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- Lucas: Luna, I want to ask you something. When was the last time you actually looked at your calendar and asked yourself: did this task drain me or fuel me? Luna: Honestly? Probably never. I look at my calendar to see what's coming up, not what already happened. Lucas: Exactly. And that's the gap. Most of us treat our schedule as a forward-facing obligation machine. But a few months ago, I started doing what I call a weekly energy audit. It's a fifteen-minute reflection every Sunday evening where I go through the past week, task by task, and assign each one a simple label: drain, neutral, or fuel. Luna: Okay, I love the concept. But how granular do you get? Like, do you rate every single email? Lucas: No, I keep it high-level. I look at the major blocks: meetings, deep work sessions, one-on-ones, even specific projects. The key is to be honest about how you felt during and right after. For example, I noticed that a weekly status meeting I'd been attending for two years consistently landed in the drain column. It was a thirty-minute update where I barely spoke. So I asked if I could receive the notes instead. Luna: And they said yes? Lucas: They did. And that one change freed up about two hours a month. But more importantly, it removed a recurring source of low-level frustration. The energy audit helped me see patterns I'd been blind to. Luna: I'm curious: did you track this for a specific period? Or is it an ongoing thing? Lucas: I committed to four weeks. I wanted enough data to see trends. And after those four weeks, I made three changes: I cut that status meeting, I moved my most demanding writing work to ten a.m. instead of two p.m., and I started blocking out the first hour of my day for a single focused task. Turns out, my peak energy window is nine to eleven. I was wasting it on email. Luna: That's the classic mistake. You're fresh, and you let the inbox hijack your best cognitive hours. Lucas: Right. And the data made it undeniable. I had a spreadsheet with three columns—task, time, energy rating—and after a month, the pattern was obvious. But I'll be honest: the hardest part was actually sitting down to do the audit. It feels like a chore when you're already tired on a Sunday. Luna: So what kept you going? Lucas: I made it a ritual. I pour a cup of tea, put on a specific playlist, and treat it as a wind-down from the week. It's almost meditative. And the payoff is that I start Monday with a cleaner calendar and clearer head. Luna: Look, I want to push back a little. I think there's a risk that we label everything as drain or fuel based on immediate feeling, when some draining tasks are actually strategic and worth keeping. For example, networking events. I usually find them draining, but one of them led to a collaboration that defined my entire quarter. Lucas: That's a really good point. The energy audit isn't about eliminating everything that feels hard. It's about distinguishing between productive discomfort and pure waste. I think you need a second layer: after you label a task as drain, ask yourself: was this drain worth it? If the answer is yes, you keep it. But if it's no, you cut it or delegate it. Luna: Exactly. I'd argue that some of the most important career moves come from tasks that are temporarily draining but have high long-term return. That networking event felt like a slog, but the project that came out of it energized me for months. Lucas: So the audit becomes a tool for intentionality, not elimination. And I think that's where most advice on boundaries gets it wrong. It's not about saying no to everything that feels uncomfortable. It's about saying no to the things that drain you without delivering value. Luna: Right. And the only way to know which is which is to actually track it. I'm going to try this for a month. Lucas: If you do, I'd love to hear what you find. And honestly, if this episode helped you rethink your approach to your week, that's the link — buy me a coffee dot com slash fexingo. We keep this show ad-free, and listener support is what makes that possible. Luna: Yeah, even a small contribution goes a long way. And it helps us keep bringing conversations like this without any sponsors. Lucas: So back to the audit. One thing I want to mention is the research behind why this works. A 2023 study from the University of Michigan looked at decision fatigue and task-switching costs. They found that the average knowledge worker switches tasks every eleven minutes, and each switch costs about twenty-three minutes of lost focus. Luna: Twenty-three minutes? That's brutal. Lucas: It is. And it's cumulative. By the end of the day, you've lost hours. The energy audit helps you identify which tasks are causing the most context switches. For me, it was that status meeting. It was right in the middle of my prime focus block, so I'd come out of it and need twenty minutes to get back into flow. Cutting it had a multiplier effect. Luna: So the audit isn't just about subjective feeling. It's also about objective productivity metrics. I like that. Lucas: Right. And the beauty is that you don't need any fancy tools. A notebook works. Or a simple spreadsheet. The act of writing it down forces you to think. Luna: What about unexpected tasks? Like, your boss drops a last-minute request. Do you include those in the audit? Lucas: Absolutely. Those are often the most instructive. Because they reveal your default response. If you always say yes to urgent requests, you'll see a pattern of drain without necessarily the payoff. And that's a signal to set a boundary. Luna: I had a colleague who started using a version of this to decide which meetings to accept. She would ask herself: will this meeting give me energy or take it? And she became known for declining meetings that were just updates. Lucas: Which is smart, because those can almost always be an email. I think one of the biggest drains in modern work is the meeting that could have been a document. Luna: Or a Slack message. So, if someone listening wants to start this tonight, what's the first step? Lucas: Set aside fifteen minutes. I'd say Sunday evening works well because it's a natural reflection point. Then look at your calendar from the past week. For each major block, write down the task, the time, and a simple rating: one for drain, two for neutral, three for fuel. Don't overthink it. Do it for four weeks. Luna: And then what? You look for patterns. Lucas: Exactly. You'll probably see that certain types of tasks or certain times of day consistently get low ratings. That's where you make changes. Maybe you move your deep work to your peak hours. Maybe you delegate a recurring report. Maybe you ask to shift a meeting. The key is that you're making decisions based on data, not just how you feel in the moment. Luna: I think there's also a psychological benefit. When you see it written down, you realize that you have more control than you think. You're not a passive victim of your calendar. Lucas: That's the biggest insight I took away. I used to feel resentful about certain obligations, but I never questioned them. The audit gave me permission to ask: is this really necessary? And often, the answer was no. Luna: Okay, I'm convinced. I'm starting mine tonight. And I'll report back next week. Lucas: I'd love that. I think we might have a new segment idea: Luna's energy audit diaries. Luna: We'll see. No promises. But I am curious to see what the data says. I have a feeling my two p.m. meeting is going to get a one.