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How to Release Shame and Reclaim Your Identity - A Hypnosis Session for Deep Emotional Healing · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing.
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  Genuine issues. Brought to you by The
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  Hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty, Adam Cox. These recordings took place live
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  from Adam Smith in London's world famous Harley Street.
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  So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. Hi, it's Adam here and you're
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  about to listen to a hypnosis session all about self
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  acceptance and also dealing with those perilous risks that feel
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  like they might be causing problems at any moment.
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  A lot of people have heard of the metaphor or the story of the
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  Sword of Damocles and Damocles was living his life and there
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  was a God dangling a sword over their head and at any point they
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  could drop it and that's it Damocles life is over.
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  But the sword of Damocles is still used in everyday modern
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  language to represent something that feels precarious that
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  actually something could just go wrong.
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  Some people will use the phrase that they're waiting for the
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  shoe to drop. This is also a proxy for this
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  Sword of Damocles metaphor. It's something could go wrong.
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  It's a a risk or a connotation or some kind of problem or
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  unfinished business. And the client I was working
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  with felt that they had multiple swords over their head.
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  Not just one, but multiple. Now think how precarious you
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  would feel if there was actually a sword hanging over your head
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  and it could drop at any moment. And then imagine 5 or 6 or 7 or
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  8 swords. It's going to feel daunting.
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  You would feel on edge all of the time.
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  And this client felt that way. And this client also had had a
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  recent dream where there was a woman in the river tied to a
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  rope around her waist and got a sense that there was something
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  about this woman that was them from when they were five years
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  old. And this hypnosis session fuses
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  these two metaphors together. So we deal with the swords over
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  the head using submodality shifts and reframes and distance
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  and even material, and then actually we turn the sword,
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  rather than a source of danger into something useful.
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  The sword then becomes a tool, and that tool is the ability to
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  have full self acceptance and to be untethered from whether
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  whatever is preventing that life beyond that self acceptance.
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  Because there's a wonderful thing that if you don't accept
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  yourself fully, then how can you expect other people to accept
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  you? And if you're trying to hide or
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  be discreet about who you really are, actually, that can be used
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  as a weapon of shame or judgement against you.
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  And one of the most empowered things that you can do is be
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  immune to that by having full self acceptance of who you are.
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  But it can feel daunting. It can feel daunting because
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  what if other people reject or humiliate or.
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  Shame. And that's.
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  Why it's such a courageous thing to do.
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  This session does not obligate the client to Cut the Rope, but
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  gives them the option to Cut the Rope when they feel the time is
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  right. It's very, very important about
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  issues of identity level acceptance that happens on the.
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  Terms that the client. Wants If you force someone into
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  accepting, then that is not self acceptance, that is forced
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  acceptance and that quite often creates resistance.
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  So the invitation is there, but whether or not they do that,
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  that's down to the individual. What I would encourage you to do
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  is to think of something that you haven't fully accepted yet.
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  And one of my favourite frames of reference for self acceptance
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  is my hairline, which as you can see I have none.
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  But there was a time in my late 20s, early 30s, I was.
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  Losing my hair. And I was doing what a lot of
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  men would do, and that would kind of fluff up their hair and
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  try and mask it, and it wasn't fooling anyone.
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  And when people would mock, let's say my increasing
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  boldness. It used to.
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  Sting because I hadn't accepted it myself at the point where I
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  shaved all my hair off and personally I think I.
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  Look pretty good. Without having any hair, it was
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  impenetrable. If someone tried to mock me for
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  having no hair, honestly wouldn't have any impact on me
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  whatsoever. Because if you fully accept
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  something, it becomes immune to kind of.
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  Shame judgement. Humiliation and contrast that.
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  I mean, I think I would look ridiculous if I here I am in 47
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  years old with a comb over. It would fool no one.
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  It would be evidence that I haven't accepted myself and it
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  could easily be used as a weapon to cause shame or humiliation.
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  So that's my personal reference. I want you to think of what is
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  it in your life that you haven't fully accepted yet, even more so
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  if it's something that you can't really change.
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  Or don't. Want to change?
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  That's the ideal thing. If it's your weight, you could
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  accept that weight. Or you could accept your weight
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  while making a decision to change it, if you decide to do
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  that. So that's what I want you to
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  think of. What is the thing that you
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  either want to accept or make a resolution to change?
