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DILEMMAS:KNOWING YOUR WORTH · Relatables

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  Speaker 1: Coming up on relatables.
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  Speaker 2: So the glitteriss is actually a thing.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of like a uniform, all right. Some people
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  Speaker 1: say it exists, some people say it doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: She's got one, She's still concerned.
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  Speaker 3: Relatable Relatable podcast is hosted by myself, mister Jake Craig
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  Speaker 3: Akaa Daddy.
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  Speaker 1: I think I want you start saying girl Daddy, girl Daddy,
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  Speaker 1: and my partner in crime is to Oddie Clark aka mummy,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to start saying, Ruler, what you got
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  Speaker 1: to say something? You're like a sibling. How it's like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you ever did this when you're
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  Speaker 1: a kid, but me and my sister used to. Obviously
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  Speaker 1: maybe you did this fight to take turns in the
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  Speaker 1: front seat. I kind of always did get to the
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  Speaker 1: back because I was younger, which sucked, so did I.
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  Speaker 2: Oh no, but we always went on there's only two
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  Speaker 2: of us, we're both in the back.
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  Speaker 1: And then also big one and also massive divide. I've
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  Speaker 1: noticed in the world of siblings is some siblings do
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  Speaker 1: this and some siblings some siblings don't. We used to
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  Speaker 1: fight over who used to get to press the elevator button. No,
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  Speaker 1: we didn't do that.
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  Speaker 2: Day. Yeah, okay, I don't think we stayed in places
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  Speaker 2: of elevator out.
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  Speaker 1: There just stands on the outside like a motel.
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  Speaker 2: There probably wasn't even two stories or camping, not that
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  Speaker 2: boozie life like you were.
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  Speaker 1: Yah, it's nice penthouse. Please let me press it.
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  Speaker 2: I want to go to our pent house, Daddy.
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  Speaker 1: It is nice. I'll say it's nice up there. I'll
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  Speaker 1: get there one day. Bad is.
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  Speaker 2: Today's episode is a dilemma's episode with the being oh Chives.
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  Speaker 2: And if you want to submit a dilemma, it is
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  Speaker 2: pinned in a description and it is completely anonymous. And
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  Speaker 2: sometimes we start these dilemmas with a dilemma of our own.
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  Speaker 1: I have one, do.
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  Speaker 2: You No, I actually have a good dilemma. It's actually
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  Speaker 2: a proper dilemma. So let me set the scene. My
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  Speaker 2: house is kind of on the top of a hill,
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  Speaker 2: and three houses back onto me, at the back of me,
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  Speaker 2: arguably five going down the hill.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, straight towards like a straight stand.
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  Speaker 1: Straight off the balcony. Yeah, straight off the balcony.
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  Speaker 2: So my house is higher than say, three to five
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  Speaker 2: houses underneath me because the hills going down.
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  Speaker 1: How did how did the four houses in between the
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  Speaker 1: fifth house and your house get to their house.
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  Speaker 2: There's roads on the other side, down near the line.
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  Speaker 2: But anyway, I reckon. I'm being waked up three times
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  Speaker 2: a week at like eleven and two am, woken up
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  Speaker 2: three times a week by like at like eleven and
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  Speaker 2: three am by a random dog. Like it's consistent. It's
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  Speaker 2: been happening for like three weeks. And my dilemma is one,
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  Speaker 2: do I say something too? I don't know who to
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  Speaker 2: say something too. I'm fucking pissed. I'm waking up because
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  Speaker 2: the sound kind of rises to my house too, and
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  Speaker 2: my room's the clop is closest down the bottom. I
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  Speaker 2: just wake up at like two am. It's like, I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, fuck, what do you do here?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, barking at night is annoying. Like Henry, he barks
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  Speaker 1: at a lot of noises when he's awake, but he
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  Speaker 1: never ever barks at night.
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  Speaker 2: I'll be fine with a one off randomly, but it's
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  Speaker 2: happening consistently, consistently night. Yeah, it's like they don't even care.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, how want you? It's got to be an
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  Speaker 2: old person. They don't hear it.
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  Speaker 1: I mean it's just that's the thing is, like they
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  Speaker 1: probably do care, but I wonder if they're doing everything
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  Speaker 1: they can about it, maybe they don't care. Maybe they
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  Speaker 1: sleep through it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm thinking five anonymous notes go a long way.
