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Crystal gets Clear · Reality with The King

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Speaker 1: It was like for me, I'm never going to be
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Speaker 1: in a relationship. I don't care who you are, what
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Speaker 1: you have, what you've accomplished in life where I'm not
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Speaker 1: being respected.
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Speaker 2: Stay tuned look into my conversation with Crystal Smith right
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Speaker 2: after these quick ads. Welcome to Reality with the King.
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Speaker 2: It's me Carlos King, the King of Reality TV and
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Speaker 2: one of the most sought after executive producers in reality
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Speaker 2: television with over ten years of production experience.
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Speaker 3: Twice a week on.
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Speaker 2: Reality with the King, we'll sit down with my friends
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Speaker 2: across the entertainment industry, recap our favorite reality shows and
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Speaker 3: Hey, rain drops.
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Speaker 2: Today's guests on Reality with the King with my girl
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Speaker 2: Crystal Smith, that a lot of you may know as
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Speaker 2: the wife of Neo, and if you've been.
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Speaker 3: Hiding under rock, then you know that there has.
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Speaker 2: Been a lot of things happening on social media in
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Speaker 2: regards to their marriage. Crystal recently filed for divorce and
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Speaker 2: posted something on social media that alleged some interesting allegations
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Speaker 2: in regards to the purpose of this filing. But since
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Speaker 2: Crystal is my girl and She also comes from reality TV,
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Speaker 2: starring in All About the Business that was going BET
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Speaker 2: a few years ago, in.
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Speaker 3: Addition to Platinum Life that was on E recently.
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Speaker 2: I knew that my listeners would want to know more
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Speaker 2: about Crystal in addition to what she's going through. And
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Speaker 2: I must say this is a very interesting, juicy, butlightful conversation.
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Speaker 2: Without further ado, let's get into my exclusive with Crystal Smith.
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Speaker 2: So today's guest on Reality with the King is one
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Speaker 2: of my good girlfriends. She is so fun, such a
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Speaker 2: beautiful light and somebody who I feel like is so misunderstood.
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Speaker 2: I have like this big brother complex when it comes
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Speaker 2: to her because.
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Speaker 3: I feel like I need to protect her.
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Speaker 2: And make sure that she's okay. I check in with
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Speaker 2: her constantly. We've known each other.
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Speaker 3: For a couple of years.
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Speaker 2: She is a reality star who's been on everything from
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Speaker 2: the Platinum Life on E to All About the Business
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Speaker 2: on BT.
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Speaker 3: She was also on Behind every Man, My Show, and
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Speaker 3: she is just my girl.
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Speaker 2: She's been in the press a lot lately, and I
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Speaker 2: wanted to take this opportunity so that you all can
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Speaker 2: get to know the woman that I know. And I'm
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Speaker 2: talking about my sister Crystal Smith.
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Speaker 4: Okay, honey, how you doing, sweet cheek?
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Speaker 3: I'm good? Boo, how are you, my love?
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Speaker 4: I'm good, I'm good. I can't complain. I'm blessed. And
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Speaker 4: how they favored you?
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Speaker 2: Know that you are, that you are so look, I
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Speaker 2: wanted to talk to you because you are one of
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Speaker 2: my loves and I always feel like the world needs
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Speaker 2: to know the real Crystal.
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Speaker 3: Like this chick is a boss, she's.
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Speaker 2: Beautiful, but she also somebody who I know has been
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Speaker 2: through a lot. So let's start for the beginning, Chrystal,
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Speaker 2: in terms of do you feel like people misunderstanding who
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Speaker 2: you are and what do you feel it is that
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Speaker 2: they just think you're one thing, but you're not.
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Speaker 1: I definitely think that I misunderstood because you know, people
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Speaker 1: they read blogs, and just because it's in a blog,
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Speaker 1: they automatically assume that it's true and they never get
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Speaker 1: a story. And I don't really speak out about myself
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Speaker 1: to try to correct anybody. So one, I think the
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Speaker 1: biggest thing is like the home record thing, because definitely
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Speaker 1: ain't ever been that. Any men that I date is
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Speaker 1: absolutely single. And I think also just because I'm not
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Speaker 1: a conformist, you know, I don't go with the trends,
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Speaker 1: and just because people don't like you, I don't really
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Speaker 1: give a fuck.
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Speaker 2: I don't know, I.
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Speaker 1: Don't really care, you know what I'm saying, like, and
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Speaker 1: so I don't dance the beat if anybody's drum but
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Speaker 1: my own. So people take that in whatever way that
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Speaker 1: they do, and I don't really care.
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Speaker 4: So I don't know.
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Speaker 1: I just pushed through for me and my kids, and
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Speaker 1: I'm about my career, making money and accomplishment goals for myself,
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Speaker 1: and whether that is what everyone else bites doesn't matter,
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Speaker 1: you know.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: No, I love the fact that you are a woman
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Speaker 2: who stands on our own convictions, and you have the
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Speaker 2: type of personality that I want all of my reality
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Speaker 2: starts to have, which is you give zero fucks what
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Speaker 2: anyone has to say about you.
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Speaker 3: So where did that come from?
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Speaker 4: You know?
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Speaker 1: I grew up in the hood, So to be in
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Speaker 1: this lifestyle, this platform, to accomplish so much that in
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Speaker 1: itself is a blessing that for me, I feel accomplished.
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Speaker 4: I'm very level headed. I treat everyone with respect.
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Speaker 1: Until I'm disrespected, and I'm just grateful and I feel
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Speaker 1: blessed that I am who I am today.
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Speaker 4: I have three beautiful children. I can give them.
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Speaker 1: A beautiful lifestyle, and to me, that is life goals,
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Speaker 1: giving them what I didn't have. So anything else outside
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Speaker 1: of that is just extra. And if it's negative, I
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Speaker 1: don't really care, you know what I'm saying. As long
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Speaker 1: as it doesn't affect my household, my family, it doesn't matter.
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Speaker 4: So let that share roll off your shoulder, you know, oh.
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Speaker 3: One hundred percent.
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Speaker 2: And when I have to show on own Call Behind
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Speaker 2: every Man, it was about, you know, the powerful women,
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Speaker 2: the superstars behind.
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Speaker 3: Some of these celebrity men.
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Speaker 2: And that episode with you was one of our highest
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Speaker 2: rated episodes because the world got a chance to know
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Speaker 2: who Crystal was outside of her you know, relationship. And
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Speaker 2: you are somebody who started out in this industry being
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Speaker 2: a video model and worked her ass off to become
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Speaker 2: the self made woman you are today. Take us back
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Speaker 2: to how you got involved in this industry.
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Speaker 4: You know, it just kind of like happened.
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Speaker 1: Remember Black Men's Magazine and all that kind of stuff.
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Speaker 1: Way back then, they contacted me on Instagram to do
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Speaker 1: a photo shoot, and the photographer that was there, he
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Speaker 1: was like putting on a lot of the girls and
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Speaker 1: stuff back when hostings and all that stuff was just
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Speaker 1: like beginning. And so we did one photo shoot and
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Speaker 1: went viral the next week maybe I think I started
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Speaker 1: doing hostings and it got up to like ten bands whatever,
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Speaker 1: and so I was doing four or five of those
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Speaker 1: a week, you know, and it just went from there.
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Speaker 4: So, you know, I'm all about my coins, so I
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Speaker 4: was all for it.
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Speaker 1: You know, it just kind of happened overnight, literally, So
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Speaker 1: I went from you know, working a regular job to like,
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Speaker 1: now everybody knows who I am, making thousands of dollars
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Speaker 1: a week, and you know, that was a cool life
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Speaker 1: for me.
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Speaker 2: And what was cool about it is the fact that
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Speaker 2: you were somebody that kept getting asked by these musical artists,
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Speaker 2: these singers, these rappers to appear in that video, especially
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Speaker 2: at a time when.
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Speaker 3: Music videos were the hottest thing.
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Speaker 2: In the world, and you were able to appear in
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Speaker 2: some of our favorite artists music videos and then parlay
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Speaker 2: that into being this social media icon. So talk to
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Speaker 2: us about some of the videos you appeared in and
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Speaker 2: how that transition came into also getting paid for posting
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Speaker 2: pictures on Instagram.
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Speaker 1: Well, you know, everyone says the whole like video girl
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Speaker 1: thing but honestly, I had only done I think two
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Speaker 1: videos outside of my exis, so I wasn't really a
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Speaker 1: video girl.
