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when you struggle to gain or hold more money · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello and welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am Gorgeous by Alyssa on all social media platforms.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to talk about the question box I posted on my Instagram story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I basically was asking, what are your financial fears?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I want to know exactly what to target.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was so inspired on this episode to share what I'm gonna share because I saw multiple girls post the exact fear I had, and I thought that is not a coincidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: The fact that we all not only have the same fear, but are experiencing the exact same struggle.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that struggle is every time I build up money, I lose it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every time I come across more money, I lose it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You end up right back in the situation you were in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even though more money came, something came up, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some bill went through that was unexpected, some emergency happened that you had to spend the money on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something in life happened where you just had to use the money for something not fun, like a bill.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's not a coincidence that we are all not only experiencing the same financial burdens, but have the same belief that if we gain money, we lose it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, first I want to say if you are someone who feels like they're constantly grinding, working two jobs, working three jobs, paying your bills, and always feeling behind or a lack of freedom, of financial abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is a nervous system issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the second you accept that sentence, the faster you get out of the fucking hole, the faster you get more comfortability and freedom in your finances.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know this because I was that person.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was in the hole.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was the person that was like, no, I need a budget, I need a raise, I need X, Y, and Z, you know, logically, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a nervous system issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is not your fault.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was given to you by others around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you have children, this is very valuable information for you as well, so that they are not passed down the same financial burdens that you were passed down, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you are not going to do something different, you will not receive a different result.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you keep doing things the exact same way, you keep thinking you need this logical, tangible thing to happen first, and then my burdens will, you know, dissipate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you keep waiting and hoping for the savior, the final day that changes something for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Nothing is going to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the place you have been in for however long.
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  SPEAKER_00: Only you know that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you're gonna stay exactly where you are, if not in a worse place financially, coming from someone who had$80 left over every month, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I thought that was a good month.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, wow, I can go out to lunch with my friend this weekend.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I was working multiple jobs, I was working three jobs, and you know, I would wake up at 2 30 in the morning, I would go open a gym, that was my job, making minimum wage.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think I made$10 or$11 an hour, and I would work there until 10 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would exercise until 11 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would go home and sleep from 12 to 1, and then I would drive downtown San Diego, work at the sushi restaurant until a ridiculous time just to get off and go serve in some uh dive bar at the beach.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't even old enough to work there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I just did things I I was allowed to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was exhausted because I would do college at night on the other days that I wasn't working three jobs.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would work two jobs and go to school at night, and the next day I'd work all three jobs.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was insane.
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  SPEAKER_00: So a little bit about my background, just so you know, I have been there.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's insane.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the work that I've done to rewire my brain, to heal my nervous system, to release all the limiting beliefs that were given to me about money that were never mine to carry, they were never my beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are not born and with all these beliefs around money.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are not running around on the playground thinking, oh well, if some if you know my grandma gives me five dollars today, I might lose it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you were thinking that, those beliefs were already passed down to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is not our natural state to fear money, it is not in our natural state to be worried about loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, this is a nervous system issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: And doing this work has made me incredibly passionate.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like it lights me up to help you heal your money beliefs because you deserve a better life and you don't deserve to be struggling, you don't deserve to be stuck watching someone else live their dream life on social media and have you know an abundance of money while you are worried about how many groceries you can buy this month.
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  SPEAKER_00: No one deserves that.
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  SPEAKER_00: You deserve whatever your heart desires, and I don't think people have told you that enough in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are worthy of whatever you want simply because you are here in your one life, your one life here.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't you want to just go after everything and just hope it happens?
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, don't you want to try?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I can only share what has worked for me and so many others who, you know, were in my group.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've invested so much money that I didn't really have at the time into very expensive courses and workshops and retreats and etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: with very well-known personal development public figures, people that are very expensive.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm embarrassed to tell you how much money I spent on those things, but I am not a single penny in debt, and not even after purchasing those courses, that information changed me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The books I have read changed me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And guess what?
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  SPEAKER_00: I reread the books.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can never gain information one time and it not be worthy anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Reread the book, re-listen to the podcast episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are always going to gain something new.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so my belief at the time: if I gain more money, I have more money to lose.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not only does this push money away, because you're subconsciously protecting yourself from loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain, your body, your nervous system loves you so much.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are its only priority.
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  SPEAKER_00: It will protect you at all costs.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is why you get adrenaline.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's protecting you, it's pushing you, it's signaling you to run if there is danger.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: It takes all the blood from your brain and puts it into your limbs so that it can protect you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it tells you exactly what to do and when to do it.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, that is not needed around money.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't need our body to protect us from money, but it thinks it has to because of the beliefs given to us by other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, so having a belief if I gain more money, I have more money to lose, my body was protecting me from loss.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if you come across more money some for some reason and you lose it as quick as you got it, it is a nervous system issue.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the same thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body, yes, you manifested the money, but your body got rid of it as quick as possible because it money equals unsafe to your nervous system right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I had to sit with myself and ask myself what beliefs I had around money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think most people feel this, and that is being unworthy of receiving more money, of being able to hold more money.
