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Swim with Dolphins not Sharks to Achieve True Authenticity · Authentic Living

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Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a global voice Radio.
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Join Roxanne Derhodge and her thought provoking conversations, the catalyst to live your life
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to the fullest.
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So, everyone, it's Roxanne Derhodge.
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Thank you so much again for tuning in for authentic living with Roxanne.
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Today, I have, a very special guest from Florida, Mr.
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Bernie Gorman, Bernie has, taken his, his busy time to spend with us.
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He is a thought leader and the CEO of CEO space that's based out in Florida.
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And, I want you to, really kind of CO space is coming to Canada and I'm so impressed that
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they're going to be there because what I am interested in is with my event, the authentic
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movement, which is happening in Toronto on June 22nd, is to bring, the heighten the elements of
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mental wellness, in the workplace and the impact that it's having, day to day on people's
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lives, we know that when people are more connected, to, their leaders and, others around
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them, they minimize the impact, of the things that they're experiencing at home.
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Oftentimes, people bring things from home, because we bring our our full selves to work.
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And what I'm hoping the event will do is we'll teach, some strategies from early intervention
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to prevention where Mr.
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Brian Cuban will be sharing his unfortunate, plight and some of the things and some of the
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strategies who use this as an advocate.
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So thanks, Bernie for being here.
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So, Bernie, you know, tell me a little bit about yourself and we've been in this, field
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for, you know, I think is it's been about 3 decades, right?
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Starting our 4th decade, and we started at the Chanticleer Hotel in Quebec
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Wow.
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In Canada.
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So Cospace actually started in Canada.
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We have thousands of members all over from Nova Scotia to Vancouver.
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And, so we love serving our business owners, our professionals in practice.
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And we're the number one business conference 5 years in a row, so we're very excited about
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that by 3rd party press on the hard ones, like ink magazine, Forbes Magazine.
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And all that ranking globally.
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But, you know, authentic living, when you come to that conference, your brand is expressed in
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the market.
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To celebrate you, based on how authentic you are.
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And so when you gain tools and tactics to be more authentic, your customers are retained.
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You can't lose your customers when you're authentic with them.
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You also get more repeat buying and Usually, if you can just stimulate repeat buying, in a
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system, that creates almost doubling your if you really get it right.
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And then you get referral marketing where every 10 clients brings you 3.
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That's 30 per 10 new customers.
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Once you get the first part right, we call it the 3 r's.
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And so to get retention, repeat buying, and referral marketing, retention, repeat buying
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and referral marketing, you have to be in your highest authentic in your brand space and your
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conference in June.
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As you come into half the year is gone.
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You're starting the second half, which is the big ramp up into 80% of all consumer buying.
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Folks.
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This is the biggest boom of our adult lifetime.
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Yes.
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There's cycles up and down, and there's a, you know, whether it's Italy or Iran or whatever.
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There's always stuff in the news, but it's booming worldwide everywhere, and it's gonna
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continue to boom.
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Don't miss the second half of the year.
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Get yourself an authentic living and bring yourself a brand compression that makes less
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impressions to get a yes.
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Also, when you're with everyone's authentic and they're all in business.
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You'll get customers, clients, you'll, in other words, make your network.
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Choose the meetings.
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That make your network, alright, so that your net is working.
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You're gonna get some great new clients of authentic living because you're like minded
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business owner.
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So I highly recommend it, and we're the number one business conference in the world.
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When we recommend authentic living, That is a big endorsement, and we're writing all our
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grads in the entire community to come on down from Toronto.
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Get into it.
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And these are business owners at the top.
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We started with Harve Eckert and Bob Proctor and your most famous Canadian chicken soup
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author, Barry Spellchick, which I'd like him to come down.
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He'd probably be one of your best faculty members on authentic living.
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Talk to Dave about various spell check, chicken soup author.
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Well, I would love to have him there.
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So that whole Yeah.
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About authenticity and, CEO space and and snap.
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I think that's because I know Dave Phillipsson, your, your president that runs your your, your
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California chapter is going to be there and and speaking and also doing the snap method.
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So I want you to You know, when I think of authenticity, you're so right.
