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Abby calls Scotty out for keeping a secret from her... · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Magigadge ninety four nine.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Scott and Abbey Unfiltered,
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  Speaker 2: And I do want to clear things up before we
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  Speaker 2: dive into our conversations today.
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  Speaker 3: Are you still self conscious about the yes? The title
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  Speaker 3: I gave you yes?
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  Speaker 1: Of all the things you've said, well, here's okay.
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  Speaker 2: If you listen to yesterday's podcast, I mentioned how I
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  Speaker 2: started watching again fifty Shades of Gray, and I only
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  Speaker 2: started the movie for the first like five minutes, and
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  Speaker 2: so I came on the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I really like his presence.
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  Speaker 2: I like how he's like very he's like mysterious, and
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  Speaker 2: he says things that.
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  Speaker 3: Are Are you into Christian Gray?
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  Speaker 1: No, but I was saying I was like taking notes,
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  Speaker 1: and I watched more of it last night, and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh, good lord. If you hear that, and
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  Speaker 1: you hear.
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  Speaker 2: I'm taking notes from fifty Shades of Gray, you're probably
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  Speaker 2: thinking I'm going home and setting up like a playroom
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  Speaker 2: with all the I saw that scene yesterday and I
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  Speaker 2: was like, that was not what I was trying to
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  Speaker 2: say on the podcast.
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  Speaker 3: That's exactly what you were trying to say. We can't
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  Speaker 3: backtrack now.
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  Speaker 2: I think I forgot of what the rest of the
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  Speaker 2: movie look like.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, I was wondering why Scott was paying
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  Speaker 3: so little for rent. I'm like, oh, he's saving money
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  Speaker 3: for equipment.
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  Speaker 1: Jesus.
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  Speaker 2: When he opened the door and I saw like thirty
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  Speaker 2: different kinds of whips and cuffs and different things to
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  Speaker 2: hang from, I was like, if you don't know me,
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  Speaker 2: and that was the first episode that you listened to
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  Speaker 2: with the envisionment that you have of me might be
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  Speaker 2: very different than the reality. That is not by what
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  Speaker 2: I meant when I said I'm not Venilla, what.
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  Speaker 3: Did you mean?
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  Speaker 1: You know, I think I'm.
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  Speaker 3: I'm explaining Scottie. What did you mean?
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  Speaker 2: I was enjoying the way like there's a there's a
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  Speaker 2: calmness to his presence.
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  Speaker 3: You're focused more on Christian Gray and less about the
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  Speaker 3: the whips and chains.
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  Speaker 1: Correct. I wasn't saying that to say I'm about to
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  Speaker 1: go to you know what is the place called here,
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  Speaker 1: one of the little stores, to get a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: new device. That was not what I was trying to say.
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  Speaker 3: Well, the thing is, I.
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  Speaker 1: Don't think there's anything wrong with it, and I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying it's off the cards. I'm saying. That was not
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  Speaker 1: what I was saying.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think you necessarily needed to go out and
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  Speaker 3: get them, because I feel like you probably have a
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  Speaker 3: box underneath your bed.
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  Speaker 1: You don't need to worry about that. You don't need
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  Speaker 1: to worry about any of that.
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  Speaker 3: When I said to your lady, I'm like, I could
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  Speaker 3: tell Scott's probably a low key freak. She didn't protest.
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  Speaker 2: I know when we had that conversation yesterday, and after
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  Speaker 2: realizing that, watching Fifty Shades of Gray, I was like, Wow,
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  Speaker 2: there's a whole new version of me that I think
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  Speaker 2: was starting to not what I was going for now,
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  Speaker 2: not saying that it's off the table, but that was
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  Speaker 2: not what I was saying.
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  Speaker 1: Is happening to my life?
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  Speaker 3: Whatever? So you turn on this movie with the thought
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  Speaker 3: of I'm going to take notes on Christian Gray, Well,
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  Speaker 3: just this. I'm trying to understand.
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  Speaker 2: There is a way that he goes about his confidence
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  Speaker 2: and his sternness and what he wants, and he goes
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  Speaker 2: and gets it.
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  Speaker 3: But why did you turn this movie on? I'm really
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  Speaker 3: trying to get to the root of this.
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  Speaker 1: That's what did you hear?
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  Speaker 3: Like you're like, I'm gonna turn on fifty shades of
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  Speaker 3: gray because I hear there's a really compelling protagony.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's cool how he sets up very sexual scenes.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's really cool on the way he goes
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  Speaker 2: about setting up like a very romantic date of how
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  Speaker 2: it's just completely just like we talk about the build up,
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  Speaker 2: the tense, the tension that he allows to sit in
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  Speaker 2: a room without being a stuff going to be like that.
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  Speaker 1: Scott just admit you're a free you know, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: saying I'm a freak.
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying that I think there's a lot to learn
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  Speaker 2: and there's a lot to explore.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't finished the movie.
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  Speaker 3: He's not romantic.
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  Speaker 1: He's just rich.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, any woman would be like, oh my god, a helicopter.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: But he did say something yesterday that I was like,
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  Speaker 2: damn it, that was not the impression I was trying
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  Speaker 2: to give because I am a romantic. But he literally
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  Speaker 2: said and he's like, obviously it's not a spoiler, but
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  Speaker 2: he's like, I don't make love.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't don't write that down, Scottie. You can uh,
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  Speaker 3: you can skip over that one.
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  Speaker 2: That was the line that I was like, oh good lord,
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  Speaker 2: what did I say on the podcast? That was not
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  Speaker 2: what I was going for. That is not the angle
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  Speaker 2: that I was going for. This whole Christian Gray thing.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not saying I'm trying to be Christian Gray. I'm
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  Speaker 2: trying to say, like, I like the effort.
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  Speaker 1: That he puts in. You know what, I'll finish the
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  Speaker 1: film and let you know how women also like the effort.
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  Speaker 3: But the thing is, what's so funny is such like
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  Speaker 3: a guy point of view to be like, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: turn on fifty ge Greg, so I wanna be Christian
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  Speaker 3: Gray rich man with helicopter.
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  Speaker 1: In sexy scenes and cool cars, Hey, cool.
