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The Day I Wanted To Quit Building My Business · Natty Unfiltered

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  Foreign welcome
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  back to Nati Unfiltered Podcast. The space where we get
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  real about identity, confidence and rediscovering
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  yourself beyond motherhood. I'm Natalia
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  and today I want to talk
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  about the day I wanted to quit building my online business
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  and second guessing if I got
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  into back to real estate and for
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  what reasons. Now, if you've ever cried in
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  your car or maybe in your bedroom
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  floor or in your bathroom floor,
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  wondering if you should just give up,
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  you're not alone. I've been there.
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  I've been in those moments more than I can
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  count, where the weight of building an online business,
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  the stress of life and the pressure to keep
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  showing up just felt too heavy. And I thought
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  about walking away. And that also
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  thought was same for real
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  estate at some point when things just
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  weren't going the way I wanted them to go.
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  But every time, you know, I just said, nope, I'm not giving
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  up. And so today I just want to share the raw
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  unfiltered truth about those many days I almost
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  quit and why I chose to to keep going.
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  Because maybe you're in that space right now and
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  you need to hear that you're not broken, you are not failing
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  and you are not alone. This is just part of
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  the journey of where you're going. And if
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  you want something bad enough, you will continue
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  to persevere, to push through and keep
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  on going. And sometimes,
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  yes, you will have those tears.
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  There's been plenty of times where I was
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  frustrated of building my social media accounts,
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  Digital affiliate marketing, TikTok shop,
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  the Amazon reviewer. So many things
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  that I put on my shoulders to tackle because
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  I wanted to be like I had this goal
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  of where I wanted to be financially,
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  where I wanted to be kind of successful
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  in my life and I wanted to set out those goals
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  and those dreams that I wanted to achieve because
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  I knew that it was possible and I can
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  achieve them as well because I know that
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  I can do it. If others can do it, then I can do it.
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  Working through low engagements, no sales,
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  algorithm changing. If you've been on social
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  media platforms, you know that algorithm changes all
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  the time and you really can't keep up with
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  it because otherwise you just, you're going to lose your mind.
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  You just need to focus on what you
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  want to deliver and just do it.
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  I felt many times stuck and uninspired.
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  You know when you are on social media and you're creating different
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  posts, you need to have that creative mindset,
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  clear mindset, to have ideas flowing
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  and posting for your audience and
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  depending on what audience you want to attract.
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  If you are sharing, if you're a mother and you're
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  sharing about your motherhood and if you're
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  working mom or you're a stay at home mom, what exactly did you want to
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  share? Because sometimes you think, oh, I don't have a lot of to share,
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  my life is kind of boring. And you kind of have to
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  look at it is that we do so many things and you
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  just have to see what parts of life you want to
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  share to your audience.
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  I know that at times the judgment
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  of others can come into play
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  of being on social media because like
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  I've questioned myself and when things might
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  not be going right in personal life, how do
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  you continue to show up and put on the not
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  just brave face but the happy face? I know some people can do it,
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  there's no problem. I know it from myself. I cannot
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  be doing that if I'm not happy.
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  I cannot be showing up on social media all hunky dory,
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  all happy and pretend to be someone
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  that I'm not. So the when
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  you are trying to build your business it
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  feels kind of isolated because not a lot of people can understand you
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  and what you exactly you're doing. Especially those that are not really on
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  social media. Some people can be like let's say on Facebook, but they're not on
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  Instagram and tick tock Instagram and TikTok they're in
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  the way two different platforms. Instagram is a little bit
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  more curated beautiful where TikTok is
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  just go with the flow type of a thing. You can show up however you
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  want to look, you can dance, you can be silly.
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  And there's a different type of people
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  on TikTok and there's same people who are on TikTok and
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  Instagram and sometimes you'll see accounts where a lot of times people will
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  have a lot more followers on TikTok than they do on Instagram.
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  It's just different kind of a clientele on Instagram.
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  So you just, you try to find your own people
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  that will love what you are creating.
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  And people that are not really much on social
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  media, they don't realize how much it goes into creating
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  post for your business for your, you know, for your, for yourself.
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  Because you are the business.
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  People have to, when they find you,
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  they need to like you, they need
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  to trust you before they actually going to
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  know, follow you and before they're gonna actually buy from you
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  whatever that you are, you know, might be selling
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  or you're promoting on social media.
