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Why do narcissists leave you after you have helped build them up? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So today's topic is going to be about why do narcissists leave
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  you after you help build them up.
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  I got to start from scratch, so this happens quite a bit though.
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  Y'all it really, really does if you're dealing with a narcissist
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  or a toxic person. Y'all y'all have dealt with this
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  before. Some of y'all absolutely have
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  dealt with this situation before where you met somebody.
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  They were in a tough spot. They didn't have a lot to offer,
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  but all of a sudden, out of nowhere, you helped build them
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  up. You gave them a chance, didn't
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  you? You get you gave them a chance.
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  You, you, you, you were there for them.
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  You did everything that you could for them, right?
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  And then all of a sudden, out of nowhere, boom, they got you.
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  All of a sudden, you, you, you, you build them up.
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  Then all of a sudden they leave you.
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  They dip, they, you know, they dip out on you and whatnot.
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  You give them everything. Like they didn't like.
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  They came into the relationship with nothing.
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  Like maybe no job, maybe no car, maybe no house, maybe no
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  freedom. Maybe they were in jail, You
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  know what I mean? Maybe y'all met them in jail.
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  Like it happens so much. You give them everything, right?
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  You build them up and then once they are built up, they leave
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  you. You start a business in their
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  name, you invest in their business.
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  And then they, after they've made it to the top, after they
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  felt like they climbed up to the top of the mountain, they go
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  ahead and leave your ass. They bounce on you.
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  Why do they do that? Why do narcissists leave you
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  after you've given them everything?
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  After you help build them up from scratch like after you did
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  you, after you've done nothing but be supportive and give and
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  took a took a flyer on them. Why do they leave you After all
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  you wanted to do was love them. After all you wanted to do is be
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  there from him, be there for them, right?
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  Why? Why do they leave you?
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  And when that happens, why do they do that?
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  Because you saw them in that space.
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  You saw them when they had nothing.
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  Live right here. Because they are demons there.
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  Some of them are demons. Yeah, let's just keep it hot.
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  Some of them are demonic. But there are a lot of
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  narcissistic people out there, right?
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  That hate when you have more than them.
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  Y'all they loathe the fact that you have more than them.
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  They cannot stand it. How dare you be in a better
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  position in life than I am? How dare you be in the be in the
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  position to help me. How dare you see me when I had
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  nothing? How dare you clothed me when I
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  didn't have clothes. How dare you get help me get my
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  first car to go to my first job to to find my first affair
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  partner. How dare you?
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  They hated y'all they resent you for You like being able to have
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  provide for them. They y'all.
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  They cannot stand it. They cannot stand it.
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  They really, really hate it. They hate it so damn much.
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  And I hate it. Like I said, I hate having to
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  say this to you, but this happened so much.
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  In these toxic relationship dynamics, they absolutely cannot
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  stand the fact that you are in a better position than them.
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  Even if even if you've earned it, even if you, even if you
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  started with nothing. You built yourself up.
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  You went to college, got a good job, did what you had to do.
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  Even if you have done that and you grind it and now you're in a
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  now you're in a better position. They cannot stand that.
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  And I hate have to be the person to share that to y'all.
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  Because they they can't. Yeah, they they'll they'll run
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  you over. They'll beat.
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  They'll beat you. They'll emotionally beat you
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  down. Yeah.
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  They'll they'll act appreciative at first.
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  Thank you. You give me everything.
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  You you were there for me when I had a heart.
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  When I was going through something.
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  You were there for me. But now, now that I got
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  something, I don't need you. No MO.
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  They feel like they don't need you anymore.
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  They feel like your time is up, your useful, your usefulness is
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  up. They don't feel like they need
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  you anymore. Now they got they can go find
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  some new supply. A lot of times when they don't
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  have anything. Y'all, there's another reason
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  right here, when they don't have anything to offer other than
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  their body other than clapping some cheeks or whatever.
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  If they don't have anything to offer, they feel like nobody,
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  nobody else wants them. Like if I don't have anything to
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  offer but my body, right? I'm just coming to you like,
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  hey, look, I know, look, I'm 6 foot three, I'm £250, I'm
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  homeless, I'm jobless. I I got 17 felonies.
