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Is Remarriage a Sin_ Biblical Truth You_ve Never Heard(M4A_128K) · truthunedited

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Speaker 1: By the end of this teaching, you will understand the
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true Biblical stance on divorce and remarriage. You will see
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clearly what God defines as covenant, what counts as grounds
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for release, and how to walk forward, whether in repentance, reconciliation,
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or restored freedom. Few topics in the Church carry more silence, division,
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or agony than this one. Some pulpits refuse to speak
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on it, Others twist the truth to match modern norms,
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and meanwhile, real people are left in limbo, remarried with
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guilt or divorced, and unsure if they're even allowed to
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love again. But behind every legal paper and broken vow
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lies a deeper question. What does God say about covenant?
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And when a covenant breaks, is it ever really broken?
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Jesus spoke boldly about divorce, Paul gave warnings and instructions
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that many have never heard taught, and the entire Bible,
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from Genesis to Revelation, reveals a God who takes marriage
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more seriously than we do and also redeems more deeply
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where you are. Let's dive back in. But once you
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hear Jesus say what God has joined together, let no
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one separate. The natural question that rises is, then why
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did God allow divorce at all? That's not a modern question,
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that's not a cultural loophole. It's ancient. It was the
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very question the Pharisees asked Jesus, and it's the same
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question many believers quietly wrestle with today, because if marriage
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is sacred, why did Moses, God's own servant, create a
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law that allowed it to end? Did God God change
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his mind? Or is there something we've misunderstood all along?
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To answer that, we have to go back not to
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Matthew or Mark, but to Deuteronomy twenty four, a dusty scroll,
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a quiet corner of Torah, a law that was never
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part of God's ideal, but given to restrain chaos in
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a nation whose hearts had already begun to harden. It
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begins like this. If a man marries a woman who
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becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her,
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and he writes her a certificate of divorce. Right there
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in that phrase, certificate of divorce, history shifts not because
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God suddenly approved of divorce, but because Israel had already
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begun to walk in rebellion. You see, by the time
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Moses gives this command, the people of Israel are not
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in Eden, there in the wilderness, and their culture, already
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influenced by each other, yupped and surrounded by pagan nations,
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had begun to mimic the world's treatment of women and marriage.
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Husbands were casting their wives aside over minor complaints, leaving
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them vulnerable, unprotected, shamed. There was no honor, no permanence,
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no justice, And so God intervened not to bless divorce,
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but to limit the damage, to provide a boundary in
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the middle of the people's rebellion. The certificate of divorce
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wasn't a divine permission slip. It was divine protection for
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the woman. It proved she had been sent away legally,
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not for adultery, which under the law would have meant death,
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but for lesser grievances. It freed her from being falsely accused.
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It gave her a chance to remarry and survive in
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a world where women without husbands were socially and economically destitute.
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In other words, the law in Deuteron my wasn't about permission.
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It was about protection, not about what God wanted, but
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what he tolerated in mercy. But don't miss this. Even
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within this passage, there's a clear restriction. If that woman
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remarried and her second husband died or divorced her, the
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first husband was forbidden to take her back. Why because
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God was still pointing to the permanence of covenant, even
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when human hearts tried to twist it. He was teaching
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them that covenant isn't disposable. And yet, centuries later, when
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the Pharisees bring this law up to Jesus, expecting him
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to affirm their interpretation, he looks them in the eyes
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and says something devastating. Because of the hardness of your hearts,
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Moses permitted you to divorce. Hardness, not righteousness, not clarity, hardness.
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Jesus doesn't invalidate Moses, but he reframes the conversation in entirely.
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He's saying, you think this was God's ideal, No, this
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was divine damage control. You asked for a loophole. God
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gave you a fence, but that fence wasn't his dream
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for you. The real tragedy is that we are still
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asking this same question with the same motives. Can I leave?
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Can I start over? What counts as valid grounds? What's
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the minimum I need to stay married or the maximum
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pain I can endure before I'm free to walk? And
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all of these questions reveal the same problem Jesus confronted
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in the Pharisees. A heart that wants justification more than transformation.
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But can we be honest? Sometimes that hardness doesn't come
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from rebellion, It comes from pain. To day's marriages don't
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end over burnt dinners or lost dowries. They end over betrayal, trauma, addiction,
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emotional neglect, or quiet years of growing apart. And in
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those modern trench which his people cry out to God,
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not as rebels, but as the broken, as the betrayed,
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as those who want to believe in covenant. But wonder
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if God is still asking the impossible? So what do
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we do with that? We look at how Jesus held
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the law in one hand and mercy in the other.
