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Grounded Show Ep. 52 - Do For Self · The Grounded Show

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Yo, So check this out. I feel like I'm kind of like in
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a little down period right now, but not in the way I guess you
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could say people would expect, in the sense of like it's not necessarily being
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down as far as like a mood or whatever. But you know, life
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has it speaks and valleys, and I'm in that valley right now, you
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know what I mean. And something that always helps me get through it is
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just kind of keeping the same routine slash work ethic like consistently throughout the whole
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thing, so that it just you know, I can kind of hit it
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and stride and kind of get in an automatic kind of mode in those times.
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Can I say a Jay Z quote for that? Yes, go ahead,
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my friends. And that's why, real quick before I get to that
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quote, Facebook memories is some of the most embarrassing shit ever seen in my
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life. The shit I used to say, but sometimes I was spending real
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ship and one of them was Jay Z's quote one day you're up, next
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day you're down. Long as you stay the same to come back around,
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that's it. Once again, It's a life, that's it. Say the
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same and it'll come back around. Yeah, And the quote Jay z Protege,
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Nipsey Hustle, the marathon Man. It's a marathon. You can't you
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can't look at it from a short race kind of thing, or you're gonna
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get to a certain you know, checkpoint, and that's it. Like,
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nah, it ain't never that. He definitely really to find what marathon is
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like in the perspective of living a life, like it's something you're gonna work
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on forever. And it's dope that he even just made it cool for people
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to really execute a long term plan and really think about their future and be
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more tapped in you know what I'm saying. That's that's the cool thing about
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artists like that and why they kind of exist in a certain realm. And
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that even reminds me of something I saw Alchemists talk about on Instagram. Shout
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out to Alchemists. Super Dope producer really came up in the nineties two thousands,
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I think it was late nineties, early two thousands, but he's been
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flourishing ever since. And he was kind of talking about how he's not really
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part of the music industry because he said it like he's running a microbrewery.
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You know what I'm saying, Like he's tapped in with the people that mess
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with him and he's giving them what they want and he's still able to do
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what he loves. But he's not part of the whole music industry vibe,
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you know what I mean. And it's just kind of cool where like,
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you know, you get a lot of people that say, like with me,
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I was one of them, like oh this industry stuff, la la
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la la la, And it's like okay, So then that you're not trying
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to be an industry person, then you gotta you gotta walk in the path
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of what you want to do, you know what I mean. Music is
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not just the industry, you know what I mean, It's not just being
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tapped into like those circles and stuff. If you politics of it. Yeah,
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it's something that they talk about with comedians too, like you can't take
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away a laugh, you know what I mean, Like if if in the
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laughs, bro, nobody can say anything. Bro. It's the same thing
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with music, Like if you connect them with your fans and you're putting it
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in their face and they know, like, Yo, this is the kind
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of music I can expect, this is the catalog this person got. Nobody
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can you know somebody in the industry is not gonna stop that. You know
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what I'm saying, There's not gonna be somebody quote unquote blackballing. You're telling
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people, hey, don't listen to that person. Nah, it don't work
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like that. I agree, And that's why I think you're you kind of
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understanding more when you're in it. And you said, you know, you
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see what people are dealing with. And it's like, you know, every
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time you hear the Grammy stuff with different artists where their boycotting their Grammys,
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speaking out against the Grammys, anytime you hear them speaking out against certain awards
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or chart positioning and things like that, it's because it's all a popularity contest.
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You know. It's obviously talent, grind money, you know, execution,
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marketing is all that, but it's also a popularity contest. If you're
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not saying that the focus, maybe everything's gonna be way harder for you.
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All these people that used to become mega successful and all over the place and
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on every channel and all this stuff. The main thing everybody says is they're
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cool with everybody. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like, if
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it's a person, you know, if you want to be that guy.
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You gotta put in that work that that guy's putting in, you know what
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I'm saying. Somebody like Will Smith, you know what I mean, Like
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he was the love you know, he was the demand of the hour for
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more than an hour. You know what I'm saying. He had that going
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because he was the fool guy everywhere. You know, whoever he interacted with,
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everybody had a good story, you know what I mean. And you
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know, maybe that had his consequences. You know what I mean with the
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out person and some of the more public things that I've been going on.
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You know what I'm saying with Will Smith, But I was just somebodio.