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Everybody wants to experience me for who I am.
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My background is I've been a psychotherapist and I've written a book on on relationships.
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And what I did in in a movie is I wrote them on my own life.
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So what I did, Bernie, was I said, you know, Here I am.
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I was, you know, twenty one years old, front line with a Metro trauma police all the way up
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to working with CEOs after consulting.
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And then I thought, what could I get back to the marketplace to help individuals recognize
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that really They connected to yourself as the best gift that you could give yourself and
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obviously the world.
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So I took my own life, and I I basically, analyzed my own lives like I would have done
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patients or individuals or that I would coach, and I put that out into the market.
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And what I recognized was I am who I am.
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A little girl from Trinidad Tabago, that had a dream to help others.
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And decided, you know, what will how you know, who's gonna pay me to speak?
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Well, and help people, and that's where I kind of went into the field of psychology as a
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psychologist.
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So, you know, authenticity is key in everything that I know about.
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We we have a crisis.
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It's not of leadership.
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Everybody has all the greatest leadership training there is.
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We have a crisis ladies and gentlemen in the world everywhere.
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In integrity.
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So if we want a world where we all cooperate and come together and we turn into one of each
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other instead of on each other.
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We're not the shark tank.
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We're the Dolphin tank.
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We have to have integrity.
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You'll cooperate with me, and I'll cooperate with you if we're in integrity.
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And so when you do super networking, which is what snap, that word she used stands for.
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We compress networking by getting you all to agree, you're not there to get.
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You're there with your amazing mentorship and contacts.
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To help someone else.
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And if everybody's in integrity to 100% help each other, you get more out of the networking
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in that time frame, then you would get out of the year of networking.
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And we proved it, won a warehouse full of trophies on it.
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So Snap is a networking exercise inside CEO space that we're gifting to you in Toronto.
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Everyone that ever experiences at a conference says that was where the whole ticket price,
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just that.
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Because the contacts you get are so extraordinary.
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You get so many, and the quality is so good because we're all in integrity.
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So I just tell you, I mean, your tools and tactics are teaching us, be an integrity, be
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your own and assess your brand, reassess Is it expressing your personal authenticity?
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Are you truly on the outside what you are on the inside?
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And if you're not, why don't you do an assessment?
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It normally costs a lot of money here.
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It's very inexpensive.
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Buy a ticket.
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Come in.
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Tell others in your circle to come in with you.
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The more you bring, the more the networking will grow.
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You'll have bigger networking outcomes.
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And spread the word.
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This is a great event with amazing practical networking that will get you customers,
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clients, and have a tool and tactic.
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You'll leave with a new tool kit, like a little orange chest from Sears one of the big outlets.
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You're gonna have all these tools on being authentic.
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It'll make your brand have integrity it'll change your relationship with your customer.
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It's gonna reduce the frequency and number of impressions.
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To get a yes.
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And I'm gonna tell you if I could take 12 impressions in 3 months in a customer building
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relationship, and get you a relationship in one click or 2, build your relationship, shrink,
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and compress be a compression for how many times we have to interact and get a yes.
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That's your future.
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That's everything in your future.
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And if you're on salary and you work for a company, just remember.
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And this is my one truth that's in all my books.
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Nothing happens.
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Nothing happens unless you sell something.
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You sell something when you get married.
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You sell something when you have a baby.
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You sell something when you do anything at work because you're getting confidence.
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You're getting trust.
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You're getting relationship qualities and values.
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You have to have that engine to be effective.
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And so you will get the tools in being authentic that the number of times it takes to
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get buy in.
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From your tribe, you have to work with reduces.
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That's the ball game.
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Let me say it one other way, and I'll stop.
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If you had a teeter totter, and I can improve your request language.
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The most important language of an adult is the power of their request, which is always clear
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as mud here and usually here instead of clear as crystal when it comes out of here.
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We don't want clear as mud.
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And if I can improve your your request quality by being authentic, 30%, just 30%.
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It increases the consequence and outcome on the teeter totter by 500%.
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A 30% increase in adult request quality is a 500% increase on outcome and result.
