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175. Adrian Williams, Peloton Instructor · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: If I can give you one thing that you can
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  Speaker 1: take with you and carry with you for the rest
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  Speaker 1: of your life, I've become your trainer for life. So
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  Speaker 1: if there's one value that you walk away with from me,
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  Speaker 1: for me, I've done my job and that's the most
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  Speaker 1: important thing.
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  Speaker 2: Season seven of Hurdle, Wow, Finally and Bodi.
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  Speaker 3: Here you are listening to.
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  Speaker 2: Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where I connect with everyone
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  Speaker 2: from your favorite athletes to top experts and industry CEOs
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  Speaker 2: about their highest highs, toughest moments, and everything in between.
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  Speaker 2: We all go through hurdles in life, and my goal
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  Speaker 2: through these discussions is to empower you to better navigate
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  Speaker 2: yours and move with intention so that you can stride
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  Speaker 2: towards your own big potential and of course have some
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  Speaker 2: fun along the way. I cannot believe that we are
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  Speaker 2: here in season seven of the show.
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  Speaker 3: If you are a new hurdler.
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  Speaker 2: And that's the nickname that I've given my listeners, I
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  Speaker 2: am so, so so happy to have you here. This
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  Speaker 2: show has been a labor of love for me since
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  Speaker 2: it began at the very beginning of twenty eighteen, and
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  Speaker 2: I am here to continue on this journey in me
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  Speaker 2: to bring you.
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  Speaker 3: Some really solid content now.
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  Speaker 2: As I said in the intro, you can continue to
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  Speaker 2: expect some really awesome stuff from me, chatting with experts
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  Speaker 2: about all aspects of health, whether that's mental, physical, feminine, gut, financial,
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  Speaker 2: you get the pictured. I also think now is a
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  Speaker 2: really great time for me to reiterate my credentials to you,
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  Speaker 2: so you know where I'm coming from. I am an
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  Speaker 2: ACE certified trainer, a UEESCA certified run coach. I also
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  Speaker 2: have a Level one Precision Nutrition certification. I was the
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  Speaker 2: fitness editor at Self magazine before going out on my
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  Speaker 2: own as a freelancer and launching this show, and I
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  Speaker 2: currently still write for a number of titles arranging from
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  Speaker 2: GQ to Runners World. I am also an avid runner.
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  Speaker 2: I'm training now for Marathon's number ten and eleven and
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  Speaker 2: fun fact, I was not always this way. So if
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  Speaker 2: you want to hear more about my backstory how I
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  Speaker 2: got active, how I made some major changes in my life,
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  Speaker 2: click on over to episode one of the show.
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  Speaker 3: I will link it in the show notes. But enough
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  Speaker 3: about me.
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  Speaker 2: You are here because well, hopefully because you love hurdle,
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  Speaker 2: but also because Adrian Williams is here to kick off
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  Speaker 2: a new season with me. Adrian is a Peloton instructor
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  Speaker 2: beloved by many. I cannot even begin to tell you
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  Speaker 2: about the dozens of dms I got when I shared
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  Speaker 2: that he was going to be on the show. Today
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  Speaker 2: we find out all about his backstory. Born and raised
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  Speaker 2: in the Bronx, Adrian tells me about the two distinct
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  Speaker 2: Hurdle moments that shaped him into the man he is today.
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  Speaker 2: We wrap a ton about the importance of family and
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  Speaker 2: movement and therapy, all of which are critical tools in
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  Speaker 2: his toolbox so that he can regularly show up for
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  Speaker 2: Peloton's community of millions of members. Of course, no better
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  Speaker 2: way to celebrate a new season than with a giveaway
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  Speaker 2: or a series of good boys. Actually, I am offering
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  Speaker 2: up some really awesome things from some of Hurdle's sponsors,
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  Speaker 2: from a tracksmith a gift card, to an inside Tracker test, gooder, sunglasses,
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  Speaker 2: and so much more.
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  Speaker 3: There are two ways to inter for your chance to win.
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  Speaker 3: The first way.
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  Speaker 2: Is over on Instagram. Head on over to the Hurdle
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  Speaker 2: Instagram page. That's over at Hurdle Podcasts On Sunday night,
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  Speaker 2: September twelfth. If you are listening to this in real time.
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  Speaker 2: I will have shared a post on Sunday evening that
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  Speaker 3: Need to re share in your stories.
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  Speaker 2: With your answer, you will understand when you head on
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  Speaker 2: over to the post why this is all relevant. In
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  Speaker 2: that post there will also be all of the details
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  Speaker 2: of who else you need to be following.
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  Speaker 2: I will be revealing the winners of these giveaways in
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  Speaker 2: the weekly Hurdle newsletter this Friday morning, meaning that the
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  Speaker 2: I'm also excited today to announce two more big things. Firstly,
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  Speaker 2: Note this is not two way communication. This is just
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  Speaker 2: seven three five three seven Again text welcome to the
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  Speaker 2: number seven three two Hurdler. I'm so excited to be
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  Speaker 2: on SMS with you. And lastly, I feel like this
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  Speaker 2: as of today, the Hurdle membership is open.
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  Speaker 3: Your question, naturally.
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  Speaker 2: What's included to the membership, Emily Well, I am so
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  Speaker 2: glad that you asked. We are going to be working
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  Speaker 3: A lot of stuff here.
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  Speaker 2: For more details on the membership, click on over to
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  Speaker 2: the show notes or head on over to Hurdle dot
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  Speaker 2: us slash membership to sign up. If you have any
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  Speaker 2: specific questions, you can always feel free to shoot us
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  Speaker 2: an email over at Hello at curdle dot us and
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  Speaker 2: on the members page there is also a frequently asked
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  Speaker 2: questions section that can definitely help you out. I am
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  Speaker 2: so amped for the membership. It has been something that
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  Speaker 2: has been in the works.
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  Speaker 3: For some time, and I'm not one to.
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  Speaker 2: Give spoiler alerts, but the first live conversation in October
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  Speaker 2: for members only will be with Adrian.
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  Speaker 3: That's right.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna be having an intimate discussion on October's theme,
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  Speaker 2: which is community. We're going to talk about how it's
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  Speaker 2: impacted us, what community has looked like within our lives
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  Speaker 2: as we've come of age, and also of course open
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  Speaker 3: Who big Exale I.
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  Speaker 2: Told you big premiere, lots of stuff, giveaways, texting, the membership, Adrian,
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  Speaker 2: what else do you need? Thank you so much for
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  Speaker 2: giving me your ear for joining in. I am just
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  Speaker 2: elited to move into this next chapter of the show. Now,
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  Speaker 2: admittedly I do have a few more tricks up my sleeve,
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  Speaker 2: but you're gonna have to stay tuned for those you
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  Speaker 2: know how we do with that.
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  Speaker 3: Let's get to Hurtling today.
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  Speaker 2: I am sitting down with Adrian Williams. He is a
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  Speaker 2: Peloton instructor. Adrian, I'm going to spoil this for you. You
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  Speaker 2: are the first guest for season seven of Hurdles.