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  I can't get a job. I don't have a car.
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  I cheat a lot. I ain't got nothing to offer you
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  but my body, my shoulders, my my biceps.
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  That's all I got. You know, if they if they feel
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  like that's all they got right there, if they feel like that's
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  all they have to offer you, that's embarrassing to them.
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  Y'all think about it. That's embarrassing to them to
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  have nothing else to offer you than their body.
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  They're ashamed of themselves, right?
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  So they're ashamed of them. So they don't.
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  They don't think anybody else is going to want them.
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  So the crazy thing about it is they think when you want me.
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  Because this is how the mind this this is how the mind works
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  right here. Y'all.
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  Nobody else wants me because I have.
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  I have nothing else to offer. But you want me.
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  Why do you want me? Oh, you want me.
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  You feel sorry for me, right? You think nobody else is going
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  to want me? You only want me because nobody
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  else wants me. You think you can fix me, right?
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  You think you can mold me into who I who you want me to be,
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  right? You see potential, right?
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  I got some. I got some potential for your
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  ass. I got some potential for you.
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  And then the fact that they don't have anything to offer.
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  But then you build them up. Now they got a lot to offer.
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  Some of y'all be making these people rich.
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  That y'all they go from homeless to to to to housing to
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  millionaires off of y'all's dime, off of y'all your support
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  off of your back, right? And now they don't want to beat
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  you anymore because now they feel like you.
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  You don't deserve them. At first they feel like they
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  didn't deserve anybody else, but now they're just like now I feel
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  like you got me like you don't deserve me.
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  I don't top of me to move on. We've got we've grown apart over
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  these last few years. Don't you feel the same?
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  I just feel like we've grown apart the last few years.
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  And I think, I think it'd be better if we saw, we saw, we saw
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  other people. Well, I've been seeing other
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  people, but now I'm going to do it in public.
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  You know, I've been seeing other people, but now I'm going to do
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  it in public. Now you're going to see it.
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  What did he say? Thank you for my first laugh of
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  the day. I'm 6 foot 8 jobless.
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  Yeah, I got nothing to offer. That's why I'll be wondering why
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  they be. They be the people.
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  Like why? Why does sex be so good with
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  with these bum, these homeless narcissists?
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  Because they are. They they are clapping cheeks
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  for shelter. They're they're sleeping for.
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  They're sleeping with you for shelter.
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  They putting their whole, like that's all they got to offer.
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  They're going to be top ten, top 1010 out of 10.
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  They they, they clap them for, they clap them cheeks for
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  shelter, for food and shelter. You know what I'm saying?
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  This is like their job. This is like their damn job,
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  y'all. So they're going to keep doing
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  it. That's the mindset that so many
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  of them fall into. They're like, so when they when
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  you build them up, they feel like they deserve more, right?
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  You've built me up. So now I feel like I deserve
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  more. So I'm going to go get more.
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  I know. Hey, I know you grinded with me.
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  I know you. You were there for me when I
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  didn't have anything. But guess what?
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  Now I want more. Right now.
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  I want more now I need more. Now This is got.
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  This is how it's got to happen. This is the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissistic people, right? So that's why I'm just telling
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  you this is how it goes. Like if you this is what I'm
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  not. Look, I'm not telling y'all to
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  not lend a helping hand to someone.
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  I'm just saying, if you're going to build someone up, if you're
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  going to build someone up, right?
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  Just make sure, like, don't you? Y'all, don't just be just ditzy.
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  I'll say ditzy, right? If you're going to build
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  somebody up, hey, look, I don't have anything else to offer, but
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  I got a great business idea. But the crazy thing about it is
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  I need you to put every I need you to.
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  I need you to loan me some money.
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  I need you to get a loan in your name so I can pay so I can start
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  a business in my name. Look, I'm not going to put your
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  name on the business or any of the deeds of the houses or
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  anything or these. These are the cars, anything
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  like that, right? Because that helps us out.
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  Because if everything is in my name, then you can go back and
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  buy stuff in your name because your credit is free.
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  It makes sense, right? Yeah.
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  Gotcha, gotcha. Y'all gonna sign over every
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  goddamn thing today. Names.