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Speaker 4: I was just popping on the.
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Speaker 1: Ground with like my photo shoots and I was doing
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Speaker 1: hostings like that to me was every day money and
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Speaker 1: videos don't pay that much. So I had only done
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Speaker 1: two videos and you only saw like a glimpse of me.
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Speaker 1: It wasn't like a whole thing before, you know.
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Speaker 4: So I really wasn't a video girl.
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Speaker 2: But you also want somebody, like I said, who was
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Speaker 2: able to take the social media world to a new level,
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Speaker 2: because again, there's so much money to be made just
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Speaker 2: in terms of like posting and hosting, so talk to
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Speaker 2: us about that too.
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Speaker 1: So when it came to social media, I think like
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Speaker 1: I wasn't like a person. I've never been a person
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Speaker 1: that's in the streets, that's in the clubs all the time,
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Speaker 1: So nobody knew who I was.
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Speaker 4: I was just like this new girl on the scene,
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Speaker 4: and I don't know what it was like.
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Speaker 1: I speak my mind all the time, and not in
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Speaker 1: like a bad way, but I just keep it real.
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Speaker 1: And it just went from the photo shoots that I
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Speaker 1: would put online to the hostings and then just like
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Speaker 1: trying to you know, put that into making money and
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Speaker 1: monetizing on social media. So companies will reach out and
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Speaker 1: I would do stuff for them and get paid for it.
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Speaker 1: And it was just to me, it was just all
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Speaker 1: about like making the coin. And with that, you know,
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Speaker 1: you get your haters, but you also get your supporters,
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Speaker 1: and my support outweighed way outweigh the.
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Speaker 4: Negative, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: So it just kind of been a thing where like
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Speaker 1: women would like appreciate the fact that, like I kept
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Speaker 1: it real. No matter who you are or what you do,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, that does make you better
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Speaker 1: than anybody. And like women, you know, they gravitate towards
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Speaker 1: that confidence and strength, and that's all I ever try
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Speaker 1: to display.
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Speaker 2: You then went on to start in reality shows. So
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Speaker 2: the first reality show I remember was all about the
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Speaker 2: business on BT. It also start Eva Marcel, who we
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Speaker 2: know from Housewives, Top Model and now she has a
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Speaker 2: show on BT. Plus all the Queen's men talk to
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Speaker 2: us about that experience because you and Eva came on
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Speaker 2: the show together courtesy of you guys being best friends.
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Speaker 1: So that show, everyone that was in that show I
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Speaker 1: knew in real life. We all hung out, we all,
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Speaker 1: you know, had our little group of friends, and it
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Speaker 1: just kind of like made sense. And she used to
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Speaker 1: always tell me, like, Crystal, You're made for TV. You
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Speaker 1: have such a personality all this stuff, and honestly, I
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Speaker 1: was nervous. I was scared because, like, I know my
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Speaker 1: personality and I know when people.
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Speaker 4: Get on camera they changed.
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Speaker 1: So I've always been nervous about that because you never
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Speaker 1: know what your reaction is going to be until you
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Speaker 1: put in that situation. So She's always just pushed me
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Speaker 1: and motivated me to just you know, step out on my.
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Speaker 4: Own and doing that, it was it was an.
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Speaker 1: Experience, but I'm glad that I did it because it
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Speaker 1: did allow people to see me and get to know
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Speaker 1: me just a little bit, and it opened up a
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Speaker 1: lot more doors for me outside of TV, which I
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Speaker 1: was very grateful for.
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Speaker 3: Are you still friends with Eva Marcel?
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Speaker 4: Yes? Absolutely.
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Speaker 2: Were you around when all of these things came about
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Speaker 2: with her bridesmaid and this wedding fiasco that came when
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Speaker 2: people were accusing her of doing crazy things?
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Speaker 3: Were you a part of that whole bridal party situation?
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Speaker 1: I was one of her bridesmaids, but I was not
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Speaker 1: a part of that situation. I don't do mess when
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Speaker 1: it comes to friends, even if you were my friend
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Speaker 1: in the past, I don't get involved in that because
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Speaker 1: if I loved you at one point, I love you
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Speaker 1: now and I'm not gonna do the messy. So when
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Speaker 1: all of that was going on and they had their
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Speaker 1: little ponder rosa going on, I was there and I
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Speaker 1: left and I just stayed out of it, you know
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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. And I tried to support her as
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Speaker 1: best as I could, and you know, build her up
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Speaker 1: in that way and just let her know whatever people
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Speaker 1: gonna say, they're gonna say, and let her roll off
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Speaker 1: your back.
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Speaker 2: But yes, I remember that you are somebody who really
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Speaker 2: is a girl's girl. And I do feel like people
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Speaker 2: when they look at you, they just assume like, oh,
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Speaker 2: she's a mean girl, she's a bit she's this or that.
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Speaker 3: What's crazy is you're the total opposite.
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Speaker 2: So when you were around with that happening, what advice
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Speaker 2: would you give Eva? Knowing that at some point all
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Speaker 2: of you guys appear to just be like real friends
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Speaker 2: and to be able to have to deal with that
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Speaker 2: and the fact that I know you, I know they
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Speaker 2: have to be hard for you.
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Speaker 1: It was hard because it was like, I'm at a
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Speaker 1: place where I don't want to get involved. But for me,
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Speaker 1: it kind of angered me because I felt like, she's pregnant,
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Speaker 1: she's getting married, after everything that she's gone through in
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Speaker 1: her past relationships, Like this is her moment of happiness,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And I just felt like
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Speaker 1: no one should have came in between her and enjoyed
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Speaker 1: that moment and living into her fullest instead of them
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Speaker 1: trying to like break her.
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Speaker 4: Down and make sure that she did.
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Speaker 1: The only thing she remember about that was the fact
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Speaker 1: that her friends or so called friends did that to her.
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Speaker 1: So the only thing, the main thing that I told
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Speaker 1: her was cut your phone off, stop reading stuff, and
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Speaker 1: enjoy your husband, your new husband. You know what I'm saying,
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Speaker 1: because this moment you're never going to get back, and
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Speaker 1: you're doing something and living a moment that most of
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Speaker 1: these women.
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Speaker 4: Wish they could, so fuck all that.
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Speaker 1: Stay with your man, cut your phone off, enjoy your honeymoon,
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Speaker 1: and when you get back, handle them, but for right now,
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Speaker 1: enjoy it because you deserve it.
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Speaker 2: Another show your paradign was Platinum Life. Une If y'all
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Speaker 2: saw the face Crystal Bay and now she's sipping on
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Speaker 2: her head to see So let's dive into it. So,
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Speaker 2: as you all know, as the king of Reality TV,
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Speaker 2: I love all things reality. So when I saw All
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Speaker 2: About the Business on BT, obviously I watched it because
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Speaker 2: I'm a huge fan of EVA. But baby, that Crystal
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Speaker 2: was the life that just gave me what I needed, honey.
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Speaker 2: So I was like, Crystal is that girl. She's a
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Speaker 2: force multiplier and I'm here for it. So I was
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Speaker 2: sad when the show did not come back, but I
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Speaker 2: got a chance to be introduced to Platinum Life. And
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Speaker 2: let's be clear, because I follow you and we're friends.
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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'm here for Crystal, and this
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Speaker 2: is before we became friends, honestly. So I was a
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Speaker 2: huge fan of the show because I watched because of
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Speaker 2: you and the show. If y'all watched this show, it
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Speaker 2: was on E In the first episode, Miss Crystal Honey
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Speaker 2: stunt on the girls and invited and Crystal show pitches
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Speaker 2: or platup Life. No, I'll be silly. The girls were
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Speaker 2: on Crystal's private plane going to Las Vegas to see
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Speaker 2: Jennifer Lopez. So Crystal being the queen Bee of the show,
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Speaker 2: decided to have her girls the other cast members come
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Speaker 2: on her private plane to see j Lo exclusively and
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Speaker 2: to go backstage as well. And on that plane, this
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Speaker 2: is the first episode, guys, And on that plane, Crystal
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Speaker 2: read the girls for Philip talk to us about what
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Speaker 2: happened as these girls were on your PJ in their pjs,
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Speaker 2: but some bs was happening, So.