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  Speaker 2: First sus if they have a dog or not? Anonymous note,
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  Speaker 2: a note, anonymous note, anonymous note, anonymous note.
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  Speaker 1: Do your parents say anything about it?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 2: But there no, mum has once. But also I'm a
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  Speaker 2: soft sleeper, some bit of a bitch m m. But
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  Speaker 2: I'm like also, like I feel like that's valid.
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  Speaker 1: When do you move? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: True, true, true, true, Like when it's ready a month
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  Speaker 2: and a half, two months maybe, okay, it's two months?
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  Speaker 1: About broken sleep? Yeah, that's a broken sleep. So so
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  Speaker 1: you reckon?
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  Speaker 2: Actually do is that leaning towards his coponet?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, wait do you know the holiday homes could
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  Speaker 1: be school holiday? Is school holiday is still a thing.
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  Speaker 1: I've just gone back, so maybe i'll see, I'll see
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  Speaker 1: maybe people just moved in. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: It's giving old person to me and like otherwise someone
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  Speaker 2: would be out there and it's happened before, and the
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  Speaker 2: neighbors like, yeo, shut the fuck up.
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  Speaker 1: So it's just mad consistent.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and like all the houses where my line of
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  Speaker 2: houses are, it just raises the noise.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder you can't pinpoint a house. No, I can't.
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  Speaker 1: I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I've gone out in my back and in the middle
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  Speaker 2: of the night where definitely not a neighbor on either
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  Speaker 2: side that's not in front of me.
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  Speaker 1: It has to be in front of you. If it's
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  Speaker 1: waking you up, it has to be directly in front
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  Speaker 1: of you. Then it has to be the first one
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  Speaker 1: in front of you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm thinking one to the right. Maybe that's my money point.
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  Speaker 1: Oh see, Actually, you know what I wouldn't I wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: hate it if you did a note because anonymously one
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  Speaker 1: a concerned neighbor. I no, no, what do you mean
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  Speaker 1: a concern you'd be an annoyed neighbor.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, a pissed off neighbor, A pissed off neighbor.
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  Speaker 1: I would love it if you could write a note
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  Speaker 1: and say, like where you live? All right? If you're
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  Speaker 1: going to say something, say to someone's face, let him
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  Speaker 1: know who says it. Oh, write a note, mean like, hi,
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  Speaker 1: my name's do you think I am? Hi? My name's
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  Speaker 1: Aardie for about you know? Start keeping track for the
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  Speaker 1: last eighteen nights in a row. Yeah, your dog is
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  Speaker 1: barked at, and then be like this one was one am,
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  Speaker 1: this one was one thirty, this one was eleven, this
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  Speaker 1: one was two. And it wakes me up every single time.
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  Speaker 1: And I just wanted to know if there's anything that
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  Speaker 1: you could maybe do about that. Here's my number. Please
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  Speaker 1: give me a call if possible, and then give us
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  Speaker 1: an update content. I like the tracking and like you're
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  Speaker 1: not saying like Fox, it's been like just wondering if
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  Speaker 1: there's any chance, like maybe this is something that could
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  Speaker 1: be fixed.
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  Speaker 2: Also, it sounds like that let your dog inside. I'm
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  Speaker 2: against outside of the dogs.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a humongous dogs sleep in. All the dogs outside.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm like, maybe, like, if you know, if you're
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  Speaker 2: not gonna let your dog inside, pound, I'll take him.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe maybe it's maybe it's outside because of bark Probably
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  Speaker 1: won't barkingside because it's probably barking at noises. Yeah, just
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  Speaker 1: scurrying around and percent that's what it is. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: think leave a bit of a dilemma.
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  Speaker 2: I'll see it's a bit ballsy, but alright, I'll see
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  Speaker 2: how I go.
