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The Best Dating Photo Advice You will EVER Get! · Secrets They'll Only Tell a Matchmaker with Gina Hendrix

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  Today I am going to give you some of the best, the best, the
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  most priceless advice you're ever going to get regarding your
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  dating photos. OK, this is for men.
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  This is for women. Listen up.
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  Hang on. All right?
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  So when it comes to advertising yourself for dating or marketing
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  yourself for dating, and that is what it is, all right?
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  You have to retrain your brain and think of it that way.
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  You're marketing yourself for dating.
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  Think of it as if you were applying for a job, but you're
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  only going to get that amazing job just based on photos.
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  So if you're applying for a job and it's just based on photos,
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  would you be using these low level photos that you're using
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  of the dating apps? Would you be including friends?
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  Would you be including your dog? Would you be including hat?
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  Sunglasses? You in a field of flowers?
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  No. You'd be really very intentional
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  about all these photos so that you can get an amazing job.
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  All right, so now you're trying to get an amazing person to date
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  you or fall in love with you or you, yet you use these low level
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  photos. Let's let's retrain our brain.
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  Never hats, sunglasses, or you super, super far away or a
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  weird, horrible, unflattering angle.
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  OK, just pay attention to the details and make sure that all
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  your photos are carefully curated and well thought out.
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  So when people talk to me about elevating the photos and I talk
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  to them about elevating their photos, a lot of people will
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  say, but I heard you're not supposed to use professional
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  photos. So I'm going to tell you how I
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  feel about professional photos. All right, hang on.
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  And yes, you can take your own photos.
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  Again, you just have to have great lighting.
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  Never have the light at your back or at your side because
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  you're going to be dark. You could set your photo, your
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  phone on a tripod and clicker. Use the clicker, or you set it
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  on a timer and it does a burst and you pose and you move around
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  and you bring the vibe never frozen face right?
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  And that's not attractive. I'm not opposed to professional
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  photos, you know. I think the goal should be to
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  have the very best photos you could possibly have on the
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  dating apps. However, when it comes to
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  professional photos, never hire a photographer that is just a
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  headshot photographer. Never hire a photographer that
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  does it in studio. All right, this stuff is where
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  things go terribly wrong and where you start to get cheesy,
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  lame photos that are not appropriate for dating.
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  So for dating photos, you want a photographer who's a lifestyle
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  photographer who shoots in a live real environment, whether
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  it's inside their fabulous home, whether it's inside your house,
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  whether it's outside at a park. But a parks going to be
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  limiting? All right, You want a
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  photographer who knows what they're doing when it comes to
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  creating lifestyle photos, OK, I also don't want you to focus on
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  headshot stuff. Why?
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  People want to see full body. So focus only on full body.
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  Tell your photographer if you're doing professional photos, tell
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  them you want all full body. Because here's the thing, you
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  can crop into a headshot later. All right, so now, if you are
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  taking your own photos and most of the ladies are who work with
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  me, have great lighting, have great lighting, I face a great
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  window here that I do all my videos, my TikTok.
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  I'm not using filters. I'm just using great lighting.
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  Also, when it comes to using professional photography and
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  professional photos, never let them retouch the photos.
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  Tell them you want just real RAW photos.
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  Hopefully their skill set is good enough.
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  They know how to light you good enough that they don't need to
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  airbrush you because that's also the problem.
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  You don't want to use fake filtered or airbrushed photos.
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  OK, so you don't want to be wearing hats, sunglasses, have
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  other people in the photos who could potentially be more
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  attractive than you, all right? Or confuse somebody by which one
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  is you. Or if you're a man, you never
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  want a man who's taller than you standing next to you in a photo.
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  All right? These are just the bottom line
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  basics. So always think of your photos
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  like this. Does it help?
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  Does it hurt? Does it do nothing?
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  All right, that's how I tell everybody.
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  And if it helps, amazing. Keep it in.
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  If it hurts and it's not as good as some of the others, it's got
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  to go. People are going to judge you on
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  your weakest photo, OK? And if it's a do nothing photo,
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  if you're standing in a field of flowers, nobody's going to pick
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  you because those great flowers, nobody's going to pick you.
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  If your backs to the camera and you're looking at the Eiffel
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  Tower, that's a do nothing photo.
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  You can keep it in, but you're taking up valuable real estate
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  that you could put better photos in that actually might make them
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  choose you. But at least it's a do nothing
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  photo. So it's not going to make them
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  not choose you, but it's not going to influence them to
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  choose you either. All right, Does it help?
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  Does it hurt? Does it do nothing?
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  Always think of it in terms like of these and always think of it
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  in terms of are you truly marketing yourself for dating
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  that makes you seem irresistible to somebody because that should
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  be the goal. Hope it helps.