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Speaker 1: Okay about that. So not every one of them that
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Speaker 1: I knew that I did. And when the show started filming,
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Speaker 1: one of them in particular, decided that she wanted to, like,
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Speaker 1: I guess, come against me and be with what she
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Speaker 1: thought was like the cool girls group. I call them
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Speaker 1: the mean girls or whatever. And so you know, when
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Speaker 1: you do production and you're starting for the show, and
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Speaker 1: they'd ask you like what can you bring to the show,
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Speaker 1: what's this and what's that? And how how was your
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Speaker 1: life a platinum life and all this.
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Speaker 4: So me, I just kept it real.
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Speaker 1: Some of them were like, oh, I can bring this,
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Speaker 1: I can bring that, I can bring that, when they couldn't,
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Speaker 1: and when it came from filming, they're asking production to
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Speaker 1: pay for everything. So I'm like, hey, well this is
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Speaker 1: what we could do. I can get this like whatever,
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Speaker 1: like it's no pressure, like let's do it. And this
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Speaker 1: one chick in particular, she I don't know from day one.
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Speaker 1: I didn't know her. She had it out for me.
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Speaker 1: So she was probably like forty five minutes late, the
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Speaker 1: last one to get on the plane, and she got
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Speaker 1: She took twenty minutes at that point to like stand
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Speaker 1: outside of the plane and take pictures.
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Speaker 4: So she got on the plane.
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Speaker 1: It's not my fault that you're seven feet tall, nobody,
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Speaker 1: I have no control over that. You need to talk
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Speaker 1: to God about that, and said something about the leg room,
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Speaker 1: and she just was talking and talking and talking and
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Speaker 1: talking shit and I'm just like, okay, letting it roll
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Speaker 1: off my back. And it was like I can't remember
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Speaker 1: exactly what she said because sometimes I just kind of
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Speaker 1: like see red. And all I told her was, you
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Speaker 1: know commercial planes have flights every forty five minutes from
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Speaker 1: LA to Vegas if that's what you want to do,
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Speaker 1: because we can stop the plane and you can and
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Speaker 1: you can go to Lax, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 4: And she said something slick.
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Speaker 1: And I just I lost it because it's like the audacity,
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Speaker 1: like to get on my stuff. And just like disrespect me,
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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And it was just like
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Speaker 1: I just felt like it was a setup and I
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Speaker 1: just lost it. So I told her, when we get
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Speaker 1: to the tarmac, we can get to it. And of course,
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Speaker 1: of course her being the first one off, because she
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Speaker 1: was the last one on, she bucked it to the inside. Look,
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Speaker 1: I don't get stuff like that, Like if I don't
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Speaker 1: like you or I have an issue with you, I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna get on your stuff. I'm not gonna be
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Speaker 1: around you. I'm not gonna hang with you. I'm not
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Speaker 1: gonna come to your house, none of that.
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Speaker 4: Like I'll go with my own people's.
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Speaker 1: But you thought you were gonna embarrass me or talk
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Speaker 1: shit or whatever the case may be.
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Speaker 4: And it doesn't. It doesn't go like that, baby.
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Speaker 3: So she got on your private plane.
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Speaker 2: And so what Chris was talking about is the show
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Speaker 2: is called Platinum Life, and the show was about the
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Speaker 2: women who were in relationships with the successful musicians. You
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Speaker 2: had Nellie's then girl from Mims Jackson, you have Miguel's
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Speaker 2: then fiance and some other women.
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Speaker 4: Right Nazanine. I love her. She's a sweetheart.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's so beautiful Xena Foster who is married
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Speaker 2: to Tank I don't she.
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Speaker 3: Oh no, but are born the same thing. We're cool.
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Speaker 3: Zena told me she quit like she.
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Speaker 2: Quite so I think what Crystal is saying is obviously
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Speaker 2: the show is called Platinum Life, so let's see your
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Speaker 2: platinum life. And it appears that some of these women
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Speaker 2: weren't able to produce on their own the lifestyle that was.
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Speaker 3: Required to be a part of the cast.
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Speaker 2: And Crystal, who does this in her sleep, said I
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Speaker 2: am able to provide this, which was a girl's trip
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Speaker 2: on her plane to Las Vegas. So the audacity of
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Speaker 2: a cast member allegedly having an attitude and trying to,
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Speaker 2: you know, come for the hostess with the most And
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Speaker 2: so did she ever make it backstage to meet j Lo?
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Speaker 1: You know, I'm a woman that I like to say
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Speaker 1: I walk with grace and all situations, So of course
18:47
Speaker 1: I allowed her to come. You know, why not come
18:49
Speaker 1: see it, Come meet this beautiful woman that you talked
18:52
Speaker 1: to all this stuff about, and have a great evening
18:55
Speaker 1: on me.
18:58
Speaker 4: You know, I love that you can exclude me from whatever.
19:02
Speaker 4: Doesn't matter because it's not an experienced I want anyway.
19:05
Speaker 1: But what I am going to show you is what
19:07
Speaker 1: a real woman does and a mature woman. If I
19:09
Speaker 1: invited you, come on, enjoy the experience, and then after that,
19:13
Speaker 1: I'm gonna fuck with you no more.
19:14
Speaker 2: And what we saw over the course of the season
19:16
Speaker 2: was that becoming a continuous beef with that situation. But
19:20
Speaker 2: we also saw that you were really trying to just
19:24
Speaker 2: avoid the drama, rally the girls and be the you know,
19:28
Speaker 2: the girl's girl that you are.
19:30
Speaker 3: What happened that season where it.
19:32
Speaker 2: Just felt like, you know, that situation just never could
19:36
Speaker 2: die down, so.
19:37
Speaker 1: That the thing was and like one thing about me,
19:40
Speaker 1: even if I feel like I'm not wrong in something,
19:43
Speaker 1: if it'll keep the peace, I'm a grown ass woman.
19:46
Speaker 4: I can come to you, have a conversation, we can
19:48
Speaker 4: sit down.
19:48
Speaker 1: I'll even apologize even if I don't feel like I
19:50
Speaker 1: was wrong, just in order to keep the peace. I
19:53
Speaker 1: did that what two three times, you know what I'm saying,
19:56
Speaker 1: And every time it was something else, something else, and
20:00
Speaker 1: something else, until I just got fed up with it,
20:02
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.
20:02
Speaker 4: And it's like I'm only going to be.
20:05
Speaker 1: Cool so many times, and because y'all feel like I'm
20:09
Speaker 1: the hood one or y'all gonna get some TV time
20:12
Speaker 1: because y'all think if y'all say something slick, how my
20:14
Speaker 1: reaction is gonna be and that's gonna be like the
20:16
Speaker 1: highlight of the episode or whatever.
20:17
Speaker 4: I just felt like she.
20:19
Speaker 1: Kept picking and kept picking until she got real, you
20:22
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And for me, I just felt like,
20:27
Speaker 1: I'm trying to come on TV try to show them
20:28
Speaker 1: my business, like I was the only one. I had
20:30
Speaker 1: a business deal that I showcased on there with my cooking,
20:33
Speaker 1: and everybody knows that's my thing, and so I was
20:36
Speaker 1: on there like trying to be professional because I had
20:38
Speaker 1: actual partners and contracts and.
20:41
Speaker 4: Stuff that I was doing in real life, you know
20:43
Speaker 4: what I'm saying.
20:44
Speaker 1: So it's like, it doesn't do me any good to
20:46
Speaker 1: sit on here and keep arguing with y'all and doing
20:49
Speaker 1: all this and jeopardizing what I got going on because
20:51
Speaker 1: I actually have something to lose. And it just felt
20:54
Speaker 1: like women can be nasty, and if they see that
20:57
Speaker 1: you got a light on you, they're gonna try to
20:59
Speaker 1: put some shade on it. And because all of a sudden,
21:03
Speaker 1: she started some kind of culinary I don't know she
21:05
Speaker 1: was in school or something like that.
21:07
Speaker 4: She just kept coming from me. So I wanted to
21:10
Speaker 4: you at the door.
21:10
Speaker 2: Well, what I know is when you're the force multiplier
21:13
Speaker 2: of the show, which is sort of like the cast
21:17
Speaker 2: member who is sort of like the centerpiece, she or
21:21
Speaker 2: he is the one that is just like at the
21:24
Speaker 2: center of the show meeting.
21:26
Speaker 3: Whether they call it the queen bee of the star,
21:29
Speaker 3: we called it the force multiplier.