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When he spoke of divorce, he always pointed back to Genesis,
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not Deuteronomy. From the beginning. It was not so, he said,
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because for Jesus the standard was never the scroll. It
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was the garden, one man, one woman, one covenant, naked
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and unashamed. That was the original design. The law then
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was a concession, a way to hold back the floodwaters
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of human selfishness and pride. But Jesus came to restore
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the Eden vision, not to expand the desert exception. So
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what does that mean for us, it means this. Just
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because something is allowed doesn't mean it's right. Just because
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God permitted divorce in scripture doesn't mean he approves of it.
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Just because Moses wrote it into law doesn't mean Jesus
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wants us to rest there. The law may recognize your decision,
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but that doesn't always mean Heaven celebrates it. This is
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the scroll of regret, the moment where the law had
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to adapt to human failure. Not because God compromised, but
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because he loved a people too broken to carry his
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full standard. He gave them something to hold on to
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so they wouldn't destroy themselves further. But that was never
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the end of the story, and it's not the end
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of yours either. Maybe your heart has been hardened. Maybe
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you've been on either side of the divorce, walking away
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or being left behind. Maybe you were hoping this video
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would tell you what you wanted to hear, that you're free,
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that you were right, that it wasn't your fault. Or
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maybe you've already heard enough to feel the deep pull
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of conviction. Either way, God isn't finished with you, because
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even the law was not his final word. The same
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Jesus who confronted the Pharisees is the one who sat
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beside the woman at the well, five husbands behind her,
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and a sixth man she wasn't married to, and he
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didn't stone her. He revealed himself to her. He gave
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her living water. Why because God may hate divorce, but
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he doesn't hate the divorced that he doesn't shame the broken.
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He meets them at the well and tells them the truth,
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not to destroy them, but to free them. So as
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we move forward, we're going to go deeper. We're going
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to examine what Jesus actually meant in those haunting words.
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Who ever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery.
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We're going to look at the so called exception clause
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in Matthew. We'll open Paul's letters, and we'll stare at
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the tension between justice and mercy until we see God's
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heart more clearly. Because this isn't about defending our past.
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It's about deciding how we walk from here. You don't
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need to carry shame, but you do need clarity, and
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that's exactly where we're going next. We've walked through Moses
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law and seen the broken scroll, but Jesus didn't leave
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us in Deuteronomy. He took us further back before sin,
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before the fall, before hardness of heart, back to Eden.
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And that's what makes Matthew nineteen so critical, because this
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wasn't just a casual conversation. It was a trap, a
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theological ambush, staged by men who weren't seeking truth but
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trying to expose Jesus as either a law breaker or
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a radical. And to day, many of us still approach
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this topic like those Pharisees, with a heart, ready to debate,
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but not to surrender. Let the scene unfold in your mind,
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Jesus traveling toward Jerusalem, teaching crowds that follow him with hope,
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pain and questions, and then suddenly the Pharisees appear, religious
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lawyers with stones in their pockets, hearts full of pride,
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and a rehearsed question they think will corner him. Is
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it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for
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any reason at all? Matthew nineteen three. They weren't really
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asking about truth. They were asking about grounds, about how
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much a man could get away with, about the line
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between justification and sin. They were echoing the same legalistic
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spirit we see in churches today, those who want scripture
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to permit what culture already normalizes. They weren't pleading for understanding,
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they were hunting for loop holes. But Jesus didn't bite.
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He didn't start by listing affec or passing Hebrew terms. Instead,
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he spoke as only the author of marriage could have
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you not read that he who created them from the
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beginning made them male and female, and said, for this reason,
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a man shall leave his father and mother and be
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joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
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So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What
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therefore God has joined together? Let no man separate Matthew
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nineteen four to six. It's breathtaking when you realize what
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he's doing. Jesus didn't argue with their legal code. He
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erased their assumptions by reminding them of creation's covenant, one man,
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one woman, one flesh, one act of divine joining, not
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by culture, not by contract, but by God. And then
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comes the weight. Let no man say apparate. He's not
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just condemning arbitrary divorce. He's declaring that marriage is not
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ours to dismantle. When God joins two people, it is
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more than emotional attachment or legal agreement. It is spiritual fusion,
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a mystery that reflects Christ and the Church, a mirror
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of eternal covenant. And no lawyer, no judge, no society,
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not even personal pain, has the authority to undo what
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God has joined. But the Pharisees, still clinging to Moses,
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push back. Why then did Moses command to give her
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a certificate of divorce and send her away? And Jesus calm?