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  Speaker 1: You could you could could pay off.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe maybe maybe, But alright, let's get to your guys dilemmas. Hi,
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  Speaker 2: Mummy and Daddy. I broke up with my boyfriend of
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  Speaker 2: two and a half years last week. I'm twenty one
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  Speaker 2: and have had a boyfriend on and off since I
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  Speaker 2: was fifteen. My recent relationship was the most serious out
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  Speaker 2: of all my previous ones, and I thought I would
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  Speaker 2: be in this relationship for much longer. There were a
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  Speaker 2: lot of things that were bothering me about him and
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  Speaker 2: his behaviors, but I also realized I had feelings for
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  Speaker 2: one of my close girl friends. I have always felt
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  Speaker 2: connected to her, but was always confused between the difference
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  Speaker 2: of wanting to be really wanting to be really close
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  Speaker 2: friends with someone and wanting to be with them in brackets,
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  Speaker 2: especially as someone who has never been with girls or
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  Speaker 2: even liked girls before. Since the breakup, me and the
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  Speaker 2: girl have been hanging out a lot. I am so
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  Speaker 2: nervous and stressed for doing anything sexual with her. I'm
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  Speaker 2: laughing at myself typing this out right now because I'm
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  Speaker 2: asking two straight men for advice on lesbian women. On
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  Speaker 2: lesbian women, but I need your advice on sex with
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  Speaker 2: women generally anything. Any tips for overcoming the nerves of
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  Speaker 2: eating out a girl for the first time. What if
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  Speaker 2: I can't find the clip at Jake, you would know
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  Speaker 2: about that one. I love you guys about it from Canada.
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  Speaker 1: All right, here you go. Okay, this is somewhere where
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  Speaker 1: I think you're there. You're asking the right guy. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: come to the right pace. So the glitteriss is actually
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  Speaker 1: a thing. It's kind of like a unicorn. All right.
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  Speaker 1: Some people say it exists, some people say it doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: I'm leaning towards doesn't you know what? You know what?
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  Speaker 2: You've got all the ship for saying jokingly saying you
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  Speaker 2: couldn't find the clip.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I actually did it to be fair. It's like
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  Speaker 1: when I said it, I guess what are people can
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  Speaker 1: to like not believe me she's got one.
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  Speaker 4: She's still concerned, Ah, because I guess they're all different.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but all jokes aside. I think we can actually
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  Speaker 2: give some great advice heh because she.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds like she wants to go for it.
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  Speaker 5: So step one, Oh, my advice is read like Akatar,
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  Speaker 5: specifically a quarters of flames and listen to the way
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  Speaker 5: that either Cassian or Nesta is describing her being eaten
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  Speaker 5: out and then also fourth wing and listen to the
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  Speaker 5: ways aiden does it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think you're already one step ahead of
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  Speaker 2: men because you're a woman. You actually listen to the
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  Speaker 2: advice of the partner when you're having sex.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, you're gonna like talk about feelings and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: and you're gonna want it to be good for her
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  Speaker 1: and good for you. Interesting to lammat. Wait, so she
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  Speaker 1: just broke Yeah. Well, I mean, hey, I fucking hope
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  Speaker 1: this all works out.
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  Speaker 2: I would say, she's obviously looking to explore. I would say,
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  Speaker 2: is there any more questions apart from like eating out? Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: she's nervous. How do you fight the nerves?
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  Speaker 1: Or the only way I could give confident advices if
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  Speaker 1: you know this friend of yours is also I think
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  Speaker 1: she is. Yeah, Okay, then I would I think she's
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  Speaker 1: a lesbian. Say, honestly, it's the best policy. Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 2: I also think too, just you're going to make mistakes.
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  Speaker 2: It's not going to be amazing.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to miss some spots. Yeah, have fun. Like
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  Speaker 1: I remember when I.
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  Speaker 2: Was younger and the first time I was doing I
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  Speaker 2: was really really nervous, and I was like trying to
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  Speaker 2: pretend like I knew what I was doing, and in hindsight,
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  Speaker 2: everyone knows that you don't know what you're doing, especially
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  Speaker 2: if it's your first time with a woman. Have some fun,
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  Speaker 2: enjoy it, laugh about it, ask questions, ask questions about
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  Speaker 2: her buddy.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone talks a big game. Yeah, I reckon.
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  Speaker 2: It would have been so much better if I had
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  Speaker 2: the skills to be like, hey, like, look, steer me
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  Speaker 2: in the right direction. Yeah, tell me what you want,
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  Speaker 2: let's feel good. But I was just like, let's just
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  Speaker 2: make this good for you, but just had this silent
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  Speaker 2: imagine imagine.