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And here at the authentic conference, we're gonna do just that.
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You're not gonna walk out the same.
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People pay 5, 10,000 for what you're gonna get ticket price.
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Don't miss this one.
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And she doesn't care.
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She just given back as one of the I'm, you know, personally impressed with her credentials
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background, what she's already done, and her contribution magnet as far as she is magnetism
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to wanna get back now and legacy part of her life to you.
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So this is the 1.
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If it crossed your path, it is the law of attraction.
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So I'll tell you opportunities knock on all the time.
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But, folks, you gotta answer the door.
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You gotta open by the ticket, answer the door.
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Come in and get that networking at our super networking snap, and you'll come and tell the
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boss that was worth the whole ticket price by itself.
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I guarantee you that.
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So, you know, you what you're describing, you know, you talk about touch points in this busy
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world, right, and to get a new customer, it's so interesting that you you talk about because
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I've been, I've been in an account executive role for a health and wellness company.
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It took so much for us to get a new customer, Bernie, And what happens with companies, and
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even in the company that I worked for, you know, the golden boys where the new the
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business development people with the account executives, we were the ones that were
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maintaining all the relationships.
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Right?
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Right.
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That became so important because you know, I was sharing earlier, with someone on a business
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call.
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I said, you know, I could maintain, relationships with these individuals because I
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would just touch base.
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I wouldn't wait till it was the quarterly newsletter.
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I wouldn't, you know, wait till this was the event I had to attend on behalf of the company.
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I would just reach out and say, you know, I heard, you know, this happened, you know,
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internally or externally, and they would say, fire ups and thanks so much.
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Yeah.
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This is what's going on.
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You know, this has happened and this is stressful and I can't believe this has
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happened.
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And then what would happen inadvertently is 2, 3 years into the contract.
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There would be renewal time, and there would be no discussion.
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There'd be no competition to be able to use us as the service provider because they were
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connected.
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Yes.
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That's exactly right.
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You know?
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I mean,
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you're you're back to the highest percentage renew if you have those touch points, which
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you're describing.
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And if you don't treat your clients today wanna be treated with some, you know, like an
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extended business family.
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Mhmm.
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They don't wanna be extended like their computer numbers.
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And even at Amazon or whatever, we're loyal because when you get to customer service,
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they're really outstanding, and they want to make it right for the customer.
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And because of that, you feel connected.
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And that connection to crime to overnight when it comes tomorrow every time you feel a sense
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of they made a promise as their brand, and they're actually delivering a little better
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than their promise.
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And when we get that, we're loyal.
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Mhmm.
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But if we
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that consistency and that that reassurance that if anything goes wrong, I'm gonna say, what can
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I do differently the next time around?
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Well, if you and especially if if they tell you or whatever, you make it right.
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No matter what.
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Right.
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And you may have some clients that are unfair.
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So what?
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That's a cost of business.
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Make it right even to them.
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Because their goodwill today, they can get upset with you when you're right.
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Mhmm.
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So there's a cost to be in right And when you're in business, you have to make cost,
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assessments.
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Like, to be authentic to my business, I would be right personally, but this would cause them
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to go on ripoff.com and post something.
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Or post something negative in social across the boards, write a me to complaint.
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Even if it's wrong or vicious, How do you come out?
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How do you even come out today?
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And I'm saying, so you can't afford, today's open architecture.
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And instant feedback.
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You have to make your customers special
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Mhmm.
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If you're in business, I mean, in professional and practice or you're entrepreneur, you have
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to think that way.
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And you have to be authentic to your business separate to yourself.
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Your business should express yourself and your values, but sometimes you have to make a
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business decision.
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Oh, this could cause a lawsuit.
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It would be unfair.
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I'd be right, but it cost me a 120,000.
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I should pay the person back this money.
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And I could pay him back over 12 months or 6 months.
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And it's a lot cheaper than going to court and trying to be right.
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And all the bad press that goes with it.
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You have to make value decisions.
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So being authentic is complicated.
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And it has to be an integrity.
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Integrity is the number one glue of being authentic.
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You can't step out of integrity.