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  Speaker 3: So welcome to the fam.
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  Speaker 4: Go so excited. Thank you for having me.
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  Speaker 2: For sure, thank you, thank you so much for sitting
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  Speaker 2: down with me. So you know what I want to
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  Speaker 2: start this off with. I want to start this off with.
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  Speaker 2: In your Instagram bio, you have the phrase negativity makes
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  Speaker 2: me nauseous, which is I feel that I'm with it.
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  Speaker 2: But how does someone who feels as though like negativity
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  Speaker 2: is kind of like waving in and out of their
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  Speaker 2: life they want to grab a hold of that. What
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  Speaker 2: do you say to someone who's trying to deal with that,
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  Speaker 2: who's trying to embrace a more positive way.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think for anyone who's trying to so when
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  Speaker 1: I say negativity makes me nauseous, like particularly speaking to
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  Speaker 1: our industry, I think in our industry, a lot of
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  Speaker 1: times there's you meet people who are in an amazing shape,
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  Speaker 1: and you meet people who are amazing things, and there's
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  Speaker 1: this interaction, and the first thing people always point out
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  Speaker 1: to you is something negative that they've noticed instead of
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  Speaker 1: something positive.
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  Speaker 4: When I say negativity makes me nauseous, is.
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  Speaker 1: It's your approach to things, right, So if you approach
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  Speaker 1: someone and we're having an interaction, I would rather point
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  Speaker 1: out something positive first about you or something that you did,
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  Speaker 1: versus speaking about something negative. I don't like to bring
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  Speaker 1: that energy into my space. I like it to stay away.
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  Speaker 1: I take on I'm an impath. I take on people's
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  Speaker 1: energy a lot of times, so I keep it out now.
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  Speaker 1: I used to just invite it all in. But for
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  Speaker 1: someone who's trying to bring positivity into their space, I
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  Speaker 1: think it starts first thing in the morning, right, mindfulmentation
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  Speaker 1: or positive words of affirmation. Start with something positive in
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  Speaker 1: your day. And I know we wake up in especially
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  Speaker 1: in New York, and there's this chaos always, right, and
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  Speaker 1: so the first thing you think is, oh, I got
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  Speaker 1: to go to work, So you already start off with
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  Speaker 1: something negative. I think trying to change that narrative in
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  Speaker 1: creating something positive for yourself and that it looks different
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  Speaker 1: for everyone. So like, not everyone has time for meditation,
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  Speaker 1: even though I think everyone does have five to ten minutes.
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  Speaker 1: But you can definitely start off by brushing your teeth
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  Speaker 1: and saying positive things to yourself in the morning and
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  Speaker 1: let that's a tone for your death for sure.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that something that's important in this saying
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  Speaker 2: positive things to yourself is you don't need to overextend it, right,
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  Speaker 2: So you don't need to say to yourself like I
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  Speaker 2: am the best, best, best thing to ever happen to
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  Speaker 2: this planet, like cool. If you truly believe.
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  Speaker 3: That, then that's one thing.
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  Speaker 2: But you can literally say something like I've got this
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  Speaker 2: start there, right, And.
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  Speaker 1: I say this all the time while I'm at the
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  Speaker 1: end of my classes because I think it's important and
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  Speaker 1: it's super simple. You're kind of you're powerful, you're strong,
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  Speaker 1: and you can go with those three things throughout the day, right, Kindness,
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  Speaker 1: feeling empowered, and feeling like you have the strength to endure.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's so important to think about these things,
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  Speaker 1: especially as a reminder throughout your day, because you're going
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  Speaker 1: to be challenged with things that are probably try to
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  Speaker 1: come into your space and affect you in some sort
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  Speaker 1: of weird way, and you just want to remember these,
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  Speaker 1: like these things that keep you grounded or rooted, which
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  Speaker 1: is why I always say this at the end of
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  Speaker 1: very class. So people take that with them and they're like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm kind, I'm powerfuloge.
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  Speaker 4: I am sure.
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  Speaker 1: Kindness first always, But I think these three, these three
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  Speaker 1: things are very very important.
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  Speaker 3: For sure.
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  Speaker 2: For sure kindness. You and I share that in our
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  Speaker 2: personal ethos. You mentioned that living in New York, I
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  Speaker 2: know that you're not all that far away from me
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  Speaker 2: in this Brooklyn borough over here. What I want to
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  Speaker 2: bring us back to is that you have been in
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  Speaker 2: New York for quite some time now, So talk to
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  Speaker 2: me about your upbringing in New York and what that
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  Speaker 2: was like for you.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I've lived in New York for a whole thirty
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  Speaker 1: seven years. Yes, there's white in my view, so please
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  Speaker 1: respect it. I'm an old man now.
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  Speaker 4: So I grew up in New York.
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  Speaker 1: I grew up in the ros one train all the
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  Speaker 1: way uptown and as a New Yorker. And let me
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  Speaker 1: remind people of this, because everyone thinks New York is
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  Speaker 1: a rough and tough and mean and aggressive.
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  Speaker 4: New Yorkers are the nicest people.
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  Speaker 1: It's the people that usually move here and think they
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  Speaker 1: have to be rough in New York. Who kind of
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  Speaker 1: take on this attitude and this lifestyle. But so I
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  Speaker 1: grew up in the Bronx, and we grew up going
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  Speaker 1: to the South as kids because my grandma's family is
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  Speaker 1: from North Carolina, Atlanta. We've got family in Ohio, but
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  Speaker 1: we grew up going down south. So there was this
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  Speaker 1: like southern influence in terms of like charm and respect
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  Speaker 1: that we all grew up with. And so when we
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  Speaker 1: came back to New York, even the hustle and bustle here,
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  Speaker 1: we were always polite. We were always definitely respectful. We
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  Speaker 1: grew up in a very gentle family. So I'm super
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  Speaker 1: calm in terms of my approach and my day to
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  Speaker 1: day and like I don't overthink things usually. My mom
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  Speaker 1: was very much person who is the sweetest human to everyone.
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  Speaker 1: So I took on that attribute, and so of my
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  Speaker 1: sister and my brother's even nicer than I am, I
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  Speaker 1: would say, but I took on that attribute in terms
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  Speaker 1: of like personality. And then my dad, who's my stepdad,
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  Speaker 1: God rest his soul. He was like the Italian who
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  Speaker 1: is just like in your face, I'm going to tell
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  Speaker 1: you what it is, and I'm going to be honest
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  Speaker 1: and I'm going to poke you. So that side of
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  Speaker 1: me is there too. You just don't see that side
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  Speaker 1: unless I need to use it in some way, shape
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  Speaker 1: or form. But New York has New York has been
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  Speaker 1: the best place growing up. I just think in terms
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  Speaker 1: of meeting all kinds of humans, I've had the opportunity
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  Speaker 1: to be in like a melting pot of people and
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  Speaker 1: culture in music, in influence and pop culture.
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  Speaker 4: So there's we've had.