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  Speaker 1: You're younger and about to have sex for the first time,
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  Speaker 1: and you go, you know, let's talk about this, like
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  Speaker 1: I want this to be good for both of us,
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  Speaker 1: and she goes, well, if you could just last fifteen
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  Speaker 1: I'd be like, hey, let's let's let's start small. Yeah. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: She's like, no, just fifty Can you last fifteen minutes?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if I can last that long,
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  Speaker 1: but in this situation, and also it's not.
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  Speaker 2: About lasting yeah, oh no, not at all. And you
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  Speaker 2: could also start slow in a sense of kiss first,
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  Speaker 2: see if you want to go further set boundaries up
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  Speaker 2: with yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is actually it sounds so fun. I think
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  Speaker 1: like the fact that she's giggling to herself while sending
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  Speaker 1: this means it's like very good signs, like should be
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  Speaker 1: giddy about it. She's like, oh, like feeling like a
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  Speaker 1: crushed you know, you're.
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  Speaker 2: Have a crack, have some fun right right back to
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  Speaker 2: us how it was. You don't have to take our advice,
• 11:37
  Speaker 2: but I want to know how it was. Yeah, dilemma.
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  Speaker 1: What if I can't find the click? That's the funniest
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  Speaker 1: thing to me. Okay my term. Okay, lock in guys.
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  Speaker 1: My partner and I have been together for almost nine years,
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  Speaker 1: from the ages of sixteen to twenty five. Okay, during
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  Speaker 1: this time, he has cheated multiple times. Now, I know
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  Speaker 1: the normal person would say the fuck dump him now,
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  Speaker 1: but what actually happened was he dumped me and I
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  Speaker 1: in brackets, probably like a mug, begged for him back.
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  Speaker 1: The cheating situations happened at various times throughout the relationship,
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  Speaker 1: the most recent being around a year and a half ago.
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  Speaker 1: I forgave him and we moved on. So now they're together.
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  Speaker 1: Now here's my issue. We are currently on the hunt
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  Speaker 1: for a house to move into. Are the most serious
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  Speaker 1: we've ever been. He got a tattoo of me, and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we are pretty steady. I now, however, feel as though
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  Speaker 1: I might not have the same feelings towards him. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm terrified to leave. Oh I remember the absolute heartbreak
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  Speaker 1: I went through multiple times, So I'm confused on why
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  Speaker 1: I feel like this now. I don't know if this
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  Speaker 1: is a phase or if I'm serious about breaking up.
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  Speaker 1: I'm scared that if I do, I'll instantly regret, and
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  Speaker 1: I'd also have went through all those emotions throughout the
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  Speaker 1: years for nothing. Oh I mean I say dump. I think. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's hard though, because to the batter who sent this in,
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  Speaker 2: you're staying for the wrong reasons because you don't want
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  Speaker 2: to hurt again, and you think about all the time
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  Speaker 2: you've invested, and what if you made the wrong decision.
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  Speaker 2: You're thinking about this is the decision made. You can't
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  Speaker 2: mean a relationship if your heart's not in it. And
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  Speaker 2: I think even though those guys cheated on you, he
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  Speaker 2: deserves to know that, or at least be broken up with.
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  Speaker 1: I think you should cheat on him. Let's go get
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  Speaker 1: out of your system and then see if you still
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  Speaker 1: love it this guy for what fucking.
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  Speaker 2: Oh you now, why do it? It sounds techy in
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  Speaker 2: a sense of there might be a little bit of
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  Speaker 2: resentment there too in the back of her head, like me, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it has to be yeah, and like you tell yourself
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  Speaker 2: that everyone tries like, oh, I've got over it. And
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  Speaker 2: then but you're writing in a dilemma that he's cheated
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  Speaker 2: on me.
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  Speaker 1: Have you gotten over it?
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  Speaker 2: And that's completely valid not to get over it? And
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: is there a zema there? And you're like, for well, fuck,
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  Speaker 2: maybe he's not that good.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And now no, actually, I know why she's thinking about this.
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  Speaker 2: It's getting too serious now that there's actual commitment on
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  Speaker 2: the line.