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  But they're not mutually exclusive.
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  You could accept something while attempting to change it.
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  You could accept that you have the intelligence that you have
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  or that you are the kind of personality that you have and
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  still work on changing some things that might improve and
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  give you more of what you want. That's my challenge for you.
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  If you like the idea of working with me, I would encourage you
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  to look in the description. There is a suitability test.
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  And there are. Different ways that you can work
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  with me and there's a link there in the description.
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  So check that out. And where to find that, by the
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  way, is the more info. There tends to be like a little
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  two line summary, but if you click more info, it kind of
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  expands and then you've got all the links to different
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  resources. So check that out.
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  And for now, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that resourceful feeling of calm and
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  relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful feeling of relaxation, as if any tension, stress and
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  worries. Are starting to.
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  Leave your body every time you breathe out.
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  Breathing in, relaxation, exhaling tension.
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  That's it. Scan your body for any clues of
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  tension, maybe in your forehead, your jaw, your neck, or your
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  shoulders, and just allow yourself to let go.
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  That's it. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you breathe. And as you breathe out, just let
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  everything you've been carrying, all of it, rest for now.
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  Just for now. Because you've been carrying so
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  much for so long and you're allowed, entitled, justified to
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  put it down, even if it's just for a few minutes.
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  And with each breath you drift down deeper into this quiet,
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  comfortable, restful state. As I countdown from 5:00 to
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  1:00, I want you to imagine drifting deeper down to a place
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  in nature, deep down within your mind, your imagination.
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  Field, perhaps close to a river. Five.
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  Drifting down to that field 4 Even deeper 3 So comfortable
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  now. 2 Almost all the way there, one just resting here.
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  Perhaps you could imagine yourself standing in a vast open
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  field. The sky above you is wide and
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  still, and the light is soft. Not too bright, not too dark.
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  This field is your field, and you are safe here.
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  Maybe, maybe there's a gentle breeze.
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  Maybe the field is grass or a Meadow.
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  And here, in this place, your unconscious mind can reveal
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  things to you with perfect clarity.
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  And as you stand there, you become aware of something above
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  you. And just imagine being there in
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  the field and looking up. Floating above you, suspended in
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  the air, are a number of swords. Perhaps these are ancient
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  medieval swords, each one representing something you've
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  been carrying, something that has demanded your attention,
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  your energy, your worry. And they just hang there, as if
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  held by invisible threads. And you already know the
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  different things that each sword represents.
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  A problem to solve, a risk, unfinished business, echoes or
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  attachments of the past difficulties.
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  You know what those swords represent, but look at them
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  without fear. Just look at them honestly and
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  notice how heavy the air feels beneath them, how long you've
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  been standing beneath them, how much of your energy has gone
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  into simply watching them, anticipating whether or not they
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  may drop. And now, as you keep watching,
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  something interesting begins to happen.
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  The swords, without you doing anything, begin to change.
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  The steel, bright and hard, begins to soften just a little,
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  just at the edges first, and then more.
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  And they are still there. You can still see them, but
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  somehow they feel less sharp, less threatening.
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  They are still part of your. Life, but less scary, less
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  precarious. And one by one you notice some
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  of them drifting higher, just a little further away, as if the
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  threads were pulling on the swords, taking them away from
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  you. And they don't need to
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  disappear, but they give you room to breathe, to stand, to
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  exist, to live without needing to flinch or brace.
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  And I want you to appreciate that some of those swords and
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  mirages, echoes of the past, they look real, but only because
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  they were in the past, and now perhaps less so.
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  And at least one of these swords is close to being resolved. 1
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  less sword to worry about. And I want you to imagine some
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  of these swords, even in a worst case scenario, are harmless.
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  And those swords you can turn to wood.
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  I want you to imagine less swords.
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  Blunt swords, wooden swords, or just almost a hallucination of a
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  sword. It looks real, but if it ever
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  did drop, it would pass straight through you like a figment of
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  your imagination. And I want you to feel.
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  Feel that it is less precarious now you feel more resourceful.
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  In fact, one of the swords was metal was real.
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  But I want you to imagine it drops not on to you, but by your
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  side. There is one less sword to worry
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  about, and now you get to use it for you rather than against you.