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But you have to have authentic with your business and authentic with your values and
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yourself, and they both have to be DNA together.
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So how do you do that?
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And I'm saying, I think every 2 years, we live in a super change market.
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Things are changing faster.
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We ever thought Most of us don't wanna keep up anymore.
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We don't want the new app.
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We don't wanna learn the new features on Instagram and Snapchat.
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What we we don't wanna change a menu.
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We wanna keep it the way it used to be.
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They don't know that, and they change it.
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I can't wait for Lincoln then to come out with a whole new mic soft interface will all be
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upset.
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And I'm saying, but the issue gets to be that we have to remain current.
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Currency is the new, you can't fail to download this.
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Mhmm.
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This is the most important download.
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For tools and tactics.
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You can't put it off.
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It's not second priority.
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That downloads most important.
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Your authentic option, this conference that gives you tools and tactics in your integrity
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and your dealings out in the market.
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It's gonna change everything.
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You're not gonna be the same.
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So forgetting the contacts are gonna be made to make you money, and you're gonna have a very
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good experience that makes you a profit.
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You're gonna be in an environment that is gonna bring you current on the new tools and tactics
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for super change in a digital age, like digital manners.
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I'll give you one area that she'll talk about.
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Everything here is for praise.
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Prays.
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Emails for praise.
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Digitals for praise.
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Social is for praise.
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Never criticize another unless you're talking to him on the phone or in person.
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They can't see your body language.
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They can't see your tone of voice.
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They can't see thousands of cue language in my face.
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That you know as chairman and founder of Cospace going in decade number 4.
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If I'm sincere or not, If I mean what I say, there it's way beyond what you hear.
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It's so many other registers going on.
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When you're in social and they can't see you and they don't have your tone of voice.
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Everything's for praise.
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Because they will divide.
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They will separate.
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They will come and misunderstand.
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They will misunderstand your being authentic.
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And so learning how to be authentic with social, how to be authentic in digital space,
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learning how to elevate authenticity in super change market.
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So you're current now with those tools.
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I don't know what the I call it priceless, and I'll tell you the side benefit you're not
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coming for anything but your future, but you will find that we all live at home.
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And so it's gonna affect your life partners, your parenting, your friendships.
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It's gonna affect your core.
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Because once you get the highest authentic integrity, everybody around you shifts how they
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see you.
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And so we're all failing to see how others see us.
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I know as a leader of this, I work with people like yourself constantly.
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On my own integrity.
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I think I'm a man of integrity, but I have the man that wrote the book.
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He's a clinical psychologist, the new IQ.
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Integrity, Doctor David Gruder.
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He's worked with me 5 years working on yourself when you're older.
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It's a bitch.
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It's hard work.
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You guys don't give us, you know, you're the double lines.
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You won't let us hit the curb as we pick up speed.
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But you're ruthless at keeping us in the double lines.
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And you advance us, and every one of us should be working with you guys a little bit more for
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currency, our best selves, and to learn how others see us, which I think we need help on.
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So we can make adjustments because we all want others to see us in our own best light, and we
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are our self sabotage.
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We're our own.
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You gotta stop and take responsibility and say, hey.
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You know, it'd be better for me if I was better myself.
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And say, when do you my dad used to say is one of the famous, people that started the human
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potential industry.
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B, when is the the best time?
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To improve the human potential of another human life journey.
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And I said, I don't know that.
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And he said, son, It's the first instant, the concept flashed across your mind at all.
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Everything else is too late.
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Yesterday is already too late
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to improve a potential inside you.
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Your potential
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you haven't started.
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Your potential is so magnificent.
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You have been begun to cross it.
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What you can do with your potential is to switch on turned on your home space and your
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workspace in ways you've never known.
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But it all starts with authenticity.
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There's no other word.
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It starts a at the top of the alphabet for a reason.
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Get your authenticity and your integrity, right, with yourself, with everyone else, and
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your world will shift, and everybody will see you different.
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So I think that's another, you know, talking about it enough, but that's gonna be a big
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asset that you're bringing with these tools and tactics out to everyone.
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Who gets lucky enough to get into this conference.
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Right.