21:31
Speaker 2: And you were clearly that on Platinum Life, and we
21:35
Speaker 2: saw these great episodes, but we also saw that it
21:38
Speaker 2: did not come back for a second season. Why wasn't
21:41
Speaker 2: the show back for a second season because I quit?
21:45
Speaker 1: The network came to me after I almost went to
21:48
Speaker 1: jail in Mexico for the fighting and stuff.
21:51
Speaker 4: Y'all didn't see that.
21:52
Speaker 1: Probably it was on camera, but it had went down
21:56
Speaker 1: in Mexico or whatever, and so at that point, I
21:59
Speaker 1: was just like, like, this is not for me. This
22:01
Speaker 1: is not going in the direction that I'm supposed to
22:03
Speaker 1: be going in. This is honestly beneath me because y'all
22:06
Speaker 1: pulling out something in me that I've worked on long ago,
22:09
Speaker 1: and now y'all playing with legal stuff. Because shit like
22:12
Speaker 1: that gets real and people don't realize y'all come from
22:15
Speaker 1: this kind of life, and y'all say certain things and
22:17
Speaker 1: don't realize everyone doesn't take it the way you think
22:20
Speaker 1: they're gonna take it, because you do stuff on camera
22:23
Speaker 1: and that shit translates into real life and in real
22:25
Speaker 1: life and on security there to help you, you know
22:28
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So at that point when I left,
22:31
Speaker 1: I left.
22:32
Speaker 4: I was done. You know.
22:34
Speaker 1: The network called me like, hey, what's up? Like cause
22:37
Speaker 1: really it was the Crystal Show, So y'all ain't have
22:39
Speaker 1: nothing unless y'all was talking about me.
22:41
Speaker 4: So I told them, you know.
22:42
Speaker 1: What I'm saying, this isn't beneficial to me.
22:45
Speaker 4: The money ain't that great.
22:46
Speaker 1: I mean to them, I guess it's a lie, But
22:48
Speaker 1: to me, that ain't shit. So I'm not going to
22:51
Speaker 1: jeopardize my business and what I have going on to
22:53
Speaker 1: continue in this bullshit because this is supposed to be
22:55
Speaker 1: a show that was supposed to be different from all
22:57
Speaker 1: these other shows and uplifting women. That's what y'all taught me.
23:00
Speaker 1: This is not what it is, So I quit and
23:03
Speaker 1: nobody has a job.
23:04
Speaker 4: Now.
23:08
Speaker 2: Well, Crystal, we're gonna start calling you Uncle Sam, cause honey,
23:18
Speaker 2: she is here to collect baby. Who's I hate to interrupt,
23:23
Speaker 2: but stay tuned for more of my conversation with Crystal.
23:27
Speaker 2: We'll be right back after this quick break. This is
23:40
Speaker 2: Reality with the King and I'm Carlos King. Let's get
23:43
Speaker 2: back into my chat with Crystal Smith. You are meant
23:49
Speaker 2: to be on reality TV. And what's interesting is before
23:54
Speaker 2: you know, I became friends. You did not know this,
23:57
Speaker 2: but I was watching you being a huge fan of yours.
23:59
Speaker 2: Because not everybody is meant to be on TV, but
24:04
Speaker 2: the ones who I've been able to see, I always
24:08
Speaker 2: say to myself, if I'm able to get a piece
24:11
Speaker 2: of that action I wanted. So I want to tell
24:14
Speaker 2: the listeners how you and I became friends. I had
24:17
Speaker 2: a meeting with Nick Cannon at his office in LA
24:21
Speaker 2: and he wanted to meet with me because he had
24:25
Speaker 2: this show idea that involved you and Neo.
24:29
Speaker 3: At the time, he.
24:31
Speaker 2: Was like, Los, you may not know her, but this
24:35
Speaker 2: woman named Crystal Smith is a star. And I said, Nick,
24:41
Speaker 2: I know exactly who she is. You don't have to
24:44
Speaker 2: pitch Crystal Smith to me.
24:47
Speaker 3: I know who she is. I watched television. So we
24:50
Speaker 3: have a.
24:50
Speaker 2: Meeting, you and I, Neo and Nick and you and
24:53
Speaker 2: I felt and.
24:54
Speaker 3: Well, let me speak to myself.
24:57
Speaker 5: Okay, I didn't, so I said, I was like, I
25:02
Speaker 5: love you like I love you, And it is funny
25:05
Speaker 5: because Nick and de I was like, they love each other.
25:08
Speaker 2: So I guess this is going to work. And we
25:14
Speaker 2: long story short, we were going to develop a show
25:17
Speaker 2: surrounding you and your artistry and just your life and
25:21
Speaker 2: you being like the Lucille ball of like this hip
25:25
Speaker 2: hop community, this relationship. And we had these pitch meetings
25:30
Speaker 2: and when I said to you, guys, Crystal killed it
25:32
Speaker 2: in every pitch meeting so much so we had numerous
25:37
Speaker 2: offers from networks and streamers like I'm not gonna name names,
25:41
Speaker 2: but some very big networks was like, we want some
25:44
Speaker 2: of this, and we were almost about to do a show.
25:48
Speaker 2: And then obviously, when it comes to business, things just
25:51
Speaker 2: you know, happened. But that was when I realized, like,
25:56
Speaker 2: I love her. I want to be in business with her,
25:59
Speaker 2: because you are somebody who I think is so magical
26:03
Speaker 2: based on, like you said earlier, being a girl from
26:05
Speaker 2: the hood, having humble beginnings, but being able to just
26:11
Speaker 2: not allow your paths to define you, and being able
26:14
Speaker 2: to just go after the stars. And one thing I
26:17
Speaker 2: will say too, because I want this to be an
26:19
Speaker 2: honest conversation and again, say anything you want to say.
26:22
Speaker 2: But I also like the fact that wow, Neo supports
26:25
Speaker 2: his wife, like, you know, he's like, look, if it's
26:28
Speaker 2: what she wants, let's do it. What was going on
26:31
Speaker 2: in regards to at that time, it was this opportunity
26:35
Speaker 2: to have a show about you guys.
26:37
Speaker 3: Is that something you wanted?
26:39
Speaker 2: He wanted Nick wanted, Like whose idea was it for
26:42
Speaker 2: that to happen?
26:44
Speaker 1: You know, Nick came to us with the idea or whatever.
26:47
Speaker 1: And then so I have a history with Nick of
26:49
Speaker 1: you know, I used to do wild'n.
26:50
Speaker 4: Out way wait wait long as ago.
26:54
Speaker 1: And so meet him, have a you know, rapport and
26:56
Speaker 1: good relationship and stuff like that. So at that time
26:59
Speaker 1: I was recording music and stuff and it was good
27:02
Speaker 1: and he like really really loved it. He was like, damn,
27:04
Speaker 1: I've never heard anybody like rap like this their first
27:06
Speaker 1: time in the studio whatever, And so he had we
27:10
Speaker 1: all have this mutual friend and so they had this idea.
27:13
Speaker 4: And you know, we were down for but then you know,
27:16
Speaker 4: my ex he got like super busy.
27:18
Speaker 1: I think he ended up going on tour around that time,
27:19
Speaker 1: right or something like that, So the contracts didn't like
27:22
Speaker 1: line up, so it was pretty much just like wrong
27:25
Speaker 1: timing basically. And that's okay because I wasn't like pressed
27:29
Speaker 1: to be you know, have to do it right now.
27:31
Speaker 3: You really wasn't. And that's the thing.
27:33
Speaker 2: You're not thirsty because if anything, and I'm gonna be
27:37
Speaker 2: real with y'all, I was a thirsty one, like, no,
27:39
Speaker 2: we gotta make it. Crystal would be like, Carlos, I
27:42
Speaker 2: got this going on. This money ain't that much, but whatever.
27:45
Speaker 2: I love you and I trust you, and I know
27:46
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make money outside of the show. But you
27:50
Speaker 2: never once was thirsty about this. It was sort of like,
27:54
Speaker 2: if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't,
27:56
Speaker 2: my life is still gonna be my life. And then
27:59
Speaker 2: we were able to do Behind every Man together because
28:02
Speaker 2: again we developed a friendship at that point. She and
28:05
Speaker 2: I spoke several days before because that show was Kristal
28:10
Speaker 2: revealing things about her past and her childhood that she
28:13
Speaker 2: never once said before. And for me, it was to
28:17
Speaker 2: show the world that, like you said earlier, this is
28:20
Speaker 2: not some homewrecker. I want the world to see who
28:24
Speaker 2: you are, which.
