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When God Feels Silent After Heartbreak | Is God Still Speaking? · Kingdom Spouse Disappointment | Healing, Heartbreak, God Revealed Relationship, The One,

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  Have you ever prayed and it felt like your words just hit the ceiling?
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  You probably opened your Bible, but nothing seemed to just jump off the pages.
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  You waited for direction, but all you heard was silence. And somewhere in the
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  middle of that silence, you started wondering, God, where are you?
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  If you've ever felt that way, today's episode is for you.
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  Today's episode is for anyone who feels like they are talking to God,
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  but it feels as if he is not talking back.
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  And it feels as if he has just been silent.
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  Stick around as i talk about the difference between god's silence and god's absence as well as we,
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  will unpack some important truths in today's episode,
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  while also going through four practical ways to recognize that even when god
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  himself seems quiet he is still speaking,
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  so stay with me until the end because I think the final point is one that many of us overlook.
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  Have you ever believed God showed you your future spouse only for the relationship
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  to end or never even begin?
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  You are not alone. Welcome to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment,
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  a space for honest conversations about Christian dating, heartbreak, and healing.
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  If you've ever said, I thought God told me they were the one, this podcast is for you.
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  Here, we process the pain, rebuild the trust in God, and rediscover hope,
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  one honest conversation at a time.
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  Welcome, welcome, welcome. Welcome back everyone to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment.
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  My name is Lori, your host, and I am super excited that you are joining me today.
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  Now in today's episode, we will be discussing how to navigate a season or a
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  moment when God seems silent.
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  Especially after a heartbreak or a relationship disappointment,
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  now you know my story and if it's your first time i would have you know spoken
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  a bit about my story in previous episodes where you know i was in a relationship i believe god revealed,
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  and confirmed that would lead to marriage but,
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  somehow instead of,
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  what i believe would be my kingdom spouse relationship instead of that instead
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  i was left with heartbreak trying to pick up pieces now for you it could be similar,
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  or maybe you believed god showed you your future spouse and it didn't happen
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  at all meaning the relationship didn't materialize or he got with someone else.
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  But whatever your unique case might be, more than likely you are experiencing
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  some sort of heartbreak.
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  And somewhere along the process, it might feel as if God is silent.
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  Well, let's first establish that silence does not equal to abandonment.
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  The truth is that when it doesn't seem like we're hearing from God,
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  we sometimes interpret silence to be many things.
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  We interpret silence to mean that God is angry or silence to equate to some
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  form of punishment or silence to mean that,
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  we are being rejected by God or maybe to even think that, oh,
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  I've messed up. So that is why there is silence.
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  However, sometimes silence simply means that God hasn't revealed the next step
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  as yet, but he is still present with you and is still for you.
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  So before we assume that God has left us, maybe we should ask whether we are
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  interpreting his silence correctly.
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  And a prime example of this is Job in the Bible.
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  Job searched for many answers from God and he didn't receive immediate answers.
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  And I don't know about you, but that is hard.
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  That is one of the hardest things for me, especially when you feel like you
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  desperately need an answer.
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  But it just seems like God just has gone silent on you. I don't know,
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  like he's on airplane mode or something.
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  That can be hard. when you're searching for the answer crying out for an answer
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  but it seems as if you're not getting an immediate response.
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  Yeah. Now, in a few minutes, I'm going to share one of the biggest ways God
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  is already speaking to you, even if you haven't heard an audible answer.
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  But first, let's look a little more at something Job teaches us.
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  So in Job 23, verse 8 to 10, this is what it says.
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  And this is the NLT, the New Living Translation, and it reads,
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  I go east, but he's not there.
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  I go west, but I cannot find him.
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  I do not see him in the north, for he is hidden.
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  I look to the south, but he is concealed.
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  And this is verse 10. It says, but he knows where I am going.
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  And when he tests me, I will come out as pure as gold.
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  So that's Job 23, verse 8 to 10. You can take a look at it as well in your own time.
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  But in this verse, we see that Job wasn't running from God.
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  If you read a bit more about the entire book and look at the other chapters,
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  we see that Job wasn't necessarily running from God. He was looking for him. He was searching.
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  And that matters right because many people feel guilty because they can't hear God.
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  They feel like God isn't speaking and they feel guilty but in Job,
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  using Job's story as an example,
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  Job reminds us that faithful people sometimes experience seasons where God feels hidden,
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  God seems silent, or things just seem a bit unclear, right?
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  So don't assume that the silence is because God is angry with you or rejecting you. No.
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  And if you feel convicted that maybe there was something you did or didn't do,
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  that is impacting you to hear God, God is gracious.
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  His kindness leads us to repentance and he is not rejecting you,
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  whatever the case may be.
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  But yeah, there are times God feels silent, even when we didn't do anything
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  wrong. Similarly to Job.
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  But notice this, right? Job didn't stop seeking.
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  He didn't. And one of the biggest mistakes we sometimes make is we fill the
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  silence with assumptions.
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  We tell ourselves God must be angry. He must have left.
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  I don't have his presence with me anymore. Maybe I ruined everything.
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  And we just have so many thoughts about what this silence might mean.
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  But silence doesn't automatically explain itself.
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  We explain it. We try to explain it.
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  And sometimes we explain it incorrectly. correctly.
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  Instead of interpreting, sometimes we have to just learn to sit.