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  Feel the weight of that sword and I want you to imagine there
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  you are in that open field, and not far away from the field is a
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  river. You can hear the running water.
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  Take that sword with you, the metal 1 You may need it.
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  So walk toward the sound of that water, and there before you is
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  the river, moving fast, powerful but not frightening.
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  And there, in the middle of the current, you see her.
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  You see a woman and it feels like you recognize her, maybe in
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  a dream, or maybe there's a quality in the face that reminds
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  you. You can see yourself in her and
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  see that woman standing in the rushing water, a rope around her
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  waist, feathered to a firm metal pole upstream, and she is still
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  steady, not swept away and not drowning, just holding.
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  She looks at you and you recognise her, almost like
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  there's a part of you that's been standing there since the
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  age of five, just holding on, because holding on felt like the
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  only safe thing to do. And this woman there in the
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  dress, there in the river, has been so brave for so long to
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  stand in that current and not be swept away, to hold the rope,
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  not out of fear or weakness, but sheer endurance.
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  This is simply what she does. And you can imagine walking into
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  the water now. You move toward her.
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  You stand with her, not trying to pull the rope, not telling
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  her what to do, just being there beside her.
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  And perhaps for the very first time, she doesn't feel alone in
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  the current. Maybe you could imagine looking
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  at her in those deadpan eyes, not needing to say words but
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  conveying them. I see you.
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  I have always been you, and you are not something to be ashamed
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  of. as you accept her, see her expression change, but feel
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  something shift within you. Because as you accept her, you
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  accept that five year old within you.
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  As she feels it, you feel it. And now you become aware that
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  you are still holding something in your hand.
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  One of the swords. The sword is no longer a threat.
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  It's a tool. And this sword is not sharp with
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  fear anymore, but it is clear and honest.
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  It carries the weight of everything you have endured and
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  the wisdom of all you have learned and survived.
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  And you look at the rope, the one tied around her waist, and
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  you understand something, something important, that the
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  rope is not the attraction. The rope is not who she is.
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  The rope is simply the shame, the secrecy, the need to hold so
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  still for so long that she almost forgot what it felt like
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  to simply be herself. And you know, in this moment,
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  that the rope can be cut. Not because you have to, and not
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  because anyone is forcing you, but because you are the one who
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  wields the sword and you are the one who gets to choose.
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  This is your river, your sword, your rope, and if and when the
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  time is right, whenever that is, you have the means and the right
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  to set her free. She could spend forever in that
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  river. She can manage that.
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  She can endure that. She has for so long.
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  But what if she wants to live life beyond the river?
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  You don't have to cut it today, right here in this moment.
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  It's simply knowing that you can, that the choice belongs to
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  you. And maybe one day, in a dream,
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  she asks you to set her free. A message from your intuition,
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  or maybe God, that the time is now right.
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  That it is no longer a choice of one or the other, but a way.
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  A way of bringing 2 important things together.
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  The choice is yours and only yours.
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  And that sword that once hung above you, threatening, is now
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  in your hand, ready to serve you whenever you are ready.
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  And as you stand there in the river beside her, look up and
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  see. For now, there are no swords
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  hanging over you and the water rushing past, but manageable, no
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  longer overwhelming. Give yourself permission to feel
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  something. Space, room to breathe, that was
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  once feeling like pressure now feels like acceptance.
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  And your faith, that relationship with God that has
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  always been yours, is here too. How could it not be?
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  It's there with you. It is the river, it is the rope,
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  it is the sword. It is you.
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  It is the woman. It never left.
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  And you hear something quietly underneath the sound of the
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  water. Not a voice of condemnation, but
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  something softer, something that is no new since before you were
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  5. It has never once stopped
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  knowing you. So allow that that voice of
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  acceptance to settle into your body.
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  Now. Let it move into your chest,
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  your shoulders, your hands, because you are not diminished
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  by what you carry, but you are remarkable because of how long
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  you have carried it and how much life you have built in spite of
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  it. and I wonder what those final
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  few chapters of that life will reveal.
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  So you leave the river knowing you can return to Cut the Rope
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  whenever you choose. And imagine floating up into the
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  sky and returning into your body as you take a deep breath in
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  through your nose and out through your nose and wiggle
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  your fingers and wiggle your toes, connecting and calibrating
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you starting to count. 123.
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  Waking up 456 More alert 7-8 Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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