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WHAT ARE YOU GONNA' DO ABOUT IT? · The Karen Kenney Show

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Karen Kenney: Hey you guys. Welcome to the Karen Kenney
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show. I'm really happy to be here with you today, and I think
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all I'm going to say to start this sucker is, buckle up for
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safety. It's so appropriate, you know, I'm looking at, if you're
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not watching this, if you're listening, I'm wearing my one of
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my Batsy head Betsy heads, one of my favorite artists, and I'm
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wearing one of my Betsy head sweatshirts, and this is my one
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that says I will cause problems. That's just a warning for this
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episode. I will cause problems. Here's the thing I've been
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thinking about so much. I mean, how can you not How can you be
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alive right now on the planet, and not be thinking each day
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beyond our own very small, limited experience, right? So I
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spend a lot of time thinking about what's going on in the
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world, what's happening, obviously in my own life, but
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and then you think your friends and your family and your friends
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of friends, and just all the suffering, all the incredible
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things, all the horrible things, the grief, the drama, the
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deaths, the beauty, the births, right? There's like so much
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happening. And then you think about like your neighbors, and
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you think about like your community, your town, your city,
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and then it just goes out, out, out, out, out. You know, you're
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thinking about people on the other side of the planet that
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you've never met and probably never will meet. But still, I'm
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conscious, constantly and consciously thinking about
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beyond my own little sphere of influence. But today's episode
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is also going to be very much about our own sphere of
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influence, and we're going to get to that. So let me stop by
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this, saying this, I know just by the kind of work that I do in
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the world, and the way that I work together with other humans,
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and across the different things I do, whether it's as a yoga
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teacher, doing Thai Yoga, massage, Thai Yoga, body work,
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having a podcast, coaching people, mentoring people,
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working one to one, having a group like the nest, I talk to a
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lot of people, right? That's like part of my gig. I have
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exposure to a lot of different people, and the one of the
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themes that I know that is going on for so many people right now
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is we just feel like the world's on fire. It's a shit show, and
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people feel completely overwhelmed, people feel
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exhausted, people feel helpless. A lot of people feel hopeless. A
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lot of people are like, I don't know what to do. And I wanted to
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just say this, you feeling hopeless, helpless in despair,
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overwhelmed is part of the fucking plan, right? And I am
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not. Let me say two things. Number one, I'm not a conspiracy
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theorist ever. I'm also not the wonderful Heather Cox Richardson
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who is a historian and a professor and is a super duper
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smarty pants about politics and history and like putting it all
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together in a digestible way. I'm just me. I'm just a kid from
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Lawrence mass, doing her best, doing her best, right to doing
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her best to like, help help herself, help other people, help
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animals, right to love people like that's the gig. I'm doing
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my best, but I'm going to be very direct and very honest in
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this episode, the fucking plan, right? The plan of the people in
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charge right now, the plan of the current administration, from
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Trump all the way to Stephen Miller, all the way to whatever,
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all those powers that be. The plan right now is they want you
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to be overwhelmed. They want you to be distracted. They want you
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to feel in despair. They want you to feel weak and helpless
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and all that stuff. Because as long as everybody's too tired
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and busy pointing at everybody else they get to do, they get to
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run the racket that they are running. Okay, another thing I'm
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going to say, and honestly, I'm aware, you know, I think
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sometimes my sweetie worries about me and the things that I
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say online and on my show. But look, there are just times like,
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hello, my sweatshirt, I will cause problems. Here's the
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thing, we have a convicted sexual predator as our
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president. And as long as you have a sexual predator in charge
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of anything, when you think now, hello, you're talking to a kid
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who has been inappropriately touched. You are talking to a
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woman who has had to put up with levels of sexual harassment that
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would boggle your fucking mind. Ask this happens also to boys
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and to men? I'm not saying it doesn't, but I'm just saying,
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Ask any woman in your life, it is so rare. It is so rare. I
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think I have maybe one friend off the top of my head I can
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think of that hasn't been inappropriately touched,
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sexually assaulted, raped or molested. Okay, but let me tell
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you this the kind of mind, the kind of thinking, the kind of
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behaviors that run rampant through a sexual predator.
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Here's the thing, here's the things that they try to do. And
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if you've never been inappropriately touched or in
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these situations, I'm truly, genuinely happy for you. But
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here are some of the things that we you might have experienced if
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you have them. They try to scare you, right? They try to threaten
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you. They try to threaten the people that you love and they
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want you to comply. And if they try to use their size, their
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power, their physical strength, over you, right? They tend to
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try to pick on people that are smaller than them, weaker than
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them, that don't have good community support or family
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support, right? They try to get a hold of the smaller, quote or
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weaker, like whatever ones. And then they when, when they think
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you might say something about it, you might push back, right?
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They threaten you. They say, Don't tell anybody. Or if you
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do, tell somebody, I'm going to do something to your mother,
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your father, your sister, your parent, your dog, like whatever.
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So we have all these tactics. They try to scare you, they try
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to threaten you, they try to threaten harm against those you
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love, and they want you to comply. Now, when we're children
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and when we're victimized, right, we don't have much say.
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We have no power. We are at the mercy of those people who are
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bigger than us. But now, as grown adults, and yes, of
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course, obviously, I want everybody to put on their
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critical thinking and their nuance caps, right? Not
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everything I say is going to first of all, a lot of you won't
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agree with me. That's okay, but I also can't apply every single
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experience right to what I'm saying today. Just just trust
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that I'm doing my best to make a point knowing that other people
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have different experiences. Okay, so my whole point is this,
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as adults, we have a lot more say and control about right who
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and how we are going to be. We're going to get into this in
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a little bit. We didn't always get to control what happened. We
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do get control now as adults, because when you're children,
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you truly are victims, right? You have no power, no say, no
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voice, no, no. You don't have your own money. You don't get to
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choose where you're going to live. You are at the mercy of
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the world as adults. Now we get we have some choices to make. We
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get to have our own agency, autonomy, authorship, and, you
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know, ability to to decide, right, like, who and how we're
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going to be and what we're going to do about things. But my whole
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point coming back to this whole sexual predator, and the vibe,
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right, the vibe that this administration is kind of like,
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like the ICE agents, like, we could just go on and on and on,
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all the abuses of power, all the lying, all the bullshit, all
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that stuff. Okay? And here's the thing, my attitude about all
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that, on some deep level, is, fuck that. Like, fuck that,
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right? Like, you want me to be scared. You want me not to speak
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up. You want me to forget about the Epstein files. You want me
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to, like, comply. You want me to comply with this insanity where,
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like, where you're murdering people in the streets, like, no
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fuck that. And I also want to say I do understand that it does
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feel completely overwhelming. It does feel like too big, and I'm
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just one person, and what can I do? And all of that. I know it's
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scary, but this episode is all about what we actually can do,
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not what we can't do. All the ways they try to get you to
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think about what you can't do, they just want you to comply.