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  Speaker 3: Cars and stuff. Whereas what are like, have you watched
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  Speaker 3: the other Bennett's Sister yet? Might I introduce you to
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  Speaker 3: Pride and Prejudice? No where there's zero sex in it.
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  Speaker 3: See I watched the sexiest scene yesterday on TikTok.
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  Speaker 1: And it was rated G what okay?
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  Speaker 2: Now again we have these discussions because this is open
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  Speaker 2: my mind into like what our brains work so differently,
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  Speaker 2: so differently?
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  Speaker 1: What was the scene?
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  Speaker 3: So it was all the guys listening and be like.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck this is where I deal with every day.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm a big fan of historical fiction. And there's
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  Speaker 3: a new there's a new show that's not out in
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  Speaker 3: the US, so I've been watching clips of it on
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  Speaker 3: TikTok or earnestly waiting for it to drop in the
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  Speaker 3: US on May fifth. And there's a scene where Mary,
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  Speaker 3: the protagonist, and then her love interest, mister Hayward, are
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  Speaker 3: in a boat and he's wearing a billowing white T
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  Speaker 3: shirt and he's just listening to her talk.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck what?
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  Speaker 3: But he's just it's just like the most sensual thing,
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  Speaker 3: like he just like he's just yearning for her. Was
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  Speaker 3: so sexy?
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  Speaker 1: How is that sexy?
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  Speaker 3: I gotta find the clip. I'll show it to you.
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  Speaker 3: You know what, maybe we should maybe this is what
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  Speaker 3: we should do.
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  Speaker 1: He just listens, He just listens to her.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, and then he like reads some poetry.
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  Speaker 1: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 3: But she's like a little embarrassed because it's like a
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  Speaker 3: it's a little bit more of a romantic poem that
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  Speaker 3: she's used to. Because she's a little like she's a
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  Speaker 3: little she might be on I think her character's suposed
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  Speaker 3: to be on the spectrum. Like she's very like analytical
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  Speaker 3: and very like to the point. And he's like, this
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  Speaker 3: poetic reading guy, let me find it.
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  Speaker 2: And he's just okay, See, this is where I think
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  Speaker 2: a lot of relationships we just don't understand each other
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  Speaker 2: and we don't dive in to understand like what each
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  Speaker 2: other need. Because holy crap, I am I supposed to
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  Speaker 2: be writing poetry?
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  Speaker 3: Hang on, no, you no, don't do that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, Well, actually I was trying to a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you, you were trying to write poetry. One of
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  Speaker 1: the things that I want to get more into is poetry.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, so what poem did you write?
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  Speaker 1: I didn't write.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I write things on my Instagram every day
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  Speaker 2: and it's kind of poetic. But what I've really started
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  Speaker 2: to love about poetry is it's so descriptive and it
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  Speaker 2: brings the picture to you.
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  Speaker 3: What I love about words is that you read them.
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  Speaker 1: I can't stand you. What I'm saying is it does again.
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  Speaker 2: It goes that extra effort of like saying instead of
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  Speaker 2: like I saw the sunset, it's I saw the sky
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  Speaker 2: illuminate with colors.
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  Speaker 3: What I love about words is that they describe things.
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  Speaker 1: I'm learning.
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  Speaker 3: I am going to find this clip whether it's the
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  Speaker 3: last thing I do, because I remember thinking, Oh, I
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  Speaker 3: think this is it. Oh boy, are you gonna put
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  Speaker 3: it up to the microphone. I'm pretty sure this is it. No,
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  Speaker 3: because I want you to watch it. I'm I'm eighty
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  Speaker 3: percent sure this is it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so confused because.
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  Speaker 3: I remember watching this and thinking about our conversation yesterday
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  Speaker 3: about how guys like could you shet degree whips in
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  Speaker 3: six and all the undervie and anal beads. I remember
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  Speaker 3: watching this and going, this is the sexiest thing I've ever.
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  Speaker 1: Seen, Like it's rady g Okay, let me see it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna pull it up.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let me see this video.
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  Speaker 3: You can watch it and you can pull it up
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  Speaker 3: to the to the mic.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's see it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: This is Tall reads his favorite poem a thousand times,
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  Speaker 2: but only felt its true power with Mary. He is
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  Speaker 2: so in love with her. This is the most ridiculous thing.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, we get sued for.
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  Speaker 1: This, by the way, Yeah, probably no, Yes, as long as.
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  Speaker 3: It to the BBC.
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  Speaker 1: BBC, we'll find out if we're not on the marrows,
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  Speaker 1: because we got seed. He's gonna enjoy my yogat what
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  Speaker 1: is he He's just laying there listening to her. They're
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  Speaker 1: just playing, having a little picnic. That's cute.
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  Speaker 3: No, that's that's the hang. I don't see the opening scene.
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  Speaker 1: They can make we watch the ship. Oh, they're on
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  Speaker 1: a boat.
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  Speaker 4: That's some with their glasses.
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  Speaker 1: That is my phone.
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  Speaker 3: I am quite put up with. It does not easily
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  Speaker 3: give up its secrets.
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  Speaker 1: Would you read it to me? This is sexy, so sexy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, ah.
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  Speaker 2: He's literally just leaning back in the just looking at
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  Speaker 2: her as she is reading a book.
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  Speaker 3: Mm hmm. In hours of weariness, sensations sweet felt in
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  Speaker 3: the blood and felt for longer heart and passing even
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  Speaker 3: into my purer mind. Mm hmm, with tranquil restoration.
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  Speaker 1: There's a soft smile on his feelings, to.
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  Speaker 3: Have unremembered, unremembered pleasure.
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  Speaker 1: Would you could you read on?
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  Speaker 4: Now she's given him the book.
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  Speaker 1: Last bit.
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  Speaker 5: I will read on, But perhaps you could try not
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  Speaker 5: to worry about not span.
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  Speaker 4: Allow her to be less analytical, and letther just be pleasant.
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  Speaker 5: I've learned to look on nature because in the hour
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  Speaker 5: of thoughtless youth, but hearing oftentimes still sad music of humanity,
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  Speaker 5: not harsh nor grating though, of ample power to chasing
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  Speaker 5: and subdue. And I have felt presence that disturbs me
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  Speaker 5: with the joy of elevated.
