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When Love Becomes Too Much: Understanding Obsession, Attachment & the Heart · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Have you ever felt a love so intense it consumes you?
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  Speaker 1: The thought of them takes over your mind and you'd
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  Speaker 1: give up everything just for a moment with them. Everything
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  Speaker 1: they do affects your mood. But is it love or
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  Speaker 1: is it obsession?
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  Speaker 2: And why does this happen?
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  Speaker 1: In our previous video on the stages of obsessive love,
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  Speaker 1: many of you shared your stories Our goal today is
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  Speaker 1: to let you know that it's not your fault if
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  Speaker 1: you feel this type of attachment. Your brain is changing
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  Speaker 1: in ways that make it hard to get a grip
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  Speaker 1: on your emotions. We're wired for connection because it's crucial
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  Speaker 1: for our survival and well-being, but when our brain goes
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  Speaker 1: into overdrive, it's often due to excess chemicals like dopamine
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  Speaker 1: or oxytocin, leading to obsessive thoughts and behaviors as our
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  Speaker 1: brain tries to maintain that intense connection.
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  Speaker 2: So in this video, we'll dive.
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  Speaker 1: Into the science behind why this happens, how it affects you,
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  Speaker 1: and what you can do about it.
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  Speaker 2: Dopamine.
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  Speaker 1: First comes dopamine, a hormone involved in your brain's reward system.
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  Speaker 2: It plays a.
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  Speaker 1: Crucial role in the thrill of falling in love. When
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  Speaker 1: you first meet someone special, your brain releases a surge
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  Speaker 1: of dopamine, making you feel euphoric and alive. suddenly everything
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  Speaker 1: about them feels like a reward. Their smile, the sound
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  Speaker 1: of their voice, or even a simple text message, all
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  Speaker 1: of it triggers a dopamine release. As time goes on,
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  Speaker 1: that initial high turns into a serious craving. This happens
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  Speaker 1: because your brain learns to link their attention and presence
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  Speaker 1: with feeling good, making you desire more of that rewarding feeling.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't hear from them for a hot minute,
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  Speaker 1: you might feel anxiety creeping in. Your mind races with
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  Speaker 1: thoughts like, are they ghosting me?
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  Speaker 2: Did I say something wrong?
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  Speaker 1: The need for their attention becomes an addiction. This is
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  Speaker 1: called reward learning, and it's exactly what leads you to
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  Speaker 1: obsessively crave your special person and what makes you feel so.
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  Speaker 2: Lost without them.
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  Speaker 1: Oxytocin. As you share sweet moments, oxytocin, often referred to
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  Speaker 1: as the love hormone, deepens emotional bonds. When you share
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  Speaker 1: physical closeness, like cuddling, holding hands, or just binge-watching a
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  Speaker 1: show together, oxytocin levels rise, flooding your brain with feelings
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  Speaker 1: of warmth and safety. But with high levels of oxytocin,
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  Speaker 1: the fear of separation grows, and that emotional bond becomes
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  Speaker 1: hard to break. You might start to feel anxious when
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  Speaker 1: you're apart, wondering, What are they doing? Are they with
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  Speaker 1: someone else? This fear can lead to clingy or needy
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  Speaker 1: behaviors like double texting or constantly checking if they've seen
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  Speaker 1: your messages. The thought of separation can feel unbearable and
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  Speaker 1: you may become dependent and anxiously attached to them.
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  Speaker 2: Testosterone. Next, testosterone levels rise.
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  Speaker 1: This is a hormone linked to sexual desire and aggression.
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  Speaker 1: When testosterone levels are high, you may find yourself feeling
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  Speaker 1: passionate and incredibly attracted to them. At the same time,
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  Speaker 1: testosterone stirs up competitive feelings, making you want to grab
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  Speaker 1: all of their attention and keep.
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  Speaker 2: Others at bay.
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  Speaker 1: It also creates a sense of possessiveness, leading to feelings
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  Speaker 1: of jealousy. Someone else sliding into their DMs?
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  Speaker 2: Not a chance.
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  Speaker 1: This intensity can make you feel overly protective and even
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  Speaker 1: lead to some controlling behaviors.
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  Speaker 2: Cortisol.
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  Speaker 1: These emotional roller coasters increase the release of cortisol, the
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  Speaker 1: stress hormone. When your love becomes obsessive, cortisol spikes, leading
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  Speaker 1: to intense stress. You constantly worry about your partner's feelings
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  Speaker 1: or the future of the relationship, and it can lead
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  Speaker 1: to sleepless nights filled with racing thoughts. Then your body
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  Speaker 1: might respond to this chronic stress with physical symptoms like
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  Speaker 1: tension headaches or nausea. You end up in a never
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  Speaker 1: ending loop of.
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  Speaker 2: Fearing rejection and abandonment.
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  Speaker 1: And as time goes on, these insecurities may even start
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  Speaker 1: to overshadow the love you had for them at the beginning.
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  Speaker 2: Serotonin.
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  Speaker 1: Serotonin, another feel good hormone, also plays a role in
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  Speaker 1: your feelings. When love turns obsessive, serotonin levels drop significantly.
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  Speaker 1: This decrease is similar to what happens in individuals with
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  Speaker 1: obsessive-compulsive disorder. This might explain why those experiencing obsessive love
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  Speaker 1: often have similar patterns of intrusive, repetitive thoughts. Are they
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  Speaker 1: even into me?
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  Speaker 2: Am I good enough? Their texting seems off.
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  Speaker 1: Are they mad? your brain becomes locked in a pattern
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  Speaker 1: of overanalyzing every interaction and interpreting every action as either
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  Speaker 1: a positive or negative signal. And instead of warm and cozy,
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  Speaker 1: the love you feel becomes exhausting.
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  Speaker 2: So, what do we do?
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  Speaker 1: If obsessive love has you feeling overwhelmed, there are ways
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  Speaker 1: to help yourself. First, try mindfulness techniques like deep breathing
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  Speaker 1: or breathing. meditation to calm those racing thoughts. When you
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  Speaker 1: catch yourself thinking, I can't live without them, flip it into,
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  Speaker 1: I am enough just as I am. Focus on your
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  Speaker 1: own hobbies and friendships as nurturing your own interests can
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  Speaker 1: help you feel more balanced and less dependent on your
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  Speaker 1: partner or crush for happiness. And if things feel too
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  Speaker 1: heavy to handle alone, don't hesitate to reach out to
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  Speaker 1: a therapist. Talking to someone can provide support and help
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  Speaker 1: you find healthier ways to love.
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  Speaker 2: Do you feel.
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  Speaker 1: Like you're stuck in a cycle of obsessive love? Check
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  Speaker 1: out this video if you're unsure. Remember, you're not alone
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  Speaker 1: in this journey. And by working on yourself, you can
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  Speaker 1: transform your obsession into a beautiful, pure, and calming love.
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  Speaker 1: The kind you truly deserve. We hope our videos and
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  Speaker 1: community can support you along the way.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for watching. And take care of yourself.