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They just want you to lay there and take it. They just want you
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to shut up. Right? Zip it. Shut up. Go back in the kitchen. You
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know what I'm saying? No, fuck that. We will cause problems.
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Okay, so I'm gonna start. I'm gonna kind of bounce all over
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the place if I've already lost you. Hey, have a great, fabulous
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rest of your day. If you're still with me, listen on. Okay,
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so Mr. Rogers, he's famous for having this saying, and I even
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did a whole, I think I did a whole episode about this, where
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he talks about looking for the help is. And I'm going to read
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you the whole quote that he says. He was being interviewed
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one time on TV, and he said, you know, my mother used to say,
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this is his direct quote. You know, my mother used to say, a
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long time ago, whenever there was any catastrophe that was in
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the movies or on the air, she would say, always look for the
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helpers. There will always be helpers, you know, even just on
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the sidelines. And that's why I think that if news programs
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could make a conscious effort of showing rescue teams, of showing
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the medical people, anybody really, who is coming into a
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place where there's a tragedy to be sure that they include that,
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because if you look for the helpers, you'll know that
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there's hope, right?
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So I've done podcast episodes about becoming the help and
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looking for the help. Help is, and why helpers matter, and it's
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okay to ask for help, right? Like, I talk about this a lot,
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and people know that I'm a huge fan of Mr. Rogers. I have like,
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all his all these books, and people always send me memes and
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quotes and things about Mr. Rogers, because they know he's,
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like, on my spiritual team. He's one of my obviously, he's a
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mentor, but not a real life mentor, right? He's just been a
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mentor over the years, growing up and learning from him and
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being inspired by him, and hoping to have the kind of, you
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know, presence and composure and, you know, the ability to
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help. So he inspires me. Okay? So we know all about Mr. Rogers,
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but right now, there's another thing that's going on, okay, in
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all of this chaos and all of this insanity. And so there's
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these memes that have been going around. And the memes, you know,
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will start with showing like, Mr. Rogers saying, like, look
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for the help is and then underneath it, it will say
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something or somewhere. On it, it will say, but now they're
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killing the help is okay. And even that, right? Oh, now
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they're killing the helpers. And then people want to throw up
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their hands and say, oh my god, now they're killing the helpers.
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What are we going to do? Right? And I'm not being callous about
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this. I told you at the beginning of this, I'm going to
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be very direct. The reality is, is that they've been killing the
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helpers for hundreds of years. The people that spoke out
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against inequality, the people that spoke out about hatred, the
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people that spoke out against violence, the ones who challenge
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the existed the existing power structures, the ones who
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challenge the unfair systems that have been designed to keep
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people poor, to keep people disadvantaged to be keep people
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held down, to keep people from having agency and autonomy and
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authority and all of that stuff. Right? The leaders who have
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spoken out and advocated we I'll list a couple of them for you,
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right, who have advocated for civil rights, the people who
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boycotted and rode the busses, the ones who have matched for
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peace, right, the ones who showed up on Kent State, right,
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all of that when you think about President Lincoln, Mahatma,
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Gandhi, Medgar, Evers, Martin, Luther King, Jr, JFK, heavy
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milk, Malcolm X, Bobby Kenney, right, they Have always
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murdered, assassinated, executed. The help is the powers
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that be do not like it when people start to go against the
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grain, when people start to stand up, when people don't just
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let them scare you and threaten you and threaten those you love,
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and scare your neighbors and deport your neighbors and grab
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your neighbors and grab little five year old boys off the
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street right when they want you, like, when you think about what
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the ICE agents are saying right now, it points right back to my
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whole point of sexual predators, right, having power is that,
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what do they say? If you just comply, then nobody will get
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hurt if you just do what? This thing, this unlawful, this
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behavior that we want you to do, which is just sit down, shut the
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fuck up, and take it right, zip it. If you just lie down and
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take it, then there won't be any problems, and we won't hurt you,
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and we won't hurt the people around you and the people you
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care about. And again, like no, so now they're executing people
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in the streets. And we see everybody is like, it's
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horrible, and it's horrifying when you see what happened to
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Renee, good, when you see what happened to Alex Pretti, right?
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Helpers. Alex Pretti was an ICU. He was a nurse. He helped
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veterans, right? It's like, oh my God, they are literally
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right, like, killing the helpers. I'm like, they've been
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killing people, right? As I just said, they've been killing the
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helpers for a wicked long time. Oh yeah, keiki, but now they're
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killing them in the streets. Well, they've been killing
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people in the streets, in black neighborhoods, way longer than
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white people would want to admit. All of this has it's like
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it's just coming back up again. Because what, whatever is going
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on. And we can talk about the collective consciousness, we can
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talk about like the power structures that be but here's
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the thing, right? This kind of bullshit has been going on for a
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really long time now. It's just really getting to a point where
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people who have been like, a lot of wicked positions, the white
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people, have been very comfortable for a long time, and
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now getting to see what it's like when it feels like it's
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starting to like, slip away, right? This, this idea of
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safety. Okay, so I'm telling you all this because a friend just
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wrote to me, and I'm gonna get you, like, again, stay with me.
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It might sound like I'm being really negative right now, but
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I'm building up to the pot about, like, what are you going
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to do about it, right? This is, this is where we're going. What
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are we going to do about it? Okay. So a friend wrote to me
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about the again, I told you, people know that I love Mr.
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Rogers, and a friend wrote to me, and he mentioned, he said,
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you know, he was talking about the Mr. Rogers memes where
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they're saying, well, now they're killing the helpers. And
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he said that it tears at his heart, because I'm seeing these
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memes, and it's just tears at my heart. And. I wrote back this. I
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said, as long as there are those of us who are willing to not
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look away, those of us who will speak up, who will protect our
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neighbors, who are willing to stand our ground, then there
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will always be helpers, and we outnumber those motherfuckers.