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  Speaker 3: Spots over it? How long asquin not nearly long enough?
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  Speaker 5: What do you think?
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  Speaker 3: M Yes, mister Wordsworth is well, he's explaining our connection
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  Speaker 3: to nature and to all of this, and how that
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  Speaker 3: connection grows as we age.
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  Speaker 5: Yes, I've read this poem a thousand times. Sitting here,
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  Speaker 5: I finally feel it's true.
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  Speaker 1: Powert wow, check checky.
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  Speaker 3: That's okay, okay, So that's like I've seen enough. Scout's like,
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  Speaker 3: I've gotta hide this raging hard on.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we have different things. I get us going.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently that's good.
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  Speaker 3: Scott's like, I'm more confused than when I started.
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  Speaker 1: I really am, but I do. Okay, here's my thought
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  Speaker 1: as soon as I'm watching it.
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  Speaker 2: I think there are things that become more enjoyable when
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  Speaker 2: they're done with the right person that you would never
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  Speaker 2: see yourself enjoying an other situation.
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  Speaker 1: Like sex, not just sex, but even a Scott has
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  Speaker 1: a corny side, very corny side.
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  Speaker 3: I know it's I don't know that that's aside. I
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  Speaker 3: think that's just who you are.
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  Speaker 1: I think it is who I am.
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  Speaker 2: But like, as I'm watching this dude read this poem,
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  Speaker 2: I get it. I know where he's coming from when
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  Speaker 2: he's looking at her and she's reading the poem and
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  Speaker 2: he's so interested, I get it.
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  Speaker 3: What you should understand about women's desire is that it's
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  Speaker 3: just wanting to be seen as a person.
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  Speaker 1: You know, Yes, I do get that.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, it's I think a lot of guys get
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  Speaker 2: Really we forget that just being present is such a
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  Speaker 2: key part to obviously having a connection with someone because
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  Speaker 2: just like y'all's mind is going a thousand miles an hour.
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  Speaker 1: Ours is either going a thousand miles an hour, it's
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  Speaker 1: going nowhere. It's just like in La la land.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And so instead of sitting there and actually listening intently,
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  Speaker 2: it's like off somewhere in a field and it's like
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  Speaker 2: la da da da da, and it's like, are you
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  Speaker 2: listening to me? It's like no, I wasn't. I missed
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  Speaker 2: out on everything. But I think with the right person,
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  Speaker 2: it's actually really enjoyable to listen to their interests and
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  Speaker 2: see them do the thing that they're the most passionate about.
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  Speaker 2: Like that was a quality that I knew I wanted
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  Speaker 2: in a partner. Is I want someone that I'm passionate
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  Speaker 2: about their passions and they're passionate about mine. Not necessarily
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  Speaker 2: my passion, they're passionate about me being passionate about something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, does that make sense?
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  Speaker 3: It does.
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  Speaker 1: So when you watch that clip, what does it make
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  Speaker 1: you think?
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  Speaker 5: Like?
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  Speaker 1: What does that make you desire or want?
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  Speaker 3: I think it's just the way he like I said,
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  Speaker 3: I'm being facetious, but he literally is just like he
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  Speaker 3: what's so beautiful about period dramas is that there's literally
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  Speaker 3: no sex in them whatsoever, so they can't skip over
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  Speaker 3: the things that make you truly appreciate someone as a person,
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  Speaker 3: like you have to have so much character development, and
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  Speaker 3: in this moment, he's just really taking her in as
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  Speaker 3: a person, and I think that's what makes it sexy.
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  Speaker 3: Like he's just like, so there you are with the
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  Speaker 3: moaning again.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, that's me agreeing. Okay, my bad, my bad.
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  Speaker 3: You gotta work on it.
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  Speaker 2: I thought, okay, let me. I don't know another thing
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  Speaker 2: to do, and said, we go there you go.
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  Speaker 3: There's there's there's moaning, and then there's m.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like that sounds like a puppy any but yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he's just drinking her in.
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  Speaker 3: He's just like, so he's so in drinking her in.
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  Speaker 3: He's just so enraptured with just her existing. It's beautiful,
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  Speaker 3: and he appreciates her for what other people UH discredit
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  Speaker 3: her for. So she's the outcast in her family. She
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  Speaker 3: is sent away to be a governess because her mom's like,
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  Speaker 3: she's fucking ugly and she's ruining all my other people's prospects.
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  Speaker 3: So she's got to go. So she goes off to
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  Speaker 3: London and all these other people think she's interesting and creative,
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  Speaker 3: and these men start falling for her, and she just
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  Speaker 3: has no idea because her whole life she's just been
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  Speaker 3: the most hated sister. And now here's this man just
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  Speaker 3: looking at her, going, I think you're pretty rad. Mary Bennett,
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  Speaker 3: like a pillar of humanity is just wanting someone to
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  Speaker 3: see you for who you are. And someone sees all
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  Speaker 3: of that and still is like, yeah, I'm on board.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's what's really beautiful about that show.
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  Speaker 2: One of the best lessons of relationships, friendships, or love
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  Speaker 2: that I've learned, honestly way too late, was and I
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  Speaker 2: mean obviously not too late, but way too late in
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  Speaker 2: life so far. It was like a year ago and
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  Speaker 2: somebody said the quote of like, you should just be
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  Speaker 2: constantly curious about your partner, always looking for new things
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  Speaker 2: within them, because as you grow and they change, you
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  Speaker 2: still want to learn about that new version that they're becoming,
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  Speaker 2: and you're always curious on who they are, what they're
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  Speaker 2: going through, and who they're becoming in that timeline, because
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of relationships go into trouble when
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  Speaker 2: it's you expect them to be the same person that
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  Speaker 2: they are when you first meet them, and maybe you're five, ten, fifteen,
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  Speaker 2: twenty years down the line and that person has evolved,
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  Speaker 2: they've gone through new chapters of life, they've experienced new things.
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  Speaker 1: They are not the same person.