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Because it's it's going quickly.
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Now I was gonna ask you about your upbringing because I've read a bit about you before,
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meeting you.
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Tell me, that must have been a fascinating.
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I mean, you grew up with your father around these gurus, like, running around.
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Like, I think I grew up in Trinidad and Tobago, and I I grew up around people in oil.
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So and business.
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So that's kind of my context of my world, and, you know, I think I was meant to be an
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entrepreneur from when I was young.
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But what was your life growing up like kind of being exposed to these individuals as young as
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you were?
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I went to Jamaica, my first trip and worked at Boystown in the poorest part of Drench Town
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with my father teaching these young boys with the Catholic priest had started that.
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And I was in Trinidad when I was seven.
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Oh my goodness.
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I'm and I've been back there at the guest of the government speaking Oh, okay.
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Every year in recent times.
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So I have a lot of experience in Trinidad helping them during this Venezuelan oil prices
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to try and get their diversified economy going in the entrepreneur space.
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So your home space has been part of my life for decades.
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I've been down there.
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And, as it relates to, you know, my my life is like a movie.
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And when I've had people in my life, like Dave, that you're mentioning,
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Right.
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Philip said it was 10 years with Tony Robbins.
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So he felt he had seen it all.
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And then he heard stories, and he came to work with us.
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And he heard stories about my growing up with Napoleon Yale or Earl Night Gail or Zig
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Ziegler.
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When he was 22, it wasn't Zieg Ziegler then.
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And many others.
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And, the thought leader industry revolved around my father's work, and he really died,
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actually.
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And he wrote the courses that led the thought industry, and everyone was around his world.
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I mean, Jack Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Walt Disney, and corporate leaders, and so forth,
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Doctor Edward Demming, And, you know, as I got into my own world, I ended up, mentoring and
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training all the folks of today, you know, Wayne Dyer, Steve Covean.
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Covey is gone now, but you know, I've given coaching to just everybody.
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You can pretty well name Jack Canfield, Mark Hansen, stars of the secret, you're Bob
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Proctor.
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For 40 years, 50 years, and so many others.
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And, we're just, you know, dear friends in the work, at the top, but I've spent a lifetime in
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this industry, and my father actually started it in the forties.
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So I have, you know, if we start talking human potential and it's tributaries, I have probably
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too much to say.
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So I'll bring my remarks to a close.
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Well, I'm impressed.
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Like, I when I I watched, watched a bit on YouTube, and I was reading up with you.
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And I was like, what what a space to have grown up?
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Right?
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Like, you know, when we think about those neural pathways in our brain being developed,
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and the impression.
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I think of my son who is now sixteen and, you know, the the sponge that he he's becoming,
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like, You know, I recently spoke with Les Brown.
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I was, in New York speaking with on his stage with him.
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And so I was leaving for New York, and RJ says to me, mom, said, well, I said, well, you know,
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goodness, buddy.
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I said, I got this big, speaking event.
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I'm gonna be on stage with Les Brown, and he says to me, not so many words, Bernie, he goes,
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mom, I've been listening to Les Brown all my life.
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And I'm like, buddy, you're sixteen.
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He goes, no, I have.
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So here is the impression.
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Tell tell him to go on YouTube, CEO space, Les Brown, Super Bowl.
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And you'll see a film where Les tells you that Cospace is the Super Bowl in the world today.
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And then he describes our number 1 worldwide team program.
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So in July after your event on 16th, people wait a year to bring their teens from
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Bucharest.
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And they're multimillionaire business, folks in Romania.
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Our largest program of any year is always July.
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Because parents bring their children.
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Oh, wow.
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At a four year old who started his business, did a snap.
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And he's standing there with a picture, with and Dave has it.
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He can send it to you, holding a $1000 that he just raised in one snap.
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And I'm dealing with him as he's showing me the money.
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He's going, look on uncle Bernie.
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I've got more money than anyone a year.
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And I'm saying, Ryan, look how powerful you are.
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Imagine how you're gonna be at 5.
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Well, I would love to bring RJ out to that.