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But Cutting says, because of your hardness of heart. But
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from the beginning it was not so. That's when he
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says the words that have split pulpits, confused theologians and
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shaken marriages ever since. I say to you, whoever divorces
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his wife except for sexual immorality and marries another commits
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adultery Matthew nineteen nine. This is where many stop reading
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and start debating, because those five words except for sexual
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immorality seem to open a door that was just slammed shut.
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Is this the one acceptable reason for divorce? Does this
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phrase override the genesis ideal? Or is Jesus doing something
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deeper here? Let's look closer. The Greek word used here
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is poornea, a term that includes all forms of sexual
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sin and immorality. It doesn't just mean adultery. It could
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include incest, prostitution, fornication, or, in some views, even pre
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marital deception. But Jesus doesn't use the standard Greek word
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for adultery moiquea when he refers to the exception why
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because pornea implies something more foundation. It suggests not just
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a failure within the marriage, but a violation of the
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covenant itself. Some scholars argue that poor Neea points to
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illegitimate or unlawful unions, marriages that should never have existed
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in the first place under God's law. Others believe it
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refers directly to marital unfaithfulness. But regardless of the interpretation,
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one thing is clear. This is not permission. It is grief.
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Jesus is not giving us an easy escape. He's mourning
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the level of violation that would shatter a covenant so
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violently that the spiritual bond is already broken before the
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papers are ever signed. In that light, the exception clause
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is not a license to divorce. It's an acknowledgment of
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a covenant already torn. Sexual immorality doesn't give permission to
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walk away. It declares that one partner already has and
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even then Jesus ever commands divorce, he allows it in heartbreak.
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But notice something else the church rarely talks about. Jesus
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doesn't say remarriage after such divorce is sinless. He doesn't
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lay out a checklist of what counts and what doesn't.
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He simply says, whoever divorces and marries another commits adultery.
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This is hard, painful, and it confronts all of us
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because it makes us ask not just what am I
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allowed to do? But what has God truly joined? And
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have I separated what He never unbound. Maybe you're divorced,
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maybe you've remarried, Maybe you're the one who was unfaithful,
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or maybe you're carrying the weight of someone else's decision
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wherever you are. This is not about judgment. It's about truth,
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and freedom never comes through denial. It comes through repentance.
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That's why the disciples, shocked by what Jesus just said, responded,
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if the relationship of the man with his wife is
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like this, it is better not to marry Matthew nineteen ten.
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They realize the gravity that marriage isn't something you try,
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it's something you covenant, that it's not about compatibility it's
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about calling that God's vision for marriage is not comfort
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or romance or survival. Its reflection of his love, his endurance,
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his mercy. And Jesus doesn't soften the blow. He agrees
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marriage isn't for the casual. It's for those ready to
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die to themselves, because every true covenant costs something. So
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where does this leave you. Maybe you're standing in the
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wreckage of a first marriage, questioning whether God still honors
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your second. Maybe you're the one who caused the break
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and you don't know how to repent. Or maybe you're
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single and scared, wondering if covenant is too much weight
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to carry. But here's the truth. Jesus didn't say all
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this to condemn us. He said it to call us
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back back to Eden, back to covenant, back to faithfulness,
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not just in marriage, but in every promise we make
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before God. And if your breathing, then grace is still
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working because the same God who spoke these words on
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a dusty road in Judea was walking toward the cross
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to die for the very people who would fail to
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live them. He doesn't offer loopholes, he offers himself. So
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as we move forward, we're going to explore the full
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spectrum of this issue, not just what breaks a marriage,
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but what makes one sacred. What Paul says to the church,
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what to do when the innocent are abandoned, what hope
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there is for those already remarried, and whether the God
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who hates divorce still builds altars for the broken hearted.
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We're not done yet. The truth gets head before it heals.
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But if you're still here, it means you want the
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real thing, not a modern version of marriage, but the
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Holy one. Let's keep going. If you've made it this far,
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then something inside you has already started to shift. Maybe
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it's even with good lawyers and the church Ephesians five
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twenty five thirty two. Marriage, Paul says, is not just
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about companionship or children or compatibility. It is a living
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parable of Christ's covenant with us. The husband reflects Christ,
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the bride reflects the Church. The love, the sacrifice, the faithfulness,
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the forgiveness. It's all meant to mirror God's pursuit of
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his people. That's why covenant matters. That's why breaking it matters.