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  Speaker 1: She's getting cold feet. Yeah, house, Like, I guess maybe
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  Speaker 1: if you haven't lived together ever. The whole time, it
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: was like we can get back together with him, like
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: we don't live together, we're not actually locked in like that.
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  Speaker 1: He's not asking me to marry him. Yeah, And I
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  Speaker 1: don't think that leaving him would mean you've gone through
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  Speaker 1: all those heartbreaks for nothing, by the way.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no. And also if you're leaving he
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: broke off of you the first time, Well, I think
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: the most recent time that he cheated, he broke up
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  Speaker 2: with her because he cheated.
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  Speaker 1: That's the vibe I'm getting. And then she's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, stay.
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  Speaker 1: But now it's on your terms.
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  Speaker 2: And to be fair, it takes time to figure this
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  Speaker 2: shit out. If it's on your terms, it should be
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  Speaker 2: a little bit easier.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think that maybe what's happened is you have
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  Speaker 1: literally just finally very taken the long time to figure
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  Speaker 1: it out, but you have your body has let all
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  Speaker 1: the feelings of all the cheating really really process. You know,
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  Speaker 1: your mind, your body, your nervous system, everything, it's all
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  Speaker 1: really been processing this whole time. And so maybe each
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  Speaker 1: time you cheated, it just like the process just started
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: over a bit of codependence clearly, maybe not clearly, but
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  Speaker 1: like assume and now your body has gone through the
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: process of processing all of this trauma, and it's like
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: we don't actually need him, Yeah, And it's trying to
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  Speaker 1: tell you and I don't think you should ignore it
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  Speaker 1: and to make it easier.
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  Speaker 2: Every time previously it sounds like you've been caught off guard.
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  Speaker 2: This time, you're kind of mentally prepared halfway out the door.
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  Speaker 1: Like it seems to me. You know, there might not
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  Speaker 1: be too much heartbreak involved because you've experienced the heartbreak.
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  Speaker 1: You know you could, you could, you.
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  Speaker 2: Could flip it on its head, break up of him.
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  Speaker 2: This is the best decision I've ever made.
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  Speaker 1: I am free. Okay, here we go. You know what
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  Speaker 1: I like about this bad Is she serious? She has
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  Speaker 1: like zero ill intent towards this guy, and I'm trying
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  Speaker 1: to make her. I was about to say, you know,
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  Speaker 1: get the house, signed the lease, but put it all
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  Speaker 1: in his name, just telling him you're help him with
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: the bond. No, no, buy a house. They're buying a house. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Title I want Jake's reaction to the title best guy friend.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: Originally met on a hinge, but nothing happened. We became
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: really close platonic mates. Skip fast forward six months and
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: we both were in Bali over New Year's One night out.
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: After a lot of drinks, we hooked up and I'm
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: not saying little kisses. I'm saying making out on the
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: dance floor, having giggles, cuddling, dancing together, ended up back
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: at his villa and had probably the best sex of
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: my life. Two days later we see each other again.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: He breaks down crying, saying he doesn't want to lose
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: it and loves me and is upset that we in quotes,
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: cross that boundary. I'm hurt, I cry, but also don't
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: want to lose him as a friend, as we've created
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: a very good foundation. Okay, Anyway, New Year, back home,
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: and we end up seeing each other every single day
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: two weeks straight. He comes over and looks after me
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: when I'm sick. He mowed my lawn, our dog set
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: and spent the day with him, just doing personal ad
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: mid things. The banter is still there, the closeness is
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: still there, and we both said what happened in Bali
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: stays in Bali.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: In my mind.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: I know nothing will happen, but he keeps me close
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: and makes jokes about relationships. When I say I'm trying
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: to date, I feel like he's keeping me as a
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: backup because he doesn't want me right now. Advice, please, I'm.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Gonna tell you something that you need to hear. You're
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: not friends.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: The foundation that you think is so strong, it's.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: A most naive thing anyone's ever said.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: You guys aren't friends. Oh, if you cross the boundary,
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: you can't go back. It's like you're on the edge
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: of a cliff and you just jumped off, and then
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: you think you can automatically just go back up there.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're your fallen girl. Yeah. Like you're not friends, no,
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: and as sooner you accept that, the sooner all of
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: these feelings you have, like here you go, this is
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: what you need to come to terms with. You guys
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: aren't friends. You both like each other. He doesn't want
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: you right now, that's how you feel, at least all right,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: you are letting yourselves stay friends just so you don't
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: lose him. Yeah, okay, So you need to protect your
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: peace because there is never going to be any peace. Well,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: you guys are quote unquote friends. Yeah, okay, so apologies
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: if it sounds harsh.