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And that is the truth. And I shared in my newsletter, and I
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have shared this quote so many times. There's a reason why I
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share it so many times. First and foremost, it's for my own
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ears to remember. Okay, it's also because maybe you haven't
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heard this before. I don't assume that everybody reads
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everything I send or listens to everything that I write. It's a
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quote from Mahatma Gandhi, right one, one of the non violent
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leaders that they assassinated and murdered. And he said this.
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He said, When I despair, I remember that all through
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history, the way of truth and love has always won. There have
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been tyrants and murderers, and for a time they seem invincible,
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but in the end, they always fall. Think of it always they
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always fall. And for a time they seem invincible. And that's
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where we are right now. We're in that time where it seems
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inevitable and all of this stuff seems like they're invincible,
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all of this hatred and violence and fear, all of this
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separation, right? All of this just feeling like I can't trust
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that's again. This is what and you get. This is what they want.
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So here's the thing, if you're somebody who is feeling
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overwhelmed, if you are feeling helpless, if you are feeling
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hopeless, and you're like, I don't know what I can do. I'm
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just one person. Look, I get it. I know that feeling in your body
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when you're just exhausted and you're like, I can't it just my
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sweetie described it as like, you know, you're already
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exhausted, and you're already carrying a load, right, like, of
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your own life or your own things, and then somebody puts a
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friggin big concrete block on you, and your legs start to
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shake, and then they put another it's like, every day you feel
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like another thing And another thing and another thing, right?
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And if we don't have our minds right, if we don't have our
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heart right, if we don't have support, a Sanctum Sanctorum
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ekna talks about it, this place within us that is like that. It
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is so stable. It is so stable, and it's not hard, right? We
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keep our hats open, but we're there's strength there, and
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there's safety there, and there's this presence of silence
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there, where we've it's an unshakable place that Sanctum
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Sanctorum. And we need that. We need that right now. And so, you
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know, when we're asking ourselves right now, like, what
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can I do? And I kind of broke it down like this, there's a couple
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of things to look at. What's my role? Number one, what's my role
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and what's my capacity? When we're asking the question, What
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am I going to do about it? What are you going to do about it?
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Right, the question we have to ask ourselves is, what is our
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role? What is our capacity? There's a bunch of other things
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we can look at, but I don't want to overwhelm, right? We're
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already feeling overwhelmed. So when I'm overwhelmed, right? The
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things that I do is I look first and foremost, for tools to
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resource myself, things that help me feel more grounded,
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things that help me feel more safe or safe enough, right?
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Things that help me feel more present, things that make me
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feel like I have not gone right the fuck out of my mind, right?
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Because if I'm out of my mind and I am hooked by anger, by
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rage, and I'm not saying those are bad emotions. What I like to
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do is give my anger a job, right? I like to give my anger a
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job, right, but I have certain things that I do to bring myself
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back into my own right mind, to bring myself back into my body,
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right? I'm tapping my chest right now, right? Like to get
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back in here. Sometimes being disassociated is exactly where
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you should be. That's where the safe place could be, right? But
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when I'm trying to be effective in this world, when I'm trying
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to be a helper, when I'm trying to make a difference or do
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something right,
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and I ask myself, well, what are you going to do about it? Here's
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what I know. I can't do shit if I'm completely dysregulated and
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out of my mind and in that total triggered fear space if I am in
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fight and flight, and my sympathetic nervous system is
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just like pumping out right? Like there are times when having
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cortisol and adrenaline and all those things in your bloodstream
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is helpful. All like when the Tigers chasing you or somebody's
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trying to hurt you in a dark alley or whatever, I want that
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surge, but to stay in that place constantly, right? To just have
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all that, all those stress hormones like pumping through
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your body. This is how we get exhausted. This is how we get
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fatigue. This is how we get IBS and headaches and TMJ and immune
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you know, just all of it, right? The immune system, stuff, all
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those things. So it's like, I look for the tools that resource
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me. I've done a bunch of different episodes that talk
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about different tools. I just did one a few weeks ago about
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breathing exercises, because breathing exercises are one of
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the most fast and powerful ways to shift your physical, mental
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and emotional states. So I highly encourage you, it was
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like three episodes ago, I think, to go give that sucker a
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listen, right? Another thing that we can do rest is
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resistance, right? There's that whole book that beautiful. I
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think it's Tricia hair say she wrote, rest is resistance.
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That's a really powerful book for me, reading is resistance as
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well, right? Educating myself, listening to smarty pants like
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Heather Cox Richardson's and others, right? Like reading and
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learning and hearing like, okay, as a country, we've been here
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before. Oh, okay, we've been through something similar, like
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this. This is what happened in the past. You know, Ryan Holiday
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is always talking about, like, if you want to understand what's
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happening right now, read books about our history. Read the
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truth about the things that went down. It puts things in
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perspective. So we don't feel like, oh my god, this is the
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most unprecedented time ever. It's like, no, it's just like
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old shit coming back to revisit. Because a lot of white people
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don't like, right? I'm not, hey, I'm a white person. Sorry to
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pick on us guys, I guess, right, no, because here's the reality,
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when you see the Christian nationalism, when you see all
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the white supremacy, and it's not even white supremacy they
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want. They think they're superior because they're white,
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wake up call. You know what I found so fascinating little
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segue here, you know, in a in over however many years. Let's
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call it. I'll just for safety. I'll say, like, 567, years,
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right? There's been a lot of calling for people on whatever
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land you live on to acknowledge, right? The original people were
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on this land, so you might get on a zoom call, and they would,
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somebody would say, like, I'll just use myself, right? Be like,
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Oh, I'm Karen Kenney. I live in, you know, New Hampshire on
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Abenaki land, right? And you would name the tribe or
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whatever, that would have been, right, been here first. PS, and
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when you think about all of this bullshit, all of this insanity
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about immigration and ice and deporting people and whatever,
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when we are the original immigrants, white people hate to
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break it to you, we're all immigrants. Pull your head out
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of your ass. We came over to this land and took this land
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like we showed up. It was us. We were the original ones. All
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right, and I'm back. Okay. So resting can be really good.