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No I was gonna say. I watched them Dave Chappelle little skit clip where
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he said, remember when Kramer said to Edward, Yeah, huh did you
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see that clip about how David Chappelle reacting. He's like, I feel like
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eighty percent comedian twenty percent black because like, yeah, I was offended.
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But then like, for you to do that shit, like I felt,
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you must be going through some shit died for you to be dropping that and
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producing that content in your career, I know, like you're at your lowest
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and you recognize that ship when you're in it and you see people reacting a
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certain way. Yeah, he was. He was kind of saying, how
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like as a comedian, he was like, damn, he's bombing you know
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what I mean. He's like, he's like, I hope you find the
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way back. He didn't care about the contents as a comedian's point of view,
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he didn't care about what he was saying. He was like, man,
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this is ain't resonating with the people you and you in the dark space
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right now, bro. And yeah, that's there's a cool thing in there
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too, just about even how you look at stuff, which is something that
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it's a really big thing with me, and it's one of those things that
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that's why I'm a big fan of people like Dave Chapelle because they have the
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ability to look at stuff in black and white and really look at it from
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like a very far back view with that perspective and the close perspective and kind
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of find a middle ground in between, you know what I mean. It's
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like a lot of times, you know, you kind of get too caught
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up in like the division that you have or your little bubble, and you
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kind of need that perspective to kind of calibrate every once in a while.
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And that's what mean y'all, y'all industry knowing what y'all know and and trying
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to collaborate people you can look at them and see like, Okay, the
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way you're moving right now, you're acting a certain way kind of thing.
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Yeah, Like if it's you know, it kind of goes back. I
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think. Let's just said it in one of the episodes before where we touched
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on you know the eagles that go into dealing working with other people in the
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industry, and you know where it's like, I'm here to make a good
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song. You know, I don't gotta be the center of attention on this
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record. I don't gotta you know what I'm saying. If my part just
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carries the record to your part and it still sounds good, you know what
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I'm saying. It's like, I'm here to make a good song. You
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know what I'm saying. Um, And some people they kind of get caught
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up with the ego part of it, like no, I want my first
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to go first. Well, all right, I mean it doesn't sound good
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first, but you know what I'm saying, Like it's just there's like this
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egos involved. You know, I'm gonna break it a little somebody I digest
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it today. So, um, I worked with a bunch of a PhD
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scientists, right, and we were in a room today with the people who
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were who we supply work for, and it was expected to be one of
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the most turmoil environments ever. Like even they had a legal guy come in
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and they said that still yeah, keep going maybe yeah. So they said,
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like they thought I was gonna be a Quentin Tarantino movie, right.
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And then one one of my leads, she she brought in and she said
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that everybody's oh man, and I want to get this word right. So
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I'm just gonna look real quick. Um My, is it my my myopia?
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Myopia? Huh, myopia? Everybody's in their own myopia. Have you
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heard that words I have a myopic. I've heard myopic, which is a
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derivative of the same words. Yeah. So it's pretty much elaborates your your
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your your lack of seeing the bigger picture. And everyone has it, no
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matter how smart or intelligent or open minded you are. Everybody has their own
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myopia. They have their own near sight in this they have their own view
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of things. And when you're in a room with you know, even the
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three of us, and luckily ours is more reliant than a lot of people.
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But when you're room with everybody and you see so many people with so
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many different point of views, you're like, damn, I don't even I
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don't even want to do this. Is it worth the fight? And that's
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something that we deal with, like is it worth the fight or really having
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to come down to your level and explain it to you just to get you
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out of that, because it's not. Then if I get you out of
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that, what's to say? I'm not in it and someone has to get
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me out of that. So it's a constant battle of everybody's just confident in
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their near sightingness and this is how I wait, this is how I see
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things, and this is how things should be. And I did, and
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I did realize that that's applied everywhere, That's applied in every single thing you
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do. And that's I think that's every battle in life. It's people's perspectives.
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And that's that's the word I want to carry in to me. I'm
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glad, that's of course, let's know it. But that's the word that
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I learned it and I was like, wow, that and that's something you
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got to take an effect every time you're in the room with people. Yeah,
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kind of carrying carrying off of what you just said. It's also a
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thing where like you can be like that if you understand that you have to
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live your life a certain way to stay in those parameters, you know what
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I mean. I think that's like the problem that a lot of people have
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where they don't really realize like, Okay, I want to look at things
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this way, but I want it to be where everybody agrees with it too.
