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CHANGE HAPPENS! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop so Today I want to talk to
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  you about change boy. What a big subject, right?
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  Because it compasses so many different parts of our Lives.
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  Personal professional big little small wide.
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  It doesn't matter what it is. It all encompasses, this massive
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  subject of change in our life and as a human beings we just do
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  not typically like change. We will resist it, resists it
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  resistant because it takes us out of our certainty puts us in
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  a different state of mind. It it Makes us feel like I'm
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  easy and we don't like that, you know, our nature is to look for
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  the certainty and safety. It's just how human beings are
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  wired, and we're never going to get around that.
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  But our nature is also to look at what's going on in our world
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  around us and we are surrounded by change all the time.
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  I mean mother nature is one of the best ones that is constantly
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  doing that to us. I mean, every single day, the
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  light wherever you live every single All day, the light is
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  Shifting and it's your days are getting a little longer, a
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  little shorter, whatever it might be, there's always tweaks.
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  There's always things happening in every blade of grass.
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  Every little tiny thing. Nature is telling us change is
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  inevitable. It's going to happen, but our
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  pain isn't necessarily because of the change.
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  Our pain is because of the resistance to the change.
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  That's around us because we don't like it and we want things
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  to stay exactly the same. You know, there was an episode
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  of Sesame Street years ago where Elmo wanted.
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  Christmas every day and I always laugh at that one, my daughter
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  wanted to watch it over and over and over again.
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  And you know, after a while Elmo, got sick of Christmas
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  because it was every day and he had to realize that, you know,
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  in order for things to be great, they have to shift, they have to
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  move on. You can't have the same things
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  all the time, everything is always about growing and
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  expanding, and shifting, and changing.
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  And we have to recognize Recognize in ourselves, that the
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  resistance we put up the resistance, in our perspective,
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  the resistance, in our desire for things to shift and change
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  around us causes all of our pain, not the actual acts of
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  things. Sure there are, it's inevitable,
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  that there will be things that happen that cause us pain.
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  We will lose things in our lives.
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  People we love animals, we love. We will lose jobs that we love,
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  we will lose situations. And if we are Wheatley, and
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  totally honest, we will recognize that a huge tremendous
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  chunk of that is that, that feeling and emotion that we have
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  happening is because of our resistance to it.
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  So our resistance to the change that is and because we feel so
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  overwhelmed with it and I'm sorry for the dogs barking in
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  the background. Can you hear all that?
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  That's my neighbor's dogs. And, you know, we're just going
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  to roll with it because Cuz this is important and it's a change
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  in what we're doing, right? And I'm not going to resist the
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  change, as it's happening. I'm just going to go and we're
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  going to roll with it and see how it goes.
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  So I'm looking. There it goes already away.
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  So I think the most important aspect of what I want.
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  You guys to hear me say today is look at whatever is going on in
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  your life. That is causing pain and
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  suffering and ask yourself how can I change my perspective so
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  that I can move myself out of In suffering because pain and
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  suffering is inevitable, but it's not something that you need
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  to stay in. You can move through it.
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  I promise you, I know that because I've done it so many
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  times in my own personal life, with losses of many things.
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  And it is not something that you have to stay in but it does
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  require an acute level of awareness about where your pain
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  and suffering is coming from and it requires you to be
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  Cognitively aware that you can no longer resist.
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  What is being put in front of you, if you keep resisting the
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  loss. If you keep resisting to address
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  it, if you keep resisting to move through it, you will stay
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  in pain and it will move you eventually one way or another,
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  so you might as well say just like Elmo.
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  Did you know what? I got to?
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  I got to just move on. I can't keep waiting for
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  Christmas every day because goodness knows this isn't feel
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  good. It's like it's not every time.
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  It shows up, I'm it's not the same, it doesn't feel good.
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  And I think that When you're, when you're doing this exercise,
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  when you're really coming to terms with the fact that you're
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  looking at yourself and you're saying, I am stuck in a place of
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  resisting, the change that has been presented to me.
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  You have to stop and pause and ask yourself who do I need to be
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  now, you can't just go to it with the person that you've
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  always been. You have to stop and ask
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  yourself who do I need to be now to move through this.
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  Where do I need to shift myself? Where do I need to move my
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  emotions to? Where do I need to move my
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  perspectives to? Because if you can do that, I
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  promise you. That's when the great things
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  started to happen, when you can shift it and you can start to
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  look at, okay? What are the gifts in this?
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  You know? When I lost my dad, I didn't
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  think there was anything great about this at all.
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  I never thought there was one great thing about it.
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  I couldn't figure it out. He was my best friend.
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  He was every meant, everything in the world to me.
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  And there's still to this day. There was never, I can't I can't
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  put my finger on certain aspects of losing him, but I will say
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  this, when I stopped resisting that he was gone, when I started
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  to realize that I had to do things on my own while I still
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  felt like he was with me and I can talk to him and I have faith
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  that I have connection with him. Still I had to come to terms
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  with the fact that I had to make decisions and I had to move.
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  In a certain direction when I started doing that my life
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  changed and I know if he had still been here, some of the
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  decisions that I made for myself, that put me right here
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  in this spot, doing this for you, I wouldn't have made and I
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  certainly wouldn't be living where I am.
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  I certainly wouldn't be in the state that I am.
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  I certainly wouldn't be doing the things that I was doing.
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  I would have taken a completely different path.
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  Because I was on a completely different path and once he
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  passed then I shifted. So I can sit back and, you know,
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  I can still feel the pain of the loss but I don't have to have
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  the same interpretation of it. So maybe all of this stuff
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  that's out there. Whatever is going on in your
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  life, whatever change is happening that you have to come
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  to terms with and move through and realize the resistance is
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  not necessarily helping you with At this point, I'll tell you to
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  just stop and pause and say, who do I need to be now moving
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  forward. And what do I want to believe
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  about this happening? So that I can move forward and
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  just asking yourself some really better questions will help you.
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  So I hope that this is helpful for you today.
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  I hope that you understand a little bit more about change and
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  resistance to change and I will see you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day. Bye.