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Let's pause here. If you've ever felt the weight of
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a broken vow, either your own or some one else's you.
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You already know. This isn't just theological theory. This is
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personal history. Some of you stood at altars with shaking
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hands and hopeful hearts, never imagining the day would come
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when the bond would be tested or shattered. Some of
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you have had to sign papers you didn't want to sign.
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Some of you left, some of you were left, and
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now you wonder if God still honors what was, or
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if he's willing to bless what's next. That's why this
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teaching matters so much, because until we understand what marriage
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really is, we'll keep treating it like a convenience instead
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of a covenant. A covenant is permanent. A covenant requires blood.
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A covenant requires death, the death of pride, the death
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of self will, the death of options. In ancient Hebrew culture,
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a covenant was made through the shedding of blood. Animals
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were cut in half, and the two parties walked between
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the pieces, declaring that if either broke the agreement, they
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would pay with their life. It wasn't casual, it wasn't sentimental,
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it was sacred. Now apply that to marriage. It's no
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wonder then that Jesus bled for his bride, that he
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gave up his rights, laid down his comfort, bore her sin,
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and died so she could live. This is the kind
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of covenant we were made to reflect. And this is
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why divorce, when taken lightly, selfishly or for reasons outside
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of true covenant violation, is not just a human decision.
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It's a spiritual rebellion. It says to the world, this
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picture of Christ and his church, it can be broken.
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It's conditional, it's reversible. But God says, I will never
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leave you, nor forsake you, and he calls us to
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reflect the same. So where does that leave us. It
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leaves us in a place of holy sobriety. It calls
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us to stop asking what we're allowed to do and
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start asking what we've been called to display. It doesn't
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mean every divorce was unjustified. It doesn't mean every remarriage
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is cursed. It means we need to start treating marriage
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like the prophecy. It is so when God says he
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hates divorce, now you know why, because it's not about rules,
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it's about reflection. Because marriage isn't just about staying together.
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It's about bearing witness to the world of a God
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who stays. And if that sounds impossible. If you're already
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grieving a broken covenant or sitting in a second one,
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you need to know something even more important. Covenance may
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be broken on earth, but the God of covenant restores people.
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He doesn't leave you in pieces, he doesn't erase your future,
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but he does call you to honor the truth. From
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this moment forward, the next question becomes urgent. What if
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I broke the covenant but I had bibli grounds? Are
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there any cases where divorce isn't sin? What did Paul
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say about abandonment? What about unrepentant adultery? And if a
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marriage truly has died? What? Then? That's what we're diving
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into next. Because while God never celebrates separation, he is
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not blind to betrayal, and in the pages of Scripture
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he has spoken even to this. Let's open that door
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with fear, reverence, and hope. When you come face to
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face with the weight of covenant, when you see marriage
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not just as a human promise but a spiritual picture,
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it's only natural to ask the question that has haunted
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so many hearts. But what if it's already broken? What
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if one's spouse betrayed it? What if the other walked away.
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What if the home has become a war zone and
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the only thing more painful than leaving is staying. This
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isn't just theology anymore. It's reality. It's the woman who
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quietly cried in the back row of church every Sunday
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because her bruises weren't visible, but her soul was black
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and blue. It's the husband who beg for reconciliation only
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to be met with a cold, silent goodbye. It's the
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believer who wakes up next to someone who mocks their faith,
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mocks their values, and mocks their God. And in those moments,
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the question isn't academic, it's desperate. Am I allowed to leave?
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Does God understand? Does the Bible say there's a way
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out when it's no longer safe, no longer sacred, no
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longer real. Let's go straight to the scriptures, because God
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did not leave us without answers. Though many have misquoted, misused,
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or ignored them. There are two primary biblical allowances for divorce,
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sexual immorality and spiritual abandonment. The first we've already touched.
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In Matthew nineteen nine, Jesus said, whoever divorces his wife
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except for sexual immorality and marries another commits adultery. The
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word used here poor nea refers to any form of
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unrepentant covenant breaking sexual sin. Not a single failure, not
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a one time moment of grief and repentance, but the
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refusal to turn back, the persistence in betrayal, the ongoing
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defilement of the marriage bed. In such cases, Jesus acknowledges
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what we already feel. The covenant has been violently torn,
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the one flesh has been fractured, the vow has been desecrated.
