• 38:52
  and
• 38:52
  things
• 38:52
  like
• 38:52
  that.
• 38:53
  You
• 38:53
  get
• 38:53
  voxer
• 38:54
  access
• 38:54
  to
• 38:54
  me
• 38:55
  so
• 38:55
  we
• 38:55
  can
• 38:56
  one
• 38:56
  on
• 38:56
  one
• 38:56
  in
• 38:56
  between.
• 38:57
  Then
• 38:58
  the
• 38:58
  last
• 38:58
  one
• 38:58
  is
• 38:58
  the
• 38:58
  mastery,
• 38:59
  a
• 38:59
  six
• 39:00
  month
• 39:00
  timeline
• 39:01
  engagement.
• 39:01
  You
• 39:01
  get
• 39:02
  13
• 39:02
  hours
• 39:02
  of
• 39:03
  my
• 39:03
  time.
• 39:04
  You
• 39:04
  will
• 39:04
  have
• 39:04
  voxer
• 39:05
  access,
• 39:05
  the
• 39:06
  homework,
• 39:06
  all
• 39:06
  of
• 39:06
  that.
• 39:07
  And
• 39:07
  you
• 39:07
  get
• 39:08
  10%
• 39:08
  off
• 39:08
  one
• 39:08
  of
• 39:08
  our
• 39:09
  women's
• 39:09
  weekends.
• 39:10
  So
• 39:10
  I
• 39:10
  love
• 39:11
  how
• 39:11
  you
• 39:12
  create
• 39:12
  such
• 39:12
  perfect
• 39:13
  boundaries
• 39:13
  around
• 39:14
  it.
• 39:14
  You've
• 39:14
  got
• 39:15
  a
• 39:15
  structure,
• 39:16
  you've
• 39:16
  got
• 39:16
  a
• 39:17
  program,
• 39:17
  there's
• 39:18
  a
• 39:18
  time
• 39:18
  limit.
• 39:19
  You
• 39:19
  get
• 39:19
  the
• 39:20
  best
• 39:20
  experience
• 39:20
  and
• 39:21
  the
• 39:21
  person
• 39:21
  gets
• 39:22
  the
• 39:22
  best
• 39:22
  experience
• 39:23
  and
• 39:23
  there's
• 39:23
  choices
• 39:24
  at
• 39:24
  the
• 39:24
  same
• 39:24
  time.
• 39:24
  What's
• 39:25
  the
• 39:25
  best
• 39:25
  way
• 39:25
  for
• 39:25
  people
• 39:26
  to
• 39:26
  reach
• 39:26
  you?
• 39:27
  The
• 39:28
  best
• 39:28
  way
• 39:28
  for
• 39:28
  people
• 39:28
  to
• 39:29
  reach
• 39:29
  me
• 39:29
  is
• 39:30
  I
• 39:30
  would
• 39:30
  love
• 39:30
  for
• 39:30
  people
• 39:30
  to
• 39:31
  come
• 39:31
  in
• 39:31
  and
• 39:31
  just
• 39:32
  set
• 39:32
  up
• 39:32
  what
• 39:32
  I
• 39:32
  call
• 39:33
  a
• 39:33
  clarity
• 39:33
  call.
• 39:34
  My
• 39:34
  clarity
• 39:34
  calls
• 39:35
  are
• 39:35
  free
• 39:35
  because
• 39:35
  I
• 39:35
  want
• 39:35
  to
• 39:36
  connect
• 39:36
  with
• 39:36
  you
• 39:36
  and
• 39:37
  I'm
• 39:37
  really
• 39:37
  big
• 39:37
  on
• 39:38
  you
• 39:38
  and
• 39:38
  I
• 39:38
  got
• 39:38
  to
• 39:38
  be
• 39:39
  on
• 39:39
  the
• 39:39
  same
• 39:39
  page.
• 39:40
  If
• 39:40
  you
• 39:40
  and
• 39:40
  I
• 39:40
  aren't
• 39:41
  clicking,
• 39:41
  then
• 39:42
  it's
• 39:42
  not
• 39:42
  going
• 39:42
  to
• 39:42
  help
• 39:43
  you
• 39:43
  to
• 39:43
  be
• 39:43
  my
• 39:43
  client
• 39:44
  or,
• 39:44
  or
• 39:44
  to
• 39:44
  try
• 39:45
  to
• 39:45
  get
• 39:45
  coaching
• 39:45
  for
• 39:45
  me
• 39:46
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• 39:46
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• 39:46
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• 39:46
  going
• 39:46
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• 39:46
  gel.