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Breathing exercises can help regulate your nervous system
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right when you're feeling too low. Certain breaths can bring
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you up when you're feeling too high. They can bring you down a
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little bit when you need a little more balance. There's a
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breath for just about everything. Okay? There's also
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emotional freedom. Technique, EFT tapping. EFT tapping, right?
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If you look it up, it can be like a really long version, and
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then there's also a really short version, and I can just teach it
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to you right now, a wicked short one. I learned this from my
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teacher, Melissa tears. It's a little like, it's just a spin
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off of the longer one. And I'm going to keep it so friggin
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simple, if you are not watching this right, if you're just
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listening, you take three fingers. I tend to use my
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pointer finger, my middle finger and my ring finger, and I tap
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right. I have strong hands, and I like to tap firmly. You might
23:53
be a lighter taper, tap it, whatever pressure makes you
23:56
happy. I want you to think of the crown of your head, not your
23:59
forehead, not the back of your head, right in the middle of
24:02
your head, and you just tap on your forehead. I'm going to keep
24:04
this so simple. So whatever it is that you're feeling
24:07
exhausted, overwhelmed, scared, anxious, stressed, whatever it
24:12
is, right? Angry, whatever look sometimes being a little angry
24:15
is good. You can give it a job. But I'm just saying, if there's
24:18
something you're feeling inside, not to gaslight yourself, not to
24:22
bypass it, not to label your emotion is bad, but you're like
24:27
right now, this is not helpful for me. It's making me feel
24:31
crazy and dysregulated, and I need to get back to my center,
24:35
right? I need to come back to a place where I feel aligned and
24:39
regulated and resourced and capable, then this is a way that
24:42
you can love and help yourself. Okay, so those three fingers
24:46
point up, middle finger, ring finger, tapping the crown of
24:48
your head, right? And I like to tap. They'll say, you tap three
24:52
times, five times, seven times. I tap as long as I need to in
24:55
that spot. And if it's feeling good, I just stay there. And I
24:58
just say, I really. Release this and let it go. The thing I'm
25:03
letting go, right? I pause my tapping to talk the thing I'm
25:06
letting go. Like I said, it can be whatever that emotion, that
25:09
feeling, that thought, That thing was that wasn't very
25:11
helpful, that was keeping you stuck in the spiral of
25:15
helplessness and hopelessness and despair, right? And you
25:18
might tap and you say, I release this thought, I release this
25:21
feeling. I release this belief, whatever it is, right and let it
25:25
go. I release this anxiety and let it go. You move from the top
25:28
of your head to right between, like your eyebrows the edges so
25:31
that your two fingers, your middle your pointer finger and
25:34
your ring finger will hit the edges of your inner eyebrows.
25:39
And you just tap right there, and again, you say, I release
25:43
this and let it go. If you're having a hard time, right? Like
25:48
some part of you, you can feel wants to hold on to it, then
25:51
simply say, I'm willing to release this and let it go.
25:55
Okay? Because your subconscious knows when you're full of shit.
25:57
You just say, I'm willing to release this and let it go. And
26:00
then you move out to the outer eye, the bone, the bony part,
26:04
not on the soft part of your temple, on the outer edge of the
26:06
eye, right the edge of your end of your eyebrow. And you tap
26:10
here. You say, I release this and let it go. And you come
26:15
right underneath your eye, and you tap on that bone, right the
26:20
bone, if you feel your cheekbone, the top of your
26:22
cheekbone, and you tap right here, and you might say, I
26:25
release this shit and let it go. This is a super fast this is
26:31
wicked fast E at EFT. So you go from the crown of your head to
26:35
right between the eyebrows, outer eye, to under the eye, and
26:38
then you go right to your chest with the collarbones right into
26:41
the collarbones, and you'll see I have an open palm now, and I'm
26:44
just pounding my chest, right? I'm tapping it with a flat palm.
26:48
Say, I release that and let it go. I release that, whatever it
26:55
was, that feeling, that thought, that belief, and let it go.
27:00
Do that a few rounds, right? You gage where you're at when you
27:03
stop, man, I'm like, at a 10, I am out of my mind, right? And
27:06
you do that a few rounds, and you check back in, and you're
27:08
like, Oh, I'm like, at a six. Oh, now I'm at like, a four. Now
27:12
I'm like, at a two. It's incredibly, incredibly helpful.
27:15
There's other things, like havening techniques, where
27:17
you're like, sweeping down your arms or you're holding your
27:20
face. There's like, so many different techniques you guys
27:23
right, to get yourself regulated, because you can't
27:25
figure out what your role is, right? If you can't first get
27:29
your capacity, you got to know your capacity. And our capacity
27:33
can be a bunch of things our energy level, like, literally,
27:37
what's my capacity today? I have no energy. I have no blah, blah,
27:40
I'm feeling this way, right? Your capacity could be like, how
27:43
much time do I have? Can I volunteer? Right? Like, what's
27:48
my what's my ability? Like, am I working three jobs versus
27:51
somebody who maybe has more free time, right? What's my capacity?
27:54
My resources? You might have more time to give. You might
27:58
have more money to give. You might have more physical
28:02
resources, financial resources, energy resources, right? You got
28:06
to figure out your capacity. What am I able to do? Right?
28:10
What am I going to do about it? Well, that starts with, what am
28:14
I able to do? Okay, so we got to start there, like, what's my
28:17
role? What's my capacity? Because we want to be able to
28:21
make this is what I always say. I do these things because I want
28:25
to be able to make good, smart, creative, helpful and in my
28:29
right mind choices. You know, you ever have somebody who's
28:33
trying to be helpful, but they show up and they're making the
28:35
situation worse because they're so out of their mind, and
28:38
they're not regulated, and they're not thinking clearly,
28:41
and they're not in their bodies, and they're reacting from a
28:45
place of fear instead of being really grounded in responding
28:48
from a place of love and reason, right? You know what I'm saying?
28:52
They're not coming from that Sanctum Sanctorum. They're
28:54
coming from, oh shit, I'm triggered, I'm out of my mind,
28:57
and they fucking lose it. That's not helpful, right? We don't
29:00
want that. So I like to use different resources and tools.