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I would love to bring RJ out to that because he, you know, he's he's a driven young man and
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he, you know, went literally, when I said that to him, he had been listening to Les Brown, and
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I would listen to him in the bathroom, and he would he listens to motivational speaking.
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And then When I went to New York, I was telling Les about that.
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We over dinner.
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And he said, I said, Okay, Les.
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You know, I and I was telling him this story.
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He goes, he starts to laugh.
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He goes, call him.
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And I'm like, I mean, like, call him now.
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He goes, yeah.
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Yeah.
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Call
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him.
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That's so that's how he is.
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He's so good.
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And then he calls So I call him, but he thinks it's me, and I'm thinking, please, please don't
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let anybody else pick up, and then already answers a phone, and he hears his voice.
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But I think he thinks it's like a recording or something, and then he hears Les' voice.
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And he goes, He could barely breathe.
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He said to me when he heard his voice.
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And I said, unless you made, I mean, me being on stage with you is one thing.
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I said, but you've made my you've made my Well, you'll see priceless.
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Yep.
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He chose to make that film, less you know, CEO space in front, Les Brown Super Bowl on teams
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on the team class.
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And he wanted to make that.
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So that is one of my most precious films because it's Les Brown who speaks when he's
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there at the team class.
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And loves the work with kids.
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I mean, he's like I am.
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He just he we both are Christians and, you know, it's our guy said, suffer to bring on to
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me, the children, and we mean it.
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And so we get we get a lot of pressure, a pleasure, out of mentoring those young folks.
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I do it all the time.
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I they'll say that they've got a team out in the car or something.
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I was like, go get them, bring them in.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Right.
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It is
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like that.
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And then we start working.
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With them.
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And they just are these kids are amazing today.
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There, as you say, with the YouTube, you know, you you think you know, all their choices,
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violent video games, pornography, everything.
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And you ask them what they're watching, and they're studying dark matter and the expansion
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of the universe.
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And you sit there and go, I wasn't doing that.
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Well, I was watching leave at the beaver.
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I mean, these guys are
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Whatever.
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We I was watching those things either.
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So I I mean, just just the, you know, I feel privileged to be part of the personal
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development world.
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I picked this.
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I I said, you know, under our tamarind tree now to sound really tropical.
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My friends laugh when they listen to my podcast.
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They say, you are such a journey, you know, being there and, you know, you know, talking to
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people and recognizing the the the deep need for connection even, I went to an all go
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school, and that's where the birth of helping others came for me at age eleven.
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Right?
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And so connection in my community was also very always big.
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Let me let me let me tell you having been raised on the other side by my father in Hawaii
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where I'm Ojana and Loha, but I mean, yes, connection on an island is everything.
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And you have to be authentic.
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You have to be an integrity because everybody knows And what they don't know about triniti
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trinity in the Caribbean, there's a development group called the Karacom.
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And I've been part of that for 30 years.
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It's development of Caribbean Economics, but Trinity, has been the lead economy for many of
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the years.
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It has been the center of entrepreneurialism.
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It birthed entrepreneurialism, birth trade, built the trade for the other islands and was
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the center of trade jumping to Europe and was the center of trade to South America and the
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Americas.
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Yes.
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And it's today, trying to get its fair share of oil, but Venezuela has taken a lot of that down
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and off market.
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From them, so they're not getting their fair share.
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And they're still diversified in doing, okay.
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They have the highest literacy in all the islands.
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Their per capita literacy rate in their education is really something to marvel at, and
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they've kept that at the highest levels.
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And now the high paying jobs are coming out of the entrepreneurial ramp up and people aren't
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leaving island as much to get them.
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And I'm looking at a new renaissance in your nation, but you, especially, you know, you're a
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clinical psychologist, but you were raised with values that come from this Caribbean island
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where people have, their dreams and their achievement and the entrepreneurial capital of
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the whole region, but they also had balance.
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In other words, their life with their family.
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They're knowing what happens with their children, who they're staying overnight with,
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what's going on.
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It's just part of it.
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And I wanna explain jerk chicken and a pet but they, you know, the life of living around
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family and conversation and food and the beach and that you appreciate nature and, each other.