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  Speaker 2: But the partner that's continuously curious on who that person
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  Speaker 2: is and excited to continue to learn from what I
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  Speaker 2: have seen. Those are the partnerships that continue to thrive
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  Speaker 2: and they're passionate. Because there's plenty of partners I think
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  Speaker 2: that are together simply out of the fact that there's
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  Speaker 2: always been together, they always will be together.
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  Speaker 1: But then you see some of them and they're so passionate.
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  Speaker 1: They're so excited to be together.
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  Speaker 2: And we saw that on Saturday when we went out
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  Speaker 2: to the festival over on Clearwater Beach.
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  Speaker 1: Looked over and there's.
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  Speaker 2: This couple that are probably in their seventies, just getting it,
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  Speaker 2: having the time of their life.
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  Speaker 1: Like he knew his person.
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  Speaker 2: She was dancing flowy and all over the dance floor,
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: and he would go out there and join her for
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: a little but then he would sit back and his
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: attention wasn't elsewhere. It wasn't rolling his eyes or annoyed.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: It was truly enlightened and engulfed by her presence. You
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: could see it on his face. He just looked at
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: her and just smiled and loved every bit about that person.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: And I loved that. That was something I didn't realize,
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: especially as a younger version of a man, of you
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: should find the person that continues to excite you, but
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: also you should share that excitement with them.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, don't make them feel ashamed for that excitement.
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: I think what's freaky about getting older is you realize
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: some people literally just choose people and then just get
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: married to them. I think I grew up with this
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: very Disneyland idea of what happens like when you got married.
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: Whereas I thought, oh, you get you get married when
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: you're really excited about someone, you want to spend the
• 17:11
  Speaker 3: rest of your life with them. I know so many
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: people who are literally just choosing people. Oh yeah, And
• 17:16
  Speaker 3: I don't mean that like a condescending way, no, but
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: because I'm sure there's some merit to it as well.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: And you know, you can certainly criticize my dating patterns
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: for sure, but I'm like, so you're just like choosing someone.
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: You're just like you're just like just going with it,
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: you know what I mean. And I'm not saying that's
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: right or wrong. I'm just saying, oh, you're literally just
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: being like, yeah, let's get married.
• 17:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people feel the pressure of
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: the timeline. Where are you right now? You're like, I
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: see everybody on Instagram and Facebook, and it looks so
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: awesome to see like an engagement photo, and you're like,
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: I cannot wait, Like, truthfully, I'm so excited for that,
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Like that sounds incredible to know that you have your
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: person and that's gonna be your freaking rock for life.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Hell yes, so I get it.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: But there's also that side that's like, well, I want
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: to make sure obviously it's the right person. You're not
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: just going into it to impress everyone else online or
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: and I feel like you're checking a box. And I
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: do have friends that have done that too, where they're like, well, yeah,
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: the worst phrase is like yeah, that it's good.
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like the obvious step to do.
• 18:18
  Speaker 5: You know.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: I mean, we've been together for six years, but I
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: guess we'll just get married. What are we gonna do?
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Break up? I guess yeah? Maybe.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: I mean I would definitely consider that there's a whole
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: life to live and if that's person's not the right
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: person for you. And I've had different mentors and coaches
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: and previous relationships help me where they're like, it's actually
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: more than just you think about the other person. Yes,
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: you might not be that happy, but like, are you
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: okay with them sitting in a relationship where the partner
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: that they're with is truly not that happy or excited
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: to be with them?
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: That sucks.
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: I'd rather someone just tell me be straight up and
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: let me have someone that's truly excited to be with
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: me and vice versa.
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: Break up with you?
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: That's right?
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: Do I need to send that text with somebody.
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: Nope, perhaps, what the heck? No, do not send that text?
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: Hey, break up with him?
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: No, I'm excited for that.
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: He was not excited to be with you.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, like that's no comment on there. I think
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: there's plenty of signs there. Anyway. That's what I had.
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: I wanted to clear up the fifty shades thing, and
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: that we.
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: Went down that well, perfectcause there's something I need to
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: clear up with you that much more vapid.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: Note.
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: I learned something from your lady over the weekend that
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: I didn't know, and I didn't realize you were never
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: going to fess up.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: To Holy crap. Wait, let me see if I could
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: figure this out. What would she know that you don't
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: know that I haven't confessed to. Oh this is terrifle. Okay,
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: go ahead, a really big deal.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: I feel like I feel like you have really put
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: on a facade.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: Oh what is it?
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: You wear makeup?
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: Okay, why are you not going to tell me that
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: you wear makeup?
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: Okay, first off, it's not makeup. Second off, that was
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: first of all.
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: It is makeup?
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: All right, let me go ahead and just let's all right,
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: let's dive in.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: So we're sitting at lunch over the weekend. We've just
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: done tub club on Sunday, and we're sitting there and
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: we're having tacos, and all of a sudden, his lady goes,
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: did you know he wears makeup?
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, So over the past couple months, what I
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: have tried to do is really just enhance the way
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: I take care of myself. I want to look better,
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: I want to feel younger, I want to be. Obviously,
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: a couple months ago, as I'll stepping into the dating world,
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: I wanted to be as.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: Well simply as good looking as I possibly.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: Kill about your looks, Maxinge, what the kids are saying,
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: so of your looks, Maxing.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: So here's how it started. I changed up my haircut.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I started growing it out a little bit more, and
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: I wanted to do something different on top of.
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: The ladies love long hair. Well, although it looks not
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: to I don't mean this in a mean way. It
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: doesn't look different to me, like from the photos I've
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: seen from you in the past.