29:05
And like I said, whether it's using somatic tools, whether
29:09
it's using breathing practices, whether it's my spiritual
29:13
practice, for some people, prayer, using a mantra,
29:17
chanting, praying, right, all of these things for some people can
29:21
be incredibly helpful. So I often think about it like the
29:24
four table legs, right? I try to do something physically. It
29:27
might be drinking enough water, staying hydrated, getting some
29:30
rest, moving my body, going for a walk while I repeat the
29:34
mantra, right? So I try to do something for myself.
29:37
Physically, I try to do something for myself. Mentally,
29:40
I try to do something for my emotions. I might add my sweetie
29:42
for a hug. I might Vox my best friend. I might say, hey, I need
29:46
a different perspective on this, right? You send up a flare. And
29:50
of course, in miracles, we kind of talk about like whoever is
29:52
saner at the moment, whoever is sane at the moment, right? Is
29:57
the one. So if I'm not feeling quite. Pain, I call in help, and
30:02
that help might come from, right? God's source, my
30:05
spiritual team, going out in nature, petting my animals,
30:09
holding Toby pajamas, snuggling with bunchy our animals can be
30:13
an incredible co regulation resource as well. Right? For
30:17
some people, it's going to the gym and working out, right? I
30:19
know some people who say the gym keeps their mental health, you
30:23
know, really balanced and strong and helpful. Therapy, whatever
30:27
it is, you guys, this is what I'm saying. There's 1000 ways to
30:30
help ourselves, physically, mentally, emotionally and
30:33
spiritually. We don't want to forget the spiritual one, and
30:36
we're going to come back to that. One of the other things
30:39
that I do when I start to feel a little overwhelmed is I remember
30:42
A Course in Miracles. As funny as this might sound, A Course in
30:46
Miracles has a lot to me. To me, not saying anybody has to agree
30:50
with me, of an underbelly of connection with stoicism. It's
30:53
just like to me, I just see it like there's a lot of
30:55
connections there. So I might turn to spiritual books. I might
31:02
turn to books like Victor Frankel's Man's Search for
31:05
Meaning. I might turn towards the stoic right, the stoics in
31:09
the stoic books. And one of the things that I was thinking about
31:13
the other day is I was like, you know, if I start to feel
31:17
overwhelmed, it's because I've ignored one of the first tenets
31:22
of stoic philosophy, which is understanding what is and isn't
31:27
in my control. This is a big thing, right? So here's the deal
31:33
stoic stoics have taught us, this we can't control what
31:36
happened. And this is the thing right now, part of what feels a
31:40
little overwhelming, is the powers that be keep trying to
31:44
tell us that what happened didn't happen. They try to twist
31:49
it. They try to lie about it. They try to gaslight you into
31:51
thinking you didn't just see with your own eyes that they
31:54
murdered a woman in her car while she was trying to pull
31:56
away, that they just murdered a guy who was using his body in
32:01
the street, he was just filming, and then a woman got pushed
32:04
down, and he put his body between them, you know, the ICE
32:08
agents and the woman that was pushed on the ground, and he had
32:10
a camera, right? And yes, he had a gun, but he was permitted to
32:14
carry that gun unconcealed, and he didn't reach for the gun, he
32:17
didn't take out the gun, et cetera, et cetera. And when you
32:19
look and you break down the videos. This is why the the
32:22
people who are willing to not look away, the people who will
32:27
look at what, look at it and see it and say, no, no, no, no, no,
32:31
you're not going to gaslight me. You're not going to tell me that
32:33
isn't true. I know what I saw with my own eyes, right? So we
32:38
can't control what happened. And it did happen. This is the
32:42
thing. It did happen. Okay? We can't control what happened. We
32:47
can control, though, these things. What we control is our
32:51
energy, our time, our creativity and our resourcefulness, right?
32:55
That's where our energy needs to go, not into, right? Not into
33:01
what we can't do. We don't want to focus on what we can't
33:03
control. We need to focus on right, what we're going to do
33:07
about what happened. That's the thing. It happened. It's in the
33:12
past. Can't stop it from happening. It happened and it
33:15
did happen. The question now, the work now for us is, what are
33:19
we going to do about it. What are we going to do about what
33:22
happened? So here's this principle in stoicism that I
33:26
find helpful. And I know today I'm just, I'm just like, sharing
33:30
some things that might be, might be helpful for you too. Okay, so
33:33
the stoics would say something like this, that peace of mind is
33:36
achieved by learning to focus and act upon what is in our own
33:41
control. What's within our control? This is the thing I ask
33:44
myself, what right now is in my control? There is so much that I
33:48
can't control. I can't control the fact that we just got like,
33:51
18 inches of snow. I can't control the fact that it's eight
33:53
degrees outside. I can't control the fact that, you know, we have
33:56
an insane friggin sexual predator in the White House. I
34:00
can't control like so many things. What can I do? Okay? I
34:03
can control my own beliefs. I can control my own judgments. I
34:07
can control my own thoughts, words and my actions, while I
34:12
can accept and let go of the things that aren't in my
34:15
control, whether or not people like me, other people's
34:18
opinions, other people's actions, I can't control any of
34:21
that other stuff, right? We know so much suffering happens when
34:24
we refuse to accept that what happened happened, right? And
34:29
when we refuse to accept that we cannot control other people's
34:32
thoughts, words and actions. What? What is in my purview,
34:35
what is in my power? I can only control me. So the key to
34:40
happiness and the key to inner peace, partially, right? Is
34:44
pretty simple. No matter what happens in your life, we always
34:49
have to focus on what's within your control. Ryan Holiday has
34:55
this great quote, and he said, If you don't know Ryan Holiday,
34:58
he's an author, he's a speech. Guy. He owns a book shop in
35:01
Texas. He's written a ton of books. You can see back there,
35:04
like I have a bunch of those back there in that little table.