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  Speaker 1: I kind of had everything here, and I had it
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  Speaker 1: at an early stage, right, So in New York, you
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  Speaker 1: experienced things here when you're fifteen, sixteen, seventeen. By the
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  Speaker 1: time you get to your you know, mid to late twenties,
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  Speaker 1: you're tired of the things that everyone comes here to do.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's made me in terms of like loving
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  Speaker 1: and accepting and just curious about things that are outside
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  Speaker 1: of me or outside of my culture, outside of my
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  Speaker 1: safe space. It's made me this person who seeks to
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  Speaker 1: understand versus question. I've always been a person who wants
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  Speaker 1: to meet people and learn about humans, just because I'm
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  Speaker 1: so curious when it comes to something I don't understand,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't change it. There was a point in my
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  Speaker 1: life where I wanted to leave New York and I'm
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  Speaker 1: glad that didn't happen.
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  Speaker 4: And it was right before Peloton. I was gonna.
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  Speaker 1: I was thinking about moving to the West Coast, changing
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  Speaker 1: industries and like going into production and starting from scratch,
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  Speaker 1: and then Peloton. All of a sudden, it was like, knock,
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  Speaker 1: not sir, we want you to come do some stuff here.
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  Speaker 1: And then so I stayed, and I'm happy I stayed.
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  Speaker 2: You are getting ahead of us here. We have to
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  Speaker 2: slowly ease into the Peloton chapter. So you mentioned your
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  Speaker 2: late father or your late stepfather. Is this the stepfather
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  Speaker 2: who had cancer.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so he passed away from cancer ten years ago now,
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  Speaker 1: but he battled it for quite a bit.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to me about what it was like when you
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  Speaker 2: and your family first found out about this diagnosis.
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  Speaker 4: So he was a smoker in the army.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure he told me he saw terrible things when
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  Speaker 1: he was a stationed But the smoker. In terms of eating,
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  Speaker 1: he ate well because my mom was an amazing cook.
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  Speaker 1: But he smoked his whole life from sixteen to the time,
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  Speaker 1: like until he passed away. Literally, because when he found
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  Speaker 1: out it was terminal, he was just like what, why stop?
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  Speaker 4: Now and I totally understand that.
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  Speaker 1: Sentiment, but he when we found out, we were kind
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  Speaker 1: of I think, when you know someone smokes, it's not
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  Speaker 1: a surprise. That's always your biggest fear. So when our
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  Speaker 1: family found out, I think the way we are, me
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  Speaker 1: and my brother were the most understanding that this was
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  Speaker 1: going to happen. I think my sister and my mother
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  Speaker 1: we're the most devastated. My sister was like his you know,
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  Speaker 1: his precious, like sacred little girl. They had an amazing relationship,
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  Speaker 1: and so do me and my brother, but we're very
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  Speaker 1: much human too. When they hear something in terms of
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  Speaker 1: like bad news, we want to be there for everyone else.
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  Speaker 1: So we knew that we couldn't, not that we couldn't
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  Speaker 1: show emotion, but that we were going to need to
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  Speaker 1: be there for my mom, my sister. At the time,
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  Speaker 1: I remember my brother had just a project. I think
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  Speaker 1: he worked for Viacom at the time, and he was
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  Speaker 1: going to shoot a kid who was on his fourth
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  Speaker 1: tour in Afghanistan, and it was like, this is towards
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  Speaker 1: the end of him getting cancer. And I remember my
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  Speaker 1: brother being, you know, scared to go away, and he
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  Speaker 1: was like, I don't I don't think it's a good
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  Speaker 1: time to leave. And I was like, no, don't worry
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  Speaker 1: about it, because I was my dad had a nurse,
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  Speaker 1: that cat that would come. But I basically took care
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  Speaker 1: of him during and stayed with him, you know, changed
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  Speaker 1: his bandages on his legs, make him food, that kind
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  Speaker 1: of thing. I remember my brother going away and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, listen, if anything changes really aggressively, I'll make
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  Speaker 1: sure to tell you so you can get back. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: we'd know that it would take. When you're in bagdad,
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  Speaker 1: it takes two well at the time, it took two
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  Speaker 1: weeks to get out. So in the two weeks when
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  Speaker 1: my dad like got really sick and then had to
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  Speaker 1: go to hospice, we told my brother and he actually
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  Speaker 1: couldn't make it back for the funeral, and he, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: he kicked himself for so long because you you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's this moment where you want to be there for
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  Speaker 1: your family physically and you just he just couldn't. He
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  Speaker 1: didn't have the opportunity. So I think for such a
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: long time, my brother he felt a lot of guilt
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: for not being able to be there with us when
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: this was happening. It didn't hit me until like hit
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: me hard until a few months after. And that's because
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: I was very much internalizing my feelings so I could
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: be there for I'm on my sister. And then you
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: come to this realization this person's life is not here
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: and their energy is with you, because I very much
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: believe in energy. His life wasn't there with me. And
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: then I just had a moment where I broke down,
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: and then I went through this whole spiral in my
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: brain of like what am I doing?
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: What's like, what do I want in my life?
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Nothing's really promised, and if I'm going to be here,
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I want to do something have impact, make people feel good.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: And so it's just like, there are two big events
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: in my life that got the wheel starning and changed.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: That was the first, probably the first one.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: I can totally relate to this story on a family level.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: I know my mother's brother he passed away from cancer
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: as well, but he was also living on the West
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: Coast at the time and she wasn't able to get
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: there during his last moments, and I know how tough
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: that was on her, and we've talked about it since.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: So I can only imagine for you being in this
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: position trying to be there for your family, be there
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: for your brother, seeing how difficult this was on him.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: It couldn't have been easy.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: And then to deal with that going forward, as you
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: mentioned at the top of this episode, of being an
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: EmPATH and finally having this moment where you ask yourself,
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: what is it that I need?
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: That that question.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: Bears so much more weight almost when that's not a
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: question you ask yourself often.
• 19:27
  Speaker 4: I'm a person and that this has changed.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: So I've changed a lot, and this is through self
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: care and good therapy. But I think I was always
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: a person who never put myself first. Everyone else's needs
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: came before me, and that was whether I was in
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: a relationship, friendships, family, clients. Everyone came before me. I
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: wanted to make everyone else feel good. And it's not
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: necessarily a bad thing. It's a bad thing when you
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: become second and you're in this passenger seat. I said,
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: anyone who really loves me, friend someone on in a
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: relationship with I have to tell them my knees also.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: And if that doesn't align with them, we can talk
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: about why it doesn't. But anyone who really loves you
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: and wants wants you to take care of yourself, whether
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: that's I need to go run outside for an hour,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: or I need to go work out, or I need
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: to go take my camera and go shooting, or I
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: just need to go walk outside.