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Like well used to be super short on the sides.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: I used to get like a military haircut where it
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: was like one on the sides, which is like skin.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: I would get a skin fade, which a lot of
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: dudes get, and then a little bit on top to
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: spike it up. And so right now it's not super long,
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: but it's a little more grippy on the sides and
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: on the back, and there's a little more texture on top.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: That was number one. So that was taking me in
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: a new step. I heard, Okay, I see what you mean.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: It is longer. Correct, you don't do the fade on
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: the side. I don't do the faith on the side.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: I don't need it.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: And the second thing I wanted to do is I
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: started growing out facial hair because luckily I have a
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: great friend that we go through chat CBT like every
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: day and we ask you questions on what are the
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: most desirable traits? Are the things that would make us
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: look as good as we possibly can. We've become obsessed.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: And so it told you to grow your hair out
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: and grow a beard.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Well, it let me try new things.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: So I started growing a little bit of facial hair
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: to give my face a little more shape, is.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: Okay, So contour in the same way that a woman
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: would contour her face.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: Correct and to give it a little more shadow. Yeah, contour.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: I mean you're speaking to the girl who when she
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: wanted to contour her face, she just got surgery.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: See, I mean I just started playing around with these things,
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, I was like, wait a second,
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: I actually do like this way that it looks now
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: the other week, well, I do. This is going to
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: be my excuse, So just let me lean on my
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: excuse for a second.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: So I do a TV segment every week called Florida
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: four Reel, and on that show, I have to do
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: a little powder on my head because my head gets shiny.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: So I've already dabbled in the world of makeup. Now,
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: as I was going into a store, I was going
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: into like Alta because my car was getting fixed. I
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: just had a little bit of time on my hands.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: So I was on the phone with my buddy and
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: he's like, oh, while you're in there, and he's a
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: big time like chatchyb tear looks up one of the
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: best things to do for your skin to look maxing.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: He's like, check out some tinted moisturizer, some like eyebrow gell,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: some tinted suns like these things will take your looks
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: to the next level. And honestly on the phone, I said, dude,
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: you think I'm going a point in my life right
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: now where I'm about to spend money on makeup, Like
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: I have a car. I just put one thousand dollars
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: in two like I don't have that.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: I walked in. I was like, well, let me just
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: go ahead.
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: And walked into Sephora left two thousand dollars for well,
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: I don't even know what I bought. Well.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: I went in there, and I was trying to be
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: innocent at first. I just asked the guy. I said, oh,
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: do you have any like tinted sunscreen?
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: Let me just see. Let me start there, points me
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: to one. It's called like Golden Eagle or something. I'm like,
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: that's cool. I don't really understand what it does. I
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: don't understand the point. I'm like, I'm not going to
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: do that today. So I go and I look at
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: the colones, which was my actual point, and then I'm like, well,
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: I'm here, let me just ask another follow up question.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: I go to almost side, do you have any tinted moisturizer?
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: I think that's more what I'm looking for, And he
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: gets all excited. His eyes kind of glow and he's like, yes,
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: actually follow me, and.
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: He's like, thank god, your skin looks crusty as hell.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: Man, I'll tell you what. He grabbed this stuff. He
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: sat me down.
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: He said, you know what, here's what I'm gonna do.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I want to show you what it does. I said, okay,
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: this is interesting. He said, well, we're gonna have to
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: do a couple of things. We're gonna have to get
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: this stuff called a primer. So what the hell is
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: a primer?
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: You?
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: Well, he explained that as somebody that I have oily skin.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: He's like, the primer is gonna help. When you put
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: this on, the oil is not going to come out
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: because you don't want to put this on your oily skin,
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: and then it's just gonna make it might as well.
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: He gave me the primer and then he put the
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: tinted moisturizer. He did the whole thing where he does
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: half of your face and he shows the mirror because
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: he even gets the setting spray out too, and he
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: does the half of the mirror and I'm.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Like, motherucker, it was so good.
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: Oh my god, the brand of moisturizer.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Oh, I have no idea I goop. I don't know.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: Is it goop, supergoop, yes, supergoop? Yeah, yes, okay, I
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: think it's yeah.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: I don't know if that's the moisturizer though. I think
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: it's like Kate Harley or something like that. I don't know.
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: This is like I just bought what the guy gave
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: maybe whatever.
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: Well, he shows me the side by side, and it's
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: undeniably that much of a better difference. My face is smooth,
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: it has a glow to it.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I look.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, all right, just do the whole thing.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Let me just see what it looks like the whole thing.
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: And I look at myself in the mirror. I'm like, gosh,
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: damn it, you know what, let me go for this.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: So do you just wear it when you're on TV?
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: Or do you wear when you're out and about?
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: So right now, I'm just doing it. Okay, I'll give
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: you the flak. I don't care. You know what, you
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: can have an inside look into my brain. I was
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: doing it just for TV, and I was gonna do
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: it just to start there, to get practice with it.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: And I've honestly only been hesitant to wear it in
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: other places, not because I'm ashamed to wear like I don't.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: When I saw myself, I thought, holy crap, Yeah, that
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: looks good, Like I would wear this out and about
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: on a Friday night. I was only not wearing it
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: because I wasn't ready to tell my lady.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: Well, no, I think that's fair, because I'll be honest
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: with you. My knee jerk reaction as a lady is
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna say it because I don't want to
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: get called a certain word. Yeah, but I was like,
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: I don't know how I would feel if I was.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: It's like mac and on a dude. And then I
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: pull back and I'm like, what's that on my face?
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: That's exactly what I was worried for.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: Like, and she goes to like kiss me on the cheek,
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: and she's like, wait a second, are you wearing It's
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: too early in our stages of like talking for me
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: to be able to like, I don't know. I'm trying
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: to be the most masculine I can, and right now
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: in society, wearing makeup is not necessarily a masculine attribute,
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: which I don't think there's anything.
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: Wrong now's there? We're literally just being judgmental a holes.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's like, that's ridiculous to say that you're
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: not as manly, like whatever, I'm not even gonna go
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: down that rabbit hole.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: I just thought I looked really good.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: But I haven't worn it out with her because I
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: was like, I don't want that to be something that's
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: possibly a turn off. I'm still very much like I'm
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: trying to make sure I'm like doing all the right things.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: I'm not trying to give her any reason to be like, hmm,
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: I don't know. So I wasn't ready to reveal it,
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: and I don't know how the conversation got on, but
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: eventually it came up, and luckily they had a great
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: response on how they brought up how they have a
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: lot of friends that work in media that also I
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: have wearing makeup, so it was like no big deal
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: for her, And I was.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: Like, who, you did find the right person, because the
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: only people that don't think it's weird as people who
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: work in media exactly, because it's so common. It's like, oh,
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: of course, if you're on camera, you have to wear makeups.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: So I don't think it took away any of my
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: masculinity that she obviously sees me in. But I haven't
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: worn it around her, like the last time I wore
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: it was yesterday just for news or just for the
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: TV segment, because that's the right now the time that
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: But also if I wore it out, it would be
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: to it would be to look more attractive to other people.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: But now the person I'm trying to look attracted to,
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, they probably find me more attractive with
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: it on, but they already find me attractive, so it's
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: not necessarily a need.
