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Focus on You: Improve Your Life and Master Your Mindset · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: How do you overcome the suffering of life?
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  Speaker 2: How do you overcome the suffering of life? Be a
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  Speaker 2: better person? That's how you do it?
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  Speaker 3: Well, that's hard.
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  Speaker 2: It takes responsibility. And I think you know if you
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  Speaker 2: said to someone you.
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  Speaker 1: Want to have a meaningful life, everything you do matters,
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  Speaker 1: that's the.
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  Speaker 2: Definition of the needingful life.
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  Speaker 1: But everything you do matters, you're gonna have to carry.
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  Speaker 4: That with you.
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  Speaker 1: Do you realize that every day you thought you wasn't
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  Speaker 1: gonna make it? Do you remember them days where you
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  Speaker 1: thought it was absolutely unbearable and you thought you wasn't
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  Speaker 1: gonna do it?
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  Speaker 2: That one I'm telling you do me a favor. Just
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  Speaker 2: don't let it fight you. If you get past it
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  Speaker 2: on the other side of it, it's going to be
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  Speaker 2: fore now and no. The ultimate resources are emotional states.
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  Speaker 2: If you're creative enough, can you find the answer? Yes
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  Speaker 2: or no. If you're determined enough, can you find the breakthrough?
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  Speaker 2: Yes or no. If you're passionate, loving enough, can you
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  Speaker 2: get someone to help you? Yes or no? If there's
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  Speaker 2: no way you're committed, can you find the money even
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  Speaker 2: if you don't have it? Yes or no? So I
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  Speaker 2: said creativity, decisiveness, passion, honesty, sincerity, love. These are the
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  Speaker 2: ultimate human resources. And when you engage these resources, you
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  Speaker 2: can get any other resource on earth.
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  Speaker 5: So if you don't put the work in today, if
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  Speaker 5: you don't do the unending, backbreaking work of developing yourself
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  Speaker 5: into something greater, the world is going to pass you by.
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  Speaker 6: The people that are going to own it are going
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  Speaker 6: to be the ones that did that work. And the
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  Speaker 6: one promise that I can make you right now is
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  Speaker 6: that somebody, somebody out there's outwork. Somebody right now is
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  Speaker 6: doing the things that I'm saying. Somebody right now is
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  Speaker 6: doing the work of the failing and getting up and
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  Speaker 6: getting better and pushing themselves and triggering that glorious adaptation
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  Speaker 6: response that makes humans the apex predator. Someone right now,
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  Speaker 6: they're putting in that work, and if you don't, the
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  Speaker 6: future is going to belong to them.
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  Speaker 3: So when you stop outsourcing your happiness, your validation, your support,
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  Speaker 3: all of it, and you bring it back in and
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  Speaker 3: you get responsible for it. When you're responsible, when you're
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  Speaker 3: the driver of your life, when you're not looking out
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  Speaker 3: to anybody else to fix it.
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  Speaker 7: For you, you're.
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  Speaker 3: The one that has to be the woman. You're the
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  Speaker 3: one who has to push your own ask You're the
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  Speaker 3: one who has to figure out what makes you happy.
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  Speaker 3: You're the one who has to figure out and becomes
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  Speaker 3: self aware about what you need. And then you're the
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  Speaker 3: one that has to find whatever it is the courage
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  Speaker 3: or being humble enough to ask for help.
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  Speaker 6: And as Martin Luther King Junior said, if you can't fly,
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  Speaker 6: then run. If you can't run, then walk. If you
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  Speaker 6: can't walk, then call. But whatever you do, you have
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  Speaker 6: to keep moving forward.
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  Speaker 1: Anybody that you feel very strongly about have some negative
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  Speaker 1: feelings about, let's look at some good reasons to forgive them.
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  Speaker 2: Number One, you must.
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  Speaker 1: Try and see what has happened or see things from
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  Speaker 1: that other person's point of view. If look at it
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  Speaker 1: from their point of view, that's one area. That's number one.
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  Speaker 1: Then number two, holding a grudge hurts you, doesn't hurt them.
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  Speaker 1: So just for good health and peace of mind, let
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  Speaker 1: it go. Any feeling of resentment or anger or hatred
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  Speaker 1: is called to me. The load of bitterness within thought
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  Speaker 1: that we entertain produces a chemical in our brain that
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  Speaker 1: impacts the body's immune system. And besides, this person you're hating,
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  Speaker 1: they probably are not even aware of it. If someplace
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  Speaker 1: having a good time don't even know you're really hating them,
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  Speaker 1: You've turned up the steed, gone from dislike to hate,
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  Speaker 1: intense hate. And here you are killing yourself, making yourself
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  Speaker 1: vulnerable to various types of illnesses, putting yourself in bad health.
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  Speaker 1: And I say that person is not worth your sacrificing
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  Speaker 1: your health or one minute of peace of mind. One
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  Speaker 1: minute of anger robs you of sixty seconds of happiness.
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  Speaker 1: So decide it doesn't matter, let it go, and experience
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  Speaker 1: the dignity and the magnanimous sense of character of being
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  Speaker 1: big enough to move on and get on with your life.
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  Speaker 1: Letting it go so you can we grow. Next step
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  Speaker 1: lack of self acceptance. How does it show up? How
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  Speaker 1: does it manifest itself? Seeing we all of us have
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  Speaker 1: greatness within us. But when you don't come to grips
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  Speaker 1: with your greatness and you don't work to develop it,
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  Speaker 1: if you're not seeking it out, if you're not finding
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  Speaker 1: where it is, if you're not trying to locate it,
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  Speaker 1: if you're not experimenting with your life to try and
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  Speaker 1: find out what fits for you, I'm saying that you're
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  Speaker 1: positioning yourself to be a miserable person, an unfulfilled person.