35:06
I'm pointing at her, a bunch of his books. And he said this, we
35:10
don't control when things get hard, but we always control how
35:14
we respond. This is very course in Miracle z2 this is what I'm
35:17
saying, right? Of course, in Miracle says, you know, we can't
35:20
control the world. We can change our thinking. We control how we
35:23
think about the world. I can't change the world, but I can
35:25
change the way I think about the world. What can I control my own
35:29
thinking, my own thoughts, my own words, my own actions. He
35:32
says this, we don't control when things get hard, but we always
35:35
control how we respond. We can show patience, courage,
35:39
humility, resourcefulness, reason, justice and creativity,
35:44
the things that test us make us who we are. And if you want to
35:51
get even more practical about it, you know, because I was
35:53
thinking about this, because it's really easy, right? It's
35:56
really easy to look around and say things like, well, they
35:59
should be doing this. Why aren't they doing that? Why isn't this
36:02
person doing this? Why isn't that person doing that? I'm
36:04
like, Look, I can't control what those people do. I can only
36:07
control what I do. So our next piece is the invitation right to
36:13
get really clear with yourself about what your role is, what
36:17
your capacity is, what you are able to do. And this means we
36:21
have to have some self awareness, we have to have some
36:24
self reflection. We have to get really honest with ourselves
36:28
about some things. Now, if we're to look on a larger scale, if
36:32
we're looking at a more kind of like collective or organized, or
36:38
we look at the systems of like, everything from being an ally to
36:42
being an active activist. You know what I'm saying?
36:47
There's a couple of resources, and I found these because I do,
36:50
I do research, right? It sounds like sometimes that maybe I'm
36:53
just babbling away on here, but I do think deeply about what I'm
36:57
saying, and I do think about like, sharing things that might
37:01
be helpful. So there's this one piece that I loved, and this is
37:06
from a woman named Marilla on a Rio, and she's a Human Resources
37:12
exec, she's a dei agent of change, and she's a social
37:15
responsibility advocate, and she talks about this on a two level,
37:19
a two pronged approach and a two level approach. One is our own
37:22
awareness journey, right, who we are as basically citizens, our
37:27
own awareness as people, and then how our awareness will show
37:32
up in our actions. So I'm just going to take, I'll just hold it
37:35
up real quick. You can see it. It's a it's a little sheet of
37:37
paper, and it goes from left to right, and this is what it says
37:42
First, on our awareness journey, we're unaware, right? We don't
37:45
notice or understand some social changes being demanded by other
37:48
people. We're disengaged from the conversation. We're not
37:51
interested, right? We're just unaware. We're asleep at the
37:53
wheel. I think this has been a lot of people for a really long
37:56
time, and when we're unaware like that, what that makes us is
38:00
a bystander that makes us people who just stand around and we
38:03
don't act because we don't know how to or why. So when we're
38:08
unaware, we end up being a bystander. Okay, we move over.
38:12
We grow a little bit, we get a little more awareness now. Now,
38:15
when we're aware, she says, we realize that there's something
38:19
going on that we've been blind in some ways, and you begin to
38:22
understand other people's perspectives and demands, and
38:25
then you start connecting your story to their story. That's
38:29
where you are on your awareness journey. You're now aware and
38:32
our actions to reflect that could could make you an ally?
38:35
What does an ally Do you assist in support, in an ongoing
38:39
effort, activity or struggle. So now you've moved from unaware
38:43
and a bystander to now being aware and possibly being an
38:46
ally. Well, the next phase of that is that you become active.
38:51
Okay, in your awareness journey, you've moved from just being
38:54
aware of shit to now, maybe I'm gonna do something about it.
38:57
Right? This is when you become active. You're proactively
39:01
working for change, and you're supporting those who need, who
39:05
have needs or are underrepresented or
39:07
marginalized, and you stop pushing outside your own comfort
39:10
zone, and you're about to find your voice as your actions
39:14
become visible and your actions become a priority for you. So
39:17
when you become more active, how it shows up in your actions is
39:21
you could either be an ally or you become an advocate. And as
39:25
an advocate, you aim to influence with formal support,
39:29
so you acknowledge and utilize your privilege to engage in
39:32
controversial situations on behalf of marginalized people
39:36
and groups who can't afford to do so in order to make social
39:39
and political change. So we're moving up the scale, and maybe
39:44
some people stop at being active. They're an ally, they're
39:46
an advocate. And then there are people who go on in their
39:49
awareness journey where they start to advocate, and when you
39:53
advocate, your voice now is capable of transforming society
39:58
and bias systems and other social. Social and political
40:01
issues. Okay? So this is when you basically, it says you take
40:06
calculated, personal or professional risk to shift
40:09
behaviors. This is when you're really going for it, and when
40:12
you're at that level of where you are an advocate, right? Or
40:17
when you advocate, this makes you either an advocate or an
40:20
activist, a true activist, and as an activist, you act on
40:24
behalf of solving social and political issues, and you're at
40:27
the forefront of a movement, and sometimes you're compromising
40:31
your own energy, and I would also say safety, and we've seen
40:36
that again and again again at these protests, where people are
40:39
going out there on behalf of their neighbors, on behalf of
40:41
their community, on behalf of quote, unquote, others, and they
40:45
are putting their own privilege to work, and they are putting
40:47
their own bodies even at harm, right? And that's a big one, and
40:53
then another one, just to show you, since we're talking about
40:56
it, I'm holding up this piece of paper too, and this is from the
41:01
four rules of social activism. And you can find it on Commons,
41:05
library.org, and instead of talking about it like as being a
41:10
bystander, an ally, an ally, an advocate or an activist, right,
41:14
this talks about it by being either a citizen, a reformer, a
41:19
rebel or a change agent, and it talks about being, how we can be
41:23
ineffective and effective in each of these roles. And this
41:26
goes back to what I was saying. What is your role? What are you
41:29
going to do about stuff? And look, most people, if you're
41:33
listening to this show, you have some sort of device that you're
41:35
listening to me on, which means you can google some shit, and
41:38
you can find out about some of these things for yourself. I
41:41
just want to put you in point, you, like, maybe in the right
41:44
direction, and send you some like, resources and stuff like
41:47
that. Excuse me, I have to keep taking drinks of water because
41:51
my throat is dry. Okay? So here's the thing. Now it's time
41:54
to reflect on right? Like, what can I do? And when I think about
41:58
this, I think about a couple of different things, right? So I am
42:03
a person who believes in the power of, you know, spiritual
42:07
practices, obviously, or I wouldn't be a spiritual mentor,
42:10
I wouldn't be a coach, right? I believe in, like, looking
42:14
internally and asking for support from whether you call it
42:20
again, your higher power, your inner teacher, your intuition,
42:25
your gut instinct. Spirit, Holy Spirit, divine intelligence. I
42:29
don't care the voice for God. I never care what we call these
42:32
things, right? But I think of Martin Luther King, Jr, who is
42:35
another one of my mentors, and another one of my, you know,
42:40
main guys on my spiritual team who's inspired me endlessly over
42:44
the years, when I've been afraid, when I've had to speak
42:47
up, when I know I'm about to say something that might make me
42:50
unpopular, whatever, I always dig deep into his energy, and I
42:53
lean on him, and I ask him and all the angels that be to
42:57
support me and guide me. And you hear me say this, and you know,
43:02
in A Course in Miracles prayer, that I say all the time, and if
43:04
you know me, you've probably heard me out of this prayer 1000
43:07
times, which is simply, you know, have me go where you would
43:09
have me go. Have me do what you would have me do. Have me say,
43:13
what you would have me say, and to whom. Please use me. Please
43:17
use me. Please use me.