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: I would love to know her opinion. I want you
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: to wear makeup in front of her, and I want
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: her to give her honest speedbag. Does she like it
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: when you wear makeup?
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: I bet she would because my skin looks incredible.
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: Because it's not like it's like I'm going my.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: Face isn't like I'm not like blush and liner and
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: all this.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like I don't know all those things. It literally
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: just get like smooths out my skin, which obviously you
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: ladies know if you do this a lot.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: So I'm kind of new to this whole game, so
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I was kind of blown away.
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: But if I could give a little side tangent, I
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: did wear makeup in the past when I was like
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: a kid because I had horrible acfe, so like that
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: was my only experience with it. I would like steal
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: my moms in the morning, and I would like cover
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: my face in like a little bit of areas, and
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: I was just petrified that somebody was going to find out.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: I was like, literally, like, for the love of God,
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: let this be even enough and smooth enough where nobody's
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: going to say, in the middle of fifth grade, I
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: think Scott has makeup on.
• 28:39
  Speaker 3: Did anybody find out?
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: No, nobody ever found out. I was just too scared
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: to even share with anybody. But then I never did
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: it again because I was like, as soon as my
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: skin started to like just act a little more normal,
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: I was like, never again. But now I'm like, holy crap,
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: now it looks really good. But it's not like a
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: whole it seems like it's a moisturizer.
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: It's just I love it because I think women go
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: through so much bullshit just to beach, because it's so competitive,
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: because there's so many beautiful women out there that it's
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: like you have to try so hard all the time,
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: and it's kind of nice. It's kind of refreshing that
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: a dude's doing something.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Well that's what we were trying to do. Like literally,
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: my roommate and I are like, what could we do
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: as men? And we're learning a lot to up our looks,
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: to up our game to also come to the table
• 29:19
  Speaker 2: equally with a woman who's putting in all this effort.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: What and what you see, and I will say this
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: with my full chest, is like, what's so frustrating?
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: It has to be frustrating for a woman that's trying
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: to date a dude. Like, dudes put in so little effort.
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: They show up in some baggy ass shorts, some.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: Torn up shoes, a backwards cap, you're telling me, and
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: it's like, that's the effort, whereas, oh my gosh, you know,
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: and I love how like women get so creative and
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: so expressive and also a lot of efforts put in
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: the outfits thought through.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: What they put on their skin is thought through. How
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: they put their hair up, and what they do with
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: they just all thought through, and then you got some
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: sloppy ass dude. So that's what I was going for.
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: I was like, I want to make sure that she
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: looks beautiful, absolutely breathtaking.
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: Don't embarrass her.
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: I don't want to look like a freaking slob. I
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: want to look as good as I can for her,
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: but I didn't want to admit that I was wearing
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: anything on my skins.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: So I didn't you. Yeah, well she knew that's going
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: to be the text I get later. It's gonna see
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: you know. It's been really nice seeing you.
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I can't. I can't get past the makeup
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: that I.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: Already knew that I didn't want to date a Barbie doll.
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: I really want to know what she thinks about it.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: I would be so fascinated because I'm like, I don't
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: know how I would react if I was going out
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: with the dude he's like, oh, yeah, by the way,
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: I've got foundation, which I know makes me an asshole.
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: Like I understand, Like, can I get that as a person,
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: I understand you should just be accepting of all things.
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: But for me, I'm like, yeah, it'd be really fucking weird.
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: Well that's why I think. Ah, because it's not like
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: it's powder and all that stuff. It's just like a
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: little sponge and I just like, dat my face like that,
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, my skin's just smooth and
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: it looks great.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: So do you want to hear what Chad Shobyt said
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: I should change about my looks.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: Oh god, you gotta be careful.
• 30:58
  Speaker 3: I haven't read it yet.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: All right, So you did that. You took a picture
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: of yourself and put it through.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: No, I sent a photo from my Instagram. It's probably
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: one of my better photos. Okay, gohead because I want
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: to play it safe. So I said, what can I
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: do to improve my appearance? And it's just a photo
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: of me, and it said you already look good here
• 31:13
  Speaker 3: and dash. This is more about elevating versus fixing. So
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I'm perfect. Oh yeah, I'll be honest in specific. So
• 31:21
  Speaker 3: it's actually he's like, anyway, get a pet and.
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: Paper be I wanted to get the nice stuff out
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: of the way first.
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: Okay, what's working? Keep this hair color and softness. The
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: dark blonde with the loose waves is very flattering on you.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Dress style feminine, fitted, slightly romantic. It's your lane, natural makeup.
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: It suits your features way more than heavy glamwood mm hm.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Overall vibe. You come off polished, but not try hard.
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: This is a big asset. And then he goes easy
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: upgrades that would noticeably elevate you. Oh boy, Number one
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: hair your biggest opportunity right now. It's pretty, but it's
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: a little safe.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: What do you mean chat?
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: Try slight face for layers, which I already have, but
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: whatever to and a little bit more volume at the
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: crown or even a blowout look for his beechy waves
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: for nights out. I'm literally in beechy waves whatever.
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: That's why I can't always listen to it.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: Number two eyebrows subtle but impactful. Your brows are good,
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: but they could be slightly lifted at the arch. I
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: gotta get a browlift now, a tiny bit fuller and defined.
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: This gives you a more structured, confident look without changing
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: your face, even though this is going to require surgery.
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: Number three a makeup tweak. You don't need more makeup,
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: but just targeted makeup at a slightly deeper lip color.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: Add more blush or bronzer to add dimension. Optional a
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: soft brown liner or a mascara focus to define your eyes
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: more think same vibe, just ten more to find.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Number four you hunch back bit. Number four posture and posing.