• 39:47
  So
• 39:47
  I
• 39:47
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• 39:48
  that's
• 39:48
  number
• 39:48
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• 39:49
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• 39:49
  always
• 39:49
  had
• 39:50
  that,
• 39:50
  even
• 39:50
  way
• 39:50
  back
• 39:50
  when
• 39:51
  I
• 39:51
  was
• 39:51
  a
• 39:51
  wealth
• 39:51
  manager.
• 39:52
  That
• 39:52
  was
• 39:52
  my
• 39:52
  mentality.
• 39:53
  We've
• 39:54
  got
• 39:54
  to
• 39:54
  be
• 39:54
  somewhere
• 39:54
  where
• 39:55
  you're
• 39:55
  comfortable
• 39:55
  and
• 39:55
  you're
• 39:56
  like,
• 39:56
  yes,
• 39:56
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• 39:57
  can
• 39:57
  help
• 39:57
  you
• 39:57
  change.
• 39:58
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• 39:59
  the
• 39:59
  people
• 39:59
  I
• 39:59
  want.
• 40:00
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• 40:00
  the
• 40:00
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• 40:01
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• 40:01
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• 40:01
  have
• 40:01
  a
• 40:02
  calendly
• 40:02
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• 40:02
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• 40:02
  that
• 40:03
  always,
• 40:04
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• 40:04
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• 40:04
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• 40:04
  out
• 40:05
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• 40:05
  me
• 40:05
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• 40:05
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• 40:06
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• 40:06
  have
• 40:06
  a
• 40:06
  weekly
• 40:07
  newsletter
• 40:07
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• 40:07
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• 40:08
  Please
• 40:08
  get
• 40:09
  it.
• 40:09
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• 40:09
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• 40:09
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• 40:09
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• 40:10
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• 40:10
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• 40:11
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• 40:11
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• 40:11
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• 40:12
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• 40:13
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• 40:15
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• 40:15
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• 40:15
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• 40:15
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• 40:16
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• 40:16
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• 40:16
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• 40:16
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• 40:17
  me
• 40:17
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• 40:17
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• 40:19
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• 40:20
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• 40:20
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• 40:20
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• 40:20
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• 40:21
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• 40:21
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• 40:21
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• 40:21
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• 40:22
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• 40:22
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• 40:23
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• 40:24
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• 40:24
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• 40:25
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• 40:25
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• 40:25
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• 40:25
  big
• 40:25
  way.
• 40:26
  My
• 40:26
  website,
• 40:26
  my
• 40:27
  email.
• 40:27
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• 40:27
  have
• 40:27
  no
• 40:28
  problems.
• 40:28
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• 40:28
  I
• 40:29
  do
• 40:29
  speaking
• 40:29
  engagements,
• 40:30
  especially
• 40:31
  for
• 40:31
  teenagers,
• 40:31
  I
• 40:32
  give
• 40:32
  them
• 40:32
  my
• 40:32
  phone
• 40:32
  number
• 40:33
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• 40:33
  have
• 40:33
  them
• 40:33
  write
• 40:33
  it
• 40:33
  down.
• 40:34
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• 40:34
  want
• 40:34
  you
• 40:34
  to
• 40:35
  know
• 40:35
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• 40:35
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• 40:35
  accessible.
• 40:36
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• 40:37
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• 40:37
  you
• 40:37
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• 40:37
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• 40:37
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• 40:37
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• 40:37
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• 40:37
  to
• 40:37
  me
• 40:38
  because
• 40:38
  I
• 40:38
  truly
• 40:38
  believe
• 40:39
  for
• 40:39
  people
• 40:39
  who
• 40:39
  are
• 40:40
  ready,
• 40:40
  women
• 40:41
  who
• 40:41
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• 40:41
  ready
• 40:42
  to
• 40:42
  change,
• 40:43
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• 40:44
  want
• 40:44
  to
• 40:44
  be
• 40:44
  there
• 40:44
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• 40:45
  you
• 40:45
  I
• 40:45
  can
• 40:45
  support
• 40:46
  that
• 40:46
  change.
• 40:47
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• 40:47
  once
• 40:47
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• 40:48
  made
• 40:48
  that
• 40:48
  decision
• 40:49
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• 40:49
  you
• 40:49
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• 40:50
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• 40:50
  it
• 40:50
  anymore
• 40:50
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• 40:51
  that
• 40:51
  you
• 40:51
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• 40:51
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• 40:52
  level
• 40:52
  up
• 40:52
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• 40:53
  you
• 40:53
  just
• 40:53
  need
• 40:53
  that
• 40:54
  tool
• 40:54
  to
• 40:54
  help
• 40:54
  you.
• 40:55
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• 40:55
  want
• 40:55
  to
• 40:55
  make
• 40:55
  sure
• 40:56
  that
• 40:56
  that
• 40:56
  tool
• 40:56
  is
• 40:56
  accessible
• 40:57
  to
• 40:57
  you.