28:24
Speaker 3: Is why I also embody you on my podcast.
28:27
Speaker 2: Why do you think this homewreckerd title came about?
28:33
Speaker 1: So, you know, not to say that people don't like
28:37
Speaker 1: really think about things. People don't realize. Like, when you
28:40
Speaker 1: shoot a show, it's usually shot, it's usually like aired
28:43
Speaker 1: the next year, you know what I'm saying.
28:45
Speaker 4: And so I think the timing.
28:47
Speaker 1: Of my ex, like telling people that we were a
28:52
Speaker 1: thing or whatever, was when his ex's show came out.
28:57
Speaker 4: She shot that show like the year before.
28:59
Speaker 1: They hadn't been together a year plus since, you know,
29:03
Speaker 1: before I had met him, So people not like thinking
29:06
Speaker 1: about that.
29:06
Speaker 4: They're thinking, damn, this show just came out.
29:09
Speaker 1: They just said that they were together like a week ago,
29:11
Speaker 1: so they just figure that I took him.
29:15
Speaker 4: From her, which is not the case. I didn't even
29:16
Speaker 4: know him when they were together.
29:17
Speaker 1: So at that point, it's just like, I hate that
29:21
Speaker 1: people think that. But over the years and now at
29:24
Speaker 1: this point, I don't really care what they think because
29:26
Speaker 1: I know he knows, she knows, and God knows, and
29:28
Speaker 1: that's really yeah.
29:30
Speaker 2: And what we learned on the show was the fact
29:32
Speaker 2: that this man, your ex, he approached you he sought
29:39
Speaker 2: you out, He had his team reached out and said,
29:42
Speaker 2: I want to meet this girl. You know, his intention
29:45
Speaker 2: that he said to you was like, oh, be my
29:47
Speaker 2: music video. And what was funny is you realize after
29:53
Speaker 2: meeting him that, okay, he was interested. And what I
29:56
Speaker 2: loved about the story between you and him was the
29:59
Speaker 2: fact that you gave him like, not a hard time,
30:04
Speaker 2: but you weren't pressed, you weren't thirsty, and that's what
30:08
Speaker 2: made him like you even more because you were sort
30:10
Speaker 2: of like, honey, I'm.
30:12
Speaker 3: In this business, I know what this is about. I'm good.
30:15
Speaker 2: I've heard stories. I'm not that person. And what's interesting
30:19
Speaker 2: is I just heard Steve Harvey talk about this on
30:23
Speaker 2: his Instagram page. When Marjorie, his now wife, when they
30:28
Speaker 2: were dating, he pushed on up on her and she
30:34
Speaker 2: overheard him talking to another woman on the phone and
30:36
Speaker 2: she packed her bags and I was like, I'm actually gonna
30:38
Speaker 2: leave and call me when you're ready, and he took
30:42
Speaker 2: his flip phone and broke it and said, I'm ready.
30:44
Speaker 2: Now talk to us about that, because again, I wanted
30:48
Speaker 2: to spell all these rumors that you was somebody clout
30:51
Speaker 2: chasing or anything like that, like that's not even the case.
30:54
Speaker 4: No, not at all.
30:55
Speaker 1: So you know, I'm not gonna lie that he hadn't
30:57
Speaker 1: ever hopped in my dms before, but I had never,
31:00
Speaker 1: so I guess he figured this is the next avenue
31:03
Speaker 1: that I.
31:03
Speaker 4: Have to go through to get to her.
31:05
Speaker 1: So his team reached out, booked me for a job,
31:08
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, and then like he wanted
31:11
Speaker 1: to meet before the job, and I was like, I've
31:13
Speaker 1: never had to meet the artists before a job.
31:16
Speaker 4: I to show up, they tell me what to do,
31:17
Speaker 4: and I do it, you know.
31:18
Speaker 1: So we ended up meeting after I set him up
31:21
Speaker 1: a couple of times or whatever, and then it went
31:24
Speaker 1: from like talking about the job to like, now we
31:27
Speaker 1: talk about personal stuff, and we just kind of like
31:31
Speaker 1: we ended up clicking and stuff, and we just have
31:33
Speaker 1: really honest conversations because I prefer the.
31:35
Speaker 4: Truth, you know.
31:36
Speaker 1: And when we decided that we were going to like
31:39
Speaker 1: make it official, what he did do that no one
31:42
Speaker 1: else had done before was he stuned in front of me.
31:44
Speaker 4: I mean it took a couple days.
31:45
Speaker 1: Probably like three four days, but he called every woman
31:48
Speaker 1: that he was dealing with at that time and told them, hey,
31:52
Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship, and I want you to respect that,
31:55
Speaker 1: So I mean, you can't continue whatever like he did
31:57
Speaker 1: that in front of me, you know what I'm saying.
31:58
Speaker 1: So that for me was like, Okay, I can give
32:01
Speaker 1: this like a serious chance.
32:04
Speaker 4: Three babies later, I mean, y'all know how that went.
32:06
Speaker 1: But it was a reason why I decided to like
32:10
Speaker 1: be with him like that, you know, because in the
32:11
Speaker 1: beginning he showed me everything that you're supposed to show
32:14
Speaker 1: someone that you're serious.
32:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I was privy to y'all relationship. I was
32:20
Speaker 2: around you guys a lot, and I saw the love
32:23
Speaker 2: and I saw the fact that he was somebody who
32:27
Speaker 2: supported you, and you supported him, you held him down.
32:30
Speaker 2: And we all know the story about during the pandemic,
32:33
Speaker 2: things weren't in the best place for the two of you,
32:37
Speaker 2: but the pandemic forced him to not have to go
32:40
Speaker 2: on tour to stay home and you two were working
32:43
Speaker 2: on the marriage at that time, which was successfully working
32:49
Speaker 2: out for you too. Fast forward to now, obviously, look this,
32:52
Speaker 2: I just want my listeners to know me, Chris O'Neill,
32:56
Speaker 2: our family and at the end of the day, that
32:58
Speaker 2: is the father of her kids. And this isn't a
33:00
Speaker 2: situation of bashing anybody, it's just having an honest conversation
33:04
Speaker 2: because I feel like, based on what's been happening in
33:06
Speaker 2: the press lately, a lot of people have all of
33:09
Speaker 2: these assumptions about you, and I reach out to you
33:12
Speaker 2: because I want people to know this too. I reach
33:14
Speaker 2: out to Christal to say, let's just have a conversation
33:17
Speaker 2: because I'm so protective of you that I know what
33:21
Speaker 2: people may think is going on or not, not saying
33:24
Speaker 2: that I know everything, but what I do know is
33:27
Speaker 2: there was love there at some point, so much so
33:31
Speaker 2: I was invited to the baby shower. You guys had
33:34
Speaker 2: a Bober Newle in Las Vegas a few months ago.
33:37
Speaker 2: Neani Leeks was there, Melody Holt was there because these
33:40
Speaker 2: are your friends too, and we just thought, like yes,
33:43
Speaker 2: like love wins again. Obviously, listen, say what you want
33:49
Speaker 2: to say about the situation, But what happened to where
33:53
Speaker 2: we saw this bower Newle and then we saw you
33:57
Speaker 2: post on Instagram that you're ex was allegedly in situations
34:04
Speaker 2: with other women and possibly another child.
34:07
Speaker 1: Okay, so I will say this because I'm not gonna
34:09
Speaker 1: say much, but you are in a relationship you love
34:12
Speaker 1: someone and you think that your relationship is this way right,
34:17
Speaker 1: and you think it's flowers and hearts and glitter falling
34:21
Speaker 1: from the sky, whatever you want to call it. And
34:24
Speaker 1: we had a great relationship, great you know, energy, everything.
34:29
Speaker 1: So when I found out that that wasn't the case,
34:32
Speaker 1: it was like for me, I'm never gonna be in
34:35
Speaker 1: a relationship. I don't care who you are, what you have,
34:37
Speaker 1: what you've accomplished in life where.
34:39
Speaker 4: I'm not being respected.
34:40
Speaker 1: Now I'm not saying that he disrespected me in my face,
34:42
Speaker 1: because that ain't never happened. But people sometimes when they
34:47
Speaker 1: go outside the house, they live a different life. And
34:50
Speaker 1: once I found out about that different life, for me,
34:52
Speaker 1: the only choice and option for myself was to leave.