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: This matters more than people think you look great, but
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: try slightly elongating your neck, relax the arm moore to
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: create a bit of space from your body gives you
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: the effortless model, off duty looking photos. Oh my god.
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: Number five styling direction lean harder into soft, feminine, slightly
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: European bus I think silk lace florals, which, by the way,
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: I'm wearing all of these things, and fitted.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: Silhouettes thanks chat.
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: Avoid overly sporty, boxy, shapeless looks. You shine way more
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: and structured in feminine. But if you wanted one thing
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: to focus on, oh, just focus on your hair volume
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: and your face framulayers, which I already have. Oh my god,
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: you don't need a transformation. You're already in the pretty
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: and put together pretty gator category. Or think about pushing
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: this into effortlessly hot and polished. If you want, I
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: can map out a full glow up plan or tell
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: you which specific type you read us.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: See, that's what we did. We did the full glow
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: up plan.
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: That's quae. Should I say yes, I'm already going to
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: botox today. Do we talk about that yet?
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: No? I don't think we did. So.
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: I've gotten botox ones, we've gotten disport ones, and it
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: or off in like two weeks. But I'm going to
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: an injector to get a to get some real, real stuff.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: I had a crazy thought about this yesterday because I
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: was thinking about it because I did hear you say
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: you're going to get botox, and my first initial thought was, Abby,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: you don't need botox.
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, shut up, Well this.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: Is why you don't need tentton moisturizer.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: I know, thank you, but I really like it, so
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: you do well.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: Then I went down this whole thought process and it
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: was like this kind of enlightening moment. I was like,
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: who the hell am I to tell somebody what they
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: do or do not need nobody. You're an adult and
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: you can make your own decisions on what you want
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: to do with your body.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: So I had that moment yesterday. It was a weird thought.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: I was alone and I was just.
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: Like, my face, my choice.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: That's exactly right. You do what you want. But isn't
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: it true?
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: Though?
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Once you start you got to continue.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: You do, But I mean, I don't think you have
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: to upkeep it as much as the internet says. Like
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: the Internet says you have to go like three to
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: four months. For me, it sounds like I'm trying to
• 34:49
  Speaker 3: change my face. I want two things. The first is
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: that I do have really aggressive elevens, which are the
• 34:55
  Speaker 3: lines in between your eyebrows, and I can see them
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: in photos and I do find it distract So for me,
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: I just like I just want those gone.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: That's valid.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: The other thing is I do have a slightly masculine
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: shaped eyebrow, and you can lift them a little bit
• 35:12
  Speaker 3: with botox, just enough to where it's like, oh, she's
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: a girl, not she's angry. I think I have a
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: lot of like muscle tension in like my jaw and
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: my forehead that I think the botox will probably release.
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: It will probably make me less of a bitch because
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: I won't be so tense all the time. So there's
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: like some things you can do just to kind of
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: sculpt your face a little bit more, take some of
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: the tension out of your forehead, all the things.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: I mean, guys are doing it now too with brotox,
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: but I can't say I would never. But as of
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: right now, I cannot see myself doing that.
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: I don't know what you do, You have anything you
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: want to fix with?
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: No, I just know botox. It does for your forehead,
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: like I got, I got. I said this at the
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: tub Club. I could look like a Sharpei when I
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: raise my eyebrows, like the dogs that have those wrinkles don't.
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: But also, okay, so your face moves like a normal person.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: The thing is is what's really shitty about men and
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: women aging is I feel like when men age, it's
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: seen as really attractive, but when women age, it is
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: not taken as that. And I'm not even saying I
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: think that's wrong, like people need to change their opinions.
• 36:14
  Speaker 3: But it is funny that when I see a man
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: with wrinkles, I do know, oh my god, he's a hag.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 36:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I do think when women have a smoother complexion,
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: I do think it looks better.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: I think they get more praise too. So you go
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: out and about and everyone's.
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: Like, wow, she's so beauty, and it's like that's the
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: thing that's like it takes a lot of effort. And
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: that's what I'm learning is I want to be aging
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: as good as I can.
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: It takes a lot of freaking effort. And these are
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: the things that like women have understood for so long
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: and men.
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: Are over here like I'm just gonna, you know, wrinkle
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: it up.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: I'm just here get crusty, get a little tubby and
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: call it a day.
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I love that you're not that way, because
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: I do think it's frustrating to a lot of women
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: that we do so much and it's just kind of like, no,
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: does the other side not care at all?
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: I think we just don't know. Again, like, what the
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: I'm twenty nine. I just learned about this tinted moisturizer thing.
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: That's insane. I'm twenty nine. I just learned how to
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: finally cut my hair.
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is insane.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: That's insane to me. And we joke.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: My best friend and I were like, look at photos
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: from my birthday just last year in October, that picture
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: versus how and.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: Again I'm not thinking. I'm like, really just the hot shit.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: But that picture compared to where I look now, I'm like,
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: holy crap. Because then I thought I was like this
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: is the best I could look. Yeah, and I look
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: at that photo and I'm like, oh my god, that's ah.
• 37:32
  Speaker 3: I know. I enjoy leveling up as I get older
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: because they think it makes aging less scary, because I
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: wouldn't want to. I don't want to go back two years,
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: three years, four years. I'm like, I like this version of.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: Me, yes, and nobody teaches us that.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: I think people, I think women have the unfair thought
• 37:50
  Speaker 2: of it, like where it's like it's just expected you
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: have to do it all. You have to be put
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: together at any opportunity, Like my mom used to get
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: dressed and put together to go to the grocery store.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: Like so I've always seen that, But then the dudes
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: was the other way, Like I'll say, like like my dad,
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: my brother, and I like those two could not care
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: any less. I'm like, guys, could you put on jeans
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: We're going to dinner, like for the love of God, like.
• 38:12
  Speaker 3: And someone will still love them.
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: Absolutely and they look fine and that's their life and
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: they could wear what they want. But as I'm finally learning,
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, there are little things we
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: could do, from the way a shirt fits, to a
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: type of clothing to a color will change the entire
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: element of the game.