• 20:22
  Speaker 4: Right in terms of self care, I need to read
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: a book.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: Whatever it is, someone cares about you will understand that
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: and they will want you to do that for yourself
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: because they know that's filling your cup. And so that's
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: what really really changed. I started saying, Okay, I don't
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: want to go to this party just to it doesn't
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: work for me because tomorrow I have to teach and
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: wake up at four thirty in the morning. I can't
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: go to this thing. Is your friend going to be disappointed? No,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: because they know there's something important for you that you
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: have to do. So that's really when that narrative started
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: to change for me, or become stronger. It's become the
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: strongest it ever has right now. But it was such
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: a healthy change.
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm totally someone that can relate to this, and
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: I feel like that change for me happened in two phases.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: The first phase was getting to a point where I
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: felt more comfortable articulating those needs and I learned after
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: I got to that place that I then had to
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: make sure that I was dealing with the right people
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: who respected me. Saying that respected that it was an
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: effort for me to tell them what it was that
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: I needed. And then in turn, as you were just
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: kind of talking about, didn't judge it or make me
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: feel some kind of way or tried to get me
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: to flex the boundary that I was working so hard
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: to establish, because those are the people that I didn't
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: need in my life, right, the people that were trying
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: to take advantage of the fact, like, Hey, my name's Emily,
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: I'm an EmPATH, I'm a giver.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: I have trouble keeping these boundaries.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: At times, I'm going to vocalize to you what I
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: need and I need you to work with me on
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: making me keep that thing instead of flexing on it.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Which is the healthiest thing we can all do for ourselves.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: As an impact, you feel bad, which is crazy for
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: doing something for yourself, but I'm sure it changed the
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: way you lived your life from then on when you
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: created these boundaries and when you could say to someone, hey,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: like no, and this needs.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: To be okay.
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: Definitely.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: So you mentioned that the loss of your stepfather was
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: one of two difficult events that happened for you in
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: your life that really changed and helped mold you into
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: the person that you are today.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: Talk to me about what happened in event number two.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: So event two was my grandmother, who I talk about
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: all the time, whether it's just in life, or in
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: class or just in general.
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: She's basically the person who took care of us life.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: Why, my mom and my aunt were back in school,
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: So my brother my aunt son are four years older,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: so they came first, and then there's me, my younger sister,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: and then my cousin Chris, and my cousin Jamie's little sister.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: So she was basically the facilitator or the basit. So
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: anything you're talking about in terms of life, values, rules, discipline,
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: it was Nana, right, and so there's a way that
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: we all think that comes from her. And so who
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: I am she's of course, my parents have shaped me
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: and been the real root of who I am as
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: a person.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: But she was she was like our heart. She was
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: the person who held the family together.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: She was a person who made sure all the cousins
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: were getting together, that we went to family reunions, that
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: we understood how to treat one another, that we understood
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: how to treat strangers or people that weren't like us.
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: So and it's funny because she struggled with that with
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: my you know, my stepdad, because he was white and
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: at the time of him my mom getting together, she
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: was totally against it. She actually didn't talk to my
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: mom for a year. And I remember this because I
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: was so young, and I remember there being like sort
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: of like a fight about it, and we didn't see
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: her for like a year, and then all of a
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: sudden that changed, but and she changed, but it was
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: it was It was so great, I or such a
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: good learning lesson to watch my grandma, who is this
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: older woman for them from the South, with her own traumas, right,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: because that's the only reason you don't want two people
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: who are different to be together, because you've experienced trauma
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: as a younger person or in your life that says
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: they're not supposed to be.
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: But it was beautiful to.
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: Watch her fall in love with him right and change
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: her own narrative, because I think there's always this.
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: People always say, oh.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: I'm too old to change, that's bullshit, and so like
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: that was such a huge learning lesson for me.
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: But she was to rewind back to my dad's death.
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: She did.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: She couldn't stand my dad, and then she was she
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: was the last person who saw him alive. So when
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: we left hospice, I remember she had gone back and
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: she had called us to say, like, Bobby is passing.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: And that was like such a moment because you think
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: about the person not welcoming someone into their life and
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, this is the last person
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: they see with love, right, And so I remember, life
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: is crazy as a trainer, right fast forward. And I
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: worked a lot, you know, four point thirty was my
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: first client, and most of the time I would get
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: home at eight o'clock at night, and that was a
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: chunk of my day. So it was training clients. I
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: would teach classes, I would go to meetings, I would
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: have clients, and then I'd go home and that was
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: my day. And that was probably six days a week.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: So I didn't see my family a lot. When it
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: came to like Sunday dinners and like them doing stuff
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: and it's not that far, right, the bronx is not
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: that far. But I was always so exhausted that I
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: would always just call and say, you know, talk to
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: her and say none, you know, I'm not coming up.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: I'm really really tired, and I'd get ready for the week.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: So one day they were over, well, they were going
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: over to my grandma's house for Sunday dinner. And you know,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: my sister was there, my niece was there, my mom
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: was there. I think one of my cousins were there.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: And she called and she was like, Marissa, you calling
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: Maurice's my middle name. By the way, if I'm ever
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: in trouble, you can call me that. So I was like, Nana,
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm too tired.
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: I can't come.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: And she said to me, and she was like, Maurice,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: you know you can't. Your family's not always going to
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: be here. You have to you have to set yourself
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: up so that you have time for friends and family.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: And so that night they left, everyone went home, and
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: then my sister tried to get in contact with my grandmother.
• 26:30
  Speaker 4: The next day. She couldn't.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: She thought that was strange, so she went to my
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: grandma's apartment and she found her there unconscious and she
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: was still alive, but she had aneurism. So they obviously
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: called nine one one. The ambulance came to get her
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: brought to the hospital. My whole family is there. We
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: didn't know what to do, and so they tried to
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: see if there was brain activity. There was no brain activity.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: My grandma's not the kind of person who would want
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: to live life as a vegetable. So my mom my
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: aunt decision obviously to take our life support. And you know,
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: you go through this like this moment of like how why,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: why is this happening? How is this happening?
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Like? And then you just backtrack and you all.
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: All I could think about was every time I said
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: no to to not being there, to not coming to dinner,
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: to just to not being present, and that's all I
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: focused on. And I was just there and I couldn't
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: hear anybody, and I was just like in the hospital.
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: And so they were like, listen, we're gonna take off
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: life support and she's gonna slowly pass away. So I said,
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: I said to my mom. I was like, hey, Mom,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: can I can I just go lay on man's chest?
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: And she was like are you sure about that?
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: And I was like yeah, yeah, Like I need to.
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: Just be there in her final moments and show me
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: and my sister we went into the room and then
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: we just laid there on her chest and you listened
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: to someone's heartbeat and you listen to fade away. And
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: it was the most difficult thing that I ever had
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: to do, because I was counting down every heartbeat to
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: understand that, like, she won't be here soon.
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: And so finally I did not hear her heartbeat and
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: I could. I told my sister, she's not life, and
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: my sister obviously broke down. We broke down, and that
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: that was the moment when I was like nothing, I'm
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: nothing I'm doing is right. I'm not doing anything. I'm
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: not doing anything I'm supposed to do.
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm being a bad brother or that son, that grandson,
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: that cousin and that friend. And I wasn't doing anything
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: in terms of.