34:56
Speaker 4: You know, I don't wish any battle his life. I
34:57
Speaker 4: pray for him every day.
34:58
Speaker 1: I wish him the best, but there are certain things
35:02
Speaker 1: that for me just once you cross that line, I'm
35:05
Speaker 1: not gonna accept.
35:06
Speaker 4: And the only reason why I put that post.
35:08
Speaker 1: And honestly I regretted it, but I did it because one,
35:11
Speaker 1: you know, I don't talk about our business like my
35:13
Speaker 1: personal relationship business, but it was more for like accountability
35:18
Speaker 1: like for me, because I did that it was like
35:21
Speaker 1: one to show him like I'm really serious, I'm really leaving,
35:24
Speaker 1: and two for me to be like, Okay, I put
35:27
Speaker 1: this up.
35:27
Speaker 4: I put my business out there, so I.
35:29
Speaker 1: Can't be dumb and fall back into a trap or
35:32
Speaker 1: back into the same pattern. Because now everything that I
35:36
Speaker 1: represent as a woman, and what I want to show
35:38
Speaker 1: women is that you can't accept just anything that someone
35:43
Speaker 1: gives you, like you're the good thing. You deserve to
35:45
Speaker 1: be treated the right way, whether it's in your face
35:48
Speaker 1: or behind your back. And so a lot of times
35:50
Speaker 1: I feel like women that are with men in this industry,
35:54
Speaker 1: they accept a lot, they take a lot, they tolerate
35:57
Speaker 1: a lot because of who that person is.
35:59
Speaker 4: Or a life style that they provide. And what I.
36:02
Speaker 1: Want to show women is that you should get out
36:06
Speaker 1: if you feel that way, no matter what someone has.
36:08
Speaker 1: Your self worth, your health, your life, your happiness, your
36:11
Speaker 1: mental health, all of that is more important than a lifestyle.
36:15
Speaker 1: You have to think more of yourself in which I
36:17
Speaker 1: absolutely do to get away from someone that doesn't see
36:21
Speaker 1: you for who you are. It doesn't treat you the
36:23
Speaker 1: way you're supposed to be treated. And if I want
36:26
Speaker 1: to be anything, it's the example of being strong. Like,
36:30
Speaker 1: don't get me wrong, it hurts like my heart is broken,
36:33
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Because that's someone I thought
36:35
Speaker 1: I was gonna spend forever with. But who I am
36:38
Speaker 1: spending forever with is myself and my children. And who
36:43
Speaker 1: I have to set a good example for are my children.
36:46
Speaker 1: And so I wanted my kids to grow up and
36:48
Speaker 1: I have a daughter to grow up and know to
36:51
Speaker 1: not accept just anything from anyone, and my sons to
36:54
Speaker 1: know I will be your ass if you ever treat
36:57
Speaker 1: a woman like that. So for me, it wasn't an
37:00
Speaker 1: easy decision, but it was an easy decision, you know
37:02
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because I've always known who I am,
37:05
Speaker 1: what I deserve, and what I deserve to be treated
37:08
Speaker 1: like with someone, And if you're not serving me in
37:10
Speaker 1: that way, then I gotta go.
37:11
Speaker 2: And I'm glad you you brought up something that I
37:15
Speaker 2: know for you to be, which is you are very
37:17
Speaker 2: private and you don't tell your business. So when I
37:22
Speaker 2: saw the post on Instagram, I'm like, this ain't the
37:25
Speaker 2: crystal that I know because miss Thing keeps everything close
37:29
Speaker 2: to her chest. I mean, you and I have personal conversations,
37:31
Speaker 2: but that's personal. But to see that display on Instagram,
37:35
Speaker 2: I was too surprised. And you're a virgo, and one
37:38
Speaker 2: thing I know about virgos, y'all don't like to talk
37:42
Speaker 2: about your business. And when I saw that, for me,
37:46
Speaker 2: I felt that, whatever is going on with my girl,
37:50
Speaker 2: this must be she must be at her wits end,
37:53
Speaker 2: like and I think it's one of those things when
37:56
Speaker 2: you look at waiting to exhil and how angela Bassett
37:59
Speaker 2: character just got to close up the closet and burn
38:01
Speaker 2: the shit on fire, you know what I'm saying.
38:08
Speaker 3: So to me, Crystal, I was like.
38:14
Speaker 2: She had a blackout moment and said, fuck it, that's
38:20
Speaker 2: what I got from it?
38:21
Speaker 3: Is that safe to say, like you just whatever was.
38:24
Speaker 2: Going on at that time, which you don't have to
38:25
Speaker 2: talk about, but did you just have like a blackout.
38:27
Speaker 3: Moment where you just at your wits end?
38:30
Speaker 4: You know?
38:31
Speaker 1: Honestly, I'm gonna be one hundred it wasn't a blackout moment.
38:34
Speaker 1: And throughout this whole situation, I've been known to like
38:38
Speaker 1: go crazy. I didn't and I still haven't, and I
38:41
Speaker 1: don't know about what this situation is. But like I'm
38:45
Speaker 1: a god fearing woman and I pray and all day.
38:47
Speaker 1: God walks with me all day and I speak to
38:49
Speaker 1: him all day. And when I felt something wasn't right,
38:53
Speaker 1: I got on my knees and I prayed to reveal
38:56
Speaker 1: to me what needed to be revealed, and Baber did
38:58
Speaker 1: he reveal it so oh for me. Once we had
39:03
Speaker 1: a conversation and it was like, okay, what's about to happen?
39:08
Speaker 4: And it wasn't. When people get.
39:10
Speaker 1: Caught, they kind of like, instead of like being remorseful,
39:15
Speaker 1: they'd want to try to find a scapegoat. And I
39:18
Speaker 1: just wasn't going for it. And it was just one night.
39:20
Speaker 1: It was just like, you know what, I'm cool, Like,
39:24
Speaker 1: I'm good. I don't know what my future holds for me,
39:27
Speaker 1: but what I do know is you won't be included
39:30
Speaker 1: in it, and I don't want to feel like this
39:32
Speaker 1: ever again. If I continue to be with you, I
39:35
Speaker 1: will feel like this. So I knew in that moment
39:37
Speaker 1: I just had to just walk away. So it was
39:41
Speaker 1: it was serious. When a person says to you they
39:42
Speaker 1: don't have to fear of you leaving them, it's like, okay,
39:46
Speaker 1: let me just show you. So I just had to
39:48
Speaker 1: like make a stand for myself and since that moment,
39:52
Speaker 1: I have been calm. I haven't yelled, argued, screams any
39:57
Speaker 1: of that, because it serves no purpose.
39:59
Speaker 4: Once I don't want to sit you.
40:00
Speaker 1: I'm about to take the emotion out of it so
40:03
Speaker 1: that I can can just walk away.
40:05
Speaker 4: And I've been you know, children, I have my moments,
40:07
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying.
40:08
Speaker 1: But they're getting further and further apart because every day
40:11
Speaker 1: I'm waking up with more peace in my spirit that
40:13
Speaker 1: I made the right choice and that is invaluable to me.
40:17
Speaker 3: Is there a world to where.
40:22
Speaker 2: Forgiveness can happen and a reconciliation can happen.
40:25
Speaker 4: I'm sorry.
40:30
Speaker 2: So one thing we know about men, Let's have a
40:35
Speaker 2: real conversation, Crystal. One thing we know about men in
40:39
Speaker 2: the industry, whether they're a rapper, a singer, an athlete,
40:43
Speaker 2: or whatever, most of them have the ego the size
40:48
Speaker 2: of Bigfoot. You know, they have a big ego. And
40:55
Speaker 2: sometimes these men feel like I have giving you this
41:00
Speaker 2: amazing lifestyle. You don't have to work, you have a
41:04
Speaker 2: credit card that's limitless. I'm able to give you this
41:09
Speaker 2: big house, these nice cars, he's fancy jewelry, And sometimes
41:14
Speaker 2: these men feel like, if I'm able to give you
41:18
Speaker 2: that you should then they should be there. Yes, but
41:22
Speaker 2: I'm gonna gag you. I'm gonna gag you. A lot
41:25
Speaker 2: of women also feel that way. That girl, if you
41:29
Speaker 2: chilling and have a good life, if this man want
41:32
Speaker 2: to stick his dick in something allegedly or or whatever,
41:37
Speaker 2: then girl, turn turn the other cheek.