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: I know, I can't wait to get a boyfriend because
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: I just want to dress them up like a Kendle.
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I'll see, that's see, that's that's what I don't want.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: But I also understand that you don't want your lady
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: to dress you well wait a second.
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: I want her to own me. You know, you wouldn't
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: find that fun to have her.
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: I would find it fun. I would have it a
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: lot of fun with it. I wouldn't want her to
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: feel like it's an obligation where it's like, yeah, oh
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: my god, you don't know how to put yourself together. No, no,
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: not like that. More of like, here's here's what you
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: can do.
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: That women like.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: You know.
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: What I want to do is I want to make
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: sure that it's like it's in alignment with what she likes.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: Like we've talked about this whole Colonne idea where it's
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: like I want to go and have her pick out
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: a fragrance that she actually likes.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, that is very sexy. Did you explain that to
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: the people yet, that you're gonna do this as a date?
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: No?
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: Not yet.
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: So he got a gift card to Macy's. Like my
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: first week here, I got a Kiky's Breakfast Cafe gift card,
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: and Scott wanted the cologne from Macy's. And so you've
• 39:24
  Speaker 3: been hanging on to it. You never got your signature, Colone.
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: But he wants to take this is a great date idea.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: He wants to take his lady. Although if you guys
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: break up, then I don't know what you're gonna do.
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: He wants to take his lady to Macy's and have
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: her pick out a fragrance for him.
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: Well, yeah, because if I'm trying to make sure that
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: she's attracted and like when she smells it, it's like,
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: that's what I'm going for. I don't want to just
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: because I was in the store and I was looking,
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: I was like, what the hell am I gonna pick
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: one that she's not even into?
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: Like, that's stupid. The whole point is to have you
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: be the one that likes it.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that shays a lot about your character
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: that you even thought that that would be a fun
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: idea for her.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: See that's the leveling up side of this. Instead of
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: just rushing in and forcing it and make it to the.
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: Axe body spray section, cool spearmit or manly breeze.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: I used to do the chocolate axe, the chocolate axe spray.
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: It was a mess.
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: That's insane.
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: Again, no one helps you as a teen. No, we're
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: just told the spray and maybe put on deodorant. Maybe No,
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: you have to put on deodorant. So that's gonna be
• 40:20
  Speaker 2: one of the dates. I don't know how that's gonna go,
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: but I would like to see, like if there's a
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: because you don't see what other people find attractive. So
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: it's like if there's a clothing that she sees that
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: she's like, yes, that would look really good.
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: That's what I mean by the Kendall thing, Like do
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: you know what a Henley is?
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: Yes? I think is that the shirt with like a
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: little crease in the middle, like the V cut. Nope, okay,
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: not no, but not yes. I think I do.
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: But it's not like you say clothing items that like
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: I have no idea about here.
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: I really have no room to talk. I'm gonna dress
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: up my boyfriend like mister Darcy in full regency regalia.
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: You're like, wear this and say this and smell like this.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: I'm like, just gonna put him in breeches, but he can't.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: You can dress them up, but he can't wear a
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: tinted moisturizer. Yeah.
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, it'd be so feminine if
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: you were some moisturize. I'm like, meybere, I'll put on
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: your put on your huge your your little shoes.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: I think if we're going out.
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: I think that's what I won't wear it every day,
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: but if we're going out and we want to look
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: really good, I'll probably do it.
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: That's your challenge this week. I want you to wear
• 41:17
  Speaker 3: the makeup in front of your lady. Oh no, and
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: I want you to get her opinion on it.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: I can't why too soon?
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: She really likes you. I don't think you can fuck
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: this up.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: I don't think I I don't want to. It's by
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: I don't think I will. But I'm also I think
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: it's also too soon to say. Are all things open?
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: I don't want to go backwards. I'm only trying to
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: go forward.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: I don't know what you're trying to say.
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: I'm nervous. It's fun. It's fun being nervous. I'm trying
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: to impress.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: He's nervous. He's got a golf with you, ask her
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: to be your girlfriend?
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: I okay, before or after she's raised you with ax
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: with at anyway, when your social med at the Scott Tablin, I.
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: Feel so hot, infustered.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: We went on TV yesterday and we brought Abby on
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: and Abby says.
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: I can't wait to get drinks with her.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: By the way, Amari, Yeah, well, Abby's like, yeah, Scott
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: has an entire roster. Oh yeah, an entire roster of ladies.
• 42:20
  Speaker 3: When is that episode gonna air? So Scott's on a
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: show called Florida for Real on Fox thirteen. When is
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: that gonna air?
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: It's gonna air if this release? What day is this
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: gonna release?
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: Wednesday?
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: So they had me on it's airing Wednesday.
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: So it should be out Thursday. So Thursday is what
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: I believe the editing is.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: So it's gonna come out Thursday.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah, we'll make sure you have it and
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: we'll send it out all around. Yeah.
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: And they were asking me, They're like, so, what's it
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: like being Scott's wingwoman? And I'm like, well, I'm not
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: really his wingwoman. I'm more Chris Harrison, and I'm helping
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: him determine the final rows because he's got a whole roster.
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: He's got like twenty five women in his phone.
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: I literally thought I was gonna die in the chair
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: right then and there.
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: I'm like, people are going to think I am this
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: massive player just running around up a bay hoing it
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: up in the streets, y'all. I literally was sitting on
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: the couches, so they just cuddle with my dog watching
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: fifty Shades of Grade, taking notes.
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: Just as a player would oh yeah in their evenings,
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: taking notes for their women.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: I'll wear my first. I'll have to wear this mic
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: up in here. You will see it then?
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: Am I gonna notice it? Do you think?
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: Yes?
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: Okay, I think you will because of my roommate notices.
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: He's like, you're wearing it, aren't you. I'm like, yeah,
• 43:24
  Speaker 2: because you could tell like there's a complexion that looks different.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: We gotta go to a meeting, okay.
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: Anyway, at the EDM Murphy you can follow me if
• 43:30
  Speaker 3: you want.
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: I guess maybe you can follow me in my makeup
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: tutorials now at Scott Tavlin and at Magic ninety four
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: to nine on all the rest