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  I remember there Was a time where life
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  was so hectic and there was just a lot of going on. And I actually
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  took quite some time from social media. I was not
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  on it, and I knew that
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  I was actually hurting my account by not posting
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  just because of the al. How the algorithm works.
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  But at that moment, at that time,
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  my sort of sanity and what I was
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  going through was more important than being
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  on social media. And I had
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  to take the break from it. And when I was
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  ready, I got back into it. And at that time,
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  I kind of knew, okay, this is what I wanted to do,
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  this is direction I want to take. And I
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  know that doesn't matter kind of what's going on. I need to.
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  Even if I need to, like, badge the contact content,
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  then that's what I needed to do so that I have enough content
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  to be posting. Even on those days when I'm not feeling
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  well or I'm sick or I don't feel like creating
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  content, I have it saved in my drafts that I
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  can go ahead and just post. And when you try to put
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  yourself out there, it does come, of course, with other
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  people judging you. And it really comes down to also how
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  you look at it. Are you. You need to kind of develop that
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  thick skin and decide,
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  okay, how are you going to be dealing with it? And people always going
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  to talk. But you have to put on that,
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  I would say, not a brave face, but you just
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  have to think about, okay, why am I doing it? What is my why?
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  When you get clear on why are you doing it, then the
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  outside noise is. Just starts to disappear.
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  Because at the end of the day, it's your life. And that's how I had
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  to think about. It's my life, I'm paying my bills,
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  nobody else. And this is what I wanted to
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  do. Nobody's going to come and tell you, well, why are you doing this job?
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  Or why are you in this position?
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  Because you kind of. It's like more private. But yes, when you put yourself out
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  there, you open yourself to a lot more judgment because there's
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  a lot more eyes on you. And in those moments when I
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  thought, okay, when things were getting
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  tough and I was not seeing the results I wanted, I was
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  not seeing results quick enough. Even in, like, real estate business,
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  when I thought
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  that, okay, I have to reshift
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  things, I can't really rely on others,
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  certain things that somebody said or they were
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  going to do, they're not doing it, you know, I had to change the way
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  I look at things. And I needed to realize
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  that Quitting doesn't just mean walking away
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  from my businesses. It means that walking away from
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  myself, from my vision and my future.
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  Am I willing to do that? And the answer was
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  no. I needed to put
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  away the tears, put away the fears,
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  and just keep on pushing through.
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  Choosing to thread lightly with people who drain
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  my energy or over promise and don't deliver is something
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  that I also needed to learn.
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  I needed to learn again that I
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  need to rely on myself. Over and over in life,
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  I've learned to mainly rely on myself
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  and nobody else because then I answer
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  it to myself. I've learned that people will let you down.
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  People will say one thing and then they do another thing.
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  And if you put your, your all your eggs in
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  one basket, you're going to be very disappointed.
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  I've had an, you know, instance where, you know,
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  I've had someone that said
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  will be, you know, promised things will
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  help and that's just didn't
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  really happen. And yes, it did crush me. Yes, it did disappoint
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  me because it was a close person.
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  And I had to think so for so many times,
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  why? And why did I really
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  think that this person would be able to be
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  someone I can lean on? And it just made
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  me realize that I have to rely on myself.
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  Yes, there's still good people who will help you,
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  who will stand by the word.
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  But now I, like I said, I have to make
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  myself realize that,
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  choose myself and trust
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  myself and rely on myself realizing
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  that you don't need everyone,
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  you just need the right people.
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  And I know that in my life I have those
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  people. And I still have to keep my guard up.
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  Now the power of action versus the
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  words, how true supporters
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  reveal themselves is by them showing up,
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  not just talking. So you always look at people,
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  how much talking they do and how much action they do,
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  can they back up on what they're saying? And when
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  you are getting into any type of business,
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  there's going to be other people who are willing to help you. And there's other
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  people who can, you know, will sabotage you. And sometimes people
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  when they're, they'll help you, but then when they see that you're succeeding,
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  then they start showing their different side.
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  And you always have to keep your guard up and
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  make sure that you are not
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  again, being completely 100% trust,
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  trusting. And don't
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  put all of your eggs in one basket.
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  You need to remember that not everyone deserves access to
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  your vision and you need to protect it. You need to know
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  that not everybody can be trustworthy
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  and not everybody's going to agree with your vision and where you're going.
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  So sometimes you need to keep that
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  vision to yourself because you don't want others
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  to crush it so that maybe it was going to prevent you from
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  moving forward and reaching your goals and your dreams.