41:40
Speaker 3: And keep it moving. What do you say to women
41:42
Speaker 3: who think that way?
41:43
Speaker 4: I'm glad, I'm glad you asked that question.
41:46
Speaker 1: So in the beginning of all of this and I
41:49
Speaker 1: put that post, and even now to this day, the
41:52
Speaker 1: amount of women I'm so disappointed that encouraged me to
41:58
Speaker 1: stay instead those same to me, women that are like
42:01
Speaker 1: I've been in my marriage twenty years, thirty years and
42:03
Speaker 1: all of this and this is what happens, and just
42:05
Speaker 1: accept it or get you somebody on the side, or
42:08
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, as long as he paying
42:09
Speaker 1: for this.
42:10
Speaker 4: You got me fucked up.
42:11
Speaker 1: And I'm sorry that at your old age that you
42:14
Speaker 1: are still dealing with that and you don't respect yourself
42:17
Speaker 1: enough to walk the fuck away.
42:19
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying for.
42:20
Speaker 1: Me, I don't care what you have because when I
42:23
Speaker 1: wasn't a broke bitch when you met me.
42:25
Speaker 4: I was making great money, you know what I'm saying.
42:27
Speaker 4: So that is not a fear of mine.
42:29
Speaker 1: I have a hustle spirit, so I don't care how
42:32
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get it, but I'm gonna get it, you
42:33
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. So there's no amount of money,
42:37
Speaker 1: monetary material, nothing that is worth my fucking self respect.
42:44
Speaker 1: My grandmother raised me, and she'd be turning over her
42:47
Speaker 1: grave if she knew I was accepting something like that.
42:50
Speaker 1: And it's just it's sad that a lot of these women,
42:52
Speaker 1: they really feel like that, like you don't have enough
42:55
Speaker 1: worth in yourself and belief in yourself that you can
42:58
Speaker 1: get out and leave this person and figure out something else.
43:01
Speaker 1: What it is to me, it says lazy, what it
43:03
Speaker 1: is says I just I'll deal with whatever because he
43:06
Speaker 1: pays my bills. I'm sorry not doing that. I'm not
43:10
Speaker 1: doing that.
43:11
Speaker 4: I don't care who you are.
43:12
Speaker 1: And it's sad because I just really wish women will
43:14
Speaker 1: wake up one day and realize their power that they have,
43:17
Speaker 1: because just like a man could do it, so can you.
43:20
Speaker 4: You see these.
43:20
Speaker 1: Women on the Star Street with the little little orange
43:23
Speaker 1: things on and be doing a construction.
43:25
Speaker 4: The bitches are strong. They do the same job that
43:27
Speaker 4: a man does.
43:28
Speaker 1: So why you think and go to a meeting and
43:30
Speaker 1: go do this and do all that the same thing
43:32
Speaker 1: that the man does. You know what I'm saying, Like,
43:34
Speaker 1: just because a man got a lot of money, don't
43:36
Speaker 1: mean you can't have a lot of money.
43:37
Speaker 4: You can make it yourself.
43:38
Speaker 2: No, I agree with you, and your story reminds me
43:40
Speaker 2: a lot of Melody Hope, who I know you're friends
43:43
Speaker 2: with as well. She and I also have this conversation
43:46
Speaker 2: because a lot of women told her she should stay
43:49
Speaker 2: in her situation because they felt like girl a magna cheat.
43:53
Speaker 2: So if a rich mag gon cheat on you, at
43:55
Speaker 2: least you get to enjoy the lifestyle. But one thing
43:58
Speaker 2: I do know about you is, again going back to
44:00
Speaker 2: even how y'all met, you were never pressed, going back
44:03
Speaker 2: to you working with Carlos King on a reality show,
44:07
Speaker 2: you were not pressed about it. And I would never
44:11
Speaker 2: even assume that you would stay in a situation that
44:15
Speaker 2: you felt like wasn't serving you your greatest potential, because
44:19
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, you're not pressed.
44:21
Speaker 3: And one thing I want the world to know about you.
44:23
Speaker 3: You made it this far.
44:26
Speaker 2: Without the help of a man, So what makes anyone
44:31
Speaker 2: think you can't do it.
44:32
Speaker 1: Again because they didn't step out on the own and
44:34
Speaker 1: have the strength to walk away. But like I said,
44:37
Speaker 1: I'm not a conformist, and just because you want to
44:40
Speaker 1: tell me your story doesn't mean that I'm gonna fall
44:43
Speaker 1: I'm gonna follow that advice because you probably should take
44:46
Speaker 1: some advice out of my book. I I just I
44:48
Speaker 1: just don't understand it. I don't get it. Like when
44:51
Speaker 1: you're now, when you get married, no one's perfect, No
44:54
Speaker 1: one's perfect. So you go through things, you go through obstacles,
44:57
Speaker 1: people make mistakes, and when you're married, it's like, oh, okay,
45:01
Speaker 1: I can forgive this. I can forgive that we're starting fresh,
45:05
Speaker 1: we're starting over. But when something becomes a pattern, that's
45:08
Speaker 1: who you are.
45:10
Speaker 4: That's not a mistake.
45:11
Speaker 1: I can speak because from experience, I feel like when
45:15
Speaker 1: they first make a mistake or the second time they
45:16
Speaker 1: make a mistake, you kind of like lie to yourself
45:19
Speaker 1: and play your mind to thinking that okay, that happened,
45:23
Speaker 1: and now my life is perfect and now we're good,
45:25
Speaker 1: and so now I can take a mad faced value
45:27
Speaker 1: when really that's not the case. All they do is
45:30
Speaker 1: learn how to get slicker. So I just I am
45:33
Speaker 1: not a person that I want to go crazy. I
45:34
Speaker 1: don't want to stress every time you walk out the
45:36
Speaker 1: door or any of those kind of things like.
45:38
Speaker 4: That's not a way to live at all.
45:42
Speaker 1: That creates that Really like a person basically like lying
45:47
Speaker 1: to you all the time, manipulating you all that, making
45:49
Speaker 1: you think that another life is something, and then when
45:51
Speaker 1: you confront them, they gaslight you and make you think
45:54
Speaker 1: that you're crazy.
45:55
Speaker 4: That's mental abuse, you know what I'm saying.
45:57
Speaker 1: That's emotional abuse, because now you're looking at yourself and
46:01
Speaker 1: you're feeling bad, and you're like, damn, what's wrong with
46:04
Speaker 1: me that I can't I can't be trusting. I can't
46:07
Speaker 1: I'm thinking this way and I'm thinking that way. No,
46:09
Speaker 1: you're thinking that way because God is trying to tell
46:12
Speaker 1: you something. Your intuition, it's trying to tell you something.
46:14
Speaker 1: But then you got this person that's making you think
46:16
Speaker 1: that you're crazy. So for me, I just got to
46:19
Speaker 1: our living like that.
46:20
Speaker 2: I'm just happy you were able to have the strength
46:24
Speaker 2: to do it because I know that leaving any situation
46:28
Speaker 2: when it involves your family.
46:29
Speaker 3: Isn't easy.
46:30
Speaker 2: And what was interesting is Vibica Fox on her show
46:34
Speaker 2: made a comment. Not sure if you saw it, but
46:37
Speaker 2: she obviously was like, go get counseling for yourself so
46:39
Speaker 2: that you will know that you deserve a man to
46:42
Speaker 2: treat you like a queen. Stop staying for the fame
46:45
Speaker 2: and Instagram post.
46:46
Speaker 4: You know, I.
46:47
Speaker 1: Appreciate Vibica for, you know, trying to be supportive as
46:51
Speaker 1: a woman, but it kind of was like, you're saying
46:54
Speaker 1: misinformation because I wasn't waiting for an Instagram post or
46:57
Speaker 1: for a lifestyle or for Chanelle bag.
46:59
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
47:00
Speaker 1: And I didn't stay for that and I didn't accept
47:01
Speaker 1: anything for that and definitely don't get no STDs.
47:05
Speaker 4: Thank you God, you know what I'm saying.
47:07
Speaker 1: But again, what she was trying to say, I'm just
47:10
Speaker 1: not that girl.
47:11
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
47:12
Speaker 1: I know my self worth and it just happened that
47:15
Speaker 1: my marriage is public and so the breakup is public.
47:19
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
47:19
Speaker 1: But I'm not one of those weak girls that is
47:21
Speaker 1: just gonna fall for anything or accept anything for a
47:24
Speaker 1: lifestyle period.