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It's like no, no, no, it don't work like that.
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You can live how you want to live, but that's for you, and
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you got to figure out how to make it work for you or you're not
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leaning on anybody else's participation to be able to do it, you know what
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I mean. That's kind of like where people lose me when they have a
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needy kind of thing to them, you know what I mean. Like that's
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a big trait for me. That's a big red flag for me, you
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know what I mean, Like all they're doing this is to satisfy themselves,
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right, Just anybody that that makes it seem like anybody that will make it
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seem like what they're going through that day is bigger than anything else on a
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constant basis, This is the type of person that I do not want to
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associate with at all, because it's like, if you can't have that perspective
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of the bigger picture and what's going on overall and the fact that everybody's going
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through their own battles, you know what I mean, everybody has a right
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to, you know, talk to somebody that's willing to listen about what they're
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going through and everything. But if you're the type of person that's every day
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calling people up asking for favors, needing advice, needing to help, you
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know, you always got some kind of end of the world situation going on.
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You really need to look inward and figure out what you're doing and bring
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all this stuff to your own life. That's real. That's definitely. You
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really regulate what you know what I'm saying, You really regulate what you give
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your time to, who you give your time to, what kind of things
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you do with your time. It's you, your life. You're the one
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in charge. So if you're in this whole thing where it's like, um,
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you know in your mind you're leaning on X, Y and Z happening
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with other people for stuff to shake with you. You already messed up.
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Yeah, And I I've dealt with that a lot. And I've dealt with
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with people who are showing opportunities too and and pause, but they want to
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put all their eggs in my basket. And I'm like, that's the last
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thing I needed to do. Like I'm saying I might have something for you,
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and the last thing you do is just drop every something like I remember
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I used to and this is past past, past experiences, like I used
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to tell somebody, hey, I might got something for you, and then
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like a week later, like, oh, they're off of me a promotion.
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So that turn it down to you got something like no, hell no,
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if that that that's ready, Now take do that for you. I'm
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not sitting here living my life making sure I got you. I'm not like,
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so you to be the judge of what's best for you, no matter
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what comes at you, no matter who's telling you something, whatever comes at
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you, got to be the best judge of that. Yeah, I have.
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I mean I've seen that a lot in my life especially, I mean
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friends, but family as well, you know what I'm saying, where it's
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like, you know, they have situations that or create, I would say,
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situations that you know are constant like anchors to them, you know,
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and then they try to like put that anchor on you to help them get
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out of it. And it's like, nah, man, you know what
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I'm saying. Like, and and you know I got I come from.
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It's it's weird because I come from an interesting family, but a very loving
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family, um, and so you know that that anchor always tends to fall
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on somebody else, you know what I mean. And it's like a it's
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like that cycle, you know what I mean. It's like, how can
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we get out as a family when we're always falling you know what I'm saying
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because of other people? It's like it sucks, man, it really does
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suck. Because that's that's something that I tussle with internally a lot because I
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am I grew up very very family oriented, UM, but just life situations,
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UM, you know, kind of detoured me from being basically just from
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allowing that to happen to me. You know what I'm saying, Um,
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because I've seen how it goes you know, it always ends up with the
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person that helping every helping everybody in a situation where they need help and nobody's
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able to help them, you know what I mean? Um, And and
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I just refuse to kind of put myself in that situation. I love my
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family to death and I'll help them wherever I can, but I won't overextend
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myself. Um, you know what I mean. That's a good way to
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lead into the topic that Lesson was talking about for this week. And it's
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like the balance of doing it for you versus doing it for others. M
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that's a thin line. That is a thin line. Yeah, no,
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facts do you mean do you think? Yeah? How do you think you
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manag yet? For me? You know that's something um that I especially over
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like the last year, who I've been really kind of like trying to take
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that step back and analyze, um, you know, what I take in
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calls and how I handled that those kind of situations. So for example,
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you know, um, before I was a very very what do you call
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it, I'm a cancer by nature? I said this earlier and something I
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posted on so I'm a canna by nature, which kind of trickles down to
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me being like very but that and so when someone has a situation, if
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I'm able to help them and I see them as somebody I can be loyal
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to, then I will give you the shirt off my back, you know
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what I'm saying, because I just that's in my nature. But then I've
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realized, you know that you can't do that with anybody, you know,
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And so I've learned to kind of really filter out, um who I allow
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into that very small circle, you know, because at the end of the
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day, you know, I've gotten burned more time than I've gotten praised in