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: Who I was in life. And I was like what
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: it was? Literally, I said, what the fuck is going on? Right?
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: And I can I can always hear my grandma, I
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: can always feel my grandma, And that stuck with me. Maurice,
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: your family is not going to be around for all ways.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: You have to make time. And I did not have
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: a life where I could make time. So I said
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: to myself, my life has to change immediately. And that's
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: when my brain was like, what do I want to do?
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: How do I get there? And like, what's the immediate
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: response that I need to take to get.
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: What I want out of this life?
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Because I was thirty twenty eighteen, so I was thirty
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: four at the time, and I was on that cusp
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: of I'm not don't get me wrong, I'm so healthy
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: and in terms of age, well into my sixties seventies,
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I'll probably to have physically look like this, not going
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: to joke.
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: That's like a genetic thing for my grandfather, like my grandparents' side.
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: It's great.
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I'm going to hold on to it. But I was
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: like to myself, where do I go? I want to
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: make people feel good? And what capacity should I be
• 29:55
  Speaker 1: doing my job? Or I think I need to explore
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: what this actually means. And that's why I wanted to
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: get out of the industry, because I didn't think that
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: I was actually helping people. I thought that I was
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: actually hurting people, right, creating this dysmorphia for everyone, because
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: everything's about how you physically look versus how you mentally feel,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: and so alignment. Right, things happened for a reason, and Peloton.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: I went into test a tread from one of my
• 30:24
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• 30:27
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• 30:31
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• 30:34
  Speaker 1: her while I'm running in the showroom. She asked the
• 30:36
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  Speaker 2: Wow, I mean, what what an unbelievable story, And thank
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  Speaker 2: time you were already training clients. So how had you
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  Speaker 2: originally gotten into this line of work And at the
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  Speaker 2: time did you think that it was possible to stay
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  Speaker 2: in this line of work and find your purpose and
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  Speaker 2: seek out working with clients on that more emotional level
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  Speaker 2: as well, or did you think like, oh, I'm out
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  Speaker 2: of here.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: Well, so, I mean, my good friend is the person
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: who actually introduced me to boutique Fitness. I had been
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: training clients one on one at a time, but I
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: went to a class and I was like, this is
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: my speed right, Like this is great, the energy with
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: these people is amazing. This is something I want to explore.
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: So I did, and I was hired and I started
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: working at Tonyols at the time and I was still
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: training clients and that you can't you can't recreate that
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: kind of energy in terms of like teamwork and camaraderie
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: and helping people, you know, preshpatch their plateaus. There's there's
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: nothing like it that That is the by far my
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: favorite thing about connecting right what I what I do
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: now is just on a global level, right, and it's
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: I think it's more intimate because people aren't actually in
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: the room, so you have to your message has to
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: be so clear. What you're trying to give in terms
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: of your energy needs to be so clear. So when
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: I made this shift, it almost made me not question,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: but rethink what am I? What do I want people
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: to feel like? What do I want you to walk
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: away with when you leave an aging class?
• 36:24
  Speaker 4: What does that actual message look like? And that drove
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: the narrative forward.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: Right at the end of the day, I just want
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: people to smile, have a good time, and feel like
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: they're empowered.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: It's super interesting this idea of how can you convey
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: a message without both having someone in the room and
• 36:47
  Speaker 2: be like saying a certain thing like how have you
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: learned through peloton to get to this place where you're
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: able to help people in that kind of a way.
• 36:58
  Speaker 4: It starts with good leadership. We have. We have amazing
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: leadership of Peloton.
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: I feel, especially where I'm in life now, it's because
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: I come from line of strong women.
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: It's nice to have such strong women.
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: As as leaders in this company. Obviously, it starts with
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: Robin Right who during this whole training process was not
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: only so supportive, she wanted me to push outside of
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: my comfort zone because my comfort zone was not in
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: front of the camp. The comfort zone for me was
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: behind the camera. And she every time we sat down
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: we go through this onboarding process, and she'd watch classes
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: and give me feedback. It was like a small piece
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: of growth, a small piece of growth. And then all
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: of a sudden, I was like, huh, you watch you
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: watch Peloton, and any class that you've seen were taken.
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: There's always a beginning of middle and an end.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: Right, and listen to everyone's story, everyone's individual story, everyone's
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: unique story. You understand that there is a space for
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: you to be an individual and no, you don't have
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: to be anyone else. And I thought the actual opposite
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: when I was there. I was like, Okay, I'm going
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: to have to fit into a mold. Absolutely not. We
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: want you to be exactly who you are, Adrian, and
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: we're just trying to make you get to the most
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: authentic feel like you can be your most authentic self
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: in front of everyone. And I was like, Wow, it's
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: rare that you're in a workspace where it's like, no,
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: we need you to be exactly who you are because
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: we can see it. We want our members to see
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: it because they'll fall in love with you. So it
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: was again leadership top down. I had Robin there, I
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: had Beck Kennedy there, who was also Andy Spear Dennis.
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: They were like people. Anytime I was in the studio,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: there would always be a piece because there was this
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: internal conflict of oh, I'm not I'm not kidable, I'm
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: not good enough. And it was always like listen, once
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: you once you get to it on the platform, and
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: once you have your first class, you'll understand what you
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: need to do and what you need to get. And
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: everyone was right as soon as I had that first class,
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: and the response from people who were in Ohio, California, Nevada,
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: like Florida, like all these people who are connected through
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: this one lens and understanding how you made them feel
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: in a moment or something that you said that you
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: may have deemed insignificant, and they took that as a piece,
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: and they took it as something that they could walk
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: away with and feel better about themselves, or that got
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: them through something. Then you understand the intimate connection that
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: you're making with people.
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: I want to go back briefly before we get more
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: into the Peloton chapter and revisit the time period after
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: your grandmother passed away, because this is certainly that so
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: many people listening to this show can really sympathize with,
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: just going through such a what feels like soul crushing moment,
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: figuring out how to move on, how to pick yourself
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: up off the ground. Aside from movement, which I know
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: is a obviously super integral part to your routine, what
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: were those weeks and months after this hurdle moment like
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: for you?
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: How did you find the strength to move forward?
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: So they were tough for me, because again, I was
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: still at that point in my life where everyone else
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: mattered more than I did.
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: So I.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: Kept it in right and I didn't I didn't let
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: it out. I didn't let the you know, the client
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: see it. Where I was teaching.
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: I didn't. I didn't really go through it with my family.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: I was I was angry after for a while, and
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: I was angry that I felt like I had to
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: keep it in and that that was a choice I
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: made me.
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: I didn't have to. I just felt that I needed to.
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: So it was for for probably two months in my brain.
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: I was just upset, right, And then that's tough because
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: you have to go to a workspace and be completely different.
• 41:13
  Speaker 4: So you go to your workspace, you turn on smile, Hi,
• 41:17
  Speaker 4: how's everyone? And it is the duality of that is
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: chaos because you don't feel that way, but you have to,
• 41:24
  Speaker 4: and you know, in front of your clients or the members.
