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#254 | A Fertility Practice for Grief After Miscarriage While TTC to Get Pregnant Again After Carrying Loss No One Acknowledges · Finally Get Pregnant Naturally: Holistic Fertility Support To Conceive Naturally and Stay Pregnant After Miscarriage

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  Katie: When it comes to holding onto the grief of losing a pregnancy, this episode helps you release what wants to be expressed that you've been keeping to yourself.
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  Welcome to the Finally Get Pregnant Naturally podcast, the podcast helping women identify the real reasons you haven't conceived or stayed pregnant so you and your partner can finally grow the family of your dreams.
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  I'm your host, Dr.
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  Katie Wood.
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  Let's dive in, shall we?
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  Katie: Three things you'll gain from today's episode: why unacknowledged grief keeps your nervous system in a state that works against your fertility, why naming your loss is not dwelling, it's creating space for belonging that your body has been waiting
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  Katie: for, and a simple fertility prescription to honor what happened, give it a place, and signal to your nervous system that it is safe to carry hope and grief at the same time so I know you.
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  Katie: You are a high-achieving woman.
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  Katie: You are a go-getter.
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  Katie: And if you've experienced loss, there is something that wants to be expressed, but you haven't fully allowed yourself to do that yet.
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  Katie: There is a particular kind of grief that has no container, the grief that comes after miscarriage when the world expects you to be okay because it happened early or because you already have a child or because you're trying
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  Katie: again, which means you must be moving forward, right?
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  Katie: She must be over it.
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  Katie: The grief that you perform outwardly as, quote-unquote, "fine" because fitting in requires it, but that your body is still holding quietly and completely beneath the surface of every optimized habit and every tracked cycle.
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  Katie: That held and unexpressed grief has a physiological cost.
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  Katie: A nervous system carrying unprocessed loss stays vigilant.
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  Katie: It stays braced, and a body that is braced is a body that does not feel safe, and a body that doesn't feel safe will deprioritize the very thing you are asking it to do: reproduce, create life.
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  Katie: This is not a mindset problem.
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  Katie: This is biology down to your cells, and what your body needs is not more optimization.
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  Katie: It needs acknowledgement.
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  Katie: It needs expression.
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  Katie: Not performance, not moving on.
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  Katie: Belonging to your own experience, to your own truth, to the loss that is real, whether or not anyone else gives it space.
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  Katie: So here is your fertility prescription this week.
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  Katie: I call it the naming ritual.
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  Katie: Find five minutes where you will not be interrupted.
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  Katie: You can do this sitting, lying down, or standing outside, whatever feels most at home and comfortable for you.
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  Katie: Place one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly and feel both rise and fall as you breathe in slowly.
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  Katie: And then say the name of what you lost out loud if you can.
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  Katie: It may be a name that you had for your baby.
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  Katie: It could be their due date.
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  Katie: It may be a word, a hope, a season, a version of the future.
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  Katie: Whatever carries the truth of what that pregnancy meant to you, say it out loud.
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  Katie: Yell it, scream it, cry it out, whatever you need to do to express the emotion of what's lying underneath.
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  Katie: Emotion is energy in motion, so get it out.
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  Katie: Let it exist in the air, in the room, in your body, in the world.
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  Katie: And then say, this is an example or just something that's true on your heart, "You were real.
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  Katie: You mattered.
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  Katie: You will never be forgotten.
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  Katie: I will always love you."
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  Katie: And then stay here for a moment.
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  Katie: Let your breath be slow.
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  Katie: Let your body receive what you just gave it.
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  Katie: The signal that the loss does not have to be hidden anymore, does not have to be repressed.
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  Katie: You don't have to put a mask on for other people's comfort.
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  Katie: It has a place.
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  Katie: You belong to your own story, even the parts that hurt.
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  Katie: And this is not the opposite of trying again.
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  Katie: This is what makes trying again feel less like white-knuckling it and more like returning to yourself.
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  Katie: You can hold grief and hope at the same time.
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  Katie: Your body already knows how.
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  Katie: It just needs permission So something I have been building behind the scenes is getting closer to being ready day by day, and it was made for you, for the woman that this episode was created for.
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  Katie: The one who's been carrying loss and answers that never fully came.
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  Katie: I'm not ready to share all the details yet, but it is going to give you access to root cause investigation in a way that has never been available before without working directly with a functional practitioner.
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  Katie: If you are not already following the podcast, you gotta go do that right now.
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  Katie: Okay?
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  Katie: And if you are following, stay tuned.
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  Katie: What is coming, what is on the way, is going to change the fertility game.
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  Katie: So let's recap.
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  Katie: Your fertility prescription this week, a quiet space for five minutes.
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  Katie: One hand on your heart, one on your belly.
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  Katie: Say the name, say what represents your pregnancy.
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  Katie: Say it out loud, and stay there long enough to allow your body to receive that, to express that emotion.
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  Katie: That is your practice this week.
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  Katie: And just remember, you do not have to carry this alone.
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  Katie: Okay?
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  Katie: I hope that this episode was well-received and helps you on your fertility journey.
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  Katie: Thank you so much for listening.
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  Katie: I hope you have a grounded day, and I'll see you on our next episode, released every Tuesday and Thursday.
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  Are you ready to finally discover why you haven't been able to get or stay pregnant?
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  The Ultimate Fertility Blueprint is a quick, insightful quiz designed to reveal your overall capacity to conceive and help you discover potential root causes and areas to address to improve your fertility so you can finally get and stay pregnant.
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  You'll find the link in the show notes.
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  As a quick reminder and disclaimer, this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice.
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  Always consult your doctor or healthcare provider before starting any new supplement or protocol, especially if you're actively trying to conceive or undergoing treatment.