47:27
Speaker 4: But thank you, Nibica. I appreciate it, but that's not me.
47:30
Speaker 2: And lastly, what advice would you give women who are
47:34
Speaker 2: currently in a marriage to where they just feel like, girl,
47:41
Speaker 2: let me just stay because I have nothing to worry about.
47:46
Speaker 2: But yes, when he leaves the house, my stomach hurts.
47:50
Speaker 2: I'm constantly maybe checking his phone. I'm in a situation
47:54
Speaker 2: to where my kids see that their mom is stressed.
48:00
Speaker 4: Then guess what, you do have something to worry about.
48:03
Speaker 4: Just because of.
48:03
Speaker 1: How a roof is over your head and you can
48:05
Speaker 1: take trips whenever you want, doesn't mean that that's a
48:07
Speaker 1: stress free life because you're stressing yourself out. No one
48:11
Speaker 1: deserves to live like that, No one that man. Because
48:14
Speaker 1: stress and anxiety and manifests.
48:16
Speaker 4: Into physical in medical And you.
48:19
Speaker 1: Get stressed and you got highpertension, your hair's falling now,
48:22
Speaker 1: your skin is bad. You can't eat, you ain't drinking
48:24
Speaker 1: no water. That's something to worry about, you know what
48:26
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And if you are okay with looking crazy
48:29
Speaker 1: and stressed out and walking around the house, row ain't
48:31
Speaker 1: bathing two days and your kids are driving you crazy
48:34
Speaker 1: because you worried about.
48:35
Speaker 4: What this man is doing, that's a problem. That's a problem.
48:38
Speaker 1: That's a condition of your heart being broken, and you
48:41
Speaker 1: don't even realize that it's broken because you're pacifying and
48:45
Speaker 1: gluing these little pieces together in your heart with trips
48:48
Speaker 1: and bags and shoes and jewelry and all that stuff
48:51
Speaker 1: in your mind and your front. So you think that like, Okay,
48:54
Speaker 1: I'm good, I'm fine, like it's working out, when you're
48:57
Speaker 1: dying inside.
48:58
Speaker 4: No one deserves to live like.
49:00
Speaker 2: That, especially you, baby. So what's next for Crystal? Like
49:04
Speaker 2: what can the world expect from you? Because I'm happy
49:10
Speaker 2: to see that my girl with her red lips, honey,
49:12
Speaker 2: is looking good, looking, refreshed, looking vibrant.
49:16
Speaker 3: What's next for you, baby?
49:18
Speaker 1: Well, you know, we have the restaurant Johnny's Chicken and
49:20
Speaker 1: Waffles in Atlanta. We're opening up three more by the
49:25
Speaker 1: end of the year, one in Midtown, one in Dallas,
49:27
Speaker 1: and one in San Antonio, as well as my cookbook
49:30
Speaker 1: will be coming out sometimes top of the year.
49:33
Speaker 4: And I have other few projects lined up. You'll hear
49:35
Speaker 4: about them soon.
49:36
Speaker 2: Well, I better be a part of one of them,
49:38
Speaker 2: because I need to get you back on reality TV, honey,
49:41
Speaker 2: I hope so.
49:41
Speaker 4: But you know, just make sure it's the cast is great.
49:46
Speaker 4: I got some paint up aggression of it, and.
49:52
Speaker 3: Don't worry, we will. We won't work on that together. Happy,
49:56
Speaker 3: That's it and that's all I want from you too.
50:00
Speaker 3: So what you know? You are a beautiful girl.
50:03
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying.
50:05
Speaker 3: You know you're a bad check. You know you're a
50:07
Speaker 3: good Crystal. You know you know Crystal. You know you
50:09
Speaker 3: pine girl.
50:10
Speaker 2: So is Crystal. Dating is Crystal? You know have men
50:18
Speaker 2: been your dms Crystal lately?
50:20
Speaker 4: The wrong one the wrong ones?
50:27
Speaker 1: And then it's like, I'm gonna say this to you
50:29
Speaker 1: men when a woman is going through these type of things,
50:32
Speaker 1: like give her some time because right now you're gonna
50:35
Speaker 1: catch every piece of that ain't meant for you.
50:38
Speaker 4: So you know right now I'm just working on me.
50:40
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. Dating is not really on
50:43
Speaker 4: my radar. You know what I'm saying. I'm not saying
50:46
Speaker 4: that I don't hind a body manbe style every day.
50:48
Speaker 1: It might takes me a look good morning, but I'm
50:50
Speaker 1: not like physically out there.
50:53
Speaker 4: I ain't outside.
50:54
Speaker 2: You ain't outside. Although there's some men who wants to
50:56
Speaker 2: come inside, but leave it.
51:02
Speaker 4: This is the wrong.
51:05
Speaker 3: For them.
51:08
Speaker 1: But I will say, Crystal is not in love with
51:12
Speaker 1: anyone right now?
51:13
Speaker 3: Are you done dating men in the music industry?
51:17
Speaker 4: You know what? Only God knows.
51:20
Speaker 1: I have been saying that as of late, like I
51:22
Speaker 1: don't want anybody in industry and all that stuff because
51:25
Speaker 1: you never know what it comes with. But then on
51:27
Speaker 1: the other side of the coin, you can never say never.
51:30
Speaker 1: And then also the fact that, like you had said earlier, oh,
51:34
Speaker 1: all men cheat, I refuse to accept that and to
51:37
Speaker 1: believe that because maybe men have cheated and some of
51:40
Speaker 1: the men have learned their lesson.
51:42
Speaker 4: But I'm not going to accept that.
51:45
Speaker 1: Just this is just a part of life and being
51:47
Speaker 1: with someone, absolutely not, because if you cheat, I'm.
51:49
Speaker 4: Out, you know what I'm saying.
51:51
Speaker 1: So for me, I am an advocate for love and
51:54
Speaker 1: being in love and all those things. So whatever God
51:57
Speaker 1: has for me, I'm going to be open to it
52:00
Speaker 1: once I've healed. But for right now, I just want
52:03
Speaker 1: to have fun, you know what I'm saying. I don't
52:05
Speaker 1: want anything serious. I just want to enjoy life and
52:09
Speaker 1: whatever that may bring, I'm.
52:10
Speaker 4: Open to it.
52:11
Speaker 3: And you deserve the best. Baby. So Crystal, where can
52:13
Speaker 3: people find you? Follow you and support you? My love.
52:17
Speaker 4: Well, you know, I.
52:18
Speaker 1: Only really mess with Insta because I've got time to
52:20
Speaker 1: be on all them socials all days. You can find
52:23
Speaker 1: me on Instagram at It's crystals men. That's really the
52:26
Speaker 1: only social media I'm actually on.
52:28
Speaker 2: Well, thank you baby, and you guys may be seeing Crystal.
52:34
Speaker 3: On the tele bench of Green Sales. So anyways, I
52:37
Speaker 3: love you, baby, and I shall see you soon, my love, I.
52:41
Speaker 4: Love you too.
52:42
Speaker 1: It's always a pleasure to speak with you, baby.
52:50
Speaker 2: I can talk to Crystal all day. I love her
52:52
Speaker 2: so much. And the best part about this conversation was the.
52:57
Speaker 3: Advice that she gave.
52:59
Speaker 2: Women who choose to stay in relationships or marriages that
53:05
Speaker 2: doesn't serve the higher potential anymore. And that, to me
53:10
Speaker 2: is the lesson in all of this. Regardless of this
53:15
Speaker 2: person having money, or a lifestyle or a private jet, nothing, nothing,
53:21
Speaker 2: can be more important than your mental health. And the
53:25
Speaker 2: fact that Crystal decided to leave a situation that wasn't
53:28
Speaker 2: serving her because she wasn't being the best woman she
53:32
Speaker 2: could be through herself and her kids means the world
53:36
Speaker 2: to me. And what's so interesting is it reminds me
53:39
Speaker 2: a lot of Melody Chari from Love and marriage hunts Bill,
53:43
Speaker 2: who was also told to stay in her marriage just
53:46
Speaker 2: because that's what you're supposed to do. And I'm happy
53:50
Speaker 2: that we were able to have a deep conversation to
53:53
Speaker 2: where Crystals say like, no, if you're unhappy in your marriage,
53:58
Speaker 2: no amount of money or lifestyle, it's worth it. Thank
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