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: Now what you gotta do is own it. You have
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: one chance, and one chance only say to him, Look,
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: we hooked up in BALI I loved it.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: I think I have feelings for you. Do you want
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: to pursue this? And he says no, you move on.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: You're no longer friends, you're no longer going to be
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: potentially lovers in the future. That door is closed and
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: closed forever, agreed. Hush, But that's what you've got to
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: do to protect yourself.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: I just don't see any reason to hold on neither.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: There's nothing there.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: It's like this ambiguity in the mid in the middle ambiguity.
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: Damn it.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: So close it was coming there, then it was coming
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: out wrong. Yeah, yeah, I don't know. I ask yourself this, like,
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: if he gets a girlfriend, do you think that he's
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: going to introduce you as a friend that and then
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: also tell his girlfriend that you guys have slept together
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: and expect his girlfriend to feel comfortable with that, and
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: you guys hang out one on one And if you
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: get a boyfriend, are you going to expect your boyfriend
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: to be comfortable? Like, I'm not I don't want to
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: sound toxic currently. I'm just saying, like, would you tell
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: your boyfriend that you slept with this man? Maybe I
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: shouldn't say, like would you expect your boyfriend to be
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: okay with it? But would you want to tell your
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: boyfriend that this is one of my best friends. We
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: did have sex, because you can't keep that from them.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Keeping that from them is choosing to hide something. So
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: you're going to say to them, we have had sex,
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: but we're just friends now, Like, are you okay to
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: say that, and then I mean if the guy you're seeing,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: I mean, if the guy you're seeing is not okay
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: with it, then obviously you can't be with him because
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: he's not someone that's like maybe sees our eye with you.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: But like, you got to ask yourself these questions. I
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: know you're not in that situation, but like it just
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: just I don't know, we just as humans, we just
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: don't work like that.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just don't like how Like, I don't know
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: you had sex two days later? Yeah, you catch up
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: again at breakfast he starts crying.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Manipulative. Yeah, like I don't know.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: I don't like that he did it, own it, yeah, Like,
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: and deal with the consequences. Don't fucking cry in front
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: of you make you feel bad?
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah? Manipulative? Yeah, I don't like that title. Dating someone
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: that makes less money than me, M, how do you
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: navigate life without emasculating them? I don't make it an issue.
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: And if money is an issue, I don't mind paying
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: and gladly offer. But I can tell it bothers my boyfriend.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm missing out on experiences because of
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: his ego. Do I need to date someone in my
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: own league? Question mark, Ooh, this brings up a great debate. Hmmm.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: I think if it affects him that way, and he's
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: having a bit of a tiff because you want to
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: do things and he can't afford it, then yes, I
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: think it's not that you should date someone in the
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: same bracket as you. It's more that you should date
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: someone who how would you walk type a person? Is
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: that I'm not because you don't need to date someone
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: who makes the same amount of money, But it's more
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: someone who's.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: More tax bracket. Yeah, I'm talking tax bracket.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah, now just talking to someone who's confident in themselves
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: outside of money.
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this guy clearly is feeling a bit what's the
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: word insecure? And I don't know, Like, why can't you
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: earn more money than him? Like if he earned more
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: money than you, he'd be okay with it. Yeah, he'd
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: be fine, he'd be that's actually what he wants. He
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: wants to earn more money than you. But you earn
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: more money than him, and he cares. It could be
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: a fuck.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: It could be a little bit of a control thing too,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: Like he's not in control of the situation. Maybe you've
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: got more freedom than him. So like, here's the thing, right,
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: are they dating or seeing it tother dating?