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And you take care of each other when a hurricane hits, you take care of each other.
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In all these instances and you have forever.
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So they're you're a nurturing, by your culture, contributor to get back and your highest level
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of contribution is what you had before you became credential which is you already knew
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about authenticity because it's DNA to Trinidad.
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If you're not authentic in Trinidad, I have for years gone to the backside of the island.
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Yes.
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And you know how poor it is over in some of those areas.
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And, you know, I
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I sit back there, eating a watermelon on the stair.
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Yeah.
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And these young folks come up and ask about the white guy.
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And then I start asking what they're doing and stuff, and they bring me their little
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inventions or their digital thing on their iPad.
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And as poor as they are.
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They had they have all sorts of things.
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And then I'm there until, like, 8 o'clock at night, and then they want me to come to their
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place for dinner.
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Because I've given so much.
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And I don't wanna take from them because they don't have that much.
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Yeah.
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And they won't let you.
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And, like, if I tried to pay for that dinner or give the they would be insulted.
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I mean, they couldn't, and they keep bringing you gifts, like food and things they could give
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you, you know, as one woman have worked for 6 months on a sweater, and she gave me the
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sweater, which she was making for her son, but she said, you gave my son something that's
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priceless.
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I can make him another sweater.
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But I can't give him what you put in his mind.
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You know, it's funny funny you'd say that my dad was an entrepreneur for all my life.
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And, I learned very, very early, and I always say this when, you know, when I speak, I
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learned to respect the guy that was, you know, putting out the garbage to the CEO.
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I may have been talking to the guy putting out the garbage and not knowing it or the CEO, but
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the respect that I gave to both people was something that I learned from my dad very, very
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early to treat everyone the same.
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It's a principle of co op operation.
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See, we built a shark tank, and let's end with this kind of notion.
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If our culture is, when we're dead and were gone and were beautiful orbs of light,
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breathing orbs of light, like the illumination that Moses saw.
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That all of the nation of Israel couldn't look at and fell to the ground.
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When they looked up after the guy talking to god, walking with god, was illuminated.
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His robes were illuminated.
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If we're that seed, if we're breathing orb of light, this beautiful orb of light, and we are
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on the other side.
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We have an absence of competition.
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There is no meanness and personally cruel tribal dishes, brutal, doggy dog, kill each
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other, screwing to others before they were screwed into whirl.
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It's all cooperative, collaborative, filled with love, unconditional authenticity,
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etcetera.
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If that's heaven, why do we make this place like the opposite of it?
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Why do we make it this terrible competitive competition is the idea of a soul that's
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insane.
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Mhmm.
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Memorial souls don't compete.
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We wanna all be together in the Dolphin tank, not the shark tank.
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Yes.
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The shark
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tank's a very unhappy place, and they eat their own young.
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The dolphin tank has no enemies unless you get left out of the herd.
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Because if you're in the pod of those dolphins, They repel a killer whale.
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They repel all sharks and enemies.
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The only enemy they have to really regard as dangerous is us.
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Mhmm.
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Mhmm.
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All the rest are okay.
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And I'm saying, we need to stop competing with the dolphins and become part of them, swim with
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them, enjoy them.
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And I was listening to a show about elephants, and overall of Africa a 100 years ago.
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That's not a very long time over the life of our planet.
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A 100 years ago, there were roaming 25,000,000 elephants.
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Today, they're 500,000 nationwide.
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We have slaughtered 24,000,000 elephants in a 100 years.
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Add up how many a year.
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For what?
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We've done it.
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The baby's children of a smart animal that can paint, do artwork, marries for life treasures,
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their children, smart sentiment beings older than we are in the planet.
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We've done it.
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So we could stand with a photograph standing on it for no reason at all, no for food, nothing.
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Or maybe we want their ivory to powder into making an aphrodisiac that's gonna give us an
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erection, which is kind of an insane thought.
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Yeah.
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I'm just saying, we can be authentic with the planet.
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We can be authentic with each other, but if mind pollution is the 1st pollution, How do we
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ever get rid of the pollution in the world?
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We have to get rid of the mind pollution.