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: So I finally said to myself, Okay, no, I need
• 41:35
  Speaker 4: to be real with people, like when they asked me
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: how I'm doing, I'm just gonna tell them I'm not
• 41:39
  Speaker 4: doing well and there's nothing wrong with that. And I
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: didn't want people to feel like they had to reach
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: out all the time or that I needed taken care of.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: I just didn't feel good. That's there's there's no rhyme
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: or reason. And so I said, wow, how do I
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: go about feeling good? And I said, is this industry.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: Part of what makes me don't like, not feel good?
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: Am I actually making people feel better about themselves? Are
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: people you know here with me in this space and
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: feeling like when they leave they are better? And I
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: questioned that, and so that's why I wanted to get
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: out of the fitness space because I and it still
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: is this. It's a cycle of what you see isn't
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: always what you get. In terms of social media, people preach,
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: but that's not really they're there to be worshiped. I
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: don't want to be worshiped. I wanted people to worship
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: themselves and I fall in love with themselves again. So
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: I said, maybe I should change industries because obviously my
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: in terms of what I like to do outside of fitness,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: it's anything photography related and I'm had such a My
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: brother works in production. So I was like to myself, Okay,
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: I said, I can start there, and I'll just start
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: from the beginning, like some people go from being chefs.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: They're all lives and then all of a suddenly my
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: friend was like I remember he was thirty five, He's like,
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: I want to be a doctor, and it changed roles.
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: So I was like, okay, it's possible. Maybe that's what
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna do.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Well, you mentioned you almost moved to La to do this,
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: So what happened on the journey?
• 43:16
  Speaker 4: Then? When I was getting ready to say, like, okay,
• 43:22
  Speaker 4: I'm calling it quits.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: I'm going to move across to the west coast, Peloton happened,
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: which to me was like got it.
• 43:30
  Speaker 4: My grandma being like here you can.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: I need you to start this new path for yourself,
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: Like this is your path I need you to go.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: And I read somewhere on the internet that Peloton actually
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: came knocking twice, So it wasn't the first time but
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: the second time.
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: So do you mind like giving us some information totally?
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: So the first time they came knocking, I was, you know,
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: at the time, working for a startup. So for me,
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: I was very committed to seeing this startup become you know,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: what it was, what it should be in terms of
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: growth and expansion and being in different cities. And so
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: when they came knock and the first time, I was like,
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm in this committed relationship. I can't it's now,
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: It's not the time. And you think about stuff like
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: that and you're like, I should have taken it then,
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: but in reality it's everything happens when it's supposed to.
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: But yeah, I said no the first time.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: So is the second time when Rebecca saw you on
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: the tread or give me like some timeline here.
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: So the second time, that's probably a year later, is
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: when I was in that showroom on Christopher Street and
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: Rebecca saw me on the tread. She didn't know it
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: was me, though, I don't think she saw my face.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: She just saw me from.
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: Behind, because well from behind it was like, let's hire
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: this guy?
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: Oh man?
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: I I yeah, Hey. To each their own, I would
• 45:08
  Speaker 2: be remiss if I didn't say that. In my d MS,
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: people are like, I uh, I had put on too
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: into my stories. Earlier, I was like, I'm going to
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: be sitting down with Adrian, like what questions do we
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: have for Adrian? And you know, there's a flurry of
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: different thoughts and feelings and whatnot. And I keep in
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: mind I have like a predominantly female following who all
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: think you are like exteemingly attractive and a wonderful human
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: with a great personality. Many of them are also like
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: how do apps like this exist? And how do I
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: get glutes like this? And I'm like, let's just like
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: give it up to genetics for just like a second,
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: as well as as I'm privy to know an excellent diet.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I eat, I eat well. And that's
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: that was established at such a young age because my
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: mom we didn't we didn't grow up with red meat
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: in the house really stake till I was much much,
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: but it was there was mostly it was mostly fish chicken.
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: You had to eat south before you had your dinner.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: Sometimes there was no meat involved at all during dinner.
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: We didn't have soda in the house. We rarely had juice.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: Fruit Snacks were like if you got them, you hid them.
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: You took five and you hid them in like a
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: space because it was like snacks.
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: So that was such a young age.
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: So by the time I was out and about with myself,
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: it was something I already knew. So it was a
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: part of my life. So when I cook for myself,
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: it's it's still in that same line. I still am
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: like greens always. I always have to have salad, And
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: not that people are gonna hear salad and they're gonna
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: be like, oh, he eats is salad? No, I just
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: like to eat green and green is obviously good for
• 46:43
  Speaker 1: you and your health. And don't I drink water pretty
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: much unless I'm drinking like tequila or beer and be juice.
• 46:51
  Speaker 1: I love that this is the wave. I mostly drink water.
• 46:55
  Speaker 3: So it's the three, the three basic food groups. Tequiloer
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: use water.
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: How backwards is it? How backwards is it? It's like,
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: are you drinking to quilla in the morning?
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Agor bee juice is probably the first one, and then
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: maybe a little to kill and beer.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: We Adrian, but you didn't mention your blue bottle coffee obsession.
• 47:13
  Speaker 4: I mean it's always with me.
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: Holds it up front and center and you have.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: To shake it before you drink it. I'm telling you
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: it'll change your life. If you like ice coffee, get
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: the shake her out. Get some ice or some coffee
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: in there, a little oat milk, shake that sucker up.
• 47:35
  Speaker 4: It's frothy. Ugh, really just changes your morning.
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: Chef's kiss, chef's kiss. Okay, wait, I'm going to get
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: us a little back on track now. So so, but
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: so you start teaching on the Peloton platform. I believe
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: you're announced in early twenty twenty. What was the experience
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: like for you from when you went through all those reviews,
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: so when you started training that, obviously COVID begins. All
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: of this is happening in the same kind of time period,
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: So talk me through a little bit in that.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, that's the most interesting part of this process, right,
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: coming on during.
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: COVID.
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: So I was supposed to be I launched in May
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: of twenty twenty. But I was supposed to be launched
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: when COVID hit. So COVID hits and I'm like, oh, no,
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: what's going to happen. So we don't know what's going
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: to happen. Everyone thinks it's oh, this will be two
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: weeks and I was like, no, this is going to
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: be bad. So COVID happens. Obviously things shutdown, so we say, okay,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: in April, maybe this is going to happen. Studio shuts down,
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: and so we get to May and there's there's a
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: lot happening.
• 48:52
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: Black Lives Matter is like, I feel like at the
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: peak of what's happening in terms of what the world
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: is seeing and everyone having eyes on you know, something
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: that's existed and been going on for such a long time.
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: But we were all in this pause state. So we
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: all could we only could focus on this one thing.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: So I remember thinking to myself like, they're like, okay,
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: we're going to launch you in May, and I thought
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: to myself, I'm like, I really and this is how
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: I think I'm not important right now, Like is it
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: important for me to be launched or is it important
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: for people to focus on, you know, what's happening at hand,
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: because I'd rather be someone who helps people learn versus
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: bring the attention to me and say like it's this
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: is all about me.