43:20
And Martin Luther King is, you know, proposed to have said, Use
43:25
me God. Show me how to take who I am, who I want to be, and what
43:31
I can do, and use it for a purpose greater than myself. I'm
43:37
going to repeat that. Use me, God. Again. If you don't like
43:40
the word God, insert your own happy word, universe, higher
43:44
power, highest self, right? Use me. God. Show me how to take who
43:49
I am, who I want to be, and what I can do, and use it for a
43:56
purpose greater than myself. I think of this a lot, and I ask
44:01
myself, what can I actually do? And this is my invitation to you
44:06
to sit down, spend some time with yourself and ask yourself,
44:10
right, what makes me uniquely me? What are the talents, the
44:18
time, the resources, the capability, the creativity, the
44:23
wisdom, the knowledge, the experience, like, what do I have
44:27
that I can do to help? Because again, remember, the plan is to
44:33
keep you feeling helpless and hopeless and overwhelmed and
44:37
without power and in despair. And we don't want that doesn't
44:40
help anybody except the racket that they're running. So if
44:45
we're gonna, quote, unquote, call it fighting back, pushing
44:49
back, resisting, taking a stand, right whatever you know, as
44:54
Swami karpali used to say, don't fight the darkness. Turn on the
44:57
light. So what's your version of turning on? The light, how are
45:01
you going to be a helper? If we're looking for the help is,
45:04
how are you going to be a helper? And this is when we have
45:07
to look at ourselves and say, What do I have? I look at my
45:11
sweetie, right? My sweetie is a musician. He has a lot of
45:14
talent, and he has written songs and albums, right, putting out a
45:18
particular message in certain songs or whatever, but also his
45:22
role is, and it might be just be like, Oh, he plays music. So
45:25
what? No, I can't tell you how many people have come up to my
45:28
sweetie after a gig and said, Man, I was having the worst day,
45:32
and you just turned my whole day around. Oh, my wife and I were
45:36
out. This is our anniversary. You just made our night so
45:38
special, on and on and on and on and on. You know, waiters and
45:43
wait staff bartenders saying, you know, you're the nicest guy
45:45
that plays here. We always love that you're here, my sweetie and
45:49
just his his way, that he is, his energy, his presence, his
45:53
kindness, his compassion, his talent. He makes a difference
45:58
out in the world, right? You might be somebody who has the
46:01
money and the time to donate, right? Maybe you can't show up
46:05
at a protest, right? And again, we have to look at our own
46:08
capacity. Somebody who is able bodied might be having a
46:12
different skill set than somebody who can't go out into
46:15
the world unassisted or whatever, right? You might be
46:18
somebody who's really good at organization or find or doing
46:23
research or finding resources for other people. You might be
46:27
somebody who's a matchmaker, somebody who can put people in
46:30
touch with one another. I don't know there are 1000 ways to
46:34
help. This is up to you to figure out, like, what you can
46:37
do. When I look at myself, I ask myself, like, Oh, am I even
46:41
making a difference in the world? Right? And these are real
46:43
conversations. I sometimes ask like, what can I be doing? What
46:46
should I be doing? What could I do better? What could I do less
46:49
of more of whatever? And I think to myself, every class that I
46:54
teach, everything that I do, whether I'm working with
46:56
somebody one on one, whether I'm talking to people in the nest,
47:00
my group program, whether I'm putting my hands on somebody
47:03
doing Thai Yoga massage, you know, Thai Yoga body work, Thai
47:07
Yoga massage, Thai Yoga, whatever you there's different
47:10
names we can call it, right? But Thai Yoga massage, to me, is the
47:14
physical application and practice of loving kindness. It
47:18
is a way that I can put my hands on another person and help them,
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right? It's co regulation. It's helping them to feel more in
47:26
their body. It's helping them to feel more calm and peaceful and
47:30
in a state of meta loving kindness, right? That's the
47:34
whole heartbeat, right? Teaching a yoga class, helping people
47:38
right, to come back to themselves in their breath in
47:40
their body, teaching people about the Foundations of Yoga,
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the Yamas, which are totally all about. You know this,
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ultimately, yoga is about liberation and freedom, knowing
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who you are to whom you belong, and that connection. And part of
47:56
that is that liberation and that understanding that we're all
47:59
connected, and that until everybody is free, I'm not free.
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That's why other people's suffering means something to me.
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Yeah, you could look at it as, like I always say to people, you
48:10
can just approach it from a totally selfish point of view,
48:12
like, I want you to be free so that I'm free. But none of us
48:15
are getting out of here without helping the others. That's the
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deal, that is the spiritual contract, right? Yoga is all
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about liberation for all. It's a collective consciousness of
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understanding that I don't want you to suffer. I want peace and
48:31
happiness and freedom from suffering for all the animals
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the planet, the people. That's the gig. Okay? Okay. So when I
48:41
think about my own work, whether I'm doing a podcast or I'm guest
48:45
teaching or guest speaking or I'm like, you know, leading,
48:49
whatever I'm doing, I try to think about like, okay, how can
48:53
this actually be helpful? And, you know, I often wish, man, I
48:59
wish I had more money. I wish I could donate more. I wish I
49:02
could set up things. I wish I could start animal sanctuaries.
49:04
I wish I could do this. And I'm like, Well, you can't do that.
