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Mother-Daughter Bond · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Got a question for our American mama's to dear mama's, what's the secret to
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  your mother daughter bond. Well, let's ask our American mama's. Mama mama
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  and joining us now our American mama's Terry Nudeville and Kimberly Burlison. You know
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  I've got a father daughter bond. I don't have a mother daughter bond.
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  But you guys have great mother daughter bond. You see it all the time.
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  You know it's your girls love y'all. It's clear we have the greatest
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  relationship with our girls. But I will tell you, I'm sorry, I
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  will tell you it's to the point that they're able to tell us. I
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  was going to say, there's a comma there. We have the greatest relationship
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  with our girls. Com we have the greatest relationship with our girls, to
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  the point that they can tell us what drives the nuts about That's what she
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  means. So, Terry was was in Texas last week, and so I
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  don't know how I how this subject even started, but we started to hear
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  their pet peeves about us. So apparently I clear my throat too much.
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  Oh uh huh, I clear it too much. And apparently I tell the
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  same and I quote damn stories all the time. Huh, Terry, I
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  like all your story. Terry takes two according to the girls, takes too
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  long to tell the story. That's true. And they say, and she
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  has her old lady moments where she gets fixated on one spot, like wait,
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  was it Friday? Wait? Wait, maybe it was Saturday? Wait
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  it was Yeah, They said that she does that. They were going off
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  on us, and we did not one time say that we have any pet
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  peeve about them. So I feel like the key to us having these great
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  relationships is we with thick skin gotta have this. We have thick skin.
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  Yeah, I gotta let things roll off. But when we take it personally,
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  we don't take it personally. We just kind of laugh with them.
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  But when we're together, we got our own We got our own peppe.
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  Yeah, we're not gonna tell y'all what it is, but we got it.
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  Yeah. It's actually I think that's actually one of the keys to what
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  makes us have such strong bonds with all of our children, not just our
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  daughters but our sons too, is we're very communicative. We are able to
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  from an early age talk about absolutely everything. But that's you set that tone.
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  It's not like a four year old's like, hey, I want to
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  talk to you about everything. Yeah. Yeah. The parents have to set
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  that tone, and they were allowed to say things to us. And we
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  use humor. You know, I've said before, humor is our calling card
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  in our family. So the things that might hurt my feelings, even when
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  they were little, I had to laugh my head off and say. You
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  know, first I'd be like ouch and then laugh and then you know,
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  of course I would. It was a give and take. I would say
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  some of the things that maybe drive me crazy that they do, but that's
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  kind of part of the fun. And well, it keeps them real because
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  we can laugh at it. I was on the phone with my son the
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  other day and I was telling my story is so irritated with my husband.
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  So I'm telling my son about it. And it was about a lasagna.
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  And I'm telling them the whole story about the lasagna. Yeah, and Stone.
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  We're facetiming. So Stone starts making this face to me, like what
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  what like that kind of face if you imagine what that sounds like? Okay,
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  and I start laughing and he said, this is like the most eighty
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  five year old conversation I've ever had with you. I can't believe you're and
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  I start laughing because it is It's like the dumb it could, you know.
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  And I said, you know what, let me tell you when you
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  bore me, when you start telling me about your bets when you're betting on
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  games. He goes, wait, that's that's interesting. Oh my, they
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  do stuff, you know. So we're going back and forth with what bores
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  each other about each other. But that's what makes it fun because we can
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  laugh. We don't take anything seriously. I mean you can't you there are
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  times that you do, but you can't let them know that each personally,
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  I guess and this mom, this mom that was having issues with her daughter,
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  it's like, you got to lighten up. You've got to lighten up
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  and not take everything so seriously. I know that for my daughter's Sonny,
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  just the era I breathe irritates her. Sometimes, just the air I breathe
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  just gets on her nerves, you know. But I gotta let it go.
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  I just gotta let it go. Yeah, Summer has no problem telling
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  me the things that drive her nuts. Like one of the things that I
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  could tell on the phone. When I start telling a story, she'll go
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  yeah, yeh yeah, yeah, Like she's like, yeah, you've already
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  told me that story. Like she does not make any bones. She doesn't
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  like if I if I go around the globe a little bit to try to
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  because I think this part's kind of funny to the story and this is too
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  She's like, come on, let's She's like, Kevin, let's get to
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  it. Let's get to it. You know. I have told our kids
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  from the moment, from when they were very little, I said, look,
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  we're going to do something as parents that will drive you crazy. I
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  apologize for right now. I have no idea what it is. Right,
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  we're gonna do it. Yeah, and it will it will bug the snot
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  out of you. Yeah, And that's just kind of how you're just gonna
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  have to forgive me for that. It's just gonna happen, and you're just
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  gonna have to deal with it and we're all gonna move on. Well,
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  here here's what my mom said, and this is what I have said to
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  my own children when they start they get to this age where they are able
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  to tell you the things that they were disappointed in, things that they didn't
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  love. So what I say to them is what Mom said to us when
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  we got to that point where we were like, why I didn't like the
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  way you and Dad did the us or whatever she said. We are not
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  the blueprint. We did the best we have with the tools we had.
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  We raised y'all with love and humor and all of that. So we're not
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  the blueprint. But so take the things you liked that we did and use
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  that with your own family, and then the things you didn't like that we
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  did, don't use that. But I guarantee you the day's going to come
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  that your own child will not like something that you did as a parent.
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  And it is the truth. We're not the blueprint. We're just doing the
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  best we can. If you like to ask our American Mama's a question,
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  go to our website American ground Ready dot com slash Mama's and click on the
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  ask the Mama's button. Terry Nutteville, Kimberly Breal, listen, thank you
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  so much. As