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: And Robin put it so lovely.
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: She said, you can be an outlet for people, think
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: about yourself in that in that sense, and because people
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: are going through such a difficult time, you can be
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: a source of joy of happiness for them. And she's like,
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: I want you to focus on that, and I was like,
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: that's exactly what i want to do. This is exactly
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: what I've been trying to do the whole time. I
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: was like perfect when I was launched, and I was
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: launched with Chelsea Jackson, who's also amazing. The bullseye on
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: us was so intense because you had never been in
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: a place where you could have that much attention on
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: you at all, times.
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: So we we.
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: Had a unique launch because there was you want to
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: talk about an outpour of love that we received. It
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: was I couldn't believe what was happening. I couldn't believe
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: the messages that I was getting. I couldn't believe the growth,
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: right you talk about I mean social media. I had
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: twenty five thousand people follow me in less than forty
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: eight hours, you know, twenty five thousand new eyes on
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: you as a person, right, And so there was this
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: I felt this responsibility immediately and understanding of who won
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: that there's a lot of people watching, and two what
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: are they walking away with.
• 51:01
  Speaker 4: In terms of like character or just our relationship, Like
• 51:10
  Speaker 4: what is our relationship and what is that going to be?
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: Like?
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: Uh So I was like, oh, Adrian, this is this
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: is what you're supposed to be doing. And it's crazy
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: because if we're backtracking. Someone one of my friend's mentors said,
• 51:25
  Speaker 1: and I'll again never forget this.
• 51:27
  Speaker 4: This was a month before I actually auditioned. He said,
• 51:29
  Speaker 4: if you don't stop.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: Wearing the cloak or the cape over yourself, if you
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: continue to wear that and you don't take that skin
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: off to show.
• 51:39
  Speaker 4: The world who you really are, you'll never realize your
• 51:41
  Speaker 4: full potential.
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: He's like, you're supposed to help help people on a
• 51:44
  Speaker 1: global scale, not in the capacity that you're doing right now.
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: And I was like, oh.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: Really, And I thought he was, you know, like this
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: guy doesn't know what he's talking about. And then fast
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: forward a month later, I'm audi a peloton and now
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: I work for the school platform.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: It's crazy to me because you mentioned so many times
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: in our conversation thus far being an EmPATH, then you
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: just highlighted twenty five thousand new followers in forty hours.
• 52:13
  Speaker 3: I have to ask a twofold question.
• 52:15
  Speaker 2: One, how have you learned to navigate the fact that
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: it is physically, mentally, emotionally impossible to legitimately show up
• 52:25
  Speaker 2: for hundreds of thousands of people at once? And two
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: if you wouldn't mind sharing, when in your journey did
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: you actually start to seek out therapy for yourself, because
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: I would imagine that was super super critical in helping
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: you figure out the right way to carry on and
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: show up for these people.
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: Right, So I think I'll start with therapy and then
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: how that translates. So, you know, after my Grandma, I
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: think that was it was a huge moment of I
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: need a structured, safe space to talk about like how
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: I'm actually feeling because I don't get to and I
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: haven't gotten to. I felt like I had done it
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: in years, right, like let's say it was a decade.
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: I feel like that I wasn't talking about my feelings.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: I needed to get a lot of stuff out. And
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: I think by purging and getting all of these feelings out,
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: I could be the most authentic version of myself, the
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: most true version of myself. So I started with therapy,
• 53:23
  Speaker 1: and I think once I was back to feeling like
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  Speaker 1: Adrian because I always say this, I'm a super emotional
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  Speaker 1: person and you might not always get that in the
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: beginning because I'm structured. So if there's a problem, I
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: want to solve it. How do we, like, what's going on?
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: How do we get through this? And like what's the answer?
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: That's always how I am. But I take on people's
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: feelings also at the same time, So I think when
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: I was in therapy, I was like one of the
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: best processes like about therapy was being one being questioned
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  Speaker 1: about decisions that I've made right, because there was never
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: really feedback and there's never anyone being like oh I'm
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: going to shove now. I have friends in my life
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: who are like, yeah, Agrian, that's a stupid decision, or
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: you shouldn't have done that, or like why did you
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: do that? And in therapy, that's that's that's literally the relationship.
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: You have someone who's there to you know, not only
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: help you over the hurdles, but help you process these
• 54:23
  Speaker 1: these feelings and emotions that you're feeling. So once I
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: could process my own feelings and emotions, I knew when
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: I showed up for people there were there were.
• 54:31
  Speaker 4: There's always for me.
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: I have rules when I when I show up in class,
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: and my rules are that you feel one really supported
• 54:41
  Speaker 1: while you're there challenged, and I provide some sort of
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: mental clarity, uh, just because I think a lot of
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: times when we work out, we're we're purging in terms
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: of physical in the physical sense, and I want people
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: to walk away feeling just a little bit more clear,
• 55:00
  Speaker 1: whether that's in your own strength, whether that's in you
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: know what you need to do for the rest of
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: your day, for your children or work. I want you
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: to walk away and have some sort of answer for
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: yourself or feel some sort of empowerment.
• 55:12
  Speaker 4: Right for the rest of your day.
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: I knew if I made sure people felt those things
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: in class, that I was giving exactly what I wanted
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: in terms of how people are supposed to feel, but
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: also helping people walk away feeling better about themselves. And
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: that's been if you've heard anything in this conversation, that's
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: been the point, right, like trying to really just make
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: people walk away feeling better about themselves. Mine or major,
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be major. But if you, for me,
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: if you smiled, if you felt a sense of joy,
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: that's also you're walking away feeling better about life in yourself.
• 55:47
  Speaker 1: So having that structure or rules, like for myself in class,
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: it's easy for me to teach because that drives my energy.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: That drives me teaching, That drives what I say a
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: lot of times and sometimes things come out right, like
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: I've cried in class quite a few times actually, And
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: you don't know that this is going to happen. It
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: just when you're working out, you know this, you become emotional.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: And sometimes I was help people in my classes. You
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: need to cry, just cry, like let it, you need
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: to let it out. But I think working out is therapeutic.
• 56:20
  Speaker 1: It's some of the best therapy I've ever and you
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: know it's more than anyone because you do it all.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: But it's some of the best therapy that you can
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: use for yourself and that you can get for sure.
• 56:34
  Speaker 3: For sure, I can totally totally relate to it.
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I do it all, but at
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: least sometimes, just like you, I try to in some ways.
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: So I mean, now we're a year and a half
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: into your journey at Peloton. If you had to articulate
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: maybe one of the biggest lessons you've learned during this time,
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: what would you say?
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: It would be?
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: The biggest learning lesson is a time right? Is what
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: am I doing with my time? And how am I
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: using it wisely? And I think because a Peloton, the
• 57:08
  Speaker 1: instructors wear so many hats, right, whether were TJS programmers, therapists, instructors, peers,
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: we have to wear so many hats. So what I
• 57:23
  Speaker 1: do with my time is really important now, and how
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: I spend my time is even more so important now.