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  You can rely on yourself and still allow the right
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  people in. Through every experience that
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  I've had, I as I've mentioned that
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  I rely on myself and I know that there's few
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  people that I can rely as well.
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  Those are the right people and they would show
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  through their actions, not by saying that they're going to
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  be there for you and they're not.
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  Feeling stuck doesn't mean you're failing. It means you're
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  being stretched sometimes. You know,
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  I would think is that, well, why aren't things not moving quick enough?
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  Why is this not working out? Why, why, why?
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  And I needed to realize is that I
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  have to go through those experiences in order to get better, in order to
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  learn, in order to better myself. I needed to look
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  at the positive things and
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  positive outlook so that I can move
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  forward and I can grow. And creativity
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  comes back when you give yourself permission to rest and reset.
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  I had to and continue need to learn that
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  on a daily basis. If my mind is hectic
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  and a lot of things going on, the creativity just is not there.
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  I can't think, I can't come up with ideas and
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  sometimes there's needs to be a little time to I need to rest and
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  reset. Even if it means just laying on the couch in the evening and
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  look watching the dumb shows or
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  like reality shows. Something that keeps my mind occupied.
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  I don't have to think and I just kind of have to relax sometimes.
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  Maybe going for a walk, you know, to the lake or just having me time
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  and also helps.
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  You know, sometimes I listen to the other podcasts that motivate me
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  and give me ideas and that sometimes that's what I need to do.
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  And maybe sometimes what you need to do do is listen to the other
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  people that can uplift you can,
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  can put you back on your right path that can give
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  you those ideas that you've been looking for to
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  for you to keep on going. And always know that just
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  because you feel down now or just because things are
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  not going right the right way right now,
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  it doesn't mean that it's going to continue on for a long
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  time. This is just what
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  you're going through right now. I needed to remember that if my content
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  isn't landing then I have to shift from
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  what's wrong with me to what's the next experiment I can try
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  what different idea I can have, how I
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  can change things up to better myself and
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  so it can land better with my audience.
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  Now, if you have sales that are not coming in, then focus on
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  serving first and selling second.
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  Sometimes we're so consumed, it's like we want to make money, we want
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  to sell. But people,
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  they first buy people before they buy the product.
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  So I needed to learn that I. I need to shift
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  my mindset. I need to serve before I sell.
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  And once that happens, then things just starts to click and
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  sales starts to come in. Now, if you feel
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  unsupported, look for the small circle who shows up
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  through actions, not words. I would say it over
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  and over again. Talk is cheap.
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  People need to show it through actions. People can bullshit you
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  and tell you what you want to hear, but their
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  actions speak louder than words. And always remember
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  that. Now, if you want to quit,
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  I suggest you pause, rest,
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  cry if you need to. But just
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  don't walk away from your future.
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  That's the biggest advice that I can give you.
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  If you are set in your dreams, you cannot give up in your
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  dreams, you cannot give up in your goals. So do whatever you need to
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  to reset yourself. You reset your
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  mind to keep on going. If you walk
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  away, that means you didn't want it bad enough. That's it.
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  I know sometimes people will quit. They try in the business. It's just not working.
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  Just not. It's just not working out. It's draining the
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  energy, the money. That's. Then it's a little bit different. I mean, there's ways
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  where you can revamp. You can change things up
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  in your business so that it can start bringing the
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  flow of money and happiness back into your life.
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  But when you're starting out, just know that you're gonna
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  have those bumps and you still need to continue keep
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  on going. Because you always have to remember
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  your why not. Quitting will feel easier
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  than pushing forward. But here's the truth.
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  Every entrepreneur, and I'm saying this
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  worth might be incorrectly,
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  but every business owner, every creator,
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  every business builder has been in that moment.
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  The difference isn't that successful people never wanted to
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  quit, is that they chose not to.
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  You don't need to have all the answers.
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  You don't need a giant team. You need
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  grit, you need vision, and you need to protect
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  your energy. So if you're sitting in your
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  car crying, wondering if you should just give up,
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  I want you to know you're not alone and
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  your story isn't over. You need to keep
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  on going, keep on pushing, keep on growing.
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  Thank you for tuning in today's Nadi unfiltered podcast.
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  If this spoke to you, share it with another mom or
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  maybe even a dad who's trying to build something online. It might be
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  sitting in that same car moment. Remember, you don't
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  need to have all figured out today. Just don't quit
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  on yourself. Your future self will thank you.
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  Until next time.