49:07
You're not there yet. What can you do with what you got? What's
49:11
my role? And not everybody is meant to be a speaker. Not
49:16
everybody is meant to get on stages. Not everybody is meant
49:19
to be at the front of the room, there are 1000 ways to serve
49:23
love. There are 1000 ways to serve love. Which brings me to
49:29
my next point. If you're too busy judging other people's
49:35
roles, then your focus is in the wrong place. There was this
49:40
culture for a while where people were really getting off on
49:43
calling out other people, and I'm like, Look, I can't control
49:47
what other people do. I can only control myself, coming back to
49:50
the Stoics, I can only control my own thoughts, words and
49:53
actions. I can't make people with way huge or bigger
49:56
platforms in mind not have sociopaths on. Program helping
50:01
people to get elected, right? Like, I can't control that. I
50:04
can control who I have on my show and what I do. I can't
50:09
control that. There's a lot of violence and hatred in the
50:11
world. What I can do is work on my own right, and any amount of
50:16
violence, any amount of hatred I have in my own self, that's what
50:20
I can work on I can't control a shit ton of things. I look to
50:26
myself and I say, what is in my power? I get to be the loving
50:32
alternative. I get to be the alternative to the things that I
50:37
don't like. I don't have time to waste calling people out and
50:40
pointing fingers and saying, Why aren't you using your platform?
50:43
Why aren't you using your voice? If I'm doing that, I am wasting
50:47
my God given talent time and energy, right? What? What God
50:51
given what God given talent do I have? That's a question for
50:54
another day, but my resources need to be spent on what I can
50:59
do, not worrying about what everybody else is or isn't
51:02
doing. So if you're too busy calling out other people, your
51:05
focus is in the wrong place. That's all that I'm saying. We
51:09
all have our own ways of showing up. We all have our own ways of
51:14
showing up. And if we just spend our time again worrying about
51:19
what other people are doing, spend our time judging other
51:22
people wondering, like, if they're performing up to, I
51:25
stand it, or whatever. You just totally, you're just, you're
51:29
missing. You're missing the whole damn point. Your focus is
51:33
in the wrong place. Okay, so we want to take time now to reflect
51:38
and focus on what you can't do or can do. I mean, whether
51:42
that's calling your senators, calling your representatives,
51:45
some of you might be actively outside protesting, you know,
51:48
the ice facilities that are supposedly, you know, coming to
51:51
New Hampshire, although Kelly Ayotte says, Oh, it can't be
51:54
happening, because I don't know anything about it, whatever,
51:57
right? I'm just saying, right? Like, what can you do? You can
52:00
use your voice, you can use your time, your talent, your energy,
52:03
your creativity, your support, be kind to your neighbors. Make
52:07
somebody who's sick some soup, right, show up and, you know,
52:11
just be a helper. How can you help? You might be housebound.
52:17
Maybe you can't do anything, but maybe you can, like, you know,
52:20
babysit somebody's kid. I don't know. There's 1001 ways. It's
52:24
not for me to say what you should be doing. This is a you,
52:27
with you and you and Mother Nature. Are you in the universe?
52:31
You and God time? This is when you get to sit with yourself and
52:36
figure that out. And I'm going to share some final reflections
52:39
here that is very that, I think, is in line with this, with this
52:43
whole episode about, you know, what are you going to do? What
52:47
happened? Happened now? What are we going to do about it? What
52:50
are you going to do about it? Something to keep in mind is the
52:53
Serenity Prayer that has been known across the world for
52:56
forever, for 12 step programs, right? And and recovery
53:00
programs. God grant me the serenity to accept the things
53:04
that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I
53:07
can and the wisdom to know the difference. We can change what's
53:14
asked to change, but we can't build a better past what
53:17
happened has happened. It's like, what are we going to do
53:20
now about what's happened.
53:22
Ryan Holiday also sends it says this, so I shared his book. It's
53:26
the daily stoic, 366 meditations on wisdom, perseverance and the
53:31
art of living. These two quotes come from that he says, control
53:35
your perceptions, direct your actions, properly, willingly
53:42
accept what's outside your control and then focus on what
53:47
you can control. Okay, and this is the last thing I'll share.
53:51
And if you're still with me, thank you for hanging in there.
53:54
I know this episode was a little all over the place. He says some
53:58
things are in our control, while others are not. We control our
54:01
opinion, choice, desire, aversion, and in a word,
54:06
everything of our own doing. We don't control our body,
54:11
property, reputation, position, and in a word, everything, not
54:16
of our own doing. So the question is, what is of your own
54:21
doing? What can you control and what are you going to do about
54:24
it? And I'm just going to end right there. Thank you for being
54:30
here with me. Thank you. If you're a loyal listener, I
54:33
appreciate you more than you know. Thank you. If you're a new
54:36
listener, I'm so happy to have you here. And I just want to
54:40
say, look, a lot of times my I'm usually laughing way more in my
54:46
episodes, but there's some serious shit going on, and this
54:48
is serious times. And it's, it's time for us to grow up and,
54:52
look, I'm just going to say this as well. I really believe in
54:55
this. You know, people poo poo, spirituality. And I. Get it. I'm
55:00
also in the crowd. That's like your thoughts and prayers are
55:03
not enough, however, however. And of course, in miracles, it
55:07
says prayers are the medium of miracles. And I do think that
55:13
directing our minds in a powerful way, and I don't mean
55:17
manifesting in that way, or what I'm talking about literally
55:20
using our minds for the purpose of love. You know, we need to,
55:25
and I'm not doing light and love. I'm not talking about
55:28
that, and I'm not sometimes I make fun of it, but what I'm
55:32
saying is there is spiritual aspects when, when Abraham
55:36
Lincoln talked about the angels of our better nature, Dr Martin
55:40
Luther King, when you think about a lot of the movements
55:44
that came out to abolish right slavery, to talk about civil
55:49
rights, they often came from spiritual backgrounds. There is
55:52
a power. There is a power in starting to slow down and
55:57
connect to the inner power to the Divine that lives within
56:01
you, that spark of divinity that lives within you, and calling
56:04
upon that right spiritual power. Right, love is fierce. We often
56:10
think about love is just being like, just kind of like, weak
56:14
and sweet. And it's like, love can be fierce, and that's the
56:18
only thing that's going to turn this boat around. That's the
56:20
only thing that is going to turn this ship around. And around and
56:23
keep us from just annihilating each other, is that we have got
56:26
to be a force for love. And when I say that prayer, have me go
56:30
where you would have me go. Have me do what you would have me do.
56:33
Have me say what you would have me say, and to whom. Please use
56:36
me. Please use me. Please use me. I always say, May I be in
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service to love. May we all be in service to love. Bye.