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  SPEAKER_00: Regardless, everyone's reason for feeling unworthy to have a bunch of money is different.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's subconscious, meaning we're not really completely aware of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We can only access our conscious while we're awake in the delta brain wavelength.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's just you being awake and logical and analytical, your normal state during the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can only access your conscious.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so that means you can logically think, you can analyze your feelings.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, you're only gonna get your conscious' beliefs, not your subconscious beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna go to too deep into it, but that means your brain during the day, while you're wide awake, is only going to tell you, yeah, I'm worthy of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I work my ass off.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, I'm I'm not pushing money away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why would I do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, that is the answer you're gonna get.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's the answer I got when I was awake, random in the middle of the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, and I know this sounds funny, but just stick with me because I teach how to get the true deep-rooted belief.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everyone's reason for feeling unworthy is different.
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  SPEAKER_00: We were raised in different families, we had different teachers, we were raised in different cities and states and countries, but the common denominator was we were taught money doesn't come easily, it definitely doesn't grow on trees, and you must work hard and earn it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Earn it is a key word right there.
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  SPEAKER_00: You must be worthy of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keeps you on the hamster wheel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Work, work, work hard, hard, hard, get another job, get a third job until I earn it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fuck that.
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  SPEAKER_00: The richest people are working a third of the amount that you work.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, every wealthy person will say they worked their ass off, they earned it, and they did temporarily.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, those wealthy people are smart enough to know the real work was mental.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've learned from these people.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is 1,000% mental, and the only hours and hard work and blood, sweat, and tears they put in was inspired action, not running on a hamster wheel.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many more jobs can I get?
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you knew, if I told you$111 was going to heal, if not begin the healing process for your nervous system, and that you would be able to attract more money and hold the money this time, suddenly$100 does not feel like that much if you knew it was going to change your life, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: What if you knew your finances would increase simply for taking a leap and trading that$111?
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  SPEAKER_00: I can say this because I've invested thousands, tens of thousands, okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: I will never share the real number, tens of thousands, into education when I didn't have the money, but I was desperate for a new experience, and I believed them when they said you have to do something you've never done to get something you've never gotten.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I didn't want to work more.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wanted to attract more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I wanted to become a stronger magnet to where money finds me, opportunities find me, people find me, not me going out and running and you know, shooting a bunch of arrows with no target.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I chose to look at it as an investment, not a loss of money, because your body has trained you that the cost of something equals a loss for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's trained you to believe that when you spend, you are losing.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is not the case.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because there is something called the law of cause and effect, or you reap what you sow, or as above, sow below, or karma, whatever you want to call it.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is the law that when you give, you receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you receive, you give.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have just been focused on one side of that stick.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your body, your nervous system has become so focused on one side of the stick, and that is losing the money, not the receiving of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's a circle, it's a cycle.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is abit's the natural flow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Money should come in and money should come out.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you're here, you are feeling like way more money's going out than it is coming in, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: It's because your nervous system is pushing it away.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is forgotten that you're supposed to have fun with money and you're supposed to have an exchange with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: You exchange that money for an experience or a fun item or food or shelter, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or survival.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your brain and your nervous system have completely lost the meaning of money.
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  SPEAKER_00: It has simply become a very unsafe topic to talk about, to face in general.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you are avoiding your bank account because you're terrified of what you're gonna see, please take my Money Babe Academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the chance with all the exercises and information that your brain needs to shift its relationship with money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have a completely free option as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: My podcast, I do a series called All About Money.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you've already listened to the episodes, listen to them again because you will always gain that new information on a brand new day.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are in a different vibration than you were from the last time you listened to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that means you will always hear it differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something new will click based on the new experiences you've had since you last listened to those episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So don't be afraid to re-listen to podcasts, don't be afraid to reread books.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain and your nervous system need those constant reminders.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to be told money is safe because you've been told money is unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your brain has been rehearsing money is unsafe for tens of years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your brain believes whatever is on repetition.
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  SPEAKER_00: And your repetition is money is unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's never enough to go around, money never sticks around.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know how to get more money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I already work this much.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm probably never gonna get more money because it never worked in the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: That has been on repeat in your brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: You need to sit and do the shadow work and really face your nervous system and go to that young you and have a conversation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay, I teach this in my Money Babe Academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I teach how to get into the correct brave wing brain wavelength to manifest, to get to that subconscious, deep-rooted belief because you probably aren't even aware what it is yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so you don't know what to heal, you don't know what to convince your brain and body of instead because you don't know what it believes yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: All you know is when I get it, I lose it over and over and over again.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's never enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: So go check out either my podcast series uh all about money.
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  SPEAKER_00: I believe there's four episodes out, or go check out my Money Babe Academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not only do I provide all the information about why your brain and body has believed this, how to flip it, and there is a meditation in there that I created.
• 15:16
  SPEAKER_00: It is my voice, it is my meditation that I recorded, and it is a nervous system meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is all focused on bringing safety back to your nervous system around money specifically.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can always go do the tangible exercises, like check your bank account more frequently than you want to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start making that a normal practice so that when you do have to check your bank account, you don't feel this adrenaline rush.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't feel the nerves in your stomach of how much is gonna be in there.
• 15:49
  SPEAKER_00: Did a bill go through that I wasn't expecting?
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  SPEAKER_00: That is also on rehearse, on rehearsal in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you can always do the tangible practices, read the books, you know, but at the end of the day, you have to do the nervous system healing because that is what controls everything within you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, my um Money Babe Academy is linked in my bio on my social media platform, and all my money all about money episodes are here on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am sending you so much love and abundance.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.