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And though Jesus never commands divorce, he permits it not
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as the easy road, but as the mournful road of justice.
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But scripture doesn't stop there. In First Corinthians seven twelve
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to fifteen, Paul addresses believers married to un believing spouses.
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He writes, if any brother has a wife who is
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not a believer, and she is willing to live with him,
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he must not divorce her. But if the unbelieving partner separates,
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let it be so. In such cases, the brother or
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sister is not bound. This is crucial. Paul doesn't speak
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of infidelity, but of abandonment. The Greek phrase not bound
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carries the idea of being loosed, released from obligation, set
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free from covenant chains. So what does this mean. It
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means that when an unbelieving spouse walks away physically, emotionally,
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or spiritually, they break the covenant by desertion, and Paul,
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inspired by the Holy Spirit, says, the believing spouse is
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not held hostage. They are free to let them go,
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free from guilt, free from condemnation. Free. But here's where
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things get difficult, because modern abandonment doesn't always look like
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someone packing a suit case and slamming the door. What
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about abuse? What about the husband who doesn't leave but manipulates, controls,
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and terrorizes. What about the wife who tears her husband's
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spirit down with every word, belittles his faith, and violates
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the sacred trust with lies and threats. What about the
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father who rages at the children or the mother who
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withholds intimacy and weaponizes affection. Do these count? Let's be clear,
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the Bible does not explicitly say abuse is grounds for divorce,
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but scripture does speak of God's heart for justice, protection,
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and deliverance. Psalm eleven five says the Lord tests the righteous,
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but his soul hates the wicked and the one who
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loves violence. And Malachi too, doesn't just condemn divorce, it
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condemns violence against one's spouse. The Hebrew word implies covering
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oneself with cruelty. So can we really say that God
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wants his children trapped in a covenant of torture? Can
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we honestly picture Jesus standing in the corner of a
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room while one spouse shatters the other's soul and whispering, stay,
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You're still married. In my eyes, That's not the Jesus
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we know. And it's time we stop asking for a
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proof text and start asking for the heart of God.
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If a spouse refuses to repent of destructive, persistent abuse emotional, physical, sexual,
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or spiritual, that is not a marriage. That is spiritual
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abandonment in disguise. In such cases, separation is not rebellion,
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it is righteousness. Divorce is not betrayal. It is a boundary.
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And yet these allowances do not erase grief, they do
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not erase pain, and they don't erase the fact that
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covenant was broken, not by choice but by reality. That's
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why Scripture urges us to seek reconciliation when possible, but
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gives us release when not. In First Corinthians seven ten
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through eleven, Paul says to the married, I give this command.
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A wife must not separate from her husband, but if
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she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled
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to her husband. Paul isn't commanding endless waiting. He's calling
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for wisdom. Every situation is different, every covenant has a story.
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But he is clear. If you walk away without biblical cause,
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remain unmarried, or return, But if you are abandoned or betrayed,
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you are not bound. This is why we must be
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careful not to twist scripture to meet our feelings. Convenience
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is not cause, frustration is not grounds. Boredom is not justification.
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God has spoken, and he speaks with both truth and mercy.
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For the one abandoned by an unbeliever, you are not bound.
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For the one betrayed and discarded by adultery, you are
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not guilty. For the one abused and silenced, you are
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not forgotten. And for those unsure searching for clarity in
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the gray, you don't need to navigate this alone. Seabook
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mention required. We've created ebooks on topics like these, not
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to replace scripture, but to help you walk through it slowly, prayerfully,
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and deeply. If this topic hits home for you, we
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invite you to visit our website. You'll find resources specifically
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designed to bring biblical clarity, comfort, and conviction without compromise.
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So where do we go from here? Now that we
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understand what the Bible allows, what does it say about
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what comes after? Is remarriage ever right? Is it always adultery?
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Or is there a path for restoringtionation after release? That's
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the question every wounded soul wants to know. And that's
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where we go next, because if the covenant is broken,
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can love be built again? Let's find out when someone's
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covenant has shattered, when they've walked through the painful steps
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of separation, betrayal, or abandonment. There's one question that always
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follows lingering, like a haunting echo. Can I ever love again?
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You don't ask that lightly. That question comes in quiet tears,
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late at night. It comes when the loneliness sinks deeper
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than words, when the memories of what was refused to fade,
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and when you watch other people build new homes while
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you wonder if God has put yours under permanent lock
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and key and For many Christians, the fear runs even deeper.