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  Speaker 2: How else do we do it?
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  Speaker 1: Procrastination? We just put things off over and over and
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  Speaker 1: over again. Why because we haven't accepted it. We don't
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  Speaker 1: feel deserving, We don't feel that we're good enough, So
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  Speaker 1: we sabotage ourselves by not ever taking care of business.
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  Speaker 1: We get room busy doing a lot of things. Well,
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  Speaker 1: we don't have any time. Well, I'll never forget. Aug
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  Speaker 1: Mandino in the book called University Success, is that many
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  Speaker 1: of us never ever discover our greatness because we become
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  Speaker 1: side by secondary activity, we stop doing so many things.
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  Speaker 1: We just give our time away until we don't have
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  Speaker 1: any time for ourselves or any time to do the
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  Speaker 1: things that we want to do. And every time you
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  Speaker 1: put it off and move it back, go I'll do
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  Speaker 1: it one day. Oh yeah, I'm going to get to it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying to you that one day you look around
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  Speaker 1: and there goes a year, there goes two years, there
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  Speaker 1: goes three years. So there's something you want to do,
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  Speaker 1: do it now, Do it right.
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  Speaker 2: Now, don't put it off.
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  Speaker 1: Stn right now where you are, there will never be
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  Speaker 1: a perfect ideal time whatever you have going for you
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  Speaker 1: right now that's enough. Work on that idea, Work on it,
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  Speaker 1: work on it, work on.
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  Speaker 4: It, decide, commit, act, succeed.
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  Speaker 2: Repeat.
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  Speaker 4: The one thing that all the greats have in common
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  Speaker 4: is they sweat the small stuff. They pay very, very
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  Speaker 4: close attention to every detail. Michael used to sweat the
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  Speaker 4: detail so much in this basketball game that carried on
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  Speaker 4: into us personal life. The suit had to match the
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  Speaker 4: he was driving that particular day. But what those details
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  Speaker 4: allowed him to do was to put him in the
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  Speaker 4: zone to be the best basketball player on that given night.
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  Speaker 4: The dark side is something that's in everybody, but it's
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  Speaker 4: a situation that you have to control the dark side.
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  Speaker 4: If it controls you, that's when things start to go real,
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  Speaker 4: real bad.
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  Speaker 8: That's when you have a tendency to go to the
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  Speaker 8: other what I call the other side. But if you
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  Speaker 8: harness the fuel that's from that dark side, whether it's anger,
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  Speaker 8: whether it's fear, and turn that into positive fuel, it'll
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  Speaker 8: help you really succeed at whatever you're trying to do.
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  Speaker 9: Empowerment is authority. It is a sign permission, slip to
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  Speaker 9: actually seize the day. It's the process of getting stronger
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  Speaker 9: and more confident and more engaged and to be empowered
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  Speaker 9: is to move through the world without any kind of
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  Speaker 9: fear or any kind of apology. And with these gifts
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  Speaker 9: comes an even deeper privilege I believe in that is
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  Speaker 9: the ability to take charge of your own life, to
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  Speaker 9: own yourself and claim your rights. And here's what I
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  Speaker 9: know for sure that to who much is given, much
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  Speaker 9: is expected. And I have been given so much. I've
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  Speaker 9: earned it. I've been blessed with it. But I've been
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  Speaker 9: given a lot. And that's why I've chosen to use
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  Speaker 9: my life to lift other people up.
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  Speaker 10: What do you really want?
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  Speaker 7: Do you know? Most people can't tell you what they
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  Speaker 7: really want. They don't know what they really want. They
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  Speaker 7: have never sat down and got super serious what you
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  Speaker 7: really want? Because when it starts to come to you infinitely,
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  Speaker 7: we're thinking how can.
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  Speaker 2: We do it? And we forget it.
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  Speaker 7: I tell a story about sitting down with a couple
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  Speaker 7: of patent john.
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  Speaker 10: They worn't for Sunlife and churnch company, and I was
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  Speaker 10: a big contract with them when I was doing work,
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  Speaker 10: and uh, they came and asked me one day, I said,
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  Speaker 10: could we meet you at lunch or something?
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  Speaker 7: I said, okay.
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  Speaker 10: So I was sitting talking to them and.
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  Speaker 2: I talked to him for quite a while.
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  Speaker 10: Never tell me how rough things were, and they were
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  Speaker 10: was going in the wrong direction and side locked and stared.
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  Speaker 2: For a little while.
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  Speaker 10: I said, what do you really want? They had no
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  Speaker 10: idea what they wanted, but they kept pressing them. What
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  Speaker 10: you really want?
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, well, they were living in a basement apartment in
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  Speaker 7: somebody's house.
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  Speaker 10: They wanted to have your own house, and I said,
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  Speaker 10: we're gonna buy one.
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  Speaker 7: They said, we can't buy a house.
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  Speaker 10: We don't have any money. I said, you didn't need
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  Speaker 10: any money. I said, what do you mean we don't
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  Speaker 10: need any money.
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  Speaker 7: I said, you haven't decided to buy a house. What
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  Speaker 7: the hell do you need the money for it?
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  Speaker 10: Now?
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  Speaker 7: That is so light you could easily pass that over.
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  Speaker 7: They didn't need the money because they hadn't made a
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  Speaker 7: decision to buy the house.
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  Speaker 2: Yet.
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  Speaker 7: You make the decision to do it. Once you make
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  Speaker 7: the decision, you have already done it in your mind.
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  Speaker 7: You have flipped your mind onto a different frequency.
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  Speaker 10: You will then begin
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  Speaker 7: To attract to you whatever's required for the manifestation of
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  Speaker 7: what it is you've decided to do.