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those situations. So you know, I gotta just really move forward, think
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about myself and my peace and what's going to allow me to live my life
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not only happily, but you know what I'm saying, like peaceful, you
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know what I mean, Like where it's like I'm not concerned with things like
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that. So yeah, that's you're July fifteen. Yeah, yeah, And
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so I'm doing twenty first. So I'm on the custom. And no matter
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how I pretending to be a Gemini, every singing person who knows me in
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life knows I'm cancer. Same way if if if I go all in with
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you, I'm going on in with you, and then if one thing messages
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that up, it's a rap. Yep, exactly wrap complete rap. Over
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time, it went from eighty percent of complete rap to ninety percent a complete
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rap, to the point where now it's one if if it if something don't
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align how it's supposed to align between this one be said, I don't not
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know you anymore, probably one of my biggest flaws. But there's not a
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lot of people who do that in my life. There's no people who ever
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make a bad judgment on And like you said, sometimes it's family, and
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sometimes it's people you've known for a long time. You know, something I've
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really kind of not just accepted, but really just taking a step back and
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said, this is kind of how I want to move forward. Is you
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know I do right, I do good and if that doesn't work, no,
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sweat off my back less and learn. But at the end of the
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day, I know I did good. So you know, whatever happens in
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the end that I don't have to live within anything. You know what I'm
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saying that I did good, I moved on, and that's what it is.
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But on the flip side of that, the other end of it you're
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gonna remember that person that did good all the time. Oh yeah, and
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that's the person you just continuously keep looking out for and don't worry about no
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more. And you've been having this little secret struggle this whole time because Joe's
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mike hasn't e been playing. You know, what's do you want to know
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what I did? I win the settings, I win the audio and where
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it was checked stereo audio, I unclicked it. Yeah, oh chology.
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What were you saying though, Joe, that that that's technology for you?
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Dude? Yeah, this I've been having to adjust these settings a lot more
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like the last two or three times than before, you know what I mean,
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Like, I don't know what's going on with it, but yeah,
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that's all right. What you were saying, Quincy, Like it really just
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made me think of like all you could really do is is work your hardest
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to be as solid as you can be, and then as long as you
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do that, you could be at peaceful whatever happens next, you know what
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I mean. Like that's kind of how I look at it, Like it's
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like I know that I'm gonna do the most considerate thing to a fault sometimes,
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so I also I also know that that means that if you know,
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we have some kind of disagreement, it's very hard for me to understand how.
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You know what I'm saying, like you have a valid point of view
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because like Quincy said, bro I don't know if he said it on the
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podcast or he said it in a post, but like you know, when
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you consider somebody else's feeling so much that you put yourself in a bind so
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that they feel better, you know what I'm saying, that's something that you
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know, you got to really manage that because if not, you're going down
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a dangerous road because you just emptying your vessel. What I'm saying, yea,
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No, that's exactly what I was saying, is that you could now
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now you can recognize because you can recognize whos not real like that and who
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is? And I feel like those are people you don't got to worry about.
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And it's crazy because no matter if I know people, I know them
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for over twenty years, that I still recognize them. And I noticed there's
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still them, and I noticed whenever one of those situations have him like,
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hey, at this points them but they're at a certain level to me,
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And you know that mights me of a DMX quote he had on drink Chaps.
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He's like, no people and when you see him, believe them and
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you know they're gonna be exactly who they are. Don't ever, don't never
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think someone's not gonna be who they are. Yeah, and we probably said
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it before, but that leads into this balance and like I feel like over
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time you gain that, you recognize that a lot better. It was funny
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because like that's something that I always credit to win Worth. Like it was
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like very street, so you kind of got the you you kind of saw
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the rawest form of people's like real emotions and what they really thinking, what
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they really want to do, you know what I'm saying, Like you see
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it at it's like purest form, you know what I'm saying. It's like
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you you see every bad trait in different people, and they show themselves in
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different ways, but it's just so instantly recognizable. And it's like one of
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the things like for example, like growing up in the neighborhood like that,
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like everybody knows that there's one or two people that they're the steelers. They're
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in the steel all the time. When you can't go to a convenience store
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with them. You can't go to Walmart, you can't go nowhere with them
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because they're gonna steal for sure, for sure. And it was one of
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those things where like if you let the Steeler come to your house and then
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something turned up missing, and then you asking everybody, and then you over
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here like, man, you better not took my stile. Everybody looking at
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you like, bro, he's the Steeler. How would you let him in
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your house? You know what I'm saying. It's like, bro, when
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people show you who you who they are, believe them and act accordingly.