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Okay, so let's say baddie wants to go do X experience,
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: but boyfriend can't afford to do that experience or maybe
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: like it'd be a bit of a just like really
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: be thinning out of the bank account a little bit.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: So she says, like, I would really like to go.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna go. If you would like to come, I'm
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: more than happy to help you out with it because
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: I want you there. Thoughts. I think that's good.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's good the same and if you
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: say no, that it shows that he's not confident in
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: his masculinity.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and like like this guy clearly thinks that he
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: can't bring anything more to the table than money. Yeah, exactly.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: You know that's the fucking problem.
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: I didn't see it as an issue at all for
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: most people, especially he should appreciate that you want him
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: there and.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: It's your thing.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: It's not like you're saying, like, fuck, let's go on
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: a fucking twenty thousand dollars Europe, Holliday and I'll cover
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: all your thing.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: And like, I'm sure you're not being like what's the
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: word ignorant.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: No ignorant because word like.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: When tone deaf, like you're not being tone deaf towards
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: the situation, and it sounds like you tread quite lightly anyway.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: She fread heavy.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: She could be out of a fancy restaurant heavy. She's like,
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: tap tap, I make more money than you, bitch, Sit
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: the funck down, you know what, you know.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: What would do in that situation. I would sit down.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: I would I would sit the fun down and then
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: him on the way home sold. Yeah, no, I reckon honestly,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: if he if he can't grow like this, yeah, then
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: you don't want him.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I agree. I think Beth used to make more money
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: than me. Uh and now we actually we ended up
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: becoming even. But now I make more mone than hope.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: She quit a job.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: You got business money.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not really different though. Business money's good there. Yeah,
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: but sorry, but I never cared. I kind of was
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: just like all I did, which is like when when
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I knew best was making more than me, I just
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: actually I just did let her pay more. I was
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: like me and Cassie have always been pretty on path. Yeah,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: more so she appreciates money more. Is that the right
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: way to appreciates, respects. Yeah, respects money a little bit more.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: I've kind of just had that if I wanted to
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: do something, if we want to stay somewhere a little
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: bit more, but I'll just.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Pay for it. I have so much disrespect for money,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: Like if there's money on the floor of the must
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: be money. I disrespect money. I have none.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: After the story I heard about your little brother the
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: other day, I see where you get it from.
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Throwing under the bus. Fucking help bro. That's the thing is, like,
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: I definitely it was pretty lucky. And like I would say,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: clear foots me with money. No, I just like whenever
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: I have it, I just like fucking love spending it.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: It does feel good.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: It brings a fine line between like if you are
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: comfortable and you can't afford it, where's the line between
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: If it feels good, why don't you.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Just do it?
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: I think that.
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: Maybe that's the I don't know that considered turned off.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: But it's your own situation, You're own circumstance.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, Like maybe I'm being toned deaf
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: right now. Like I don't judge people that are tight
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: with money but like to have a lot in their
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: bank account, Like, I don't care if you do that. Yeah,
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: maybe it's just not something that I like value. Maybe
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: you will let her in life. Maybe yeah, I for
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: some reason, just like always where the first time I
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: heard someone say money comes and money goes. I never
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: should have never said that to me yesday, but my car,
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: I never ever should have been told that phrase. Does
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: It comes in waves.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: I'm just good because I feel like phases of like
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I'm on a label as ADHD, but I get like
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: super concentrated on one thing. So if I'm concentrating on saving,
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: I'll concentrate on that, but then three months down the line,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: I'll get concentrated on spending.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: The past three years, I reckon, It's been nine months saving,
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: three months spending.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I've got a good ratio. And here's the thing. I
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: was like, I I stress about money. I do, but
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: like that doesn't kick me into gear like it should.
• 27:42
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• 27:46
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  Speaker 2: bad alrighty dilemma. I can never seem to get past
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  Speaker 2: the three month of talking stage. I get Miss universe
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  Speaker 2: is just saying it's not your time. But I give
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: so much love romantically and platonically, and I just feel
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  Speaker 2: as though it's never matched and it would be nice
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: to get a little bit back. When reflecting back on
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: my romantic times, I can only think maybe I was
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: too nice?
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: Is this a thing I have been told that?