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  And now you have no, you have no reprieve.
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  Everything is in their names. You know what I'm saying?
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  Everything is now, everything is now in their names.
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  So it's just like you have to deal with it.
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  So this is like in this mindset, like, so that's why I'm just
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  telling y'all, please, please, please, for the love of God, I'm
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  not telling y'all to not give people chances.
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  They don't have much to offer. This is not what I'm telling
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  y'all. I'm just saying be smart about
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  it, be smart about it. Just ask yourself, what if it
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  what if I build this person up? What if I what if I?
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  You know what if I build this bum up?
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  What if I build them up and they leave me?
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  What if I go to build a bum? I pick up my bum, I stuff them
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  really good and this bum becomes expensive.
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  It's no longer a bum. Am I?
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  What if they leave me? Am I ready for that?
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  So this person who was my bum, they're not a bum anymore.
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  They're attractive. We got money.
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  They got a got a BBL. They got some work done.
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  Get their teeth fixed. Damn.
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  You see what I'm saying? Are you ready for that?
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  If you go to build the bum and then somebody takes your bum
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  after you've built them up, Are you ready for that?
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  These, these are the questions you have to ask yourself right
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  here. Y'all these are questions you're
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  asking. So who's that?
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  Tiffany. Tiffany.
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  Tiffany. Yo, this is perfect right there.
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  Never lend what you can't lose. Yeah, that's that's yeah, that's
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  that's that's my thought process too.
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  It's my motto. But I don't let you borrow it.
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  I I don't let you borrow it. Borrow it if I need it.
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  If I if I expect it back. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's how my mind be working. They watch this in the video.
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  Take your time building people up.
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  Like I say. I know y'all have this future.
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  They look they crazy about it is they'll sell you a dream while
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  you while you're helping build them up.
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  They'll sell you a dream. Like we're going to be fantastic
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  together. They'll sell you a dream and
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  they'll lie to you and they'll take that.
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  They'll take that dream and turn it into a nightmare for you
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  homosexuals that they find it. Yeah, yeah.
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  I'm just telling y'all you're to ask yourself a question.
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  Y'all I know. Like I said, I know the dating,
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  the dating, the dating pool is is tough out here and whatnot.
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  But this is like, this is no excuse to go out here and and
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  just start taking people off the streets, you know what I mean?
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  If you find a handsome, a handsome gentleman or a
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  beautiful woman on a park bench sleeping in the newspapers,
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  don't take them home with you. You see what I'm saying?
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  Don't take them home with you. They'd be manipulative.
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  They'd be lying to you, especially if they if they're
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  young. And yeah, I was just telling
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  you, just be careful. Be careful out here.
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  Be careful out here in these, in these toxic streets.
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  Because that's what happens. This is what happens.
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  They when you build them up, they will leave you for somebody
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  else. Because now they feel like they
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  deserve someone else. You know, they don't want to be
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  with you anymore. They feel like you.
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  You. Hey, you fit me when I didn't
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  have anything. But now that I'm elevated, I
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  don't want to beat you anymore. You know what I'm saying?
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  That's why you. You see so many celebrities.
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  They be grinder. You mean they be grinder when
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  they don't have nothing, but then they get on.
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  Guess what? Hey, I had a my high school
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  sweetheart. We were together from time.
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  We were nine. We were we were together from 16
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  up until I got my first draft. My first professional to check.
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  Then I had to cut them off. I needed some new cheeks.
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  They'd be happening all the time.
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  Y'all. Yes.
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  Ungrateful and unloyal. So that's what happens.
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  I tested for an SCD which confirmed it never had sex with
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  anyone else in years. She still denied it.
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  Why would they tell you the truth?
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  Y'all just be safe. Y'all I said I'm going to come
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  back. So tonight I'm doing a a longer
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  Q&A over here. I'll be back tonight with a
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  longer Q&A. Y'all because I had the highball
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  variant to get my son to baseball practice and whatnot.
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  So y'all be safe. Take care of yourselves and
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  please, please, please no more building up bums.
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  Be safe. Take care of yourself.
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  Y'all I will see y'all later this evening.
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  Mental illness is out. Peace gotta go.