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You know what I mean? Everybody, not everybody, but a lot of
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people get this Captain saveohole kind of mentality with like everything in their life.
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Bro. Like they feel like they want to be the savior. They feel
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like they want to be like the bigger man and be the one that you
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know what I'm saying. Like they just always want to have this glow about
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them, like, oh, I always do the right thing and I'm the
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moral compass and all this stuff. And it's like, bro, that's not
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that's not what we're doing, you know what I'm saying. Some people just
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ain't for each other. You know what I'm saying. It's a very simple
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thing, like you don't got to force it. It's a it's a vibe
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thing. Yeah, that's facts. I will say that. Um you know
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that that quote. Uh, you know when somebody shows you are believing.
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I feel like we've all heard it before, but it hits harder every time
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the life experience. You know what I'm saying that sometimes it might take a
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few experiences for you to be like, Man, I knew that person was
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like that. I don't even know why I allowed myself again into that situation
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or this person already had these traits about them. I don't know how I
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even got caught up with that. But you know, life is always the
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best teacher. I just always say, try to learn from other people's experiences,
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and it's like a lot of times it beat them. Old relationships,
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you know, long friendships. You know something we've talked about before. The
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way that you know people in your proximity, it doesn't mean they for you.
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You know what I'm saying, y'all just happen to live in the same
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area at the same time. Y'all not obligated to anything. You know what
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I'm saying, it's just you know, you can choose to be cordial,
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you could choose to be friendly, you could choose to be best friends,
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you could choose whatever you want. But at the end of the day,
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the circumstance doesn't determine who you got to have around you for the rest of
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your life, now, you know what I mean. Yeah, it's some
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people. I hear them say something, I'm like, hey, man,
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that's not from your heart, bro. And I would never say anything like
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that to you, and I don't say anything like that about anybody. And
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I was like, that's just stuff you just need to keep to yourself.
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Man. Yeah, there's not even nothing serious, but it's just like saying
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things a certain way, like, bro, that's just it's like the same
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with people that choose to lie about little stuff just because yeah, you know
24:18
what I mean, Like you're not even asking, you're not digging, you
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know what I'm saying, Like you're not even talking about the subject they're talking
24:25
about, and they're just volunteering lives like okay, I mean, you know,
24:30
like you're really they really just go out of their way to show their
24:33
true colors, like the DMX thing, you know what I mean. That's
24:37
what I don't. Never like I and I'm not trying to be what's to
24:44
call it hyprocer, because you know, I was a certain way and I
24:47
worked on changing and I changed, and I think I was consistent in my
24:51
change. So I don't think that nobody ever won't change. But there's some
24:55
people who if you don't ever see them trying to change, they're never going
24:59
to change. And you gotta expect them to be themselves forever until you actually
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see change and witness it. And that's what I'm saying. I'm not I'm
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not gonna get and no one can ever do that. But it's a lot
25:11
of work to do that. Yeah, man, A lot of people don't
25:14
like to take ownership in their lives, you know what I mean. They
25:18
want to act like they're in this thing that everybody else is shaping and they
25:22
can't escape this and that and all these different things. And it's like brow
25:26
it and even like that, you're creating your own you're creating your own world
25:30
against you, which doesn't make any sense, Like you're the one living this
25:34
life, create the world to work for you, you know what I'm saying.
25:38
It's like, ah, man, like that's that's the thing, like
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what you were talking about, Like you can't explain that that to everybody,
25:45
Like and a lot of people are just gonna even hit you with an excuse
25:48
when you tell them that. And it's like, if you're hitting me with
25:51
an excuse when I tell you that, you're a you already you're already lost
25:55
on the concept. You know what I'm saying, Because it's like, Bro,
26:00
excuses and things that happen in life. Bro, that's always gonna be
26:06
there, always, always, even the laziest bum person can find a million
26:11
excuses for stuff. Anybody, Like anybody, no matter how hard they work,
26:17
they can make it seem like they don't got time for nothing. But
26:22
somehow the people that do it just find the time. Yeah. I heard,
26:27
I heard of the day that there is no such thing as issues,
26:30
Like issues equal opportunity. In some way or another, everything is an opportunity.
