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Season 4 - Episode 278 - What can you do when you are stuck? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey. Everybody, welcome to the Good
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  Morning from the Chicken Coop podcast.
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  My name is Kim Johnson and I am a mastermindset, coach, creative
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  strategist, and also happened to be a farmer.
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  This is my Chicken coop and I come out here.
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  Every day to record a podcast to.
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  Teach distinctions, possibilities, new ways of
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  thinking, and just bring some joy.
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  Into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning.
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  OK. What do you do when you're
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  stuck? Let's say you're trying to come
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  up with something and whatever that might be, something you're
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  working on for yourself, something you're working on for
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  your job, whatever it is. Let's say you're stuck.
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  What do you do? I mean, it comes up often in my
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  sessions where people will say I just feel stuck.
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  I don't know what to do. Well, what do you think the main
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  reason that you get stuck is? And believe me, this has
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  happened to me too. Because we are myopic.
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  We only see our world through our own eyes.
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  So what happens when you feel stuck and what do you think is
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  the driver? It's usually 99% of the time
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  that you're looking at it through the same motion that got
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  you stuck. So in other words, the main
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  driver of your bus. So if we're going back to our
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  bus metaphor of who's driving your bus, what emotion is in
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  your head driving that bus? That is the one that predicated
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  you getting stuck. So often for me, if I'm stuck,
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  my certainty girl is driving and she is looking for something
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  that is an absolute win. And when you're creating, you
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  cannot always have an absolute win.
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  In fact, most of the time, you never know if you're going to
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  have an absolute win. It's very, very important to
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  remember that that those emotions that are our primary
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  ones will jump in and they will give their opinion and they will
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  stay for a long time as the driver.
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  So you really have to work on making sure that you understand
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  before you're trying to just go down that stuck hole.
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  I'm stuck, I'm stuck, I'm stuck, I'm stuck.
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  You are dealing with the emotion that got you there.
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  You're not dealing with the emotion you need to get you out
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  of it. So you have to say, ah, wait,
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  I'm stuck. What is the emotion that's
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  driving? And then you go, I go certainty.
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  So I'm going to use myself as an example.
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  Certainty. OK, great.
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  So as I'm planning this expansive herb garden, I'm,
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  there are lots of things in there that I haven't grown.
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  I've picked way too many seeds that I want to grow, which is
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  great. And I've got to figure out where
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  to put them. So now I'm like, OK, well, I'm
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  not sure how I want to do this. I'm not sure.
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  And I found myself saying I'm not sure.
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  I'm not sure. I'm not sure, which meant I was
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  stuck. I was in that contemplative
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  feeling of being stuck. So I had to say, OK, stop,
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  pause. What is happening?
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  Certainty is driving. She is not helpful right now.
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  So I said you are not helpful right now.
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  I need to really get creative. I need creativity driving.
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  I need creativity driving. And as soon as I did that, I was
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  like, well, I could do this. And as soon as I hear myself go,
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  well, that means I'm kicking into gear of creativity
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  possibility. So well, I could do this or I
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  could do this or I could do this.
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  And before you know, I, I've got like 5 different choices there.
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  But it is always, always, always predicated on that driver.
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  And if you forget that, you've got to realize as soon as you
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  hear yourself saying the words, I'm stuck.
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  You now know you've got to shift.
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  You've got to get to a different driver.
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  I'm certainly not saying that that's going to be a definitive
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  answer. Those ones that are coming out,
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  well, it could be this or it could be this or it could be
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  this, but it gets the inertia going.
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  It gets you moving again, it it moves those feet and that energy
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  from being stuck and then puts you on a path where you can
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  potentially really make progress.
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  But you have to recognize the emotion first.
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  If you don't recognize the emotion first, that's where it
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  all goes wrong and we start to get frustrated and before you
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  know it, that frustration is building and now there's a
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  block. It's a full on roadblock.
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  Now another piece of this that's very important besides just
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  switching the emotion is to go to the place of making sure that
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  you are changing your location, change your body position, get
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  up and go for a walk. Believe it or not, when old
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  timers used to say, hey, go for a walk, clear your head, they it
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  was actually brilliant because the more you move your body, the
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  more energy shifts and the more you're able to change.
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  So you go for a walk, you change your seat.
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  I will move my seat all around in my studio so that I can
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  actually feel like, OK, I'm moving.
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  I don't want to stay stagnant. So you see, your body means it
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  moves your head. So you just have to keep
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  thinking like that in layers, keep moving and give yourself
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  the time and write down, say I'm going to write down all the
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  horrible ideas or all the feelings of being stuck so
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  they're not in my head or my body anymore.
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  And then I have space for the new stuff.
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  It's another strategy. So being stuck, you can really
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  layer it. You can really pull yourself
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  out, but you've got to try a bunch of different things to
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  make it work. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.