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: I think time management is the biggest is the biggest
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: thing I learned and I didn't have it before, and
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: I know how to. I always focused on like I
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: have to do X Y, z for work, which is
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: now very much a part of my life, but it's
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: like where do I fit my family and friends in
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: there consistently?
• 57:46
  Speaker 4: So my time management, I think is the most important thing.
• 57:49
  Speaker 4: The second is it's how do I describe it.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: It's like being in a going from that unhealthy relationship
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: to a healthy relationship. My partner now cares about me,
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: and it's concerned for my physical health and my mental health.
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: So I think that's also a big learning lesson, right Like,
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: you want to be in or work in a space
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: where there's a symbiotic relationship of care, and I couldn't
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: be more cared for in the space. So it's just
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: good to be somewhere where you're loved and appreciated.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: Right now, if someone was to go to your social
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: media feeds, they would see someone with increasingly increasingly increasingly
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: every day, thousands of new followers, one hundred and fifty
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: thousand people looking at this great, huge, smiling.
• 58:39
  Speaker 3: Guy that loves to help other people.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: When you look in the mirror, what is it that
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: you see looking back at you.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: I see a better version of what my grandma was
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: trying to help me understand in terms of who I
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: was as a person.
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: I see someone who's.
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: In a short time, and I would say, in the
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: past two and a half years, become the best version
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: of himself, just because there's no apology for who I
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: am as a human and I know I'm a good person,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: and I know I'd like to give to the world.
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: So I see someone who's not only wanting to love
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: everyone who's in my space, but wanting to bring people
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: who don't feel that way into my space so they do.
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: I see someone who just wants to help, you know,
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: and be a part of someone's positive journey. And I
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: think when I teach now, I've always said, like, if
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: I can give you one thing that you can take
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: with you and carry with you for the rest of
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: your life, I've become your trainer for life. So if
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: there's one value that you walk away with from me,
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: for me, I've done my job.
• 59:55
  Speaker 4: And that's the most important thing.
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: A few times in this conversation you have recalled like
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: little tidbits piece of advice that other individuals have given you.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: You just articulated how great it is if someone could
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: walk away with one piece from you. And I think
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 2: that that is such an awesome opportunity and such a
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: beautiful takeaway from your journey is knowing that at any
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: given moment, we as individuals have the opportunity to help someone,
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: and anything that we say at any moment could inspire
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 2: another human. And it doesn't matter if you have hundreds
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: of thousands of followers or five followers, or if it's
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: the Whole Foods grocery clerk, or if it's your local barista, Like,
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: any human interaction is an opportunity to positively influence another person.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 3: And how beautiful is that opportunity?
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 4: And I think as humans we take advantage of that.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 1: It's so easy to get caught up in you think
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: we're thinking things are insignificant. Right, Saying good it's so simple,
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: And it's like the things you were taught as a child.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 1: Saying good morning to someone, asking someone if they need help,
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 1: holding the door for someone, smiling at someone. It's so simple.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: How like the smallest things can change someone's someone's day, right.
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 4: I'll never forget one of my coworkers. I was teaching
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 4: on the Sunday and she was having like a typical day.
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: So I went and got.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: Her macha and she started crying, and I was like,
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: are you like Katie, are you okay? And she's like yeah,
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: She's just like, no one ever does things for me.
• 1:01:29
  Speaker 1: And I was like the simplicity of buying someone macha,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: and that being something that means so much to them
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: is small. So just think about that on a large scale,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: what you could.
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 4: Do for someone.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 3: It's so special. Okay.
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: The final question, my friend, right now, you have an
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: opportunity to offer that Adrian in the days and weeks
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: after losing his grandmother during that Hurtle moment, one piece
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: of advice looking back on it, now, what do you
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 2: tell him to.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: Make sure you do what's what's really important to you,
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: and if that means having to make adjustments in your
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 1: work life so that you can, for me, spend the
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 1: spend time with people that you love and care about,
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: or you know, nurture the relationships that are important for you.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: I think it's important. I think it would have been
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: important to know that, like, maybe I didn't have to
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 1: always be working so much, Maybe I didn't have to
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: say yes to everything. Maybe it was okay to say
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 1: no to certain things and not do not do everything
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: just to do everything. I think I always felt bad
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: saying saying no to you know, extra work because I
• 1:02:48
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, they'll think I'm not a hard worker,
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: or like maybe i won't get an opportunity because I'm
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: saying no for something else. What's really important, right, Like,
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: I work hard. That's that's that's always been me. That's
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: always who I am as a person. But I think
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 1: saying no, like Adrian, it's okay to say no to
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: thinks that's probably the biggest piece of advice. You don't
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: have to say yes to everything. And if you miss
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: out in an opportunity just because I'm so hard working,
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: eventually it will come. And I think being at Pelton
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: has really made me understand that. I was like, Okay,
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: I've worked this hard and gotten to this place because
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: I do think I'm a valuable member in terms of
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: having a person who's your coworker or as a friend
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: or as a son. I'm I think I add value
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: to the workspace. So just say no, Adrian, just say
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: no sometimes, just say no.
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  Speaker 4: Do you.
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 2: I'm so grateful for your perspective and thank you again
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: for your vulnerability and for opening up about your family story.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 3: Again.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: I know there are so many people listening to this
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: who have been through similar hurdle moments, and it's a
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: really special chance that we have to communicate about them
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: and share our experiences about them so that we can
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 2: feel less alone in our journeys wherever they may take us. Adrian,
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: how do the hurdlers follow along with you? How do
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: they keep up with you? Give me all of the details.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: You could find me on Instagram by Adrian Williams and YC.
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: You can also follow me on the Peloton app. Download it.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: You don't need any sort of hardware if you do amazing,
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: but come take any of my shrank classes. We can
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: run outdoors, we can run on the tread and do
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: boot camps. There's a ton of ways you can spend
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: time with me and let's just connect.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 4: That's what we're here to do.
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 3: Let's just connect.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: If someone is brand new to you and you have
• 1:04:49
  Speaker 2: the opportunity to tell them one class to run to
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: a SAP, do you have like one or two faves
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: to call out one hundred percent.
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 1: We have a program that we did for runners who
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: are just starting on their journey, so it like brings
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: you from the person who's never run in their life
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: into getting you to run for thirty minutes. We also
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: have in terms of strength. We have strength for runners,
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 1: we have beginners classes. In terms of strength, there are
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: so many ways to.
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 4: Train with me.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: Don't think because you haven't ever run or picked up
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: away before or done a push up, that we can't
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 1: train together the journeys. Once you start the journey, it's
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: something that you sign on as a lifestyle, right, so
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: it'll continue and it'll evolve and it'll change.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 4: All you have to do is start.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of forgiveness and not being able
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: to do everything, but trying, I think is the most
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: important thing.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 3: Love that takeaway.
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body and at Hurdle Podcast
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 2: Another Hurdle Conquered.
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 4: I love it a