26:37
And I took that a little differently today. Facts it's like if you
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move in solid, ain't nothing bad going to happen. It's only going to
26:45
be something that needs to be resolved. Yep, you know what I'm saying.
26:48
It's also how you choose to look at stuff, because you know,
26:51
I've seen people get a ticket and act like you know, they caught a
26:56
case, and it's like, bro, this is like a regular traffic ticket,
27:00
like money to the side, pade online like you did paid online.
27:07
Yeah. Like, it's crazy how people create situations in their own head for
27:11
certain things, you know what I mean. They make it seem so impossible
27:15
or crazy when it's like, yo, you're making a whole, a whole
27:19
three days out of something that can be resolved in ten minutes. Yep,
27:25
it is man, That's something um uh that I try to teach my niece,
27:30
Like she's here visiting, and just because she's here visy, I'm trying
27:36
to remind her keep doing things things she likes, open up to things I
27:40
like. It. It's crazy because I literally remember that makes I told you
27:42
I made that I lost, Yeah, I made in front of her,
27:45
and I told her while she's here, she's gonna pick ten songs of her
27:48
favorite songs and she has a really good ear music and we're gonna mix a
27:55
song together and then um we It's just like I'm trying trying to show her
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that you if you maintain like that level of just want to be creative,
28:06
creativity. To keep yourself in the mind state, you find those good people
28:08
who relate to you. Like she brought her drawing book. We're here here
28:12
with her like drawing pencils, and like she's like I see her mind,
28:17
and I'm like, bro, this is like this is what I wanted to
28:18
be when I was young, and so I try to feed that, Like
28:22
we did Legos together, and then I tell her parents and like, yeah,
28:26
she's a Lego master. I'm like, that's crazy. I never knew.
28:27
So now I want to go buy more Legos And like, Bro,
28:30
that mindset, I think that feels you. That feels you up, man,
28:34
and it allows you to get to a certain mind state and recognize that
28:40
mind state within people. And I think that builds a good foundation to just
28:44
keep continuing that, bro. And it's like that grounding mind state, Bro,
28:47
just keep coming back to that. Yep. And and the dope thing
28:49
about specifically that is she can consciously say, hey, I'm gonna occupy my
28:56
time and always be around creatives, always be around artists, so that her
29:00
reality becomes art you know what I'm saying. That's really what she wants to
29:03
do. Bro. You recognize it immediately, dude, I'd even tell you
29:07
that, and that's exactly what she wants to do. Yep. You put
29:10
yourself in situations where there's other artists, where there's people making money off art,
29:12
where either you're paying, you know, whatever the case is. It
29:15
it's some kind of ecosystem in the in the sphere that you want to be
29:19
in, you know what I mean. It's as simple as putting yourself in
29:23
those situations and just making it happen because you're in control. Yeah, it's
29:30
amazing seeing how creative she is. And I swear I have to read that
29:33
to me. I don't know anybody else on her side of the family.
29:37
It's only me messages in art side, and like where she like she just
29:41
learns how to tag, I don't know, or like graffiti she just wanted
29:44
to learn how to do. She drives like crazy, she reads like crazy,
29:47
seeing an anime, She's everything like in just experiencing other creative mind states
29:53
of the realities, and I'm like, yeah, that's so special. And
29:56
she just turned four, team bro, I've had a good time experiencing that,
30:03
and I hope to grow that into what we always talk about, and
30:07
that mind state being I hope to contribute and growing in her mind stay yeah,
30:11
cultivated and let her keep growing so she keeps you know what I mean.
30:15
It's like keeping your mind open and always knowing that you don't know everything,
30:18
you know what I mean. Like you're always seeking ways to grow,
30:22
always seeking ways to to you know, have a better, more peaceful,
30:26
more productive life. You know what I mean. You're trying to break certain
30:29
habits you know. You know, I'll grow certain things, strength and strengthen
30:33
certain things, and kind of it's almost like you got to detach yourself from
30:37
your own life to understand what it needs, you know what I mean.