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If I do love again, will it be sin. It's
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one thing to survive divorce, it's another to face the
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terrifying thought that if you move forward, if you ever remarry,
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you might be committing ongoing adultery in the eyes of God.
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That's not just legalism, that's torment. But where does this
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fear come from. Let's read the scriptures people often quote, slowly, carefully,
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with the full weight they deserve Luke sixteen eighteen. Everyone
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who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and
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he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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Mark ten eleven to twelve. Whoever divorces his wife and
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marries another commits adultery against her, And if she divorces
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her husband and marries another, she commits adultery. On the surface,
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these are hard, uncompromising words, and they're spoken directly by
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Jesus himself. But if we don't slow down, if we
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don't ask what Jesus actually means to whom he's speaking,
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will reduce divine wisdom into dangerous distortion. Let's break it
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down first. A context matters In Luke sixteen, Jesus is
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rebuking the Pharisees men who were notorious for manipulating the law,
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discarding their wives for trivial reasons, and remarrying at will,
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all while claiming righteousness. Divorce had become a tool for
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indulgence and convenience, and Jesus confronts them head on. He's
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not addressing the broken hearted, He's addressing the hard hearted,
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those who use legal permission as a cover for spiritual betrayal.
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That's why he doesn't include the exception clause here, because
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their motives were corrupt, not sorrowful. Second, the phrase commits
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adultery in these verses is not necessarily a declaration of
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eternal guilt on every remarried person. It's a spiritual indictment
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against the those who leave one covenant flippantly to pursue
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another without cause. In other words, if your first marriage
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wasn't broken by biblical grounds, then your remarriage begins in sin.
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But does that mean all remarriage is sin, that it
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is always adultery. Here's where mercy and clarity meet. If
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your first marriage ended due to unrepentant adultery, abandonment by
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an unbeliever or abuse that reflects covenant breaking behavior, then
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remarriage is not condemned in scripture. In fact, Paul says,
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you are not bound in such cases, and being not
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bound means being free not just from the marriage, but
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from the restrictions that would follow it. We must remember
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God does not bind people in impossible situations. He does
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not call you to remain legally divorced, emotionally shattered, and
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relationally exiled for the rest of your life. If the
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covenant was biblically broken, that's not mercy, that's imprisonment. But
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what if you weren't the one who filed. What if
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the divorce happened before you knew the truth? What if
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you remarried outside of biblical grounds before understanding what covenant
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even meant. Now we step into the real wrestle the
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questions people ask with trembling voices. Is my current marriage valid?
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Does God recognize it? Do I need to repent or leave?
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And here is where we must return to the heart
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of the gospel. Yes, Jesus called remarriage after wrongful divorce
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a form of adultery, But adultery is not an unforgivable sin.
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It is not a state of damnation. It is a
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violation that requires repentance. In John Naight, a woman caught
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in the act of adultery is thrown before Jesus. According
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to the law, she should be stoned, But Jesus, full
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of truth and grace, looks her in the eyes and says,
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neither do I condemn you, Go and sin no more.
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He doesn't minimize her sin, he names it, but he
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doesn't destroy her. He restores her. And that's the pattern
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we follow it. If your remarriage began in sin because
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your previous covenant wasn't biblically released, then you must repent.
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But repentance does not always mean dissolving your current marriage.
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In fact, nowhere in scripture does God command a remarried
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couple to divorce in order to undo a previous mistake.
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Why because God is not just a covenant maker, He
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is a covenant redeemer. If you came to him ignorant, rebellious,
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or confused, and now you see the truth, your calling
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is to confess, surrender, and walk in faithfulness moving forward.
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You don't tear up your second marriage to prove loyalty
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to the first. You on secrate the one you're in now.
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That's what grace does. David committed adultery with Bathsheba, then
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murdered her husband. Their marriage began in blood and betrayal.
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And yet when David repented, and when God brought healing,
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he allowed their union to stand. And from it came Solomon,
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a son of wisdom and a testimony of redemption. Your
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story may have started in ashes, but that doesn't mean
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it can't end in glory. Still, let's be clear. Remarriage
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is never a reset button. It is not a reward.
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It is not a guaranteed escape from loneliness. It is
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a new covenant, and it demands the safe See does
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he remintly inspired answer to abandonment. Paul doesn't just say
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you're not married anymore, He said, counsel. One of the
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worst decisions you can make after divorces. To isolate. You
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need truth speakers.