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: Here she's listing off the things she's done. I'm independent.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: I text a bit, not too much, but not often enough.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: Time in person is always fun and lighthearted. We usually
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: see each other two to three times a week. I
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: don't sleep with them within the first three weeks, and
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: usually I like to clock it at about three months,
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: and if they're not good, they're gone. I just don't
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: know what I'm doing wrong. I've seen a few nice guys,
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: and don't get me wrong, I love men. I think
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: they are great. But I seem to get horror story
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: after horror story. It's crazy, twenty five year old female.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. You sound fucking fine, you sound perfect. Yeah.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: I want to Jake stumps on money, I stomp on
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: being too nice. I don't think you can be too nice?
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: What like?
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: I think that's the biggest cop out ever.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I hate it. It's actually it's just really mean to
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: say yeah, and how.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: Can anyone be too nice? It is implying that, like
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: they're mean.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: Well, it's like it's not even implying anything. It's like
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: it's just a telling someone that they're too nice as
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: a reason for not wanting to be with someone.
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: Is like.
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: Just them saying that they're trying to like backhand to
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: compliment their way out of a situation that is like
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: semi confronting. They're not going to hurt someone's feelings. They're
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: trying to give you a compliment. That's actually not agreed.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: This dilemma, too, though, would be very very relatable to
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: a lot of women out there, not only because of
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: all the things you have to offer, but also the
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: horror stories we've heard.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: Countless son mom. Oh, yeah, what's what's the So does
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: she what's the dilema?
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: Here's what can she do?
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: So she wants a man?
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she wants a man. She's romantic, platonically and romantically.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: Are the men leaving her? Yeah? Because she's too nice?
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah I think so, Oh what the fuck?
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: I would just say, you hate to hear it, but
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: fuck them. Just keep doing your thing, girl.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: And like I suppose we did a.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: Thing on the main episode where like you don't want
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: to hear this, but also like if you focus on yourself,
• 32:26
  Speaker 2: it'll come to you.
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: It's the worst. Yeah, that's the worst thing to say
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: to a single person that wants a man.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have so much to give and you
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: don't want to waste it on a man because you
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: want it so much.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: My advice would be, keep doing what you're doing right,
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: and don't settle. Yeah, don't settle, that's the thing. Don't
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: you dare settle? Keep doing what you're doing, and don't
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: settle and don't question yourself. No, you know who you are,
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: you know what you have to offer, and if someone
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: can't appreciate that, don't let them gaslight you into thinking
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: too nice or I don't know, you're not good enough
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: at sex, or yah, you're.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: Not pretty enough. Yeah you are. Recognize manipulation when you
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: see it, Yeah, which has probably got to do with
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: a lot of the horror stories you hear. Yeah, maybe
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know, Maybe you're not too nice, maybe you're intimidating.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Maybe who knows, which I mean sounds like a bad thing,
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: but it's like you know, you may genuinely. I guess
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: we think about it. Like, of all the stuff we've
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: talked about over the years, the common conclusion is that
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: men can be quite terrible and also lack evolution. Yeah too.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: From last week we spoke think, I think, or on
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Monday's episodes we spoke about that we lack we lack evolving, Okay,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: and so that makes the dating pool more more like
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: a dating puddle. But I guess what I'm trying to
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: say is keep doing what you're doing, Recognize manipulation when
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: you see it, because to say to someone that I
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: don't want to be with you because you're too nice
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  Speaker 1: is manipulating that person by making it like they're trying
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  Speaker 1: to say it's your fault that you're so nice and
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to be with you. It's just not
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  Speaker 1: the case. Stupid, and yeah, don't settle. And I do
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: think that a good guy will come along. I do.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: I agree Baddies.
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  Speaker 2: Unfortunately, that's it for the main episode for free, but
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  Speaker 2: we are continuing on Patreon four eight dollars ninety nine
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: aud a month, and you get the extended version of Dilemmas.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: You also get an extra episode every week, and the
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: book club early and the baddy.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Community over there is really really good and.
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  Speaker 2: We don't really mention it that often, but Patreon also
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: gets exclusive dilemmas. So yes, over here, there's about three
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: thousand and seven hundred dilemas which we got to go
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: through over there, not that many, so we'll get to
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  Speaker 2: all of them.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to get your dilemma, read Patreon's
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  Speaker 1: where to go. Thanks for listening, Stay bad