30:41
Like if you if you if you're too emotional about her, if you're too
30:44
attached to certain things without really like knowing or having to discernment to really say,
30:49
hey, this is not good for me, then you know, maybe
30:52
you need to seek some outside of help for that, you know what I'm
30:56
saying. Like it's like I said, you you're in control, so whatever
30:59
you're lacking, and you know that you need help in those areas you can
31:02
attack. Nobody's holding you back, you know what I'm saying. And it's
31:06
like it's like people would I say they want to, Oh, man,
31:07
I really want to pick up this hobby. Like, I'm pretty sure whatever
31:11
the hobby is, there's some kind of class, either cheap or even free.
31:15
Because the library we're having a whole bunch of free classes that have a
31:18
lot of information. You know what I'm saying, Like, you can pretty
31:21
much get into anything that you want to, you know what I mean,
31:23
It's just are you gonna prioritize in and are you gonna value your own life
31:29
enough to say, hey, let's make this better? And then a lot
31:33
of times, you know, like you said, like people like I had
31:37
a call from a friend that basically, you know her I guess boyfriend or
31:44
partner or whatever, separated and you know she was just kind of in the
31:49
funk, and like, you know, we've all been there, man,
31:52
We've all had those breakups that just kind of like have us down for a
31:55
little bit. And you know, I was just trying to explain. So
31:57
I'm like, Yo, this ain't probably ain't gonna be your last time feeling
32:00
like this, you know what I'm saying, Like, Yeah, I highly
32:05
doubt the next person you meet will be the one. They might be,
32:07
but I can't give you one hundred percent guarantee that's going to be the situation.
32:10
But at the end of the day, what's done is done, and
32:15
your life is going to go on tomorrow with or without that person. So
32:19
what are you going to do today to continue your life without that person?
32:22
And you know, she was kind of like she kept going back to you
32:27
know, but I mean this person was, you know, the only person
32:30
I could do talk to And I don't know if I'm gonna talk to now,
32:32
but I'm like talking to yourself, you know what I'm saying, Like
32:36
get to know you, like if you weren't. It goes back to the
32:39
Leicester's the comfortable song that he wrote, you know, or he put together
32:43
like you know, he said he based it off of the sick of being
32:45
lonely every night, you know what I'm saying, Like that song, it's
32:49
like, bro, like just because you were reliant on that person, because
32:52
they were a part of your life, doesn't mean that if y'all separate,
32:57
what are you going to do now? What were you doing before? You
33:00
know? And it's like she kept trying to fall into that feel bad for
33:07
me or feel sorry for me, and I'm like, I'm not about to
33:10
entertain that, because at the end of the day, did you call me
33:15
to vent or did you call me for a solution? And if I'm giving
33:17
you the solution, you know what I'm saying, go do something that you
33:21
love to do. Go go find, you know, rEFInd whatever passions that
33:24
you used to be into when you had the time by yourself. Go figure
33:28
out why you need to be around somebody and not you can't be alone.
33:32
Tap into that, you know what I'm saying. If I'm giving you these
33:36
solutions and you don't want to feed into them, you want to keep falling
33:38
back into the moping part and to feel bad for me part. I have
33:43
nothing to tell you because you're not trying to grow from the situation and you're
33:45
trying to soak into situation and that I can't I can't entertain that. And
33:51
then like the craziest part of that whole thing is why do you have other
33:54
friends besides me and Joe? Yeah? Real quick though, why are you
34:00
doing other people? Dog? But listen real quick, because it's perfect.
34:04
When you just said, going back to my Facebook memories, I said your
34:08
fiance, me and Joe, Oh my god, yo, what were you
34:15
saying? Joe? Something about what memory? What my Facebook memories? Other
34:20
people? Dog like that, you're splitting time. Dog. Let's to be
34:28
tight, yo, let's he didn't have it. Yo. Robin's gonna hear
34:31
this and be like I knew it, I know it. Oh shit,
34:40
my bad, Joe. Nah, what would I say? I don't remember.
34:45
I'm not gonna lie some about memories. Oh the Facebook memory? I
34:51
said. Sometimes with some real shit and we're close. Are right there?
34:53
I said? I said this shit like in twenty fourteen, Dog, I
34:57
said advice. It's something then you asked for already know the answer to it,
35:02
and you don't want to believe it exactly. I just want to close
35:07
it. That right there, I said that ship, I said that ship
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star STARp Butter, do not do not, do not. Terning