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  Sit with unanswered questions, right? That's hard.
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  But sometimes you have to just learn to sit. Sit with unanswered questions.
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  Sit with God's presence and sit without rushing to conclusions.
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  And that's hard. I've probably used the word hard maybe 10 times so far,
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  but honestly, for me, that is hard.
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  But sometimes maturity isn't necessarily having immediate answers.
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  Sometimes it's trusting God while you don't, right?
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  Trusting God while you don't have the answers, leaning into God's comfort,
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  and relying on his character.
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  And I've said it before, but I'll say it again. I confess that this is something I am struggling with.
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  And it can be really, really, really hard. Really, really, really hard.
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  But God is there with us, right? Strengthening us.
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  And let us remember that silence does not equal to absence.
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  Now, if you're still listening, we're about to move into the part of the episode
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  that completely changed my perspective.
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  Because although God may feel silent, He has never stopped speaking.
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  Yeah, so God speaks in more ways than we often recognize.
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  Sometimes we're waiting for God to speak in one way,
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  while he's already speaking in another way or several others which I'm gonna
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  list about four ways in which God might be speaking,
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  to us right.
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  And the first one is through Scripture.
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  No, the Bible is God's living word, right?
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  Every time you open it, it reveals God's character, His truth.
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  Every time you open the Bible, God is speaking His truth in a sense, right?
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  No not every verse might be a personalized answer to your situation but the
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  truth is that every page reveals his character,
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  and when we open the scriptures and we read his word even when we don't know his plans,
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  we can trust his character and we can still know his heart right,
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  so that is one way in which god can speak to us and that's through scripture
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  even if we're not getting a very personalized answer,
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  regardless we are still getting an idea of his heart towards us and his character.
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  Now, number two is through his creation.
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  Now, in Romans 1, verse 20, it tells us that creation reveals qualities of God, right?
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  For example, it shows how magnificent he is, how detailed he is,
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  how thoughtful he is, right?
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  It's when you look at the sunrise, the stars, the changing seasons,
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  the design of a flower, right?
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  The intricate design of a flower.
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  Creation and just everything that God has created reminds us that our God is intentional.
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  He's intentional he's creative he's powerful and he's faithful,
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  and if he cares enough to sustain creation he cares enough about your situation
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  and he hasn't forgotten you.
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  Now, point number three regarding a way that God speaks to us and might be speaking
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  to you right now is through his Holy Spirit.
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  Now, sometimes God doesn't shout, right? Sometimes we expect this big shout
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  and dramatic way of God speaking to us.
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  But sometimes it's a quiet whisper.
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  You know, sometimes it's the Holy Spirit comforting us, convicting us,
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  or maybe the Holy Spirit bringing scriptures to your mind.
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  The Holy Spirit producing a peace that you can't understand,
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  a peace that makes no sense.
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  Not every prompting is dramatic, right? And sometimes God's voice.
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  Is just his presence being near us, comforting us, his Holy Spirit being with us.
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  And just that alone is God speaking to you, saying, I am with you.
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  And then lastly, the fourth way that I will be listening today that God might
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  be speaking to you is through his people.
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  Now, sometimes God can speak to us through others.
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  Maybe through a sermon. Maybe a trusted friend would give you a word of encouragement.
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  Maybe through a mentor. or maybe through a worship song, or maybe just a conversation
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  you so happen to have with someone that inspired you, right?
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  So never underestimate how God can use ordinary people to speak to your heart.
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  And even if he might not be answering the exact question you have right now,
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  he is definitely still speaking and maybe he's even speaking to you about other things,
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  that will set the foundation or even help you to understand and navigate the
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  answers you desperately are seeking for this thing right.
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  So, before you assume God has abandoned you, you could ask yourself,
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  Have I confused silence with absence?
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  Have I stopped listening because God isn't speaking the way I expected?
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  And where have I already seen evidence of his faithfulness this week?
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  Now maybe today you're waiting for an answer a breakthrough a sign or a very
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  clear direction from God and maybe it hasn't come as yet right,
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  Don't mistake the quiet for abandonment.
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  Just because God hasn't answered in the way or the timing you hoped doesn't
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  mean he has stepped away.
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  And the God who may feel quiet to you today is still the God revealing himself,
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  through his word, through his creation, through his Holy Spirit.
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  And through his people. So, yeah.
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  So, thank you so much for sticking around till the end.
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  And if you don't remember anything else from today's episode,
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  I would like you to just carry the following truth with you for this week.
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  And that is, God's silence is not God's absence.
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  So even when you don't hear his voice in the way you expected his presence remains,
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  his character is unchanged and his love has never gone quiet,
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  so you can take that truth along with you for the rest of the week thank you
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  once again for tuning in if this episode touched your heart or resonated with you,
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  leave a comment or maybe even just take five seconds to share it with someone else who might need it.
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  My name is Lori, your host of the Kingdom Spouse's Appointment.
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  Thank you so much. Have a great weekend and be blessed.
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  Ever believed God showed you
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  your future spouse, only for the relationship to end or never even begin?
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  You are not alone.
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  Welcome to Kingdom Spouse Disappointment, a space for honest conversations about
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  Christian dating, heartbreak, and healing.
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  If you've ever said, I thought God told me they were the one.
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  This podcast is for you. Here, we process the pain, rebuild the trust in God, and rediscover hope.
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  One honest conversation at a time.