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So first, let's be authentic with ourselves and then each other.
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Have integrity, build a cooperative community, which I think is the ballgame.
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So I really think at the end, the value you're giving that's priceless, is you're building a
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cooperative community that doesn't deal with competitive anything.
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And competition is thrown out as a lack of integrity.
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Between spirits, and we start now to nurture each other.
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And once you build nurturing communities, they're self replenishing And if you're
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depleted by the competition, you're drained.
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You don't even know why.
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You're so busy.
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You don't have balance.
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And you wanna get your balance back and you wanna be replenished.
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So your cell phone batteries go to full charge.
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Then get in the authenticity conference on June 22nd.
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Our CEO space people will be there.
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We're gonna have a lot of grads and members there.
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And I want you there if you're a CEO space member, and I want you in Canada all there as
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CEO space members.
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And when you don't know about CO Space and you're just hearing this for the first time,
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just have something inside you spark.
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Don't listen to this.
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Listen to your heart space.
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Let your heart decide.
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And if your heart says, you know, this is what I need right now.
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Then bam.
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You saw the law of attraction.
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The opportunity was knocking, and you answered the door.
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Click and get you ticket.
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That's I recommend it, and I don't endorse everything and chairman of CEO space.
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Carries our highest endorsement for the authenticity conference.
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That's why I'm on the show.
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I'm not talking about Cospace and what we do.
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Because you don't have to take that step right now.
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You got it easy, low cost first step.
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Give yourself integrity and a community that treasures it and watch what happens in your
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life when you accept that in as your new currency in super change to remain current.
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You know?
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And if you wanna stay up on what's going on out there, read my blog, and you'll find out what
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integrity looks like, but it's, you know, I tell you it's got a lot of serious information.
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It's Bernie Doorman, Bernie with a y, domann.com.
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Just my name dot com just like you're seeing it right here in the show, and it's free.
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And I've got subscribers all over the world by the tens of 1000 and your and it's just to
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service, make a bookmark.
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So when you see news that upsets you a bit, read there about what's really going on.
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Now some of it may upset you, but I'll always tell you what to do in the good times and the
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bad times.
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When the bad times hit like the crash of 2008, We predicted it and told our members what to
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do.
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They went through it and didn't lose any money.
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They were okay, and we're gonna help you with that as well.
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It's a great little against all the news, which is bought and paid for.
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Where can you get authentic information about what's really going on out there?
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Spread the word.
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The blog will tell you.
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I'm gonna be putting up on the blog.
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Everything about this conference.
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You'll be reading about it.
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To all my tens of thousands of readers in a 140 countries.
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So you'll see the authenticity conference on my blog.
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Well, Bernie, it's been past amazing, and I'm so privileged for you.
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The fact that you took the time to spend this with me only thing that we'll be missing is
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you, in Toronto.
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But Dave is, fantastic also, and I look forward to being involved with the studio space.
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He's a financial advisor.
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He's one of the greatest coaches we have, and I'd be there except I'm speaking at another
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meeting.
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So I sent one of our best people in my place, and you will not be disappointed when he runs
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your super networking for you.
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Everybody Awesome.
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On that.
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Alright.
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Thank you again for spending the time.
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I will, post the link, at the bottom, for you to be able to connect with, with Bernie.
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Bernie, I'm sure her past will cross again very, very soon.
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So again, you have an awesome day.
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So for my listeners, authenticities is integrity, and we have to play with the
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dolphins, no more sharks.
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I, I, I, I'm gonna adopt that saying from let's play with the doll if it's not the sharks
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because I love it.
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And, obviously, you know, my roots way back.
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You know, I've always known that it has the core of who I am.
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But thank you Bernie for bringing in, the elephant with turned on to bagel.
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And, I hope that, you come out and meet us on on June second at the San Mate Hotel.
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The link will be at the bottom.
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The tickets are going quickly.
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And so make sure you jump on as soon as you, see the link or a private message me, and then
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we'll be able to get you a ticket, as soon as possible.
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So take care, from, authentic with Roxanne Verdi again, my regards and have a a great day.
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And, we'll we'll talk to you soon.