• 40:57
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• 40:57
  I'm
• 40:58
  there.
• 40:59
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• 40:59
  love
• 40:59
  it.
• 41:00
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• 41:00
  love
• 41:00
  it.
• 41:00
  So
• 41:00
  you
• 41:00
  can
• 41:00
  reach
• 41:01
  her@coachmdb.com
• 41:04
  you
• 41:04
  can
• 41:04
  also
• 41:05
  find
• 41:05
  her
• 41:05
  in
• 41:05
  LinkedIn
• 41:06
  and
• 41:07
  you'll
• 41:07
  find
• 41:07
  all
• 41:07
  of
• 41:07
  that
• 41:08
  in
• 41:08
  the,
• 41:08
  in
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  notes
• 41:09
  below,
• 41:10
  the,
• 41:10
  the
• 41:11
  podcast
• 41:12
  notes,
• 41:12
  et
• 41:12
  cetera.
• 41:13
  And
• 41:13
  I
• 41:14
  just
• 41:14
  thank
• 41:14
  you
• 41:15
  so
• 41:15
  much
• 41:15
  Margaret
• 41:16
  for
• 41:16
  being
• 41:16
  here
• 41:17
  and
• 41:17
  being
• 41:18
  a
• 41:18
  part
• 41:18
  of
• 41:18
  the
• 41:18
  wisdom
• 41:19
  of
• 41:19
  women
• 41:19
  show.
• 41:20
  I
• 41:20
  I
• 41:20
  love
• 41:21
  your
• 41:21
  energy
• 41:22
  and
• 41:22
  enthusiasm
• 41:23
  and
• 41:24
  your
• 41:25
  specific
• 41:26
  wisdom
• 41:27
  that
• 41:27
  you
• 41:27
  bring
• 41:28
  to
• 41:28
  us.
• 41:28
  You
• 41:28
  move
• 41:29
  us
• 41:29
  forward
• 41:29
  and
• 41:30
  help
• 41:30
  us
• 41:31
  think
• 41:31
  bigger
• 41:31
  about
• 41:32
  ourselves
• 41:32
  and
• 41:33
  really
• 41:34
  take
• 41:34
  notice
• 41:35
  of
• 41:35
  our
• 41:35
  power.
• 41:36
  And
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  love
• 41:36
  that.
• 41:37
  To
• 41:37
  all
• 41:37
  of
• 41:37
  our
• 41:38
  listeners
• 41:38
  today,
• 41:39
  thank
• 41:39
  you
• 41:40
  for
• 41:40
  being
• 41:40
  here.
• 41:41
  It
• 41:41
  is
• 41:41
  wonderful
• 41:41
  to
• 41:42
  hold
• 41:42
  the
• 41:42
  space
• 41:42
  for
• 41:43
  you
• 41:43
  to
• 41:43
  discover
• 41:44
  your
• 41:44
  wisdom
• 41:45
  and
• 41:46
  find
• 41:47
  new
• 41:47
  ways
• 41:47
  to
• 41:47
  tap
• 41:48
  into
• 41:48
  your
• 41:48
  own
• 41:49
  prosperity.
• 41:50
  If
• 41:50
  you
• 41:51
  are
• 41:51
  ready
• 41:51
  to
• 41:52
  take
• 41:52
  the
• 41:52
  next
• 41:52
  step,
• 41:53
  go
• 41:53
  ahead
• 41:53
  and
• 41:54
  go
• 41:54
  to
• 41:54
  a
• 41:54
  ForceForGood
• 41:55
  biz
• 41:56
  quiz
• 41:56
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• 41:57
  sign
• 41:57
  up
• 41:57
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• 41:57
  the
• 41:57
  Growth
• 41:58
  Readiness
• 41:58
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• 41:59
  There
• 41:59
  you're
• 42:00
  gonna
• 42:00
  uncover
• 42:01
  where
• 42:01
  your
• 42:01
  insight
• 42:02
  is
• 42:02
  needed
• 42:03
  most
• 42:03
  in
• 42:03
  your
• 42:03
  business.
• 42:04
  Remember
• 42:05
  that
• 42:06
  you
• 42:06
  are
• 42:07
  a
• 42:07
  force
• 42:08
  for
• 42:08
  good
• 42:09
  and
• 42:09
  the
• 42:09
  world
• 42:10
  is
• 42:10
  made
• 42:10
  better
• 42:11
  by
• 42:11
  women
• 42:11
  led
• 42:12
  business.
• 42:12
  So
• 42:13
  let's
• 42:13
  all
• 42:13
  go
• 42:14
  make
• 42:14
  the
• 42:14
  world
• 42:14
  a
• 42:15
  better
• 42:15
  place.
• 42:16
  Thank
• 42:17
  you.
• 42:17
  Cheers.